View Full Version : New vanilla job is ruining my income
kortneykay
04-05-2014, 09:21 AM
I would explain to your bf that you are exhausted going from camming to live customer service and then taking care of your daughter. I know you don't want to upset your friend but she needs to understand that the job she hooked you up with isn't worth your time. Yes, every little bit does help, but not if you're putting out more than you are getting and it doesn't sound as predictable. Camming can be unpredictable but unless something catastrophic happens you're guaranteed more than $160 a week. Be upfront with both of them but let them down easily. It's nice of your friend to get you the job but it isn't working out in your favor and she isn't paying your bills. You have to do what you have to do.
anonymous camgirl
04-05-2014, 09:22 AM
You are such an awesome lady... love it!!.. Whenever i get cranky and start hating cam, I go outside during rush hour traffic, I call my sister and her friend who REFUSE to do this for a living and would rather raise her kids at a truck stop with no home to go to .. I feel bad for the kids because they are not turning out very good and i pray for them.. they are 13 and 15.. the boy is in trouble at school and acts out alot , the girl is seeking male attention and acts and dresses sexually.. but they would rather live this life of no food , no shelter, nothing waiting on a job that is not going to pay them what they are worth.. I did offer to show them how to get started in this but it's not for them they say. Yea and i think about how I wouldn't afford to go to work because of the gas prices.. Not a life .. right now i own a house, putting my son through college , pay child support for the other and looking at my next house to buy this year while keeping my 1st one.. this IS A LIFE! An opportunity that would NOT be available to me at a real job... so yea the freeloaders and the trolls and the bad days get to you.. but just remember where you started and it puts it all in perspective.
One of my friends was a stripper & hooker, her boys grew up to be great guys, one is a doctor & the other a lawyer.
I know plenty of straight people in normal jobs who are miserable with horrible drug addict kids. Fact is it depends on your parenting skills, NOT your job.
Keep choosing a man over your kid & show her how she will never be as in important as he is in your life. I've seen the damage that has done to plenty of my friends in life.
What is depressing to me is having to work on a pretty day & not go to the beach. What depresses me is having a migraine yet have to finish a 8 hour shift. What depresses me is having to beg a boss for a vacation or holidays off to spend with my family.
I've worked regular jobs, ya'll are being delusional to think it is legit & way to go in life. And if it is, then shut the fuck up & get out of camming & go work a full time job of 40 to 60 hours a week & another part time job of 10 to 20 hours a week in order to pay the bills. Personally, I cherish life & my down time to be working for someone else at shit wages & stressed about their business.
I make in one day what took me a 40 hour week to do in an office where I was looked down upon for my tits being so big. Yet, I restructured their whole system & made it all run better from a receptionist desk. So much so the president & vice president flew up from Atlanta to meet me. Did I get a raise? NO Did I get a better position with benefits? NO What did happen was the company eventually went under & everyone fired, 6 months after I quit.
Ya'll can dream about the so-called real world, but remember men in that 'real world' log onto cam sites to forget about it.
Go to a temp agency, have them place you in jobs. Chase down a check & not have the gas in the car to pick it up. Go ahead romanticize a world that most normal people hate but feel like it is the only option.
Fuck a real job. I get depressed when I don't have money for bills or a night out on the town whenever I want it. I love camming, I love porn & have absolutely no guilt. Nor will I ever let a man make me feel guilty about it. Trust me, if it isn't your job, he will find another reason to bring you down. Why the fuck would anyone want to be with a man like that?
Smooches,
Sam
SavannahLynnn
04-05-2014, 10:53 AM
Especially since it's a GAS STATION! People are always getting held up and worse at those places.)
Literally number one on my list of anxiety triggers while I'm at this place!
One of my friends was a stripper & hooker, her boys grew up to be great guys, one is a doctor & the other a lawyer.
I know plenty of straight people in normal jobs who are miserable with horrible drug addict kids. Fact is it depends on your parenting skills, NOT your job.
Keep choosing a man over your kid & show her how she will never be as in important as he is in your life. I've seen the damage that has done to plenty of my friends in life.
What is depressing to me is having to work on a pretty day & not go to the beach. What depresses me is having a migraine yet have to finish a 8 hour shift. What depresses me is having to beg a boss for a vacation or holidays off to spend with my family.
I've worked regular jobs, ya'll are being delusional to think it is legit & way to go in life. And if it is, then shut the fuck up & get out of camming & go work a full time job of 40 to 60 hours a week & another part time job of 10 to 20 hours a week in order to pay the bills. Personally, I cherish life & my down time to be working for someone else at shit wages & stressed about their business.
I make in one day what took me a 40 hour week to do in an office where I was looked down upon for my tits being so big. Yet, I restructured their whole system & made it all run better from a receptionist desk. So much so the president & vice president flew up from Atlanta to meet me. Did I get a raise? NO Did I get a better position with benefits? NO What did happen was the company eventually went under & everyone fired, 6 months after I quit.
Ya'll can dream about the so-called real world, but remember men in that 'real world' log onto cam sites to forget about it.
Go to a temp agency, have them place you in jobs. Chase down a check & not have the gas in the car to pick it up. Go ahead romanticize a world that most normal people hate but feel like it is the only option.
Fuck a real job. I get depressed when I don't have money for bills or a night out on the town whenever I want it. I love camming, I love porn & have absolutely no guilt. Nor will I ever let a man make me feel guilty about it. Trust me, if it isn't your job, he will find another reason to bring you down. Why the fuck would anyone want to be with a man like that?
Smooches,
Sam
Sam, you always know exactly what to say! I was on my way to having the life I wanted with camming. Time to quit this miserable job and get my placement back up on streamate. If my fiance doesn't like it.. I'll just buy a new fiance lol.
Oh yeah learned how to multi-quote. Yay!
Fitandpretty
04-05-2014, 01:49 PM
One of my friends was a stripper & hooker, her boys grew up to be great guys, one is a doctor & the other a lawyer.
I know plenty of straight people in normal jobs who are miserable with horrible drug addict kids. Fact is it depends on your parenting skills, NOT your job.
Keep choosing a man over your kid & show her how she will never be as in important as he is in your life. I've seen the damage that has done to plenty of my friends in life.
What is depressing to me is having to work on a pretty day & not go to the beach. What depresses me is having a migraine yet have to finish a 8 hour shift. What depresses me is having to beg a boss for a vacation or holidays off to spend with my family.
I've worked regular jobs, ya'll are being delusional to think it is legit & way to go in life. And if it is, then shut the fuck up & get out of camming & go work a full time job of 40 to 60 hours a week & another part time job of 10 to 20 hours a week in order to pay the bills. Personally, I cherish life & my down time to be working for someone else at shit wages & stressed about their business.
I make in one day what took me a 40 hour week to do in an office where I was looked down upon for my tits being so big. Yet, I restructured their whole system & made it all run better from a receptionist desk. So much so the president & vice president flew up from Atlanta to meet me. Did I get a raise? NO Did I get a better position with benefits? NO What did happen was the company eventually went under & everyone fired, 6 months after I quit.
Ya'll can dream about the so-called real world, but remember men in that 'real world' log onto cam sites to forget about it.
Go to a temp agency, have them place you in jobs. Chase down a check & not have the gas in the car to pick it up. Go ahead romanticize a world that most normal people hate but feel like it is the only option.
Fuck a real job. I get depressed when I don't have money for bills or a night out on the town whenever I want it. I love camming, I love porn & have absolutely no guilt. Nor will I ever let a man make me feel guilty about it. Trust me, if it isn't your job, he will find another reason to bring you down. Why the fuck would anyone want to be with a man like that?
Smooches,
Sam
Girl you just took me to church with this one! Fuck a vanilla job
anonymous camgirl
04-05-2014, 02:24 PM
IKR?? for the rest of the day on cam I thought about what she said and was way more smiley and calm and just rolled with the punches.. it's great when things and people remind you about how much better things really are.
Girl you just took me to church with this one! Fuck a vanilla job
Sabihah
04-05-2014, 03:24 PM
IKR?? for the rest of the day on cam I thought about what she said and was way more smiley and calm and just rolled with the punches.. it's great when things and people remind you about how much better things really are.
SO true. When I have a bad day, I'm immediately like, "I only made $30/hour this shift, everything is TERRIBLE!"
And then I remember, y'know, that I used to work for $8.25/hour.
Fitandpretty
04-05-2014, 06:44 PM
SO true. When I have a bad day, I'm immediately like, "I only made $30/hour this shift, everything is TERRIBLE!"
And then I remember, y'know, that I used to work for $8.25/hour.
There is noway I can ever go back to a normal regular job. I do have a vanilla job that pays well (200 a day)but it's part time. But camming is where it's at. So much money in a short amount of time and effort. Plus no commute or lip from some asshole boss. I am truly grateful for camming and the lifestyle it provides for me :)
Blovely
04-05-2014, 08:05 PM
5 hours, 5 days a week for $160 Helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll No. You're nicer and sweet then me. If my bf, fiance, etc told me that he wanted me to get a vanilla job because he didn't like the fact that I cammed I would've laughed and told him to suck it up. I am not that nice or tolerant. Would've been like "You want me to slave for $90-$160 a week and be harassed by some perv because you.... the dude who is suppose to care about; me, my well being, and happiness wants to have a hissy fit. Lol boy you funny." I'd never quit or even part-time quit camming for a man. He will have to deal or GTFO, that is the only opinion I'm giving.
My policy is that if guys be pervin up on me, I need to be compensated well. That's why I cam. Cut out the bs, and get on the "good side" of guys you don't even have to see, who can pamper you way more <3
Random creeps remind me of alllllll the timewasters and freeloaders we deal with already. The thought of giving an irl creeper/cheapass my mere physical presence and conversation, let alone working for one, makes me want to vomit. xD
I was thinking the same thing. Why deal with a creep IRL when in the Cam world you can kick and ban them? OP I feel bad for your friend. I couldn't imagine having to cozy up to some perve just for a phone or some other material object. Situations like that makes me want to tell chicks about camming so that they can be independent and get their own money and not have be used by a man. But then I don't want to tell them because they'd probably turn their nose up at our job.
SaintSlutface
04-05-2014, 08:11 PM
If you need Xanax to survive at your job, quit quit quit. I kept a vanilla job and just relied on Xanax to help me make it through the day. Benzos will make you need more and more of them to get the same effect. And if you use them to excess, withdrawal can cause seizures.
Source: Serious Xanax addiction for a while due to having to down one (two, three, four) every time I worked. Addictions counselor post addiction.
Not to mention I think working at a gas station is quite a lot more degrading (safety issues, creepy people, super low pay) than camming by far.
Starling
04-06-2014, 04:46 PM
Now I want to cam!
LilyAnderson
04-06-2014, 05:08 PM
I can see both sides of the argument. Your fiance wants stability, and you want more money.
Recently I started working vanilla at a pizza place. Not fantastic money, but it brings in around 200-300 a week. Also known as, not enough.
The good thing about vanilla is that it gets you out of the house. Kind of stable paycheck. Socialize in actual person. AND, while you're working vanilla, you can't go out and spend money.
One of my biggest problems while camming full time was the potential to go out at any given moment and do something. I'm not sure if this is a problem with you as it is with me, but it's just one of the benefits of vanilla.
Working full time would be 40 hours a week. So if your shifts are 5 hours for 5 days a week, you can still cam 15 hours in the week! If that's too much for you, try getting less hours at the station and work a little more from home. I'm sure there's a balance somewhere that you'll be able to find. It took me like a month to figure out my hustle on how to get the most money weekly.
I understand how hard it is to stop camming as much as you were. You begin to lose your motive to get online when you DO have the free time. I'm sure you'll get it back. Good luck to you!
cherryblossomsinspring
04-06-2014, 05:32 PM
Maybe it's just me but why are you working two jobs when you have a man under your roof that you actually sleep with. I know you're calling him fiance but he told you to work BOTH and all I hear is PIMP. Now instead of you flirting with a few cam customers, you're having to flirt with one of those nasty ass creeper type gas station owners hoping to get some free shit?
NO NO NO NO!
A. Stop listening to this wannabe "fiance". He sounds like a loser that can't get his shit together to provide for any woman. I mean really working TWO JOBS TO PAY BILLS?? WHILE HE WORKS ONE?? NOOOOOOOOOO.
B. Quit that job. I already see sexual harassment in your future there. Fuck that!
C. Get to camming make some real money and dumb your dude. Yes you may love him but no man wouuld tell a woman to work two jubs just because he can't hack it with one himself. He's the one supposed to be busting his ass working two jobs. I mean seriously. The only thing I see him doing is getting in your way so you don't make more money than he does because he wouldn't be able to handle it. Also when you start making that camming money DO NOT TELL HIM HOW MUCH.
D. Your friend lives at home off of her parents. When she becomes an adult and pays her own shit then she can give you advice. Until that time ignore that "child".
E. Back to the loser bf. Never get joint accounts, Never give him access to your bank account, Never let him borrow your debit card, Just .Don't. Do It.
F. My point. When a man is in your life you're supposed to be doing better not worse and not struggling. When it comes to any type of adult work you'll have men tipping, men sending you gifts, men PAYING YOUR BILLS. Why have some loser that can't even pay the roof over both your heads but expects to fuck you too? Just No.Could you imagine what would happen if you got pregnant on top of all of this? You think he's going to work harder? Nope because he should be doing that now!
G, Do not get caught up on terms like boyfriend, fiance, the love of your life etc. If the man isn't treating you like the most important person in his life then BROOM HIM. He does NOT deserve you. Now you can get on cam with men that will be happy to pay for your time and will spend some real paper keeping you financially comfortable.
H. Now to replace employment gaps the suggestions above were spot on.
I. I've battled with anxiety myself and when I was working my ass off when it started I didn't know what it was. The hospital visits didn't maek sense until I realzied I was stressed out from being harassed sexially at work. My bf at the time gave me money so I didn't have to work a second job and later I moved in with him where i paid NO RENT. When I even suggested I get two jobs ( living on my own) his exact words =That money isn't going to be enough and I will not even see you. Here some money I'll take on more hours. My bf at the time was only 4 years older than I was.
Bottom Line : Get away from that guy he's dead weight and he's getting in the way of your financial future due to his own insecurities.
Charlotteslut
04-06-2014, 05:49 PM
Wouldn't it be cool if she left the job and the man and then the next dude she meets is super supportive of camming and they start camming together?
Not trying to tell you what to do, just...random amusing thoughts.
~*SwanPrincess*~
04-06-2014, 07:11 PM
More than anything I hate hearing of these situations of bf's/fiancées/husbands who don't approve or have issues with their girls job but in NO way are trying to compensate for income she will lose by QUITTING/rearranging her life for THEM and what THEY want.
If I were you I would definitely quit the gas station job. What a waste of time and energy. Especially since you already know you can make way more camming and be happier too! It's kind of troubling that your fiancée has no problems with inconveniencing and overworking you.
Just on a side note, I hate when guys say they "won't date a stripper or porn star." It irks me to the core.
I hope everything works out for you. Remember to do what is best for YOU.
BANHammerGoddess
04-06-2014, 10:39 PM
He keeps telling me he doesn't date "pornstars or strippers"
whaaaaaaaat????
If he's too good to date a sex industry professional, then I don't see any problem with you being too good to work for some skeezy gas station.
Or, even better, you're too good for a man who won't pay all your bills and yet will bitch about how you make your money.
He keeps telling you he doesnt date pornstars or strippers?????
Why then he is ok with you working on gas station plus working extra on cams? If he is ok for you to work on cams half time why wouldnt be fine with you working as a full time? Bah Anyway you are on first place for yourself! Quit there and work cams if it works out that you earn more $$ !Plus freedom and more relaxed........ Good luck!
I Like this idea! But I'm sure he's going to say do the gas station and make up the difference with camming.. which means basically keep camming until I've made my half of bills/rent. He keeps telling me he doesn't date "pornstars or strippers" but if he is really going to break up with me over this then I am not convinced of his "love." It's worth a try though. I'm going to tell him if I have to do the gas station and cam, then he is going to have to get a weekend job to make up the difference that he's paying in child support. And no going to the gym if it's time he could be working.
What sucks the most about this gas station job, is that I keep getting scheduled to work at 4am-9:30am or 2pm-7:30pm. Both shitty in their own sense. The early shift leaves me too tired to do anything else and the latter takes up the most useful hours of the day.
LilliB
04-07-2014, 03:34 AM
OP, I hear you. I just escaped from where you are, minus the fiance and kiddo (and pervo boss, ew - many condolences on not being able to light that fucker on fire). I got the vanilla job just to have some in-person interaction, but ended up working 80 hour weeks, spread amongst 3 jobs. Eventually, quitting the vanilla job felt like saying, "I just can't hack normal life anymore." Which is why I fought the decision for so long. I even quit camming for months, and focused solely on vanilla and "career-friendly" work.
It was fucking awful. It wasn't until my husband sat me down, and told me that he wasn't okay with how things were going, that I realized I had to get my head out of my butt on this one. He offered to get a second job (he has a difficult, but "safe" corporate job), if it would let me quit and figure out what I wanted to do. He wanted me to be excited by my work again, I think the exact words were, "like when you were camming and doing porny stuff." Dude, I knew I wasn't doing great in the land of average, but I never though I'd be the girl who needed a Come To Jesus talk to get her back into doing what I love. I really thought I was a pretty self-actualized bitch.
Now I'm starting over, damn near from scratch, scouring stripperweb for old threads about getting through/out of a slump, and soaking up all this freedom like fresh rain on dry roots. Don't be me, pretty lady. Don't waste your precious life settling for a bizarro reality where shit wages and shittier working conditions are somehow safer than demanding and working for what you're worth. Don't settle for shit. Listen to your own self, and make that paper.
ElleKawaii
04-07-2014, 08:02 AM
OP, I hear you. I just escaped from where you are, minus the fiance and kiddo (and pervo boss, ew - many condolences on not being able to light that fucker on fire). I got the vanilla job just to have some in-person interaction, but ended up working 80 hour weeks, spread amongst 3 jobs. Eventually, quitting the vanilla job felt like saying, "I just can't hack normal life anymore." Which is why I fought the decision for so long. I even quit camming for months, and focused solely on vanilla and "career-friendly" work.
It was fucking awful. It wasn't until my husband sat me down, and told me that he wasn't okay with how things were going, that I realized I had to get my head out of my butt on this one. He offered to get a second job (he has a difficult, but "safe" corporate job), if it would let me quit and figure out what I wanted to do. He wanted me to be excited by my work again, I think the exact words were, "like when you were camming and doing porny stuff." Dude, I knew I wasn't doing great in the land of average, but I never though I'd be the girl who needed a Come To Jesus talk to get her back into doing what I love. I really thought I was a pretty self-actualized bitch.
Now I'm starting over, damn near from scratch, scouring stripperweb for old threads about getting through/out of a slump, and soaking up all this freedom like fresh rain on dry roots. Don't be me, pretty lady. Don't waste your precious life settling for a bizarro reality where shit wages and shittier working conditions are somehow safer than demanding and working for what you're worth. Don't settle for shit. Listen to your own self, and make that paper.
Wow! This is exactly what happened with me! I tried quitting the adult stuff so I can "prove" to myself that I can hack it in vanilla jobs. Oh boy, was I miserable and…uninspired! My boyfriend had to lovingly tell me that I should just do what I want with my life, and do what makes me happy. Now I only work my vanilla job part-time most of the year (I work from home) and do PSO work and now camming and other adult-related stuff on the days I want to. Building up my brand is not easy, but dammit, I love it more than anything. I don't think I can ever go back. And if I was forced to quit because of the economy, I would just end up teaching English in another country or freelancing it for a while as a web and app developer.
Rhiiannon
04-07-2014, 08:11 AM
I Like this idea! But I'm sure he's going to say do the gas station and make up the difference with camming.. which means basically keep camming until I've made my half of bills/rent. He keeps telling me he doesn't date "pornstars or strippers" but if he is really going to break up with me over this then I am not convinced of his "love." It's worth a try though. I'm going to tell him if I have to do the gas station and cam, then he is going to have to get a weekend job to make up the difference that he's paying in child support. And no going to the gym if it's time he could be working.
What sucks the most about this gas station job, is that I keep getting scheduled to work at 4am-9:30am or 2pm-7:30pm. Both shitty in their own sense. The early shift leaves me too tired to do anything else and the latter takes up the most useful hours of the day.
He doesn't date porn stars or strippers? Um, wow. Why? Is he above us or something? Are we some dirty scum? Seriously. If he loved you for you, that crap shouldn't matter. Plenty of guys find it sexy that their girlfriend can make money simply off being naked. And he sees how much you can make. He rather have you be miserable?
I'm seeing someone who isn't keen on the sex work idea either, but he doesn't tell me to work a job I hate for shit money. He says stick with it while you're in school if it makes good money.
And he says split it with camming? WHY? If he's okay with camming, then cam full time! Why work at a crap job then cam on the side? What's the point?
Melonie
04-07-2014, 08:19 AM
Girl you just took me to church with this one! Fuck a vanilla job
Absolutely ! And on a side note, keep in mind that working a vanilla job involves a very real ( lost ) opportunity cost for girls who could work ( our could work more hours per week ) as an exotic dancer, camgirl, or other adult industry related job. Conventional thinking says yea I am earning $200 per week or whatever from the vanilla job. But 'outside the box' thinking says holy s#!t I'm actually LOSING $400-$800 or whatever per week by NOT working ( or working far fewer hours ) at the much higher paying dancing, camming, or other adult industry work that COULD provide $600-$1000 per week worth of income instead of $200.
Every week that goes by with the girl choosing to 'pass up' that much higher earnings potential is a $400-$800 additional income opportunity that is being PERMANENTLY lost !!!
Heidi_M
04-07-2014, 09:31 AM
I have a vanilla job and i hate it. I serve chicken wings. Go back to camming. If he loves you, he will accept all of you.
Starling
04-07-2014, 09:42 AM
Did you quit yet OP?
SavannahLynnn
04-07-2014, 02:40 PM
I have not quit yet. My fiance told me he wouldn't care if I quit esp since I'm only scheduled for 2 days this week. I think he's just mad that I don't push myself and he feels reassured with the guaranteed money of a vanilla job. He's was full panic this morning because of the payday loan I owe and rent that I don't have.. I'm not worried yet.
Getting my placement up and getting back into the swing of camming is a bit of a drag.. even though I've only been out a few weeks. The good thing is, I'm taking an hour break atm.. because I can lol.
Snowy0Star
04-07-2014, 03:13 PM
I have not quit yet. My fiance told me he wouldn't care if I quit esp since I'm only scheduled for 2 days this week. I think he's just mad that I don't push myself and he feels reassured with the guaranteed money of a vanilla job. He's was full panic this morning because of the payday loan I owe and rent that I don't have.. I'm not worried yet.
i take it the reality is setting in u need to cam for him? sometimes they need that as shitty as these past few weeks have been for u think of this the silver lining - u did what he wanted he experienced how shitty things are for u when u dont cam and realizes its where u belong
Rhiiannon
04-07-2014, 04:19 PM
If you were making good money camming, which it sounds like you were, I don't know why he was even worried! You can always find another normal job that will give you more hours and better pay and cam on the side (if you want). I personally cam and have a second job because camming doesn't pay my bills alone. Having a "back up" because of slow days is GREAT. Then the camming money is like bonus :)
Aniela
04-07-2014, 05:12 PM
You have received sm very good responses in this thread. I am going to be very blunt tho, & say that your friend who 'hooked you up' is an idiot, & I think this guy needs to go. After reading thru all three pages of this thread, this is one of your statements that sticks out in flashing, radioactive-red type:
'He keeps saying he does not date strippers or porn stars'
To me, that is the statement of a guy who does not see sex-industry workers as human beings. It is the mentality that a (female) sex worker is not a full human being, but a pussy, & YOUR pussy belongs to HIM. I see this from customers in the club so much & it makes me sick. The core causes of his insecurity are really beside the point in this case, b/c the result is that he would rather see you slaving for min wage from a mgr, who from your posts it sounds like you would be foolish to relax your guard around, instead of you making however many $100s a day/wk/whatever from the safety & comfort of your own home. But then, in your most recent post you described him ready to flip his shit b/c of mounting bills that can't be covered by this shit min wage job.
I have seen your other threads abt this guy, & from where I am sitting it sounds like he wants it both ways. That is not fair to you. One of the other girls suggested his behaviour is more like that of a pimp than a loving, supportive SO, & based of what you have written abt him I am inclined to agree. He wants you to work 3x as hard either juggling both camming & this gas station gig, or giving up camming completely for a vanilla job, when just sticking w/ camming would be not only less stressful ON YOU but immensely more efficient.
If you are wanting to have a vanilla job on the side, w/ or w/o the possibility of transitioning completely into that from camming, I say go for it. But don't go for it this way, w/ a dead-end, unsafe, financially inefficient ... servitude? That is abt the most charitable word I can think of for your gas station arrangement.
That's my $.02 + interest re: your SO.
As to your friend, NVR take financial advice from sm1 who has nvr had to make do for themselves. Even if she 'hooked you up' w/ the best of intentions, this leads me to that other radioactive stand-out statement: 'get on the mgr's good side' for phone, computer, goodies, whateverthefuckelse. Doesn't sound to me like she has a whole helluva lot of real-world sense, & in any case, she is not Paying Your Bills.
SophieL
04-08-2014, 07:16 PM
I agree with all the ladies that you should quit one way or the other. Also, don't feel bad about quitting a job ever either. You have to do whats right for YOU! You are "at -will". The day the gas station decides its your last day it would be, and they won't feel a thing (I've seen a 7 months pregnant woman who just bought a house get fired before TRUTH) Plus,wouldn't need to give a reason. Going forward you do not have to put them on a resume, because you have to give employers permission to do background checks on the ones you supply. Also, be prepared to fill in any time gaps with a very good excuse as well. lol..... If you ever care to go back vanilla.
You will free that job up to someone who may really need it (everyone can't/won't cam).....look at it that way if you need to feel better and free yourself.
Ditto...
I lost my job last year (after 25+ years with company)- reason "at will". I worked last month doing same type of work that was supposed to be for at least 6 months-"at will" they over hired. I am learning it is best to control you own destiny vs killing yourself at work for other's. I don't make nearly as much camming (so far) but I will keep trying.
Gaps in employment history- I use my "caring for my elderly parents" to explain time gaps. No one has ever questioned that reason.
BellaK
04-09-2014, 09:43 AM
Ditto...
I lost my job last year (after 25+ years with company)- reason "at will". I worked last month doing same type of work that was supposed to be for at least 6 months-"at will" they over hired. I am learning it is best to control you own destiny vs killing yourself at work for other's. I don't make nearly as much camming (so far) but I will keep trying.
Gaps in employment history- I use my "caring for my elderly parents" to explain time gaps. No one has ever questioned that reason.
Yeah, that "at will" crap is REAL. Keep at it!!! I have worked and come back to camming before. It is slow at first, but it will pick up. Definitely save when its good, like anything. I think being consistent has helped me a lot, regs knowing I will be back tomorrow for sure or the next. Good Luck! :-))
anonymous camgirl
04-09-2014, 09:43 AM
Oh I was just reading this article about having a career in the corporate world.. Interesting!! .. makes me appreciate camming EVEN MORE! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-altucher/quit-your-job_b_5111751.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063
pink_bunny
04-09-2014, 10:21 AM
just wanted to say i quit my shitty fast food vanilla job today! who hooo!
going back to stripping and camming full time
o0Pepper0o
04-10-2014, 10:58 PM
...do you really think this guy should be your fiance??? Cooooss if I was getting married to someone there would be no dicking around crap like " I don't date pornstars/strippers so be a gas junky instead!"
...sorry I am VERY confused and sorto f appalled by this. Like wtf get your life together and ditch the loser and the lame job geez.... ><
...sorry...ugh...
ANYWAYS I know income... serious quit the gas bar job. THE WORST JOB EVER. It is boring it drains your creativity and EVERYONE blames you for gas prices you have NO control of. Wouldn't you rather be loved and adores online than treated like shit in your real job? ack
SavannahLynnn
04-12-2014, 11:32 PM
UPDATE: I quit today! My fiance finally said he didn't care. He just wants me to be happy.. I was going to quit today either way though.
Now camming isn't coming as easily as I'm used to. My placement isn't awful. I'm still on page one, but no one's buying.. wahhh :(