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cherryblossomsinspring
01-28-2015, 01:40 AM
Hugs gingersnaps!

I went through the same thing with both my mega whales. I got too comfortable and started thinking hmm this guy is really great. As soon as I started laying back that's when shit got real. The push to meet to fuck started to get over kill. Obviously it wasn't worded that way but it was the sweet " just dinner". Nope not doing it ever. Eventually what happened is the guy just started disappearing or playing games when it came to doing privates or skype. Then he started that whiny bullshit of " I'm catching feefees" yawnnnnnnn. Every time I turned around I started catching the guy in bold face lies. have work to do so she leaves him alone and then he pops in on cam sites.

The money was good but the push just got worse and worse and the lies were just nauseating. Now I'm the type of person to call them on their shit which guys like this don't like so they do that gaslighting crap! Now it's all in your head or you're imagining things. Nice try but that crap doesn't work on me.

After a while the guy was saying "hey do you want to go private?" then I said umm ok and he's like " only if you really want to" and I"m thinking wtf is the game? Sure enough " well I'm going to bed byeeee!"

Yes that "please want me desperation crap started and then " fuck you bitch .... leaving" came afterwards.

Even tipping became crap throwing here and there from someone that was clearly spending K. Even comments like " wow that was a short private, or hey you should put up some ads to get business". Yes so now I'm doing ok without him. Actually it's made me pushier with some men and I'm getting more from people that I typically didn't reach out to. With him out of the picture I'm also connecting with new members that have only seen me because I'm actually around:)

I started talking to another big time tipper that popped into my room night to "impress tip". Same situation different day. I dropped him from my friend's list faster than any other high tipper in history. He tipped did a long private and by the time I spoke to him again he was already doing the sales pitch of "I'm doing x,y,z for this model and I pushed her to this position on mfc". I"m sitting there thinking "and why are you telling me this". I mean if you're tipping 20K tokens in this model's room , why are you telling me? Ohh I get it, praise from her isn't enough you want someone to say "oooh wowweee wish that was me!" Sorry bub got that and more already.

Then he said something that sounded really crappy. He said she was calling him yet he not only ignored her calls but he sat back and watched her rank slip. He mentioned loving "challenges" and I thought wow sounds cold.

Next he went into how his next challenge was going to be taking the next model " that will fly to live out her days by his side" to the top. I thought hmm. This guy had to be going into a 4 hour chat about what he does for models yet in that time couldn't send over a damn tip. The good thing was I had a sub that was blowing up my room in tips so sitting there listening to this guy wasn't costing me anything even though he thought it was. The next stupid line that I've only received from men his age was " text me when you wake up" lol What I heard was " chase my money". I nearly vomited in my mouth with that comment and thought hmm so you go into not wanting to pushed by models but you clearly know I charge for phone. It's like he thought he had some weird "model history credit" .I realized he was probably out of money with how hard he was selling his "good deeds" but 4hrs in my pm wasn't enough. He wanted more free time on my own phone. HAAAAAAAAAAA!

I said first off I don't give my number to anyone but there is an option for phone that you can tip for on my profile. Then I got that creeper response " you just have to know who to give your number to". I said you're right men that spend for it.

I made a comment in free chat towards that sub I was playing with (multi-tasking) and once mega bucks saw the tips he logged off. Aww did you really think I have 4 hours to chat with you and let you dangle the "possibility" of money in my face? No daaahling.


Point is the high spenders get off on getting you comfortable with their spending that you don't actually reach out to other customers. Next thing you know your regular customer base just dries up and it's like you're starting from scratch. Then they pop in to taunt your dried up stats but if you play it just right you'll find a new base and a fresh group of people that spend and spend well enough that several of them = made it.

Other members try to reverse how camming works. Instead of going to models they try to flip it where models are chasing them down looking for money. Once I realize this I drop them and let the game come back to my court.

1pandoradesire
01-28-2015, 06:34 AM
Well you girls have convinced me I need a new toy.. I have been using this toxic rubber toy for awhile.. and I have had a yeast infection since October that I cannot shake.. I have done everything and it keeps coming back.. and I find I am not bothered til I use this toxic toy and it flares up again.. and I start getting itchy.. thanks girls.. I have been putting it off cuz silicone toys are so expensive!..I am ordering one tonite!
I use glass toys, guys love it and it is very easy to clean. The great thing about glass is when I am working a full day and know its gonna get a bit sore down there i put the toy in a bowl of ice water, its awesome.

amanda121
01-28-2015, 07:33 AM
Well, I would advise that you try to only stick with camsites and discreet online payment methods in the future, don't share any personal info and stuff like that, for money. I don't think its worth it, because the ones who claim they will "take care for you" and blah blah are usually just bs. Why would someone send such a big amount of money to a person he doesn't know very good at all? Also in RL, be careful with men and big promises, if it sounds too good to be true, then it probably is.

About UTI...If you are on any form of hormonal birth control (implants, pills, patch, even some IUDs contain hormones nowadays) that is a huge risk factor. Also menopause, but I don't think you are there yet, right? It causes oestrogen levels to drop and oestrogen has protective effect on tissues. I would really suggest you use only condoms for a couple of months, and you will see how it goes. And if your hubby is passing any kind of bacteria on you, they will prevent this, too. Also, have you been tested on chlamydia, gonorrhea and other STD? I know it might sound unbeliveable, but many people get this and don't know for many years. I really hope you get well soon.

Jinja
01-28-2015, 07:54 AM
tuesday he wanted to do a three way call
to pay off my debt.. sure whatever.let me know when ur ready and ill have my loan people call you.

This was the most concerning part to me. Does this guy know your real name? Because he could easily get that, plus your address and more by directly speaking to your loan company.

cherryblossomsinspring
01-28-2015, 10:10 AM
mkay! good to know yeah im looking at 100% silicone toys like tantus and throwing out the ole hitachi for a silicone vibe.
itll cost a pretty penny to replace all my toys but i need something that isnt gonna grow bacteria
also my hitachi when i was done i just threw it on the ground under my bed. and who knows if my cats walked on it.. hubby thinks thats it and since its rubber.. itll grow stuff. and yeah. so thats gone.

I had UTI issues as well in the past that I always keep a box of those test strips. Water Water Water. Constantly keep your system flushed out. If you can get used to drinking alot of real cranberry juice do that. Make sure it says 100% juice and not that cranberry juice cocktail crap that is barely 18%.

What"s also probably happening is that somehow you're being re-infected. Is your guy uncircumsized? If so you may want to baby him a bit and really get in there with the couple's shower scene. Most of my chronic UTI issues seemed to happen around sex with my bf in the past. <--Stopped having sex for maybe 3 months and I went full condom style after that.

Also yogurt !Get comfortable eating that daily if you can(probiotics) keeps the good bacteria up and the bad bacteria at bay.

Lack of appetite? Try some of those Ensure shakes. Yes I know makes you feel like an old bitty but they really taste good. (strawberry is the best in my opinion)

Have to go to the bathroom? Do not hold it at all. Once you feel you got to go get up and go immediately. Rinse and repeat.

Drink some hot Goldenseal tea with honey. It's not the best tasting stuff but the honey will help not make it taste so strong.

Another thing I'm worried about is maybe this is no longer a UTI but a Bladder Infection. I was in the hospital for a week once with a bladder infection. Not fun but the anti nausea meds were great! Ok well they were great after 5mins. Something about the reaction I get with one of them makes your skin crawl or makes you feel like you want to rip your skin off.:'( The feeling subsides in 2-5 mins. }:D

Sorry you're going through this and I know it sucks. Hang in there gingersnaps:)

cherryblossomsinspring
01-28-2015, 11:00 AM
This was the most concerning part to me. Does this guy know your real name? Because he could easily get that, plus your address and more by directly speaking to your loan company.

Same here I never give them any real information. Fuck that.


I get everything from "what time is it there" Answer : The same time it is there. Yup I don't give any of theses men shit or I just put several different location tidbits up on the internet and let them choose which one they think is the truth.

Even my computer time is some off the wall time that isn't anywhere local to me, just in case I share screens the guy will think " haha I know where she is!" Nope bitch that time zone is probably 5 hrs away from where I am or 3 hrs away from where I am.

I always keep them guessing because guys spend for information or trying to get closer and one guy said " ooh I know you live ......" I said really? He's like I will not tell anyone! Lol Wrong again but I'll let him believe I'm there. I know the locations of about 5 other models he cams with. I know all of their personal shit too because he blabs their business to me every time we cam.

Trust No One.

I just had a guy in my room say " Wow I'm grateful not to be in this one "state" . I said good for you. I already knew " trying to verify where I am" and this guy just sits in my room every time I log in. He doesn't tip or talk, he just tries to watch and see if some information pops out. I'm thinking great! He fell for my other fake location:) Love these stupid slick fucks:)

When I do phone I pick yet another location. Hhahah !

lemonberry
01-28-2015, 11:23 AM
I always keep them guessing because guys spend for information or trying to get closer and one guy said " ooh I know you live ......" I said really? He's like I will not tell anyone! Lol Wrong again but I'll let him believe I'm there. I know the locations of about 5 other models he cams with. I know all of their personal shit too because he blabs their business to me every time we cam.





What a dick. Be funny if the other models are doing the same thing you are. :D

anoncamgirl
01-28-2015, 03:33 PM
I had a similar issue with a very good regular of mine. I let him get way too close. The money was really good, we spent several sessions just chatting. I felt like he understood me.

I asked him if he wanted to be friends instead. I waited for a few days for him to respond, thinking it was taking a while because of Christmas break. He never responded. Just completely blew me off.

It still stings a little.

I'm happy for the valuable lesson he taught me, though.

AliceFun
01-28-2015, 04:20 PM
^^^ Can u clarify what u mean by "wanting to be friends instead' pls? Instead of what? I wanna make sure i understand u right ;) , Ty

anoncamgirl
01-28-2015, 05:37 PM
Like actual friends. A friendship. Not a relationship, no payment, no sugar daddy type of stuff. Just a regular friendship. :)

laurielegs
01-28-2015, 05:40 PM
Like actual friends. A friendship. Not a relationship, no payment, no sugar daddy type of stuff. Just a regular friendship. :)

Having a paying viewer into a "friend" is my worst nightmare, lol.

lemonberry
01-28-2015, 05:46 PM
Having a paying viewer into a "friend" is my worst nightmare, lol.

Thats when my finger tends to slip and I hit the block button. oops.

AliceFun
01-28-2015, 09:43 PM
Like actual friends. A friendship. Not a relationship, no payment, no sugar daddy type of stuff. Just a regular friendship. :)

Right, thanks for clarifying, u said already that u learned ur lesson so u know it was a poor decision to ask a PAYING member to be friends with you cause being friends means NO NEED to pay anymore & this is something WE DONT WANT from our CUSTOMERS. We want to keep them paying, i know i blocked a regular recently cause he believed we are friends by now & was not spending anymore, NO, YOU believe i am ur friend, I know u are my customer so u need to pay for my attention, if not, BLOCK!

ETA: maybe the guy was into spending big, this was his fetish actually & now he's going to pay other model(s), this could explain why he is gone cause i see no other reason for him not to return unless he has personal issues there.