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space_cowgirl
08-30-2014, 09:01 PM
Guys. On. Camsites. Lie.

Aniela
08-30-2014, 09:21 PM
Haven't even read thru all the replies, but, 1) 'for a stripper' that comment was uncalled for. Considering that strippers interact fully in-person w/ customers, w/o benefit of the barrier of a computer screen, we are in just as good a place as any of the camgirls to tell you abt predator tactics, & predator slickness.

That out of the way, my main point: Thought of this as I read your opening post. Djoser's got 15yrs exp in this business, if you want to question his qualifications.

Predators can be brilliantly slick when they are trying to pick up targets. Rethink this, if you haven't already. If he is really legit, he will jump thru the hoops of time & vetting to prove himself.

IvyRose
08-30-2014, 10:22 PM
Didnt read all of the thread but obviously you are not taking in any of the well ment and well thought through advice given to you.
It is clear you are young; you still have to learn the hard way how guys/men are.
Even in a relationship with someone (seeying each other every day) you learn new things about that person after 2 years! You NEVER KNOW someone completely, it is not possible for you to know after such an brief encounter if that guy is who you think he is. He can be ANYBODY, and offcourse he seems nice and is kind, people can keep up with faking shit FOR YEARS, and he only talked with that guy for a moment.

Did you ever met people before who you only spoke to on the internet? I have dated some guys from internet NOT THROUGH MY WORK offcourse and they are always very very veyr different in real life than online. Most of the times it is very awkward because you will have to build up a whole new emotional-raport with him since it is that differnet to talk to someone in real life.
ALSO take in mind YOU are very different online than in real life.
What do you think that guy expects from you? You think he will give you that vacation for free?
You think he will let you swim and pay ALL OF YOUR COST without anything in return

Even in a relationship of some months I would be hestitating to go on vacation with someone: You are trapped there, nowhere to go, or can you leave at any given moment and buy youreself a ticket back? People are not what they seem to be at first sight, but maybe you have to learn that the hard way.

I hope you will come back healthy and without harm, you are making a big mistake though

ALSO take in consideration what you are doing in not legal! You are not supposed to meet people from your work which is not allowed

IvyRose
08-30-2014, 10:29 PM
There are many people writing to you.. because what you are about to do is dangerous and we want to protect you from making a big mistake

Maybe instead of asking what to do, you could have better asked how you can protect youreself since you are taking the bait no matter what we say to you

Let people know you are going, let them know where you are and when you will return.
Let them check up to you on your phone to see is everything is still ok
Send family/friends, woever you contact about going info of him although this will prob be a fake name.. send them a PICTURE of his face, take a screenshot of him in pvt/excl
... Maybe someone else has more advice...
Although this will stilll not protect you if he does you any harm, but they will know if you dont come back and can search for you. Good luck

IvyRose
08-30-2014, 10:38 PM
You should also know that you probably arent the only one he has been talking too, asking if you want to go with him on vacation.... Do you really think this is all about you? That guy is prob testing out a lot of girls seeying who will be naive enough to take his bait.

SarahTime
08-30-2014, 11:26 PM
It should be incredibly obvious the answer here is a big fat NO NO NO. You've already had a lot of really good reasons for that so I won't repeat them all.

The one thing that stood out to me as a BIG RED FLAG, that I don't think anyone mentioned yet, is the fact that he told you he won't be returning to the cam site - translation: he doesn't want to spend any more money than he already has talking to you!!! Yet... He wants to spend thousands to fly you to him? Nope. Not happening. I get this kind of thing a lot, and the guys always turn out to be scammers attempting to get more from me or psychos that flip out when I refuse to communicate with them outside my $10/min exclusive chat.

I get that you don't want to miss out on some potential fairy tale happy ending, maybe you want a way out of your life, that's what it sounds like to me since you are even taking this like something you should consider, but really... it's not worth it. At all. Look for your Prince Charming elsewhere.

secretwebcamchick
08-31-2014, 01:50 AM
maybe you should have posted this in a escort forum instead of here because honestly thats really not cam girl behavior ... sounds like an escort advertising through her webcam... just sayin i have had plenty of hot guys (sure we all have) wanting to meet me off sites... you know how many i've met...... ZERO.

space_cowgirl
08-31-2014, 11:45 AM
Seriously. This kind of guy is just going to ask you for free Skype shows because you're soooooo great and he just wants to talk.
Fuck that. Make your own money if you want to go on a trip.

Bambola
08-31-2014, 12:38 PM
Years ago i was in one pay cam site with fix salary and i meet a costumer he spend money in me like every day and he told me he was a rich lawyer and i believe because he spend so much money,well i was in a really bad situation and i was meet him in my city and he was a fucking crazy guy,after it was impossible he get out of my life he was fucking obsesed with me and u know what he not lawyer he only is a fucking crazy guy with a salary of 1000 usd per month trying to have sex with me liying about everything

Was a very very very bad experiencie i dont recomended anybody meet with somebody from the webcam,i was young and i was do it that but i never in my life would trave so far for meet a stranger how spend 3 privates with u?He not rich for sure !
I have costumers now in exclusive every week they spend so much money in my and some of this costumers want meet me and i say NO its a fucking stupid thing,if u want meet a guy,do it outside the wecbam,because he can be a murder,crazy,rapist!
but what is sure is a guy who can not get a girl outside the webcam¿¿¿¿ this is something for consider about his own personality.....if he is what u say why he dont have girlfriend?And why have to meet a girl from the webcam¿? You know him since one week omg....so why you are consediring this for sure he tell the same to all the webcam girls he spoke...

TheBrownFox
08-31-2014, 08:06 PM
I have no idea what "This seems to be my train" means, but I agree with the other ladies that this is a terrible, terrible idea. You have no idea how many "nice guys" you will come across on these cam sites who will tell you/offer you things that seem too good to be true. A few years ago when I was stupid enough to give good-spending, "trustworthy" guys on MFC my real phone number, I mentioned that I'd be in New York and staying in a hotel room. This one regular offered to have flowers sent to my hotel room, and thank God I declined. That's the same guy who, sometime after that, went psycho on me and started harassing me...wanna know why? Just because I didn't call him first thing in the morning on his birthday. Smh. I had to block his number from my cell phone.

When a guy offers to buy a cam girl a travel ticket and reserve a hotel room, he not only will learn her personal information, but he will know the exact location of where she'll be on that specific day. Room number and everything. Also, he will most likely feel like you OWE him...since he's spent all this money on you. A lot of the guys on these sites act like just because they've spent money on you, that they're entitled to the moon, the stars, and the sun for the rest of your camming career. Lol. They love to be able to throw stuff in your face later. "I spent x dollars for you to blah, blah, blah, and I can't even get a ______?"

kortneykay
08-31-2014, 08:56 PM
When I was in college I was staying in a townhouse with my best friend for a few years and wanted new surroundings. For some reason I decided I'd venture out on my own and I trusted guys a bit more because I actually snagged a sugar daddy from a camsite who indeed sent me big lump sums of cash when he said he would without question. I had a bit more faith in men but I was still naive.

Craigslist was really popular at this time and I decided to answer an ad from a guy who owned a few penthouses. He was a generous artist who traveled a lot and was looking for a permanent house resident to watch the penthouses while he traveled back to Italy, etc. He even offered me a job as his assistant to answer calls while he was away and it was only about an hour away from where I lived at the time. After a month of emails and phone calls (we discussed boundaries and he seemed 100% legit) I packed my shit, hugged my bestie and moved to his penthouse.

He indeed checked out and the penthouse and room were everything he said it would be. I unpacked and settled in and that first night he called me into his bedroom and tried to fuck me. I was clearly not having that and he didn't like it so he told me I either fuck him or move out. I was not only hurt, I literally had ended my lease with my best friend and had nowhere else to go. I told him I would sue him as I had proof of the agreement on paper, signed documents, etc and had his CL listing printed out and he stumbled to try and offer me the 2nd penthouse in the same building. I checked that out but I didn't trust him anymore and I certainly didn't feel comfortable owing this loser anything. I left so fast I ended up leaving my brand new victoria's secret undies in the drawer, lol. Moral of the story, have your own shit ALWAYS and never trust these fools. If it sounds too good to be true, it is. Work hard and build your own wealth so you can take your own self on vacation and pay your own bills. Good luck!

SimoneGray
09-01-2014, 02:52 AM
I have been bought so many plane tickets in the short time that I have been camming, as well as had hotel reservations etc made. Have I ever gone? No, because firstly, I lie about my location too on cam, so the ticket is always invariably boarding from the wrong place, and secondly, too many human traffickers and other shady people operate on cam.

I do GFE, which is a niche that puts me in very close contact with my custies. They tell me everything, and I pretend to do the same. Sometimes we even exchange Twitter DM's on my camgirl twitter account.

The point that I am trying to make here is that as someone who spends the majority of her life pretending to be someone else on cam, I can guarantee you that 90% of those dudes are fake as hell as well. For every lie you tell to protect yourself and your identity, they have 3 more, to try and get you to open up and trust them, for whatever reason.

I cancel all the plane tickets and make up excuses as to why the hotel thing won't work, because I'd like to be around for as long as I am meant to be, and not encounter some tragic circumstance.

I understand the allure of an offer like this though, when I was new and got my first plane ticket, I spent hours obsessing over whether or not I should go, because I was so shocked and pleased that some guy would fork out a lot of money for me to come see him. You are worth more than than hotel room and ticket, trust me on this and stay safe. As you progress you will see that there are sadly people out there who prey on camgirls because they think we are stupid, vulnerable and desperate. Don't do this to yourself, its not worth it.

whirlerz
09-01-2014, 08:35 AM
Well, there's some GREAT advice on here..but no word from the OP..>:(

laurielegs
09-01-2014, 10:17 AM
I’ve been chatting with a 35 yo guy since about one week. I took me in pvt 4 times, 20 minutes each, but never asked for a show, just want to share something in private.


I love to chat with him, he really know how to tease me! Once I asked him to make a cam2cam and he agreed immediately, he seems to be also really a nice guy


Yesterday he asked me to do a crazy thing, he want to buy for me a travel to the Maldives, my ticket, my room… Next week! Next week!


He told me that in any case, he would not get back to me once more on the cam website, indeed today he doesn’t come as usual to wish me a good day; but he left me his email address.

So he stopped paying you and gave you an email instead?

My guess is that he is actually broke and trying to get your home address so he can stalk you.

Let us know if he even ever spends another dime on you. I hope you didn't already give him personal info.

SweetJulia
09-01-2014, 01:18 PM
OP-I'd rather you consider me a passive aggressive cunt cake and stay home than not give advice on this matter. Just like you aren't who you pretend to be on cam, he isn't. He literally told you he won't spend any money on you AT YOUR JOB but has thousands to blow on a plane ticket. He may be very delusional and feel he's earned your love, thus the plane ticket will be worth it. This is the best case scenario. The worse case scenario is he's crazy, a sex trafficker, or a serial killer. It's a lose-lose situation if you meet him. Please, just ignore him, report him to your site-as sharing outside contact info. is against the rules, and focus your energy on guys who understand this is an online-only thing. One of the best things about camming is being safe at home and not being physically in the presence of danger. Yes, I know guys can still track you down online. Take precautions and, for fucks' sake, don't deliver yourself into the hands of a potential killer like some kind of mail order pussy pizza.

Rosemary Rabbit
09-01-2014, 01:35 PM
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TransdimensionalPrincess
09-01-2014, 01:53 PM
Isn't the Maldives super bad news for sex trafficking? Like...I read that and went, "NONONONONONONNNNNNNOOOOO".
So...
Maldives! Yes
All alone? YES
No control over finances 'cause it's all getting paid for? Yeppers!

Hm. Why not just chat with him over personal email if you're really into him? Surely this would make him happy as you two got to know each other a little better? I'm curious as to what his reaction would be if you offered this.

Human Trafficking in Maldives is so bad it has its own wiki page -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking_in_the_Maldives

SweetJulia
09-01-2014, 02:03 PM
Oh, and Op-if you want to see him show his real colors, ignore a few messages. I'm pretty sure those that follow will become more aggressive and angry. Also, correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought SM didn't allow residents of that country to buy gold because of high fraud issues. So, he wants to meet you in a country neither of you live in notorious for sex trafficking?

space_cowgirl
09-01-2014, 03:28 PM
OP- can you let us know what happened?

whirlerz
09-01-2014, 03:30 PM
OP- can you let us know what happened?

Yea. Would be nice, to say the least.

SweetJulia
09-01-2014, 03:40 PM
I hope for her sake, if she goes, he's just cheap and weird. I've seen too many crime shows to ever chance it.

Procrasturbator
09-01-2014, 04:43 PM
Human Trafficking in Maldives is so bad it has its own wiki page -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking_in_the_Maldives


A small number of women from Sri Lanka, Thailand, India, China, the Philippines, Eastern Europe, and former Soviet Union countries are recruited for forced prostitution in Male, the capital.

I'm guessing OP is from EE... that is super fucking scary. I hadn't heard about the sex trafficking problem in the Maldives before this so I'd assumed any ill intentions on his part were just to get her information with promises of an exotic vacation or possibly to get her alone on a small island with him. But that he chose a location notorious for sex trafficking puts this in a whole new light. OP, please do NOT fly out to an isolated island nation notorious for sex trafficking with some guy off of a camsite! Yeesh. Maybe he's willing to pay for your ticket because he knows he'll make a lot more money off of you in the long run.

whirlerz
09-01-2014, 05:07 PM
Well, according to her profile, she started this thread on the same day she joined, & hasn't been back since. Hope she's ok.

LaPetiteVierge
09-01-2014, 06:34 PM
This is all so coincidental (obviously being from Eastern Europe, choosing "Maldives" as the location, posting here to spark a bit of conflict) that I feel like we're being trolled just to raise awareness to this issue. Or provoke reaction.
It's way too coincidental and I watch too much Investigation Discovery to be bamboozled.

audritwo
09-01-2014, 06:47 PM
I watch too much Investigation Discovery to be bamboozled.

Gurl, SAME HERE! All that crime porn! YUM!

whirlerz
09-01-2014, 07:31 PM
Well, I feel dumb now :(

SarahTime
09-01-2014, 07:46 PM
This is all so coincidental (obviously being from Eastern Europe, choosing "Maldives" as the location, posting here to spark a bit of conflict) that I feel like we're being trolled just to raise awareness to this issue. Or provoke reaction.
It's way too coincidental and I watch too much Investigation Discovery to be bamboozled.


Gurl, SAME HERE! All that crime porn! YUM!

OMG I'm not alone?!?! Seriously. Yes.

Via Flaminia
09-01-2014, 07:50 PM
Well, I feel dumb now :(

Aww...not even whirlerz. :)
I'm not sure what to make of this. Probably a troll, but what if it isn't? The ladies gave good advice and benefit of the doubt about something that really needs to be discussed.

JuliAnne333
09-03-2014, 06:45 AM
Well, heck, since you have his EMAIL and FACEBOOK, he must be honorable! LOL Come on - you are starting to sound either extremely desperate, gullible, immature, just plain dumb or are a troll looking to ruffle feathers here. Do you realize anyone can make up an email address? Make up a FaceBook account and put all sorts of fake pics and such? I have been camming since 1998 and have heard everything under the sun these guys pull to meet you. This guy paid chump change in your video to have you feel so confused.

But, then again, you are hell bent on going or continuing this thread trolling since you didn't want advice, you just wanted attention. Just be aware there are people who actually lie in the world! Imagine that! There are also people who lure naïve young women to other countries and they end up as sex slaves, dead or who knows what else. And, your logic that he looks normal on cam or is handsome holds no weight at all. Like another said here and what came to my mind immediately when I read that statement from you was that a lot of serial rapists/killers look normal (aka Ted Bundy was quite charming in fact!)

I wouldn't go unless you could bring a big, burly, 6'8 bodyguard with you EVERYWHERE on this exotic trip you seem to think is going to be amazing!

Raina Shine
09-03-2014, 07:51 AM
Didn't read the whole thread cuz I already know better but my thinking is, if he is so rich, why can't he fly out a friend with you for your safety and comfort? Has he sent the money in advance and have money for a return ticket? Tickets can be cancelled with a phone call, trust me. Why can't he come to where you are to visit? At the end of the day, DON'T do it! It'll be the best decision you ever made I promise! "Never say never" ONLY applies to real life, not camming. And trust me I've met ALOT of these guys and you will too. At the bare minimum give it some time, I bet in a month or two you will look back and say, "What was I thinking?"