View Full Version : has anyone tried Seeking Arrangements or other similar websites sugar daddies, etc
ThornyAndHot
11-21-2017, 02:58 PM
I tried it for about a month and got guys hounding me for sex, and berating me in my profile for insinuating that I don't have sex with SA daddies. I've legitimately turned down a man propositioning me for $60k, I just can't do it.
Bahuba
11-22-2017, 03:09 AM
We’ve had the frank discussion from both sides here to quantify how much of the sugar world is non-sexual with many long time participants on both sides, and we arrived at the fact that non-sexual sugaring is about 5 to 10% of the market.
It is not 100% sexual as many SDs seem to imagine nor is it 50% non-sexual as some wannabe babies claim.
Thus, getting a non-sexual arrangement in what is often referred to as a “buyers market” is difficult and rare, but can theoretically happen.
TheBrownFox
11-22-2017, 10:51 AM
We’ve had the frank discussion from both sides here to quantify how much of the sugar world is non-sexual with many long time participants on both sides, and we arrived at the fact that non-sexual sugaring is about 5 to 10% of the market.
It is not 100% sexual as many SDs seem to imagine nor is it 50% non-sexual as some wannabe babies claim.
Thus, getting a non-sexual arrangement in what is often referred to as a “buyers market” is difficult and rare, but can theoretically happen.
Almost all of these guys expect sex. It may not be on the first meet. But if you decide to pursue things beyond that first meet, and they are talking about either a monthly allowance or a pay per meet arrangement, they are expecting sex...I don't care what their SD profile says.
A friend of mine told me that some guy on Established Men sent her $900 without them even meeting. I don't know how she does it! Can y'all please tell me where you're finding these guys offering $500 + up, and only expecting dinner? I wish I had guys like that contacting me.
Now a little while ago, I did meet with a 60-something year old man who gave me $500, and we just had coffee at Dunkin Donuts and talked. He'd come all the way up from the city to see me, and that was the only time I'd seen him. I met a second guy from Established Men who'd given me $50 on the first meet to go towards my son's Halloween costume (He'd heard me talk about how I needed to get his costume asap). On the second meet he gave me $200.
I've messaged with other guys on Established Men and Seeking Arrangement, but a lot of them are flakes and just all talk...or just wanna get your number so they can text you to death.
Don't even get me started on What's Your Price. I have yet to meet anyone from that site. I have accepted offers, and they've never followed up to let me know when we could meet.
A few nights ago I met up with this guy from Seeking Arrangement. He has a job working with animals, transporting them and whatnot. I thought that sounded really interesting! We had a Dunkin Donuts coffee (Yes, I love meeting up with people over DD coffee! LOL!), he took me to a diner around here where I had a delicious meal and interesting conversation, and he gave me $100 afterwards. He's been the coolest guy so far.
Hell, I even saw a Craigslist ad where some guy said he's seeking a "low maintenance sugar baby." I thought wtf does that mean? I talked with him, and it turns out he's only offering like $200 PER MONTH. LOL. I hate how all of these men who give women a little bit of cash think they're sugar daddies all of a sudden. My friend calls them "Splenda Daddies." Lol.
SnuffleUffleGrass
11-22-2017, 11:10 AM
In my experience the non sexual SDs are either too old to function for sex but want arm candy/friendship. Or they are gay.
Fair warning what's your price is full of nutters & apparently some trolls catfish the guys on there. It's not really user friendly.
Bahuba
11-22-2017, 02:58 PM
Almost all of these guys expect sex. It may not be on the first meet. But if you decide to pursue things beyond that first meet, and they are talking about either a monthly allowance or a pay per meet arrangement, they are expecting sex...I don't care what their SD profile says.
A friend of mine told me that some guy on Established Men sent her $900 without them even meeting. I don't know how she does it! Can y'all please tell me where you're finding these guys offering $500 + up, and only expecting dinner? I wish I had guys like that contacting me.
Now a little while ago, I did meet with a 60-something year old man who gave me $500, and we just had coffee at Dunkin Donuts and talked. He'd come all the way up from the city to see me, and that was the only time I'd seen him. I met a second guy from Established Men who'd given me $50 on the first meet to go towards my son's Halloween costume (He'd heard me talk about how I needed to get his costume asap). On the second meet he gave me $200.
I've messaged with other guys on Established Men and Seeking Arrangement, but a lot of them are flakes and just all talk...or just wanna get your number so they can text you to death.
Don't even get me started on What's Your Price. I have yet to meet anyone from that site. I have accepted offers, and they've never followed up to let me know when we could meet.
A few nights ago I met up with this guy from Seeking Arrangement. He has a job working with animals, transporting them and whatnot. I thought that sounded really interesting! We had a Dunkin Donuts coffee (Yes, I love meeting up with people over DD coffee! LOL!), he took me to a diner around here where I had a delicious meal and interesting conversation, and he gave me $100 afterwards. He's been the coolest guy so far.
Hell, I even saw a Craigslist ad where some guy said he's seeking a "low maintenance sugar baby." I thought wtf does that mean? I talked with him, and it turns out he's only offering like $200 PER MONTH. LOL. I hate how all of these men who give women a little bit of cash think they're sugar daddies all of a sudden. My friend calls them "Splenda Daddies." Lol.
That's the term for them, or salt daddies :-)
If you're looking for non-sexual, be prepared to search extensively. From what I read, it is difficult to find a legitimate SD because really only 2-3% of would be SDs can properly afford the $2000/m most SBs want. If you're attractive and smart, you can find a sexual SD over time. But non-sexual will be a challenge. They're already rare and SBs tend to try to keep them once they have them.
TheBrownFox
11-27-2017, 12:43 PM
I just reread the SA profile of some dude who's been messaging me, and it says "No discussing money until our fourth date." It also says that if each date isn't at least 2 hours long, he's not interested. LMFAO!!!!! Yeah, um...it doesn't work that way, dear! As soon as I saw that, I sent his conversation thread right on over to the 'Archive Conversation' pile.
blondhottie
11-27-2017, 02:37 PM
LOL that dude is probably trying to get as many free dates from women as he can before they catch on to him. That's a Splenda daddy, not a sugar daddy.
I just reread the SA profile of some dude who's been messaging me, and it says "No discussing money until our fourth date." It also says that if each date isn't at least 2 hours long, he's not interested. LMFAO!!!!! Yeah, um...it doesn't work that way, dear! As soon as I saw that, I sent his conversation thread right on over to the 'Archive Conversation' pile.
SnuffleUffleGrass
11-27-2017, 04:47 PM
I just reread the SA profile of some dude who's been messaging me, and it says "No discussing money until our fourth date." It also says that if each date isn't at least 2 hours long, he's not interested. LMFAO!!!!! Yeah, um...it doesn't work that way, dear! As soon as I saw that, I sent his conversation thread right on over to the 'Archive Conversation' pile.
There are so many delusional guys on these sites. You have to view their shit as entertainment.
TheBrownFox
12-12-2017, 06:17 AM
I wish What’s Your Price would stop sending me “Your profile has been approved” e-mails every time I make a small change to my profile. Lol. When I see that I’ve gotten an e-mail from them, it just gets my hopes up that a guy is actually sending an offer or something. Lol.
WendiStarr
12-12-2017, 12:57 PM
WYP is a waste of time, imo. They make it so that the guy has to pay to unlock the "date" and be able to contact you. While having to pay to do that can weed out the salt daddies, most of them don't seem to want to have to pay to be able to message you. They'll just resort to meaningless winks but nothing beyond. Some think that the $ they spent to be able to message you went to your pocket. I had that happen before with just a coffee shop date. He got all mad like,"I already had to pay $50 to you just to message you! Why do you want another $50?" He didn't seem to understand that the site charged him to message me, not me.
JuicyJ215646
12-13-2017, 01:58 AM
"Splenda Daddies" rotfl ;D
TheBrownFox
12-14-2017, 07:15 PM
WYP is a waste of time, imo. They make it so that the guy has to pay to unlock the "date" and be able to contact you. While having to pay to do that can weed out the salt daddies, most of them don't seem to want to have to pay to be able to message you. They'll just resort to meaningless winks but nothing beyond. Some think that the $ they spent to be able to message you went to your pocket. I had that happen before with just a coffee shop date. He got all mad like,"I already had to pay $50 to you just to message you! Why do you want another $50?" He didn't seem to understand that the site charged him to message me, not me.
I agree that WYP is a complete waste of time. I have accepted offers on there from weeks or months ago, and STILL have not met up with any of these guys.
blondhottie
12-15-2017, 08:35 AM
I never had any luck on any of the sugar daddy sites. I think it may be worth it in a larger city, but I live in a hick town in Wisconsin. lol Most of the guys who messaged me were looking for a hooker for cheap, or would disappear when it came time to meet up.
TheBrownFox
12-25-2017, 07:29 AM
These men really need to do their research on what the fuck a sugar daddy is before they join sites such as Seeking Arrangement, Established Men, etc. and basically insult us women for our $$$ expectations.
I just had a guy on SA message me talking about "If you're looking for someone to pay all your rent and bills, it sounds like you're kinda looking for a husband." LMFAO! Um...NO, idiot. First of all, I never actually said I needed ALL my rent and bills paid, so don't put words in my mouth. Second, what the fuck do you think sugar daddies do anyway? *facepalm*
In all of my conversations with these SA dudes, I have never ever led anyone to believe that I'm looking for a husband or a boyfriend (I don't want either of those things...lmao_). This fool thinks that having your rent and bills paid means you're looking for a husband. *facepalm* And he's another of these clowns whose profile photo is of him in the gym. I find that these gym buffs are the most arrogant of men, which is a turnoff to me.
I reminded him of what kind of site he's on, and told him he needs to familiarize himself with how sugaring works, as well as what the typical $$$ expectations are. IF this guy actually does some research (I doubt he will), he'll be in for a rude awakening when he sees that SD's are offering SB's $500 pay per meet rates and up (Some are paying monthly allowances of $2,000 and up). In fact, I told him this, and told him that maybe Craigslist or Backpage is more suited for him because I don't think we will make a good match.
I can't stand these men that have the nerve to insult women for their expectations. Keep your ass off Seeking Arrangement or Established Men, if you're just another cheap guy looking for a cheap hookup.
These guys also SUCK at making conversation.
Him: Hi
Me: Hey, how's it going?
Him: Good. HBU?
*facepalm* Boooring!
TheBrownFox
02-12-2018, 06:24 PM
Bumping this thread...
So someone on here had mentioned checking out the sugaring areas of Reddit (I'm not a big Reddit person, but I checked it out). HOLY SHIT. One of the two moderators of the subforum 'S U G A R D A D D Y' (The moderator is 'SugarDaddy') is a real DICK. Every other post of his he's calling female posters on there 'dumb cunts' or 'bitches'. He actually banned me from there after I'd told him about himself via private message (I had asked him a simple question about something, and he went off and started calling me 'thot'...'cunt'...etc.).
It's too many young dudes on there anyway just looking to fuck. I met one guy off there recently who paid my rent for me online, and then refunded the money back to his bank account later. Fucking unbelievable. Always make these dudes give you cash. None of this "I'll pay your rent online" bullshit. It is so easy for them to turn around and reverse the charges.
WendiStarr
02-15-2018, 06:20 AM
^ Ugh, I hate that(salt daddies who send $ online and then turn around and get a refund)! I've had that happen before, too. Cash is king. If they can't pay in cash, I don't bother with them because of how easy it is for them to be a douche and reverse payment electronically. They can't do that with cash in hand.
sweetcrush
02-18-2018, 07:00 AM
Bumping this thread...
So someone on here had mentioned checking out the sugaring areas of Reddit (I'm not a big Reddit person, but I checked it out). HOLY SHIT. One of the two moderators of the subforum 'S U G A R D A D D Y' (The moderator is 'SugarDaddy') is a real DICK. Every other post of his he's calling female posters on there 'dumb cunts' or 'bitches'. He actually banned me from there after I'd told him about himself via private message (I had asked him a simple question about something, and he went off and started calling me 'thot'...'cunt'...etc.).
It's too many young dudes on there anyway just looking to fuck. I met one guy off there recently who paid my rent for me online, and then refunded the money back to his bank account later. Fucking unbelievable. Always make these dudes give you cash. None of this "I'll pay your rent online" bullshit. It is so easy for them to turn around and reverse the charges.
No more online cash app pay pal; none of it! I’m sure all the seasoned ladies on here know better. Luckily I haven’t had to deal with a charge back via these online payment dealys but I’m so done with internet escorting and advertising. It’s too easy to get caught and with all the recent busts, I wouldn’t be surprised if they go after these arrangement websites next.
Bahuba
02-18-2018, 10:03 AM
This issue of payment needs to be solved. Now BTC does this (no chargebacks, no identities) but encourages scammers on the other side of the equation. There needs to be a blind escrow version of BTC.
WendiStarr
03-06-2018, 06:18 PM
Eww, I think I'm giving up on all SD sites. My area has these these kinds of gems:
"About Me
32 vergin seeks wild lover up to ?? wil cook clean and fuck u anyway u want except wont lick ass or take it in ass or 3 wqy with other guy having kids not problom but must be willing to have at least one with me i am ashhmatic s ask anything u'd like to know serious replies only please contact i prefer skype if have webcam would like to see u on it currently unemployed but looking so dont ask for money and dont write to advertise diff paysite u on turn ons shaved pussy tats percings pigtails thanks to porn would like to see a woman pee masterbate or both in person will be boytoy or provide affiar but husband must not be millitary and u need to pick up and host if u provide condoms to use must be latex free will not give up porn or masterbation"
and
"I'm looking for an sb must be young,fit, d cup or bigger, no kids, no strech marks, no tatoos. You will live with me must love sex anytime. must be bi. no over 20"
I think that my IQ just dropped while reading these profiles. :-/
lynn2009
03-06-2018, 06:32 PM
This is what I remember from SA:
"I want to find an intelligent, beautiful 20 year old to for a REAL, passionate relationship in exchange for nothing but 'mentorship' ".
WendiStarr
03-06-2018, 06:55 PM
I gave up on SA. This was on Established Men.
Titus23
03-06-2018, 07:01 PM
Eww, I think I'm giving up on all SD sites. My area has these these kinds of gems:
"About Me
32 vergin seeks wild lover up to ?? wil cook clean and fuck u anyway u want except wont lick ass or take it in ass or 3 wqy with other guy having kids not problom but must be willing to have at least one with me i am ashhmatic s ask anything u'd like to know serious replies only please contact i prefer skype if have webcam would like to see u on it currently unemployed but looking so dont ask for money and dont write to advertise diff paysite u on turn ons shaved pussy tats percings pigtails thanks to porn would like to see a woman pee masterbate or both in person will be boytoy or provide affiar but husband must not be millitary and u need to pick up and host if u provide condoms to use must be latex free will not give up porn or masterbation"
and
"I'm looking for an sb must be young,fit, d cup or bigger, no kids, no strech marks, no tatoos. You will live with me must love sex anytime. must be bi. no over 20"
I think that my IQ just dropped while reading these profiles. :-/
Wait, so you're saying that a 32 year old "ashhmatic vergin" with no job, no money, and an irrational fear of military husband's is NOT what you're looking for?? Geez.. standards much?
WendiStarr
03-06-2018, 07:17 PM
Wait, so you're saying that a 32 year old "ashhmatic vergin" with no job, no money, and an irrational fear of military husband's is NOT what you're looking for?? Geez.. standards much?
The military husband thing cracked me up. Dude must've had his ass handed to him by an angry Marine or something.
:laughing:
Titus23
03-06-2018, 07:26 PM
The military husband thing cracked me up. Dude must've had his ass handed to him by an angry Marine or something.
:laughing:
As a military husband, that had me rolling too. I don't get why anyone would be more scared of us than any civilian. They're just as likely to be upset as we would be. And the civilians aren't restricted by UCMJ like we are!
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-07-2018, 12:39 PM
The military husband thing cracked me up. Dude must've had his ass handed to him by an angry Marine or something.
:laughing:
Most likely. My ex was a retired Marine & we would sic him on guys that were harassing my dancer friends. It was always a "sit back and watch the fireworks" event to let him freak out these dudes.
Honestly SA isn't set up to really foster connections. & Yeah way too many basement dwellers on there.
Alloson.1111
02-22-2020, 01:57 PM
Hello, I have an ad on SA. I am looking for escort work, or a sugar daddy. I have had both in the past, they have usually met them in the club not online. Someone responded to my ad on seeking, and wants to meet tonight. I asked him what kind of arrangement he has in mind- his response was sex, fun, no drama, cash gift for you. I think I’d like to proceed, but not if this conversation has become illegals. I responded telling him that any cash was paying for my time.
Do you think it’s still safe for me to proceed?
lynn2009
02-22-2020, 02:24 PM
Do you think it’s still safe for me to proceed?
No.
Forget this person. If you must use SA, next time get a number, don't be explicit in writing but also don't speak in childish innuendos. What you should do is escort properly. There is a ton of information on the forum for how to do this.
crystalize
07-18-2020, 05:50 PM
I know there's (or there was at least, ages ago) a dedicated SA thread, but my question is:
are SD sites still a thing/ or rather are they still worth signing up in 2020 pandemic?
I haven't tried that site in years and I kinda feel like it's outdated... but could be totally wrong
trustfundkiller
07-19-2020, 10:47 AM
I know there's (or there was at least, ages ago) a dedicated SA thread, but my question is:
are SD sites still a thing/ or rather are they still worth signing up in 2020 pandemic?
I haven't tried that site in years and I kinda feel like it's outdated... but could be totally wrong
Last time I was on Seeking was 2017 (scary how the time flies) and I had good success. But the majority of the time, the guys are looking for P4P and really have no intention of an ongoing arrangement. Not to say that the latter doesn't happen, but I didn't get the impression that it was the norm. I'm sure there has been a serious slow down since Covid, and the guys on there probably want P4P more than ever. It's not like you can meet at a bar, or go out to dinner right now, so it's probably a lot of meeting in houses and hotels.
crystalize
07-19-2020, 12:51 PM
You’re probably right. I don’t see the clubs opening back up here in Miami anytime soon though
sweet_baby
08-14-2020, 07:50 PM
I’ve been on there for years. I have not found anyone. I got lots of messaging by either cheap guys or guys who don’t message me back. I wonder how girls do it.
lynn2009
08-14-2020, 08:34 PM
I’ve been on there for years. I have not found anyone. I got lots of messaging by either cheap guys or guys who don’t message me back. I wonder how girls do it.
I had two successful connections from there but it was after wading through A LOT of garbage. And it was five years ago now. I would never recommend SA to anyone, it is far too high-risk for legal reasons and physical safety. I feel very lucky in hindsight that nothing bad ever happened.
SnuffleUffleGrass
08-16-2020, 12:22 PM
I had two successful connections from there but it was after wading through A LOT of garbage. And it was five years ago now. I would never recommend SA to anyone, it is far too high-risk for legal reasons and physical safety. I feel very lucky in hindsight that nothing bad ever happened.
Can you share a little bit more if you're comfortable?
lynn2009
08-16-2020, 09:04 PM
[QUOTE=SnuffleUffleGrass;3183835]Can you share a little bit more if you're comfortable?[/QUO
No.