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EricRRobert
05-06-2015, 12:50 PM
You've already made up your mind that what you're doing is the RIGHT thing to do. Even before you created this thread. Lot's of guys try to poke around in our personal lives. Of course they do. But just because you aren't the only doesn't make you any less creepy. You don't seem to want to understand how invasive this is. You've been given tons of suggestions on how to go about it. But what really stands out to me at this moment is how you seem almost slighted because you didn't get a response. Or that they don't say thanks. You've mentioned that several times.

You're just looking for attention. What does your fiancé have to say about this? You mentioned that you spoke to a buddy of yours, but did you ask your beloved what she thought about this? Does she even know that you spend your time debating camgirls online? Or that you spend even more time tracking them down? If I found out that my fiancé did this ish then all bets would be off. I'm not even kidding. Or your sister? Ask her what she thinks about what you are doing and then posting about it on a forum. You don't want to listen to us then, why not run it by them. Clearly you don't give a damn about how any of us feel. Anyways I'm not gonna give you anymore attention. I'm exiting this thread and adding you to my ignore list.

It's kind of weird that you asked me questions and then put me on your ignore list, but I'll answer the questions anyway, I guess.

Yes, I asked my fiancé what she thought about this. Yes, she knows that I'm on StripperWeb. Yes, she knows that I'm on MGF. I've talked to her about this thread. I don't have secrets from her. She has "extracurricular activities" of her own, including an out of state boyfriend. He's a nice guy and I like him.

Basically her opinion is that this is a weird waste of time, but that a lot of things I do are weird wastes of time, and that I'm smart enough not to let it creep into her life and decent enough to legitimately try not to hurt anyone.

I wouldn't talk to my sister about this, because the policy in my family is to pretend like none of us ever have sex or think about sex, and that babies are delivered by storks ;)

You say I had made up my mind before I created this thread, but it was your advice specifically that I followed, and it was helpful to me. And I thanked you for it, and I believe you gave me good advice. It's strange to me that you're saying I'm ignoring suggestions when your suggestion is exactly the one I took!

Anyway, sorry you hate me, and I guess I'll talk to you never...

audritwo
05-06-2015, 01:22 PM
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DonaDiabla
05-08-2015, 06:21 AM
Damn, this is one of the most creepiest threads on SW :(

blyzzard
05-08-2015, 07:04 AM
Oy Vey!!!

SweetJulia
05-08-2015, 09:46 PM
Eric, couldn't you contact the website and let them tell her about the potential problems?

No, cuz some sites only allow pics you don't have anywhere else on, as the pics become their property.

drearea
05-09-2015, 04:03 PM
Haven't read the comments yet but a) I'd be really freaked if you told me you just poked around the googles to see if you could find my real name b) I'd really want to know if it was that easy.

I'd say tell her, but prepare for her to be less than grateful.

deuce
06-10-2015, 03:21 PM
Sorry for bumping a thread that's been dormant for a month, but I just read it and think that the OP was unfairly piled on.

Just from reading this thread, the vibe I get is that the OP was genuinely unsure about whether he should contact someone and tell her that if he could successfully stalk her, other people could as well. (Yes, I think it's apt to refer to google-image-searching as stalking, even if lots of guys do it. To the extent that there are different levels of stalking, however, googling isn't the really bad kind.)

I think what the OP did was stupid and (sorry, OP!) kind of creepy. He should not have contacted the woman he stalked. The fact that he already suspected that she'd be ungrateful should have been a clue. If you send somebody an unwanted message that she's probably not going to appreciate, at best, you're spamming her. At worst, you're doubling down on the discreet stalking and knowingly making her uncomfortable. My advice is to not do this.

So the OP made a mistake. But isn't it obvious that he was trying to be kind rather than mean? Isn't it obvious that he was sincerely concerned about the woman's privacy? Isn't there a pretty solid utilitarian justification for making someone uncomfortable if it will prevent potentially greater harm in the future? The OP was not trying to be malicious or exploitative. (I'm taking him at his word that he didn't demand pics, etc., but why shouldn't we take him at his word?) He may have been lying to himself about his motive being purely protective rather than white-knight-ish. But even if that's the case, that kind of self-deception is a rather subtle mistake of the sort that we all make all the time, given how cognitively biased humans tend to be. The proper response, IMO, is to helpfully point out the possibility of such a mistake -- not to unleash so much unprovoked vitriol.

JMHO.

audritwo
06-10-2015, 03:43 PM
He messaged her on her RL facebook. He already made up his mine what he was going to do before asking us. I honestly don't want someone who doesn't respect camgirls privacy on OUR FORUM.

Addison Lynne
06-10-2015, 03:55 PM
I kind of get what you mean, I sorta believe him at first too....but then I offered to let her know for him if he would PM me her MGF name. He refused and replied that he didn't want to keep bothering me every time he found another girl the same way! So even though we're all telling him he shouldn't have done it, he's basically saying he's going to keep doing it to more girls.

You can take him at his word that he didn't demand pictures and make a new profile when she blocked him, but I'd rather believe the girl he did it to. It doesn't really matter anyway does it?...he's gone.

coma288
06-10-2015, 06:22 PM
Giving one guy crap doesn't change the fact that it happens ALL of the time. I'd much rather HE contacted me to let me know my accounts could all be found through each other than have some weirdo show up at my door, or start harassing my friends and family. I have some regulars I'd rather die than let get their hands on me, and it's not hard at all to reverse image search; maybe we should understand that it's going to happen, and just be happy if the person who figures it out isn't dangerous? I'd also very much want to know if a guy figured out my shit. I hope if I some how accidentally link my stuff together, that you are the one who figured it out.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
06-10-2015, 07:08 PM
Whatever that guys gone fuck him. I dont really care what his intentions were. People should be more careful with their online personas...absolutely. That guy was jacking off to responses. He probably still is. So bringing the topic back up is just silly.