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Glamourmilf
11-18-2018, 09:21 AM
I was followed home by a pack of men last month while I was with my child in my apartment complex. I don't want to say anything racially inflammatory because as a black woman I know how it feels to be discriminated against but this certain group of men are from a country that has a SERIOUS rape problem, not just with adult women but minors and animals so I am assuming that's why I was followed. They saw my child was with me and continued to follow me anyways. That's what really horrified me. I had my anxiety under control prior to this incident (as under control as you can have it???) I was going to the gym regularly, going to the pool every once and awhile, yoga/meditating. Not really going out or making friends but I was definitely getting there. I feel like I hit the reset button and it's so exhausting.

I just stopped sleeping with a knife under my pillow a few days ago. I'm a single mom so it's just me and kiddo and no one to defend us if something were to happen again. I feel like those men had been watching me and my child and followed me for that specific reason. I mind my business don't talk to anyone I barely make eye contact with people in my complex. This past year has been the hardest of my 20 years of life. I went through a pregnancy alone, isolated myself from everybody out of shame hated those questions "where the dad" "are you married in a relationship ect." reminded me so much of the time I first entered the industry and isolated myself because no one understood what/why I was doing the work I was doing and bombarded me with those questions and tried to guilt trip me.

It makes me sad people like this are out in the world and it also makes me sad that I am a shell of my former self.

That's horrifying! I'm so upset that this happened to you, and KEEPS happening!
I'm flashing back to over 30 years ago, when I was a dancer. Your age. I could write a book on the shit that happened to me.
It makes us want to be more of a hermit, wherever men can't behave, or be civil.
* You might want to check our the thread in the ladies only section about how to protect yourself.

Violethollywood
11-18-2018, 09:37 AM
Girl. I would have flat out Told those motherfuckers to back off or I will murder them all and bury them in the street. Some choice words like that will typically scare fuckers off like that. If you assert yourself, like ive had to over the years, ive found men get fucking scared quick

I may have mentioned this story before: so one night i was just getting off work at my vanilla job and went to walmart to pick up some food for the kids and it was 10:30 at night. pretty empty parking lot . im walking to my car and out of the corner of my eye i see this younger guy sprinting towards me diagonally across the parking lot, at first i thought he was going to ask me for money and i was like just ignore him and i kept ignoring him and he got right up on me like hey can i get your number? and i had my keys in my fingers i turned towards him so quick and told him to back the fuck up that's a good way to get killed. He got scared and immediately backed away.


What kind of a dumbass tries to do that shit in the middle of the night and in walmart parking lot? TF .

Glamourmilf
11-23-2018, 11:07 AM
Holy social hangover!
Thank God Thanksgiving comes once a year.
I was so wiped out when I got home, that I couldn't even call my aunt to wish her Happy Thanksgiving.
At first I felt a little guilty. But then I thought. The phone works both ways, yet she never called me.:-\
Plus, Everytime I call her, she has the TV blasting in the background, even though I ask her to please turn it down.
Nope. Not today Satan.
I just don't have the energy.
Now, if you'll excuse me. I have to log into cam, where I'll be required to make small talk with hundreds of guys.
Ugh!50674

R-209
11-25-2018, 08:55 PM
I am genuinely concerned that my SA may be misinterpreted as prejudice.

Glamourmilf
12-01-2018, 07:38 AM
How can I get the point across to my neighbors that I DON'T want to talk to them, or engage in any way?
I never even acknowledge their existence, yet ... Bam! They're In my face all the time!
I was getting out of my car and one of them, (who I share a common wall with), came over to me.
I pretended to be looking for something in my purse, so she would go away.
But, no such luck.
She says, "I've been meaning to ask you something."
I already know that she wants something.
"Where did you get that ( insert a window light decoration I have that has birds on it)." Why is she asking now? I've had it up for over a year.
I tell her that I don't remember, as I have my back to her unloading my groceries.
Take a hint bitch. Go AWAY now!
But, nooooo.
She continues to stand there and tell me that she's a huge Cardinal fan, yada yada. On and on.
Bitch, I DON'T .....CARE!
I had just come from an intensly emotional grief group which was far away in another town. Had groceries, which meant I had to deal with the overwhelming crowds there. AND I was about to go on cam, where I'm required to talk to hundreds of dudes.
Neighbors. Ugh! Just ugh!50713
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R-209
12-05-2018, 02:11 PM
Just got an Alexa device... and have actually had SA when talking to her.

It's weird, I know.

But when she was going on about something and I said "Alexa stop," I felt bad about it.

eagle2
12-05-2018, 10:11 PM
Maybe if you tried doing it over and over again, you'll feel more comfortable doing it. Just a thought.

Glamourmilf
12-07-2018, 10:12 AM
It rained yesterday. Such a perfect day to hermit/introvert.
It's such a rarity. It was nice not to hear my neighbors yacking in their yards, or have their doors open with the TV blasting all day and night.
Peace and quiet.
Ah.
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R-209
12-14-2018, 10:23 PM
The worst: walking into a small shop and realizing you are the only customer. You feel the clerk's eyes on you but really don't want to buy anything and are afraid leaving too quickly would be rude.

Elektra Luxx
12-15-2018, 05:49 AM
^^^
You're always making laugh out loud! I totally get what you're saying.

Glamourmilf
12-15-2018, 08:50 AM
Speaking of shops, what are all of my hermit friends doing for Christmas?
Are you braving the crowded stores?
Or shopping online?
Staying home on Christmas day?
Or traveling?
Everyone I know will be out of town.:'(
Thinking maybe I could volunteer somewhere.
This is a rough one, I'm not going to lie.
Losing both parents makes me feel so alone.
And not in a good way.
But, I'm still gonna hermit until it's all over.
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R-209
12-27-2018, 05:44 PM
I once read about a type of exposure therapy for SA that involved intentionally doing embarrassing things in public.
The given examples included things like dropping a large jar of pickles in the grocery store or bombing a stand up comedy routine.

I wonder if this might work? It would have to be done three towns over, of course.

Violethollywood
12-27-2018, 11:04 PM
i can see it working.

You know honestly and i might have mentioned it before, but smoking cigs is the only thing that really breaks me away from my SA . If im smoking a cig and im outside , i feel normal again.

shitty. but it is what it is . I dont smoke often to clarify. only if i go out like a date night which is very rare maybe once a month at best.

I am proud of myself though i didnt have a panic attack on xmas day, it was actually mildly okay

R-209
12-28-2018, 10:15 PM
^^
Funny thing is that when my anxiety gets high, I sometimes have a craving for a cigarette even though I've never actually smoked.

Ifyouseekamy
12-29-2018, 04:06 AM
I once read about a type of exposure therapy for SA that involved intentionally doing embarrassing things in public.
The given examples included things like dropping a large jar of pickles in the grocery store or bombing a stand up comedy routine.

I wonder if this might work? It would have to be done three towns over, of course.

Yep. That’s what I need to start doing.

Glamourmilf
12-29-2018, 09:35 AM
I once read about a type of exposure therapy for SA that involved intentionally doing embarrassing things in public.
The given examples included things like dropping a large jar of pickles in the grocery store or bombing a stand up comedy routine.

I wonder if this might work? It would have to be done three towns over, of course.

I personally, think this is a bit extreme.
I read up on desensitization exercises, which I've tried with great success.
Supermarkets are my biggest trigger.
I started therapy, by just stepping into the foyer of the store.
Then, the next time, I walked inside to the front aisle ( which was the produce section).
This was years ago. Although I still don't like supermarkets, I can be in one, just not for a long amount of time. ( Usually 20 minutes is my limit).
The biggest problem I have, is that I'm an empath. So, stangers are automatically drawn to me, even though they don't know why.
I always choose aisles where nobody else is. But within seconds, someone appears and stands right next to me. They never even buy the item they're looking at!
Parking lots, same thing.
I'm also an hsp, so this increases my anxiety to the max.
It's gotten so bad, that lately when someone encroaches on my personal space, I instantly walk away.
The person says, " I'm sorry."
So, just as I thought, they're doing it on purpose.
Ugh!

Ifyouseekamy
12-29-2018, 03:06 PM
I personally, think this is a bit extreme.
I read up on desensitization exercises, which I've tried with great success.
Supermarkets are my biggest trigger.
I started therapy, by just stepping into the foyer of the store.
Then, the next time, I walked inside to the front aisle ( which was the produce section).
This was years ago. Although I still don't like supermarkets, I can be in one, just not for a long amount of time. ( Usually 20 minutes is my limit).
The biggest problem I have, is that I'm an empath. So, stangers are automatically drawn to me, even though they don't know why.
I always choose aisles where nobody else is. But within seconds, someone appears and stands right next to me. They never even buy the item they're looking at!
Parking lots, same thing.
I'm also an hsp, so this increases my anxiety to the max.
It's gotten so bad, that lately when someone encroaches on my personal space, I instantly walk away.
The person says, " I'm sorry."
So, just as I thought, they're doing it on purpose.
Ugh!

WoW! That’s makes so much sense.

People just attach themselves to me and it freaks me out if I don’t know them very well or if they get needy or greedy with my emotional energy. I’ve really had to learn to hold on to myself and set boundaries. I didn’t think my empathy was unconsciously attracting people-that makes so much sense. It makes me feel better knowing it’s an unconscious thing.

I’m HSP too. I absorb so much, but I’m getting better at putting my psychological condom on.

Anyways, thanks for sharing.

Glamourmilf
12-30-2018, 08:35 AM
You're welcome. 'Psychological Condom". I like it.

Violethollywood
12-30-2018, 10:30 AM
^^
Funny thing is that when my anxiety gets high, I sometimes have a craving for a cigarette even though I've never actually smoked.

I smoked one yesterday and got nauseous so that was a good thing, I've noticed i can go a few weeks and not crave one or be irritable . But if im in a public place, like a bar, I feel on edge if i dont have one . I started wearing crystals, Im wearing opalite i think thats what its called ... It's supposed to help with anxiety and so far it's been calming, i also have green aventurine and black agate

R-209
01-26-2019, 05:45 PM
I was on my morning walk when a van pulled to a stop beside me. The thought of spontaneous social interaction filled me with dread.

It was a neighbor wanting to thank me again for getting her dogs to safety after they escaped last summer.

Why is it that someone being entirely pleasant still makes me feel incredibly awkward?

Violethollywood
01-26-2019, 07:40 PM
I was on my morning walk when a van pulled to a stop beside me. The thought of spontaneous social interaction filled me with dread.

It was a neighbor wanting to thank me again for getting her dogs to safety after they escaped last summer.

Why is it that someone being entirely pleasant still makes me feel incredibly awkward?

Im the exact same way. earlier this week we took in a friend that has been homeless for like the last 5 months or so. It was freezing out one night and he was sleeping on a couch out behind a store and my bf told me he was going to bring him home and let him stay with us for a few days, which was fine. but i had such a problem even looking him in the eye, it was almost as if i just couldn't do it .

Glamourmilf
02-06-2019, 09:01 AM
Okay. I'm officially done with going out.
Yep. You heard it first here folks.
It's happened.
I've reached my breaking point.
Yesterday was the last straw.
1. Atm. Nobody in the bank parking lot. Until I get there. Some dude with a big truck decides to pull up RIGHT next to me and park. OMG! You have a million other open parking spaces!
2. CVS. I went in to get 2 things. But, it becomes a game of 'dodge em' just to be in an aisle without someone wanting to suddenly be in there too.:( As SOON as I get to the checkout counter, the magazine refill lady decides THAT'S the time she MUST start filling the rack. That's the only check out open. She can't fill the 4 other racks over THERE?? ARGH! She apologized, but too late.
3. Supermarket. Dead as a door nail. But, as SOON as I go in and start shopping, suddenly people appear. Naturally they come over to whatever I'm looking at, and need to have it too.:-\
4. Drive thru Starbucks. As SOON as I get there, a long line of cars appear and sit behind me.
5. Traffic. Don't get me started on how many drivers just HAVE to get ahead of me, or crowd me in some way.
I'm DONE!
All I can say, is thank God I live in a time where home delivery is an easy option. And that I work from home.:pray:
Because I'm not going to deal with people encroaching on my space anymore.
So sad that it has come to this.
But, my sanity and patience have​ dwindled down to nothing.
*Edit to add: This encroaching starts whenever I go to my car. It seems that all the work trucks and other tenants friends like to park in back of me ( even though I have an assigned spot). They make it difficult to back out, even though there's tons of street parking.
Plus, all the do nothing neighbors want to stop me to talk. I had to put the cabash on that, shortly after I moved in here.
Can anyone else relate?50950
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WendiStarr
02-06-2019, 10:38 AM
There's power in numbers sometimes for socially awkward people. A platonic cuddle client and I went out to dinner yesterday before a cuddle sesh. I have anxiety about eating in front of people if it's crowded. I always know that I'm going to make a mess while eating if someone's watching so I prefer to sit in corner booths and he feels less anxious if we're sitting next to each other instead of across from each other. He has a loud, funny sounding laugh so we kept getting looks from people. I think he effectively cleared out our side of the restaurant with his laugh. I didn't give a shit by that point that I had avocado and cilantro-mayo on my shirt because the only other person left was an old lady who was busy playing, texting, or whatever she was doing on her phone. The bank though..total nightmare. Why do banks always seem to have only 2 people in line in front of you but within 5 minutes, like 10-100 people walk in? Then suddenly tellers decide to go on break so that you are stuck in line, packed in like sardines in a tiny space with a bunch of strangers, while silently sweating and having an anxiety attack about all these people being up in your space.

Glamourmilf
02-06-2019, 11:36 AM
^^Oh shit, yes! All of what you said.
I forgot to mention that just as I paid (at CVS), a male customer stood in line RIGHT behind me and coughed without covering his mouth! Jesus H Christ! ( Ironically I was buying 2 huge bottles of airborne.)
* I was so excited when a cam site I'm on now has the option to cam from my phone.
I tried it. I've tried to find very remote places, but as soon as I start streaming, it never fails. People show up.
Argh!

Panthera
02-06-2019, 01:54 PM
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Heck, I NEED one of those!!! :)))

R-209
02-09-2019, 09:47 PM
Heck, I NEED one of those!!! :)))

My version is like the giant steel hamster balls they had on "American Gladiators."

eagle2
02-10-2019, 12:22 AM
Okay. I'm officially done with going out.
Yep. You heard it first here folks.
It's happened.
I've reached my breaking point.
Yesterday was the last straw.
1. Atm. Nobody in the bank parking lot. Until I get there. Some dude with a big truck decides to pull up RIGHT next to me and park. OMG! You have a million other open parking spaces!
2. CVS. I went in to get 2 things. But, it becomes a game of 'dodge em' just to be in an aisle without someone wanting to suddenly be in there too.:( As SOON as I get to the checkout counter, the magazine refill lady decides THAT'S the time she MUST start filling the rack. That's the only check out open. She can't fill the 4 other racks over THERE?? ARGH! She apologized, but too late.
3. Supermarket. Dead as a door nail. But, as SOON as I go in and start shopping, suddenly people appear. Naturally they come over to whatever I'm looking at, and need to have it too.:-\
4. Drive thru Starbucks. As SOON as I get there, a long line of cars appear and sit behind me.
5. Traffic. Don't get me started on how many drivers just HAVE to get ahead of me, or crowd me in some way.
I'm DONE!
All I can say, is thank God I live in a time where home delivery is an easy option. And that I work from home.:pray:
Because I'm not going to deal with people encroaching on my space anymore.
So sad that it has come to this.
But, my sanity and patience have​ dwindled down to nothing.
*Edit to add: This encroaching starts whenever I go to my car. It seems that all the work trucks and other tenants friends like to park in back of me ( even though I have an assigned spot). They make it difficult to back out, even though there's tons of street parking.
Plus, all the do nothing neighbors want to stop me to talk. I had to put the cabash on that, shortly after I moved in here.
Can anyone else relate?50950
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Have you ever tried shopping late at night? There's a Walmart and supermarket near me that are open 24 hours. I usually go late at night to avoid the lines and traffic, and there are usually very few or no other people in the store. I can park right out front, go in, grab what I need, checkout, and go home.

R-209
02-17-2019, 10:02 PM
My psychiatrist moved to a home office. It's a little awkward because it's in a gated community and I have to go through like five traffic circles to get there. I hate when I have to yield and there is someone behind me because I'm a super-cautious driver and I'm not pulling out into oncoming traffic unless I'm sure it's clear, but some dick is going to honk at me anyway.

And my doctor's dog died. She was a tiny thing, and would often sleep in her bed during appointments. The dog was one of the reasons I went with this doctor, when I was in a real non-trusting place with psychiatrists.

Also, I got a haircut today and finally got someone who didn't want to chat throughout.

Elektra Luxx
02-18-2019, 04:42 AM
Must be trend, my previous therapist worked out of her house too.

Glamourmilf
02-19-2019, 12:15 AM
^^Most likely to cut down on office space rent.

Violethollywood
02-19-2019, 10:41 AM
Yesterday, i had to go get a tooth pulled and i got to the office and at first the waiting room was quiet. (my bf dropped me off so i was by myself which it's benn forever since ive had to be by myself in a public setting) the waiting room filled up so fast, it was so hot in there. i started to have a panic attack , felt like i couldnt breathe and i left the room and went outside just so i could feel like i could breathe. i was able to pull myself together jut enough so i wouldnt go into a full blown panic attack. But god! i felt so trapped ! It was horrible. i've never been like that in a waiting room setting before and i was doing so good handling my anxiety before that happened im so embarrassed i can't even function properly in public. my hands started shaking while i was sitting in the chair once i got back to the dentist office. i saw my bf leave the parking lot and i texted him like omg dont leave me where are you going ? LOL he was like you're fine im just going to the gas station i can't even tell you what i was anxious about. the dentist doesnt scare me at all . i think i just felt like i was suffocating bc of how hot it was in that office and i was alone.

Elektra Luxx
02-19-2019, 02:51 PM
^^^
I've experienced this too the same degree. Something completely benign will trigger a fear to run for you life, but the rational part of your brain is also telling you that you are not in danger. There are no wild animals or axe wielding psychos trying to kill you, but your brain told your body to give you a huge dose of adrenaline to escape whatever is trying to kill you, the caveman fight or flight instinct that kept our ancestors alive.

I've seen many therapists and taken many drugs to help with panic attacks or PTSD, but if you're anything like me, the thing that helped me the most is...time. I haven't had a full blown panic attack for maybe 2 years. It gets better. They never completely go away, but you learn ways to manage them and you hardly notice them after a while. *Hugs*

Glamourmilf
02-20-2019, 11:25 AM
^^ I've had this happen if it's too hot or crowded​, or if the room is too bright.
I was at one of my grief groups a few weeks ago.
It's held in this cozy room, with couches and lots of pillows.
So great, because there's usually no more than 3 or 4 ladies that attend.
But, that night over 12 people decided to show up.
I seriously couldn't breathe!
The stupid moderator wouldn't listen to those of us that wanted for there to be just candlelight.
She turned the overhead lights on very bright. The temperature got so hot.
Considering the subject that was being shared, I thought that was very uncool of her. I mean, people sharing their grief stories, crying, etc.
I haven't been back.
I really try not to put myself in those situations anymore.

R-209
02-20-2019, 06:23 PM
^^^
Something completely benign will trigger a fear to run for you life, but the rational part of your brain is also telling you that you are not in danger.

SO true. I was entering the freeway one night when it was dark and pouring. Visibility was very poor. There were semis ahead and to the left of me. Then my car started to hydroplane. But I had no anxiety at all. In fact, I was more interested in the song playing on the radio (Red Hot Chili Pepper's "Californication." )

Another time, I had a legit cancer scare. Didn't worry too much about it.

BUT I can rattle off a list of everyday situations that, for no logical reason, freak me out, like making a phone call or having to make small talk with someone at Safeway. I will tell my brain how irrational it's being, but it just doesn't work.

R-209
03-05-2019, 01:16 PM
My total inability to focus is really getting to be a problem. I've been trying to get three simple e-mails sent and it's taking me like three days because I can't write a single sentence without popping up and pinballing around a dozen other tasks.

I'm going to talk to my psychiatrist about ADHD. Then I'll have anxiety over a possible new med regimen, even though I don't think the Seroquel has been helping much.

R-209
04-22-2019, 01:41 PM
Congratulate me! I just left a voice mail about a very important topic without messing it up too badly.

I don't think this voice mail system had the safety net option of a preview and redo, either.

R-209
04-25-2019, 03:39 PM
I think it should be socially acceptable to wear a shirt that says something like "Please leave me alone" and people would respect it.

eagle2
04-25-2019, 09:05 PM
Headphones would probably do the trick, even if you're not listening to anything.

R-209
05-23-2019, 04:05 PM
Had a med change and experienced a low-level mania. I've been through way-too-much mania before, but this was nice- just the right amount. Last time I went on bizarre eBay buying binges, but this time I just felt super-productive. It only lasted for two days, though.

R-209
06-13-2019, 10:20 AM
Just had an hour-long conversation with a government official- on the phone- and am congratulating myself for doing a good job.

Although I wish I had said "goodbye" instead of the less formal "bye."

WendiStarr
06-13-2019, 03:04 PM
I went to Tropical Smoothie Cafe today. It was super crowded and busy with people and loud. I was tempted to walk out but my tummy was growling. All the people standing and sitting combined with the noise was overwhelming as heck. As soon as my food and smoothie was ready, I got the heck out of there and went to a nearby park to eat in quiet.

EllieGold
06-13-2019, 03:10 PM
I certainly have! I used to be a social bug when I was younger. I had lots of friends in high school. Once I turned about 25, I started becoming a hermit a lot more. But I became a mom and started just spending more time at home with them because I couldn't afford going out! lol. But I totally get the hermiting as you get older. :)

Glamourmilf
06-20-2019, 10:00 AM
I stopped at the market late last night on my way home.
This town shuts down at 8 pm, so I figured I'd be left alone in an empty store.
I was wrong.
Every aisle I went down, someone magically appeared to stand right next to me, and look at what I'm getting.
The checkout was open. No lines.
But, as soon as I put my items on the conveyer belt, some older dude encroched upon my personal space. He started unloading his stuff too close to mine, and I could actually feel his breath. Ugh!
Dude, back up!!
Naturally, when I got out to the parking lot, it was empty...... Except for someone who had parked RIGHT next to me.
Beyond annoying.
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R-209
06-27-2019, 12:50 PM
I had a brief but very pleasant DM exchange with my internet crush on Twitter.
My hands are shaking a bit.

R-209
06-30-2019, 11:16 AM
What coping mechanisms does everyone use for anxiety/depression?
Fidget toys
Video games
Music
Yoga/breathing exercises
Meditation
Medication
Pets?

Glamourmilf
07-01-2019, 10:13 AM
What coping mechanisms does everyone use for anxiety/depression?
Fidget toys
Video games
Music
Yoga/breathing exercises
Meditation
Medication
Pets?

I go to a few different grief groups, and that helps a lot.
I also go for long drives, with my convertible top down, and the music blasting.
I tend to isolate (hibernate), when I'm in depression/anxiety mode.
I watch a lot of comedies, to try to bring my vibration up.
I'm also an empath, and highly sensitive person. That usually results in people being drawn to me just to tell me all of their problems.
When they do that, it seriously feels like I'm being electrocuted. It sucks the life out of me.
That's why it's paramount that I stay far, far away from people.
I don't take any medications. I have in the past, but the result wasn't good. I'll just leave it at that.

Elektra Luxx
07-05-2019, 08:45 AM
What coping mechanisms does everyone use for anxiety/depression?
Fidget toys
Video games
Music
Yoga/breathing exercises
Meditation
Medication
Pets?

Audiobooks
Some TV
Time with family
Podcasts
Video games
Medication
My cat Ripley

peacelovedance
07-07-2019, 10:56 PM
Headphones would probably do the trick, even if you're not listening to anything.

I do this all the time lol, because some people are persistent and don't seem to get the hint when you don't want to be bothered in public. I think when I don't have a good balance between socializing or sex work and self care I isolate even more and feel more anxious but I think too that anyone with a trauma history has a difficult time not being triggered by little things and you don't always know when or what that will be out in public, so isolation feels safer at times. I only shop Walmart at night! There are lots of good things on this thread. It makes me feel like I am not alone because sometimes it can seem that way.

JessaJade
07-08-2019, 02:56 AM
What coping mechanisms does everyone use for anxiety/depression?

Yoga (different types but recently more focussed on yin, restorative, nidra)

Lots of 'me' time and actively being more selfish (I no longer think of selfish as a negative word)

Healthy diet and supplementation

Becoming more socially active but with defined boundaries in place

Giving less fucks. It sounds glib but as an empath, being able to feel less intensely at appropriate times is good for me

eagle2
07-08-2019, 12:21 PM
What coping mechanisms does everyone use for anxiety/depression?
Fidget toys
Video games
Music
Yoga/breathing exercises
Meditation
Medication
Pets?

go on the treadmill
watch funny videos on youtube
watch music videos on youtube
go to the movies