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Miss_Red
01-12-2015, 12:42 PM
When I started out--for maybe a month--I really needed a couple drinks before I could loosen up enough to talk to people and flirt with them. As I grew more practiced at it (and read SW threads), though, I started consciously cutting back to see how few drinks I could have and still flirt. By the end of month 2, I was doing it sober. Occasionally I'll allow a gentleman to buy me a drink with alcohol in it, but not to the point where I'm drunk. And at least one day a week I make sure to do the job 100% without any alcohol at all.

Obviously if someone's an alcoholic this is the worst idea, but I honestly don't think it's so bad to start out drinking a bit as long as you ease back on it eventually. This job is terrifying at first, and I definitely needed some liquid courage to get over the initial barrier of flirting with other human beings while wearing almost nothing.

NightGoddess
01-12-2015, 06:25 PM
I've noticed that cutting back drinking at work has helped me a lot in my social life, too. I don't feel the need to get drunk anymore just to flirt with guys I like lol!

lol1337a
01-12-2015, 06:48 PM
Despite my other post in this thread, I also agree that some liquid courage before an audition or during the first few shifts isn't the worst thing if you enjoy drinking in moderation. I definitely couldn't have gotten onstage the first time without shaking or approached my first customer if I hadn't taken a couple shots first, and I wound up having a great run of ~5 years where I preferred working sober or with 2 drinks in my system max.

If any anyone reading drinks moderately but habitually on the job, I wouldn't necessarily sweat it, but please assess your drinking on a regular basis. Are you still dependent on those drinks when you've moved past newbie status? Is the amount you drink increasing, or have you switched to more alcoholic drinks? Can you work a sober shift without feeling bored out of your mind, socially awkward, or inhibited? Do you drink more in your personal life because of habits formed at work?

Get in the habit of asking yourself these questions at least once every couple weeks, even if it seems silly. Looking back I can pinpoint a couple specific, two-week long periods where I could have saved myself a lot of grief if I'd stepped back to self assess. Like I mentioned earlier, I thought I was in the clear because I'd done well for so long, so I thought I didn't need to routinely self-assess this particular aspect in my life even though I did with others.

lokikola
02-10-2015, 02:02 AM
That's... that's not what I said... at all... :O


I didn't just pull that information out of my asshole. Please, feel free to read my source: http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/moderate-binge-drinking
The "also" indicates I was ADDING to your comment. Not contradicting you or implying you pulled anything our of your asshole. Meooooooow :/

SweetJulia
02-10-2015, 02:24 AM
Op, Valerian and L-theanine are pretty good for anxiety and will allow you to still have a fast response time/have your wits about you. Plus, no calories-God, I got huge when I drank a lot. Everyone's nervous at first. Go in with the mindset that it's your house. You're there to get them to spend money, but you're in charge. If they feel differently, walk away. If they touch you, a large bouncer will touch them. Their job is to keep you safe and most are pretty good at it. They usually know to pay extra attention to new girls cuz bottom feeders prey on them.

Vyanka
02-16-2015, 02:19 AM
I have officially decided to never drink at work ever again. I didn't have a single drink during my last shift, and I didn't need to. I just "tapped into" the drunk feeling of the atmosphere. I put on the act that I was slightly buzzed, and somehow, it tricked my brain into thinking I WAS actually slightly buzzed. I'm going to use this method from now on. I talked slower, blinked my eyes slowly, laughed loosely, and just felt the buzz off of everyone else. It's like an empath thing, I guess. But it works!

BTW, Julia, thank you for sharing all that. Reading that just solidified my decision in never touching another drink ever again. I'm done.

I do this with plain club soda and a splash of cranberry and lime. It's definitely good to trick the mind that way! :) customers also think you're buzzed.

Vyanka
02-16-2015, 02:31 AM
I didn't read all of the posts but I just wanted to pop in and say that I've stopped drinking at work and I'm doing so much better. I was definitely ready to quit but ended up going in because I needed some cash and I haven't left since. I still have a lot to work on. I've been at the club for almost a year on and off and still have a lot to learn as far as my hustle is concerned but I broke $500 sober last night and I couldn't be happier. (I've never made this much) Not even because of the money but because I challenged myself instead of giving up and made money doing something I love. After getting comfortable at the club I now feel at home there. After realizing that all the dancers aren't out to get me and most of them are actually very nice as well as the staff/management I feel very lucky to work at the club I do.

This forum has helped a lot. :) And I probably would have a quit a long time ago without it. There is hope for struggling newbies!

Yay! Good for you. It's about your well being. Health and safety. May you have more successful sober shifts! Good luck! :)