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carmen_b
08-13-2015, 01:29 AM
I worked in a crowded environment today for my day job. I feel so depleted! I've been wavering on getting another assistant ( the current one just does sales ) and the main thing I'll need is crowd control. I always feel like it is this awkward clusterfuck at a certain key time at events and I need people to Stay Back ( away from me mostly !). I'll have to figure out a smooth way to integrate them even though their main job is just clearing a 6 -7 foot bubble around me. I guess I'm making the decision now that this is happening and I won't be working again at this place without crowd control assistance. I've already taken a salt bath , had food, and I still feel so angry !

R-209
08-13-2015, 08:22 PM
Could...really...use...drink...rightnow.

Crap.

I'm sure this chamomile tea will work just as well. :no:

Glamourmilf
08-14-2015, 10:34 AM
Ughh! After a week long of comfortably being my nice hermit self while I was staying at my friend's place while she was out of town, I had to drive back home in the middle of the night last night, after she got back. (I wish she offered to have me sleep over till morning, but whatevs).
I really hate that drive, cause it's all dark freeway, and country roads with no cell reception, but I'm very proud of myself for braving it.
Thank goodness that I made it home safe, albeit at 2 a.m, but still...42309

xxxGothBarbie
08-16-2015, 09:24 PM
I can NOT do that. Learned that the hard way. I did very, very well for several shifts in a row back in April and decided to 'reward myself' with like 5 days off... and could not drag my ass back in. I gave myself burnout because I had time to sit at home and think about the negatives of the club. I stewed that so hard that I decided to get a freaking teaching job, and essentially quit working except for 3-4 hrs/week until I came to my senses 2 months later.

I'm still digging out of the hole :(

Now I make a point to never, ever not go in if I've marked it as a day I was going to work. I've caught myself several times about to not go. Bailing out is a death spiral and a bad habit to get into!

Well for me it actually helps me to regroup enough that when I do go back I'm in a much better state of mind & usually do better. I can see how it might be counter productive to some though. I have little side jobs that I do that pay the same as dancing would which has helped me immensley. I think all in all it boiled down to me just hating that dead ass club & wanting to go elsewhere.

Elektra Luxx
08-17-2015, 05:51 PM
Could...really...use...drink...rightnow.

Crap.

I'm sure this chamomile tea will work just as well. :no:

Meeeeee Toooooooo!!! I'm buying, Margaritas on the rocks with a double shot of Cuervo.

R-209
08-17-2015, 09:41 PM
Meeeeee Toooooooo!!! I'm buying, Margaritas on the rocks with a double shot of Cuervo.

Awesome! Except I'm not drinking right now for some reason. I don't know why, exactly. It's not because I ever had a problem with alcohol. Maybe I'm a bit worried about mixing liquor with my meds, but surely one drink once in a while couldn't hurt (could it?). Maybe I'm afraid if I start again, I'll use it as a crutch. Maybe it's my increasingly apparent OCD tendencies; I haven't had a drink since May of last year and I simply can't bring myself to break the streak.

Or maybe it's because Washington State's liquor taxes are ridiculously high.

Whatever the reason, the compromise I've made with myself is that I will permit a drink to celebrate when something suitably good happens. This may take a while. Hopefully it won't cause a reaction with the lithium. If it doesn't, then I may cautiously approach a glass of red wine on occasion. Perfectly reasonable.

Know what one of my favorite drinks was? Marshmallow vodka. It sounds very "unmanly," but it was sooo good. I also liked Old Crow, because it was said to be Mark Twain's favorite and it is also very inexpensive.

Anyway, I've been making further efforts to conquer my social anxiety so that I may one day function in the real world. I went to one community gathering which was a little awkward, but brief. But that got me invited to a bigger event next Sunday, which I could not find any way of declining. I must become more proficient at this so-called "small talk" that the Normals speak of...

Glamourmilf
08-17-2015, 10:08 PM
^^^^^Well, that's progress. Good for you!

Im proud of myself that I drove up to my friends house and back tonight. Im pissed though that she didnt ask me to stay over, esp. Since she texted me when I got home that I could use her place to work tomorrow. What?? :-\
Shes one of those friends that doesnt get the whole needing to hermit, and the driving anxiety I have.:(

Elektra Luxx
08-18-2015, 02:04 PM
Know what one of my favorite drinks was? Marshmallow vodka. It sounds very "unmanly," but it was sooo good. I also liked Old Crow, because it was said to be Mark Twain's favorite and it is also very inexpensive.

As of this weekend, I'm going to stay away from alcohol for a while too and switch to chamomile tea, I don't drink a lot, but when I do I don't know when to stop and it gets me into trouble. I've never had a Marshmallow Vodka. I think you're a totally manly, regardless of the name of your favorite drink.

R-209
08-19-2015, 11:57 AM
I think you're a totally manly, regardless of the name of your favorite drink.

Aw, thanks! :blush:

Coincidentally, after I typed that last post, I went to the kitchen and discovered I'd accidentally left the Valerian tea out again. Yikes. The cats were pretty nutty for a while.

I also like the "Tension Tamer" tea, in part because there's a dragon on the box. I think I'm going to make an effort to drink more green tea in the morning instead of coffee.

R-209
08-20-2015, 10:57 AM
Last night's meeting was pretty intense. I always get there about half an hour early to unlock the door and set everything up. I was surprised when our guest speaker showed up early, too. So I had to talk to her for about fifteen minutes while surreptitiously glancing at the clock, hoping that the far more extroverted members would arrive soon. I am still lacking in my "small talk" skills and speaking extemporaneously. Online, I can (and do) edit and re-edit a post or e-mail dozens of times, look up proper grammar (what's the difference between "further" and "farther" again?), research facts and figures, and so on.

In person, I just nod and say "Uh-huh" and "Mmm" a lot, while my brain is screaming at me to think of something clever to say. And I'm like, "Isn't that YOUR job, brain?"

I'm also very self-conscious about my facial expressions. Am I making too little or too much eye contact? Do I look bored? Am I scowling? Should I be smiling? Does my fake smile look fake?

And while I'm thinking about all this, I've completely missed what the other person was saying. Oh, well. I guess it's practice, practice, practice. :shudder:

Elektra Luxx
08-20-2015, 03:07 PM
Don't feel to bad, I'm the same way too. Maybe you could adopt a persona. Some people in this forum adopt a persona while working. This persona is strong, cool, confident and always knows what to say. I try to mimic my older sister in certain situations. She could have been the captain of a starship. PM me if you need more dets.

R-209
08-20-2015, 09:31 PM
Maybe you could adopt a persona. Some people in this forum adopt a persona while working. This persona is strong, cool, confident and always knows what to say.

YES. Depending on who I'm dealing with, I either want to be William Wallace or Raylan Givens.

I've half-seriously considered a disguise, like a pair of Clark Kent style glasses. Perhaps a hat of some kind...

It would be fun to be a master of disguise.

R-209
08-24-2015, 06:32 PM
I went to one community gathering which was a little awkward, but brief. But that got me invited to a bigger event next Sunday, which I could not find any way of declining.

You guys... That other event?

IT WAS A TRAP!

Actually, it was an awards ceremony for community volunteers. I had no idea I was getting one (for starting the support group) until I read the program. I certainly appreciated the gesture, but standing up in front of a big crowd while people are taking pictures of you can raise that social anxiety just a bit. Afterward, I had to "mingle" with people asking me questions and wanting to know about the group. I talked to one guy for about 45 minutes, but he looked a lot like LeVar Burton so it was okay. After that, I was ready to retreat to my solitude. Good practice, though.

And they gave me a plaque! No one's ever given me a plaque before.

Glamourmilf
08-29-2015, 02:56 PM
I found a supermarket in the new town I live in that never is crowded, and even has the bank I now go to inside. Since food shopping gives me such anxiety, I felt it was a God send.... Until the other day.
It's close to a high school, and school apparently had just started last week.
I got caught in the middle of school letting out, and it not only was crowded with rowdy kids inside, but all of the surrounding streets were clogged and bumper to bumper with parents cars who were picking them up. I just did my banking and got the frig outta there. You know it's bad, when the teller comments on it.:O42434

Selina M
08-29-2015, 05:57 PM
I also like the "Tension Tamer" tea, in part because there's a dragon on the box.

I have that stuff! We identify all the teas by the pictures on the box, haha... if my SO asks what kind of tea I want, I say "dragon" :D He's a very calm dragon somehow, lol

I think I'm gonna go grocery shopping at the 24 hr Walmart after work... I'm sure it'll be empty at 1 am. I'm becoming very anal about grocery shopping.... I go to Walmart bc it doesn't feel as crowded and tight as a Frys, and they have self checkout, where I don't have to chat with a cashier and can take my sweet ass time and bag things in an organized manner. I want this bag to be all frozen, and this to be all baking goods, etc. Easier to unpack.

My phone has like 4 voicemails I won't listen to. They're from the car insurance companies (because I was livid at being blamed and demanded they have a higher up adjuster look at it), but now I don't want to deal with talking to people and the stress it puts on me. I'm going to stick a money order under the office door at my apt for the bullshit they're charging me for, write that I want an emailed receipt, that if they tow my car I will report it stolen and sue, and to please not call me about anything for the remainder of my lease. I think the system fucked up and thinks my fiancé is on the lease, so maybe I'll send him down there. He's level headed and doesn't dissolve into fits of rage and frustration tears.

R-209
08-29-2015, 06:53 PM
Yeah, my Safeway is across from a high school. Whenever I make the mistake of going around the time it lets out, I fear for the future.

And apparently people no longer feel the need to look behind them when backing out of a parking space. Or yield to pedestrians in the crosswalk. I nearly had to jump out of the way last week.

My latest SA story: I had an appointment with the psych nurse for the first time in almost a year. Usually, I face other appointments with either dread or indifference, but the SA kicks in with the nurse because she is amazingly beautiful. She looks a bit like Emilia Clarke. She's actually quite sweet and easy to talk to, but I find myself feeling very self-conscious about everything I say and do. Like, am I making too much or too little eye contact? And I'm a bit more guarded than I would be with the psychiatrist. I was grateful that I'm not the mess of a human being I was last year, because I got to have a pretty pleasant visit. She has a painting of "Starry Night" in her office now, so I talked with her about the Van Gogh bio I've been reading (what a coincidence, by the way).

I think I made a mistake when I showed her the plaque I mentioned above. That probably made me look like a little kid trying to impress a pretty teacher. Or a total creeper.

R-209
08-29-2015, 07:17 PM
I have that stuff! We identify all the teas by the pictures on the box, haha... if my SO asks what kind of tea I want, I say "dragon" :D He's a very calm dragon somehow, lol

Hmmm. He doesn't look that calm. Or maybe I've been prejudiced by "Game of Thrones." I also like the one with the teddy bear in his night cap, but I haven't tried the one with the wizard and unicorn for some reason.

42435

Glamourmilf
08-29-2015, 07:56 PM
[QUOTE=R-209;2795066]Yeah, my Safeway is across from a high school. Whenever I make the mistake of going around the time it lets out, I fear for the future.

Idkw but this made me lol so hard! Its the same feeling for me, like I hear the dreaded 'do do do do' music playing.
Oh yeah, I agree with them roaming around mindless of anyone else being around. They are #selfobsorbed.

Selina M
08-31-2015, 04:04 PM
I'm really having a hard time dealing with stupid people and anyone who irritates me. It's hard bc at work I can just roll my eyes and leave. In real life I have to be polite. If I know someone is going to say something to make me angry or is just an idiot, I won't deal with them in person. It's like a weird form of social anxiety; I'm not anxious about talking to the person, I'm agitated that I know they'll piss me off and set my OCD in motion (which makes me dwell on the offending thing and waste a whole day), so I avoid them.

I just sent my SO down with a check to this crap apt complex, bc I knew I would lose my shit if I had to look at the smug finance woman's face. He told them to leave me alone for the rest of my lease. He's going to have to deal with them from now on. I'm making him stay home tomorrow morning to deal with selling my car as well. I have issues with doing any kind of sales deal with people that's not in a strip club. Idk what I would do without him to be the mediator for me. Probably hide in bed from the world.

Selina M
08-31-2015, 05:48 PM
^^ Oh my God I didn't know you were homeless, I thought you got a place worked out :( I hope something gets turned around for you!

Eviction/their power is totally why I didn't immediately have a lawyer send them a letter; I had a nasty feeling they'd retaliate. I'm not sure if they're ignorant to my bf not being on the lease or not; one girl knows he's not and tries to hush it up, not sure about the rest. He does get all the same emails/rent reminders that I do, has an online acct to pay rent, and they address things to both of us.... but all I need is for them to get mad, pull my file and figure out he never actually signed the lease and have me evicted over him being here.

Glamourmilf
08-31-2015, 06:52 PM
^^^^^Not that You asked for my advice, but if I can save even 1 person from what I've gone through, it would be.....Stay Invisible. (With landlords, with anyone that annoys You)...Stay Invisible.
You'll have a much more peaceful life.

Optimist
09-04-2015, 07:28 AM
^^^^^Not that You asked for my advice, but if I can save even 1 person from what I've gone through, it would be.....Stay Invisible. (With landlords, with anyone that annoys You)...Stay Invisible.
You'll have a much more peaceful life.

With vindictive people, that's the only way to do it.

Optimist
09-04-2015, 07:28 AM
^^^^^Not that You asked for my advice, but if I can save even 1 person from what I've gone through, it would be.....Stay Invisible. (With landlords, with anyone that annoys You)...Stay Invisible.
You'll have a much more peaceful life.

With vindictive people, that's the only way to do it.

Glamourmilf
09-07-2015, 09:02 PM
^^ Thank You. I only went out of obligation, but never again!
Thank God my best friend couldn't make the long drive out to go with me. She would've kicked my ass if I put her through that.
I will be hanging out with his neighbors in the future, however, so not all is lost.
But I'm not going to make any social plans until winter, whenever THAT will be.:boxedin:

xxxGothBarbie
09-07-2015, 09:09 PM
I went downtown with my roomie tonight for a walk & didn't feel I looked my best so I hid behind sunglasses all afternoon & fought the overwhelming social awkwardness creeping up & feeling as if everyone was staring at me . I hated it! :(

Jassi
09-11-2015, 10:35 PM
Social anxiety and anxiety in general is bad
been trying to get over myself and be social
Last Sunday I go to a huge party and one of friends got into a physical fist fight with a dick

nerve racking as hell--my friend took some punches--made me nervous for days afterward

It's ok--nothing could have stopped that from happening--I'll be venturing out more :-\

Jassi
09-12-2015, 10:20 PM
Fighting at a party is not normal. I repeat, fighting at a party is not normal.

Obviously you know that. Maybe a movie? or go to the park? or somewhere where there isn't booze and aggressive people.

At least to start.

I'm sorry I'm threadjacking everywhere too, I figure these threads would get more traffic but I guess they don't.

The guy that started the fight is not normal-I know it's not normal. Just saying what happened at the party. My friend was not the aggressor-it turned bad at the end of the night after 2-3 hours of the other guy rattling the bear cage. Long story short the other guy tried to assault a female friend of his at a different party and hit on my friends girlfriend all the same night--my friend wanted nothing to do with him-but some people need to be jerks.

That's what happened at my party last week--I'll still go out--was nerve wracking though.
My friend did ok for almost 3 hours of some coked out guy trying to talk to him after he tried to assault a mutual friend and hit on his girlfriend when my friend asked him to stay away and not talk to him.
It's not normal I know-I don't blame my friend for losing his cool eventually

I'll hit more parties or shows and clubs I like live music
parks malls the boardwalk--it's all good

I live in a big city--crazies are everywhere when I was a waitress I had to deal with crazies who had too much booze
It was difficult to see my friend fight-he is a decent person-the other guy just pushed things too far that's what being on coke does to some people

I get what you're saying--I like music clubs-people don't always act right
It won't stop me from enjoying myself though--there's plenty to do maybe a museum

R-209
10-03-2015, 01:15 PM
Guess who just got a JURY DUTY notice in the mail!

Yeah, I used to get really freaked out when I got one. You'd think I'd gotten a draft notice. I've only been called in once but didn't actually have to serve, so I basically sat in a tiny room with a bunch of strangers all day for no reason. They didn't even provide snacks or coffee!

I'm only kind of nervous about it now. That may change if I actually have to sit on a jury!

Anyone have jury duty stories to tell?

BambiCutie
10-14-2015, 08:17 AM
I've always kinda been more withdrawn & only like the limelight in small doses but here lately I never want to leave my motel room unless it's to go to work or to get food. I want to go for walks but I feel like I'm going to just run into people I know & I don't want them to see me. I've never gotten this bad before until now. I don't really know tons of people here but it IS a small town where I will see the same people often (which bothers me). Over the last year I've been through alot & am currently homeless (by choice more less) living in a hotel, and am having major social anxieties for some odd reason or another. Do any of you go thru a withdrawal period where you want to just hide most of your days (including staying out of the gym or nature in general)? What is wrong with me?

Oh wow, if I had saw this thread before..I would of commented ahead. (Was thinking of creating one about my fears and hermit anxiety disorder, but already created!) I suffer from the same thing you do! Other people find it easy to get into a car and drive off as if nothing matters, I get into a car and I immediately have to prep 24 hours in advance to do so. With my disorder caused by defects I suffer from a constant fear associated with OCD. It is far less serious along with other struggles and physical issues that use to cause me a lot of pain as a child. It would be a dream to drive places without that fear or being held back by 70 thoughts in 10min, talking about one thing and suddenly obsessing about the next. Its like an addiction! Hours can pass talking about the same thing, over and over..before you know it, its 7pm. Trust me, it fucking sucks! You end up becoming your own best friend before allowing others to get close to you, but in the end you learn a lot about yourself. I also am terrified and get pretty angry being patted on the head, hugged or touched by people I am not familiar with. I literally flip my shit! Walking outside is never an easy thing either, as I typically am awake through 1am-7am from OCD. It helps to jog on the other side walk if I see people and when they wave to say hi. I mumble and start running! It becomes easy not leaving the house and avoiding what makes you fearful. I found, I just don't like a lot of people. They smell, give weird looks and judge you with their boogery eyes..no thank you. You do find good people who are genuine and very kind, that shines brightly on someone's personality. They end up becoming good friends!

R-209
10-16-2015, 09:28 PM
I have that stuff! We identify all the teas by the pictures on the box, haha... if my SO asks what kind of tea I want, I say "dragon" :D He's a very calm dragon somehow, lol

THEY CHANGED THE BOX.

http://i.imgur.com/CNbhJ2J.jpg

The dragon stays the same, but the castle is gone! And instead of bold, eye-catching blues, we get weak, washed-out colors and the dullest possible font. It looks like a box for cold medicine. :(

JenniferNorth
10-17-2015, 07:42 AM
Now that just sucks, you guys! I <3 the old box. WTF Celestial Seasonings?! I don't think this is the only box they messed with. Didn't Sleepytime have a cuter box back in the day, with the whole bear family on it?

Selina M
10-25-2015, 01:10 PM
THEY CHANGED THE BOX.

http://i.imgur.com/CNbhJ2J.jpg

The dragon stays the same, but the castle is gone! And instead of bold, eye-catching blues, we get weak, washed-out colors and the dullest possible font. It looks like a box for cold medicine. :(

Fuck that box. I'm gonna save the old box and just put the new one in it. NOT A COOL DRAGON.

R-209
11-01-2015, 08:23 PM
Just finished with my old box (which I'm saving for posterity), when I noticed that the new box cheats us out of a philosophical quote!

Old box:
"The search for truth is more precious than its possession." - Gotthold Ephraim Lessing
AND
"Without even going out of the door, one can know the whole world." - Lao Tzu (hey, Lao Tzu predicted the internet!)

New box:
"Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without."- Buddhist proverb

Old box definitely comes out on top. Think I'll hit up some outlet stores and see if they have any.

BACK ON TOPIC: Of course I was in the first group to be called for jury duty. It wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have to get up so early. :( As long as it's not a "Twelve Angry Men" situation, I'll be okay. Made myself a bag lunch and everything. And it's an excuse to wear a tie.

Dominic.2
11-04-2015, 07:43 PM
Guess who just got a JURY DUTY notice in the mail!

Yeah, I used to get really freaked out when I got one. You'd think I'd gotten a draft notice.

Anyone have jury duty stories to tell?

I've been called at least 5 times but I never had to serve. So I don't have any stories.

Speaking of draft notices, you haven't lived until you've gotten an audit letter or a Automatic Under Reporters (AUR 2000) form from the IRS. When you talk to the IRS on the phone they don't seem to understand why you are bent out of shape about it. He said we send out tons of these forms all of the time, it is no big deal. Well, to you the IRS agent, sure it's no big deal. But when you are a normal person you feel as if you've gotten arrested. Even if the supporting documentation they ultimately want is no big deal.

I had higher than usual consulting income that year ('jeez, I'm truthful and they still accuse me of hiding more) and they also wanted additional documentation for my educational expenses since the 1099-T form didn't match what I claimed (do they ever?).

Glamourmilf
11-04-2015, 08:13 PM
^^^^Scary shit! I freaked out when i got a letter from the IRS that needed a signature. I wasn't home, so a notice was left.
It was a friday, so i was in an anxiety attack the entire weekend, till monday.
Turned out it was a letter telling me that i was late for my last pmt.

Selina M
11-04-2015, 11:34 PM
^^ I am near-terrified of the IRS. I had a small meltdown last April trying to file my taxes. I have this ridiculous fear of being audited. My fiancé thinks I'm insane; "They have way better shit to do than try to squeeze an extra $1000 out of a college kid", but the posts in Dollar Den (esp from Melonie) freak me out... like "What if they do like she posts about, and arbitrarily decide I must have made more and slap me with $10k in back taxes?!"

Random rant on that:
Most of my anxiety is since having bought my car. I don't work a lot but I'm also very frugal (currently refusing to buy new civilian flats despite the ones I've had for 2 years having holes in them), so basically the $$ most people blow on shopping/eating out is my car payment.
I doubt it's a huge red flag, since I financed the entire amount on 72 months, and it was only $20k.

I feel really stupid about it sometimes. There's girls I know that file, claim half their income, and then write off $1000s in makeup, clothing, even their gas and mileage. There's girls that don't file at all, never have in years, and finance luxury cars with $600 payments. Those girls should be worried about audits and it doesn't even cross their mind. Yet I file and don't deduct hardly anything to be safe, and I still worry. Le sigh. Such is the life of anxiety girl!

Glamourmilf
11-05-2015, 01:52 AM
^^^Im so with you on everything you posted.
I know people that actually BRAG about never paying their taxes for 20, 40 yrs!
I don't even want to post what I make on here, when i have an awesome money day.
That old saying that Al Capone murdered so many people, yet went to jail for tax evasion, keeps going through my mind.
Until very recently, I kept receits for 8 yrs.

JenniferNorth
11-07-2015, 06:52 PM
I don't know WHY people brag on not paying taxes. That is one thing the gov. WILL get you on....didn't they get Wesley Snipes on it???

Glamourmilf
11-23-2015, 08:40 PM
Was invited to drive out to a friend's place yesterday for dinner, and to watch the AMA's. And to stay over night.
Big mistake!
He kept, not only talking during the show, but kept making phone calls..I mean, one right after the next. The worse part was he would hand the phone over to me so I could say hi. I didn't know any of his friends, so not only was he being rude, but very intrusive.
I get it...He's an extrovert, and wants everyone to know just how popular he is..::)
But after several hours of this, combined with his need to have the sound on the tv up full volume, i wanted to leave. I was trapped because the drive home would have been too dangerous, because I don't know the city he lives in, and I wasn't even sure how to get back to the new town I live in..

As an HSP introvert, this was pure torture! His place was smelly and dirty, and he kept following me around,just talking, talking, talking! Omg! Shut up! He even followed me to the bathroom, and wouldn't let me shut the door. Um, excuse me! No, he said, just one more thing I have to tell You. Ugh!!
The couch was so uncomfortable..the street noise was annoying, as i could hear drunks arguing outside. Blech!
Got up early, and thought I could quitly make coffee, get dressed, and split...Nope, he got up,and blasted his stereo, and started yapping once again.
F..k! Im so wiped out...I feel so drained. Never again! I always knew he was hyper, but staying over brought everything to a whole new level of insanity.
I tried a few times to explain how I am, and the need for quiet, etc. His reponse was that I'm just a control freak! What? Okay.
I'm done trying. It's over for me to even try to fit in to social situations.
I thought with xmas coming up, it would be good practice for the upcoming parties/ gatherings.
Nope. Not going.
Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read this.

BambiCutie
11-23-2015, 09:07 PM
I don't know why, but I absolutely hate when people blare the volume even more during commercials!

wish
12-03-2015, 10:10 PM
Do you ever feel like other people are adulting better than you because of your seclusion? Maybe it's just me because I'm not adulting at all.

wednesday86
12-04-2015, 05:49 PM
These days I only leave my house to go to the post office (for ebay shit), to go to class and to occasionally buy food/toiletries. I stayed in Chicago with my husband and son over Thanksgiving break and went to his friends' house for beer and board games...Should have been fun...there were only 4 other people there. I was throwing those beers back so fast just so I could talk to people. Does anyone find 99.9% of other human beings so incredibly dull and you have to think of nice things to say to them? Like pretend to be interested in their boring ass stories? I wish I didn't feel like that. I'm sure people think I'm boring too because I don't talk much.

I remember when I was younger, early 20's, I really enjoyed meeting other people and interacting with them. I would like to get back to that again. I'm wondering if dancing ruined that for me...

Glamourmilf
12-07-2015, 06:29 PM
[QUOTE=wednesday86;28273 Does anyone find 99.9% of other human beings so incredibly dull and you have to think of nice things to say to them? Like pretend to be interested in their boring ass stories? I wish I didn't feel like that.

I remember when I was younger, early 20's, I really enjoyed meeting other people and interacting with them. I would like to get back to that again. I'm wondering if dancing ruined that for me...[/QUOTE]

:yes::yes::yes::yes: This. I also oftentimes know how people are going to finish their boring sentences.
I do think it's either as a result of dancing, or because I lived so hard, and fast.I feel like I've done more than most people I know. I wish I was like I was in my early 20's, when everything was so fresh and new. Things seemed so exciting back then.:(

Glamourmilf
01-23-2016, 11:34 AM
Visited a really good friend last week. After being at his house for 5 minutes, I wanted to leave.
Omg what's the matter with me? I've stayed overnight once before, and it wasn't bad at all.
The only difference is that I have lived in 2 roommate situations since the last time I visited him, which was a little over a year ago.:-\ Although he did go to work one of the days I was there that time.
I hadn't even stepped inside his house yet, and he's yammering on about how pissy he feels. Then he proceeds to tell me about it, and about the people who are pissing him off.
After 4 hours of listening to him, I couldn't take it anymore! I felt physically ill, and nauseous.
I said I needed to unpack, and take a bath. Of course he follows me up to my bedroom, yacking, yacking all the way.
Argh!! I hate that I feel this way, but it is what it is.
I was supposed to stay 2 days, but he was on vacation, so there would be no escaping him.
I left the next day, and checked into one of my favorite hotels. Ahh, peace and quiet, at last.

EastCoastDancer01
01-24-2016, 06:39 PM
LOL dont you hate it when people cant take a hint?? ^^ I can listen to someone complain for like 10 minutes, but 4 hours?? ugh. I hate having to listen to people go on and on about something I'm not interested in. I just feel like when it comes to people I meet, its either one of two things...I cant stand their personality because they are rude, obnoxious, stuck up, etc. or they have decent personalities but I find them to be incredibly boring or I have nothing in common with them. Its very rare for me to meet someone nice who I actually click with and find to be interesting.

Glamourmilf
01-24-2016, 11:26 PM
LOL dont you hate it when people cant take a hint?? ^^ I can listen to someone complain for like 10 minutes, but 4 hours?? ugh. I hate having to listen to people go on and on about something I'm not interested in. I just feel like when it comes to people I meet, its either one of two things...I cant stand their personality because they are rude, obnoxious, stuck up, etc. or they have decent personalities but I find them to be incredibly boring or I have nothing in common with them. Its very rare for me to meet someone nice who I actually click with and find to be interesting.

Nodding, in agreement to everything You wrote. I don't know if it's worse, now that I've been camming, and doing phone sex. Where the subjects are always repetitive to me, and not very mentally stimulating.
I was trying to be polite, cause, You know, I was a guest in his house. Now I'm glad that for the last year or so, we only communicate through text. Looking over his texts, I can't help but notice that he's always complaining about something- usually his health. Blah. I'm sooo over it!
Maybe when I get to live alone again( guy I'm renting from just let ANOTHER person crash here) That makes 5 people including me. All strangers. All super noisy! Ugh! #MyLifeRightNow

R-209
01-25-2016, 01:26 PM
Have to leave a message on a complete stranger's voice mail. Would rather walk over broken glass.

NoRegrets
01-25-2016, 01:52 PM
Have to leave a message on a complete stranger's voice mail. Would rather walk over broken glass.

If you don't mind some unsolicited advice, here's some. Write down what you need to say and practice reading it a few times before you call. Read from your written notes exactly to leave the message. Try to focus your thoughts on the feeling of relief and accomplishment you'll feel after you successfully leave the message. You want to start associating good feelings with these types of tasks. Once you leave the message, get yourself a beer/chocolate for a job well done.

lynn2009
01-25-2016, 09:40 PM
If you don't mind some unsolicited advice, here's some. Write down what you need to say and practice reading it a few times before you call. Read from your written notes exactly to leave the message. Try to focus your thoughts on the feeling of relief and accomplishment you'll feel after you successfully leave the message. You want to start associating good feelings with these types of tasks. Once you leave the message, get yourself a beer/chocolate for a job well done.

A bit unrelated but I did this with a presentation I had to give online ( no video) and it went great. Highly recommend preparing a script.

JenniferNorth
02-01-2016, 09:23 AM
I have come to the conclusion that I can never have a regular job outside the home, ever again. At home work, fine. Selling things, fine. But like a job working in an office or something? I think that if I EVER had to put up with the rudeness and expectations heaped upon me by bosses, I would flip them off, and promptly walk off the job. I even told husband the other day "I don't think I can hold a regular job ever again". Bitchy behavior from bosses and customers alike, low pay, and having my life regulated again? NO. I have exceed becoming a hermit. I have become a bitch hermit. I don't know if this is social anxiety, having a teething kid, or I am just a horrible person, but I felt if anyone would understand me, it'd be you guys.

Also, if you have a child, and take said child out in public, strangers will approach you. It sucks.