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PlayfulDesire
06-13-2014, 08:01 PM
I've told a few people. A virgin from school who was my best friend but we stopped being friends in school. She asks about it but is super self concious and wishes she could do it. My step sister in law who is more of a friend and she's tried, she wants to do it but she just can't. She can't put in the time, or dedication. Also a couple friend who is a lesbian kind of knows. All are okay but then some girls from high school found some of my stuff. I was bullied in school so I don't care. In fact My family knows for the most part and I pay my bills, support me and my family, and I didn't like them in school or do I like them here.

ksage13
06-14-2014, 10:31 AM
Ignorant. I learned that if someone looks down on you for what you do, then that just shows what kind of person they are. If she thinks you're not in a good place emotionally/mentally, then why didn't she offer to help you? See what I mean. "I don't think you're doing too good right now sooo I'm gonna bail on you as a friend".

Friends/significant others should be loyal whether they agree or disagree (if you're doing something that's not causing harm to yourself or others).

Unfortunately it's one of those things that some people will never understand and will always look down on. You have to move on and only surround yourself with people who are supportive. I witnessed one ex friend go on a rant basically about how she busts her ass to support herself, while there's girls out there who will do anything for money. THAT type of crap is called jealousy. She was miserable with her own life. If you're comfortable with yourself, then you don't CARE what other people do. If you do, then you're just a judgmental pr*ck lol

MrsXolotl
08-04-2014, 03:37 AM
I told about camming to my best friend, and now she and another good friend of mine are gonna to work at MFC, so we will do shows together :D but the friends I know wouldn't like it, I prefer to evade the problem. I love these friends, but they are so "family girls".

Sam38g
08-04-2014, 03:56 AM
I never had any problems with any of my friends. We all cheer each other on no matter what each other pursues at this point in life. But they all are former strippers or escorts. I know all the dirt on them as they do me. LOL

I have a philosophy, either people can bring you UP or bring you Down. The ones who try to bring me down get cut immediately. This gal tried to bring you down, for whatever reason. Doesn't matter.

You move on & be happy, successful, lovely person & soon you will be friends with others who are liked minded.

Smooches,
Sam

Bitch
08-04-2014, 04:00 AM
Anyone who talks to me in chat has heard this story already, but I reckon I'll post it anyway :P

I had a girl friend I'd known since 6th grade. We were off/on friends, it was always pretty rocky. She was a problem-child. I was a sensible, relatively good child. So I of course annoyed her endlessly with my chiding. She had a large group of 'somewhat-friends,' they all seemed to flock to her. She was adorable, troubled, and crazy, and alluring. People just wanted to be close to her and hang out with her. I always tried to 'save' her from her stupid antics. She always rolled her eyes, of course.

Anyway, we got back in touch through Facebook, and started hanging out for a bit. She had taken a nosedive. Dealing and taking copious amounts of drugs. Her favorite was pills, but she hadn't shied away from the hard chemicals. We fell out again. She just wasn't a very good friend, and definitely not an influence I needed in my life.

Skip ahead about a year. She messages me on FB, apologizing, going on at length about how sorry she is she didn't appreciate me, how I was the only true friend she'd ever had, all this and more. Most importantly, she tells me she is clean. She occasionally takes pills, she confides, but is off the meth and everything else, and no longer dealing. She's been in jail a couple times, and she's paying off a warrant. She's homeless.

I agree to let her stay with me for a month. She shows up with her bf (who introduced her to the dealing business) and assures me that he's clean as well. I'm exasperated, but I'm way too nice of a person to draw lines where I should sometimes. So they move in.

I'm just about to start camming again. I've just quit my McD's job at this time, and I tell her this. She wants to join me, since she's jobless and needs some source of income if she's going to get back on her feet. I sign her up. She's NEVER READY when I need her to be. She's doing 'small deals' where she doesn't directly deal, but hooks dealers up with buyers and pockets 10 bucks or a pill or two for hooking them up. This is how she's getting her fix, and it's apparently more important than making any actual money on cam. I get her online once. It's great. We make damn near $75/hr, and she's thrilled. However, we only get through 2 hours of this before she has to go hook someone else up.

The next time I get her online (three days later!!, she was always waiting on someone to text back or fighting with her boyfriend and didn't want to commit her time to cam) she spends 2 hours in the bathroom. I'm furious. We're late. She finally comes out and tells me she's ready. There's something wrong with her. I assume she's just in a shitty mood (she was usually) and we get on anyway. 10 minutes in, she's damn close to falling asleep on me. She's leaning on me, and I'm pushing her up, telling her 'You have to look awake, what the fuck?? Open your eyes! Sit up! Are you okay?? Shit, sit up on your own! ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE FUCKING OKAY?' and of course she gets pissed off and says very loudly, "I'M FUCKING FINE, -My real name-!!!'

All the while, men in the chat are commenting on how fucked up she looks. I get one man berating me for not having called an ambulance. It's too much, I sign us off. She's angry, takes her phone and leaves.

That night, I searched through her shit and found a full fucking drug kit. A BAG of needles (at least 10 of them), a telephone cable, and a burnt spoon. The spoon was definitely one of MINE. So I knew it was fresh. When she showed back up, I chained the door and threw the bag of needles through the crack. 'Find somewhere else to stay tonight.'

And I don't think there will be another chance.

sexysusie
08-04-2014, 04:39 AM
Never told a soul. Never will. If they don't fall out with you over it, they'll become your competition! Bit lonely sometimes never having anyone to talk to about camming, but it means I can continue having a perfectly 'normal' life.

I'd advise anyone that unless someone really needs to know (like a partner who lives with you), just keep it to yourself. If you think clearly about your motivations for telling people you'll realise it's mostly down to vanity. Some part if you probably feels like this makes you look cool.

Obviously it's different for anyone who has worked in other 'adult' areas and their friends mainly have too, like Sam above as they are most likely already familiar with camming.

SpaceyLaceyButterfacey
08-25-2014, 10:37 AM
So I posted in this thread a while back and said I had a new friend and when the time was right, I was going to tell her.

So I told her and it went completely opposite of the other friend experience I had. The first girl dropped me and stopped talking to me. I told my new friend and she was so excited and wanted me to tell her more. Ok, I thought, this is going good. Then it went to the next level. She was saying how she was going to come over everyday, we could work together everyday and makes tons of money. This is when I was like.. whoa, whoa, whoa... You need to do some research, and I don't know if I'm so comfortable with working every...single...day... with someone. For one, we are not just gonna have hundreds of dollars dropped in our laps right away. It's work just like anything else. Plus, I am an introvert and prefer to do things on my own. I have my own way of doing things and I don't like girls sexually, even for pay. I like boobies and kissing but that's about where it ends. I told her to think about the repercussions-- She has a HUGE family and admitted her uncles are perverted and watch porn/cam sites all the time. I told her I have a small family and my father and brother have passed away and the only uncle I have doesn't even have internet. My existing family, my mom, aunts and grandmother would still love me no matter what. So I'm not so worried about people finding out like she should be. She also said HER OWN BF might get mad at her one day and tell everyone. I told her she doesn't need to be with a man like that who acts on his emotions when he gets pissed (not a man IMHO). I also told her it sounds like camming isn't for her. It's still her decision but just letting her know what I thought. I offered to let her use one of my old laptops and an old cam to get her started. Well, she kind of fell of the radar with me. Stopped calling me and asking me to go to the gym with her. :/ I called her and asked her what was up, told her straight up that I thought she stopped talking to me because of the whole cam thing. She said she hasn't called because she was busy (she has kids, a new job, just bought a new house, so I kind of get that). Well come to find out, her boyfriend was egging her on to do camming as well as hang out with me because they have been looking for a girl to have a threesome with or just him watch us together. :/ ARGGGGG whatever people...




If you think clearly about your motivations for telling people you'll realise it's mostly down to vanity. Some part if you probably feels like this makes you look cool.


I totally have to disagree with this. I don't care if people think its "cool" or whatever. I want a friend that I know is a true friend. It bothers me when I hang out with someone, we become close, have a blast together, but I'm still wondering... how "true" are you? I have old work acquaintances that I occasionally have a drink with, or I hang with my boyfriend and his friends that of course doesn't know. But I'm almost 30 and like I said before I need a real friend in my life. I'm not out to tell the whole world, but damn I just want one good friend to accept me for me. I'm just craving that in my life right now. I can become (what seems to be) best friends with someone, but at the end of the day, if they would drop me like a bag of shit because of what I do for a living, I don't want them in my life. It's not about the vanity. I have been wronged and judged by lots of "friends" in my life. After a while you get tired of all the fake, selfish people. I do not want those types of "friends" around me.

justanothercamgirl
08-25-2014, 01:11 PM
My entire friends group knows, but my entire friends group is also poly and kinky.

I gave up on hanging out with 'regular' people years ago. They have a tendency to be closed-minded. As Jack Kerouac says:
"The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.” :D

justanothercamgirl
08-25-2014, 01:34 PM
Now I find camming to be great in the weeding out process. If a friend doesn't like it then they can go away. They're someone who would never have your back when real troubles happen.

Fantastic point! You said it better then I ever could have.

secretwebcamchick
08-25-2014, 11:23 PM
Ladies,

Has anyone ever successfully confided in another female friend about camming without a reprocussion? Because I swear every time I feel comfortable mentioning it to a friend they get jealous or turn into hating me. I've lost friends over this and at this point I feel like I need to keep everything completely hidden. Check this out for example. A friend of mine asked me about work, and this girl is very open with her sexuality, she has told me about how she can squirt and stuff so I told her. She seemed genuinely curious and asked me about earnings so I was honest with her. All of a sudden she stops replying to my texts. I texted her a few times and nothing.. I messaged her on FB too, nothing. Then I wake up today to this message in my email:

Sorry I didn't get back to you. But this isn't going to work for me. I feel in my life I need to be around people who I think are in an emotionally good place and I feel that you are not with some of the choices you have made. I do wish you all the best though.



......wtf?? I'm not in an emotionally good place because I'm a camgirl!?!?!?

anyways I think this is so ridiculous and this isn't the first time I've either lost a friend or had them act weird and jealous towards me after I mention camming. I usually stay at home away from people and I think that's what I'm going to continue to do . People are fucked! Please share any similar stories !

I know I'm a bit late on this but it doesnt sound like she was a real friend to begin with.. I told my best friend (we have been friends for 15 years).. at first she was incredibly shocked.. she seemed somewhat disappointed but I understand she was just concerned and wanted to make sure i was safe and she was worried that maybe one day i might regret it.. once she got over the initial shock she now thinks its entertaining and will make little secret jokes with me like inside jokes and she loves hearing about my camming adventures... I love that girl, it's so nice to have someone to confide in and that accepts who you are... we always have each others back... and I agree with u people are fucktards ( I have social anxiety) I would much rather spend the whole month at home camming than have to deal with people face to face! I really do hope you can come across a TRUE friend that u can trust though honey

minniesoporno
08-26-2014, 12:43 AM
Ladies,

Has anyone ever successfully confided in another female friend about camming without a reprocussion? Because I swear every time I feel comfortable mentioning it to a friend they get jealous or turn into hating me. I've lost friends over this and at this point I feel like I need to keep everything completely hidden. Check this out for example. A friend of mine asked me about work, and this girl is very open with her sexuality, she has told me about how she can squirt and stuff so I told her. She seemed genuinely curious and asked me about earnings so I was honest with her. All of a sudden she stops replying to my texts. I texted her a few times and nothing.. I messaged her on FB too, nothing. Then I wake up today to this message in my email:

Sorry I didn't get back to you. But this isn't going to work for me. I feel in my life I need to be around people who I think are in an emotionally good place and I feel that you are not with some of the choices you have made. I do wish you all the best though.



......wtf?? I'm not in an emotionally good place because I'm a camgirl!?!?!?

anyways I think this is so ridiculous and this isn't the first time I've either lost a friend or had them act weird and jealous towards me after I mention camming. I usually stay at home away from people and I think that's what I'm going to continue to do . People are fucked! Please share any similar stories !

Hun she is an idiot, and she came up with most creative bull shit she could think of. Her problem with your work is just that your work. when I started out camming I was working at a phone company and every week they wanted to go out, so I went out with them. Then I was feeling happy and generous and decided to gave a friend some cash so she could find her way home and buy herself drinks, cause I was interested in taking a guy home. She got all mad at me and it turned into a huge fight. and the fight wasn't even about the fact I Wanted to take a guy home it was because every week we would go out and every week I was able to spend alot on drinks.

I have lost a lot of friends over the years of this work and I am not stopping it, but I am making sure people know up front what I do and if they don't like it they can stay in their miserable lives and miserable jobs.

between this work, being involved in the sex positive community and building a business selling sex toys i am expecting to lose a lot of friends. Now it boils down to which friends are there for the long haul and which ones are there for short term.

farrah_tinytot
08-26-2014, 06:57 AM
This must be why I only have friends in the industry....

While I've never had any big blowouts with friends who were around before I made my career choices, I have lost touch with most of them. I moved out of state and at first we kept in touch via the occasional phone call or Facebook message, but then I would just get their voicemail and eventually I gave up.

If anything, maybe consider thanking this girl; it was nice of her to be so upfront about what a shitty friend she is, instead of using you for money and rides or waiting until you REALLY needed her before she made her opinion so apparent. I really am sorry though; I know what it's like to put trust and faith into someone and to be let down. But as many others have said, this is a chance to weed out all of the fake frenemies and replace them with good people.

I can honestly say, at 25, that this is the first time in my life that I've had true friends. I am so lucky to be surrounded by wonderful people--and it's because they either know the job firsthand or, at the very least, I was already doing it before they met me so it's on the table before they dare to get close to me.

You don't need toxic, poisonous people in your life. Even if you have one friend who has your back no matter what, that's more priceless than a hundred shitty fake friends.

cam_girl40
08-26-2014, 07:34 AM
My friends and family know. Many of my friends are from my dancing days, and I got into camming from a couple of them doing it. Some not as close friends I just don't say anything. Most are pretty supportive and know me away from cam, so it's not a totally big deal. My sister (well, the one I do speak to) is pretty open minded and her and her SO don't judge. At first I was skiddish about telling my Dad, but what I can say is for over 70, my dad is pretty cool about it. I really don't go into detail, but Dad knows it's a means to an end and getting me through school. He's also been understanding the past few slow weeks on SM and has helped me out with some money issues which I'm forever grateful. My philosophy basically boils down to if you know me well enough, you know me as a person outside of any job. If you can't accept my decisions, then maybe you don't need to be a part of my life.

darlingdarling
08-26-2014, 01:17 PM
I've told two of my best friends. One decided to try it out and wanted me to walk her through it, and the other said "cool! get it girl!". She also has other friends that cam and previously escorted, so it's not really a big deal to her. I am very selective about my friends and only have a few, and the few I trust with my life definitely know.

But in general, if I confided in someone and they reacted like the OP's friend did, I would kick their judgmental ass to the curb, and go on living my fabulous life.
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Bernelle
08-27-2014, 07:38 AM
If they are TRUE friends, they should not judge you at all. They´ll understand.

Turns out people we think of as true friends, are not. I call them "toxic friends" and you should stay away from them.

TheBrownFox
08-27-2014, 08:15 AM
If they are TRUE friends, they should not judge you at all. They´ll understand.

Turns out people we think of as true friends, are not. I call them "toxic friends" and you should stay away from them.
This. I've been realizing that 2014 has truly been a year of revelation, because it's really sunk in to me who my true friends are, and who's only been around me for their own benefit.

temptingmodel
08-27-2014, 07:43 PM
I like when friends ask what I AM DOING, knowing goddamn well they fucking know what I do. Nothing is going to change. I did come up with a new answer

I WORK FOR THE GOVERNMENT, I BUILD ROADS, PLANT TREES, PUT FOOD IN HUNGRY CHILDREN MOUTHS THROUGH DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES, GIVE TO THE NEEDY, FEED INMATES.
When they ask how I got into this I say I am a camgirl and I pay taxes.

A girlfriend hit the floor loling when I answered someone who was just being a pest and I gave her this answer. I visited the day spa that pretty much told me to hit the road when they found out I was a camgirl. These people know what I do. They just want a different answer.

Recently I lost a supposed good friend when he found out I was in Miami doing more than camming. Good riddance, I don't see you financing me, pushing my cam. I have to take care of myself. If someone cant support me, I will be the one to throw the gasoline and make sure that bridge is burned. They can strike matches all day but when it backfires and I throw the gasoline, its pretty much over.

temptingmodel
08-27-2014, 07:46 PM
Bit lonely sometimes never having anyone to talk to about camming
thank god for the web and cyber friends...

SamanthaSugar
08-27-2014, 09:07 PM
Hmmm....maybe this is a sign having this post bumped. I live in a TownHouse and it's rather expensive, it's a bit of a struggle paying the rent each month but it's doable. I have a friend that I've known for years that needs a place. I really like her but I'm not sure how open minded she is. Since she'll be living here I need to tell her what I do, it will be kind of hard hiding it from her. Nobody knows what I do, they all think I'm an Executive Assistant that works out of my house part time. The extra $ would be so nice but I'm just so nervous about telling her, not sure I'll be able to go through with it. I'm also so used to working whenever I want. I also think I'll be to paranoid thinking that she'll come home when I'm working. Camming can be a tricky job. Did I mention how nice the extra $ will be lol?

TattooedBBW
08-28-2014, 07:24 AM
Hmmm....maybe this is a sign having this post bumped. I live in a TownHouse and it's rather expensive, it's a bit of a struggle paying the rent each month but it's doable. I have a friend that I've known for years that needs a place. I really like her but I'm not sure how open minded she is. Since she'll be living here I need to tell her what I do, it will be kind of hard hiding it from her. Nobody knows what I do, they all think I'm an Executive Assistant that works out of my house part time. The extra $ would be so nice but I'm just so nervous about telling her, not sure I'll be able to go through with it. I'm also so used to working whenever I want. I also think I'll be to paranoid thinking that she'll come home when I'm working. Camming can be a tricky job. Did I mention how nice the extra $ will be lol?

How much extra $ are we talking here? Id be worried I would end up losing money because id be nervous that she'd be coming home so id prob work less.

Issabelle
08-28-2014, 07:55 AM
^^ Gotta second what TattooedBBW said there. Even with a roomie who was cool with my job, I worked less because, bluntly, I was uncomfortable knowing she could hear me (we shared a wall and, honestly, some of the dirty talk I do--my specialty--is too embarrassing for others to hear). Add in that we were then splitting the internet (yay, bill splitting) and she constantly streamed NetFlix and the like, so my cam was constantly blurring out and all that nonsense. We stopped living together because we weren't a good match, but it was definitely harder with someone who knew what I did. I quit my vanilla job, which bumped my hours/income because it was during prime camming time about the same time as she moved out, but I know my earnings have gone up 2-3x in the last month and it wasn't all because of the extra prime time camming slot. I saved about $500-600 a month with a roomie, but I probably lost that much in income. Definitely a good time for a cost benefit analysis discussion with yourself.

Side tid-bit, if you do decide to let her move in, tell her about your job several weeks before you let her sign onto the lease. My roomie was cool with it at first, but by the end of the first month she was telling other co-workers about it and just random strangers in our (tiny) town. Plus, when she got pissed at me, she'd make crude jokes about my job to other people or try to throw my 'whoring' in my face. Just to give you a worst case scenario idea and play devil's advocate though.

SamanthaSugar
08-28-2014, 08:54 AM
Thanks girls for all your input. I would be saving about $1,000. My rent is $2,025 :(
Last night I told her that I just enjoy living alone and don't want anything to jeopardize our friendship, she seemed good with it. The last month or so has been a bit up and down as far as work goes but things are starting to pick up so Ill be fine :).
Us Cam girls are a resilient bunch :)
You all kick ass today!!!