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theharlot
10-22-2015, 02:13 PM
Looking through my iPad's Kindle library I can readily recommend 'The New Rules of Attraction' by Arden Leigh (on seduction and reinventing yourself as you want to be) and 'Powerful and Feminine' by Rachel Jayne Groover (being in your natural feminine magnetic power) and also 'Maybe he's just an asshole' by Halle Kaye and Sophie Stone (helps a lot if you're "too nice" mostly in romantic relationships but we are in the business of making guys fall in luv. WARNING: this book did get super-problematic at one point when a low asshole rating was given to a rapist).

As ever "take what you need and leave the rest".

justanothercamgirl
10-22-2015, 02:44 PM
E-squared is exactly the book that convinced me! LOA is so real that it will prove to you tat LOA is not real @ skeptics. But those of us who are convinced are too busy being magical to argue ;)

Those of us who are skeptics really don't mind not arguing about it either and are forever confused by why a person who is a believer in LOA would even care about whether or not other people are skeptical. ;)

absolutelyadorable
11-04-2015, 10:06 AM
Bump bump bump (can I do this?)
I need to dust off my little e-reader and get to reading some of these books! JAC and everyone else THANK YOU!

AlyssaJane
11-04-2015, 08:19 PM
I just got through How to Live on 24 Hours a Day. It was a great anti procrastination tool, and a ton of the advice still holds up today. Great book for getting my head back in the game and staying motivated. Also it's only about 90 minutes to listen to and it's everywhere. On Librivox and Youtube.

justanothercamgirl
11-04-2015, 10:41 PM
I just got through How to Live on 24 Hours a Day. It was a great anti procrastination tool, and a ton of the advice still holds up today. Great book for getting my head back in the game and staying motivated. Also it's only about 90 minutes to listen to and it's everywhere. On Librivox and Youtube.

Ooooh, thanks for the suggestion. It sounds like my type of book!

IvyAdams
11-05-2015, 08:52 AM
I just got through How to Live on 24 Hours a Day. It was a great anti procrastination tool, and a ton of the advice still holds up today. Great book for getting my head back in the game and staying motivated. Also it's only about 90 minutes to listen to and it's everywhere. On Librivox and Youtube.

THANK YOU For this suggestion. I'm the worst procrastinator in the world so this is exactly the book I need to pick up next :)

justanothercamgirl
06-17-2016, 10:44 AM
It is not a perfect book for sure as it as a lot of 'hand-waving'...but I've been taking some good stuff from reading Selling in Tough Times: Secrets to Selling When No One Is Buying by Tom Hopkins so far.

Magical_Hoohah
06-17-2016, 11:02 AM
I was just trying to remember the name of this thread the other day! We always talk about reading sales books, but there are so many out there, and so many of them are terribly cheesy or just plain weird. Additionally, I don't know much about sales, so it's hard to judge what's good vs crap. Can anyone recommend some more good, sales 101 type books? It's a huge bonus if they are written in a rational style with some basis in social science or psychology.

minniesoporno
06-17-2016, 11:40 AM
I've added to my collection

4 hour work week
outliers
four agreements
dot com secrets
Go Pro - 7 steps to becoming a network marketing professional (only because that is my new business venture and I need to know what this industry requires)

Then what I got on my wish list

I'm now up to reading 2 books a day.

crazy when I barely read two books a year.

justanothercamgirl
06-17-2016, 10:32 PM
I was just trying to remember the name of this thread the other day! We always talk about reading sales books, but there are so many out there, and so many of them are terribly cheesy or just plain weird. Additionally, I don't know much about sales, so it's hard to judge what's good vs crap. Can anyone recommend some more good, sales 101 type books? It's a huge bonus if they are written in a rational style with some basis in social science or psychology.

Sadly, there really is no good sales 101 type books that are specifically targeted for marketing to the sex industry (at least none I've have ever encountered so far) so even though there is a lot of similarities with marketing a 'vanilla' product and marketing an adult product there are more things that are different when it comes to the both of them.

What I have been doing is just slogging through every sales book that I can get my hands on that are at my local library.....then I just take notes on the few tidbits that I find useful and move on to the next book.

Sorry that I don't have much more useful advice other than that.....its all I've figured out to do so far. :)

Semyonovna
06-18-2016, 09:35 AM
Great topic, I downloaded few book u ladies recommended :) I never was into self help stuff until recently, I will recommend anything by Eckhart Tolle, I dont agree completely with his philosophy but when I read his books I feel I somehow become more calm and better person, I like that his ideas are positive and opposite of the attitudes of modern society. I like how he explained the importance of now.

pinklemonade0
06-18-2016, 10:57 AM
The only one I like is Brian Tracy - The psychology of selling.
I like the way it's written.
I can't remember the name of the book but there was another one I tried that I really struggled to understand. I sent it back to Amazon and they accepted it back :).

Nocturnelle
06-18-2016, 02:56 PM
I'm reading "Why men love bitches" now, and about to read The Secret. I've heard good things about: The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do by Sarah Knight, I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl by Alexis Jones and Girl Code: Unlocking the Secrets to Success, Sanity, and Happiness for the Female Entrepreneur by Cara Alwill Leyba. Ordered those so I'll let you guys know the verdict when I'm through!

LadyCoco
06-20-2016, 09:49 AM
I'm currently reading Dancer's Wealth and the Sugar Daddy Formula.

DancesWithSloths
06-20-2016, 10:41 AM
I was just trying to remember the name of this thread the other day! We always talk about reading sales books, but there are so many out there, and so many of them are terribly cheesy or just plain weird.

Aren't they, though? So many of them are directed mostly at promoting the brand of the author, or upselling the author's more expensive course or bullshit membership programme.

I'm thinking about checking out some free business administration or marketing courses on Coursera or edX, from reputable business schools. Sure, adult business is different, but there must be a few lessons to learn there. At least those guys are not going to try and sell me a sad version of amway.

Magical_Hoohah
06-20-2016, 11:36 AM
I was inspired by this thread to finally get an ecard for a library that has a really respectable ebook collection. (I had a library card for my nearest library, but it got revoked a while ago because my ex-husband used it and lost an embarrassing number of books.) I also realized that I get a free book loan each month from Amazon, so hopefully I can use that to get my hands on a few titles that the library doesn't carry. :)

I checked out a book about behavioral economics and how to understand the factors that influence your spending habits. It's a "for dummies" book, so it seems a bit less gimmicky, and even though it's not directly about sales, I figure that it shouldn't be too hard to work backwards from "why you irrationally spend money on stuff" to "how to get people to spend money on unnecessary luxury items like my services." If it turns out to be worthwhile, I'll let you guys know!

justanothercamgirl
06-20-2016, 12:13 PM
I was inspired by this thread to finally get an ecard for a library that has a really respectable ebook collection. (I had a library card for my nearest library, but it got revoked a while ago because my ex-husband used it and lost an embarrassing number of books.) I also realized that I get a free book loan each month from Amazon, so hopefully I can use that to get my hands on a few titles that the library doesn't carry. :)

I checked out a book about behavioral economics and how to understand the factors that influence your spending habits. It's a "for dummies" book, so it seems a bit less gimmicky, and even though it's not directly about sales, I figure that it shouldn't be too hard to work backwards from "why you irrationally spend money on stuff" to "how to get people to spend money on unnecessary luxury items like my services." If it turns out to be worthwhile, I'll let you guys know!

I don't know if this will be helpful advice to you at all because I know everyone like to read and absorb material in different ways but my favourite way to 'read' marketing books is to listen to them on audiobook. That way I can listen to them when I am doing housework because I find those types of books have so much useless material to slog through until I can get to the good stuff. That way I feel like I am wasting my time less...but I know for some people audiobooks do not work at all so YMMV. :)

justanothercamgirl
06-20-2016, 01:10 PM
I should seriously sit down and write a marketing/sales book specifically for cam girls someday. There really isn't any good information on it out there because selling as a cam girl is so different then selling something like clips.

My opinion is that this difference comes because we have a tendency to exist in a very specific type virtual "freemium" market and you need to market in a virtual "freemium" market is COMPLETELY DIFFERENT then you would with other types of marketing. Yes, there is some overlap but there is also a heck of a lot of differences. :)

justanothercamgirl
07-25-2016, 12:15 AM
It is not a perfect book for sure as it as a lot of 'hand-waving'...but I've been taking some good stuff from reading Selling in Tough Times: Secrets to Selling When No One Is Buying by Tom Hopkins so far.

Turns out this book was totally a waste of time to read. Ugh! Drives me crazy when a book starts off really strong and then just ends up not worth it at all in the end. :-\

SimoneGray
07-25-2016, 11:39 AM
Downloaded Ho-tactics finally...going to give it a read.

justanothercamgirl
09-01-2016, 10:10 PM
I've been reading 'Brandwashed: Tricks Companies Use to Manipulate Our Minds and Persuade Us to Buy' by Martin Lindstrom and have been finding it an easy to read and fascinating look on how branding works.

hyori
09-01-2016, 11:18 PM
Just finished reading, "Steering By Starlight" by Martha Beck. It was a fascinating and fun read that has actual practical techniques that work. If you've ever been annoyed by vague LOA teachings like "let it go" this book will answer exactly how to do that. As well, the mind hacks for anxiety are among the best and most creative ways of managing that I've ever read. It gets you right back on track to your destination in life. Highly recommended.

justanothercamgirl
01-10-2017, 10:55 AM
I've been reading, "To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others" by Daniel H. Pink

Now sure what I completely think of it yet, it is definitely an original take on the concept of sales.

chloemay
01-10-2017, 11:46 AM
Aren't they, though? So many of them are directed mostly at promoting the brand of the author, or upselling the author's more expensive course or bullshit membership programme.

I'm thinking about checking out some free business administration or marketing courses on Coursera or edX, from reputable business schools. Sure, adult business is different, but there must be a few lessons to learn there. At least those guys are not going to try and sell me a sad version of amway.

Quoting this because it is so true! Ho Tactics was informative, I just wish authors wouldn't use pop culture references to seem relevant because when the book becomes a couple of years old it reads so dated. Break Through Your BS is like that too, the author seems to be trying so hard to be current and cool that I was annoyed and didn't finish the book. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1522879838/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

xStitchesx
01-11-2017, 04:08 AM
I've read several of the books on here and I'm looking forward to checking out many more!
I can recommend James Clear for info on how to break bad habits and replace them with good ones. I read it about a year ago and have been making big improvements in procrastination.

For BDSM, I highly recommend Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns. It's written by a couple who obviously love bdsm and is useful for both practical things you may or may not use on cam but also the mindset and setting the mood for bdsm. Ts very beginner friendly.

E.S. Camgirl, Ph.D.
01-11-2017, 11:46 AM
I also definitely recommend Ho Tactics. It really changed everything for me. Dividing goals into three categories and staying focused on its theories got me to achieve my 3-5 year goal in just one.

Also, Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception. Surprisingly not bullshit, and I am very skeptical of these kinds of books. It contains a lot of information about faces and body language, but it applies to writing as well, and I think a lot of "liespotting" can be done with just what we see in chat, and you all have an instinct for it, but sometimes it's good to refine the skills and see which parts you can trust, instead of questioning an intuition.

I read Business Models for Dummies and you know what, I'm not ashamed. It's easy, and the concept is not terribly advanced in the first place. Business can get very complex, of course, but the basics are easily attainable, and the book explains things clearly.

If you want to get really nerdy about some shit, Learning How to Ask: A Sociolinguistic Appraisal of the Role of the Interview in Social Science Research by Charles L. Briggs. I read this while doing my fieldwork training, and what I took from it is that we all speak differently, even if we're all speaking English (or chat speak, or emoji, or gif, or whatever it would be called now). It was very helpful for me when I, a lifelong nonbeliever, did a project with a children's ministry at a local Evangelical church, as their relationship to certain words was much different from my own. The book helps to explain why it's important to keep all that in mind and how to better communicate and not assume we know, automatically, what the other means. We don't always know if the person on the other end is a native English speaker (I choose this because we speak English on SW, and it seems to be the most popular language to speak online), or even if they are, there's a lot of variety between different English-speaking countries and their dialects. It affects communication. That was probably a terrible explanation, sorry.

I can't not recommend Linda Williams', Hard Core: Power, Pleasure, and the "Frenzy of the Visible". It is the seminal book on porn studies from a film studies standpoint. It is brilliant. Anyone who really appreciates porn and its history will love this book. I love it. I am heavily biased, however, because I got to study with the author.

Whores and Other Feminists edited by Jill Nagle. An excellent anthology I read as I began to consider if sex work was the path for me.

I saw it elsewhere in the thread, but Xaviera Hollander's The Happy Hooker is so fun. I met her when she spoke at a local bookstore and she signed my copy. Then she liked my tweet about it, and I was so excited.

The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure ed. Tristan Taormino et al. In truth, I haven't finished this one, but I've read a few of the articles, and I've enjoyed them. It's in the "currently reading" pile with like 16 others...

This one is kind of a halvsie recommendation: I read most of Mike Edison's Dirty! Dirty! Dirty! but I didn't care for the writing style, so I put it down. However, I read the parts about Hugh Hefner and Playboy, and I feel like there's something there that explains a lot about men and their weird entitlements and demands about us being perfect little darlings who beg for a few cents. Edison kind of touches on it and unwittingly describes it, so next on my list is Elizabeth Fraterrigo's Playboy and the Making of the Good Life in Modern America, which I haven't read yet, but I suspect it will explain a lot of what I sense.

That's what I got for now.

sexysusie
01-11-2017, 05:01 PM
'the psychology of selling' by Brian Tracey (buyer motivation), 'secrets of closing the sale' by zig ziglar (actually anything by him - No shame!), and 'influence: the psychology of persuasion by Robert cialdini. Basically anything that helps you understand psychology will help with camming. Sales, marketing, advertising, copywriting books etc will help you actually get custies in the first place x

justanothercamgirl
05-02-2017, 09:36 AM
I've just started "Sexy Little Numbers: How to Grow Your Business Using the Data You Already Have". It is very 'vanilla business' focus but as someone who completely sucks when it comes to business analytic I have been finding it interesting so far.

MissFiasco
05-02-2017, 05:45 PM
The History & Arts of the Dominatrix, by Anne O Nomis (2013)
Excellent and well-researched document!

The Forked Tongue: A Handbook for Treating People Badly, Ed 2 Revisited, by Flagg & Soulhuntre (2015)
"This book is not comforting; it does not reassure. It does not teach anything a decent person needs to know. It is a book about BDSM, but it will teach you nothing about tying knots, swinging floggers or spanking. It does not attempt to reach the vanilla public. This book addresses control, it addresses change. The recreational uses of humiliation, conditioning, psychological torture, hypnotism and interrogation techniques are explored and laid bare, broken into usable steps and understandable, applicable concepts. It is a workshop of ruin, the tools necessary to cement lasting alteration and unforgettable experiences for those few who truly crave them.

naomi_doll
03-19-2018, 11:50 AM
Started reading Don't Bullshit Yourself! by Jon Taffer and it is turning out to be a good book so far. Instead of just telling you to get over your excuses, it tells you how. :)

naomi_doll
09-08-2018, 07:46 AM
-Insatiable by Asa Akira
shes a crazy bad bitch, a fun read. I wish it covered more on adult industry topics but still has tons of anedoctes

I started reading this one and although its not advice on the industry at all, its a great book. Really well written. It's cool to read a book that tells stories about a persons life in the sex/porn industry that isn't just a basic description of her job or all graphic descriptions of her work. It makes you see her as a person, which I hope that people can see in all of us.

SuperPookie
09-09-2018, 06:36 AM
I'm reading SEO 2018 and am finding it very informative & will update if I see an increase in website hits using these techniques.

naomi_doll
03-26-2022, 02:31 PM
"The Awesome Human Project" is a fantastic book for people who feel like they aren't working enough, or something always comes up keeping them from work and all the guilt surrounding that
"How I Raised Myself from Failure to Success in Selling" and "The Like Switch". I got a lot of hustling tips from both of them.

I'm taking full advantage of my local library (some even let you check out ebooks using libby/overdrive!) so if anyone has more book suggestions, I'd love to hear them!

WonderWoman0642
04-06-2022, 12:53 PM
I love this thread! I’m reading The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. It’s very inspiring.

naomi_doll
04-06-2022, 01:45 PM
Fanatical Prospecting from Jeb Blount is similar to Grant Cardone's books in terms of "obsession factor" and also has a lot of good selling tips.

Esixxx
01-11-2023, 02:16 AM
I am reading "The Magic of Thinking Big" by David J. Schwartz, it's a great book on mindset and how to shift your thinking. How to think creatively.

I've already picked up alot of gems in the book and I am about halfway through.