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Raziel
11-08-2020, 05:10 AM
Long time ago I took one Girl out to shoot each other with Paintball Guns. I sucked it up and let her win, it was pretty panful. But she liked it, and that was all that mattered to me. There was a bunch of other dudes there, too.

I'm a pretty creative Guy with dates. She moved away, though.

Golden_Rule
11-14-2020, 04:47 PM
I'm still waiting until I get a good vanilla job and having the man who I see as marriage potential wait until marriage for sex. I've had more than my fair share of fun in bed (plus clients) but I'm getting old & want a man in it for the right reasons and that long term emotional connection SO much more. Putting a dick in a hole is not what I am searching for and men can/do lie to women just for the sex lol. He's gotta earn it. So many cheaters are out there.

Good luck with that [sincerely].

I know I will never wait till marriage to have full sexual congress with a potential mate. That is a ticking time bomb. First off, the compatibility issues. What if you are sexually incompatible? You are going to wait until you have a contract enforce to find that out? Second, how does s/he hold off? If her [for me], s/he for anyone else reading, can do without when you are at the point you are pining, what does that say about how they actually feel about you?

I wouldn't trust that.

Raziel
11-14-2020, 05:07 PM
I wouldn't either. If she wants to fuck me I'm game. I tend at least TRY to to be a Gentleman, but I have a great big thing for Women. So I don't always succeed. But I try.

Brandom39
12-24-2020, 07:32 AM
I think 3-4 dates will be normally

miss.a.p1600
12-24-2020, 08:21 AM
I wouldn't either. If she wants to fuck me I'm game. I tend at least TRY to to be a Gentleman, but I have a great big thing for Women. So I don't always succeed. But I try.

You slanging wood like that?!? }:D:O

Raziel
12-24-2020, 10:27 AM
Guess so.

Raziel
12-24-2020, 04:07 PM
BTW, I don't mean my Penis, I mean that I like Women very much.

I have a nice package, but other guys have ones way bigger than me. I think i'm about 7 1/2 or eight inches. At least fully erect, if I'm cold it's much smaller. LOL!

(I just caught on to what MissP said in her post.)

DonaDiabla
09-24-2021, 07:50 AM
I wanted to bump this and share my two cents. I have only had sex if it benefits me and fulfills my desires. It doesn't benefit me having sex after an certain amount of dates. So, there's no official timeframe but I tend to care more about the relationship if I wait past the 6 months mark. My body and my rules.

Uranusman
09-24-2021, 11:14 AM
I and my partner dated for 8 months before we had sex. This is a long-term relationship that has been going on for three years. I am comfortable with it.

jack0177057
09-27-2021, 09:31 AM
Before I got married - It depends on the person, the chemistry and the ultimate goal. If the girl was a party girl and we were just having fun, there was no reason to wait. Things would be very sexual from the getgo. There was no pretending that it was other than a sexual interest. But, if I really liked a girl and had more serious intentions, I would make her wait a few dates. I like to tease them a bit and make them wait until I'm ready.

DeathAndTaxes
09-29-2021, 08:01 PM
If you are a sexually charged individual, waiting may send the wrong message to your potential SO. You may end up with problems of him not wanting sex as much later on in the relationship, and feelings of sexual dissatisfaction which will lead to lots of hurt feelings and arguments.

When it comes to finding a life partner, it is always best to be yourself. So what if you hook up and the man isn't interested in anything more than sex? At least you had a fun night. If it wasn't fun enough for him to return for seconds (and thirds and fourths) then letting him go is for the best anyway.

Be true to yourself and your physical needs. STD tests are easy, condoms are cheap but a solid life partner is rare.

I mean this is the only logical answer, what is the point of waiting if the libidos don't match? having a higher drive it is obvious I don't want to be with someone if it becomes a chore for them

305gurl
09-29-2021, 08:23 PM
I only had one boyfriend in my adult life. Haven't had sex or go on dates since we separated.

So I guess 2-3 months of knowing each other and feeling comfortable with him.

jack0177057
09-30-2021, 08:52 AM
I only had one boyfriend in my adult life. Haven't had sex or go on dates since we separated.

So I guess 2-3 months of knowing each other and feeling comfortable with him.

A lot of guys with break up with you for "making them wait" that long, but, that's not a bad thing. It would actually eliminate the douche bags that were only interested in sleeping with you.

I think waiting a little is good. I would probably try desperately to seduce you by the third date, but, when you make a guy wait some, he values it more when it finally happens.

It also tells me that you have strong convictions and discipline, which makes me think you are less likely to cheat on me than other girls.

oldster
10-04-2021, 06:44 PM
It just doesn't matter

One of my dearest friends and I had sex within hours of first laying eyes on each other. Dated, FWB, etc for a number of years.

Other relationships took time and still blew up

Keep your head together and do what you please.

You have the power to say let's do this or not, but does not mean anymore than it means

Life is not about sex, but it does help fill the time....................