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Raven88
07-07-2015, 10:00 PM
Your situation with reminds me of me and my most recent ex. Is your guy from a culture where arranged marriages/introductions are common.

My ex's parents are punjabi sikhs and don't want their son with a white girl.

Maybe my opinion varies from others because I have been there. If they had forced him to marry an Indian girl, and I hadn't met my boyfriend now, I would have agreed to be a side thing, without thinking twice. I know that sounds messed up and others not in the situation would tell me to have more self respect.

I know what you mean when you say you can feel how much he loves you. We are all/have been dancers and we know men and their emotions and behaviour.

I am a moral person, and I don't condone cheating or being the other woman at all.

If I were you, I would take a day and go somewhere quiet like the beach and be alone with my thoughts...carefully consider can you handle being looked upon as "bad" for the rest of your life and a home wrecker? even if you don't have a child after all?


If you really think you can handle these things, and that they would be worth it, do it. I hate to say this, but these days marriages come and go, and true love is rare so if you find it, don't throw it away.

Issabelle
07-07-2015, 11:27 PM
If you've been seeing him for as long as you sound like you have, I can almost guarantee you that his wife knows about you. Women know. We always know. We will pin you down and ask. If you lie, we will hunt down the information ourselves. She knows about you, don't kid yourself. Even if she somehow doesn't know yet, the key word is still yet.

Here's the thing: she wouldn't know you as the woman he has an intense love connection with, because he'd get slapped for saying that. No, no, no sweetie. When she finds out about you and confronts him, who do you think he's throwing under the bus? I've been where you're at with 'Mr. Everything' and in hind-sight, he's just a sex-obsessed narcissist who didn't give a damn about who either of us felt. Matter of fact, I didn't know he wasn't single when I started seeing mine, so I was really shocked when his 'ex' girlfriend started blowing me up telling me to 'stop stalking' her boyfriend and that he 'wasn't into' me and I needed to 'let it go.' Piece it together ladies--he got caught cheating, blamed it on me being a psycho stalker, and she came after me, ALL because he was too much of a pussy to admit he was cheating.

What's this man going to do for you? Hm? Legal precedent exists for the wife to go after the mistress for damages in court. What do you wanna bet that if he claims you 'seduced' him and throws you under the bus, that he'll happily turn tail and 'give you up' for his wife when she wants to get revenge? Seriously, if he has his wife even half as wrapped around his finger as he has you, she's going to be out for blood, and it ain't gonna be his.

To recap: an honor-less bottom-feeder dressed up in a pretty package has gotten not one, but two (or maybe even more! Seriously, how many girlfriends does he REALLY have?) smoking hot, intelligent women to fall for his shit and worship his dick. However, he put them in a hierarchy and you're not at the top, so you're going to end up totally screwed if you continue.

When people tell you who they are, believe them the first time. He's a faithless, self-centered asshole. Believe it.

*hugs*