View Full Version : Buying Drinks
Jay12
05-05-2015, 09:56 PM
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If you offer me a drink and I ask for a coffee, you best believe I'm drinking it!
Naida
05-05-2015, 11:04 PM
1. Assuming you get paid for your time (realizing that matters most of all), how much does getting drinks increase/not affect your opinion of the experience?
2. Do you go for your "favorite" drink, no matter the cost, or go for something more reasonable if it's being paid at the start, so as to not scare off custies from a bigger payout later?
3. Is there a time most would expect to "refresh" an order if it's been a while? I mean, some of the workouts I've had done are pretty intense. :)
1. A customer buying me a drink always makes me feel better about the exchange. At best, it's a lubricant for a sale. At worst, he's a gentleman who got me off my feet and into a better mood to make other sales. Sure, I'm wasting a little bit of my time if he doesn't buy dances, but the old fashioned chivalry of buying a lady a drink makes me smile and it's easier to make money when I'm in a good mood.
The only time I care about a customer not buying me a drink is if he orders one for himself while I'm with him. That's just rude as fuck.
2. If the customer offers to buy me a drink, I order what I feel like drinking. Some times it's something non-alcoholic if I'm genuinely thirsty. Some times it's a mixed drink (mmm, Moccasins...) Some times it's a shot of tequila with a beer to sip. In my experience, if someone is gonna complain about the price of what I order after offering to buy, they're often too cheap to make more than a single hard-sell dance off of.
That being said, I do order something cheaper if I ask for the drink, ask if he would like to do a shot with me when I order one, and never order for anyone other than myself if he's offering to buy.
3. A general rule of thumb is to at least offer to buy her another when you order another for yourself. A better way, in my opinion, is to wait a few minutes after she finishes her drink - keep it flowing but (if she's having booze) don't try to get her wasted by offering at the exact moment she finishes it.
blyzzard
05-06-2015, 06:43 AM
Recently I've encountered more dancers that are not drinking alcohol than those who do. I can only speak for myself, but if I'm buying a drink and you want water or coffee or tea, than that's what you shall have. That being said, if the customer is looking for a drinking buddy for the night, that's not going to be you anyway, so you're better off just being clear from the get go about not drinking. No need to explain why.
fishielicious
05-06-2015, 10:42 AM
1. Assuming you get paid for your time (realizing that matters most of all), how much does getting drinks increase/not affect your opinion of the experience?
2. Do you go for your "favorite" drink, no matter the cost, or go for something more reasonable if it's being paid at the start, so as to not scare off custies from a bigger payout later?
3. Is there a time most would expect to "refresh" an order if it's been a while? I mean, some of the workouts I've had done are pretty intense. :)As for #1, when I sit down with a guy, after a bit of conversation, whether or not he offers to buy me a drink is usually a good indicator of how seriously he's considering getting dances with me and also how much money he is willing to spend. So, yes, being offered a drink makes me more optimistic about the encounter right off the bat. However, if a guy just snags me off the floor and takes me to VIP or immediately asks for dances, I'm not going to be offended if he doesn't offer me a drink. It's more about knowing I'm not wasting my time than the actual drink. I NEVER ask for drinks except in one very specific circumstance: sometimes I'm with guys who are clearly looking for a big party experience (usually this is in bigger groups) and who love the party girl who says, "Time for another round!" That's a unique and rare situation, though.
With #2, I have my happy hour drinks--that is, the fancy stuff I order when it's you-call-its at happy hour--and my normal drinks. If it's not happy hour, I'm not going to be ordering shots of Patron or one of those mixed shots that are super expensive because of all the liquor in them. Mostly I just drink our house (very tasty) tequila or beer. So you're gonna be spending $5 at most on each drink for me. However, if you suggest something more expensive (or bottle service lol), I'm happy to oblige and probably am starting to feel really good about the experience, as it indicates you are looking to spend a lot of time/money with me.
With #3, yes, it's usually appreciated if we're spending a lot of time together, particularly if we've just done some very aerobic dances, for you to offer to refresh my drink. A lot of the times then I will just ask for a water, because I'm probably very thirsty!
All in all, to me, what a guy's attitude towards drinks is gives me a better idea about how he is going to treat me as a dancer, as a person, and how much I'm going to benefit from sticking around with him. True, I've had guys who I thought I wasn't going to make money off of because they never offered me drinks spend a ton of money on dances after all. I've also had guys who I quickly realized just wanted to feed me shots and had no interest in actually getting dances. That latter group of guys is by far the worst.