View Full Version : Red-flag phrases
~*SwanPrincess*~
04-06-2015, 03:53 AM
Ohh I forgot some!
"Do you get horny during lap dances?"
"Can I try to make you cum during a dance?"
"If I meet you outside of here I can make you feel better than ANYONE else you have EVER been with!!!"
That last one always gets me lol I even giggled when I was typing it it's so ridiculous!! Its always the very overweight, middle age, disgusting bad breath guys too. Soooo gross and absurd!!
charlie61
04-06-2015, 06:26 PM
"If I meet you outside of here I can make you feel better than ANYONE else you have EVER been with!!!"
Sometimes I forget that guys come into the club to see a fantasy. So even if they know that what they're saying is ridiculous, they want us to buy into the fantasy version of their lives. I was always the asshole who brought them crashing back to reality, which probably lost me thousands of dollars over the years (but it was always so damn satisfying! aahhh, charlie's young, pre-hustler days...)
kaninchen
04-09-2015, 02:42 PM
Anyone claiming to be a "white [k]night."
miss.a.p1600
04-09-2015, 08:56 PM
Anyone claiming to be a "white [k]night."
Omg! Lolol!
Red Flag Phrase #69: So....What time do you get off work? Want to hang out with me afterwards?
Gia2608
04-13-2015, 07:09 PM
Anyone claiming to be a "white [k]night."
omg you're fucking awesome!!!! Best response hands down.
I can't say that I would take one of these red flags and go running but I have always had some type of magnet on me to attract the sexual deviants with bizarre fetishes. Different kid of red flag.
Selina M
04-13-2015, 08:06 PM
^ I had a guy ask multiple questions about "do you like your nose bitten? how about your clavicles?"
He had messed up teeth to boot... like, they were filed down almost and looked like he'd been biting things he shouldn't... like bones.
My whole club stays faaaaaaar away from him!
Swarovskibunny
04-14-2015, 03:47 PM
^ I had a guy ask multiple questions about "do you like your nose bitten? how about your clavicles?"
He had messed up teeth to boot... like, they were filed down almost and looked like he'd been biting things he shouldn't... like bones.
My whole club stays faaaaaaar away from him!
Omg it sounds like you've got Hannibal Lecter in your club. ewww.
As for when guys start talking about how "good they are" at sex, (if they're spending) I just alternate between saying "of course" and "I'm sure"...they haven't seemed to pick up on my sarcasm yet.
More red flags:
*tells some kind of sob story about how another dancer ripped him off
says "I don't tip on top of dances but I buy a lot of dances" *buys two. 😂
"I m just here to see if there's anyone still working that I know"
"I've been all over the world/I've been to like 20 SCs"...nobody cares.
"this place don't have shit on miami/Detroit/other extras city" Cool. I'll never work there.
"this place seems more reserved, I've been to wilder places." Good. This is a gentlemans club, not the whorehouse that you want it to be.
kaninchen
04-14-2015, 05:00 PM
"Why are your dances so expensive? Where I come from they only cost $20/$1/a pack of Newports."
"Okay, I'll pay that much, but will you give me two dances for that price?"
"Can I take my belt off?"
These lines mean you need to RUN or you're in for a dance full of non-stop attempted licking, groping, nipple-pinching, orifice-poking, and fly-unzipping.
Swarovskibunny
04-15-2015, 12:49 PM
After asking if they would like a dance: "yeah, I'd like a free one." And I would rather jump off a building. No, I'd rather YOU jump off a building. 😊
they ask where dances are done, and I say, "the back room." He says, "the bathroom?" No, you retarded fuck. You do deserve a swirly, though.
*some guys on TUSCL were talking about the type of stripper that they like/dislike. Somewhere on the forum, some pervert said he would be angry if a dancer wouldn't let him touch her, that "touching boobs, ass, and even vag is industry standard." WOoooow. You mean to tell me that 3 forms of sexual assault are industry standard? I get that boob and butt touching is allowed in some clubs, but even then it is completely up to the girl!
New girls if you are reading this: do not let guys like this touch wherever. If you look good enough to strip, then you will still make $$$. Don't worry about his $$. Being touched without your consent fucks you up psychologically, and I still get random pangs of anger, aggression and depression from time to time.
kaninchen
04-15-2015, 01:13 PM
*some guys on TUSCL were talking about the type of stripper that they like/dislike. Somewhere on the forum, some pervert said he would be angry if a dancer wouldn't let him touch her, that "touching boobs, ass, and even vag is industry standard."
http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/173/576/Wat8.jpg?1315930535
Ugh, seriously? Dude, just because you say something doesn't make it true. Sounds like the kind of bitter wishful thinking that only select misogynists can do.
AngieLee
04-15-2015, 01:41 PM
The most recent ones for me that really stick out in my mind are not necessarily time-wasting phrases but also behaviors.
I work in a pretty low-contact club. If the custy IMMEDIATELY cups my booty with his hand, I know he's a time-waster.
Right off the bat if he asks me more questions than I can ask him, I know he's a time-waster and I end the conversation quickly.
"Baby don't you want to make some REAL money?" Or "Baby I'm gonna spend so much money on you." Or anything along those lines...big red flag.
MelissaRenee
04-15-2015, 04:19 PM
Conversation last night:
*guy flags me over*
Him: Are you new around here?
Me: Kind of, I've worked here around four months! How are you doing tonight?
Him: Where are you from:
Me: California. And yourself?
Him: I'm from here but I travel a lot. I've been there. My sister lives in *place name* have you been there?
Me: I hear it's beautiful.
Him: So why here? Do you like it here?
*This conversation continues in a roundabout way for about five minutes with him continuously asking me questions about California to the point of QUIZZING me.*
Him: All the other dancers just walked away from me, you're so nice for talking and I'd love to talk to you longer.
Me: Thanks! Me too, but I only just got here and have to make back my money. Would you like some dances? Or we can go sit down somewhere if you would like to tip me for my time...
Him: Oh, no thank you. But can you come in on Thursday?
Me: Can you pay my house fee for Thursday?
Him: ...
Me: *walks away*
Moral of the story. The minute he said "all the other girls walked away" that was a red flag for me to sell him a dance or walk away from this time waster.
Swarovskibunny
04-15-2015, 09:47 PM
Omg I see those types too often^. Yes, and they feel the need to quiz you about where you're from, since they automatically think that everything you say is a lie. I don't even bother pretending to "have a story" or not be "all about the money." When a guy starts going through the motions like, "ok, tell me your story..." I just look at him like he's retarded (as he is) and say, "you're not hearing any stories from me unless you go to the back. If you wanna chat, we can in VIP." He either reveals his cheapness right then or buys dances.
Selina M
04-15-2015, 11:17 PM
^ Yep the minute they start firing off questions "Where you from? You were born here? Where'd you go to school?" it's like SHUT THE FUCK UP. I get really pissy and give them short one word answers and they usually get the hint and either drop the $$ or let me get on my way.
zoezoebelle
04-18-2015, 08:54 AM
A guy last night kept saying, "My friend needs a massage, you know? He needs a sexy massage. Do you do that back there?" For some reason I get extremely blond at work, and I was like, "What? A massage? I can do that. Is your back really tense?" xD
charlie61
04-18-2015, 11:38 AM
A guy last night kept saying, "My friend needs a massage, you know? He needs a sexy massage. Do you do that back there?" For some reason I get extremely blond at work, and I was like, "What? A massage? I can do that. Is your back really tense?" xD
I have naive/innocent spots you could drive a truck through. That sounds like something I'd say...
Flickdreams
04-18-2015, 07:56 PM
^ Ditto. And I also find myself saying things that sound dirty but aren't intended that way.
Cashmere Star
04-19-2015, 01:43 AM
"I want to fuck/bite/rape you"
yeah no
^ Yep the minute they start firing off questions "Where you from? You were born here? Where'd you go to school?" it's like SHUT THE FUCK UP. I get really pissy and give them short one word answers and they usually get the hint and either drop the $$ or let me get on my way.
yeah it's like why the fuck do you care where I live? they asked me what street I live.
Selina M
04-19-2015, 03:37 PM
^ UGH I had a guy once ask me for my cross streets. I made sure he learned exactly how creepy that was.
zoezoebelle
04-20-2015, 09:03 AM
"I want to fuck/bite/rape you"
yeah no
yeah it's like why the fuck do you care where I live? they asked me what street I live.
Oh god, that terrifies me. I've been asked what neighborhood I live in, what street I'm on, whether I'm in an apartment or a house, whether I have roommates, what sort of coffee shops I go to in my area... Ahhhhh! @
[email protected] And the worst part is, when I say, "I can't tell you that," some of them get super offended and won't stop nagging me about it until I walk away. I don't know what part of "I don't want to ever see you outside of work" is so hard for them to understand.
KikiGem
04-20-2015, 10:47 AM
I got this exact one twice in one night: "let's go and talk for 10 or 20 minutes then we'll do a dance." Wtf? Is there a script out there full of stupid lines to waste stripper's time? Sorry dudes you can talk to me for that long but you have to buy that much time.
Both of the guys who said these were Indian. All of my encounters with Indian men have ranged from bad to awful. I've noticed this theme from other SWers- what's the deal????
Selina M
04-20-2015, 01:23 PM
"What do I get in the VIP?"
"How naughty do you get back there?"
FFS, stop with the vague questions. I'm just gonna play dumb and giggle "What do you mean? Teehee!" We all know you want extras, so either come out and say it and let me move on to a non-shitty customer, or buy a dance and find out that I don't provide them.
mm621
04-20-2015, 07:09 PM
I cannot STAND personal questions, like where I go/went to school and whatnot. I used to entertain them and answer, but now I get annoyed make up some random bullshit like how I went to school in Zimbabwe. :D ME, I noticed that when dudes pry into your personal life, they waste your time with chit chatting and are only good for 1 or 2 dances. And during that time, they're trying to get you to go home with them. >=/
Swarovskibunny
04-26-2015, 10:33 AM
"I can't get a dance from you, I respect you too much." right, because you only want to spend $$ on girls that you want to degrade? Wtf?
"I'm not doing dances, I'm married/have to go to church tomorrow." Nobody fucking cares, dude. That shit didn't stop the last guy.
Ugh ok I have to rant for a second. Why do these retarded guys feel the need to get off on playing "bother the stripper?" It's like, I already hate you, you're not worth the opportunity cost because you waste everyone's time, and why are you even here if you won't get dances? It's like going to a theme park and refusing to ride any rides! Did I mention that I hate you? Plus you're very unattractive and I'd rather take a bath in hydrofluoric acid than go home with you. So why don't you cry about it, bitch?
charlie61
04-26-2015, 11:41 AM
"I don't want you to do anything you aren't comfortable with, but I'm just looking for a bit more."
Swarovskibunny
07-12-2015, 08:45 PM
In response to an earlier post where the customer asked a dancer if she was on birth control...with my twisted sense of humor I just now came up with the perfect response to that. If a customer says "are you on birth control?" you could say "nope, but your mom is! Go get 'em, Oedipus!" and then walk away, since those types of custies tend to have mommy issues haha. He'll go home and cry about it.
Daniellaa
07-12-2015, 10:27 PM
Just certain questions or judgemental comments will always make me wanna get up and leave. If they ask a lot of questions and I don't seem interested in answering they make comments about how I seem like im just there for the money...okay yeah and? What did they think? Im there because I like interacting with an overweight, rude, ugly, mouth breathing, balding man in a ripped and stained t-shirt who looks like he still lives with his mother? Those types of guys are always cheap and don't have money to spend anyways and honestly they give me the creeps so I don't care if I miss out on what little money I could of gotten from them those are the ones I always avoid.
miss.a.p1600
07-13-2015, 01:10 PM
Are you SURE you want to go to VIP? Emphasis on being sure most likely means they going to try for something extra.
We can go to VIP but I don't know if you can handle it.
SuperJa
07-13-2015, 03:22 PM
Any variation of "I respect you women so much" guarantees a grabby asshole. If he truly respected women he wouldn't have to say it, you could just tell.
Also any conversation about them having soooooo much money means they won't be spending any. They'd just show you.
lynn2009
07-14-2015, 09:18 PM
Are you SURE you want to go to VIP? Emphasis on being sure most likely means they going to try for something extra.
We can go to VIP but I don't know if you can handle it.
Along this same line, this weekend I got "You're new, I don't know if you're worth VIP".
miss.a.p1600
07-14-2015, 09:57 PM
Along this same line, this weekend I got "You're new, I don't know if you're worth VIP".
ugh! some dudes would be better off not talking lol!
"Im just here to watch the game" "Im just here for @2 tuesday/to drink" "Im so and so's reg" "Can you come outside" Outside is what indians mean for will u come to my hotel and have sex w me for 300$.lbs. "I bet your rich, you look rich, you probably make more $ than me" "Your so good at your job I see how u just sit down with a guy and he gets right up to do a dance w u"
charlie61
08-10-2015, 12:15 PM
"Oh, hi, it's my birthday!"
...always leads to a "do I get a free dance?" conversation followed by disbelief when I say "um, NO."
NakedNicole
08-10-2015, 04:05 PM
When customers start asking personal questions I think I'm going to tell them that "I charge $20 per personal question. That being said, for $20 would you like to know my real name or have a lapdance instead? Ooooor, if you take me to the champagne room you can ask me unlimited personal questions!." I bet that will shut them up real quick.
Flickdreams
08-11-2015, 06:46 AM
^ Someone else on SW used to do literally the same thing; I think the same member also suggested that they only accept phone numbers wrapped in tips (in case someone sees the custing handing something to the dancer)
wednesday86
08-11-2015, 09:37 AM
me: "blah blah blah obligatory conversation----so when are you getting me naked?"
him: "I'd love to get you naked. When do you get off work?"
me: Bye.
Sophia_Starina
08-11-2015, 10:32 AM
"I just got out of the gym."
Sweatpants Boner Man!!!
"What will you do for this dollar?"
Extend my hand. Thanks.
"Sure, I could spend $X for the VIP, but I'd rather see you outside so you don't have to split the money with the club."
Thank you for caring so deeply about my finances. *eye roll*
"The club is such a contrived/artificial/fake place... I know you aren't really interested in me."
It is what it is. Why the fuck are you here?
"I've dated strippers before... I bought one an apartment, I leased a car for another one, etc."
-Says the guy sipping on his one and only beer for hours, not buying a single dance, not paying for time.
Jay12
08-11-2015, 10:52 AM
Sweatpants Boner Man!!!
I actually knew a guy who would come back and forth the club through the day with different sweat pants to get dances from different girls.
Selina M
08-12-2015, 12:19 AM
Any variation of "Let's stay out here, I need to test how it goes before I take you to VIP"
You want a shitty dance? That's a good way to get a shitty dance, bucko.
TearieLeigh
08-12-2015, 04:41 PM
To the person who posted about the guy asking about birth control. I've had a custy ask me that before and in my response
" Yeah I actually started using the Nuvaring last week , would you like me to pull it and show you? " His face after i said that was the best thing i had seen in weeks! He looked traumatized!
Swarovskibunny
12-08-2015, 03:07 PM
It's a major red flag when you first sit down with a customer and mention dances, and they bring up sex out of nowhere, like by saying "if I wanted to get fucked I could just blah blah blah..." or "just so you know, I finger women." Dude is obviously trying to validate himself but ends up looking like a HUGE creep. Yeah no thanks, byeee.
luna93
12-08-2015, 04:00 PM
I wish I could show this thread to every customer who thinks we just do our hair and makeup and sit back while money is handed to us. Morons.
LightningJ
02-03-2016, 02:54 AM
I love this thread SO much. I'm a newer dancer, and I've never experienced many of the things listed. It taught me a lot, so thank you all, ladies!!!
I've had a few red flag terms, not as intense as you all yet!
- "Can I add you on facebook?" (I was buzzed on my first few days and I fell for it. The guy became a regular and is chill, but I do have him on facebook. I've mentioned sternly that I never wanna see him outta work. Discreetly cut ties. But I learned fast - NO MORE BOOZE ON SHIFT! xD
- "Can I touch you during dances and pay the same price?" (I appreciate the asking rather than just doing. But really??)
- "You're too good for this job. You definitely don't belong here." (Why the hell are you here then, if you think so lowly of it!? Yeesh!! Also, I know my worth and I came here for a reason: Because men like the ones we've all mentioned are so easy to play!)
kirakonstantin
02-03-2016, 04:17 AM
"Are you from Russia or Ukraine?
I'm from Texas. Buy a dance or fuck off.
"Wow, you're too pretty/classy etc. to be working here."
I make 10x more than you do. Buy a dance or fuck off.
"What are you gonna do for this dollar?"
Fart in your face. Fuck off.
"You make plenty of money. I just want to talk."
Talking costs more than dancing, because you're so boring I'll likely have gutwrenching stomach cramps from squashing down this burning desire to put my stiletto heel in your eye to shut you up.
Starling
02-03-2016, 04:57 AM
I get kind of weirded out when a customer starts talking about how he dates/is married to a stripper. Sometimes I'll get lucky, but the younger ones who say stuff like this don't spend money half the time, because they know our 'habitat' and as the 'zoo animals' we really are.
SuperJa
02-03-2016, 02:30 PM
One that I've come across lately like crazy is customers claiming they used to be male strippers for whatever reason. In any case, they don't buy dances and just want to try to "talk shop" with you... which you'd think a real ex stripper would know better than doing right
Run awayyyy
MelissaRenee
02-03-2016, 07:55 PM
"I know the owners."
*~*Zorn*~*
02-04-2016, 11:43 AM
I got this exact one twice in one night: "let's go and talk for 10 or 20 minutes then we'll do a dance." Wtf? Is there a script out there full of stupid lines to waste stripper's time? Sorry dudes you can talk to me for that long but you have to buy that much time.
Both of the guys who said these were Indian. All of my encounters with Indian men have ranged from bad to awful. I've noticed this theme from other SWers- what's the deal????
I'm glad people are commentng on this! I had one wait outside for me after closing. Thank god security walks us to our cars. I was still looking over my shoulder just because he was so creepy. I don't know what it is either - and they're so aggressive about shit! :-/
kirakonstantin
02-04-2016, 03:39 PM
"I know the owners."
Ugh. I hate that one. I've had to slap or choke out most of the idiots who say that to me.
DorkiestDancer
02-04-2016, 05:57 PM
"I know how things work around here..."
Fortunately for me, I only hear that one when a customer wants to assure me that he has indeed been to a club before and intends on paying for the entertainment--their way of cutting through the small talk. One time a guy said that everytime he handed me $20-40, every 15 minutes during conversation. Not as good money as selling dances back-to-back, but it was slow anyway, and sure beats getting naked for it.
"I'd rather take you to dinner." "I'd like to get to know you." Immediately pulls me into his lap. Of course overt flirting and dirty talking can increase your chances with many hard-sells, but I have little patience when they want me to give a detailed description of why my lap dance is worth it. Most of them just want free dirty talk, it's a very hard sell. And if I do sell to these guys, they will always try to be too handsy in private.