View Full Version : Personality type and dancing/ camming
audrey_k
01-11-2015, 12:46 PM
^^Also, INFJ is the rarest of all the personality types. Like 1-2% of the population are INFJ's. You & I are a rare breed, baby. :)
I'm in the 1-2%, INFJ too (stripping and escorting).
Unkle Fuzzy
01-11-2015, 07:11 PM
Audrey,
From your post history, the evaluation is so "YOU", that it's kind of frightening.
Of course i had the same reaction to my evaluation.
SweetJulia
01-11-2015, 07:14 PM
I think sex work attracts introverts because it rarely requires a 40 hour work week, leaving more time alone.
loveshooks
01-11-2015, 07:27 PM
I'm an ENTJ.
I do see a lot of myself in the description but I don't like that I apparently share the same personality type as Margaret fucking Thatcher :O
Unkle Fuzzy
01-11-2015, 07:47 PM
I think the answer to everyone's questions about introverts and stripping/camwork is this....
No one uses their real identity stripping, on cam, or escorting, so in effect, you are wearing a mask, a false persona so that your real identity is protected.
I used to fill-in for a character guy at my wifes employer. The character wore a fuzzy blue animal costume and was fully enclosed. I found that shyness completely went away when i was in costume and I found it somewhat gratifying to be able to interact openly with complete stangers without embarassment.
You see the very same thing online. No one knows who you really are, and being anonymous allows us to openly speak of things we might be too ambarassed to speak of in person.
There is a problem I have seen in one or two instances, and I would caution those in this , or any other industry, where you wear a false personality as a course of life.
Just as in law enforcment, where an undercover officer can be so wrapped up in the lie that allows him to do his job, that her veers from things he would normally do, a sex-worker can be drawn by money, ego, or "The Rush", into doing something that there normal day to day personality would find distasteful, or just plain wrong. This act when looked at by the real life persona can have a devastating effect.
I guess the important thing to keep in mind is that your "Mask Persona" should never truly rule your life and the thing you do, np matter how hard up you are for money or sucess, the price, if your real persona dislikes it, is likely to be far too high. If in desperation you must cross that line, get back on the right side as quickly as possible, in order to minimize the damage. If you must justify an act to yourself, or others that you normally agree with, your false persona is probably being allowed too much say in your life.
Tourdefranzia
01-12-2015, 11:28 AM
INTJ
I'm curious how many introverts are here!
I'm also INTJ. Dancers who are extreme extroverts seem to burn out pretty quickly. Being on the introversion side of the scale helps with staying under control and forces us to create a work/life balance.
audritwo
01-12-2015, 05:17 PM
Got to question 21: You know how to put every minute of your time to good purpose
I should be working right now.
lol1337a
01-12-2015, 05:28 PM
^^I want to know your type though! Probably weird of me, lol.
Selina M
01-12-2015, 06:13 PM
Got to question 21: You know how to put every minute of your time to good purpose
I should be working right now.
:rotfl:
My thoughts exactly.
Tour, that's interesting you say the extroverts burn out faster. I wonder why since they like people more than the introverts...
I don't burn out as long as I have some way I can keep making work a "project" or competition of some kind, with problems to solve. On the other hand, I do generally take 5-6 days off in a row each month so that I can come back down out of stripper brain (which is super hyper, get shit done mode) and go back into introvert mode.
lol1337a
01-12-2015, 06:58 PM
I've read that introverts tend to do better with one-on-one sales, and no matter how many groups you encounter in the club, almost every dance/VIP sold is to an individual. Maybe this is because extraverts get bored spending so much of their time interacting with one customer at a time?
I could see where a lot of extraverts would do great presenting a sales pitch to a large group, though. Like some sort of high level, corporate sales job. To be fair though, I've seen extraverted coworkers do extremely well teaming up and hustling groups, which is the closest you can get to that dynamic in a strip club. I'm talking insanely high earners. Unfortunately a lot of these dancers do a ton of extras, but I've had the awesome experience of getting pulled into a room with a couple groups where they didn't do any extras. The way they played off each other to keep the customers entertained for hours was inspiring, and I regret that it's just not my thing.
Selina M
01-12-2015, 08:28 PM
I just know I run out of ideas to be entertaining very quickly when presented with even 2 guys at the same time. It is much easier to forge a connection with one single guy where you can analyze his every reaction and adjust your approach accordingly.
audritwo
01-12-2015, 09:02 PM
ISFJ
Yeah I got lots of feels.
Unkle Fuzzy
01-12-2015, 09:17 PM
If you think about extroverts, they go into the club to party, while introverts pretend to be into the party, but they are there to work.
Extroverts and burn-out? Just how long can anyone party, for real, every day, and last without burning-out. With introverts it's just a job, but extroverts actually "live the life".
lol1337a
01-13-2015, 01:43 AM
I really needed to bow out of this thread after my first 20 posts, but a lot of introverts are very talkative and unselfconscious in social interactions. I'm a very strong introvert but still will dominate my fair share of conversations, and my social anxiety only occurs before and after interactions (not during). You can't really tell the difference between most introverts and most extraverts based on performance alone, but by how often they seek/enjoy interaction with new people (or even close friends), and whether you usually feel recharged or drained by a lot of interaction.
Selina M
01-13-2015, 10:13 PM
^^ Meeee too. I can run around the club being the most magnetic person in there, and with my friends I'm always the loud obnoxious one taking control of situations... but as soon as I'm out of the scenario I want to stab a meat thermometer through the eye of anyone who talks to me. I think the key word is "actively seeking out friends". I have all the same friends from high school and maybe 3 from college and have mostly just LOST friends through not wanting to deal with bullshit.
Flickdreams
01-14-2015, 09:03 PM
^ Thats me too. I'm fine in particular social situations in certain circumstances but I need my alone time or I get very tense. I'm fine with large groups at work but excell with one on one or two on one situations where I can 'read' and 'adjust'.
Gia2608
01-14-2015, 09:23 PM
ENFP; maybe I missed something but I think I might be the only one with this so far
Gia2608
01-14-2015, 09:26 PM
Wow; actually I googled that personality type and its spot on for me
threlayer
02-07-2015, 08:47 PM
We did this here several years ago and found it interesting then too.
I liked the book "Please Understand Me" and it taught me a lot.
I found another book about relationships based M-B type scores. Summarizing extremely, it said that couples of the same type were overly specialized and couples with completely opposite types had many issues to compromise over. Best records for emotional and practical aspects of living, according to the authors, is if couples had 2 of the four traits in common. One or 3 not as much, but 0 or 4 had some things to work out. All I know is that my coupling with a person having no traits in common was pretty much unsuccessful in important ways, especially emotionally.
lol1337a
02-07-2015, 09:21 PM
I've been going down a type analysis rabbit hole and reading books about it as a hobby.. It's pretty fun if you're into that kind of thing.
I think any type can work out with any other type provided they share similar values, have good communication skills, and something interesting to the table. But I'm not going to lie, my best relationships have been with ENFP's. As an INTP that follows the two letter thing you mentioned. Don't know the types of my worst relationships, but they were definitely not with ENFPs.
Would anyone who knows the types of their best relationships be willing to share?
Selina M
02-07-2015, 09:30 PM
Summarizing extremely, it said that couples of the same type were overly specialized and couples with completely opposite types had many issues to compromise over. Best records for emotional and practical aspects of living, according to the authors, is if couples had 2 of the four traits in common. One or 3 not as much, but 0 or 4 had some things to work out. All I know is that my coupling with a person having no traits in common was pretty much unsuccessful in important ways, especially emotionally.
That's interesting. I think it depends on which of the traits you are different in... I feel like an ENFJ and an INFJ might be perfectly fine as long as they recognize their opposite socialization preferences and the I gets their alone time.
Edit to add for lol1337a: I am INTJ while my bf is INFJ, which is kind of a challenge sometimes. I can definitely pinpoint a good deal of our arguments to that T/F difference. I can be pretty cold and callous, and he is obviously more sensitive so I tend to accidentally hurt his feelings often. I also have a very hard time expressing emotional crap (can you tell?), so I've had to explain to him that I show affection in different ways, like filling out his calendar or shoving a sandwich at him before work. When I give him "You need to put a ring on it soon, I'm leaving the country next year and you have to be married for a visa", that's my way of saying "Omfg I can't imagine not having you with me, I love you, let's get married" :eye roll:
My ex was very likely also an INTJ (I questioned whether he had Aspergers at one point, he is very much like Sheldon from Big Bang). That relationship had its separate issues from personality type, but it was also probably not likely to work out because neither of us showed any "F" and you can imagine what that does to a "romantic" relationship. Had we been rich, would have been like the couple from House of Cards. So I think 2 people with the exact same type would have issues long term.
Another thought: Do y'all think it's possible to change personality types? Or do some people have a 50/50 balance of say, P and J, and just show one or the other at a time?
Like, while I am very rational ("thinking") 90% of the time, sometimes I literally make a decision to be "feeling". For example, bf wasted his phone battery the other day so I couldn't tell him a change of plans; my T side logically went "Ok he obviously thought he wouldn't need his phone, it's an accident, let it go" but then for some reason I made a conscious decision to be an F and get upset... thus becoming the stereotypical irrational girlfriend that makes guys say they don't understand women.
lol1337a
02-08-2015, 04:19 PM
The most common argument is that you can't change types, and the four letter results are just a starting point. There's 'cognitive functions' (I think it's more preference than function) for each type, and your 'true' type is defined by those. Some people say there are shadow functions that are opposite to your preferences, and you tap into them sometimes, although not productively.
I'm not sure if I buy it, but it's sort of a run rabbit hole.
jessicag
02-12-2015, 01:42 AM
ENFP; maybe I missed something but I think I might be the only one with this so far
Im an ENFP too. Go back 4 or 5 years and I was an INFP but a lot of that is because I had a weirdly romanticised idea of introversion and a weird fear that if I was an extrovert it would mean people had a consistent expectation of me to be totally open and sociable all the time and I couldn't deal with that. Now I'm an extrovert who knows how to set her own boundaries (most of the time)
MyButter
02-12-2015, 06:30 AM
^I've read somewhere that ENFPs are the most introverted extroverts. I thought that was pretty interesting.
jessicag
02-12-2015, 07:08 AM
^I've read somewhere that ENFPs are the most introverted extroverts. I thought that was pretty interesting.
Oooo. That would make sense. ENFPs are meant to be pretty big on empathy which I think makes it hard with boundaries sometimes. It's why I end up doing a lot of girlfriend experience stuff on cam I think. End up drawing guys who need some extra comfort. My biggest paying regular is a guy who's living abroad for business for the next 5 years - I stay full clothed in our sessions and we just chat about normal stuff.
theonewho
02-12-2015, 07:35 AM
I got INFJ
missyamaya
02-17-2015, 05:14 PM
ENFP. But I'm also very introverted, too.
Most people are usually around 50% I and 50% E, with a little more or less on either side.
threlayer
03-19-2015, 12:13 PM
As I understand and have experienced it, as one matures sanely, one kind of evens out the imbalances. I have become less T and more toward F, and less I and more E, for example. This is not an artificial thing one can do with effort; it is just an evolving change.
threlayer
03-19-2015, 12:17 PM
I found that the INTP is very common among dancers even though it is one of the rarest among thew general population. I don't know why except maybe for the immersion into the [sexually] acting persona.
ImmoralAllure
07-14-2015, 05:11 PM
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MyRealNameIsWeird
07-15-2015, 12:59 AM
INTJ. Always and always solidly. Combined with a few other mental troubles (genetic brain formation, not upbringing, in case any trolls decide I'm a case study) seems to make me somehow very risk-averse whilst being also very norm-averse.
MyRealNameIsWeird
07-15-2015, 01:02 AM
I am an INTJ and I am so fascinated that there are so many others here considering only 1% of the population is a female INTJ.
Also came across this thread with a poll where 88 dancers/camgirls have voted: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?110568-MBTI-Types-Poll
Very interesting stuff!
I know, right? I hardly know any other INTJs or similar (INFJ, INFP, INTP), but here it seems kind of common. Maybe part of it is the practical element? Lots of other people are scared about sex work but INTJs just shrug and say "money's money" and get on with it. Plus, it gives introverts a chance to shine a little. I can't imagine doing half the stuff I do on cams in person. But it's kind of fun to let loose once in a while.
wednesday86
12-06-2015, 04:00 PM
I came across this great video about INTJ and Ni types. Kinda long (25 mins) but spot on. Thought I'd share since there are so many INTJ's/I's/N's in this thread.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km7ga7HON20&feature=youtu.be
MissLouboutin
12-06-2015, 04:20 PM
I'm an ENTP
Selina M
12-06-2015, 07:51 PM
INTJ. Always and always solidly. Combined with a few other mental troubles (genetic brain formation, not upbringing, in case any trolls decide I'm a case study) seems to make me somehow very risk-averse whilst being also very norm-averse.
That's interesting. If I'm interpreting that correctly, I think I'm the same way. I apparently have extra genetic material; it was apparently concerning enough that my mom was advised to abort. I wonder if that's anything to do with personality type or similar to what you have.
Tourdefranzia
12-08-2015, 09:58 AM
INTJ only barely on the introverted side. 51% introvert. I found camming boring if I didn't have an appointment set up. I worked on MFC and Streammate for a few months. My preference is club work. I like shooting and editing videos for YouTube for my Real Estate business, so I guess it's just the interactions on cam that I found boring.
threlayer
12-15-2015, 04:16 PM
Here's more on personality types -- Unemployment.
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whirlerz
12-16-2015, 09:50 PM
^^Also, INFJ is the rarest of all the personality types. Like 1-2% of the population are INFJ's. You & I are a rare breed, baby. :)
INFJ here. :)
whirlerz
01-01-2016, 09:33 AM
Bumpy Bump
crazycatdude
01-01-2016, 01:15 PM
INFJ. Which is extremely spot on for me haha
whirlerz
03-30-2016, 06:01 PM
Michelle Phan's an INFJ. Just sayin'.:)
DonaDiabla
03-30-2016, 10:18 PM
I am both a INFJ and Dark Triad woman. So...yay :)
spunkaluscious
03-31-2016, 10:46 AM
I am an ENTJ.... Pretty fitting.
whirlerz
03-31-2016, 12:00 PM
I am both a INFJ and Dark Triad woman. So...yay :)
Ooh, like me! I knew we had things in common. :)
INFP - was dancing, now camming - which suits me much better