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smaddy
07-17-2014, 06:44 PM
I'm a tiny b cup but my bestfriend told me the last time she was measured she was a 38g (just like sam!) but then when she got pregnant they got bigger so she has no idea what size they are right now. She's fairly thin also. Anyway....she went out with her sister on her bachelorette party and was wearing a nice dress. Tight but not extremely tight. This girl walked over to her and said "Wow, can I bring you to show my husband?" she just snapped and told her something along the lines of that she's not a blowup barbie doll that you can command. But she gets that all the time. I nursed both my children and have never had a complaint about doing it in public... ever. However my friend with large boobs is constantly hounded out in public. She's not trying to bring attention to herself and just wants to be left alone, but yet people seem to assume that because she has big boobs shes a sex object even if she's breastfeeding her baby.
I wish I could explain how when you have *massively* big boobs people truly treat you differently. It is just something you really need to experience to truly appreciate.

aqua
07-17-2014, 10:19 PM
Camming made me like and respect men more, because the guys on there demonstrated that I'm worth paying huge amounts of money just to platonically chat with, clothes-on.

Quitting camming for a guy and then being trapped, penniless, and systematically abused for hours a day for two years is what made me bitter about men.

laurielegs
07-17-2014, 11:00 PM
Imagine you're drinking with a male friend, and you've had a couple too many. He undresses you, fondles your genitalia, or starts to perform oral sex on you. Your body responds though you push him away and ask him to stop. He continues to touch you, and says he thought you were flirting with him earlier. You've clearly stated that you don't consent. That's sexual assault. If you reverse the roles, and his dick responds to your hands or mouth while he's telling you no...that's still sexual assault. That's rape.

The BS stereotypes regarding sexuality and gender oppress men too. I imagine if a man were to come out and complain about his pretty friend giving him head, he'd be ridiculed. His identity as a heterosexual man would be questioned. You know what I mean?

Maybe I'm wrong, but I have a really hard time imagining this happens very often, if at all. What woman is strong enough to hold down a full grown man?

TheBrownFox
07-17-2014, 11:31 PM
Re: the pepper spray

Yup, I got a pink container of pepper spray that I now keep in my right hand when I'm out at night for the exact reason that Lacey gave...it does you no good if it's in your purse, and you gotta dig around for it. Lol.

Men are cool to hang out with, I agree. As far as romantically/relationship-wise though...it's just really hard to trust them. I don't like being bullshitted and lied to. I would actually respect a guy more for being honest with me and saying "I just want a fuck buddy, and that's it..." as opposed to wasting my time and pretending to care about me just cuz you're trying to get your dick sucked. Guys spend so much time bullshitting women and lying through their teeth. I swear, I seem to attract the good-looking guys who are liars and not boyfriend material. Lol. It amazes me how easy it is for them to go from female to female like it's no big deal...while an emotional, sentimental female like myself still has that one guy on the brain and is blasting Alanis Morissette thinking about him. Lmao.

Incantatious
07-18-2014, 12:48 AM
I didn't hate men before and I don't hate them now.

Camming has simply opened me up to fetish diversity; the vast majority of my clients have come across as nothing less than nice and respectable people.

justanothercamgirl
07-18-2014, 06:00 AM
Maybe I'm wrong, but I have a really hard time imagining this happens very often, if at all. What woman is strong enough to hold down a full grown man?

I can't tell you how often it happens but I can tell you I actually know a man who has been raped.

He said the reasons he didn't do anything were:

1) It happened so fast
2) He didn't want to push or shove the girl because he was taught to never put his hands on a women. He was mortified to hurt her in any way and get in trouble for doing so.

Edited to add: I should also say that this happened first thing in the morning after a party when he woke up with morning wood.

anonymous camgirl
07-18-2014, 07:58 AM
WOW.. I could imagine how that one could happen.. definately


I can't tell you how often it happens but I can tell you I actually know a man who has been raped.

He said the reasons he didn't do anything were:

1) It happened so fast
2) He didn't want to push or shove the girl because he was taught to never put his hands on a women. He was mortified to hurt her in any way and get in trouble for doing so.

Edited to add: I should also say that this happened first thing in the morning after a party when he woke up with morning wood.

audritwo
07-18-2014, 10:01 AM
I never hated the male gender. I just don't like most people, whatever their genitals or gender identity be.


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Issabelle
07-18-2014, 10:51 AM
A male friend once confided in me that after breaking up with a girl that we've all universally agreed is crazy (she still comes into the bar he works at and we're under strict rules from the management to report her so she can be escorted out for causing too many scenes) tried to 'win him back' by basically assaulting him in public while she was drunk. He said he ended up pushed against the wall in one of the clubs with her groping at him and shoving her hands down his pants to give him a hand job. In public. He got her off him finally, but didn't want to hurt her or have her turn it around as him assaulting her so kept it quiet. I'd be beating the shit out of some dude--ex or not--if he shoved me against the wall and started fingering me at a club. Assault totally happens regardless of gender, but you ladies hit the nail on the head--dudes aren't supposed to talk about it or get offended. Terrible double standard for them.

anonymous camgirl
07-18-2014, 11:25 AM
People are SO annoying.. men and women..LOL.. I never realized how annoying they were til my eyes were wide open and I stopped giving and people pleasing.

I never hated the male gender. I just don't like most people, whatever their genitals or gender identity be.


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seicento
07-18-2014, 12:49 PM
I thought that camming made me hate men.After reading all this thread and thinking in depth I concluded that I don`t hate them I dislike them.I have male friends and I get along very well with them.Irl I hate those who will ask for sex too soon.It is not everything about sex in life,there are other things ,more important.I have enough sex online lol so if I talk to a guy 2x and then he ll say something about having sex I am turned off and I lose my interest.Bcs that will make him look like the guys I get in my chat.I dislike men I get in my chat.Especially free chat idiots.I will never like them or trust them.

VioletOctober
07-18-2014, 01:16 PM
It's definitely made me frustrated with men as a *whole*, but it's also taught me to understand them and read them individually. (Brothel work and dancing has also helped with that.)

DonaDiabla
07-19-2014, 04:29 PM
This thread is awesome :) No, my view on men has not change since being a sex worker. I do not hate them nor dislike them. In real life, men have complain that I had a nonchalant attitude with them. Or that I behaved either a money draining vampire or a pray mantis.However, special gentlemen have enjoy my loyal friendship and lovely ways. I make sure men know that I am the alpha bitch :) LOL! I will not put up with men's crap both in real life and online. I have fun with my clients for the most part because I do not take them seriously.I play my role as an erotic artist. I am nonchalant about men and their sexual behaviors overall :) Plus how they feel about sex is how I feel about money. It works out for me as a sex worker :) I treated this job as a fun business where I entertain men. Nothing more or else. However, I will not ever put up with their whining, bitching, complaining, nor other non desirable things.

Glamourmilf
08-15-2014, 08:33 AM
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AvaLove
08-15-2014, 06:41 PM
After working on niteflirt and getting alot requests to pretend I am under 18, dress as a schoolGIRL, pretend I am someone's daughter,ect., yes it has changed my view of men.

Yuli
08-15-2014, 06:55 PM
The idea that how you act determines how much you're going to get sexually harassed is some victim-blaming horseshit. Like, I get it, I'd like to believe I had such power over the universe that if I just think nice things and wear the right shirt then nothing bad will happen to me, but it isn't true.

That said, when I had a Real Jobtm, in a male-dominated field--I had my trainees promoted over my head, was treated like a mascot or a joke or your mommy, had to be twice as good to be considered adequate, had my every flaw taken as confirmation that women were no good, was never allowed to express anger or frustration without LOL PERIOD WOMEN GIRL LOL CRAY CRAY AMIRITE JUST LIKE MY EX LOL, constantly had to deal with men who would have refused to breathe if a woman told them they should do it... Camming's been a fucking relief, really, most of these men just want to come.

Jassi
08-17-2014, 09:58 PM
MOST (not all though LOL) of the guys I'm met webcamming are nice and sweet. Some have made me feel really sexy and special--maybe better than some of the guys I've dated.

I still don't hate men--just don't friggen understand them some days agh

My cam custies mostly are cool still--maybe one day in the real world I'll find a guy that is right for me...a gal can dream LOL

:D

SophiaSylvan
08-18-2014, 07:58 PM
I don't exactly have small breasts, and I have an above average waist-hip ratio as an hourglass shape, but what I do is wear higher cut clothing and look more conservative, more black, and it almost completely stops. It makes a world of difference when I have blonde hair wearing a low cut shirt and yoga pants (tight or revealing clothing), versus having dark hair with a turtleneck and a high waisted skirt (less revealing and not as tight). I've done both. WORLDS of difference in how people treat me, both men and women.

There's a reason why majority of strippers end up getting large implants and dying their hair blonde. Its seen as sexual, so you attract sexually aggressive men (which is good in a strip club or adult $$$$ setting).

I've even had friends notice the drastic difference in how people treat me with dark hair vs light hair and dress styles. Whatever is in the media as sexual, if you go against that, you attract less sexually aggressive men.

I find it is affected a lot more by what area I'm living in than anything. I was in a city, not the best area, very multicultural and if I had to run errands I got probably 5-10 comments in the streets. I'd be dressed up going to clubs and get it more but I'd get it looking greasy and in baggy clothing too. My friend put it "you have a pussy and he knows it!" Often it's not about how you look it's about a guy thinking he can maybe get some pussy. Since I moved deep in the country and I just drive now and I almost never get hit on even when I go into town for shopping/errands. When I go into the city now it's always with my husband so I don't get bothered.