View Full Version : How do you deal with people who judge you for being a camgirl?
TheOutlier
03-26-2014, 01:29 PM
It's helped me gain more self-sufficiency and look at transitioning out of a day job that makes me miserable. I feel more confident about my body, I have more free money to relax a little.
Only person that I care about only wanted to know more so he could make it work too.
If people are going to judge me for it, they can get out of my life. I don't tolerate any kind of sexual policing, and it's my choice. (I cut people out pretty easily though, I'd rather be around a few real people than a lot of haters)
MissLeighton
03-27-2014, 09:12 AM
I haven't been "outed" by anyone yet, but I have no problem telling people I meet what I do right up front. I haven't had anyone have issues with it yet. I'm way past the point of trying to get everyone to like me (high school days)! You can like me for who I am or not be a part of my life, simple as that! I have friends who wouldn't dream of doing this themselves but wish they could. Most of the time, people are envious that I "hang out in my underwear all day" which, as you all know is not as simple as that, but we DO have the coolest job ever ;)
Rhiiannon
03-27-2014, 09:42 AM
I only tell a few people, just my close friends. My roommates are cool with it and think it's awesome, and I even got one of them to start camming! She only does it very rarely because she works full time and goes to school. But she logs on during the weekends and makes $50-$100 so not bad, eh? :D My best friend is okay with it and her husband loves hearing stories of weird customers that ask me to do odd things.
SadieTaylor
03-27-2014, 11:37 AM
I don't expect everyone to be comfortable with me camming. I just expect them to be respectful of my choice. They can judge away, if it bothers them to the point of being condescending towards me, then I don't need them in my life. Several of my close friends know, as well as my immediate family. They aren't super stoked about it and definitely don't want all the gory details, but they all seem to respect that it's just a job for me. And I'm okay with that. I'm also okay if someone wants to think less of me, they don't pay my bill., It's their problem, not mine.
Heidi_M
03-28-2014, 09:55 AM
Thanks for all your replies! I'm so thankful to have a community like this one!:)
ZafinaX
03-28-2014, 10:52 AM
Fuck them. I'm making money.
Those who judge more than likely have a broke-like mindset anyways so why do I want them around?
I definitely was scared and cared about what others might've thought about me before but since I joined SW...that changed!
caramelcraze
03-28-2014, 05:12 PM
I have lost a lot of people in my life due to camming... boyfriends, my best friend, some other close friends, and even some family members. I understand why it's difficult. The lack of acceptance for what I do and how I live my life is sometimes too much for me. I try to think of it this way: If they really loved/cared about/supported me, they wouldn't be negative or push me out of their lives due to my job. They would also understand that I'm happy and, for the first time in a long time, enjoy my life. I also know that the people who have been the most opposed to it are the people who are miserable already. They don't want to see someone succeed or be happy because they don't know how to, can't, or aren't willing to make the changes necessary to make their own lives better. It's quite sad when you think about it that way. Camming isn't for the faint of heart... continuing to push through and do what makes you happy makes you stronger. that being said, there have definitely been some people who are straight up buttmunches about it. "You show you body off to people for money?! I can't believe you!" to which I love to respond with "Um, could you remind me which of my bills you pay?" or "Yeah... How's your mountain of debt treating you?" or my favorite "I'm sorry you're so unhappy with your life that you have to attack mine."
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anonymous camgirl
03-29-2014, 07:49 AM
^^ Models show off their bodies for money...!! We shouldn't like them either?? WTF right?
minniesoporno
03-29-2014, 10:08 AM
I wish them good luck in life, say goodbye, and focus my energy on people who will be better friends to me. I have no desire to associate with people who have a problem with what I do.
I also add if they don't want me being a cam girl or escort - they can give me $40,000 a year for the rest of my life.
I have this on-going annoying fight with my mother all the time, and now next time she brings it up I am just ready to ignore her.
GlamourRouge
03-30-2014, 02:25 AM
Run away because if you weren't a cam girl, those people who hate you for something else instead.
LolaBohemia
03-31-2014, 05:29 AM
I'm selective about who I tell. If there's no need to go into detail I tell them I'm a web developer. Explains the computer codependency.
If people give me shit though I inform them of this; I'm disabled and could EASILY get a check from the government every month and do absolutely nothing. Sit on my butt, torrent, play tetris, and give no fucks. Instead I choose to be a contributing member of society by providing a space for male kinksters to possibly explore something they would otherwise feel nervous or ashamed about and I offer that level of understanding.
I make 4x as much as I would off of disability thus giving me money to do art, free time to help others, and be self reliant. That's empowering.
If someone wants to give me shit for being a weirdo on cam and diddlin' and getting all kinds of mean, I'll let their tax dollars support my ass then.
Yep, they shut the fuck up.