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Sonikku
09-08-2014, 08:47 AM
I get what you mean Alice. I've been thinking/feeling the opposite about token sites though. I see girls there that maybe show topless only, if even that, and make crazy money just being "cute" and friendly in chat on MFC. Nothing too sexual. I saw a girl that accepted tips to change her panties. Stuff like that, that's innocent and softcore. I would love to do that. I don't think I really fit the look though. Might have the face, but one thing I really don't like about myself is my big boobs and butt. Just another part of me that people notice first too often and it irritates me. Hopefully continuing my weightloss journey will slim down these problem areas for me.

And I don't think it's a problem being sexual in paid chat. That probably just means that you see this as strictly business? A way to make money. I mean, I was kind of like that too last year, but now I just feel burnt out haha. I love money, and being sexy occasionally, but I have many limits as to what I'm willing to do now.

AliceFun
09-08-2014, 10:10 AM
Yes sonikku, u right about the girls getting big tips for being cute, sorry i forgot to mention i dont have the look & age they have, i am 39 & curvy. I am a classy MILF looking woman, i cater to some fetishes & work the milf niche. Yes for me camming is business plus i like to be sexy, interact with people, please people, etc, my problem is when these guys try to take advantage of my time online or expect things from me without contributing financially.

I sometimes tell people: "the fact that i am here online looking sexy for u and wearing the things u like is a result of people paying for my services, how do u expect me to be able to be online, have high tech equipment, fast internet, fancy clothes & accessories that u like soo much, look good and put together, clean and groomed, etc if u dont pay me for my services? Without ur contribution i cant be here on cam for u so u can look at me, right?"; many are not even aware of these facts, dont know what they think about us there but obviously they miss the point.
The ones who really know how things really are simply tribute and pay us for our services or dont bother us if they know they cant afford us. The problem is, we have limited tools of how to control this situation, there will always be people trying to take advantages of us online.

Sonikku
09-08-2014, 10:21 AM
Yeah, most guys don't realize that at all. I was just thinking about that last night. Yeah, they think we just do this purely for fun or because we're bored and don't realize their contributions help keep us looking our best, paying our bills, and keeping that roof over our heads so we can continue to entertain them.

One thing I'd like to mention, which had been a problem earlier this year when I was able to cam, is that there are plenty of guys that are way too demanding.
I'm pregnant, and some guy was wanting to go into private chat with me and was requesting penetration... even though I clearly stated in my profile, in text chat, room topic, and with my OWN VOICE that I don't do penetration. He tried making me feel bad about myself, wouldn't even leave my room. Just insisted on telling me that he's fucked plenty of pregnant girls. And I'm just like... really?
I had my reasons for not wanting to do it, yet, he still wants to make me feel like a terrible person for not doing it for money lol.
They don't respect boundaries... it's annoying. Just because you have money doesn't mean I'm going to do whatever you want me to. ~_~

I guess that'd be something I'd have to deal with going back into this line of work... Not saying I'm going to be 100% non-nude, but there will definitely be no extreme sexual acts.

It's been like... 7 months since I've been on cam last. I gotta get used to all this stuff all over again!

anonymous camgirl
09-08-2014, 11:08 AM
People take advantage of you in any industry though.. but it's kinda different in this one because of the gender aspect and men constantly thinking they can pull the wool over a woman's eyes to get what he wants.


Yes sonikku, u right about the girls getting big tips for being cute, sorry i forgot to mention i dont have the look & age they have, i am 39 & curvy. I am a classy MILF looking woman, i cater to some fetishes & work the milf niche. Yes for me camming is business plus i like to be sexy, interact with people, please people, etc, my problem is when these guys try to take advantage of my time online or expect things from me without contributing financially.

I sometimes tell people: "the fact that i am here online looking sexy for u and wearing the things u like is a result of people paying for my services, how do u expect me to be able to be online, have high tech equipment, fast internet, fancy clothes & accessories that u like soo much, look good and put together, clean and groomed, etc if u dont pay me for my services? Without ur contribution i cant be here on cam for u so u can look at me, right?"; many are not even aware of these facts, dont know what they think about us there but obviously they miss the point.
The ones who really know how things really are simply tribute and pay us for our services or dont bother us if they know they cant afford us. The problem is, we have limited tools of how to control this situation, there will always be people trying to take advantages of us online.

anonymous camgirl
09-08-2014, 11:12 AM
Speaking of which, everytime I am not 100% I get treated like shit by these guys.. the last time I Had a shoulder injury and I had a lot of bad ratings and reviews because I couldn't do a lot of things.. they are fucking assholes.. no heart , don't care...


Yeah, most guys don't realize that at all. I was just thinking about that last night. Yeah, they think we just do this purely for fun or because we're bored and don't realize their contributions help keep us looking our best, paying our bills, and keeping that roof over our heads so we can continue to entertain them.

One thing I'd like to mention, which had been a problem earlier this year when I was able to cam, is that there are plenty of guys that are way too demanding.
I'm pregnant, and some guy was wanting to go into private chat with me and was requesting penetration... even though I clearly stated in my profile, in text chat, room topic, and with my OWN VOICE that I don't do penetration. He tried making me feel bad about myself, wouldn't even leave my room. Just insisted on telling me that he's fucked plenty of pregnant girls. And I'm just like... really?
I had my reasons for not wanting to do it, yet, he still wants to make me feel like a terrible person for not doing it for money lol.
They don't respect boundaries... it's annoying. Just because you have money doesn't mean I'm going to do whatever you want me to. ~_~

I guess that'd be something I'd have to deal with going back into this line of work... Not saying I'm going to be 100% non-nude, but there will definitely be no extreme sexual acts.

It's been like... 7 months since I've been on cam last. I gotta get used to all this stuff all over again!

Sonikku
09-08-2014, 11:23 AM
Speaking of which, everytime I am not 100% I get treated like shit by these guys.. the last time I Had a shoulder injury and I had a lot of bad ratings and reviews because I couldn't do a lot of things.. they are fucking assholes.. no heart , don't care...

Really??
That's so rude... I guess I'm fortunate that this is one of only two guys that were disrespectful to me. Everyone else is actually too nice, but they don't want to pay at the same time lol

anonymous camgirl
09-08-2014, 11:25 AM
^^ Yea one even gave me a review saying performance sucks, wastes money and he KNEW I had a fucked up shoulder.. it took over 12 weeks for it to heal up to the point I could do my job fully.

AliceFun
09-08-2014, 12:42 PM
^^^ Yes love, that's soo true, they have no feelings or care towards us therefore we better treat them the same way, money machines, it's all business, right? By the way, i remember i had pushy members in the past trying to make me do things against my will, i simply disconnected them from paid chat, no big deal, i dont care about ur money if u make me feel bad.

I demand respect & consideration in my room. I agree with people taking advantage in other fields too but then it will be a personal interaction face to face, u have other tools to protect urself, not like on the internet where u cant do a thing (i wish i could reach some of these people and kick them in the balls haha) BUT on the other side in real life/ vanilla jobs u cant kick/ban an annoying colleague or boss, here u can :P

When i think of nasty ex bosses & colleagues i am happy i dont have to deal with them in person & see their faces all the time at work. Haters are the worst, ass kissers i hate the most, incompetent bosses are a pain in the ass too, i had my big portion of these in vanilla jobs, dont miss them lol.
So every field with it's advantages & disadvantages.

Marina Starr
01-28-2015, 01:26 PM
I am celibate until further notice and love it. It's funny how a lot of people don't believe you when you say you're celibate. I've come to the conclusion that if people find you sexually appealing, they just assume that you are promiscuous.
http://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t94/tsmelania/Jennifer-Lawrence-Doesnt-Care-About-Some-Things_zpsa61f0290.gif (http://s158.photobucket.com/user/tsmelania/media/Jennifer-Lawrence-Doesnt-Care-About-Some-Things_zpsa61f0290.gif.html)

anonymous camgirl
01-28-2015, 01:57 PM
I have been celibate for almost 4 yrs.. and I LOVE IT!!.. this is the best part of my life when I said NO to sex and just dating in general..LOL.. these last 4 yrs have been my best years so far... and the self worth.. You just totally feel you are WORTH so much.. way more than if you engage in sex.. I have NO interest in breaking my celibacy.. I actually think if I am dating and he wants sex.. I can get him a pussy mold of my vagina til I get that RING!...lol

Marina Starr
01-28-2015, 02:31 PM
Giiiiiiiiiiirl! So you watch Pastor Joel Osteen and Oprah Soul Sunday AND you're celibate???!!! I thought I was the only weirdo here! Me loves it!
http://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t94/tsmelania/iuzxz_zps795a7d61.gif (http://s158.photobucket.com/user/tsmelania/media/iuzxz_zps795a7d61.gif.html)

I have been celibate for almost 4 yrs.. and I LOVE IT!!.. this is the best part of my life when I said NO to sex and just dating in general..LOL.. these last 4 yrs have been my best years so far... and the self worth.. You just totally feel you are WORTH so much.. way more than if you engage in sex.. I have NO interest in breaking my celibacy.. I actually think if I am dating and he wants sex.. I can get him a pussy mold of my vagina til I get that RING!...lol

BabyBat
01-28-2015, 02:43 PM
wow... I really wanna pick ur mind now... I've been intrigued by the term asexual as I just learned about it for the first time a few months ago... I am a mesexual because I'm very sexually attracted to myself and my parts... love seeing myself in the deed and camming is really my dream come true!!!! so do u have no sexual desire or just a lower desire??
Me-sexual is EXACTLY how I'd describe myself too. I love watching myself, looking at myself, touching myself, ect.
I like men, women, girl-boys, boy-girls, I don't care. When it comes down to it, as long as they desire me, no matter what parts they have I'm super into it. It's narcissism at it's finest. XD

anonymous camgirl
01-28-2015, 02:58 PM
I think just being a camgirl or a stripper or even an escort maybe?? you become way more narcissistic.. cuz you kinda have to!.. You have to convince men you are the best and shit chocolate covered strawberries.. and then you just start talking narcissistically all the time.. Cuz I AM WORTH IT!..Enjole!...lol


Me-sexual is EXACTLY how I'd describe myself too. I love watching myself, looking at myself, touching myself, ect.
I like men, women, girl-boys, boy-girls, I don't care. When it comes down to it, as long as they desire me, no matter what parts they have I'm super into it. It's narcissism at it's finest. XD

anonymous camgirl
01-28-2015, 02:59 PM
Yep and I don't hide it!.. I am a serious weirdo..lol


Giiiiiiiiiiirl! So you watch Pastor Joel Osteen and Oprah Soul Sunday AND you're celibate???!!! I thought I was the only weirdo here! Me loves it!
http://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t94/tsmelania/iuzxz_zps795a7d61.gif (http://s158.photobucket.com/user/tsmelania/media/iuzxz_zps795a7d61.gif.html)

Morrigan
01-28-2015, 03:21 PM
I guess the " closest " you can get with me is Demi-Pan " but with the added twist that the " physical aspects act itself" has zero meaning and feels more like a chore ( I really dont feel much physically, possibly a mental disconnect) so I thrive on the mental emotional side of it - which I suppose is where alot of the demi still is at play.

koryncutie
05-04-2016, 08:11 AM
I am asexual as well. Sucks more for my fiance, makes me worried that one day he won't be able to put up with my nonexistent need for sex....

hyori
05-04-2016, 08:24 AM
Cam was turning me into an asexual.

I no longer want to profit from my own authentic sexuality. Instead, I'd rather profit from a sexuality that doesn't really belong to me. It helps compartmentalize my psyche and keep my own sexuality in a respectful spiritual and sacred space. Basically, I'd rather be a very good actress rather than exploit my true, genuine sexual spirit. In my mind, it's just better that way for my marriage and my future as a camgirl.

KatM
05-04-2016, 12:06 PM
^^^ Same here, my true sexuality has nothing to do with my performance on cam, they are two different things, i cam for money & i treat it like a job and my true sexuality is something i keep for myself, i am single now but if i was in a relationship i know only with him i'll be authentic.
Men on cam do not deserve my true self lol, i got to understand this after a while camming ;)

Mare
05-04-2016, 01:21 PM
I'm not sure what I am. I lost my libido. I could care less. Sure, if I play with it sometimes it goes off. But only because I'm on cam getting paid to play with it. But I could go months. It seems to me I'm good for 3 years in a relationship and then it's just boring. I'd rather do more gratifying things like wash my hair. It's really pretty sad. My husband has said he feels deceived. It was all hot and horny for 3 years and then the well ran dry. Well, it's boring eating the same food every day. Plus I'm getting old.

charlie61
05-04-2016, 02:42 PM
Lots of people confuse asexuality with having a low libido or having a loss of libido / interest in sex due to life circumstances / medications / trauma, etc. Your sexual orientation is more about how you experience sexual desire over significant periods of time.

More information:

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexuality
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=General_FAQ

anonymous camgirl
05-05-2016, 09:31 AM
Well I never cared even when I did have a libido..


Lots of people confuse asexuality with having a low libido or having a loss of libido / interest in sex due to life circumstances / medications / trauma, etc. Your sexual orientation is more about how you experience sexual desire over significant periods of time.

More information:

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexuality
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=General_FAQ

SylvySinclair
05-05-2016, 11:55 AM
I love sex but i dont think about it all the time. The interesting part is that i like sex with different men, the same one gets me bored and i just dont think abt sex anymore after some time in the relationship. My hubby sometimes complain we dont have sex a lot, ok, we have a 11 month baby which makes it really hard to have a moment for ourselves, but the truth is, the more time i stay with one guy, the more uninterested i am in sex. Although i think abt sex with other. lol go figure. Oh ad its not about loving or not him, i love him to death, is just that it gets boring after some time. When we do have sex though, i like it and i cum, so im not sure whats wrong with me. hehe

charlie61
05-05-2016, 03:35 PM
Well I never cared even when I did have a libido..

Exactly. That's asexuality, as you know! (to clarify, I'm asexual, too, and I wasn't directing my post at you, AC!)

miss.a.p1600
05-05-2016, 05:01 PM
I've been celibate for about 4 years and rarely crave sex - maybe couple times a month I desire it but it's just the male closeness and not the sex.

I don't know. Maybe I am asexual.

KatM
05-05-2016, 07:20 PM
I've been celibate for about 4 years and rarely crave sex - maybe couple times a month I desire it but it's just the male closeness and not the sex.

I don't know. Maybe I am asexual.

That's what i desire too, a good hot man in my arms not the sex itself, i rarely feel horny, maybe if i got excited by touching myself in a show or watching some erotic scenes on tv or so.
Watching Hardcore porn gets me off tho if i really need an orgasm but in rest i dont really 'need' sex.
Funny to work in the industry and be this 'cool' regarding sex ;)

missmercedes
05-05-2016, 07:39 PM
This thread is so interesting, it's cool to see every1s different experiences with and take on their sexuality. I personally cannot imagine being asexual, I've been super into sex and been boycrazy since I was jus a kid. Actually girl crazy too , i remember having the hugest crush on britney spears. I used to bribe my male friends to tongue kiss me by saying I would give them a toy or something, lol :devil: I definitely had a porn addiction as a young teen and had a period of time where I engaged in a lot of risky behaviors. Sometimes i would masturbate in the bathrooms at my university if i was too horny to stand it. Luckily I eventually met my Bf who is my perfect match in bed and since we've been together I feel my sex drive is a lot more manageable, I'm not constantly horny anymore and I'm fine going a. day or two without sex. I don't even really feel the urge to fantasize about others anymore, something that was so unthinkable in the past. Having a consistent partner i actually like fucking + being constantly sexualized on cam have combined to lower my libido a lot..im glad because i dont need to masturbate multiple times a day or even once a day anymore, lol shit is so time consuming.

anoncamgirl
05-06-2016, 03:08 AM
I really like sex. :) I also am bi sexual, so the more sex the merrier!