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tempest666
04-06-2014, 03:12 PM
^ Lol fucking nice! Spanish?

whirlerz
04-06-2014, 03:14 PM
I can't believe that this thread is still going on

And on

And on

And on

IKR?^::)

simone87
04-06-2014, 03:16 PM
^ Lol fucking nice! Spanish?

she's portugeuse

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 03:19 PM
First of all, I can say whatever I want. Secondly, you might not know at the beginning the man is gonna cheat but you might get some clues. That's not what I'm saying. If you found out you SO is a cheater, then leave, if you don't like that. If you don't trust your partner, why be with them in the first place?

Then, about "a girl aka Sex worker got paid" it was just a friendly joke regarding you are posting this subject here, a forum for a sex workers. Like you said yourself, she didn't do anything wrong.

More: Years you don't get back? You weren't offering years to your husband! I really hate that sentence. If the relationship was great, why complaining about the years you had with him? If it wasn't that great, why didnt you leave him before? You choose how to use your time with, not other. Nobody was forcing you. That's very victimizing. And I'm reminding you, you fuck somebody else after that, so... That response is kind of immature. "If I don't cheat I'm gonna feel so bad" Why? really? I'm very vendictive too, really, but when I got over myself i realize it's not worth it. I'd rather leave the bastard, move on and have a sexual encounter with who I really want to.

I don't consider sex workers big deal? What kind of sentence is that??? I'm saying if my bf cheated on me with a sex worker I would be pissed as much as I would be if he did with an economist. I mean, if he went to a sex worker bc she's offering something that I can't provide, I don't know, a younger girl, bigger boobs, a transexual, who cares, I would say, ok, you want this, you can take it, I can understand you want to experiment with that, but not while in a monogamous relationship without even telling me! And I would be angry as well and would leave him for good.

I'm just saying sex workers don't have any kind of fault of your husband cheating on you.

And well, He got jerked off. You fucked somebody else and film it and then no, you're not whining, you're not complaining about anything and you did nothing wrong. Go girl, go.

I understand you're angry, coz you love him and he hurted you, but you are putting put your words kinda against yourself...

Thank You for putting some effort into helping me here i appreciate that, but people seem to miss some stuff out.
Honey, look before you say something you should read what i said in my previous posts because you obviously missed them so read them please. Yes i did enjoy those years but now i regret spending them with him. How does it matter if i was offering them to my Husband or not? a person is a person i don't care about the status at all. Also i did it once, he did it 100000x see the difference? you might think i am immature, but that's your opinion. Yes i felt really angry and jealous and some people need to get even. Now that i think about it, sleeping with his brother would be a better revenge oh well.

Yes I am the one who's at fault because i was a foool who was manipulated by a bastard, i get that and i will never make this mistake again. I get it thanks for your help, i can't wait to see his reaction now!

mamasan01
04-06-2014, 03:23 PM
I see people start posting rapidly at night, oh well tomorrow i will arrange a date with my Bf where i will show him the video. I had it, i will treat him nice, kiss him etc and then show him my special video, of course its not like i did anything wrong did i?

MellyMay
04-06-2014, 03:23 PM
I'm at a loss as to why someone would come on to a web site for sex workers and expect us not to defend sex work.

whirlerz
04-06-2014, 03:28 PM
I see people start posting rapidly at night, oh well tomorrow i will arrange a date with my Bf where i will show him the video. I had it, i will treat him nice, kiss him etc and then show him my special video, of course its not like i did anything wrong did i?

Just. Be careful, hope he's not the violent type, yea he cheated, but some men react to things, just sayin'

safado
04-06-2014, 03:29 PM
I see people start posting rapidly at night, oh well tomorrow i will arrange a date with my Bf where i will show him the video. I had it, i will treat him nice, kiss him etc and then show him my special video, of course its not like i did anything wrong did i?

Please make a video of this and post it up so we can all see.

Kaii
04-06-2014, 03:49 PM
Thank You for putting some effort into helping me here i appreciate that, but people seem to miss some stuff out.
Honey, look before you say something you should read what i said in my previous posts because you obviously missed them so read them please. Yes i did enjoy those years but now i regret spending them with him. How does it matter if i was offering them to my Husband or not? a person is a person i don't care about the status at all. Also i did it once, he did it 100000x see the difference? you might think i am immature, but that's your opinion. Yes i felt really angry and jealous and some people need to get even. Now that i think about it, sleeping with his brother would be a better revenge oh well.

Yes I am the one who's at fault because i was a foool who was manipulated by a bastard, i get that and i will never make this mistake again. I get it thanks for your help, i can't wait to see his reaction now!

Look, what I said is what I think, and TBH you're right, I didn't read everything, too much post, I guess. I was just giving my humble opinion. I don't mean to judge you in a bad way. I'm just saying that now it is what it is. You're angry, you're entitled to be, but really, those are NOT missed years. But at the same time, I got that feeling once, so I can relate. As I said, I'm really vindictive, but for me this is just to bigger, I just think what you did is way worse, so I really believe you did something wrong. But hey, that's just my ethics, have your own and be yourself.

If you're going to show him the video, then, like said before by somebody else, be careful. And after that, go on with your life. And leave him for good :)

slowpoke
04-06-2014, 04:20 PM
True Story: I once had a 'happy ending' massage, with a legit massage guy:)

We are still waiting for "The Rest Of The Story">

Almost Jaded
04-06-2014, 04:21 PM
So - just so I'm clear on what you're saying here, mamsan:

1 - Every good thing that happened in 3+ years is for nothing because he got jerked off and lied about it, the massages are THE ONLY THING IN YOUR ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP THAT MATTERS NOW.

2 - You discovered this through manipulation and possibly sexual transgression on your part (unclear what you meant there) - um, what if you'd been wrong, LMAO?

3 - Sucking another man off on video and showing your hubby in order to get even is the only possible way to make this right, because you know, talking things through and seeking therapy is bullshit and forgiveness isn't a word.

4 - Nothing about 1 & 2 indicates to anyone, anywhere that maybe you have some issues that need resolving.

5 - Anyone who disagrees hates you and women in general.

^see what I did there? I could list the various philosophical faux pas and logical failings present in that line of thought, but I'm not going to bother. Suffice it to say that those points accurately represent not only your behavior in this situation, but also in your responses in this thread, in kind. If you don't see it... Well, you should spend some introspective time.

I'm well aware of the logical leaps in MY position; they are made knowingly. No, I don't know you. Yes, I am basing conclusions on a few posts on an internet board. And so on. But see - I'm also allowing that we don't know the other side of the story. And the reaction and mindset you're displaying in this thread is what I have to go on, and I"m going to go on it. You've not given anyone a good reason not to.

So here's MY position summed up:

1 - Your man should have been honest and shouldn't have done what he did. It was wrong, and it hurts the one he's with.

2 - That should be addressed. After 3 good years together, it should be addressed the same way a closet drug problem or addiction would be.

3 - Yes, there should be consequences for his actions.

4 - The way you went about uncovering this was wrong, and the way you're reacting and handling this is wrong, wrong, wrong, completely wrong, down the line, 100%, period, and will cause people to see you as I have, regardless of his transgressions - and this reflects upon you personally, whether you like it or not, no matter what HE did.

5 - Nothing he did is any reflection on men in general, and your attitude and responses on this topic further indicate a lack of rational thought on your part.

There ya' go. All nice and laid out there. Up until now, I've really said the same things, I was just being a sarcastic ass about it because that was the respect I thought the thread warranted. I'm a dick like that sometimes. SO now I'll play nice. Please address the points above accordingly.

Almost Jaded
04-06-2014, 04:37 PM
P.S. & BTW - an "apples to apples" response would be to go get an erotic massage and get fingered by a stranger. He did not massage the people at the parlor or put his mouth on them or finger them, and they weren't people you knew. I'm pointing this out because you're all about being fair, and we wouldn't want to see you losing your own battle here. :rolleyes:

DesuvsDeath
04-06-2014, 04:41 PM
A few things:

and who the hell said i am letting him stick my penis into me??? i am just giving him a blowjob for god sake.
Okay, that LITERALLY involves someone's penis inside of you... so, yeah, you let someone stick their dick in you.


i am going to massage that guy's penis and give him a blowjob so he feels what i felt.
So... your SO feels what you felt? How so? He RECEIVED a hand job... you're PERFORMING oral sex. That doesn't make sense.
If you want him to "feel what you felt"... shouldn't you have made a video of some guy giving YOU a handjob? Or at least made the video of someone getting you off? That's like... he ran over my dog... so I burned down his house. Sure they both produce crappy feelings... but they aren't going to produce THE SAME crappy feelings.


of course its not like i did anything wrong did i?
You've said this more than once. But... you DID do something wrong. You cheated on someone.
Just because you feel like it's justified or because it's part of your manipulation or punishment or whatever doesn't change the fact that it's wrong.

This whole thing is ridiculous.
You should record and post his reaction, though. For real.

cherryblossomsinspring
04-06-2014, 06:19 PM
OPl
You want to see real cheating. Sign up on the site called AshleyMadison. Then look at how many profiles there are of men and women . The site was set up for men and women that desire extramarital affairs. There are escorts on the site but the vast majority are hoping they meet up with another cheating spouse. Since both people have alot to loose by cheating they seek out each other.

Good luck the reality of that site was even shocking to me and that was years ago when I looked around to see how common it was.

If that doesn't help look up craigslist and go down the list of "men seeking women". Keyword will be discrete but many that even say single may actually have a girlfriend.

Now these men are looking for FREE sex with willing participants.

rickdugan
04-06-2014, 06:48 PM
Ok, this is all getting just a bit too hyperbolic and melodramatic now. There is no reason to get snarky and start leveling labels at the OP just because you don't like how she has managed this. Last I read, she didn't come down on the sex workers involved. In fact, she said not once, but twice, that she didn't blame them. So there is no cause for anyone to be losing their minds here. Period.

They agreed to be exclusive, yet he took the risk of getting some side action and he got caught. Pretty classic story. If he didn't want to face potential repercussions, he had a lot of choices, including (1) not being with a girl who required sexual fidelity; (2) not visiting MPs while he was dating her; or (3) being more discreet and not running his mouth off to friends. Now one could criticize how she confirmed her suspicions, but in the end she was right and probably had ample reason to believe so to begin with.

I suspect that there is a lot of blame to go around here, but it is all irrelevant now. The relationship is clearly over for her and it doesn't matter whether we believe that she was overreacting to an HJ - but I bet that he knew how she would feel about it. Frankly I don't care if she blows all of his friends and half the town she lives in and I don't understand why anyone else here cares either, at least enough to get this worked up. Again, she was not criticizing sex workers, so I'm not quite sure what other posters' dog is in this particular fight.

Almost Jaded
04-06-2014, 07:02 PM
^Absolutely right.

She just doesn't get to claim the moral high ground if she does, which she is trying to do.

She also doesn't get to blanket-denigrate men, which she has also done.

whirlerz
04-06-2014, 07:11 PM
She also doesn't get to blanket-denigrate men, which she has also done.

Why, what's wrong w/that^?

rickdugan
04-06-2014, 07:16 PM
She's hurt and feeling betrayed, so she's venting and lashing out. Just as most of the guys who post here don't personalize broad, sweeping statements made about customers by angry dancers, neither should we personalize this.

whirlerz
04-06-2014, 07:22 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WaSy8yy-mr8:)

Almost Jaded
04-06-2014, 08:30 PM
Is anyone here going to point out to the OP that every study ever conducted confirms that women cheat more than men..?
This is 100% false. Men cheat WAY more than women. I know you don't like me but you won't make a fool out of me.

Just saw this, lol.

100% false? Make a fool of you?

Tell you what - in order to avoid making a fool of you, I'll refrain from posting links to many, many studies in the last 10 years that verify this.

On the other hand, I *absolutely* encourage you to make a fool of *me* by posting links to valid studies of "traditional" relationships in the U.S. conducted in the last 5-10 years that disproves my position. Please. Get right on that.

EDIT - looks like I was wrong. I went and started looking it up, and the studies cite statistics ranging from women cheat 2/3 as much (roughly 14% for women vs 21% for men) to women cheat more now (roughly 18% for men and 23% for women). Mixed bag. The overall impression is that it's about even these days. What was really interesting is that the percentages vary WILDLY according to who is doing the survey; many say 60% of all men cheat and 50% of all women, some are even higher.

In any event - ALL men don't, and neither do ALL women. One thing that is 100% the same across ALL the studies that touch on it is this - women lie more than men, and men are more likely to forgive a cheating partner than women. Secondary to this is a near universal statistic that women cheat "better" - less likely to be caught because they're better at lying about it.

It's that last statistic that really caught my eye in the context of this thread - are they better at covering up THEIR affairs - or just better at digging through their husbands lives and manipulating other people to find things out?

Clara_M
04-06-2014, 08:37 PM
The relationship is clearly over. I'd suggest just moving on.

If you're nevertheless going to do what you're intending to do, consider the possibility that it could backfire in that he may find it hot. It's not likely, but it might happen. And it'll just make you even angrier. As previously mentioned, there is also the possibility that he might become violent. I in no way would justify that behaviour, but the practical reality is that it might happen.

Letting him wonder why you broke up with him would probably be a lot more annoying to him, in the end...

whirlerz
04-06-2014, 08:38 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGO47AbDojQ

Kaii
04-07-2014, 01:29 AM
Trust me cheating at a massage parlors is totally different, you won't get rid of imagining your bf getting washed by a old Asian lady lol.

didnt see this.

of course you're right.

i wouldnt get rit of imagining my bf getting washed by an asian lady but i would do just fine by him getting blowed by a younger girl in club bathroom, suuure.

Djoser
04-07-2014, 02:34 AM
Mamasan01,you are crying about one man yet talk as if most men on this earth did you wrong...you must admit that you sound a bit bitter towards men in general now. Geez, he is just one asshole yet you cry over him like he is an almighty god.


You choose how to use your time with, not other. Nobody was forcing you...I'm very vendictive too, really, but when I got over myself i realize it's not worth it. I'd rather leave the bastard, move on and have a sexual encounter with who I really want to.

...I'm saying if my bf cheated on me with a sex worker I would be pissed as much as I would be if he did with an economist...

...sex workers don't have any kind of fault of your husband cheating on you.



DonaDiablo and Kaii for the win.

Mamasan you are still letting this man control you, if you go fuck or blow anyone you wouldn't have otherwise, just to get even. Believe me, I understand the concept of revenge and it can indeed be therapeutic in certain cases. But I think you need to quit crying over spilt milk and get on with your life. It's not perfect, but it's all we have...so don't waste it reacting to an asshole. Blaze your own path instead.

Djoser
04-07-2014, 02:35 AM
I am temporarily closing this thread due to several complaints. Might be reopened later.