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~*SwanPrincess*~
05-12-2014, 08:10 AM
Charlotte I liked your idea of getting a letter written up from my club by someone. Very good idea!!
The unfortunate reality nowadays for dancers is that it's not how it used to be as far as contact. I started dancing in '05, and even the difference between then and now is huge. I've heard so many stories from older girls I've worked with over the years about how things used to be. Guys used to just be happy to be with a beautiful girl, and they didn't "expect" more than that. That sounds lovely to me, and I wish it were that way now. But it's not.
I've worked in mid tier and upscale clubs in different parts of the country. It's not just where I am! If it were that way there wouldn't be so many threads on SW about extras girls. How to compete with them, deal with them, etc. I remember when I started dancing there were one or two nasty girls in my club. Now it has turned into an epidemic.
The good news is, if you're pretty, a good conversationalist and a good dancer, there is STILL money to be made because not EVERY guy wants a strange girl performing sexual favors.
Anyways. When I expressed I thought a guy biting me was "just another guy pushing the line", that is the reality of it. All those things I listed that I'm "used" to people trying, is the how it is. And I KNOW it's not me, just my club, or the area I am in.
Anyway. I'm actually feeling a little better today. I really hope I get some good news tommorow! Meeting with this other lawyer at 4, and I can't wait to see what he says.
Again, thanks y'all :)
Melonie
05-12-2014, 09:07 AM
Anyway. I'm actually feeling a little better today. I really hope I get some good news tomorrow
That's the first 'good news' on the health front so far ! Maybe the broad spectrum antibiotics are actually starting to work !!!
Meeting with this other lawyer at 4, and I can't wait to see what he says.
Indeed !!!
whirlerz
05-12-2014, 09:25 AM
Charlotte I liked your idea of getting a letter written up from my club by someone. Very good idea!!
The unfortunate reality nowadays for dancers is that it's not how it used to be as far as contact. I started dancing in '05, and even the difference between then and now is huge. I've heard so many stories from older girls I've worked with over the years about how things used to be. Guys used to just be happy to be with a beautiful girl, and they didn't "expect" more than that. That sounds lovely to me, and I wish it were that way now. But it's not.
I've worked in mid tier and upscale clubs in different parts of the country. It's not just where I am! If it were that way there wouldn't be so many threads on SW about extras girls. How to compete with them, deal with them, etc. I remember when I started dancing there were one or two nasty girls in my club. Now it has turned into an epidemic.
The good news is, if you're pretty, a good conversationalist and a good dancer, there is STILL money to be made because not EVERY guy wants a strange girl performing sexual favors.
Anyways. When I expressed I thought a guy biting me was "just another guy pushing the line", that is the reality of it. All those things I listed that I'm "used" to people trying, is the how it is. And I KNOW it's not me, just my club, or the area I am in.
Anyway. I'm actually feeling a little better today. I really hope I get some good news tommorow! Meeting with this other lawyer at 4, and I can't wait to see what he says.
Again, thanks y'all :)
YAY!!! Great news,^!!!
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-14-2014, 03:54 AM
I saw the other lawyer, and I had another appointment with the breast specialist.
The doctors appointment went pretty well, but I am still frustrated. She said the redness around the bite has improved quite a bit, and finally the wound is closing in and forming a scab. (Sorry, so gross!!) She said it is still too swollen to do an ultrasound though.
How can this be? How could this second antibiotic improve everything but the swelling? It seems weird to me.
However, she did say she definitely could feel no abscess and thought that was a good sign.
Now I have to go back on Friday, and HOPEFULLY get an ultrasound to see if my implant is okay.
Jeez this is frustrating! I would have hoped to know more by now :(
Lawyer #2 was pretty impressive. He said the best way to do this would be as a civil case. Well, if I was more proactive the day it happened it could have been a criminal case. But as y'all know, I fucked that up by not immediately filing a police report and getting management at my club involved.
Once again, I have to wait to see if my implant was even effected by the bite before I can even move forward any more with this.
I do feel very confident in this lawyer though, and he seemed very confident that I would have a good case. I'm VERY glad I have all the pictures I do, and doctors visits summaries.
My energy level is back up, and I am finally starting to feel like myself again because the pain has subsided. Now I'm just waiting till Friday, to hopefully get good news...
audrey_k
05-14-2014, 09:17 AM
^Have you not been able to work for the last 2 weeks? God, this guy has really cost you a lot of money!
Melonie
05-14-2014, 02:19 PM
the improvement in your bite wound, but little improvement in your breast swelling, may indicate that the broad spectrum antibiotics are working well on your infected 'regular' body tissues ... but that due to lack of circulation in the breast pocket the broad spectrum antibiotic is making far less 'forward progress'. See what improves by your next trip to the breast specialist on Friday. Unfortunately, there is still some small risk that the antibiotics aren't going to be able to completely clear up your breast pocket infection with the implant still in place. Thus there is still a potential 'worst case scenario' where things could go on for another couple of weeks to the point where your bite wound is healing nicely, but your breast is still swollen / deformed ... resulting in a belated recommendation for implant removal. Obviously, every additional day that passes while your breast specialist attempts to sort this out means more medical bills and more lost dancing income.
On a purely health related level, if your low grade fever is gone, the breast pain is gone, and your bite wound is starting to heal, this is all very GOOD news.
Glad to hear that this new hot shot attorney 'gets it' !!! With lost income and medical bills continuing to rack up, you're going to NEED him !!!
I have to wait to see if my implant was even effected by the bite before I can even move forward any more with this
That's not necessarily true. Your implant might be fine regarding damage, but a breast pocket infection that can't be cleared up by antibiotics alone could still force implant removal to allow treating the infection from the 'inside'.
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-14-2014, 04:10 PM
Yikes you're right Melonie! I didn't even think about that, nor did the doctor mention it. I think the breast specialist doctor could tell I'm a little frantic about this whole thing.
Audrey I have missed quite a bit of work. I have a good number of VIP regulars, and I've gone in and done an hour or two and left right after multiple times. All of those particular customers are nice, respectful guys I know very well. I had two of my best regulars give me a nice lump sum of cash because they know I'm going through all this.
I tried to work the floor once and it ended in disaster. I politely tried to explain I was hurt in my breast and to PLEASE don't touch it, and every single guy didn't listen. I danced for three guys back to back that day, and the first thing ALL of them did was grab me where I told them not to. Of course I finished every song dancing about three feet away from them.
The pain was so much worse just from that, so I left shortly after.
I am planning on working tomorrow, I'm I'm much less pain and I hope it goes well!
eagle2
05-14-2014, 05:32 PM
I'm very glad to hear you're in much less pain!
When you're trying to reach a settlement, make sure you have him get tested for STD's and any other diseases that can be transmitted through bites. From the sound of this person, maybe rabies too.
audrey_k
05-14-2014, 05:54 PM
^if he had rabies he'd be dead, dude. /:O I think the better option would be for her to get tested (I think she mentioned already doing that and coming back clean) than having him do it!
eagle2
05-14-2014, 07:10 PM
I was joking about the rabies because he was behaving like a rabid animal, but if he has STD's or any other diseases that could be transmitted through biting, SwanPrincess should know. I sincerely hope that the antibiotics clear up everything and that's the end of her injury.
whirlerz
05-14-2014, 07:15 PM
Yea, thank you for the update, love. I hope you will get 100% better as soon as possible.
Melonie
05-15-2014, 07:42 AM
I sincerely hope that the antibiotics clear up everything and that's the end of her injury.
Obviously, me too !!! However, I have seen more than a few incidents of infected breast implants where, in the end, it was eventually necessary to remove implants and treat the infection from the 'inside', to fully clear up the infection. Unfortunately, a common scenario seems to be that oral antibiotics work to some degree while they are being taken, but that as soon as the course of antibiotics is completed the breast pocket infection 'flares up' again, the breast swelling starts to return, the low grade fever returns etc. One girl I worked with wound up going through several 2-3 week cycles of attempted treatment with different antibiotics as a result of a post-op breast pocket infection, only to finally face having her implants removed so the infection could be treated from the 'inside'. As a result, it took SIX months for her to actually get back to where she started from.
I didn't even think about that, nor did the doctor mention it. I think the breast specialist doctor could tell I'm a little frantic about this whole thing.
Dumb question ... but is your breast specialist fully aware of the fact that a swollen / deformed breast will prevent you from working ( or at least reduce your hours / earnings ) ? From a purely medical standpoint, taking a methodical step by step approach to treating you is the conventional wisdom. And such an approach has no additional adverse effects for women who work at 'straight' jobs, whose ability to work thus level of income aren't adversely affected because they don't depend on breast appearance / breast contact in any way !
But for an exotic dancer, a methodical step by step approach may simply be adding extra weeks / months to the overall time period before you're fully able to work / earn the same amount as you did before the bite incident occurred. You might want to 'gently' raise this topic for discussion during tomorrow's appointment ... if for no other reason than to get the specialist's opinion on the 'progress' ( or lack thereof ) being made regarding your breast swelling / breast pocket infection.
I am planning on working tomorrow, I'm in much less pain and I hope it goes well!
Hoping the same !!!
lokikola
05-15-2014, 08:28 AM
Really sad this happened to you :(
I hope this pig is held accountable for what he did to you and that you recover quickly, both physically and financially.
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-15-2014, 07:04 PM
I haven't told the breast specialist I'm an exotic dancer. By the sounds of what you described Melonie, I will tell her tomorrow.
Something happened today that has scared me to death. I got an appointment reminder phone call from the breast specialist office, and the receptionist told me a breast SURGEON will be seeing me directly after the specialist doctor. I got worried by that, and the receptionist told me the surgeon just wanted to "take a peek." :(
I feel much better, all but the swelling is pretty much back to normal. I worked today and had an awesome shift, and feel very much myself again.
I will post what happens tomorrow after my appointment. Thanks everyone !!
whirlerz
05-15-2014, 09:10 PM
Good Luck & Hugs Hon!
Melonie
05-16-2014, 03:20 AM
I got an appointment reminder phone call from the breast specialist office, and the receptionist told me a breast SURGEON will be seeing me directly after the specialist doctor. I got worried by that, and the receptionist told me the surgeon just wanted to "take a peek
Again there's no reason to be 'scared'. This is 100% 'fixable' by one means or another. However, as I have tried to point out, because your breast swelling / distortion isn't improving very much there is still some reason to be concerned that an infection in your breast pocket isn't responding to oral antibiotics very well. Indeed I would lay out the whole dancer / lost earnings scenario to both doctors today, so they can 'factor' that into any potential recommendations.
Glad to hear that you were able to get through a shift at your club last night without problems. This may take away some of the financial lost income 'pressure' if the doctors want to keep trying oral antibiotics and hoping for the best. I'm certainly no doctor, but my experiences with girls and breast implant infections tends to indicate that the oral antibiotic approach really only works less than 50% of the time. Thus this approach offers a fair probability of success, but also offers a fair probability that your breast infection and other symptoms will start returning soon after you complete your latest course of oral antibiotics ... with implant removal eventually becoming necessary to truly 'cure' the breast pocket infection. If you're able to keep dancing and earning a respectable amount of money during those oral antibiotic treatments, then there's not much to lose. However, if your ability to dance is compromised, and/or if your breast appearance results in reduced income, then sticking with multiple oral antibiotic treatments carries a 'lost opportunity' cost.
The flip side, which you need to also consider, would be an outright recommendation by the doctors that to 'cure' your condition your implants need to be removed. This would allow the plastic surgeon to treat your breast pocket with ( 'industrial' strength' hospital germicide ) betadine, to sterilize infected breast pocket tissue via ( high power xenon ) laser, etc., as well as removing the implant surface 'hiding place' for bacteria so that oral antibiotics will work much more effectively. If that is the case, then getting it done ASAP so that you can be back to 'original condition' ASAP, will be a topic for discussion. Also, you may wind up being better than 'original condition' when all is said and done ... because nothing says that the replacement implants can't be bigger than the infected implants that were removed.
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-16-2014, 02:58 PM
So I had my appointment today. The breast specialist and the breast surgeon examined me together. The specialist doctor thought that I showed great improvement. She said the fact that the redness was gone around my nipple was a great sign. She thought the swelling had gone down significantly too.
She didn't even want to do an ultrasound. (Which was the plan initially) It was then that I told her I was an exotic dancer, and stressed the importance of this whole thing.
She kinda pissed me off cause after I told her that she gave me a snobby look and said "Oh. That must be why you went with extra large implants. Don't you have a child? You need to think about THEM." (No shit. That's why I'm making and saving lots of $$$)
She gave me a two week prescription for the same antibiotic I've been on because she said the bacteria could be hiding out under my implant. Then she told me my implant was fine and if it suddenly got red, or the symptoms of infection came back to call them.
I go back in two weeks for hopefully my last follow up.
I'm pretty disappointed I didn't get an ultrasound. At least for peace of mind if nothing else. I am happy that things definitely seem to be getting better though!
starlily
05-16-2014, 03:17 PM
she kinda pissed me off cause after i told her that she gave me a snobby look and said "oh. That must be why you went with extra large implants. Don't you have a child? You need to think about them."
fuck that bitch
whirlerz
05-16-2014, 05:07 PM
fuck that bitch
Seriously! Glad to hear that you're doing better honey!
Melonie
05-16-2014, 05:32 PM
hopefully the additional oral antibiotic prescription will take care of this !
audrey_k
05-17-2014, 11:55 PM
She kinda pissed me off cause after I told her that she gave me a snobby look and said "Oh. That must be why you went with extra large implants. Don't you have a child? You need to think about THEM." (No shit. That's why I'm making and saving lots of $$$)
What the hell does that even mean? Moms can't have big boobs? It's not like you took your child out of private school so you could pay for the extra large implant over the smaller one!
Glad you're feeling better! Hopefully it will clear up and this will be the end of it!
whirlerz
05-18-2014, 03:05 AM
we wuvz u Swan!
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-18-2014, 04:40 AM
Trust me, the second the doctor made her little condescending comment, my whole attitude changed. Ugh. She's there to help me medically. Not to be Dr Phil or Oprah and "advise" me on my "scandalous" career choice.
It was such an awkward moment and my whole demeanor changed!
I have the utmost respect for people in the medical field, but the SECOND she said that to me, she just became another ignorant, close minded, judge mental hater bitch.
I'm glad my time with her is hopefully close to being finished !!
Awww I love y'all too Whirlerz!!:)
oldster
05-18-2014, 06:28 AM
Just wanted to say that I find all this shit horrifying, and am glad you are getting better. WTF on the customer, WTF on the doctor, just all around WTF.
Hope you clean this guys bank account, and the judge sentences him to half an hour in the alley behind the courthouse with you and two of your favorite gay Hell's Angels......................
I am so glad things are getting better for you. I have been following this thread. I have a good friend that is an attorney. I asked him about your case.
He said the one piece of advice he would give you as a friend and attorney.... do not let anyone, not even the attorney, push you into any actions unless you are sure. People are going to see dollar signs but you are going to have live with the aftermath.
Club owners may protect a high dollar client etc. A large enough lawsuit could sour other clubs from hiring you.
A good attorney would try to keep the case out of court, with a non disclosure agreement, and cash settlement. Or do you want him named and shamed?
It is a tough situation to be in.
Just know that we fully support you and hope for your speedy recovery.
starlily
05-18-2014, 04:03 PM
I have the utmost respect for people in the medical field, but the SECOND she said that to me, she just became another ignorant, close minded, judge mental hater bitch.
My bf is in med school, and a disproportionately high number of his classmates are extremely arrogant Type A's. They do believe that they are of a higher caste. Not to mention, a good part of the reason they made it to med school was because "The System" has worked for them their whole lives- they have no reason to question society's attitude about anything, including strippers. I don't know how anyone can be so smart and so imperceptive at the same time.
simone87
05-18-2014, 05:34 PM
My bf is in med school, and a disproportionately high number of his classmates are extremely arrogant Type A's. They do believe that they are of a higher caste. .
YUP! i worked as a CNA for awhile, and i've gotta say a lot of doctors and higher-up nurses have what i like to call a "god complex" about themselves. seriously. we are peasants to a lot of them already.
SweetJulia
05-19-2014, 02:38 AM
Swan Princess, I've been following this thread but struggled to find anything useful to say. The medical advice you've gotten from Melonie has been excellent and I second the "please feel better and take this to court" that has been posted.
The more mature side of me says take your antibiotics, make sure you fight legally, and do consider how your club handles this. Do they end up defending a high roller over an injured employee? If so, is that somewhere you'd want to work? Keep in mind, as wrong as it is, the club could make you out to be a problem-bullshit, I know-and make it difficult for you to work in that area. You may have to travel a longer distance to work.
My less mature side says go bite HIS fucking nipples off, but that side tends to get me in trouble so don't listen to it :)
Melonie
05-19-2014, 11:22 AM
i worked as a CNA for awhile, and i've gotta say a lot of doctors and higher-up nurses have what i like to call a "god complex" about themselves. seriously. we are peasants to a lot of them already.
Indeed. One of the contributing factors toward my not returning to work as an RT was because I kept 'refusing' to follow doctors' order which would have compromised / potentially killed my patients !!! Many doctors do cop an attitude ... and easily forget that they studied Respiratory for two whole semesters while I studied Respiratory for six !!!
I am shocked this dr was such a dick to u, I mean I am a nurse and in nursing school they teach you never to judge and enforce how important it is your client not know your personal feelings on them even if you dont agree you cannot express it and should not even let them feel your judging. Otherwise patients wouldnt be able to be honest with caregivers and that could lead to problems in care, ugh, some people!!
oldster
05-19-2014, 01:48 PM
I have worked with a lot of technical people over the years, both engineering types and doctors, and I wanted to comment on the 'asshole factor'
Engineers and Doctors are educated in a way that makes them think they know something. If you get a BA, basically you are taught how to understand things, how to basically keep learning. Now a doctor, a doctor needs to know things. Why? A doctor needs to be able to cut open your chest, stop your heart, cut it open, do a bunch of stuff to it, sew you back up and know, really know , that it is going to work. And then, if it doesn't work, and you die, they have to be able to go in tomorrow and do it all over again.
Who has the personality to be able to spend 8 years learning an impossible amount of shit then go in day in and day out and fuck with peoples insides, then go home and sleep like a baby?
Assholes.
So, consequently, a lot of really good doctors are assholes, and a lot of assholes become doctors.
This is not to excuse the behavior, and definitely not the doctor in this instance, but perhaps to help answer the 'why'. To point out in all probability they treat everyone that way
And do not get me wrong, not all good doctors are assholes, I see a doctor at a major Boston hospital who is a really really nice guy, and I just realized the whole fucking wing in the hospital is dedicated to him. So, he probably is an asshole, he just fakes it really well..............
I have a ton of similar stories and none of them ever justify bad behavior, but I am really just trying to say not to dump a doctor just for being an asshole, dump them for being a bad doctor
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-19-2014, 06:51 PM
I agree Oldster. There's no question I've also had some fantastic doctors in my life! I appreciate and admire my neurologist probably more than any other person in my life right now. (I'm in close communication with her office cause of my MS)
I get that doctors may have a chip on their shoulder, be a little arrogant, or consider themselves "above" their patients. I even somewhat understand it.
If my breast doctor was "short" with me, didn't listen to me, or rushed me, whatever. I might have thought she was a bitch, but whatever.
The fact she talked down to me and told me to "think of my child", pissed me off more than anything. She may think she understands my "lifestyle" as an exotic dancer, but she has no idea. I'm sure in HER version of what my life is like, I'm working all night every night, bringing guys home,and doing drugs and getting wasted every day.
Little does she know, in reality, I work three days a week for five hours at a time. On the days I do work, I'm home in time for dinner and to take my son to whatever sport he is playing or activity he is doing at the moment.
I never have alcohol or drugs in my home, and very rarely bring friends or acquaintances around near my son.
Everything I do is for HIM. The overpriced house I rent? So HE can be in a great school district. The day shift I work? So I can be home early for HIM. The money I make "stripping?" The majority is saved so HE can go to whatever college he wants when the time comes.
It's actually my sons birthday today. He had his party yesterday, and I'm not bragging, but it was a pretty epic party for a seven year old. And I feel so proud. Proud of him, but proud of myself too. I did that. I did allll this. By myself! What's the number one reason I can do everything I do? My career as an exotic dancer :)
That bitch doctor struck a nerve with what she said. If I needed her again, I would probably go back to her. She's a good doctor. It pissed me off what she said, but I know the truth about my life. She can speculate all she wants....
whirlerz
05-19-2014, 07:41 PM
Happy Birthday to your son, & yes you s/b proud of yourself!
When I cared for my mom, I had judgments made about me all the damn time, & they were so wrong. I even got a letter later on saying what a great care give I was so..
Another Dr. I dealt with was explaining something about my mom's condition, & kept staring @ my tits, like really?
Anyway, glad you are doing better dear
Melonie
05-20-2014, 03:38 AM
Engineers and Doctors are educated in a way that makes them think they know something. If you get a BA, basically you are taught how to understand things, how to basically keep learning. Now a doctor, a doctor needs to know things. Why? A doctor needs to be able to cut open your chest, stop your heart, cut it open, do a bunch of stuff to it, sew you back up and know, really know , that it is going to work. And then, if it doesn't work, and you die, they have to be able to go in tomorrow and do it all over again.
My engineer / tech 'acquaintances' always point out that Doctors have the luxury of 'burying' their mistakes, whil e they have to explain and fix theirs !!!
At any rate ... SwanPrincess ... glad to hear that things are still improving. And great to hear about your son's epic birthday, courtesy of your dancing efforts !!!
lokikola
05-28-2014, 11:49 AM
Any good news?
Melonie
05-28-2014, 12:35 PM
^^^ I was wondering the same ...
Twinkle Toes
05-28-2014, 01:17 PM
It became a joke to me at one point when someone had a arrogant dickish attitude I'd ask them if they were a surgeon. I'd say that 80 % of the time they would say yes and how did you know. I'd say coyly just a guess. God complex for sure.
~*SwanPrincess*~
05-28-2014, 03:18 PM
Yes, sorry for not updating! I am 95% back to normal. I still get a random shooting pain, but other than that the wound has closed and is ALMOST back to normal.
I am back to work and I'm just very glad this didn't get any worse than it did.
I've decided not to do anything legally. I have good insurance and my co pays and prescriptions weren't too too bad. The plastic surgeon appointment was the priciest thing out of all of it. Even if I sued this customer for lost wages, after all the attorney fees I'm not sure it would really be worth it.
Thank you everyone, for all your knowledge, opinions, and support throughout this :)
lynn2009
05-28-2014, 03:21 PM
Thanks for updating!
I think it is too bad about doing anything legally. Even if you don't want to file a civil suit you could still try small claims court. My ex is a lawyer and he told me about dumbass cases where people would go to small claims court over amounts that were like ~100 dollars. But it up to you.
In any case glad you are feeling better!
zerpa
06-06-2014, 07:48 PM
Yo, I just read through this whole thread, and I wanted to send you all the love and (gentle) hugs! <3 <3 <3
That custie needs to be banned STAT! Assault is illegal motherfuckers!
Yeah, yeah. I know. I can dream. But seriously- if your club doesn't either ban him or watch him like a hawk they DESERVE a lawsuit.
I also am posting to remind you that your post-assault testing does NOT cover all the stuff you should be worried about- when he bit you, you were potentially exposed to many things, but HIV is what I'm thinking of, here. In the clinic I do health education for, we recommend that people get tested for HIV after an exposure and then again 6 months later: the first time, to see if they had it to begin with, and the second time, to make sure they didn't get it from the exposure. Obviously you can't test him for HIV, which would be ideal, but if you KNEW he had HIV you could possibly take antiretroviral medications that might prevent transmission of the disease.
Anyway, to sum up: You don't just get HIV, boom, it's like a plant that grows. You won't know if you have it from this asshole until quite some time has passed.
They really should have covered this with your round of STD testing that you mentioned. I don't know of anyone who does HIV testing who just goes, "Yup, you're clean, congrats! Party time!" They usually cover this window of uncertainty.
I'm a little unclear on who is coordinating all your care and exactly what they know about this situation, but if you have a GP or PCP that you like and trust, I would go to them and talk about this. It might be more than just STDs you have to worry about, but afaik HIV is your possible Big Bad here, now that your breast/systemic infection is (mostly) managed. (Definitely I'm celebrating for you on that!!!) Tell your doctor about the assault, tell them about your testing, tell them everything, if you can; you don't have to mention stripping, if you don't want to, but definitely talk about the assault and the infection and the testing you've had so far.
I'm not posting this to freak you out- the chances that he gave you anything besides a filthy fucking standard infection are really, really low. But you should know the truth, and I didn't hear anyone saying it. I care about you, it's clear that you're awesome and you deserve awesome things and great care from your doctors and your club. Also, WTF formerly-nice breast specialist??? I mean dammit bitch. I know you don't want to bring asshole customer to justice, and although it hurts me inside that he's getting away with this when I know you're not the only one he's assaulted, it's not your job. But could you maybe just write that doctor a terribly polite letter saying that her behavior was really unprofessional and cc it to her practice? My mother was a doctor. I know how to hit them where it hurts.
Source: former nurse, bachelor's degree in biology, sex and health educator and HIV test counselor for a free clinic.
~*SwanPrincess*~
06-07-2014, 12:31 AM
Thanks zerpa. It's interesting that not ONE doctor mentioned anything about re-testing for HIV after some time has passed. I guess there's a chance maybe someone did along the way. This whole situation has been such a blur.
You're absolutely right though. (Which scares the shit out of me)
I did think about writing the bitch doctor a letter. I just kind of feel like she wouldn't care one bit since it seems she's "soooo far above me."
I remember when I found out my ex husband was having casual sex with people he met online and a secret swinger and I had to tell my gynecologist I wanted every STD test there was till I was 100% cleared. I was embarrassed, ashamed, humiliated and tearing up in her office. And do you know what she said? "This is not YOUR fault. You are the victim of someone else's selfish choices, and I am here to HELP you. Not judge you."
I respected her so much for that. Isn't that supposed to be what doctors are there for? To help us and make sure we are healthy. Not make us feel "less than" or criticize our lives.
I felt similar explaining I'm an exotic dancer and the bite came from a customer. It was awful and I knew I would possibly be judged, and I was.
I have a feeling if I said or wrote anything to her it would go in one ear and out the other :(
I feel like she made it VERY clear to me before that SHE is this know it all fancy doctor and I just a "stripper."
whirlerz
06-07-2014, 06:56 AM
So glad you're feeling better though. Maybe you could report that Dr.?
oldster
06-07-2014, 09:27 AM
Write that letter
be polite intelligent and let her know exactly how she made you feel. Even if it means nothing to her it will make you feel better, and you never know. As someone who is notoriously oblivious, sometimes people are just oblivious
eagle2
06-07-2014, 10:03 AM
Thanks zerpa. It's interesting that not ONE doctor mentioned anything about re-testing for HIV after some time has passed. I guess there's a chance maybe someone did along the way. This whole situation has been such a blur.
You're absolutely right though. (Which scares the shit out of me)
That is why I strongly suggest making the asshole who bit you get tested. HIV and other STD's might not show up right away.
Kellydancer
06-09-2014, 11:24 PM
Glad you are doing better. Sorry to hear you aren't pressing charges against the asshole or suing him though. If it were me I'd threaten him with blackmail until he paid me money but not everyone would do that.