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whirlerz
04-05-2014, 06:25 PM
I don't understand how someone thinks that letting a random person put their dick in them is "revenge" or getting one up on their cheating spouse or whatever. It just makes you every bit as bad as they are.

Congratulations, OP! You're a cheater now, too.
All those awful things you've been thinking about your SO... that he's disgusting? An asshole? A piece of shit? Selfish? Those all apply to you just as much as him. Enjoy your trophy video.

^^^}:D
I really want to hear the Whirlerz story, too. For the record.
:-[Blushes*

Doc Holliday
04-05-2014, 06:31 PM
whirlerz is such a tease...



I don't think I've ever gotten hard from a message, usually it puts me some purgatory form of almost sleep but never sleep.

SaintSlutface
04-05-2014, 06:38 PM
Personal opinion, this is probably going to sound bitchy but I'm really not meaning it to be...a massage with a professional sex worker =/= having sex with someone and videotaping it as revenge. You just made yourself the super bad guy in this. He was getting a massage with a happy ending (a HANDJOB typically, a blowjob rarely) from a professional sex worker because he wanted to relax and have an orgasm, that's usually it. You, on the other hand, had full on sex with someone as a means of revenge. If you got your twat fiddled at a massage parlor, I'd say it was justified. You risked potential pregnancy, STIs, and your relationship for a guy doing what MOST MEN DO since the beginning of time. You're broken hearted because he got a handjob from someone he paid. You fucked someone for free and taped it. I wouldn't show him because he'll probably get a hold of it and spread it across the internet. I hope you used protection.

Vamp
04-05-2014, 07:06 PM
Cheating is about lying more then it is anything else. Even when you do everything right it still happens.

So blaming the OP for him cheating is insane. It was his choice to lie to her about what he was doing.
I dont care if your SO is bat shit crazy, it doesnt justify lying and cheating. You have even more reasons to do the right thing and leave!!!
People need to take responsibility for their own actions.

Having said that, getting revenge never works out the way you want it too. The only thing it does is prevent you from letting go, healing, and moving on.
Realizing you are better then the lying and deserve better. Learn the lessons and move on to something better.

Almost Jaded
04-05-2014, 07:31 PM
Nobody is blaming her for him cheating. We ARE, however, calling her to task for her disproportionate reaction.

Beyond that, Vamp, Desu, et al are completely on point - what he did was wrong. What the OP is doing with it is like responding to an armed robber with a nuke. And her attitude is that it's completely justified. SMH

whirlerz
04-05-2014, 09:18 PM
What if my BF will beat that guy up?

Would you tape that too?

Vamp
04-05-2014, 09:38 PM
Based on everything the OP has posted thus far, I am not the least bit surprised her SO was looking elsewhere for relaxation and release.


You dont seem to be aware of when you are blaming women for others actions. You have done this before in other threads.
What you said above is blaming her for his cheating. You are implying she got what she deserved.

Doc Holliday
04-05-2014, 09:56 PM
Would you tape that too?Send both tapes to me. I'll edit it to some music!

Almost Jaded
04-05-2014, 10:14 PM
Vamp - I respect your positions on these forums, but you DO buy into the SJ mentality of everything that someone says can be taken to the extreme of possible offensive meanings. Sometimes people say things that aren't specifically intended to cause harm to someone's psyche. Some people speak their mind. I'm one of them.

The OP's general attitude in this thread is indicative of a controlling, insecure woman who uses sex as a tool for manipulation. Feel free to disagree, but that's my opinion and you aren't going to change it. Having known many and dated a few of those - I would not, ever, condemn a man for seeking out a safe and discreet outlet for his frustrations in that department. He wasn't risking knocking a girl up, he wasn't risking STD's, he wasn't trying to fall in love and replace the relationship - all of which, it should be noted, the OP ABSOLUTELY DID IN RESPONSE assuming her posts - and indeed this entire thread - are truthful. I would go so far as to say what he did was a brilliant move that eased what could easily be a hotpoint of contention in their relationship at no risk to said relationship.

Personally, I wouldn't do it. Personally, I believe in being honest. Personally, I wouldn't stay with a woman like that. But you know what? I won't condemn him having heard only one (rather psychotic) side of the story, either.

SaintSlutface
04-05-2014, 10:21 PM
Ok. Lets get really really real here. The issue isn't about that your man cheated, or that you REALLY cheated. It's the fact that you both have such shitty communication in the first place. Like, you had to go manipulate his friend...wouldn't any normal human being call/text/visit their ex and say "WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?". Instead you (a) keep it a secret that you knew and (b) use that as a reason to sleep with a guy you probably were already considering being with, you just now had what you think is a "justifiable reason" to cheat. Honestly, I'd say you'd both be luckier without each other.
On the other hand, if my sig other would go off to get a handjob at a MP, I would get a little peeved, but I would talk about it in a way to improve the relationship, not just throw a relationship away because I wanted to fuck someone else. Cause that's deep down what this is about. I don't think a relationship should ever be tit for tat, but what you did was, in your mind, equate a handjob, which most guys don't even prefer as far as things go, for LETTING SOME GUY STICK HIS PENIS INSIDE YOU.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 10:23 PM
Assuming the events described in the OP actually happened, the guy started this trainwreck by lying to her about getting a handjob. Blaming her for this situation on the basis of reading a few posts on Stripperweb is not really the solution. Of course she ought to just move on with her life and simply leave him in the dust. But I have known many, many men and women who have been unable to resist 'getting even'.

I am disturbed by all the 'Thanks' being given for sarcastic putdowns. No wonder we have so often had people with so many 'Thanks' nonetheless getting points and/or banned. Theoretically I could try officially warning everyone who did so, but it would be a lot of effort for little effect.

Almost Jaded
04-05-2014, 10:26 PM
Grr. I feel the need to expound on that, because I'm not trying to start shit with other decent members here.

1 - that post you quoted has been thanked 6 times and counting - by female members. This should tell you something.

2 - that post is not indicative of my attitude toward WOMEN. It is indicative of my attitude towards A WOMAN, based on what she has shown herself to be (assuming she's not just a troll).

3 - there's nothing wrong with that.

The idea that I'm some misogynistic asshole sexist creep because I *dare* to call someone out on their OBVIOUSLY WAY OUT OF LINE behavior is asinine. By your logic, you're saying that I think Michael Vick is a piece of shit, therefore I believe all men are cruel to dogs.

Or hell - take that a step further toward complete accuracy - you're saying that because a judge convicts a woman of murder, he hates women.

Both assumptions are not ony incorrect, but reek of the same blanket judgement you accuse others of - and this is why the social justice movement is collapsing in on itself. "I don't judge anyone based on race, gender, or sexual orientation - but you're opinion is invalid because you're a straight, white, male". SMH

Almost Jaded
04-05-2014, 10:39 PM
DJ, by that standard you would also have to warn every female member that ever thanked another female member's post for no reason other than it represented man hating in the work context. That right there is about 30% of all the total thanks on this site.

^not trying to be inflammatory, just telling it like it is. If abuse of the thanks button is to be enforced, it should be enforced equally, regardless of topic or gender.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 10:40 PM
Judging from the kind of 'thanks' I've seen so liberally distributed in this forum for the last several years, the number of 'thanks' given, or the gender of those giving the thanks means precisely fuckin'...diddly.

'Thanks' are to be given for 'useful posts', NOT because you agree with someone or they sarcastically shot someone down in your estimation (but not necessarily in the estimation of others).

As for the rest of your defense, you lost me somewhere between points 2 & 3, and you are way the fuck out in left field when you bring Vick into this.

All I am saying is that NONE OF US are in ANY position to judge the history or nature of this relationship based on 6 or 7 fucking posts in a stripper forum.

Therefore telling the OP it's HER fault her husband (really may have gotten a handjob) is not really something anyone can say without knowing more about the situation.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 10:44 PM
DJ, by that standard you would also have to warn every female member that ever thanked another female member's post for no reason other than it represented man hating in the work context. That right there is about 30% of all the total thanks on this site.

^not trying to be inflammatory, just telling it like it is. If abuse of the thanks button is to be enforced, it should be enforced equally, regardless of topic or gender.

Just saw this. I agree, the 'Thanks' button is a fucking joke, as has been proven yet again by its liberal use in this thread.

SaintSlutface
04-05-2014, 10:46 PM
2 - that post is not indicative of my attitude toward WOMEN. It is indicative of my attitude towards A WOMAN, based on what she has shown herself to be (assuming she's not just a troll).

THIS THIS THIS. This is not an argument about all women or all people or all rights of women or all people's reactions when they cheat. This is about one person. And we are allowed to judge people based on our own personal morality...I PERSONALLY don't think doing something shitty because someone else does something shitty is a decent way to live. In fact it's sheisty as fuck. And a lot of people agree with me (and AJ and Desu and whirlers, et al)

Also: I also think the REAL hypocrisy here is that WE ALL ARE INVOLVED IN A BUSINESS THAT MANY MANY MANY WOMEN WOULD CONSIDER CHEATING. For you to get indignant about a man cheating on his wife, therefore giving her the permission to cheat, while we all do things that can break up relationships as well. I've seen more than a few relationships end because a man went to a strip club or called a phone sex hotline or looked at porn or cammed. Yes? Can we admit to that?

So you're fine with making money off of all of these men, but ONE girl (troll?) comes in and you defend her like that man is a scumbag. YOUR LIVELIHOOD depends on men cheating. So really? Tell her to suck it up it's part of the business. This isn't a feminist website it's goddamn stripperweb. We make it so assholes don't pay their goddamn child support. So lets REALLY talk about hypocrites.

Almost Jaded
04-05-2014, 10:48 PM
Can we then allow that judging other members based on a few quotes in response is just as bad? That's all I'm after here. :shrug:

The thanks button at this point gets used how it gets used - the member base has spoken. It may not be by the book, but there's a pretty level standard applied to it's use - if you like a post, you thank it. Give us a separate "like" button if you want differentiation - I've been on boards that have both.

I have nothing against Vamp or anyone else, and I appreciate you're realizing that I'm not trying to start shit here. I'm just saying - in instances like this, people playing the "judgement" card works both ways - you can't accuse someone of judgement witout passing one of your own. Some people seem blind to this fact. I'm not one of them - I call it like I see it and stand by my assertions.

EDIT - THANK YOU SAINTSLUTFACE. Seriously. I feel slightly less like my POV is beyond comprehension now, lol.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 10:53 PM
THIS THIS THIS. This is not an argument about all women or all people or all rights of women or all people's reactions when they cheat. This is about one person. And we are allowed to judge people based on our own personal morality...I PERSONALLY don't think doing something shitty because someone else does something shitty is a decent way to live. In fact it's sheisty as fuck. And a lot of people agree with me (and AJ and Desu and whirlers, et al)

You can agree with each other all you want, it makes no difference--we do not know what originally prompted this guy to actually go get a handjob and lie to the OP about it.


Also: I also think the REAL hypocrisy here is that WE ALL ARE INVOLVED IN A BUSINESS THAT MANY MANY MANY WOMEN WOULD CONSIDER CHEATING. For you to get indignant about a man cheating on his wife, therefore giving her the permission to cheat, while we all do things that can break up relationships as well. I've seen more than a few relationships end because a man went to a strip club or called a phone sex hotline or looked at porn or cammed. Yes? Can we admit to that?

So you're fine with making money off of all of these men, but ONE girl (troll?) comes in and you defend her like that man is a scumbag. YOUR LIVELIHOOD depends on men cheating. So really? Tell her to suck it up it's part of the business. This isn't a feminist website it's goddamn stripperweb. We make it so assholes don't pay their goddamn child support. So lets REALLY talk about hypocrites.

LOL you have a point there though.

SaintSlutface
04-05-2014, 10:57 PM
The thanks button at this point gets used how it gets used - the member base has spoken. It may not be by the book, but there's a pretty level standard applied to it's use - if you like a post, you thank it. Give us a separate "like" button if you want differentiation - I've been on boards that have both.


GIMME A STRIPPERWEB DISLIKE BUTTON. You can only say when something is positive, but you can't downvote comments. Once someone gets so many dislikes their shit gets booted. It'll be like SWSurvivor. It won't be on whoever the mods feel like banning that day, it will be majority rule.

I dream of a StripperWeb democracy where all voices can be heard and voted upon.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 11:00 PM
Look, none of this really matters much to me. A report was made, so I went & looked at the thread.

I'm not condemning anyone, I'm just saying WE really DON'T FUCKING KNOW what made the guy go get a handjob & lie about it in the first place, presuming it actually happened.

I agree, a 'Like' button might be more appropriate, but better yet the 'Thanks' button just goes. I have suggested it before and will again. I'm not trying to make a big deal out of it, but I do get tired of seeing it abused. Even if someone might be correct in a given instance, using sarcasm to make a point is not something I like seeing 'thanked'. The senior mod is in agreement with me there, last time I checked with her.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 11:03 PM
GIMME A STRIPPERWEB DISLIKE BUTTON. You can only say when something is positive, but you can't downvote comments. Once someone gets so many dislikes their shit gets booted. It'll be like SWSurvivor. It won't be on whoever the mods feel like banning that day, it will be majority rule.

I dream of a StripperWeb democracy where all voices can be heard and voted upon.

Many years ago we had some kind of 'karma' points or something, I forget what it was--but you could get negative points as well as positive points. It was a popularity contest clusterfuck.

simone87
04-05-2014, 11:19 PM
THIS THIS THIS. This is not an argument about all women or all people or all rights of women or all people's reactions when they cheat. This is about one person. And we are allowed to judge people based on our own personal morality...I PERSONALLY don't think doing something shitty because someone else does something shitty is a decent way to live. In fact it's sheisty as fuck. And a lot of people agree with me (and AJ and Desu and whirlers, et al)

Also: I also think the REAL hypocrisy here is that WE ALL ARE INVOLVED IN A BUSINESS THAT MANY MANY MANY WOMEN WOULD CONSIDER CHEATING. For you to get indignant about a man cheating on his wife, therefore giving her the permission to cheat, while we all do things that can break up relationships as well. I've seen more than a few relationships end because a man went to a strip club or called a phone sex hotline or looked at porn or cammed. Yes? Can we admit to that?

So you're fine with making money off of all of these men, but ONE girl (troll?) comes in and you defend her like that man is a scumbag. YOUR LIVELIHOOD depends on men cheating. So really? Tell her to suck it up it's part of the business. This isn't a feminist website it's goddamn stripperweb. We make it so assholes don't pay their goddamn child support. So lets REALLY talk about hypocrites.

this has me a bit confused. its not our business as to whether or not a man is cheating. whether or not he's single, in an open relationship, strip clubs are within the accepted limits of his relationship, or he's cheating. its not our business or problem. we aren't forcing these men to cheat. soooo sex workers can't disapprove of men for cheating on their gfs ??
also, whether or not you got a handjob or had full sex, it really doesn't matter in terms of cheating. cheating is anything outside the parameters of the agreed terms in your relationship. whether or not somebody is touching and fiddling with your dick, or has it inside of them, its cheating..STDs and pregnancy aside, those risks were not the point. you are getting sexual pleasure from somebody else.
and feminism is the belief that women should have the same rights as men. i would hope that most people on this board are feminists.
and yeah the guy IS a "scumbag". not sure how cheating on a SO makes you anything but a scumbag.

Djoser
04-05-2014, 11:34 PM
...feminism is the belief that women should have the same rights as men. i would hope that most people on this board are feminists.

Great point. There are different views of 'feminism', but this kind of sums it up.


The notion that a guy with a supposedly exclusive SO going into a stripclub for an hour or two of dry humping is just having a little harmless fun has always struck me as being absurd. But it's not up to the dancers to grill them first about their commitments.

Almost Jaded
04-05-2014, 11:49 PM
"Feminism" and "feminists" are seldom related these days IMO. :(

Sadly, that's about the same with "environmentalism" and environmentalists", and really any form of "activism" and "activist". The part that requires deep thought and consideration of consequences seems to have left the building a long, long time ago...

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:24 AM
Is anyone here going to point out to the OP that every study ever conducted confirms that women cheat more than men..?

This is 100% false. Men cheat WAY more than women. I know you don't like me but you won't make a fool out of me.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:35 AM
Ok. Lets get really really real here. The issue isn't about that your man cheated, or that you REALLY cheated. It's the fact that you both have such shitty communication in the first place. Like, you had to go manipulate his friend...wouldn't any normal human being call/text/visit their ex and say "WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?". Instead you (a) keep it a secret that you knew and (b) use that as a reason to sleep with a guy you probably were already considering being with, you just now had what you think is a "justifiable reason" to cheat. Honestly, I'd say you'd both be luckier without each other.
On the other hand, if my sig other would go off to get a handjob at a MP, I would get a little peeved, but I would talk about it in a way to improve the relationship, not just throw a relationship away because I wanted to fuck someone else. Cause that's deep down what this is about. I don't think a relationship should ever be tit for tat, but what you did was, in your mind, equate a handjob, which most guys don't even prefer as far as things go, for LETTING SOME GUY STICK HIS PENIS INSIDE YOU.

I already said that he wouldn't tell em whether it was a happy ending massage or a LEGIT massage. He didn't wanted to tell me so i had to get into his friends pants to find out. FOR ME, getting a sponge bath and then get massaged naked by those Asian chicks is the worse form of cheating a man can carry out on ME. For example some people flip their shit because of kissing, i am like WTF!!! and who the hell said i am letting him stick my penis into me??? i am just giving him a blowjob for god sake. I should have been more specific, sorry. He always was too discreet, not me i haven't done anything wrong.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:37 AM
Personal opinion, this is probably going to sound bitchy but I'm really not meaning it to be...a massage with a professional sex worker =/= having sex with someone and videotaping it as revenge. You just made yourself the super bad guy in this. He was getting a massage with a happy ending (a HANDJOB typically, a blowjob rarely) from a professional sex worker because he wanted to relax and have an orgasm, that's usually it. You, on the other hand, had full on sex with someone as a means of revenge. If you got your twat fiddled at a massage parlor, I'd say it was justified. You risked potential pregnancy, STIs, and your relationship for a guy doing what MOST MEN DO since the beginning of time. You're broken hearted because he got a handjob from someone he paid. You fucked someone for free and taped it. I wouldn't show him because he'll probably get a hold of it and spread it across the internet. I hope you used protection.

If i really said somewhere i am going to fuck that guy then i apologize. A blowjob will be enough for him to go ape shit and dump me in a second, that's how all guys are fucking hypocrites.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:44 AM
Vamp - I respect your positions on these forums, but you DO buy into the SJ mentality of everything that someone says can be taken to the extreme of possible offensive meanings. Sometimes people say things that aren't specifically intended to cause harm to someone's psyche. Some people speak their mind. I'm one of them.

The OP's general attitude in this thread is indicative of a controlling, insecure woman who uses sex as a tool for manipulation. Feel free to disagree, but that's my opinion and you aren't going to change it. Having known many and dated a few of those - I would not, ever, condemn a man for seeking out a safe and discreet outlet for his frustrations in that department. He wasn't risking knocking a girl up, he wasn't risking STD's, he wasn't trying to fall in love and replace the relationship - all of which, it should be noted, the OP ABSOLUTELY DID IN RESPONSE assuming her posts - and indeed this entire thread - are truthful. I would go so far as to say what he did was a brilliant move that eased what could easily be a hotpoint of contention in their relationship at no risk to said relationship.

Personally, I wouldn't do it. Personally, I believe in being honest. Personally, I wouldn't stay with a woman like that. But you know what? I won't condemn him having heard only one (rather psychotic) side of the story, either.

You're such an idiot, you really are, you know nothing about me, its difficult to play a princess and be always nice if the guy is a total jerk. I am not insecure, and i never use sex as a tool. I actually want it MORE than him but he doesn't. So you don't consider getting a bath and a handjob from someone cheating? well you are obviously a woman hater. Do you realize if i would give a handjob to someone else he would show his double standards? you think we women should accept and forgive but what about the man? i am more than SURE you would want me to NOT to find out so he can enjoy some great relaxation with his chicks right? well unfortunately i am brighter than both of you think and i will not turn a blind eye. For you what he did was normal, for ME it was crossing the line and mentally damaging. He deserves what he will get.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:51 AM
this has me a bit confused. its not our business as to whether or not a man is cheating. whether or not he's single, in an open relationship, strip clubs are within the accepted limits of his relationship, or he's cheating. its not our business or problem. we aren't forcing these men to cheat. soooo sex workers can't disapprove of men for cheating on their gfs ??
also, whether or not you got a handjob or had full sex, it really doesn't matter in terms of cheating. cheating is anything outside the parameters of the agreed terms in your relationship. whether or not somebody is touching and fiddling with your dick, or has it inside of them, its cheating..STDs and pregnancy aside, those risks were not the point. you are getting sexual pleasure from somebody else.


and feminism is the belief that women should have the same rights as men. i would hope that most people on this board are feminists.
and yeah the guy IS a "scumbag". not sure how cheating on a SO makes you any but a scumbag.

He is a scumbag, yes, he would of never told me he was going to EROTIC massage salons instead of legit ones. He didn't consider it cheating, he didn't think i would be bothered by it, i wonder for HOW LONG he was doing this behind my back, Stacey just demonstrated what guys are really like when she talked about her client.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:57 AM
Wut if that's what he's into?

I believe he IS, he has been doing it for years, i was STUPID not to take action sooner.

cherryblossomsinspring
04-06-2014, 03:06 AM
Sorry this happened to you OP and no I don't think that you deserved to be cheated on. Yes it's cheating. If based on the agreement in your relationship that outside sexual release other than maybe porn is forbidden then yes he cheated.

Also why are people posting in the thread as if sex workers are not allowed to have an opinion on cheating? Cheating is typically viewed as a betrayal of the worst form plus it can shatter the self worth of the person being cheated on.

I would also agree with 75% of an escort's business is typically with married men. Interesting enough that it's not always the "sexless marriage line" but some do it for the thrill, the chase or just because after that first time they were able to continue getting away with it. Sometimes it's about variety.

Also I don't see the op as controlling or using sex as weapon or any other line of text that screams " men deserve vagina whenever". Sorry I don't buy this.

She was betrayed and she wants revenge. I say dump the guy and move on. Also for all the OP knows the bf never cheated but the friend wanted a piece of ass and got it on a lie. We never thought about the sleeze bag type that hangs in the wings hoping for a shot. Some men want what other men have since it keeps them from being vulnerable with someone that is really available.

^ Could be this or the friend was really telling you the truth. You could always go and ask OP just to be sure.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 03:16 AM
OK, i have come to the terms that MANY people think i will fuck that guy, i said in my first posts that i am going to massage that guy's penis and give him a blowjob so he feels what i felt. This is between me and him, there is no reason to get the other 2 people involved who we used to cheat with. That's why the guy will not be identified in the video. This IS stupid and immature. But as i am searching more for more information, i am finding out that he was doing it since HIGH SCHOOL. Should i believe that? we have been together 3 years, that's a lot of time wasted of MY life. I learned my lesson, i should have approached him about what he is doing at the START of our relationship. I am just devastated and feel soo BAD when i think about how many times he done it!!! he destroyed me, he ruined me. I am on pills at the moment.

All i have to say that he WILL pay back dearly! he won't run away from rumors either. Just now i realized how many guys are doing this BEHIND their partners back, its SO sad. Those women just get cheated on and have no clue! i wish those hypocrites get found and die a horrible death.

Did i saw someone saying i should improve on my relationship??? HA this must have been some fucked up dick. This behavior is totally unacceptable and i believe it will take a LONG time for me to forget. I will probably seek help because i just can't get over it. People have NO idea how much this sort of behavior has impact on someone.

The reality is hard to accept but i did, and i am glad. I know somehow i will get through this, but it won't be anytime soon.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 03:21 AM
Sorry this happened to you OP and no I don't think that you deserved to be cheated on. Yes it's cheating. If based on the agreement in your relationship that outside sexual release other than maybe porn is forbidden then yes he cheated.

Also why are people posting in the thread as if sex workers are not allowed to have an opinion on cheating? Cheating is typically viewed as a betrayal of the worst form plus it can shatter the self worth of the person being cheated on.

I would also agree with 75% of an escort's business is typically with married men. Interesting enough that it's not always the "sexless marriage line" but some do it for the thrill, the chase or just because after that first time they were able to continue getting away with it. Sometimes it's about variety.

Also I don't see the op as controlling or using sex as weapon or any other line of text that screams " men deserve vagina whenever". Sorry I don't buy this.

She was betrayed and she wants revenge. I say dump the guy and move on. Also for all the OP knows the bf never cheated but the friend wanted a piece of ass and got it on a lie. We never thought about the sleeze bag type that hangs in the wings hoping for a shot. Some men want what other men have since it keeps them from being vulnerable with someone that is really available.

^ Could be this or the friend was really telling you the truth. You could always go and ask OP just to be sure.

What married men do in secret is something that ALL wives should know! What really makes me go mad is that those men will NEVER get caught. OK some will, but most won't because the wives are clueless about what they are doing. Putting up a nice face at home and banging sex workers on the other side. This is how MOST marriages are like. It's disgusting.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 03:25 AM
Most people can't handle reality. They would rather be continually lied to than have to fathom the truth.

How many people actually believe the media and think its real life? How many rando men off the internet think they have a chance with models? How many people believe celebrity gossip that is obviously made up for publicity (all publicity is good publicity, and there is no such thing as bad publicity)? How many people believe that sex tapes are actually leaked, despite signed consent forms and 2257 documents being required for their release? How many people actually believe that you can become wealthy without being a successful entrepreneur / business owner, or being born into money? How many people believe that aliens and ghosts don't exist when there is so much documented proof, as well as documents and videos from other countries' governments confirming their existence? Most people live in lala land. A land that is not reality.

So I'm pretty sure its no more sad than a lot of other things in this world. They wouldn't even believe you if you told them.

100% agree on here! but if people would accept the reality wouldn't there be fewer marriages?

cherryblossomsinspring
04-06-2014, 03:42 AM
100% agree on here! but if people would accept the reality wouldn't there be fewer marriages?

No because we have ego and hope. As long as we're human that will be around for time to come.

amberlly
04-06-2014, 04:19 AM
I appreciate that you angry and why.

But I am not understanding what you are trying to achieve in this thread?

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 04:50 AM
I appreciate that you angry and why.

But I am not understanding what you are trying to achieve in this thread?

I want to know how people view my situation and i want to know if many men do this to their significant others and what are peoples opinions on this serious matter.

I think i achieved a lot in this thread don't you think?

Vamp
04-06-2014, 07:30 AM
Vamp - I respect your positions on these forums, but you DO buy into the SJ mentality of everything that someone says can be taken to the extreme of possible offensive meanings. Sometimes people say things that aren't specifically intended to cause harm to someone's psyche. Some people speak their mind. I'm one of them.

The OP's general attitude in this thread is indicative of a controlling, insecure woman who uses sex as a tool for manipulation. Feel free to disagree, but that's my opinion and you aren't going to change it. Having known many and dated a few of those - I would not, ever, condemn a man for seeking out a safe and discreet outlet for his frustrations in that department. He wasn't risking knocking a girl up, he wasn't risking STD's, he wasn't trying to fall in love and replace the relationship - all of which, it should be noted, the OP ABSOLUTELY DID IN RESPONSE assuming her posts - and indeed this entire thread - are truthful. I would go so far as to say what he did was a brilliant move that eased what could easily be a hotpoint of contention in their relationship at no risk to said relationship.

Personally, I wouldn't do it. Personally, I believe in being honest. Personally, I wouldn't stay with a woman like that. But you know what? I won't condemn him having heard only one (rather psychotic) side of the story, either.

Almost Jaded I respect you as well. At the same time I am pointing out something to you that I see. You can do whatever you wish with it. I speak my mind as well.

Aside from the OP's issue, I have had male friends who have dated insecure controlling women. Women that are really a negative influence in their lives. Some decide to step out on her Or they put up with it until she steps out on them. She totally flips out does something insane, one of my friends was woken up with a knife in his face in the middle of the night. HUGE drama and they break up feeling like shit. They run around saying nice guys always finish last and talking about how crazy women are. You could reverse the genders in that story and have alot of women I know with insane men. Hanging on to something that is dragging you down is the epitome of self defeating.

So yes i am CONDEMNING people who lie and cheat for any reason. You arent doing anyone any favors least of all yourself.

Vamp
04-06-2014, 07:48 AM
Also: I also think the REAL hypocrisy here is that WE ALL ARE INVOLVED IN A BUSINESS THAT MANY MANY MANY WOMEN WOULD CONSIDER CHEATING. For you to get indignant about a man cheating on his wife, therefore giving her the permission to cheat, while we all do things that can break up relationships as well. I've seen more than a few relationships end because a man went to a strip club or called a phone sex hotline or looked at porn or cammed. Yes? Can we admit to that?

So you're fine with making money off of all of these men, but ONE girl (troll?) comes in and you defend her like that man is a scumbag. YOUR LIVELIHOOD depends on men cheating. So really? Tell her to suck it up it's part of the business. This isn't a feminist website it's goddamn stripperweb. We make it so assholes don't pay their goddamn child support. So lets REALLY talk about hypocrites.


No one screams hypocrisy when Wall Street makes money from the failures of corporations. Business is Business.

If he isnt paying child support, lying, cheating by the definition of his relationship (all are different), whatever he is doing is his own actions. NO stripper, NO sex worker, etc "made" him do anything. No one holds a gun to their head. It is their choice to be dishonest.

A website full of women, who have experienced both sides of the OPs issue, and you are surprised women would defend her at all???
Really? LOL. Feminism is about women having the ability to make their own choices about their body and their lives. Wanting to have choices doesn't change because we give a man a lap dance.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 07:57 AM
Vamp is definitely correct, the sex workers aren't doing anything wrong, they are just doing their job. HE makes the decision to cheat and lie. Hypocrites are selfish and immature people with extra double standards. They deserve to suffer.

Kaii
04-06-2014, 01:43 PM
I really hate the title of this thread. People cheat. Period. Just be with somebody who doesn't. Who the fuck cares if it's a sex worker or not.

And if you cheat as well, what are you whining about? At least a girl got paid here.

DonaDiabla
04-06-2014, 02:12 PM
Vamp is definitely correct, the sex workers aren't doing anything wrong, they are just doing their job. HE makes the decision to cheat and lie. Hypocrites are selfish and immature people with extra double standards. They deserve to suffer.

While, I agree with Vamp. Many ladies feel your pain and defend your actions. Mamasan01,you are crying about one man yet talk as if most men on this earth did you wrong. Girl, a lot of people cheat and always have. I am not saying your emotions are not valid. But you must admit that you sound a bit bitter towards men in general now.Geez, he is just one asshole yet you cry over him like he is an almighty god. I understand he ripped your heart out but do not allow that to turn you into a bitter woman before your time. Make your video if that will make you feel better and show it to him. Maybe you can rip his heart out when he sees it? But your relationship sounds like it was fucked for the longest of time. You should move on and never speak to him again. Or you can get your justice and move on. I do understand the point of this thread.

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:28 PM
I really hate the title of this thread. People cheat. Period. Just be with somebody who doesn't. How the fuck cares if it's a sex worker or not.

And if you cheat as well, what are you whining about? At least a girl got paid here.

You can't just say " Just be with somebody who doesn't" you never know if someone will cheat or not. Yes she got paid, but what did i get? years that i will never get back. If i wouldn't have cheated i would fall into a coma from the anger and jealousy that builds up in me. You don't consider sex workers a big deal just like i don't consider kissing someone a big deal either, you can't say i am whining...

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 02:34 PM
While, I agree with Vamp. Many ladies feel your pain and defend your actions. Mamasan01,you are crying about one man yet talk as if most men on this earth did you wrong. Girl, a lot of people cheat and always have. I am not saying your emotions are not valid. But you must admit that you sound a bit bitter towards men in general now.Geez, he is just one asshole yet you cry over him like he is an almighty god. I understand he ripped your heart out but do not allow that to turn you into a bitter woman before your time. Make your video if that will make you feel better and show it to him. Maybe you can rip his heart out when he sees it? But your relationship sounds like it was fucked for the longest of time. You should move on and never speak to him again. Or you can get your justice and move on. I do understand the point of this thread.

OK, if it would have been once or twice and we would have been dating for 3 months or so. OK i would just dump him and never look back. But he deceived me for 3 fucking years. He destroyed part of my life. Walking away with no revenge is unacceptable. I can't imagine what some wives who discover this after 10 or so years must feel. Massage parlors should be closed and burned in hell. I am going to start using Spy devices from now on, promise, i know that not all men are bastards but most are so i will go safe. Thanks for your advice and understanding tough.

Tsepmet1
04-06-2014, 02:47 PM
I can't believe that this thread is still going on

And on

And on

And on

Kaii
04-06-2014, 02:47 PM
You can't just say " Just be with somebody who doesn't" you never know if someone will cheat or not. Yes she got paid, but what did i get? years that i will never get back. If i wouldn't have cheated i would fall into a coma from the anger and jealousy that builds up in me. You don't consider sex workers a big deal just like i don't consider kissing someone a big deal either, you can't say i am whining...

First of all, I can say whatever I want. Secondly, you might not know at the beginning the man is gonna cheat but you might get some clues. That's not what I'm saying. If you found out you SO is a cheater, then leave, if you don't like that. If you don't trust your partner, why be with them in the first place?

Then, about "a girl aka Sex worker got paid" it was just a friendly joke regarding you are posting this subject here, a forum for a sex workers. Like you said yourself, she didn't do anything wrong.

More: Years you don't get back? You weren't offering years to your husband! I really hate that sentence. If the relationship was great, why complaining about the years you had with him? If it wasn't that great, why didnt you leave him before? You choose how to use your time with, not other. Nobody was forcing you. That's very victimizing. And I'm reminding you, you fuck somebody else after that, so... That response is kind of immature. "If I don't cheat I'm gonna feel so bad" Why? really? I'm very vendictive too, really, but when I got over myself i realize it's not worth it. I'd rather leave the bastard, move on and have a sexual encounter with who I really want to.

I don't consider sex workers big deal? What kind of sentence is that??? I'm saying if my bf cheated on me with a sex worker I would be pissed as much as I would be if he did with an economist. I mean, if he went to a sex worker bc she's offering something that I can't provide, I don't know, a younger girl, bigger boobs, a transexual, who cares, I would say, ok, you want this, you can take it, I can understand you want to experiment with that, but not while in a monogamous relationship without even telling me! And I would be angry as well and would leave him for good.

I'm just saying sex workers don't have any kind of fault of your husband cheating on you.

And well, He got jerked off. You fucked somebody else and film it and then no, you're not whining, you're not complaining about anything and you did nothing wrong. Go girl, go.

I understand you're angry, coz you love him and he hurted you, but you are putting put your words kinda against yourself...

Tourdefranzia
04-06-2014, 02:50 PM
My BF got an happy ending off a massage girl while he was away. He did not intent to tell me, do many men do this? if so do you think there are many wives/girlfriends who have no clue of what their partner is doing? i was soo pissed when i found out. I did some other guys since as a revenge, i also filmed it but i haven't shown him yet, how do you see this?

This relationship is doomed to fail, I'm afraid.

Vyanka
04-06-2014, 02:54 PM
Not for nothing but, whether there are no massage parlours, strip clubs, brothels, etc... if someone wants to cheat, they will do it no matter what. It has nothing to do what the other person does for a living. He went to it/her.

tempest666
04-06-2014, 03:04 PM
I told mine to go ahead and find a pro with my blessings....with same stipulations: Must be skinnier than me (size 3 110 llbs) bigger tits (32DDD) smaller feet (Size 4) and all her teeth. He's still looking. ::)

simone87
04-06-2014, 03:07 PM
I told mine to go ahead and find a pro with my blessings....with same stipulations: Must be skinnier than me (size 3 110 llbs) bigger tits (32DDD) smaller feet (Size 4) and all her teeth. He's still looking. ::)

thread jack, but i work with a girl like that and whenever i see her i think of you! she's 4'11, wicked tiny tight body, size 4 feet, and HUGE fake boobs. idk how she doesn't topple over.