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big zack
01-29-2014, 03:33 AM
Now, some basic information about myself is that I am a 20 year old virgin who recently visited Auckland, NZ. As someone who comes from a very much conservative country without strip clubs and the likes, I was very thrilled to go to strip club as I have often seen such scenes depicted in sitcoms, movies and the like. As such, a couple of friends stopped by the club one night because there were no night clubs open and they had nowhere else to go. Our visit was rather short because they weren't much interested. The next afternoon, most of them decided to visit the Auckland Seafood Festival then head over to the casino, and I decided to do some lone sightseeing.

As I passed by the club again, I decided to go in just to check out how it was like in the day. With no entrance fee, it was mandatory for me to buy a drink, and as I sat down and watch the girls, one thing led to another, and the next thing I knew, I was sitting and chatting with a local. After much talking, much about how he used to frequent that place when he was my age, and a few prompts for a private dance, I built up my courage and decided that I might as well try one to see how it would feel like. The dancers were very friendly and one even sat beside me before her show and talked to me for a bit. I felt comfortable with her and asked her for a dance.

I had no idea what I was supposed to do during the first dance and I sat there like a log, and the dance quickly passed with me trying to digest what was happening during the whole routine. I processed my thoughts and when she told me to look for her if I wanted another dance, I agreed. The second time I tried to be less nervous, and to be honest, I really enjoyed the whole thing, and without knowing, I got a third. After which, I left the club as I had a flight that night. So now here I am, back in my country, feeling kind of weird inside.

Maybe I developed a crush on her, maybe this is the first time I had this sort of intimacy with anyone or maybe it's just the post holiday blues. But it was the first strip club I have ever been to, and she was the first girl that I ever bought a dance and shared such an intimacy from. Perhaps it might even be regret that I did not take the opportunity to befriend her because she was a really cool person and how cool would it had been if I could have been her friend? But oh well, I guess this post will just be words that a shy first timer should have asked before leaving the country.

Well, anyone have any advice on such an awkward and stupid situation or similar experiences?

drewburner69
01-29-2014, 05:20 AM
Zack - remember she is a a professional and her job is to make you feel great and make you think you are the only person in the world for her at that moment - in turn you pay her for that skill. I sounds like she did he job well. Just savor the experience and move onto the next club and dancer and the next..... I remember my first lap dance years ago (and i had girl friends) and i "fell in lust" Now I go to clubs and have a great time - and pay. Good luck! Drew

yoda57us
01-29-2014, 11:55 AM
Maybe I developed a crush on her, maybe this is the first time I had this sort of intimacy with anyone or maybe it's just the post holiday blues. But it was the first strip club I have ever been to, and she was the first girl that I ever bought a dance and shared such an intimacy from. Perhaps it might even be regret that I did not take the opportunity to befriend her because she was a really cool person and how cool would it had been if I could have been her friend? But oh well, I guess this post will just be words that a shy first timer should have asked before leaving the country.


Relax and let yourself off the hook. She was doing her job, nothing more. She's not at work looking for new friends and, honestly, a strip club is not a place where you should be looking for friends either. She is there to entertain you and you are there to be entertained. That's all.

starlily
01-29-2014, 12:18 PM
Perhaps it might even be regret that I did not take the opportunity to befriend her because she was a really cool person and how cool would it had been if I could have been her friend?

Aww. :) I'm saying this as an experienced stripper, just because you seem sweet and I want you to stay that way... don't go looking for genuine friendship in a strip club. The girls might like you as a customer, but that's where things end.

big zack
01-29-2014, 06:38 PM
Hey guys! Thanks everyone for all the nice replies, especially starlily! Well I may sound like a bumpkin - Actually, I am, but this trip to Auckland has been my second flight in my life, the last one being more than 10 years ago. So right now, I am feeling kind of moody and anti-social, perhaps because I still can't really forget the dancer and Auckland, and perhaps of a little bit of jet lag.

I understand that it's her job to make me feel good, but it never hurts to make a new friend, haha. Anyway, do all dancers have stage names? Because, the two dancers that talked to me and introduced themselves had perfectly normal names, but they were not from English speaking countries. I am from an Asian country and we do not have strip clubs and stuff here, sadly! I wish I had chanced upon this site first before going into the strip club because for most of the time I felt like a kid, with his mouth agape, visiting Toys R' Us for his first time, and I bet I looked like one too!

Anyhow, the trip to Auckland was mainly for work which was very far away from the city (6 hours bus ride I think) and I only had about a day and a half that I spent in the city. I feel that the trip was very short and not very fulfilling for me so maybe in a few more months I may travel back to Auckland and maybe buy a dance or two with the same girl, does that sound weird?

yoda57us
01-29-2014, 06:50 PM
Anyhow, the trip to Auckland was mainly for work which was very far away from the city (6 hours bus ride I think) and I only had about a day and a half that I spent in the city. I feel that the trip was very short and not very fulfilling for me so maybe in a few more months I may travel back to Auckland and maybe buy a dance or two with the same girl, does that sound weird?

Going back to a club to buy more dances from a girl that you enjoyed is not weird. Heck, I've been doing that for close to 30 years!
That being said, expecting a total stranger to become your friend simply because you paid her to dance for you is not e good idea. Enjoy the time in the club for what it is-entertainment. Remember always that she is working and her job is to show you a good time.

drewburner69
01-30-2014, 05:38 AM
Enjoy the time in the club for what it is-entertainment. Remember always that she is working and her job is to show you a good time.

All the advice here is spot on! Turn strip clubbing into a hobby as you go traveling around. In the USA most dancers use stage names mainly to prevent stalkers from chasing them - but some use there real first name - I have had dancers introduce themselves with a stage name then after a while tell e there real name -

~*SwanPrincess*~
01-30-2014, 06:39 PM
Dancers can also use a regular sounding name as their stage name (myself included).

yoda57us
01-30-2014, 08:12 PM
I know dancers with flashy "entertainer" type stage names but I know plenty with pretty normal names. I also know quite a few girls who have fake "real" names that they give to customers so that the customers won't keep bugging them for their real names...

simone87
01-30-2014, 08:16 PM
some very good replies here! but honey, what you experienced was not "intimacy", not real intimacy. its our jobs to make it seem like that, this is entertainment, and that girl is an actress and entertainer. we can genuinely like customers, AS customers though. continue to come in and see her and enjoy yourself, but don't ruin it by trying to push for being "friends" or any kind of relationship outside the club. just enjoy it for what it is