View Full Version : The "Just stay the fuck on" thread.
i missed your posts cutie, hope you took good rest and wish you success in new camroom
Cutie101
10-18-2021, 01:06 AM
i missed your posts cutie, hope you took good rest and wish you success in new camroom
Aww, thank you so much, you are a sweetheart! It's gotta be succesful, i am paying rent for it, hahahahahahaha! :))))))
DeliveryLadyx
10-18-2021, 03:11 AM
Good luck girls this week! Xx I did end up at 30 h only last week and yesterday streamed for 6 h only because I'm having a massive drama again in the family which fucks me up mentally big time and my time, and money. I will do what I can this week. I dropped my prices on streamate yesterday because I realised I am having a super low paid time and unreliable days, I usually average 10-15% paid time and I get 80% from tips in free so I put my ego yesterday on the side and got working for peanuts but I got 29% paid time. I did around low high goal and am giving it a go this week as a trial. I pray I can cam 4-6 h a day and try to have my mind on the job and rinsing them.
honeybirdette
10-18-2021, 04:29 AM
i just dropped mine too :(, i'm now at 5.99/7.99 and hoping to get more time in paid. i was at 7.99/9.99 and i spent a lot of time in free. i really didn't want to drop them, but if at the end of the day my overall earnings are higher with a lower rate, well that's all that matters really.
will test the waters with these rates, and if needs be would consider going to 4.99/6.99 at the very lowest. i get 30% payout (i don't get full 35% because i'm with boleyn models) so i really couldn't afford to drop them any lower than that, nor would i want to!!! x
DeliveryLadyx
10-18-2021, 05:20 AM
Give it a trial for a few days and see how is. I am 5.69 and 6.99 now, I was 7.99 and 9.99. Was making money but so unreliable I would rather see I get constant money at the end of the day. Is still early days and is a test now. I am with Boleyn Models too. Even without them you still lose money because SM doesn't have a decent payment option for UK or EU, at least you get daily pay (weekdays) and the option to get full payment if working daily.
honeybirdette
10-18-2021, 05:37 AM
Give it a trial for a few days and see how is. I am 5.69 and 6.99 now, I was 7.99 and 9.99. Was making money but so unreliable I would rather see I get constant money at the end of the day. Is still early days and is a test now. I am with Boleyn Models too. Even without them you still lose money because SM doesn't have a decent payment option for UK or EU, at least you get daily pay (weekdays) and the option to get full payment if working daily.
yeah i have a habit of changing rates too quickly if i don't see instant results, its something i am trying to work on.. to be more patient lol
yes the daily pay really helps with my motivation, i know if i work tonight and see the cash it encourages me to work more overall, so i'm happy to give up 5% for that.
i have never worked the full 6 days to get full 35% though, do you have to do a certain amount of hours each day in order to qualify? for example, is 4 hours a day is not enough? (sorry i know its the wrong thread for boleyn Q's but thought id ask quickly)
xxx
DeliveryLadyx
10-18-2021, 05:40 AM
No you don't need a set amount of hours brb
Ambercat
10-18-2021, 05:56 AM
That's not quite correct, you don't get the full 35% if you work 6 or 7 days your 2nd lowest earning day is doubled as a bonus. So if you work 7 days earning 100 each you will get 100 bonus. But if you work 6 days the day you took off counts as your lowest day and you will get a bonus on the lowest of your 6 remaining. So if those 6 days are all 100 your bonus is still 100. But if you do something like 100, 20, off, 100,200, 100 100 then your bonus goes down to 20.
So it's better to try and keep your daily earnings as even as possible to maximise the bonus you get. (this keeps it closer to getting that full 5% back).
DeliveryLadyx
10-18-2021, 06:33 AM
Ambercat explained much better and she is right after thinking.x
Ambercat
10-18-2021, 07:30 AM
I can remember the first time i got my bonus i was horribly disappointed because i thought 2nd lowest day of 6 worked. Imagine, I logged on for 30 mins on the 6th day, flashed boobs for a couple of dollars and then got that as my bonus lol.
Cutie101
10-18-2021, 10:48 PM
Putting 8 hours (10 with breaks) today. I am glad now I can also stream on Stripchat too, thanks to ShineModel and my CPU is only 60% on 6 sites. Wooohooo!!
Here we goooo!!
Edit: 6.5 hours. Slow everywhere... smh. Anyway 1.5 hours left!
Update: 8 hours and slow. Real slow. Didn't even make my low goal. But anyway, I am taking whatever I made and move on with my day. Tomorow awaits me patiently :))
Seductive_Brit
10-19-2021, 10:24 AM
Hey ladies been very inspired going through this thread special thanks to Cutie101 for taking the time to show us that Jasmin model's stats and what progress can be made by continuing to put those hours in. Hope you're settling into your new cam space well and finding it's working for you!
Interesting a lot of ladies are mentioning ADHD, me too, wonder how many camgirls are affected this way, I do suspect a lot of us are neurodivergent which is interesting but yes makes it tricky with the attention span. At the moment I am just making sure I do at least 2 hours a day and going from there. Any more hours I put in after the 2 hours I feel as if I'm not forcing myself. I was annoyed with myself for missing working on the weekend because I knew my period would start yesterday. I got inspired to push through and deal with it I've never cammed on my period before when in full flow but I'm actually making the same as I was yesterday before it started. It's not actually that hard to get away with not using a toy. As it is my time of month I won't pressure myself to do super long hours but to build up my tolerance and regularity again. Past few weeks I've not done more than 10 hours in the week, yikes. I've been a bit chaotic but time now to regain control.
I second the point about when it's busy it's easier to stay on, and that's where pricing comes in, going up from 4.99, 6.99 on SM to 5.99, 7.99 it was too quiet. I decided to do a small increase that regulars could adjust to, 5.34, 7.34, I'm making around the same, but for less work and I feel it's a sweet spot.
It would have been nice to hit $140 today as that's what I did yesterday. I had 30 minutes of doing errands whilst on a token site which I didn't really count though I made $10. After 3.5 hours splitcamming and $131 I'm out. These guys are starting to piss me off. I just stick to my hours goals usually and make what I can make :).
Agree on staying away from negativity, it's good for us all to have a rant from time to time and know it's not just me who might be struggling here and there, but with a positive attitude. As was said above those people complaining all the time aren't finding solutions and aren't really trying, just bringing themselves and others down, attracting more negativity to themselves and others.
Wishing everyone luck and hope your Tuesday is going well. Let's keep going! Very proud of myself for not writing off period week like I always have before. Time to make some motherfudging moolah.
gbjenna
10-19-2021, 01:55 PM
What an absolute graveyard it is tonight! Been sat there like a melon for over an hour.
Genoveve
10-19-2021, 03:04 PM
3 hour goal today/tonight.
Genoveve
10-19-2021, 10:36 PM
3 hour goal today/tonight.
Ended up doing 4 hours and 20 min. :queen:
Seductive_Brit
10-20-2021, 03:45 AM
What an absolute graveyard it is tonight! Been sat there like a melon for over an hour.
Sorry to hear that, but melons are delicious! And someone is bound to bite.
Ended up doing 4 hours and 20 min. :queen:
Welldone!
For the first time in probably a month I've managed to stick to waking up early, not as early as I'd like to but early enough. I want to get back into a place where I get most of my hours done in the morning and have the rest of the day free :). Want to manage at least 3 hours if I can.
Update: I am so ecstatically happy, I managed to do it again. Ladies don't be afraid to be yourself and talk to people like someone you met in the pub, because that's the way to convert them into a talking private. I had a guy who I had an odd kind of JOI exclusive with in the past, he came back, but I just started chatting and making jokes with him in exclusive as I don't think he remembered it. We did cam to cam and ended up having an awesome, normal conversation, about, life, love, social norms, nothing sexual whatsoever apart from how you'd chat to your friends about it, told him I was seeing someone and so we talked about dating and he asked me for advice on a girl he liked. I fricking loved it. 5 stars and $118 to have a nice chat with a kind, lovely man who clearly has no trouble with the ladies in real life. The guys with real money are likely to be intelligent and actually enjoy an intelligent conversation with a beautiful woman (we are all beautiful women), no nudity, nothing sexual, just the delight of the feminine presence and an exchange with a non-judgemental stranger.
2 hours 15 in and $265.20 wtf?! What a Wednesday. I might be jinxing myself here but I don't care.
During this time and following I had yet another chat only Exclusive where we were discussing History and our experiences Kayaking ha. He proceeded to stay in free for a bit but I didn't mind since I'd earnt like $90 from him for a lovely conversation and he proceeded to lift my spirits even higher with the following comments during which I explained how I did worry about judgement from the outside world.
Convoguy2: But I do find you so downright wonderful you restore some little bit of my faith that good sweet innocent girls are real… (we then talked about how just because I do this job does not remove the core of of who I am which is an innocent and sweet person, they are not mutually exclusive!).
Convoguy2: It takes about three seconds to figure you’re a good person. If you’re more than a halfwit (I then said you're right! Good way to filter out the halfwits lol)
Convoguy2: Make some money, get your jolly’s if it suits you…you do you…fuck what other people think
Convoguy2: Truthfully, do what makes you happy, or what works for you. Everyone else should be doing that…if they aren’t, they’re just mad at you because can’t be honest with themselves
He motivated me so thought I'd share ha.
Update 3 hours in: $285.61 for some chats, foot worship and a few short incomplete strips whilst on my period pretty darn glorious. I actually love my job this morning. Thank you ladies for motivating me. If it wasn't for this forum and you girls, I probably would have skipped this entire week all together let alone had the discipline to get on early.
Update 3.5 hours no change. Think I'll take a break at 4 hours. Most I've done in a day in a while and it's only lunch time! Bought a menstrual cup for the first time in my life so will have some lunch and put that in before hopping on again. Hold on for your whales and don't to be scared to chat to men normally. Huzzah ladies! Let's gooooooo
Snowgirl
10-20-2021, 03:52 AM
Putting 8 hours (10 with breaks) today. I am glad now I can also stream on Stripchat
Wow 6 sites same time, I remember there were 4 sites, what site except Stripchat did you add?
You are wonderful! You inspire me more and more! Thank you for your posts :)
Cutie101
10-20-2021, 05:38 AM
Thanks a lot, @SeductiveBrit, I am glad to hear it helped your motivation! And congrats for this amazing wednesday!!!
@Snowgirl. I am currently doing Jasmin, Streamate, Imlive, Stripchat, MFC and Chaturbate.
Not gonna keep all of these forever, I am testing for a month and see which brings the most money. I like the ShineModel browser because I have MFC, Chaturbate and Stripchat in one single chat, which helps a LOT with not having to check each window. And I stream trough OBS and doesn't hurt my CPU!
So, I am basically focusing on 4 chat windows. On the main page it says they soon add Streamate to the ShineModel browser and it's gonna be even more easier.
Once they do that, I will be able to re-open camcontacts. I would now, but if my CPU spikes higher than 60% the Jasmin software notifies me it detects high CPU usage and I am afraid it hurts my placement.
Cutie101
10-20-2021, 05:43 AM
Today I am late. Last night I only managed to sleep for 3 hours, I logged on cam and only lasted for 1 hour, when I took my makeup off, headed back home and gt another 3 hours of sleep.
Still tired, not gonna be able to put more than a 4 hours shift (I don't wanna go to sleep too late, because I also want to workout and I need 2 hours ish before I can fall asleep). Buuut, 4 hours is 4 hours and many beautiful things can happen!
roseforarose
10-20-2021, 06:06 AM
I've been slacking on my hours lately, so set a new schedule and am stfo for the next few days!
Miss_ShaSha
10-20-2021, 06:15 AM
Dude, I slept about 8 hrs, but it was total shit haha. I did NOT want to GTFO, however did anyway about 30 min ago. I'm gonna STFO for 2 hrs which is a big deal as I feel like poop :D
Sissy whale stopped in and said he'd be back. If he does come back just one show with him will get me to weekly goal.
OK, let's do this shit!!!
gbjenna
10-20-2021, 06:16 AM
Sorry to hear that, but melons are delicious! And someone is bound to bite.
Hahaha yes. That made me laugh. It was pretty dire for a while but it was ok in the end. My hourly was half what it was the day before but I’m well ahead for the week.
Do any U.K./EU girls find that SM customers seem to lack any form of interaction in the afternoons, or is it just me?! I think this would be US AM time. Just an observation I’ve made..
Regardless of whether it’s quiet or I’m making money, getting them to interact is like getting blood out of a stone. Be it free chat, gold shows or private’s. The vast majority just won’t talk or they’ll say like two words.
Come late evening to nighttime, most of them are really enthusiastic and interactive. I’ve noticed this theme for a few weeks now
Cutie101
10-20-2021, 06:28 AM
Hahaha yes. That made me laugh. It was pretty dire for a while but it was ok in the end. My hourly was half what it was the day before but I’m well ahead for the week.
Do any U.K./EU girls find that SM customers seem to lack any form of interaction in the afternoons, or is it just me?! I think this would be US AM time. Just an observation I’ve made..
Regardless of whether it’s quiet or I’m making money, getting them to interact is like getting blood out of a stone. Be it free chat, gold shows or private’s. The vast majority just won’t talk or they’ll say like two words.
Come late evening to nighttime, most of them are really enthusiastic and interactive. I’ve noticed this theme for a few weeks now
Yeah, mostly all the customers, do that. It's annoying because it forces me to work night shifts. I am gonna stay on this schedule one month and probably have to drag my ass back to being a vampire...
roseforarose
10-20-2021, 06:36 AM
Do any U.K./EU girls find that SM customers seem to lack any form of interaction in the afternoons, or is it just me?! I think this would be US AM time. Just an observation I’ve made..
Yup I'm in the UK and afternoons SUCK so much! Lunch time is alright if I'm awake early enough for it (haven't been for like 1.5 months though lol). Afternoons are so so quiet, then it picks up a bit around 5/6pm. The past few weeks I've been doing these silent afternoons and it's a tad soul-crushing lol!
roseforarose
10-20-2021, 06:37 AM
Yeah, mostly all the customers, do that. It's annoying because it forces me to work night shifts. I am gonna stay on this schedule one month and probably have to drag my ass back to being a vampire...
I'm thinking the same, I'm going to have to switch back to nights and just annoy my housemates, daytime is so fckin quiet and meeting my minimum goal is a struggleee
Cutie101
10-20-2021, 06:54 AM
I'm thinking the same, I'm going to have to switch back to nights and just annoy my housemates, daytime is so fckin quiet and meeting my minimum goal is a struggleee
Exactly, from an 8-10 hour shifts, I log in at 6 AM UK time and till 10-11 AM it's fucking quiet, aka half of my shift. I think I will switch to logging in at 4 PM... I am still waiting for a month, maybe i make some regs, 1 week is too little to get a conclusion...
Miss_ShaSha
10-20-2021, 07:00 AM
Yeah, mostly all the customers, do that. It's annoying because it forces me to work night shifts. I am gonna stay on this schedule one month and probably have to drag my ass back to being a vampire...
IDK how you do it girl. All the hours and the night shifts. You are such an inspiration!!!
Cutie101
10-20-2021, 07:08 AM
IDK how you do it girl. All the hours and the night shifts. You are such an inspiration!!!
Honestly, I don't know either, hahaha! I just do what I gotta do to make the money :)))))) I wish I lived in the US. That's the only winning posibility to have decent day shifts. I am still hoping it will pick up thorought the month, there are many Europeans who do day shifts and do pretty well, I guess I need to be patient, log in at same hours and wait to make regulars, before getting a conclusion.
Miss_ShaSha
10-20-2021, 08:00 AM
Holy shit! GTFO worked again. I said earlier I did NOT want to be on, but thank fuck I even did 2 hrs cause that sissy slut WHALE came back as promised. I'm done for the week if I want.
56085
Universe, I am in your debt. Grateful AF!!!
It is awesome miss sha! Today it was difficult. It is great to end up well!
Genoveve
10-20-2021, 05:03 PM
3-4 hour goal today. One hour down.
Genoveve
10-20-2021, 09:41 PM
I have 43 minutes left to hit 3 hours and I don't know if I am going to make it. This is officially the deadest day/lowest traffic I have ever seen. The only reason I am doing okay $$$-wise is because of 2 rushes, it's been an absolute graveyard aside from them and I have logged on like 4 different times today.
ETA I made it thanks to a regular. I think it must be slower in general because even though I am making pretty much the same as during the last contest I'm ranking significantly higher.
Cutie101
10-20-2021, 11:58 PM
Holy shit! GTFO worked again. I said earlier I did NOT want to be on, but thank fuck I even did 2 hrs cause that sissy slut WHALE came back as promised. I'm done for the week if I want.
56085
Universe, I am in your debt. Grateful AF!!!
Giiiirl!! Congrats!!! Hoooow nice!!!!
Cutie101
10-21-2021, 12:01 AM
Yesterday was shit all over, also because I was tired and only managed to work for 3 hours overall. At least I did my workout and I am proud of not skipping it (btw if anyone is missing it, I am active in this fitness accountability thread, come in and share your journey! https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?232053-2022-fitness-thread/page4 ).
Anyway. Full 8 hours shift today+ workout at the end, haha!
Update: Day shifts suck. I am starting to question if i wanna do it for a full month, the begining of the month when i worked 3 PM- 3 AM was all bank and bomb, now doing 9 AM- 7 PM is all peanuts.
Luci Fer
10-21-2021, 12:24 AM
I did 7 hours last night and was so good! but today.. ugh I missed my fav hours because I couldn't wake up. It sucks, because I get the waves of morons. I hate to miss my fav time, but 5 hours of sleep everyday is damn not enough, so I struggle with waking up. I dream of just one day of fat sleep hahahaha
2 Cutie: I work out again, too, also after the shift! Feels sooo good, yes?;D
Cutie101
10-21-2021, 12:30 AM
2 Cutie: I work out again, too, also after the shift! Feels sooo good, yes?;D
Actually yes, it feels amazing, in so many ways!!! Glad to get back at it and finally have a routine, because it's gona help my self esteem so much!
I mentally preparing myself for 8 hours of boredom...there is nothing more important,then this.
Just do your hours with good mood,even if it will be shit, you are not there to be better, then someone else. You are there, to be closer to your own dream.All is well. Stay productive like you want to be,doing something is better then nothing. -Amen , lol
Girls, good luck today
LeilaB
10-21-2021, 04:12 AM
I hate this contest, not only because I make less money than usual, but because there are no bonuses after $250, $500 etc. I think I'm not the only one who can't make enough money to place on the contest, but would be somewhat happy to get $25 or $50 bonus after 25 hours...Anyway, I do the hours, in the past weeks I manage to do at least 4 hours every day, and on a better day I do 5-6. I do 25-30 hours every week instead of 18-20.
I've been online for 1 hour, and it's so quiet, $5 lol...but early afternoon (CET time zone) use to be like this. My goal is at least $500 this week, I need less than $170 for that. I know I can do it! Good luck for all of us :*
Update:
3 hours and $70, I'm satisfied!
Update:
4,5 hours and $106 not bad. 30 more mins today :3
Update:
I ended up doing 5 hours and made $153, over my high goal. Yaaaay :goodvibes
Seductive_Brit
10-21-2021, 04:57 AM
Hahaha yes. That made me laugh. It was pretty dire for a while but it was ok in the end. My hourly was half what it was the day before but I’m well ahead for the week.
Do any U.K./EU girls find that SM customers seem to lack any form of interaction in the afternoons, or is it just me?! I think this would be US AM time. Just an observation I’ve made..
Regardless of whether it’s quiet or I’m making money, getting them to interact is like getting blood out of a stone. Be it free chat, gold shows or private’s. The vast majority just won’t talk or they’ll say like two words.
Come late evening to nighttime, most of them are really enthusiastic and interactive. I’ve noticed this theme for a few weeks now
UK here, so I've never actually worked a night shift because I'm an early bird, but I find I actually catch quite a few Americans in the early morning and as you say going into the evening, seem to get more Aussies in the afternoon. Get all the Brits in the morning as well, before work, or lunchtime on their lunch break. Lot of people working from home is a gamechanger.
roseforarose
10-21-2021, 05:50 AM
Okay I did 4.5 hours yesterday (didn't hit my goal!), today I'm doing 6 hours and will hopefully hit my goal! 1 down, 5 to go. I've decided to stick my rates way tf up so if I get one more show before I hit the 2 hour mark I'll be happy!
I did manage to get online before 1pm today, and I was right that the traffic leaves after lunch. It's dead af right now, but I'm trying to entertain myself
Edit: raising my rate was a BAD idea lol! It's back to normal now
Miss_ShaSha
10-21-2021, 08:05 AM
It is awesome miss sha! Today it was difficult. It is great to end up well!
Thanks! I have those difficult days too. We just keep GTFO.
Giiiirl!! Congrats!!! Hoooow nice!!!!
Girl, I was like "hell yeah fuck yeah" lololllll thanks!
Yesterday was shit all over, also because I was tired and only managed to work for 3 hours overall. At least I did my workout and I am proud of not skipping it (btw if anyone is missing it, I am active in this fitness accountability thread, come in and share your journey! https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?232053-2022-fitness-thread/page4 ).
Anyway. Full 8 hours shift today+ workout at the end, haha!
Good to hear you're back at it & working out! Soooo good for you!
SoloDesire
10-21-2021, 11:03 AM
It's been so hard to STFO this week. Today has been the first day I pushed myself to get on early and STFO and it's paying off! Been on 4 hours and staying on for at least 2 more. Already over my goal.
Just glad I'm charging $10/minute for private AND get good tippers on top of it! They'll be cheap if you let them.
56090
roseforarose
10-21-2021, 11:43 AM
I'm 3 hours down now, I've made less than $40 ._. I think that's the worst hourly rate I've ever had on SM. STFO is ruining my damn mood! 3 more hours to go :').
I am not STFO tomorrow if I don't hit my minimum goal today, cba to be in a bad mood for a third day, that would be too much! Sorry to be a negative nancy but...ouch lol
Genoveve
10-21-2021, 03:39 PM
3-4 hour goal today.
anonymous camgirl
10-21-2021, 04:13 PM
I just can't do this! Everyday on SM is slow as fuck for me during this contest. And therefore no one on my 4 token sites will even tip.. I rely on the tips from SM customers so the token sites can have a few freebies .. that's the only way they tip or go to pvt i noticed.. I am bowing out after tonight.. I cannot sit here on Friday and Saturday for no reason.. This is the most abysmal contest yet.
Luci Fer
10-22-2021, 12:54 AM
Hahaha yes. That made me laugh. It was pretty dire for a while but it was ok in the end. My hourly was half what it was the day before but I’m well ahead for the week.
Do any U.K./EU girls find that SM customers seem to lack any form of interaction in the afternoons, or is it just me?! I think this would be US AM time. Just an observation I’ve made..
Regardless of whether it’s quiet or I’m making money, getting them to interact is like getting blood out of a stone. Be it free chat, gold shows or private’s. The vast majority just won’t talk or they’ll say like two words.
Come late evening to nighttime, most of them are really enthusiastic and interactive. I’ve noticed this theme for a few weeks now
Yes. I hate daytime, it makes me hate men lol
Seductive_Brit
10-22-2021, 03:12 AM
I've been on for an hour but I'm struggling. I had a lovely dinner last night but I'm hanging a bit and didn't get the best sleep. I drunk called the guy I'm seeing last night and think I pissed him off. He's not responded to my calls or texts and it's really got me down, struggling to stay upbeat. Anyone have advice for STFO when your love life is getting you down? I'm an anxious person so if something is wrong my brain fixates on it until it's sorted, I hate not knowing if someone's mad at me. I like to sort things out. I might have to log off and go for a walk or something then come back on. I don't want to try calling again before lunchtime, I know I shouldn't call at all. It sucks, I know my energy is down and I seem a bit glum on cam, no one wants a show with that. Some sad girl wanting to cry over a guy :(
Esixxx
10-22-2021, 03:34 AM
I've been on for an hour but I'm struggling. I had a lovely dinner last night but I'm hanging a bit and didn't get the best sleep. I drunk called the guy I'm seeing last night and think I pissed him off. He's not responded to my calls or texts and it's really got me down, struggling to stay upbeat. Anyone have advice for STFO when your love life is getting you down? I'm an anxious person so if something is wrong my brain fixates on it until it's sorted, I hate not knowing if someone's mad at me. I like to sort things out. I might have to log off and go for a walk or something then come back on. I don't want to try calling again before lunchtime, I know I shouldn't call at all. It sucks, I know my energy is down and I seem a bit glum on cam, no one wants a show with that. Some sad girl wanting to cry over a guy :(
When shit in my personal life starts getting to me-I take a break and give myself a good cry- it gets the energy out of my body. I understand anxiety and fixating on a problem to get it solved- I have that habit as well. From my experience, the best thing to do is feel your feels to let it go.
Going for a walk helps as well, because it helps with bi lateral stimulation- balancing out the emotional and logical sides of our brains.
I had to do this myself earlier this week- it's been slow on cam for me, PMS starting hit and found out that my daughter may be moving several states away. I logged off cam- cried for a bit, touched up my makeup and got back online. After my shift I let myself have a good ugly cry, journaled wrote out my feelings, took a detox bath to calm my nervous system. \
Self care is important- so whatever that looks like for you and what works for you- feel your feelings, exercise, be kind to yourself, call a friend.
Sending lots of hugs...
Cutie101
10-22-2021, 04:14 AM
Yesterday was a disaster. Today I logged at lunch, forgot to set my alarm clock and woke up late. Hopefully will get better. 8 hours (10 with breaks), let's see how it goes.
Update: 8 hours in, been a good day! Off to do my workout!
Seductive_Brit
10-22-2021, 05:32 AM
When shit in my personal life starts getting to me-I take a break and give myself a good cry- it gets the energy out of my body. I understand anxiety and fixating on a problem to get it solved- I have that habit as well. From my experience, the best thing to do is feel your feels to let it go.
Going for a walk helps as well, because it helps with bi lateral stimulation- balancing out the emotional and logical sides of our brains.
I had to do this myself earlier this week- it's been slow on cam for me, PMS starting hit and found out that my daughter may be moving several states away. I logged off cam- cried for a bit, touched up my makeup and got back online. After my shift I let myself have a good ugly cry, journaled wrote out my feelings, took a detox bath to calm my nervous system. \
Self care is important- so whatever that looks like for you and what works for you- feel your feelings, exercise, be kind to yourself, call a friend.
Sending lots of hugs...
Thank you so much for the advice Esi, very helpful indeed. I went on a walk, spoke to friends and update called the guy and turns out it was all in my head. He wasn't pissed off, he just fell asleep and hadnt gotten round to answering the message yet, asked me out for dinner on the Sunday. When you work on your own from home I think it's quite easy to overthink and fixate isn't it? It's really hard for us in this job sometimes because we're performers and get very affected by mood. Then it's a vicious cycle.
I'm very sorry to hear about how you've been feeling, with the news of your daughter and everything else combined. But I'm sure she's doing it to make a positive and/or necessary change in her life I'm sure you're proud of her for. Sending the biggest hugs right back. Can't really add more to that list than just to say that everything comes in waves and things always get better. I like this saying, "it'll all be OK in the end and if it's not ok, it's not the end". Sending you the hugest of hugs and all the positive energy I can muster!