View Full Version : The Excuses Thread
zoezoebelle
05-29-2015, 10:18 AM
I don't want to go to work ever again, because I'm in love. :( I just want to punch anyone who touches me right now and tell them to fuck off.
wednesday86
06-03-2015, 03:05 PM
Because I would rather stay home tonight and level up my character in Final Fantasy (this is why I need to start camming ASAP!)
charlie61
06-03-2015, 11:25 PM
It's always SO hard for me to go back in whenever I take so much as a week off of work (I didn't go in last week). I start putting all of this pressure on myself to "make up for" the previous week, thinking that I need to make crazy money even though I'm already months ahead on my bills.
Definitely going to force my ass in to work tomorrow. Consistency is KEY.
zoezoebelle
06-04-2015, 12:03 PM
Aaarg I got food poisoning, what the hell!! >.> I'm constantly sick with my own health issues, and on top of that I already got a nasty sinus infection for 3 weeks a couple months ago, and now this. My body is just completely failing to support itself.
charlie61
06-04-2015, 07:20 PM
Thoughts that get my ass into the club:
Am I doing anything tonight that I won't be able to do tomorrow?
If this were a vanilla job, would I still be considering taking the night off?
Usually the answer to both is a clear NO. Which helps put it back into my head that this is a job, not a hobby. It also helps to know that even if I only make $100, I know I'll feel satisfied that I went in, and I'll have made a little bit of money (not to mention, I think I've made less than $200 maybe once in the last eight years, so my anxiety is a little ridiculous..).
Selina M
06-05-2015, 11:19 AM
I got offered a teaching position. Unfortunately it's in BFE on the west side, which means that my club is now one of the 2 closest ones to the area... So now it's going to be a constant battle with the excuses of A) what if somebody I've already met at school comes in, and B) I don't HAVE to, I have enough $$ until my first paycheck...
I'm debating if I'm safe to dance until inservice (the 2 weeks of teacher prep/meetings before kids come back) starts. That would be when I would meet people and hence become recognizable in the club. Even if tonight I were to accidentally dance for somebody who worked in that particular school, I doubt they'd remember me 6 weeks later. I could probably just get a cheap wig, and considering I don't wear hardly any makeup OTC and I wear a ton ITC, I think the 2 'looks' would be reasonably far apart.
Fiance's take on it is that until my employment actually starts, I can do whatever I want, but that after July 20, I better retire from dancing. I was uncomfortable with dancing that close to it, and he conceded to "C'mon, at least until you sign the HR paperwork, so you have another week." He's probably right and I guess I should go in tonight.
So for the next 6 weeks... I can keep dancing at current club (which is like my comfy home club, I would rather stay there than change clubs)... throw in the towel and live on savings until the end of July... dance in the dive out by my house... or travel dance, like Charlie suggested :) Travel dancing would be hard though, because I'm in a summer class Mon-Thurs and it's got a lab every day, I'm sure I'd get reamed about "poor planning" if I said I was taking a vacation during it.
OliveJardin
06-06-2015, 03:43 AM
My "excuse" is that I had a nap and slept through my alarm (feeling pretty silly atm)! It's too late to go in now, unless I want to pay a ridiculously high house fee.
wednesday86
06-06-2015, 07:29 AM
Well....I COULD go to another dirty Chicago burbs club and get felt up on all night...or I could wait a few days and just dance at my no contact home club since I'm moving tomorrow.
Luckily my amazon and paypal payments came through so I was able to make that choice. Really don't feel like having my nipples poked and pulled off tonight. I'm just gonna wait.
whirlerz
06-06-2015, 07:43 AM
Thoughts that get my ass into the club:
Am I doing anything tonight that I won't be able to do tomorrow?
If this were a vanilla job, would I still be considering taking the night off?
Usually the answer to both is a clear NO. Which helps put it back into my head that this is a job, not a hobby. It also helps to know that even if I only make $100, I know I'll feel satisfied that I went in, and I'll have made a little bit of money (not to mention, I think I've made less than $200 maybe once in the last eight years, so my anxiety is a little ridiculous..).
This's a good one, I need to remember.
whirlerz
06-06-2015, 07:46 AM
But, my main thing is now, the pain in my arm. I contacted an accupuncturist, so there's that.
It's prob. not the best time o' the year to go back but o well.
My stripper grooming has slipped, & I'm keeping it up daily (somewhat, toned down for day) to point myself in the right direction.
Also watching lots of dancing / tips vids on you tube, & perusing here. :)
carmen_b
06-06-2015, 02:38 PM
I hate everyone. I'm basically not doing any massage or giving anyone any attention until something comes up where I really need the money. I'll still go if I need it.
I think I'm ok once I meet the guys but I hate sifting though the ones who don't book fast so no one is getting any attention for awhile.
I'm so glad day job work is good enough that I get to be this picky! :)
HoolaTwister
06-06-2015, 08:03 PM
I'm not going in tonight because my abusive ex contacted me today. Get rid of one psycho in your life, another tries to waltz in ugjdjdjshshsb
AlicexEden
06-11-2015, 03:18 PM
Its ninety thousand degrees out and I can't be assed to peal myself off the couch and deal with that.
SweetJulia
06-11-2015, 04:09 PM
I'd rather watch TV, eat food, my back hurts, I've been slacking on tanning-yeah, that's all for today.
Selina M
06-12-2015, 03:16 PM
Apparently it's time to bleed, and if that wasn't enough, cramps. Wtf. Usually if it's early, it's a really easy, relatively painless one...
Now I'm being all "what if this is a sign from the universe not to go today?", thinking there might be vice, or the owner wreaking havoc, or somebody I know walking in.
Oh, let's also add in season 3 of OITNB, the new frappucino flavors at Sbux, and the pressing need to finish my damn wedding invitations.
I think work is fighting a losing battle right now.
OliveJardin
06-13-2015, 03:07 AM
...I woke up with a (back pain induced) migraine, took heavy duty pain killers and have slept on and off all day...I am also bloated from overeating and haven't tanned lol.
michele11
06-13-2015, 04:19 PM
I'm on a trip and don't wanna go after only 2 shifts. Cocaine is way too rampant and I lost 4 vips last night because they were full for 3 hours. That's like 1000 or more. Then early I get a suite and they're calling me to the stage. I asked my gf to go up and the one bottom feeder( that'w what I call the mangers now that are below everyone, make less and just want to be all "authorative") He screams at me" she's going to do 6 songs?!?: I guess they had her up after me. Um yeah there's girls who come in like 3 hours after me let them go! And they take half of the room so ,Gee I guess it'd be better for me just to be on stage so they don't make money or do I! yeah All the chicks with blow took up the rooms. I went to one bottom feeder with my guy And said we've been waiting like 2 hours for a room. Cant I go in a large one. They said those were full too but I never checked because it was work keeping the guy who was from out of town and his friends left him!
amberlly
06-19-2015, 03:27 AM
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michele11
06-19-2015, 04:40 PM
Well , I have no excuse because I only have 2 nights left. Except I don't want to get ready and I'm located right were housekeeping, Maintenance, etc come through a door. I get in bed at 7am and at 10 their slamming it 20 times. like I didn't see housekeeping in the hall. WTF! I finally got out of bed and screamed at him. Also there's a ufc fight and the hotels are full to capacity so it should be an interesting night. one fighter thought, ya know because ( he thought he was famousz0 i should sit for free). Lmao. It's not about the money. I was like then just give me some or I'm going. Got a nice guy for vip after that ans he wanted to renew but there was only 15 min left. I thought we closed at 6. Oh well.
xStacey
06-20-2015, 10:53 AM
It's so nice and sunny outside, I don't feel like going in for 12 hours. It's been gloomy and raining pretty much every day for the past few weeks... Finally the weather's starting to get better, but oh well, gotta get that money.
charlie61
06-20-2015, 01:06 PM
Uuuuggggggghhhhh. I'm gonna force myself to go in. But feeeeeck I don't waaaaannnnaaaa...
carmen_b
06-20-2015, 04:48 PM
I remember getting ready to dance for a ufc fighter and his buddy or manager or whoever it was pulled him away from me! It pissed me off so bad. I hope you had a good fight night.
Well , I have no excuse because I only have 2 nights left. Except I don't want to get ready and I'm located right were housekeeping, Maintenance, etc come through a door. I get in bed at 7am and at 10 their slamming it 20 times. like I didn't see housekeeping in the hall. WTF! I finally got out of bed and screamed at him. Also there's a ufc fight and the hotels are full to capacity so it should be an interesting night. one fighter thought, ya know because ( he thought he was famousz0 i should sit for free). Lmao. It's not about the money. I was like then just give me some or I'm going. Got a nice guy for vip after that ans he wanted to renew but there was only 15 min left. I thought we closed at 6. Oh well.
baer45
06-21-2015, 11:39 AM
I can't find the pair of shoes I'd like to wear outside today.
wednesday86
06-21-2015, 01:12 PM
really wanted to do 5 shifts this week, but I am still so damn tired and sore, plus i'm working a double tomorrow......and i need to get my nails done......and food prep for the week.......and world of warcraft.........
Selina M
06-25-2015, 11:55 AM
There's something wrong with my knee... I kneeled down this morning and thought I was gonna be stuck on the floor. The inside side under the kneecap hurts like a bitch when I go up/down stairs or kneel or anything. Idk how that happened, must have twisted it in my sleep.
But yeah. Platforms and up/down off stages probably not a good idea :(
charlie61
06-27-2015, 07:09 PM
Reading Holly Madison's book put me in a super shitty mood. I loved her book and am super glad I read it, but I wish I hadn't read it on a day when I'm working. It made me feel like older men are all just pedophilic pieces of shit (I know, I know...it's just a lingering feeling I got after reading it - like when you watch a movie that puts you into a bad mood...you know the mood will pass, but you still feel crappy).
I'm trying to channel my mood into a work-appropriate mood. Ruthless seductress energy, or something.
I know I'll get into the flow when I step into the club, but right now it's the last place I want to be...
SnuffleUffleGrass
06-28-2015, 07:49 PM
Reading Holly Madison's book put me in a super shitty mood. I loved her book and am super glad I read it, but I wish I hadn't read it on a day when I'm working. It made me feel like older men are all just pedophilic pieces of shit (I know, I know...it's just a lingering feeling I got after reading it - like when you watch a movie that puts you into a bad mood...you know the mood will pass, but you still feel crappy).
I'm trying to channel my mood into a work-appropriate mood. Ruthless seductress energy, or something.
I know I'll get into the flow when I step into the club, but right now it's the last place I want to be...
I personally think she AND Hef cooked up the stories in the book for maximum exposure of both of their "brands." On their reality show it was pretty obvious she was coldly calculating about aspects of their relationship. NOW that it would benefit Holly to seem like she was victimized...she has some sob stories to peddle. I don't buy it. BTW the same accusations were thrown at Linda Lovelace when she publicly spoke out against her experiences in porn films, even though people remember her as having some good times & enjoying her fame.
& Oddly enough Hugh Hefner had shade thrown at him after one of his famous Playboy girls (Dorothy Stratten) was murdered by her crazy violent husband. Look at it this way- Hef is a villain when he lets someone else fuck his Playgirls, and he's a villain when he fucks one of them in exchange for making her famous. I don't see Holly Madison shopping at Wal Mart and applying for food stamps. I don't want to hear her shit.
edit to add- I refuse to link info about Stratten, it's too disturbing. But anyways, these are grown up women entering into contracts. They should act the part....
charlie61
06-28-2015, 07:58 PM
I personally think she AND Hef cooked up the stories in the book for maximum exposure of both of their "brands." On their reality show it was pretty obvious she was coldly calculating about aspects of their relationship. NOW that it would benefit Holly to seem like she was victimized...she has some sob stories to peddle. I don't buy it. BTW the same accusations were thrown at Linda Lovelace when she publicly spoke out against her experiences in porn films, even though people remember her as having some good times & enjoying her fame.
& Oddly enough Hugh Hefner had shade thrown at him after one of his famous Playboy girls (Dorothy Stratton) was murdered by her crazy violent partner. Look at it this way- Hef is a villain when he lets someone else fuck his Playgirls, and he's a villain when he fucks one of them in exchange for making her famous. I don't see Holly Madison shopping at Wal Mart and applying for food stamps. I don't want to hear her shit.
Yeah, I dunno. I actually buy Holly's story. I don't see that she has any motive to paint him as a monster. She's already rolling around in plenty of dough from her spin-off successes, she's married, and she has a baby. Like she said in the introduction, she just got sick of people thinking that HH is this sweet old, innocent man. And I mean she wasn't exactly trying to paint herself as a perfect, devoted partner in her book. She was pretty clear about how she really just wanted to break into show business and have a roof over her head. She immediately became focused on learning the ropes in the mansion so that she could keep living there rent-free and pay off her student loans.
I guess I can see how a naive 21-year-old (or whatever) could get sucked into that world + an abusive relationship pretty easily. I've seen some incredibly intelligent, strong women get pulled into abusive relationships with guys who have very little - it seems like it could happen much more easily with all of that money and fame swirling around. All of the stories she told matched up with what I saw and felt from GND.
No one but the people involved know the true version of the truth, so it's all speculation. But count me in for Team Holly. :)
/threadjack
SnuffleUffleGrass
06-28-2015, 08:15 PM
It's cool. I mean, I've had my share of interactions with older men where I have to admit I took more BS from them than I should have. But on the other hand, I think Holly's timing & mentality are not good with this tell-all. In short, she definitely burned some bridges.
& YEAH I realize Hef has said some rude shit to women in his day, but IMO he's done more good for women and men as a whole with his magazine. My parents grew up in an age where social-sexual issues could ruin lives FOREVER (pre-marital sex, inter-racial dating, etc...). His publication helped society grow the F up about normal human behavior.
charlie61
06-28-2015, 08:34 PM
It's cool. I mean, I've had my share of interactions with older men where I have to admit I took more BS from them than I should have. But on the other hand, I think Holly's timing & mentality are not good with this tell-all. In short, she definitely burned some bridges.
& YEAH I realize Hef has said some rude shit to women in his day, but IMO he's done more good for women and men as a whole with his magazine. My parents grew up in an age where social-sexual issues could ruin lives FOREVER (pre-marital sex, inter-racial dating, etc...). His publication helped society grow the F up about normal human behavior.
Bad people can do good things, and good people can do bad things. He's done a lot to help normalize American sexuality, and he even has a couple of good sound bytes out there about the LGBT community. But, that doesn't mean he isn't an emotionally abusive asshole behind closed doors. Ya know?
Who da fuq knows. :)
wednesday86
06-30-2015, 01:23 PM
Reading Holly Madison's book put me in a super shitty mood. I loved her book and am super glad I read it, but I wish I hadn't read it on a day when I'm working. It made me feel like older men are all just pedophilic pieces of shit (I know, I know...it's just a lingering feeling I got after reading it - like when you watch a movie that puts you into a bad mood...you know the mood will pass, but you still feel crappy).
I'm trying to channel my mood into a work-appropriate mood. Ruthless seductress energy, or something.
I know I'll get into the flow when I step into the club, but right now it's the last place I want to be...
Haven't read the book but I do not like most older customers...yeah they have money, but in my experience they've been some of the worst when it comes to pushing boundaries.
anyway my excuse today is that i really need to clean my house and level up my rogue...and after all that cleaning and gaming i'm going to be too tired...not to mention my nails look bad...this just won't do.
SnuffleUffleGrass
06-30-2015, 07:04 PM
Haven't read the book but I do not like most older customers...yeah they have money, but in my experience they've been some of the worst when it comes to pushing boundaries.
I can believe that...In my experience I've had both young guys and old try to get way out of line....The old ones have been more clever.
My excuse today- I got a 3 day headache from drinking too much coffee on Sunday. Seriously. UGH!!!
ScarletKitten
06-30-2015, 09:52 PM
I have plenty of excuses today.
1. I'm on my period.
2. My hair needs to be cut and dyed.
3. I have to redo my nails.
4. My skin isn't the best right now. I need it to clear up!
So basically I am just waiting until my period fucks off, and when I'm stripper-ready again. Soon!!! I'm excited to try 2 new clubs. :)
Selina M
07-02-2015, 01:49 PM
My cat sunk his claws into me the other day and there's a bunch of puncture wounds that are bruising and scabbing over on my thigh.
charlie61
07-04-2015, 01:00 PM
I ended up deciding to take this week off, even though it gives me anxiety to miss out on potential money (though who knows if working the fourth of July would've been an utter waste of time or not). I also have this fear that if I skip a week or two, I'll never return to the club. And now that dancing is my big plan for income while I work on getting into grad school, I need to keep this up!
My sleep schedule has been really messed up lately due to logistics between work, volunteering, and sharing one car with my partner (who commutes at 6:00 am - though we're moving soon, so this is temporary). I'm traveling next week to visit some friends and family, and I don't want to look like I've been run over by a truck. I leave tomorrow morning, and normally I'd work the Saturday late shift...so that would completely fuck up my sleeping, and I'd look like shit for two days after that! So I'm using these few days to get back on my self-care schedule with sleep, food, clay masks, coconut water, stretching, etc.
Even though I have anxiety about taking the time off, my self care is showing up in how I look and feel in a significant way!
Selina M
07-04-2015, 01:16 PM
SO MANY EXCUSES.
I am really far behind on MCAT studying. I would like to get the bulk of it done so I can take it in September and not have to do 4 hours a night on top of working all day. Also need to finish my supply order for the secretary. Soooo I'm gonna do that shit.
I don't want to leave my dogs alone while there are fireworks. One is absolutely terrified of thunder and fireworks.
Also, I keep getting pimples on one side of my lower hip. They swell up and turn reddish purple and take a week to finally pop. Got 2 of them right now. I'm gonna have to start carrying around a towel to sit on and wiping down with antibacterial wipes every hour at this rate :(
kaninchen
07-10-2015, 07:53 PM
I was too social this week, plus I'm feeling really anemic. I'm physically and mentally exhausted. Uggghhhhh
xStacey
07-14-2015, 05:41 AM
Don't feel like going in today, Tuesdays are either very good or very bad... Unlike Thursday and Saturday when it's usually great and Sunday usually okay or good. Gonna force myself to go in anyway.
MyRealNameIsWeird
07-16-2015, 02:09 AM
Still looking after new dog. Can't leave her alone, obviously.
ImmoralAllure
07-16-2015, 02:50 AM
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wednesday86
07-17-2015, 05:38 PM
I think my period is going to start early...Half the girls at work are on theirs and I've been really pissy all week. I'm terrified of starting at work and bleeding on a customer. Also I had a dream I was smoking by a lake last night which (from what I know about dreams) means that my emotions are muddied and I need a break.
charlie61
07-17-2015, 10:11 PM
Just moved, so my body is covered in bruises and scratches. Not good for my brand or my self confidence. Also haven't worked out in a week and my period is due. And we need to spend the weekend unpacking.
Yep, not working this weekend. Not gonna happen.
MyRealNameIsWeird
07-18-2015, 01:01 AM
Depression won't budge. No meds available. Still got a new dog. Feel like a shitty freeloader because I'm not working but hubby says not to worry. Still feel like a shitty freeloader.
Cashmere Star
07-18-2015, 11:43 AM
I want to go to work but I have an ingrown toenail and the pinkie toe is still purple after 2 weeks. I am scared. :(
I would go to work every day if it wasn't for my stupid foot problems.
Selina M
07-18-2015, 11:54 AM
Random observation: every time I'm looking forward to work, have it solidly in my head that I'm going tomorrow, decline social invites, etc.... I make shit money. Every time it's like "UGH NO" but I drag myself in anyway, I make good money.
Wtf.
wednesday86
07-18-2015, 02:42 PM
Random observation: every time I'm looking forward to work, have it solidly in my head that I'm going tomorrow, decline social invites, etc.... I make shit money. Every time it's like "UGH NO" but I drag myself in anyway, I make good money.
Wtf.
lol same here...or I'll go in just because I'm bored, look like a hot mess, not even try and buckets of cash get thrown at me. I spend a lot of time on my hair and make up, get into hustling mode and don't make nearly as much.
ScarletKitten
07-19-2015, 04:02 AM
I sprained my wrist. :( Been typing with one hand the past few days. I have to wait until its healed. Could be a while.
Flickdreams
07-19-2015, 09:01 AM
Not sure how this will be received but here goes...
"All Your Excuse Are Belong to Us
September 3rd, 2012 by Steve Pavlina
I have many friends who are broke and other friends who are very wealthy. When people are broke, their favorite excuse is “I don’t have enough money.” When people are wealthy, their favorite excuse is “I don’t have enough time.”
Anyone can come up with an excuse to avoid taking action, and their excuses always seem valid.
The difference between those who take action and those who don’t isn’t a matter of addressing the seemingly valid excuses. People don’t normally acquire more money to eliminate the “not enough money” excuse, nor do they create more time to overcome the time excuse.
The way they succeed is by realizing that they’re creating and feeding these excuses, and they decide it’s time to stop feeding them. They realize that as long as they’re willing to feed excuses, there will always be an infinite supply.
It’s never a good time. And there’s never enough money. And that isn’t ever going to change.
And despite how valid these excuses may seem, they can’t stop a committed person.
People don’t suddenly take action when they cure their apparent money or time obstacles. They get into action when they cure their deluded thinking… when they drop the silly act." http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2012/09/all-your-excuse-are-belong-to-us/
MyRealNameIsWeird
07-20-2015, 05:41 AM
Still depressed, will probably do something tonight but have 20,000 words to finish by tomorrow. Do I use camming as an excuse to procrastinate writing or writing as an excuse to avoid camming? Decisions, decisions...
OliveJardin
07-20-2015, 05:47 AM
I would go to work every day if it wasn't for my stupid foot problems.
^...I can relate. My excuse is that I KNOW we will be short on girls tonight and I cannot justify doing a million stages on a possibly quiet night and destroying my feet before the weekend again.