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SnuffleUffleGrass
01-21-2015, 05:54 PM
Not so much now but when I was younger I had so many women who hated me. They thought I was interested in their husbands and would be mean to me. I didn't do anything that would imply that except be friendly (but I try to be friendly to everyone). Like I would be interested in their fat, sloppy lazy loser husbands when I was young, pretty and thin?

One of our female neighbors did this to my mom a long time ago- it was so depressing/embarrassing to see her confront my mom in front of our house & then zoom off in her car. (BTW my mom didn't do anything- mom was a total prude/bitch but very beautiful so even as a kid I knew the woman was giving into her insecurity and jealousy by having a freak out in front of us.)

TL ; DR- A lot of women are really sad.

Kellydancer
01-21-2015, 11:46 PM
Yeah one of these women started yelling at me to stay away from her husband. She actually scared me because she was a good 100+ pounds heavier. I don't get jealous of younger women even if they are pretty because my attitude is if a man is going to cheat he's going to cheat with anyone.

Heid009
01-22-2015, 04:40 AM
Yeah one of these women started yelling at me to stay away from her husband. She actually scared me because she was a good 100+ pounds heavier. I don't get jealous of younger women even if they are pretty because my attitude is if a man is going to cheat he's going to cheat with anyone.

^This^ so much. Why some women don't get this I don't know.

Kellydancer
01-22-2015, 11:10 AM
That's exactly it. It doesn't matter how hot a woman is or isn't if he's going to cheat he will. Look at Tiger Woods his wife was pretty yet he strayed. This is the case of many people (men and women)I have known or know of. I've met this famous rock musician who is married to a supermodel yet on tour he has affairs. I think she knows (and if rumors are true she has her own affairs)but even her being beautiful hasn't stopped him. Meanwhile I know men married to unattractive women who would never cheat even with a hot woman.

SnuffleUffleGrass
01-28-2015, 03:23 PM
I don't get jealous of younger women even if they are pretty because my attitude is if a man is going to cheat he's going to cheat with anyone.

Yep, a cheater gonna cheat.

You know what's funny I know Kellydancer has gotten bashed for her criteria but to be fair many men are as selective. Also, my aunt is really religious & conservative- she said she refused to look for a new partner after she was widowed. I guess I'm saying that, for some holding to one's values is just as important as finding the right partner. That's fine.

Side note- no one has really pointed out one of the clear upshots of marriage for most people- added financial stability. NOT gold digging on anyone's part but combining living expenses and getting better credit. I hate to say it but even with a divorce after 5-10 years, marriage is still a step up for some!

Kellydancer
01-28-2015, 08:53 PM
Yep, a cheater gonna cheat.

You know what's funny I know Kellydancer has gotten bashed for her criteria but to be fair many men are as selective. Also, my aunt is really religious & conservative- she said she refused to look for a new partner after she was widowed. I guess I'm saying that, for some holding to one's values is just as important as finding the right partner. That's fine.

Side note- no one has really pointed out one of the clear upshots of marriage for most people- added financial stability. NOT gold digging on anyone's part but combining living expenses and getting better credit. I hate to say it but even with a divorce after 5-10 years, marriage is still a step up for some!

Yeah I often get bashed for my requirements but I know men who have stricter rules yet they get passes. The worst were these men who wanted women young enough to be their daughter. You'd think people would say they are picky (saw this often on dating sites)but they get less flack than I do about dating dads. The thing is I don't dislike anyone because they are divorced, I'm just tired of men who are dads attacking me for not dating them and harassing me. I don't go up to random men and say things yet I've had people do this to me and it's worse online. I don't contact these men, they contact me and won't leave me alone even after I tell them to leave me alone.

SnuffleUffleGrass
02-04-2015, 09:45 AM
Yeah I often get bashed for my requirements but I know men who have stricter rules yet they get passes. The worst were these men who wanted women young enough to be their daughter. You'd think people would say they are picky (saw this often on dating sites)but they get less flack than I do about dating dads. The thing is I don't dislike anyone because they are divorced, I'm just tired of men who are dads attacking me for not dating them and harassing me. I don't go up to random men and say things yet I've had people do this to me and it's worse online. I don't contact these men, they contact me and won't leave me alone even after I tell them to leave me alone.

This doesn't surprise me b/c I can confess that my current relationship runs smoothly precisely because I am so much younger than my boyfriend. For a middle aged man getting a younger woman is "living the dream."

Maybe you should re-do your online dating profiles to be more "sporty" or "quirky"? I dunno I have not seem them. I noticed men like to collect women's numbers/contact info like it's collecting sports trading cards. IE not every inquiry about you is sincere, they just do it to say they are "talking" to you.

DippityDoDa
02-04-2015, 11:29 AM
it doesnt matter what you put on your dating profiles. Men dont read them anyway. Ive been on multiple sites for about 8 years. Dont blame the user when the medium is the fault. Well known and documented that internet dating does not work. Men tend to use it when instead they should use the services of this site or similar as a more appropriate outlet for the general behaviour. The sites say they are different but the behaviour is always the same. I just meet an amazing guy via my GPlus account. Internet dating has never worked for me because the focus is always off in the mens head. They have the wrong mind set-not really in dating mode. More they want to pick up quick

Vyanka
02-04-2015, 01:24 PM
Google Joan Collins. She's 82 and her husband (who worships her) is 32 years younger.

Just sayin'.

Kellydancer
02-04-2015, 01:51 PM
This doesn't surprise me b/c I can confess that my current relationship runs smoothly precisely because I am so much younger than my boyfriend. For a middle aged man getting a younger woman is "living the dream."

Maybe you should re-do your online dating profiles to be more "sporty" or "quirky"? I dunno I have not seem them. I noticed men like to collect women's numbers/contact info like it's collecting sports trading cards. IE not every inquiry about you is sincere, they just do it to say they are "talking" to you.

I've thought about that, including updating photos but not sure I want to waste time again. I am considering a paid site in the spring with new photos but I'll probably fail again so not sure. A few weeks ago I put up photos on a free Match profile and got lots of responses but all were from men not what I am seeking (much older or younger or have kids). I couldn't read the messages because it's a free profile but was able to see the profiles of those men who contacted me. Not one was a match for me.


it doesnt matter what you put on your dating profiles. Men dont read them anyway. Ive been on multiple sites for about 8 years. Dont blame the user when the medium is the fault. Well known and documented that internet dating does not work. Men tend to use it when instead they should use the services of this site or similar as a more appropriate outlet for the general behaviour. The sites say they are different but the behaviour is always the same. I just meet an amazing guy via my GPlus account. Internet dating has never worked for me because the focus is always off in the mens head. They have the wrong mind set-not really in dating mode. More they want to pick up quick

True. Yes I got hundreds of responses literally but once I deleted the dads, the much older and much younger, the guys mentioning looking for casual sex, the guys with vastly different religious views (got a lot of Middle Eastern Muslim men and Indian Hindus), the chauvinist jerks and the various other freaks my pickings were much slimmer. Most of these men turned out to be clingy, delusional, liars, married (lots of married men)or turned out to be decent but there was no interest on both of our parts.

funismymiddlename
02-10-2015, 09:10 PM
I forgot to mention.... I'm not saying this is true in all cases but... all of my older neighbors who married younger women were miserable. I had a neighbor who married a woman that was way younger he was elderly she was maybe 40 she used to take all of his money and buy drugs he would curse her out daily and sit outside of his house waiting for her to come back this happened until he died. My other neighbor was basically celebrating once her hubby who was 20 yrs older than her died. I couldn't believe she was so happy. I think men who only want to date younger women are in for a rude awakening. It's fine if you are really in love and it just happened but imo a man who seeks a younger woman on purpose thinking she will be better is in for a rude awakening.

Kellydancer: I don't blame you one bit I WILL NEVER EVER EVER EVER DATE A MAN WHO HAS KIDS. If he wants to spend time and money on someone he can spend it on me not on kids he has with someone else. I should be #1 and if I ever have kids they should be important too. I'd want my future hubby to have a vasectomy bc I don't want him having kids w/ anyone else after me.

Kellydancer
02-11-2015, 02:35 PM
I forgot to mention.... I'm not saying this is true in all cases but... all of my older neighbors who married younger women were miserable. I had a neighbor who married a woman that was way younger he was elderly she was maybe 40 she used to take all of his money and buy drugs he would curse her out daily and sit outside of his house waiting for her to come back this happened until he died. My other neighbor was basically celebrating once her hubby who was 20 yrs older than her died. I couldn't believe she was so happy. I think men who only want to date younger women are in for a rude awakening. It's fine if you are really in love and it just happened but imo a man who seeks a younger woman on purpose thinking she will be better is in for a rude awakening.

Kellydancer: I don't blame you one bit I WILL NEVER EVER EVER EVER DATE A MAN WHO HAS KIDS. If he wants to spend time and money on someone he can spend it on me not on kids he has with someone else. I should be #1 and if I ever have kids they should be important too. I'd want my future hubby to have a vasectomy bc I don't want him having kids w/ anyone else after me.

I'll never get these men wanting much younger because I have seen all that and more. I've seen these men marry younger women then have the woman cheat or divorce him anyway (and often going after him for money). I get that some meet in real life (like at work)and it clicks but these don't seem to be as common as many think. What I have seen the most are these men on dating sites seeking younger and either failing or being screwed financially.

Yeah I get a lot of flack for not dating dads. Some tell me I'll be alone, others tell me I am judgmental and so many other things. I have to assume most of them never dating parents (or are young and think older women are desperate)and don't realize how horrible it is. I've been told I am selfish because I don't want his money and even mine to go towards his kids and that's exactly what'll happen. I've been called a gold digger because I would resent him spending money on his kids instead of me. Not that I care about money but yes would rather date a man struggling financially due to things like job loss than a man struggling because of his kids. I don't want to deal with his drama and rarely does a parent not have drama. I'll always come second to his kids and if they eventually have kids then there are grandkids. Yuck, none of this appeal to me at all.

kortneykay
03-13-2015, 01:09 PM
In my opinion dating is for all ages. Those of us who appear to look younger would put those articles to shame. If you're 30 but look 25, does that article apply as well? No. I'm in my late 20s and I feel a shift but I believe it's because I've been in a relationship (legally) for almost 5 years and haven't dated in forever. It used to be super easy for me to date but I also blame this on my lack of health and location. In higher traffic areas its usually easier to date because you have more options compared to someone who lives in a smaller region and only a few prospects to choose from. Age isn't a factor because we live in a world with 7 billion people on it.