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Miss_ShaSha
05-30-2019, 07:45 AM
Reading here over the years about models working 10-12 hrs shifts and making great money was also painful for me knowing i can only work a couple of hrs shifts but i understand i have a specific health condition that makes me different so i dont compare myself with others anymore and do what i can.



Great mindset!

amri68
06-08-2019, 05:23 AM
This is a great thread. I always feel better knowing I'm not alone and that other cam girls are going through the same thing.

My biggest issue is anxiety. There's at least one week out of every month (due to hormones I'm guessing) where I just can't force myself to get on cam without having a minor panic attack. It really effects my monthly income because after taking time off it's even harder trying to get back into the swing of things. Some people just can't understand that this isn't like a normal job where you just have to get up and go. So much mental strength goes into this job...you have to be sexy and get naked for random men, often shouting orders at you, which I never take...but it still weighs on you. If you aren't able to get in the right mindset this job is nearly impossible. I'm having one of those weeks this week...I haven't cammed since last Friday and I know I need to get online today, but not sure if I'll be able to force myself to deal with it today. I make myself sick from the anxiety and then physically don't feel like I can do it. It can be rough in the life of a cam girl :(

wow i am older lady past 48 look 38..and since i not on regular on cam in last 2years..i am getting back part time and my bones and cronic pain age etc ..menapousal etc just making it hard..reading the thread makes me feel better.

izshadow
06-10-2019, 01:43 PM
Did a lease to own on a computer. Should be here Friday. I just really needed my anxiety to feel calm that my computer could handle SM much better then the desktop that I'm currently using. Also got photography lighting so I could hang black out curtains. I really needed to self care my anxiety. I have very very high anxiety that can be crippling at times. I live in a corner apartment, first floor and pretty much have zero traffic and I doubt the people in the complex next door are watching me but I just needed to be in my own little secret hole. No one will see lights on at odd hours, even though I mainly want to cam during the day/mornings and any movement. Plus if someone was to walk by, no one could see in. I never fully trust cheap apartment blinds haha. Even just typing all that out made me see how crazy my anxiety is. No one cares. I know that. But my anxiety wont let me process that. Ugh. I'm just glad I'm not alone and like what others say, reading the struggles we all are going through with our health and how we cant compare ourselves to those models with zero health issues, makes you feel better.

Miss_ShaSha
06-10-2019, 01:50 PM
^^When I'm derealized (form of dissociation associated with high levels of anxiety & stress that is literally a feeling of "unreal") I have the most difficult time keeping things in perspective. I start to have unrealistic thoughts & my skills in CBT, ACT, & DBT are almost impossible to utilize to cope.

Yes, you're right, no one is preoccupied with your business & more than likely pays no mind; anxiety makes it difficult to believe these truths.

I feel you sister. I see you <3

Sweet_Sadie
06-10-2019, 02:11 PM
Glad to see that this thread is still active and alive. I'm disabled. I feel like my body/mind/ailments are my worst enemy. I try, but sometimes I fail, if that makes sense. I know it's not my fault. It's super, super hard to find work that works with you.

izshadow
06-10-2019, 02:18 PM
Thank you for chiming in on that ShaSha. It is very difficult. Luckily I've surrounded myself with those who also suffer from anxiety so we can help each other with our insane thoughts. I'm so convinced those around me find me annoying, difficult and make fun of me when I'm not looking. I'm constantly apologizing, even when I take my dogs out to the farm so they can run and the barn owner keeps reminding me "their dogs, its fine, they bark"... stuff like that. I know I've gotten worse since being with my narcissistic ex. He took my issues and caused them to just explode in to like full fledged insanity. Oh you have anxiety? Wait till I'm done with you. I dont think my Fibro and Lupus has flared as much as it did when I was with him. Sometimes it still feels like I'm recovering from those flares two years later....

KatM
06-10-2019, 03:06 PM
^^^ ^^^ Yes this thread is for us the ones with health issues, i am glad it exists cause IRL i really have nobody to talk to about my health issues and how it's affecting my ability to cam, my son is helping and supporting me but that's about all the support i get.
I wonder what happened to the girl creating this thread, "Justonthecamgirl", she is not posting for a good while, i hope she is OKAY cause she was dealing with serious health issues herself that made her open this thread, God bless u JAC!
Yes there is a huge difference between us the ones with health issues & the zero health issues models, our ability to make money is affected by the things we deal with, i never believed i will need medication for depression & anxiety, i mean these came on top of all the other things i deal with already.
Today i saw my psychiatrist, i feel good with the treatment she gave me but she said i need about 6-8 months of treatment for the antidepressants to have effect and change the brain chemistry, i was expecting to be told i had enough lol.
Well, i am happy i am feeling good & glad i am alive, the panic attack i had was my first and last i hope & was induced by the fear of death.
How do u guys deal with the death fear pls? Any advice for me? Ty and good health to u all xxx

izshadow
06-10-2019, 03:59 PM
^^^ ^^^ Yes this thread is for us the ones with health issues, i am glad it exists cause IRL i really have nobody to talk to about my health issues and how it's affecting my ability to cam, my son is helping and supporting me but that's about all the support i get.
I wonder what happened to the girl creating this thread, "Justonthecamgirl", she is not posting for a good while, i hope she is OKAY cause she was dealing with serious health issues herself that made her open this thread, God bless u JAC!
Yes there is a huge difference between us the ones with health issues & the zero health issues models, our ability to make money is affected by the things we deal with, i never believed i will need medication for depression & anxiety, i mean these came on top of all the other things i deal with already.
Today i saw my psychiatrist, i feel good with the treatment she gave me but she said i need about 6-8 months of treatment for the antidepressants to have effect and change the brain chemistry, i was expecting to be told i had enough lol.
Well, i am happy i am feeling good & glad i am alive, the panic attack i had was my first and last i hope & was induced by the fear of death.
How do u guys deal with the death fear pls? Any advice for me? Ty and good health to u all xxx

Not sure if my death fear is like yours but my biggest fear with death is my animals and I do think about it everyday. What I've done and has helped is there is a list on my fridge for my father of who would take who or who would help him with certain pets. I've taken out life insurance to cover my funeral expenses and allow my dad a little extra to come down here and take care of everything. I dont take risks like I used to. I'm even afraid of driving but I still drive but more cautiously. Stuff like that. I am afraid of what will happen to. We dont know if there is a other side or if we just cease to exist. That terrifies me. I want to die and be surrounded by all my pets and family that have past on. I need to be.

Miss_ShaSha
06-10-2019, 04:38 PM
Thank you for chiming in on that ShaSha. It is very difficult. Luckily I've surrounded myself with those who also suffer from anxiety so we can help each other with our insane thoughts. I'm so convinced those around me find me annoying, difficult and make fun of me when I'm not looking. I'm constantly apologizing, even when I take my dogs out to the farm so they can run and the barn owner keeps reminding me "their dogs, its fine, they bark"... stuff like that. I know I've gotten worse since being with my narcissistic ex. He took my issues and caused them to just explode in to like full fledged insanity. Oh you have anxiety? Wait till I'm done with you. I dont think my Fibro and Lupus has flared as much as it did when I was with him. Sometimes it still feels like I'm recovering from those flares two years later....

You got out of that situation & way to go! I'm happy to read this.




^^^ ^^^ Yes this thread is for us the ones with health issues, i am glad it exists cause IRL i really have nobody to talk to about my health issues and how it's affecting my ability to cam, my son is helping and supporting me but that's about all the support i get.
I wonder what happened to the girl creating this thread, "Justonthecamgirl", she is not posting for a good while, i hope she is OKAY cause she was dealing with serious health issues herself that made her open this thread, God bless u JAC!
Yes there is a huge difference between us the ones with health issues & the zero health issues models, our ability to make money is affected by the things we deal with, i never believed i will need medication for depression & anxiety, i mean these came on top of all the other things i deal with already.
Today i saw my psychiatrist, i feel good with the treatment she gave me but she said i need about 6-8 months of treatment for the antidepressants to have effect and change the brain chemistry, i was expecting to be told i had enough lol.
Well, i am happy i am feeling good & glad i am alive, the panic attack i had was my first and last i hope & was induced by the fear of death.
How do u guys deal with the death fear pls? Any advice for me? Ty and good health to u all xxx

When I'm derealized I think of death often & it's terrifying. I try my best to meditate & speak kindly to myself. I validate my fears & literally say "it's ok to be afraid. You're stressed. It's anxiety. While it's terrifying, you're ok."

Sometimes I put on Deepak Chopra's Love Sutras, lay down, & stare at the ceiling until my heart rate finally drops.

I'm sorry your fear is great, but it's normal. It's ok.

KatM
06-11-2019, 05:02 AM
^^^ ^^^ Thank you for input ladies, i know the subject is taboo & nobody has the answer; right before i had my last surgery i feared death soo bad that i was literally shaking when signing the papers that i agree with surgery and anesthesia, my heart rate increased significantly while on the surgery table until the gas put me to deep sleep & then everything disappeared until i woke up; even my body was alive my conscience was gone so maybe that's how it's happening when we go or there is something else after... even this was not the 1st surgery (i had a few more when a child and then at 19 yo) this experience at a more mature age made me have existential questions and to look for answers but no matter how much spirituality or religion i studied in the last 2.5 years i've got no answers so i stopped searching cause all these theories were making me even more confused.
I let it be the mystery of life, not knowing is healthier than knowing too much sometimes.
Kisses & hugs & much health everyone!

izshadow
06-11-2019, 09:08 AM
^^^ ^^^ Thank you for input ladies, i know the subject is taboo & nobody has the answer; right before i had my last surgery i feared death soo bad that i was literally shaking when signing the papers that i agree with surgery and anesthesia, my heart rate increased significantly while on the surgery table until the gas put me to deep sleep & then everything disappeared until i woke up; even my body was alive my conscience was gone so maybe that's how it's happening when we go or there is something else after... even this was not the 1st surgery (i had a few more when a child and then at 19 yo) this experience at a more mature age made me have existential questions and to look for answers but no matter how much spirituality or religion i studied in the last 2.5 years i've got no answers so i stopped searching cause all these theories were making me even more confused.
I let it be the mystery of life, not knowing is healthier than knowing too much sometimes.
Kisses & hugs & much health everyone!

Try being someone who is in to the Mandela Effect. I'm part of a few groups on social media and the whole we live in a computer simulation takes things to a whole nother level. Dimension shifting as well as other theories are always tossed around. As well as biblical theories to all the heavy changes around us. It has consumed me. I wont turn this thread in to a Mandela effect thread haha but I wanted you to know I also have been pulled in to it to but have not been able to pull myself out of it like you were able to do. Its a daily obsession still. You are definitely not alone with wanting answers and being obsessed on death and what is around us. *hugs* I will say it again, its nice to know we are not alone out there, we are not crazy! In any area of life! Just view things and live life differently.

Sweet_Sadie
06-11-2019, 11:08 AM
Here's an interesting question: When did you guys know for sure that you couldn't do "THAT" type of work anymore? When was the moment when you had to wave the white flag and give up "that" type of work in exchange for adult work that you could do?

I'm sitting here trying to do some side-hustle work in a particular industry niche, but my brain just CAN NOT allow me to do what I need to do. Worse, it doesn't even pay that much, but every little bit helps. But someone earlier reminded me that with Fibro comes "brain fog." Also, anxiety is super crippling!

So I've just gotta deal with the facts: I can't do "that" type of work anymore. It's hard sitting in front of the laptop waiting for the unknown (guys to pay for a show). It's also challenging waiting for the phone to ring for PSO work. But they both provide the type of work that I'm currently capable of.

Sweet_Sadie
06-11-2019, 11:11 AM
^^^ ^^^ Thank you for input ladies, i know the subject is taboo & nobody has the answer; right before i had my last surgery i feared death soo bad that i was literally shaking when signing the papers that i agree with surgery and anesthesia, my heart rate increased significantly while on the surgery table until the gas put me to deep sleep & then everything disappeared until i woke up; even my body was alive my conscience was gone so maybe that's how it's happening when we go or there is something else after... even this was not the 1st surgery (i had a few more when a child and then at 19 yo) this experience at a more mature age made me have existential questions and to look for answers but no matter how much spirituality or religion i studied in the last 2.5 years i've got no answers so i stopped searching cause all these theories were making me even more confused.
I let it be the mystery of life, not knowing is healthier than knowing too much sometimes.
Kisses & hugs & much health everyone!

I think it's normal to fear that you're not gonna come out of anesthesia. The first time I was getting ready to be put under, tears started running down my face. I remember the doctor asked me why I was crying. I couldn't articulate it, and I knew it had to be done. Strange, even before I got the shot, my body put me to sleep. It's like I passed out because I didn't even make it to the countdown they tell you to do. I shut my eyes and I woke up after the surgery.

The second surgery when I went under: I knew what to expect, but this was a risky surgery. I was nervous, and sure enough, I went to sleep before the doctor came back to give me the shot. They left me alone for a while, so I took a nap, woke up after the surgery when they were moving my body to the recovery bed.

Miss_ShaSha
06-11-2019, 11:12 AM
I'm derealized. I had to take today off for my mental health and get some errands ran. I'm not supposed to be driving. I don't take the road test til July 16th now. I passed the written a month ago, but I have to drive to get groceries every week.

Well there was a cop behind me for about a mile and I totally freaked. Heart rate went from 77 to 117 very quickly. I had to get new used tires as my tires didn't pass the inspection for road test (which is why it's now rescheduled for the 16th July). Any way, about 20 min later I was derealized.

I was able to manage getting the new tires, groceries, then home safely. But FUCK...I'm stressed. I'm about to meditate then eat something healthy.

Ladies...you're not alone EVER. I'm scared right now due to anxiety, but I'm being kind to myself and self-validating. I'll get through it. I always do, but in the meantime I'm a bit frightened.

Big hugs ladies. I feel your pain :(

caramelcraze
06-11-2019, 12:13 PM
Went from spending $10 per month on gabapentin to almost $700 per month for Lyrica (that's with goodrx btw). The generic should have been out by now but wouldn't you know it, the company filed a law suit to keep it non-generic over some bs a little longer. idk how I'm going to manage it, but considering its the only thing that has seemed to touched the pain, I feel stuck. my insurance covers none of it and I'm angry af. Kind of considering moving states so I can switch to an insurers with a low deductible that actually covers my meds so I can stop getting robbed by my current insurer. Nevada is looking nice...

izshadow
06-13-2019, 09:08 AM
My new refurbished laptop and photography lighting show up today and I cant even be excited about it. Got home from the farm yesterday and felt a migraine coming on. I downed water like crazy in case it was due to not drinking enough in the Florida sun, as well as a few ibuprofen. Sigh. Woke up today full blown migraine. More water, ibuprofen and coffee isnt touching it. I hate that I cant be active anymore. I always end up paying for it.

caramelcraze
06-13-2019, 11:39 PM
I've found that setting small goals for the day instead of trying to do multiple things is the way to go. Like if you're going to cam, set up the night before. if you're going grocery shopping, let that one thing be what you do for the day.

Have you heard of the spoon theory? it's a great way to manage your day with decreased energy/abilities. here's a bit about it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory

Here's a visual representation of it
https://notaloneillness.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/choose-your-spoons.png

euro_princess
06-14-2019, 12:03 AM
Oh, Lord. I have to raise money for a personal goal this summer and that stresses me out. I've started having panick attacks before I log on, especially if I had a bad day before. I know not reaching my weekly goal is not the end of the world, I will recover at some point during those months. I just need to stop putting so much pressure on me. I'm doing good, things will get better (say that 100 times per day).

Glamourmilf
06-14-2019, 09:12 AM
My new refurbished laptop and photography lighting show up today and I cant even be excited about it. Got home from the farm yesterday and felt a migraine coming on. I downed water like crazy in case it was due to not drinking enough in the Florida sun, as well as a few ibuprofen. Sigh. Woke up today full blown migraine. More water, ibuprofen and coffee isnt touching it. I hate that I cant be active anymore. I always end up paying for it.
I could have written this, as it is my life also. My migraines are so bad, that I take 800 mg prescription ibuprofen. What I usually need to do, if it doesn't go away, is.... get a Starbucks triple shot coffee, which makes the migraine subside. I drink a lot of coffee, so it takes a lot to have an effect on me.
I also seem to 'pay' for any type of activity, or active day. It saddens me, because all my friends are going out all day, everyday, without any problems. Then again. They don't work, or have health problems. I just wished they would understand that I do.


I've found that setting small goals for the day instead of trying to do multiple things is the way to go. Like if you're going to cam, set up the night before. if you're going grocery shopping, let that one thing be what you do for the day.


Have you heard of the spoon theory? it's a great way to manage your day with decreased energy/abilities. here's a bit about it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory

Here's a visual representation of it
https://notaloneillness.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/choose-your-spoons.png

Thank You for posting this. I Love the spoon analogy. I will think of this, the next time I have lots of energy, and go overboard with doing too much.

Miss_ShaSha
06-14-2019, 09:43 AM
Oh, Lord. I have to raise money for a personal goal this summer and that stresses me out. I've started having panick attacks before I log on, especially if I had a bad day before. I know not reaching my weekly goal is not the end of the world, I will recover at some point during those months. I just need to stop putting so much pressure on me. I'm doing good, things will get better (say that 100 times per day).

Girl, I feel you on the putting too much pressure on oneself. I do this too & when I realize it things do get better as I make self care my aim and some relief washes over me. It takes guts to share what might be perceived as a weakness. Right on. You got those positive affirmations and legit...they will work.

Much love and positive vibes your way.

PixiieGirl
06-14-2019, 11:37 AM
Ive come to realise Ive been using alcohol as a coping mechanism for my ocd and it's becoming really unhealthy , Im working on changing it but boy its hard

Sweet_Sadie
06-16-2019, 11:55 AM
I've found that setting small goals for the day instead of trying to do multiple things is the way to go. Like if you're going to cam, set up the night before. if you're going grocery shopping, let that one thing be what you do for the day.

Have you heard of the spoon theory? it's a great way to manage your day with decreased energy/abilities. here's a bit about it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory

Here's a visual representation of it
https://notaloneillness.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/choose-your-spoons.png

I've very aware of the spoons. I hate that my energy is limited, but I constantly have to have grace on myself. Thanks for sharing this again. It's a reminder to be gentle and kind.

caramelcraze
06-17-2019, 01:43 PM
I've very aware of the spoons. I hate that my energy is limited, but I constantly have to have grace on myself. Thanks for sharing this again. It's a reminder to be gentle and kind.

It's definitely better to go that route. Usually I pick one big thing to do per day and then a few little things. Two big things is just too much for me and I always end up regretting it the next day.

izshadow
06-25-2019, 11:55 AM
I need to get out of my head. I can do this. I failed at camming in the past because I was younger, I didnt understand as much as I do now and I didnt have this forum back then either. I also was healthier and more active so went out more and worked other vanilla jobs alongside it. Where as now, its just me, the phones and the cam. So I have to make this work, I just have to. I have to remember the potential is there to make more money then I would working a vanilla job and this job wont affect my health as severely as a vanilla job would to plus I simply can not live off minimum wage. I just cant. I need this pep talk to myself cause I need to be home. I need to work from home. I need to be able to start taking care of myself. I need this!

izshadow
06-27-2019, 10:48 AM
I'm trying so hard to cam this afternoon. My migraine is so bad. I want to throw up everywhere.

Miss_ShaSha
06-27-2019, 02:11 PM
If you can get Excedrin then do a meditation where you redistribute blood flow from head to hands, it'll help until the med kicks in.

For the meditation you close your eyes, focus on your breath, then focus your attention on your head. Feel your pulse in your face. It will be throbbing. Then focus your attention on your hands. Controlled breath, slow and deep, then you'll start to feel your pulse in your hands. Do this for about 10 minutes.

I'm sending you healing vibes. I know how bad it can be. I used to put my daughter in a dark room, massage her feet, and be there for her when she was throwing up. It's a horrible wretched thing migraines. Debilitating really.

izshadow
06-29-2019, 10:31 AM
Two days later and I'm finally out of that migraine. Sigh. But I'm so disconnected today. Even fed my dogs their dinner mix for breakfast. So I think I'm going to skip camming today and just wash the dogs as they are so overdue, clean the house, do a load of laundry and reset. Then get ready for a cammathon to get myself out there the way I need to be to make this camming thing actually work for me. I woke up with the intention to cam today but depression hit my house and it needs some self care to so I can just feel better about myself.

I did have a three hour migraine break yesterday to where I was able to get to the farm, drop off feed and get to the grocery store to pick up meds. I'm sure that helped me get out of it to as the day before, I didnt have anything to take but aspirin and we all know that wont work for a full blown migraine.

caramelcraze
06-30-2019, 01:08 AM
Two days later and I'm finally out of that migraine. Sigh. But I'm so disconnected today. Even fed my dogs their dinner mix for breakfast. So I think I'm going to skip camming today and just wash the dogs as they are so overdue, clean the house, do a load of laundry and reset. Then get ready for a cammathon to get myself out there the way I need to be to make this camming thing actually work for me. I woke up with the intention to cam today but depression hit my house and it needs some self care to so I can just feel better about myself.

I did have a three hour migraine break yesterday to where I was able to get to the farm, drop off feed and get to the grocery store to pick up meds. I'm sure that helped me get out of it to as the day before, I didnt have anything to take but aspirin and we all know that wont work for a full blown migraine.

Have you looked into seeing if your insurance covers botox treatments for migraines? I know some people who have had amazing results.

izshadow
06-30-2019, 08:05 AM
Have you looked into seeing if your insurance covers botox treatments for migraines? I know some people who have had amazing results.

I dont have health insurance sadly.

euro_princess
07-02-2019, 09:32 PM
I was so tired (getting close to my period), so I over slept like crazy. I was planning on logging on last night. Yeah, that never happened, 9h later of sleep. Damn, I hate hormones. Wish my ovaries would treat me better!

Sweet_Sadie
07-03-2019, 08:29 AM
I was so tired (getting close to my period), so I over slept like crazy. I was planning on logging on last night. Yeah, that never happened, 9h later of sleep. Damn, I hate hormones. Wish my ovaries would treat me better!

Yeah, I'm in a hormonal state, too. I have to remember...I get even more sleepy during that time. I get angry at myself.

Sweet_Sadie
07-03-2019, 08:30 AM
X-posting this. If you read this in the "General Questions" thread, then skip over. But I'm posting this here because I know you guys can related to 'health issues:'

1. Although mornings would be the best time for me to do shows, I'm just not a morning performer. For one, I often have insomnia, and because I have health issues, I need to make sure I'm getting all of my sleep, as much as possible. And even if I get a good night of sleep, my personality just isn't there in the morning.

2. I like doing mornings so that I can work on other things in the afternoons. Also, there's less competition for me to deal with in the mornings. But working mornings only allows me a couple of hours before it becomes dead/crickets. SM goes dark pretty much around lunch. Never tried mid-afternoons.

3. I often wake up in a state of anxiety. No matter if I make lists (I do), I wake up feeling incapable and my brain goes frozen.

4. Mornings are just the best time for me to do exercise, meditation, errands, shit that's just best to do in the mornings, especially if I need to leave home this time of year because it's fucking HOT outside. Example: I don't like doing grocery shopping in the afternoons because I like my food to be as cool/cold as possible. It's so hot where I live, even if I'm riding in a car, the food could spoil on the way home (I fear). Like...I put cold foods in insulated bags EVEN riding in a car!

5. I've tried evening shifts before...different crowd. The guys were more demanding, more assholish. They seem to be a bit more tame in the mornings. Also, there's less of a chance of my being clocked out outted by working in the mornings...because the people I live around are working in the mornings.

(Vent/rant/whining over)

Now...does anyone else find that mornings are JUST NOT their jam? I know in order to be half-decent at this (I'm still in the apprentice phase, as I call it), I need to be at my best, inside and out. But as I've established, mornings aren't the right time for me. I gotta figure this out so that I can earn! Too much at stake, financially. But my mind is telling me....save mornings to do the things that I know work best for me to do in the mornings. Errands. Personal care. Making clips. Side hustles. Shit like that. Save camming for afternoons/early eves, but I'm afraid I won't make money during those times.

I'm a hot mess right now, I know. Empathy and compassionate input is welcome, please.

KatM
07-03-2019, 09:02 AM
^^^ I dont like to cam in the morning or day time either, i feel this job is more appropriate for evenings/ night time.
I live in Europe so my night time shifts means afternoon time in USA so can't tell what u'll get during your evening/ night time as member types.
I sometimes cam during mornings here and catch the late guys in USA which are good customers.
Here is very hot now as well and i dont feel like camming when the sun is up and burning (no AC here just a fan), at nite i also have privacy when most people sleep while during the day somebody might knock on the door (neighbors, mailman, building admin, so on).
I rather open the door sleepy than wearing heavy make up that cant be taken off fast enough as i do full make up.
There is also a con for camming at nite, it's affecting health in the way that hormones are not produced in a normal way but well, it comes with the job.
Not sure if my hormonal issues are related to camming at nite mostly for the last 18 years now but can be, i just cant tell the doctors what i work and when.
Maybe evenings/ early night would be an option for you?
Anyway as a general matter people are more inclined to do naughty things at nite imo, models and members but it's not a must, others might find other time frame to suit them better.

Panthera
07-03-2019, 11:27 AM
I love working mornings for the sole reason that I can get rid of the hardest thing that I must do (which is camming, in my case) while I am still not 100% awake and conscious. LOL. But I can't, as I am living with my inlaws at the moment, so I can only cam for 3-4 hours in the afternoon. FML. :)))

Sweet_Sadie
07-03-2019, 11:37 AM
I love working mornings for the sole reason that I can get rid of the hardest thing that I must do (which is camming, in my case) while I am still not 100% awake and conscious. LOL. But I can't, as I am living with my inlaws at the moment, so I can only cam for 3-4 hours in the afternoon. FML. :)))

Are you on SM? What's the afternoons like for you?

Panthera
07-03-2019, 12:57 PM
Are you on SM? What's the afternoons like for you?

Yes, only on SM. The afternoons are hit or miss usually, but I have been here since Moses was in diapers, so I have regulars. I average pretty much the same per hour. I only wish I would not need one hour or more from the 4 available only to get myself in camming mode before I even log in... but that's what it takes, so I accept it.

izshadow
07-03-2019, 05:53 PM
I am not a morning person at all and hate getting up before 10am but afternoons for me on SM are freaking crickets. I've even tried signing on around midnight and its worse then afternoons for me.

I have made next to nothing and need to start pushing more to get full time pay before I lose my home so I have to force myself now to get up and try to stream from like 7am to 1pm. Or 7am to noon if lunch time is truly crickets for most models.

I really havent done evenings (like between 7pm to midnight) cause its when I wind down from my day be it the farm, errand, appointments, etc. Eat dinner, shower, etc is all done during that time for me.

Sweet_Sadie
07-03-2019, 06:09 PM
I am not a morning person at all and hate getting up before 10am but afternoons for me on SM are freaking crickets. I've even tried signing on around midnight and its worse then afternoons for me.

I have made next to nothing and need to start pushing more to get full time pay before I lose my home so I have to force myself now to get up and try to stream from like 7am to 1pm. Or 7am to noon if lunch time is truly crickets for most models.

I really havent done evenings (like between 7pm to midnight) cause its when I wind down from my day be it the farm, errand, appointments, etc. Eat dinner, shower, etc is all done during that time for me.

From what I'm reading...yeah, anytime beyond the late hours can be hit or miss, but the key is consistency. If dudes know you'll be around at a certain time of day, then they'll show up when you're around.

I'm just not gonna try to force the morning hours. I have to optimize my time, and that means doing the type of work that works for that time of the day. Having said that, I'm gonna try SM in the afternoons. I figure...even if no one shows up, I can listen to ebooks, make clips, do dancing work outs. Tons of things to do actually while I'm babysitting an empty cam room. :D

Glamourmilf
07-04-2019, 07:13 AM
X-posting this. If you read this in the "General Questions" thread, then skip over. But I'm posting this here because I know you guys can related to 'health issues:'

1. Although mornings would be the best time for me to do shows, I'm just not a morning performer. For one, I often have insomnia, and because I have health issues, I need to make sure I'm getting all of my sleep, as much as possible. And even if I get a good night of sleep, my personality just isn't there in the morning.

2. I like doing mornings so that I can work on other things in the afternoons. Also, there's less competition for me to deal with in the mornings. But working mornings only allows me a couple of hours before it becomes dead/crickets. SM goes dark pretty much around lunch. Never tried mid-afternoons.

3. I often wake up in a state of anxiety. No matter if I make lists (I do), I wake up feeling incapable and my brain goes frozen.

4. Mornings are just the best time for me to do exercise, meditation, errands, shit that's just best to do in the mornings, especially if I need to leave home this time of year because it's fucking HOT outside. Example: I don't like doing grocery shopping in the afternoons because I like my food to be as cool/cold as possible. It's so hot where I live, even if I'm riding in a car, the food could spoil on the way home (I fear). Like...I put cold foods in insulated bags EVEN riding in a car!

5. I've tried evening shifts before...different crowd. The guys were more demanding, more assholish. They seem to be a bit more tame in the mornings. Also, there's less of a chance of my being clocked out outted by working in the mornings...because the people I live around are working in the mornings.

(Vent/rant/whining over)

Now...does anyone else find that mornings are JUST NOT their jam? I know in order to be half-decent at this (I'm still in the apprentice phase, as I call it), I need to be at my best, inside and out. But as I've established, mornings aren't the right time for me. I gotta figure this out so that I can earn! Too much at stake, financially. But my mind is telling me....save mornings to do the things that I know work best for me to do in the mornings. Errands. Personal care. Making clips. Side hustles. Shit like that. Save camming for afternoons/early eves, but I'm afraid I won't make money during those times.

I'm a hot mess right now, I know. Empathy and compassionate input is welcome, please.


^^^ I dont like to cam in the morning or day time either, i feel this job is more appropriate for evenings/ night time.
I live in Europe so my night time shifts means afternoon time in USA so can't tell what u'll get during your evening/ night time as member types.
I sometimes cam during mornings here and catch the late guys in USA which are good customers.
Here is very hot now as well and i dont feel like camming when the sun is up and burning (no AC here just a fan), at nite i also have privacy when most people sleep while during the day somebody might knock on the door (neighbors, mailman, building admin, so on).
I rather open the door sleepy than wearing heavy make up that cant be taken off fast enough as i do full make up.
There is also a con for camming at nite, it's affecting health in the way that hormones are not produced in a normal way but well, it comes with the job.
Not sure if my hormonal issues are related to camming at nite mostly for the last 18 years now but can be, i just cant tell the doctors what i work and when.
Maybe evenings/ early night would be an option for you?
Anyway as a general matter people are more inclined to do naughty things at nite imo, models and members but it's not a must, others might find other time frame to suit them better.

Everything you ladies have said, is why I cam in the evening. PST
I'm not a morning person at all. When I have cammed in the early morning, it's very busy. But, guys only buy short shows, and that pisses me off.
My ideal time would be between 11 am-2. Sadly, that never works for me. Customers come into my chat room when they see me on. But, they never buy shows then.
Idk, maybe because I'm doing mostly fetish shows?
But, I notice that another cam girl who's my age/ category/offering the same fetishes in private all the time.
Oh well. It is what it is.
I agree with Kat about the chance of someone knocking on the door. Happens more times than I can count, when I cam in the daytime​.
It's hotter than hell here too. 110-120 everyday until November. Sadly, it doesn't cool down at night. Well, it does, but only to about 108.
Anyway, until I can get passive income flowing, the evening hours will be my schedule.

izshadow
07-04-2019, 07:17 AM
I set my alarm for 8am so I could have two hours to wake up and have my coffee, sit with the cat, etc. Well I guess I hit it wrong in my sleep and what time did I get up? The magic 10am. Sigh. I even went to bed two hours earlier then normal but nope, 10am is my magic number. Doesnt matter how early or how late I go to bed, I'll wake up at 10am. And it wouldnt have worked out anyways cause the lawn men showed up at 10am to. So even if I got up at 8am, I wouldnt have been able to log in at 10am. Maybe thats a sign? Blah.

Electricity is probably cheaper at night to haha.

Sweet_Sadie
07-04-2019, 09:24 AM
Yeah, people like us can't force our bodies to do what it doesn't want to do. I know I'm a slave to my body, and how it operates.

But it's a mixed-blessing because I HAVE to take supplements, get enough sleep, move my body, watch what I eat and how much if it I eat. Things we're supposed to do anyway, but when you're disabled, it's a must just to function!

Miss_ShaSha
07-18-2019, 05:54 AM
Woke in a panic 5am. Not sure what was wrong. I tried to calm and soothe, but nothing seemed to work. I think I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself with the 1k goal.

I'm going to take another route with intentions the rest of this week. I think I'm just going to focus on having fun. Yesterday was a good day and it was pretty fun. But I think trying to outdo good days like that has me feeling pressured.

So for the rest of the week I'm going to just keep my vibe up.

Sweet_Sadie
07-18-2019, 07:21 AM
Woke in a panic 5am. Not sure what was wrong. I tried to calm and soothe, but nothing seemed to work. I think I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself with the 1k goal.

I'm going to take another route with intentions the rest of this week. I think I'm just going to focus on having fun. Yesterday was a good day and it was pretty fun. But I think trying to outdo good days like that has me feeling pressured.

So for the rest of the week I'm going to just keep my vibe up.

I can totally relate. New financial goals only underline the need for more money, and that leads to off-the-charts anxiety!

Take good care, listen to what your body is capable of, and not so much of your financial goals. For me, I'm finding that income diversification might be my best bet in managing anxiety. If I chop up my financial goals into bite-sized pieces (so to speak), then I feel that I can reach my goals.

anonymous camgirl
07-18-2019, 08:38 AM
That is what happens to me, I have so much financial pressure the whole 17 yrs I have been on cam... and I just lose it!!..lol


Woke in a panic 5am. Not sure what was wrong. I tried to calm and soothe, but nothing seemed to work. I think I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself with the 1k goal.

I'm going to take another route with intentions the rest of this week. I think I'm just going to focus on having fun. Yesterday was a good day and it was pretty fun. But I think trying to outdo good days like that has me feeling pressured.

So for the rest of the week I'm going to just keep my vibe up.

Miss_ShaSha
07-18-2019, 10:11 AM
I can totally relate. New financial goals only underline the need for more money, and that leads to off-the-charts anxiety!

Take good care, listen to what your body is capable of, and not so much of your financial goals. For me, I'm finding that income diversification might be my best bet in managing anxiety. If I chop up my financial goals into bite-sized pieces (so to speak), then I feel that I can reach my goals.

This is really good advice. I need to shoot more clips. Those do sell. I have most of my eggs in the SM basket and it scares me.

And listening to my body? Yes! I need to take it easy and meditate more. I've skipped a day or two and I can feel the anxiety welling up.

I really appreciate the support.




That is what happens to me, I have so much financial pressure the whole 17 yrs I have been on cam... and I just lose it!!..lol

Right, ugh...I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I'll try to take it easy the next 2 days. It's good to know I'm not alone. Thanks.

Panthera
07-18-2019, 11:06 AM
Woke in a panic 5am. Not sure what was wrong. I tried to calm and soothe, but nothing seemed to work. I think I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself with the 1k goal.

I'm going to take another route with intentions the rest of this week. I think I'm just going to focus on having fun. Yesterday was a good day and it was pretty fun. But I think trying to outdo good days like that has me feeling pressured.

So for the rest of the week I'm going to just keep my vibe up.


That's what happens to me, as well. For the next week I was contemplating getting on board with trying to do the 25 hours to qualify for the bonus, but then I stepped back and re-thought. If I hurry to get online each day and try to make it to 25 hours that week, in the given conditions (inlaws house, only 4 hours a day available to lock myself in the bedroom) that would mean I would cut off most of my 1 hour yoga and meditation/journaling, self care time. If I do that, I know damn well by now, after so many years, what the result will be: bitchiness and frustration. Bitchy me doesn't even do good as the Domme that I am, the domme style that fits me is the cute/surprisingly darkminded but smiling and fun domme. So, even if I most likely would end the week with a bonus of 125 or more, I will then need to take 2 days off to come back to my senses.
Not to mention my life outside work will suffer too.
Nope. not worth it.
If I am on a high vibe, happy and joyful I sure will end up making almost as much money without the pressure.
I used to work under pressure and did good...till I was about 31 years old. Then it all changed, I guess self respect went higher on my personal value scale than money. Damn it! lol What's worse is that it took me 8 years to understand that, too!

PS: even if I wouldn't have only a few hours a day for work, I still have a limit of hours that I can keep up the good mood doing camming (at the most 5 a day), and that is a limit that I am being forced to respect or else... frustration gets the best of me and my money-making abilities. And the LOA gets me, too. Please remind me that if you ever see me bitchin' in the "Camming sucks" forum ever again hehe.

Miss_ShaSha
07-18-2019, 11:50 AM
That's what happens to me, as well. For the next week I was contemplating getting on board with trying to do the 25 hours to qualify for the bonus, but then I stepped back and re-thought. If I hurry to get online each day and try to make it to 25 hours that week, in the given conditions (inlaws house, only 4 hours a day available to lock myself in the bedroom) that would mean I would cut off most of my 1 hour yoga and meditation/journaling, self care time. If I do that, I know damn well by now, after so many years, what the result will be: bitchiness and frustration. Bitchy me doesn't even do good as the Domme that I am, the domme style that fits me is the cute/surprisingly darkminded but smiling and fun domme. So, even if I most likely would end the week with a bonus of 125 or more, I will then need to take 2 days off to come back to my senses.
Not to mention my life outside work will suffer too.
Nope. not worth it.
If I am on a high vibe, happy and joyful I sure will end up making almost as much money without the pressure.
I used to work under pressure and did good...till I was about 31 years old. Then it all changed, I guess self respect went higher on my personal value scale than money. Damn it! lol What's worse is that it took me 8 years to understand that, too!

PS: even if I wouldn't have only a few hours a day for work, I still have a limit of hours that I can keep up the good mood doing camming (at the most 5 a day), and that is a limit that I am being forced to respect or else... frustration gets the best of me and my money-making abilities. And the LOA gets me, too. Please remind me that if you ever see me bitchin' in the "Camming sucks" forum ever again hehe.

I am shaking my head in total agreement with ALL that. Girl, you know about the power of self care. This is a major practice in LOA. I just love how you said "need to take 2 days off to come back to (your) senses". It almost doesn't seem worth the money made. I've been known to take a whole week off EEKKK.

I've slacked a little on self care. That day in the camming sucks thread I wasn't eating right. I felt horrible. I know better. Hahahaaa, I promise to send you good vibes and a message if and when you do go off. I'm sure your going off is less severe than mine LOL.

Panthera
07-18-2019, 12:03 PM
I am shaking my head in total agreement with ALL that. Girl, you know about the power of self care. This is a major practice in LOA. I just love how you said "need to take 2 days off to come back to (your) senses". It almost doesn't seem worth the money made. I've been known to take a whole week off EEKKK.

I've slacked a little on self care. That day in the camming sucks thread I wasn't eating right. I felt horrible. I know better. Hahahaaa, I promise to send you good vibes and a message if and when you do go off. I'm sure your going off is less severe than mine LOL.


Haha, yes, my going off is less severe because I am the sole income provider for 3 people at the moment, lol. I have to be REALLY mindful and REALLY pay the utmost attention to all I do in this regards, to be able to stay at my best and make what's needed. I feel like I'm walking on a string at times. But alas, I honestly love this lifestyle. Hubby will go get at least a part time job soon, as his health got much better, but I got used to having him cook and clean (less now, that his mother is here) and doing homework/play with the kiddo :)))

Miss_ShaSha
07-18-2019, 12:12 PM
Haha, yes, my going off is less severe because I am the sole income provider for 3 people at the moment, lol. I have to be REALLY mindful and REALLY pay the utmost attention to all I do in this regards, to be able to stay at my best and make what's needed. I feel like I'm walking on a string at times. But alas, I honestly love this lifestyle. Hubby will go get at least a part time job soon, as his health got much better, but I got used to having him cook and clean (less now, that his mother is here) and doing homework/play with the kiddo :)))

Right about being mindful. It seems you've got things under control, which, no doubt, takes making sure your vessel is clean and cared for. I have a BF who cooks and it's so nice. I raised my kiddo alone and did all the cooking. Other BF didn't really know how to cook. A man who can cook AND clean? That's a true blessing right there.

magicgembliss
07-25-2019, 12:48 AM
Oh yes. This thread...for sure this is me. I have health problems for sure..not neurotypical..ADD&OCD, hypoglycemia, scoliosis and a heart defect. Dry skin, a history of extreme vitamin deficiencies.. I need to work out every few days or I literally feel my body falling apart. Mostly, I get overstimulated easily. I sort of love high stimulation but then I become exhausted quickly. Luckily, I do have a man who cooks and cleans..just not as well as me :/ LOL