View Full Version : how long to wait to become exclusive?
audrey_k
09-18-2014, 05:35 PM
And does it make me a horrible person that, even though a part of me felt really shitty for upsetting him so much, another part of me was happy that it upset him so much because it showed me he cares....?
oldster
09-19-2014, 06:19 AM
yes you are a terrible terrible person..................not
well, I am glad your fears were unfounded.
sounds to me like you have some work to do yet, sounds like you broke him pretty good. In my opinion you need to help him get his feet back under him. Insecure men are not fun to be around.
So whether you have to convince him he is master and commander of your orgasm, or the emotional anchor that keeps you from washing out to sea, it would be good to convince him that you need him, for whatever it is you need him for, because he is feeling pretty replaceable and that is never a good feeling.
Give him a filtered version of your statements on this thread....
Oh, and enough with the honesty for cryin out loud, that is so Californian. In he rest of the civilized world we have the common decency to lie to each other. 'no honey yours is the perfect size, those big ones hurt so much'
anyway, my comments have always been about what is good for you, I hope he is good for you, you deserve it.
lynn2009
09-19-2014, 06:32 AM
Agreed, you are not a horrible person, we are all only human.
audrey_k
09-19-2014, 09:06 AM
Oh, and enough with the honesty for cryin out loud, that is so Californian. In he rest of the civilized world we have the common decency to lie to each other. 'no honey yours is the perfect size, those big ones hurt so much'
anyway, my comments have always been about what is good for you, I hope he is good for you, you deserve it.
It was supposed to make him feel good, like I had ended things with someone else because I wanted to be WITH him.... not entirely crush and emotionally devastate him!
He was definitely feeling a bit better when he left, sex therapy! And he seems OK today, though definitely more reserved than normal (even by English standards). He's going to a stag party this weekend so they'll definitely be going to SCs so I've been doing the whole "please don't get an lap dances I don't want anyone else touching you" things which has pumped up his ego a bit, even though being a stripper, I could honestly care less!
audrey_k
09-25-2014, 03:01 PM
So an update.. we talked tonight and decided we are officially exclusive. Very happy! ;D
gameover
09-25-2014, 07:33 PM
So an update.. we talked tonight and decided we are officially exclusive. Very happy! ;D
Congrats! He's lucky to have you.