View Full Version : Red-flag phrases
SweetJulia
02-05-2016, 02:53 PM
I'm in sales.
SweetJulia
02-05-2016, 03:04 PM
"Oh, hi, it's my birthday!"
...always leads to a "do I get a free dance?" conversation followed by disbelief when I say "um, NO."
Which I'd usually follow with "OMG happy 80th!"
Henna93
02-09-2016, 03:13 PM
Agree with all the responses so far. Red flags for me/phrases that piss me off include, but are not limited to:
- The usual "How much for a shag?"
- "You're too good for this" (No, I like what I do.)
- "YOU NEED JESUS!!" (One guy found out I was Muslim)
- "I just came in for a drink" (Well, get to a f*cking bar then. You're in the wrong place mate!)
- "So if I buy a dance...what exactly will you do with me?" (Dance and get naked. That's the deal)
- "So...you know...have you had your bits cut off and sewn up?" (Basically asking if I'd undergone FGM. I was mortified. Plus, no I haven't)
- "How many guys have you slept with?" (On what level is that okay to ask?? Would you ask your barista or waiter how many people they've slept with?? And for the record, none actually.)
Girl Anachronism
02-10-2016, 11:28 AM
- when they ask if i give "good dances".. which is almost always code for "will you let me grope and/or lick you for $20". if it's slow sometimes i'll say yes and just mentally prepare myself to have to fight their hands off while i give them one shitty dance without expecting them to get any more (they never do).
- when they offer me some of THEIR drink.. as in.. they guy does not offer to buy me my own drink but instead, tilts his well drink towards me and asks if i want a sip. this happens way more often than it should. like really?? how tacky and cheap can you be? do you offer your half empty, spittle ridden beer bottle to random girls at normal bars?
- if a guy tries to make me "work" for dollars on stage then tries to talk to me later, i walk away
- if a guy asks me how much money i make in a night.. or says something about how i must make so much money.. usually they are a waste of my life and i'll walk away unless it's super dead or something
- if a guy says he "just got here".. and i've literally seen him sitting there for the past two hours.. bye
- if i'm walking buy and a guy comes up and starts using a dollar to try to cop a feel.. i'll snatch it from him and tell him dances are $20. usually they just stare or say something stupid after that and i walk away.
-if they ask me if i like to "party".. which is code for "do cocaine/drugs"
- if they start telling me how much better X club is... if i happen to know the club as being dirty/cheap/shitty. or if they are saying something about how the girls give better or cheaper dances there. like i care? go back to club X and get $10 dances or your dick sucked for $60 or whatever it is they offer there that you think is so much better. if i wanted to give $10 dances or extras i would work at a club that offers those things. gtfo.
- when i lived in vegas two things that would make me walk away were a) finding out that they were a local, and b) finding out that they're staying in a super ghetto hotel (circus circus, hooters, etc). Or the worst was when they would start acting like ballers bragging about their amazing suite that i should come party at.. and then when I ask where it is they say somewhere cheap and off the strip. lol you're poor, goodbye.
there are a lot more but i think most have been said here already
wednesday86
02-10-2016, 11:37 AM
"Are you naughty?" (GAG!!!)
Vyanka
02-10-2016, 12:00 PM
Me: "Let's go to VIP"
Him: "You seem nice"
Me: "Nice enough to ask you" (((smile-wink)))
Him: "Alright, let's go"
We go, & then oh shit...I forgot that "nice" itc means non-extras dancer. Yeah, that VIP got cut short, lol...but I still got him to buy me a bottle of champagne and a NICE tip upfront.:)
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Henna93
02-16-2016, 04:30 PM
Also, when was working the other night I noticed one of mu customers kept glancing at my feet repeatedly, but didn't think anything of it. Once in the dance room and I have my bare foot resting on his shoulder, he turns around quick as a whip and starts licking my toes like a dog. Fairly harmless, I guess, but disgusting. I don't appreciate slobbery toes. All other guys with foot fetishes have at least asked for favours rather than just diving for it. I suppose if you notice a custy has a foot thing, don't leave it anywhere too tempting.
Scheisse
02-16-2016, 05:40 PM
In San Francisco, at the Gold Club, the big red flag phrase is "I'm actually staying at the W". (A somewhat expensive hotel located near the club. Obvious annoying solicitation occurs after this statement.)
missykrissy
02-27-2016, 05:48 PM
I haven't read this entire thread but...
the guy who gives you the helpful hint that "you should dance for my friend, he's the money man"
(or any kind of helpful tips for how to make $$$)
"my ex girlfriend was a stripper"
and the dumbest,
"I understand if you need to go make money, I understand you're at work"
missykrissy
02-27-2016, 06:02 PM
one more:
any guy who tells me how much he loves to "eat pussy" (just that term makes me want to vomit) as though this is something that sets him apart from the mere mortals.
as if it's difficult for me to find a man willing to stick his face in my vagina. puh leeze.
charlie61
02-29-2016, 01:21 PM
one more:
any guy who tells me how much he loves to "eat pussy" (just that term makes me want to vomit) as though this is something that sets him apart from the mere mortals.
as if it's difficult for me to find a man willing to stick his face in my vagina. puh leeze.
"I'd lick that pussy for HOURS!"
Umm...if what you're doing down there takes hours to do me any good, how is that a turn-on?
(Like, obviously it's not a turn-on anyway since we're at work, but it's still bizarre to me how many guys say stuff like that.)
neliana
03-01-2016, 02:50 AM
Any variation of "Oooh I'm afraid to go back there with you! You're too hot...I'll like it too much"
charlie61
03-01-2016, 12:23 PM
Any variation of "Oooh I'm afraid to go back there with you! You're too hot...I'll like it too much"
OMG, I hate this one. I'm not sure why it bothers me so much. Maybe because it reeks of "you're lying to my face"?
I hate excuses so much. Whenever I come across someone who straight up says, "No, thanks, I won't be doing any dances tonight," I practically weep with gratitude.
Heart&Pole
03-09-2016, 02:29 AM
"What do you do in the VIP?"
"How much and where can I touch?"
"A nude dance is for everything right?"
"I don't want to get a dance, but do you meet people after work outside the club?"
Swarovskibunny
05-15-2016, 09:32 AM
After offering VIP: "oh you don't have to sell me on blah blah blah..."
"I just want to chill for awhile"
"Oh I've been to VIP, I see how it is"
Any illusion to VIP being bullshit or expecting you to give your real name, asking for OTC, etc.
One that I've come across lately like crazy is customers claiming they used to be male strippers for whatever reason. In any case, they don't buy dances and just want to try to "talk shop" with you... which you'd think a real ex stripper would know better than doing right
Run awayyyy
Yeah I had a guy who claimed to be an ex-stripper t actually spend some money on me.. but he kept telling me i needed to work for it. He said he wanted to get a vip room and when we actually got there he changed his mind at the last minute and walked away.....
Swarovskibunny
05-15-2016, 02:42 PM
Yeah I had a guy who claimed to be an ex-stripper t actually spend some money on me.. but he kept telling me i needed to work for it. He said he wanted to get a vip room and when we actually got there he changed his mind at the last minute and walked away.....
^i hate people who do that- say they want VIP but then change their minds or "go to the men's room" and actually be leaving the club, like the dick-less men they are. A guy can tell me a straight yes or no and I will not get mad; as long as he isn't being rude, I won't be. But do not waste my time or give me false hope.
Another gem: "you seem nervous/uptight/uppity.." Whatever the fuck that means. I can have a resting bitch face at times, but it's probably because, again, this person is wasting my time, being a non-spending prick.
fallyn_love
05-15-2016, 06:26 PM
"I'd lick that pussy for HOURS!"
Umm...if what you're doing down there takes hours to do me any good, how is that a turn-on?
(Like, obviously it's not a turn-on anyway since we're at work, but it's still bizarre to me how many guys say stuff like that.)
Ugh i had a customer who BARELY tipped tell me he would lick my pussy and buy me a house. FUK OUTTA HERE
cassie22
05-16-2016, 09:35 AM
I have just passed the 6 month mark for stripping and am finally starting to learn when to walk away from time-wasting assholes. This has been hard for me; I don't like to seem rude and I'm also terrible at reading people.
I've noticed certain phrases or sentiments are cues for me to walk the fuck away immediately. The two that stand out for me is "I want to get to know your actual personality" and "I'd rather take you to dinner".
What are red-flag phrases for other people? And has anyone actually managed to make money from custies after hearing them?
You can change their minds if they say "I want to take you on a date". Be like I gotta get to know you more first, I just met you. How about we talk a bit more downstairs? If it doesn't work then leave lol
LoveyDovey
05-16-2016, 11:03 AM
If they ever brag about how much money they make, or how much they have, you can pretty much bet that they won't spend a dime of it.
LoveyDovey
05-16-2016, 11:05 AM
OMG, I hate this one. I'm not sure why it bothers me so much. Maybe because it reeks of "you're lying to my face"?
I hate excuses so much. Whenever I come across someone who straight up says, "No, thanks, I won't be doing any dances tonight," I practically weep with gratitude.
I always appreciate it when they say right off the bat " Hey, I'm not buying dances today. I just want you to know so that I don't waste your time". Those guys are cool and I always thank them nicely for respecting my time.
Dancer_maria
05-21-2016, 06:26 PM
A lot of men fantasize about dating a Stripper. Some actually drag their GF into clubs for an interview ( seen this in person, twice). The ones who DO date strippers and or have a GF that strips will 90% of the time come INTO the club when she is working and 90% of the time WILL get jealous. This ends in Drama that the Club owners and managers just do not ever like... Funny though, If the girl IS doing her job right, he SHOULD be jealous LOL. I walk by many of the 'red flag" phrases and the "OTC date" is just huge. As my business mind goes, I wonder if a Dance class for wives to learn how to "move" a bit, may make money, from their wives!!
Staygold
05-26-2016, 05:58 AM
This thread is so funny.
"Here is my business card/phone number" he seems like all he wants is sex.
"We're okay for now, just here for drinks but ask my friend he'll go for one"
"I have a girlfriend/wife, or wife, girlfriend and mistress" this guy is such a waste of time and is too afraid to say that you aren't his type because he goes for another girl.
"I don't want a dance but would you like a drink?"
Swarovskibunny
07-09-2016, 05:34 PM
Another gem is when a guy says, "I can't, I'm actually going to get a dance from Dancer X"...and then you see him spending literally no money,not even on her. It's like they are trying to pit us against each other. Or play head games.
rareaspasia
07-10-2016, 01:00 PM
"I don't think I'll be able to control myself." So you realize you're kind of saying you're a rapist?
CTDancer
07-10-2016, 01:57 PM
"I have a girlfriend at home." Congratulations. Let me remind you that I'm trying to drain your wallet, not your nuts.
wellidontknowwho
07-18-2016, 12:06 AM
"I can't get a dance from you, I respect you too much." right, because you only want to spend $$ on girls that you want to degrade? Wtf?
"I'm not doing dances, I'm married/have to go to church tomorrow." Nobody fucking cares, dude. That shit didn't stop the last guy.
Ugh ok I have to rant for a second. Why do these retarded guys feel the need to get off on playing "bother the stripper?" It's like, I already hate you, you're not worth the opportunity cost because you waste everyone's time, and why are you even here if you won't get dances? It's like going to a theme park and refusing to ride any rides! Did I mention that I hate you? Plus you're very unattractive and I'd rather take a bath in hydrofluoric acid than go home with you. So why don't you cry about it, bitch?
omg this I'm screen shotting this one 😂😂😂
LilLadyLux
07-18-2016, 01:14 AM
It seems to me the guys most concerned with having a girlfriend/wife at home, and the guys that keep saying things like "ohh this is so bad... " "oh don't do that" and are soooo nervous at first 2 songs later are grinding and trying to luck for neck.
Swarovskibunny
07-24-2016, 11:03 AM
"When do you go onstage?" This phrase does not indicate a non-spender really, it's just more of a trite attempt to make conversation that comes of as annoying when you hear it so much. It would be one thing if this happened at say, KOD, where girls can make thousands on stage from a famous rapper, for instance. But if you're at a club where CRs and table dances bring in the most cash, stage is a waste of time. In a club without a pole, there's nothing special about stage, so it's better just to buy the damn table dance.
crystalize
07-26-2016, 12:13 PM
"When do you go onstage?" This phrase does not indicate a non-spender really, it's just more of a trite attempt to make conversation that comes of as annoying when you hear it so much. It would be one thing if this happened at say, KOD, where girls can make thousands on stage from a famous rapper, for instance. But if you're at a club where CRs and table dances bring in the most cash, stage is a waste of time. In a club without a pole, there's nothing special about stage, so it's better just to buy the damn table dance.
I usually leave when I hear that, cause I feel like that's a hint from them they don't want you there. oh yea, and the guys that say this are usually ALWAYS broke and then, when you're on stage, stare but don't tip.
Selina M
12-20-2016, 09:46 PM
I'm gonna add to this... Asking overtly sexual questions on the floor. "What's your favorite position? What turns you on?"
As the DJ just said "It's CEO, now get back on the forklift you broke mofo" :rotfl:
gummygirl
12-21-2016, 05:43 PM
When a guy say " I know girls who does this industry.... I know how it works" but yet he spent no money! He even said he buy dances later but never did! Full of shit
fallyn_love
01-01-2017, 09:48 PM
"I was gonna tip you onstage but you werent doing anything"
"Im just chilling tonight"
fallyn_love
01-01-2017, 09:49 PM
Cust: whats your name?
Me: gee gee
Cust: whats your REAL name?
Me:* walks away*
LoveyDovey
01-02-2017, 12:04 AM
"I'm just here killing time."
chocolatebombshell
01-02-2017, 12:14 AM
"What does your family think of you doing this?"
fallyn_love
01-02-2017, 09:10 PM
"How old are you?"
"I dont buy dances but i will buy you a drink" <--- how backwards dumb ass
fallyn_love
01-02-2017, 09:11 PM
"What are you doing when you leave here?"
"I wouls rather pay you outside the club"
nikkiharley
01-03-2017, 09:37 AM
"What are you doing when you leave here?"
"I wouls rather pay you outside the club"
ugh!!! that last one I get frequently
Isabo
01-03-2017, 12:40 PM
Omg you guys, reading all this just reminded me of one guy who told me something really stupid OK here goes:
After I told him I had a boyfriend he says
"You know the fact that you're working here means you're cheating on your boyfriend"
Um... Ok... That's not the worst part then he says, and at this point he's trying to get me to do extras for him
"You're not gona make money if you're not willing to do stuff"
Wow guy, just wow!
nikkiharley
01-03-2017, 12:47 PM
Omg you guys, reading all this just reminded me of one guy who told me something really stupid OK here goes:
After I told him I had a boyfriend he says
"You know the fact that you're working here means you're cheating on your boyfriend"
Um... Ok... That's not the worst part then he says, and at this point he's trying to get me to do extras for him
"You're not gona make money if you're not willing to do stuff"
Wow guy, just wow!
I get that one about money and extras too
charlie61
01-08-2017, 10:59 PM
"Do you enjoy doing this?"
Guys who ask this think they're asking such a radical question...they think no one has ever asked us this before...they have no understanding that this job is probably more boring in many ways than whatever the fuck they do at their day jobs. They think that enjoying dancing is some kind of requirement, even though they've hated their jobs from the day they started working. It's fine to feel ambivalent about your job unless you work in the sex industry. If you work in the sex industry, you must either hate it (which they expect) or love it (which they wouldn't believe even if it's true). They half hope that you actually hate your job and half hope that you're a sex maniac who'd happily do it for free. Ugh.
Am I ranting? Maybe? Maybe.
fallyn_love
01-17-2017, 08:34 PM
ugh!!! that last one I get frequently
Shit gets on my nerves
fallyn_love
01-17-2017, 08:36 PM
"I'm just here killing time."
Kill time outside in ur car