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R-209
09-05-2018, 02:53 PM
When you're speaking to someone with a heavy accent, and you feel guilty asking them to repeat themselves.
And that person is also your doctor.
R-209
09-12-2018, 01:03 PM
Anyone have experience with creepy repair people? Like they make you so uncomfortable, you just want them gone?
I've been trying to get my elliptical to run properly for over a year. There are apparently two guys available, and I can't stand the thought of having either of them in my home. First guy was just an incompetent asshole who wasted a lot of time and made a lot of excuses. Second guy was MAJOR creepy. I thought about inventing some emergency to get him to leave, but wasn't sure how he'd react to that.
I decided to just let him finish what he was doing and he began to make WEIRD noises. I had the phone ready to dial 911 and was scanning the room for something to defend myself with. After about three and a half hours of this, he announced he was finished (he had the annoying habit of calling me "bud"). I barely tested the machine and told him it was fine because I wanted him OUT.
So of course it breaks again a week later and the company tells me he's still the only guy available. He's overdue for making an appointment, and I'm hoping he doesn't call at all so I have something more substantial to complain about. I'm afraid to explain how this guy acted (in case it gets back to him), but I REALLY want my elliptical fixed...
Violethollywood
09-12-2018, 05:57 PM
Anyone have experience with creepy repair people? Like they make you so uncomfortable, you just want them gone?
I've been trying to get my elliptical to run properly for over a year. There are apparently two guys available, and I can't stand the thought of having either of them in my home. First guy was just an incompetent asshole who wasted a lot of time and made a lot of excuses. Second guy was MAJOR creepy. I thought about inventing some emergency to get him to leave, but wasn't sure how he'd react to that.
I decided to just let him finish what he was doing and he began to make WEIRD noises. I had the phone ready to dial 911 and was scanning the room for something to defend myself with. After about three and a half hours of this, he announced he was finished (he had the annoying habit of calling me "bud"). I barely tested the machine and told him it was fine because I wanted him OUT.
So of course it breaks again a week later and the company tells me he's still the only guy available. He's overdue for making an appointment, and I'm hoping he doesn't call at all so I have something more substantial to complain about. I'm afraid to explain how this guy acted (in case it gets back to him), but I REALLY want my elliptical fixed...
i think ALL repair men are creepy. I don't like them being in my house at all bc they like to look at me bc im attractive so i try to find someone i know who knows a thing or two about stuff i need fixed
R-209
09-15-2018, 06:55 PM
Recent events
Dental appointment, with strangers in masks lurking over me and jabbing me with sharp things: OK
Suicide Prevention Walk, hundreds of people, emotional: No problem
Guy wants to add me as a friend in Pokemon Go on my evening walk: Freak out.
Like, that's the point of the game.
Fuck SA so much.
eagle2
09-16-2018, 01:09 PM
Have you ever tried using nitrous oxide? I always ask the dentist for it when I'm getting something unpleasant done.
eagle2
09-16-2018, 01:11 PM
There are also some dentists that use anesthesia.
R-209
09-19-2018, 09:45 AM
There are also some dentists that use anesthesia.
So far, I've been oddly calm during dental appointments. I did get a little nervous when I heard the dentist telling another patient about the extensive work they needed, making me wonder if I'd need a lot more than a root canal.
It just occurred to me that the reason I'm calm is because the dentist's is one of the few places where small talk is basically impossible.
And my temporary crown just fell out. Damnit.
JessaJade
09-20-2018, 01:25 PM
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09-20-2018, 05:17 PM
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09-21-2018, 07:32 AM
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Glamourmilf
09-21-2018, 07:50 AM
i think ALL repair men are creepy. I don't like them being in my house at all bc they like to look at me bc im attractive so i try to find someone i know who knows a thing or two about stuff i need fixed
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DarkPassion305
09-21-2018, 12:43 PM
At this point when I do leave the house I am dead set on not talking to anybody. Don’t ask me for directions, my phone number or if I look familiar to you ( I hate it when people think they know me). IDGAF, I walk past people mid sentence lol.
Glamourmilf
09-22-2018, 06:56 AM
^^^Right? I'm the same way.
I went to this very high end supermarket yesterday.
Damn chatty cashier started commenting on how much dessert I was buying. Very loudly, I might add.:O
As much as I was looking down, and into my purse trying to ignore him, he just wouldn't stop! OMG!!
On and on, about how I'm the reason he gets up in the morning, and how I am so special, yada yada.
I've never seen this douchebag in my life. WTF is he even talking about?
It was bad enough that the air conditioning was broken in the store ( it was 105 degrees out, so yeah, not a pleasant shopping trip). But, I gotta deal with THIS moron?
I decided right then and there that I'm going to have to have my food delivered from now on.
*Not to mention that the 'snowbirds' will be descending on this town in another month for the winter.
You don't even WANT to know how crowded the stores are then.
JessaJade
09-23-2018, 05:26 AM
My latest thing is finding interesting meetup groups and considering joining an event but deciding to just do the activity or attend an event by myself LOL. I do still try when I'm in the mood but I'm pretty much at peace with not liking most humans nowadays. I don't fit in anywhere...I'm not cool or outgoing enough but then when I'm with shy awkward people they think I'm too outgoing. I'm bored of dealing with peoples jealousy too.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
09-23-2018, 06:37 AM
My latest thing is finding interesting meetup groups and considering joining an event but deciding to just do the activity or attend an event by myself LOL. I do still try when I'm in the mood but I'm pretty much at peace with not liking most humans nowadays. I don't fit in anywhere...I'm not cool or outgoing enough but then when I'm with shy awkward people they think I'm too outgoing. I'm bored of dealing with peoples jealousy too.
Ive been wanting to join up with other groups Ive found online too! Ive read stories with great outcomes. We haven't done it yet but what we're most interested in are travel groups. I dont wanna go on vacation in a remote area with a bunch of people who suck. That would suck! Most of our friends don't ever go anywhere so now we have to branch out and meet new people.
JessaJade
09-23-2018, 07:28 AM
^I guess it's hit and miss. There are great people and experiences out there, I'm just slightly jaded and cynical LOL.
Best thing is to always have excuses and an escape plan in place, in case everyone is unbearable.
Glamourmilf
09-23-2018, 07:57 AM
My latest thing is finding interesting meetup groups and considering joining an event but deciding to just do the activity or attend an event by myself LOL. I do still try when I'm in the mood but I'm pretty much at peace with not liking most humans nowadays. I don't fit in anywhere...I'm not cool or outgoing enough but then when I'm with shy awkward people they think I'm too outgoing. I'm bored of dealing with peoples jealousy too.
Joining Meetup groups was one of the first things I did when I first moved here. That, and attending a New
Age church.
I really enjoyed the people I met. But, I did find myself ( especially in my photography group), wandering off by myself, or leaving early.
My discovery with my new town is that there are 2 types of people here.
Mature white women who only want to talk about their illnesses and doctor's visits #boring, :yawn: or gay men.
I chose the latter, because they're just too damn fun! :party2: However, their CONSTANT hunt for new dick is boring to me too.
Oh, there's a 3rd type of person who lives here=Old, rich white dudes. (Good for a client, not much else).
So, here I be. Content to be alone, in my own little world.
For me, it's as close to heaven as one can get.:cloud9:
Nyla19
09-23-2018, 01:15 PM
Joining Meetup groups was one of the first things I did when I first moved here. That, and attending a New
Age church.
I really enjoyed the people I met. But, I did find myself ( especially in my photography group), wandering off by myself, or leaving early.
My discovery with my new town is that there are 2 types of people here.
Mature white women who only want to talk about their illnesses and doctor's visits #boring, :yawn: or gay men.
I chose the latter, because they're just too damn fun! :party2: However, their CONSTANT hunt for new dick is boring to me too.
Oh, there's a 3rd type of person who lives here=Old, rich white dudes. (Good for a client, not much else).
So, here I be. Content to be alone, in my own little world.
For me, it's as close to heaven as one can get.:cloud9:
Maybe you'll feel comfortable to PM me the area you live in someday. It sounds awesome! Don't worry I most likely can't move there anyway. Just curious because your posts about your new home sound nice.
Glamourmilf
09-24-2018, 07:40 AM
Maybe you'll feel comfortable to PM me the area you live in someday. It sounds awesome! Don't worry I most likely can't move there anyway. Just curious because your posts about your new home sound nice.
Is THAT what you got from reading my post? Lol!
Please go back and read it again.
I absolutely HATE it here!
I'm moving.
I didn't even mention that it's way too hot most of the year. Like a furnace, day and night. 110-120 degrees, And humid. Gross.
I'm in my own little world, as I mentioned, because the people are phoney and annoying as fuck, so I stay home alone.
JessaJade
10-07-2018, 07:39 AM
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10-07-2018, 10:36 AM
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Elektra Luxx
10-07-2018, 10:51 AM
^^^
This is me, exactly.
R-209
10-07-2018, 11:56 AM
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I love that.
Glamourmilf
10-08-2018, 10:13 AM
While I was out last Friday cashing my check, getting gas, and a Starbucks.
My car began to overheat.:O
Friday afternoon at 5 pm., At the start of a holiday weekend. Yeah, not the best time to find a mechanic.
I quickly pulled in to a nearby CVS so my car could cool down for a bit.
While I was there, I decided to use my CVS coupons and stock up on essentials, since I'd probably be housebound all weekend.
The music was blasting so loudly in the store( yeah, why do stores feel the need to do this?), it added to my anxiety.
It was crowded too.
To top it off, the bitchy cashier took a call while ringing me up.>:( This is one of my pet peeves.
Naturally, it sidetracked her, and she made a mistake when tallying up my order.
She had to start ALL over again, and now the line behind me started growing. I usually don't do reviews, but I did do one on this broad. A bad review was definitely warranted.
I made it home, and haven't left the house since.
Ugh! Just ugh!
Glamourmilf
10-09-2018, 08:28 AM
Food delivery services are the greatest invention for someone like me.
Tried it for the first time yesterday, and I'm hooked!
Grocery stores trigger major social anxiety. The bright flouresant lights, loud piped in music, screeming kids, people blocking aisles with their carts, slow check out lines. Argh!
Plus, having a back problem doesn't help with having to lift all the heavy bags.
I love how Walmart texted me to let me know that the driver was on his way.
* Free delivery, AND they gave me a tote bag full of samples.
Even a small toy truck that I'll be using on cam in my giantess shows and clips.;D
R-209
10-13-2018, 08:30 PM
Welp, off to face my life-long fears and anxieties head-on.
Yaaaaay.
xxxGothBarbie
10-13-2018, 09:27 PM
I seriously wish ppl would just stop staring & GTFO the fact that I dress unusual & have crazy hair EVERYTIME I go out somewhere to get food, run an errand, grocery shop, etc. UGH. Annoying.
Glamourmilf
10-14-2018, 07:33 AM
I ventured out yesterday. The weather is now too nice not to. I've been inside since the end of April, and it's made me stir crazy.
First stop was the hardware store. I went to a mom and pop kind, because I knew that if I went to a big box store, especially on a Saturday, that would push me over the edge.
It was kinda fun, because there were mostly guys in there, and they were all flirting with me.
Next stop. The supermarket to get a few things, and a Starbucks.
I'm not in there 2 minutes, in the greeting card aisle, when a woman comes up to me and says, " Oh, you reminded me that I need to get a baby shower card."
Honey, I don't care. And, why are you even talking to me? The ONE aisle that is always empty in a supermarket, and whomp! No peace, I tell ya.
It did feel good to be out though.
Violethollywood
10-14-2018, 09:32 AM
I ventured out yesterday. The weather is now too nice not to. I've been inside since the end of April, and it's made me stir crazy.
First stop was the hardware store. I went to a mom and pop kind, because I knew that if I went to a big box store, especially on a Saturday, that would push me over the edge.
It was kinda fun, because there were mostly guys in there, and they were all flirting with me.
Next stop. The supermarket to get a few things, and a Starbucks.
I'm not in there 2 minutes, in the greeting card aisle, when a woman comes up to me and says, " Oh, you reminded me that I need to get a baby shower card."
Honey, I don't care. And, why are you even talking to me? The ONE aisle that is always empty in a supermarket, and whomp! No peace, I tell ya.
It did feel good to be out though.
im so glad you got to get out of the house ;) i've had to make a decision recently with my bf that i will attempt to go out with him once or twice a month like a date night kind of thing . i havent been out of the house since sept 15th, not really bc i dont want to but more bc i dont have a way to go anywhere. he's got the vehicle and there's no way i could drive that big ass truck without hitting someone or fucking it up somehow. lol
But staying inside so much these last 2 or 3 years has definitley affected me mentally in a bad way. now that im working out regularly it's kind of saving me mentally for real.
JessaJade
10-14-2018, 11:27 AM
I really miss my old hairdresser because he was mobile and could come to my place. I don't know where he went, maybe back to Brazil after he split up with his partner. I need him in my life! Twice today I went online to book a hair appointment and backed out, because I'm just too drained to face 2.5 hours of chitchat whilst trapped in a chair. But my hair also looks like crap. Ugh.
R-209
10-14-2018, 12:56 PM
I'm not in there 2 minutes, in the greeting card aisle, when a woman comes up to me and says, " Oh, you reminded me that I need to get a baby shower card."
Honey, I don't care. And, why are you even talking to me? The ONE aisle that is always empty in a supermarket, and whomp! No peace, I tell ya.
It did feel good to be out though.
I believe that we, as a society, should come together and agree to abolish greeting cards.
Glamourmilf
10-15-2018, 08:45 AM
I believe that we, as a society, should come together and agree to abolish greeting cards.
Ha ha! I totally agree.
But it's been a tradition with the old bat. She's 80 now, and doesn't have email, text, or a cellphone even.
* I did find a cool app called TouchNote, which I've used a couple of times.
You create a greeting card, adding photos, text.
For $5, ish, they create it, mail it, and include postage. You can even tell them when you want it to arrive.
I love that damn app.
JessaJade
10-16-2018, 02:08 PM
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chanzep
10-16-2018, 05:37 PM
I feel like most people drain my energy. My last job was toxic and I really don't want to be stuck somewhere with the same people again unless it's crazy money. I feel tired after going to the store or to the nail salon ugh!
Glamourmilf
10-17-2018, 07:28 AM
I feel like most people drain my energy. My last job was toxic and I really don't want to be stuck somewhere with the same people again unless it's crazy money. I feel tired after going to the store or to the nail salon ugh!
I'm the exact same way.
When I was younger, I used to love being around people. The more the merrier.
Used to entertain at my home all the time.
I try to think back to figure out when I changed.
The thing that stands out, is that it began right after I divorced my 2nd overbearing husband. He was a bundle of nervous energy, and never stopped talking, or moving around.
Also, add to that people abandoning me when times get tough. Especially all the one's I've helped in the past.
Add to that, having to be an active Listener and performer on cam for hundreds of guys everyday.
You just get to a point where peace and quiet are EVERYTHING, and you just want to be left..........alone!.
Like I'm tapped out, or something.
Glamourmilf
10-30-2018, 08:35 AM
All I wanted to do last night. Was make a quick trip, while I was out at the bank, to Starbucks to try the Halloween drink The "Witches Brew".
I thought, I'll get it, and sit outside on the patio and enjoy my drink in peace.
No such luck.
A couple of boisterous, loud guys had taken up the patio with their cigar smoking.
Ugh! Gross!:yuck:
As I was trying to get out of the parking lot. Naturally it had to be the SAME time cars were piling in and blocking me from leaving.
I hate this time of year, because the out of towners take over, and most of them don't know where they're going, so they drive like shit.
JessaJade
10-31-2018, 01:21 PM
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R-209
11-06-2018, 03:24 PM
I feel like Spider-Man would if his SpideySense was turned on all the time.
R-209
11-06-2018, 05:59 PM
Every time I say "excuse me" to someone, I fear they'll think I'm being sarcastic.
Elektra Luxx
11-06-2018, 09:45 PM
Every time I say "excuse me" to someone, I fear they'll think I'm being sarcastic.
You're funny!
R-209
11-06-2018, 10:02 PM
^^ Aw, thanks. It's all true!
WendiStarr
11-08-2018, 03:36 PM
I don't feel good today so I went out in no makeup, ugly nerd glasses, ponytail, and in my bummiest looking clothes to go to the store and buy some things. Some old lady proceeded to come down the feminine product aisle, and then start talking to me about shower gel, hair products, the weather, etc. Just when I thought I'd escaped her I went down the baking aisle for brownie mix and that same old lady happened to come down that aisle too and made some comment about the brownie mix, and ask me if I tried it before and if it was any good. This turned into a whole conversation about different kind of cookies, pies, and cakes . I was just thinking, "Look lady, I know you're probably only talking to me because you're lonely and I look like a safe homely person at the moment, but I feel like ass right now and really just want to go and pay for my stuff and get the heck back home asap!"
Glamourmilf
11-10-2018, 09:38 AM
^^Oh, I feel for you.
There's so many lonely elderly people where I live, who want to chat all day long.
Nope.
I've been noticing that a lot of my friends are hermits too. And all of my surrounding neighbors.
We all think it has something to do with getting older, and hating crowds.
Not sure.
All I know is I feel the most at peace when I'm home.
The snowbirds have decended on my town, so the traffic is insane! Lines everywhere, and parking places are hard to find.
It's a mind trip to live in a place that's desolate for 6 months, and then densely populated the other 6 months.
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indiegirl
11-10-2018, 01:11 PM
These days I only leave my house to go to the post office (for ebay shit), to go to class and to occasionally buy food/toiletries. I stayed in Chicago with my husband and son over Thanksgiving break and went to his friends' house for beer and board games...Should have been fun...there were only 4 other people there. I was throwing those beers back so fast just so I could talk to people. Does anyone find 99.9% of other human beings so incredibly dull and you have to think of nice things to say to them? Like pretend to be interested in their boring ass stories? I wish I didn't feel like that. I'm sure people think I'm boring too because I don't talk much.
I remember when I was younger, early 20's, I really enjoyed meeting other people and interacting with them. I would like to get back to that again. I'm wondering if dancing ruined that for me...
YESSSSSSSSSSSS. I feel like I deal with so much crazy crap in clubs and then when I am in vanilla world I wind up bored of peoples conversation. Basically I avoid people and my roommates.
JessaJade
11-10-2018, 05:25 PM
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11-11-2018, 09:14 AM
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So much truth here.
JessaJade
11-13-2018, 04:39 PM
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S.Dinero
11-16-2018, 11:55 PM
I was followed home by a pack of men last month while I was with my child in my apartment complex. I don't want to say anything racially inflammatory because as a black woman I know how it feels to be discriminated against but this certain group of men are from a country that has a SERIOUS rape problem, not just with adult women but minors and animals so I am assuming that's why I was followed. They saw my child was with me and continued to follow me anyways. That's what really horrified me. I had my anxiety under control prior to this incident (as under control as you can have it???) I was going to the gym regularly, going to the pool every once and awhile, yoga/meditating. Not really going out or making friends but I was definitely getting there. I feel like I hit the reset button and it's so exhausting.
I just stopped sleeping with a knife under my pillow a few days ago. I'm a single mom so it's just me and kiddo and no one to defend us if something were to happen again. I feel like those men had been watching me and my child and followed me for that specific reason. I mind my business don't talk to anyone I barely make eye contact with people in my complex. This past year has been the hardest of my 20 years of life. I went through a pregnancy alone, isolated myself from everybody out of shame hated those questions "where the dad" "are you married in a relationship ect." reminded me so much of the time I first entered the industry and isolated myself because no one understood what/why I was doing the work I was doing and bombarded me with those questions and tried to guilt trip me.
It makes me sad people like this are out in the world and it also makes me sad that I am a shell of my former self.
JessaJade
11-17-2018, 05:42 AM
^ I'm sorry. Take care of yourself. Yoga has been my lifesaver too.
eagle2
11-17-2018, 04:47 PM
I was followed home by a pack of men last month while I was with my child in my apartment complex. I don't want to say anything racially inflammatory because as a black woman I know how it feels to be discriminated against but this certain group of men are from a country that has a SERIOUS rape problem, not just with adult women but minors and animals so I am assuming that's why I was followed. They saw my child was with me and continued to follow me anyways. That's what really horrified me. I had my anxiety under control prior to this incident (as under control as you can have it???) I was going to the gym regularly, going to the pool every once and awhile, yoga/meditating. Not really going out or making friends but I was definitely getting there. I feel like I hit the reset button and it's so exhausting.
I just stopped sleeping with a knife under my pillow a few days ago. I'm a single mom so it's just me and kiddo and no one to defend us if something were to happen again. I feel like those men had been watching me and my child and followed me for that specific reason. I mind my business don't talk to anyone I barely make eye contact with people in my complex. This past year has been the hardest of my 20 years of life. I went through a pregnancy alone, isolated myself from everybody out of shame hated those questions "where the dad" "are you married in a relationship ect." reminded me so much of the time I first entered the industry and isolated myself because no one understood what/why I was doing the work I was doing and bombarded me with those questions and tried to guilt trip me.
It makes me sad people like this are out in the world and it also makes me sad that I am a shell of my former self.
Sorry you have to go through all this. Have you considered getting something like pepper spray for self-defense?