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SnuffleUffleGrass
02-06-2019, 07:08 PM
I am so sick of low paying jobs when i have spent so much money on my education. I owe $50,000 in student loans but the jobs in my area willing to hire someone with a liberal arts major the pay starts at $11 an hour. I’m not looking to become a millionaire, I just want to make atleast $50,000 a year, before taxes!
Like seriously I could have skipped college and made the same amount of money. I seriously wonder how my life would be if I was super model gorgeous and thin. Like I swear I would be a sugar baby, stripper and trophy wife.
I try to keep my head up and be positive but damn it hard to do so. When everyone else around you is doing so much better then you. Where did I go wrong with my life. I don’t do drugs, I don’t have a criminal record, no kids, I stayed in school, was top of my class and what’s the results of my efforts. Student loans and horrible job prospectives. There’s people that do bad, horrible things with their lives (traffic people, hit man, ganagsters, etc.) and they make so more money than i do.
Sorry need to vent.
My mom had a Liberal Arts degree and it backfired on her (she didn't end up as a teacher as intended so she had very little use for the degree otherwise.) I still feel sad when I think of her taking factory jobs b/c her degree didn't help her in her situation when we were little kids. On the other hand she shot herself in the foot in other ways so the unmarketable degree was only one issue among many that hurt her.
I guess what I'm trying to say is be mercenary and consider any and all ways to pay down the student loan debt and maybe get certified in something that pays high per hour wages (like plumbing or welding.)
queenelayliah
02-06-2019, 07:57 PM
I know you're probably just venting and not interested in unsolicited advice, but have you ever thought about going back to school, to a community college for nursing? I've always thought if I could do everything all over again I would become a nurse. A nurse with an associates degree likely makes as much as I do, and I have a masters. And currently having a four year degree would still be an advantage when it comes to hiring and pay negotiations.
Another option is to get a secretary job, I know it's low paying but if you're smart and competent people do notice and you can likely move onto greener pastures in a couple years.
I LOVE ADVICE. Please give it to me. Lol my introverted, hermit ass have no friends. So i would love to talk to people and exchange ideas on what I can do when it comes to my employment situation. I have definitely thought about going back to school but I am sick as hell of be “burnt again”. I know its not the school fault they can’t control the job market and how much employers are willing to pay.
So tiny blurb abiut my employment history. Didn’t get my first job till I was 19 years old. I have only ever worked in the customer service field. My work history consists of various customer service jobs during college jobs from Aug 2011 to may 2015. Post graduate: 05/2015-01/2016 I was unemployed., took a job paying $8/hr because some money is better than no money did that from 01/2016-07/2016. 08/2016-02/2017 call center., 02/2017-06/2017 various jobs i think i did 3. Then october 2017 sex work.
So looking at my work history its very spotty, muktiple jobs, and low paying custimer service jobs. I would love to get out the customer service field but i dont know what. When i do apply to jobs outside of customer service, they look at my resume and say two thing 1) Your job experience isn’t relevant and 2) we have decided to go with someone who has better credentials. The obvious answer is to get the experience they want, right? Tried that I teied looking for internships not even paid ones, shit i even tried looking for volunteer opportunities but they all want someone with experience in that field/area and with multiple hears of experience.
Like WTF! Why do I need years of experience for a VOLUNTEER position! Really.
I feel like im stuck in a box and I cant go higher than customer service. Oh I can go lower then are tons of jobs willing to pay me below $11 an hour.
My degree is anthropology. And yes i have tried looking for jobs in that field you need to have a phd or be assisting teacher to get a job. To even get a internship, non paid, i need previous experience. I feel so hopeless with my situation sigh.
All I can be grateful for is that 1) atleast I can get a customer service job theres some people who can’t get a job at all even when they really want too. 2) at least I dont live in a expensive state like California, Florida, new york or the dc area.
queenelayliah
02-06-2019, 08:00 PM
I guess what I'm trying to say is be mercenary and consider any and all ways to pay down the student loan debt and maybe get certified in something that pays high per hour wages (like plumbing or welding.)
Yeah Im i have no choice at this point lol. Im thinking of getting a vanilla job (the only career field that will have me, customer service) and keep doing this on the side.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-06-2019, 08:38 PM
Yeah Im i have no choice at this point lol. Im thinking of getting a vanilla job (the only career field that will have me, customer service) and keep doing this on the side.
I know during the Obama era there was a deferment/forgiveness program for student debt, plus they factored in your annual income per year versus likelihood of paying the whole loan back= forgiveness of some or all of the loan.
The catch was you had to work in public service jobs/ make commitments to these programs to get the debt forgiven.
My other suggestion is you add to the degree, re-enroll in school (thus using the loophole of not having the pay the loan back until you are out of classes) and get another degree in something more marketable.
Elektra Luxx
02-06-2019, 10:09 PM
Did the doctor do an urine test for you? Did you excercise and eat as usual when you lost 4 lbs?
XOXO, it's too early to be afraid.
The doctor checked for bacteria and she said there was a trace amount, like maybe I have a UTI. My tummy and sides have been feeling a little achy. Not really any pain when I pee and a bit pain during sex. I have been jogging a bit further, but still eating as usual. I was really surprised when the nurse told me I lost 4 pounds because my clothes still fit the same. It took me a year to gain 4 pounds and I lost them in less than a month without really changing. I've been feeling tired lately, but I think it's my anti-depressants, the doctor prescribed a mood stabilizer, Abilify.
carmen_b
02-06-2019, 10:28 PM
^ Hope you are doing ok. and a UTI is so easy to fix if that's it.
JGB2009
02-07-2019, 02:38 AM
I've been up since 3am. Guess I am up to stay. I really wanted to see my friend last night. Not seeing him made me kind of moody. On a side note my daughters dad contacted me on Monday. Didn't think he would be contacting me no more since he was a smart ass and blocked me on the WhatsApp. I really hope I get some kind of motivation going today. Happy Thursday everyone!!!!!
carmen_b
02-08-2019, 07:02 PM
Well, I'm out of my 5th or 6th or so sex work retirement and had a good travel weekend.
I see my love of same day cash money is as strong as ever.
I made myself a promise I wouldn't let occasional club weekends distract me from day job work and projects.
I'll probably wait a week. It's just so *satisfying* getting paid RIGHT AWAY.
My vanilla job requires a 2-6 week wait ( really ) before I close a sale / get paid and sometimes even longer.
Glamourmilf
02-09-2019, 07:22 AM
I'm looking forward to getting together with my gal pal today. I haven't seen her in a long time.
She's the only female that I can truly rely on.
Has a job. Dependable. Kind. Considerate. Easy going.
A nice Midwestern gal.
I've had to cut all the flakey, drama filled California chicks out of my life. It feels so good to be done with them all.50964
WendiStarr
02-09-2019, 07:55 AM
A platonic guy friend texted me this morning to ask me if I'd go with him to the hospital to visit his dying dad. By go with him, I guess he meant wait for him in the car in the parking lot until he sees him. Men are strange creatures.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-09-2019, 08:46 AM
A platonic guy friend texted me this morning to ask me if I'd go with him to the hospital to visit his dying dad. By go with him, I guess he meant wait for him in the car in the parking lot until he sees him. Men are strange creatures.
I did that for someone and came along when my mom did that for a neighbor. My guess is he didn't want to be alone when he would be hit with all the emotions right after the visit.
lilylilylily
02-09-2019, 12:59 PM
An old customer who I thought I blocked managed to message me on WhatsApp asking for a recent pic of me, nope!
carmen_b
02-10-2019, 01:22 AM
^ I'm so grossed out by picture hungry trolls.
Glamourmilf
02-10-2019, 08:45 AM
50967 Anyone else watching The Grammys? Alicia Keyes is hosting. Should be good.
I love watching the red carpet for these shows. So fun.
WendiStarr
02-10-2019, 11:12 AM
I did that for someone and came along when my mom did that for a neighbor. My guess is he didn't want to be alone when he would be hit with all the emotions right after the visit.
Possibly. He's not the type to cry, talk about feelings, or any of that and gets mad if anyone asks or talks about feelings. After we left the hospital, we went out for breakfast. After breakfast he wanted to go back to the hospital. This time he wanted me to go into the room with him. He didn't want to leave so we just sat there for 5 hours in the room with his Dad, talking. His Dad isn't conscious anymore but he kept randomly moving his arms, legs, and a couple times I seen him raise his eyebrows but mostly it was just like he was sleeping. I know it's hard on my friend but I know better than to say anything about it at all because I know he'll get mad and blow up. I guess all I can do is sit and talk with him about happy moments.
AChildOfBoredom
02-10-2019, 01:02 PM
Possibly. He's not the type to cry, talk about feelings, or any of that and gets mad if anyone asks or talks about feelings.
Everyone has a breaking point where they need to either let them out or else they keep them bottled up to a point where it consumes them. Even as desensitized and somewhat sociopathic as my ex-roommate was, even he hit that point. It's part of being human, after all.
JGB2009
02-11-2019, 11:19 AM
I think u turned gay on me...……………….masturbation it is!!!!!
WendiStarr
02-11-2019, 11:28 AM
I don't think I'm going to bother working valentine's day. Last year I did and it was so dead. I only had 2 custies in an 8 hour shift.
carmen_b
02-11-2019, 12:40 PM
I was in the most foul mood this morning. I stayed in and made coffee and now my pup is snuggling by me in bed.
I'm starting to feel the bitchy energy leaving.
AChildOfBoredom
02-11-2019, 01:26 PM
I think u turned gay on me...……………….masturbation it is!!!!!
I’m sorry, and I don’t know why, but I pretty much cackled hysterically after reading this. Don’t get me wrong - I’m not laughing at you or your plight. I’m just in one of those weird moods today where this just struck a perfect chord.
I’ve been bitten three times by three different horses today. It’s rare for that to happen even once. Must be something in the air.
JGB2009
02-11-2019, 06:03 PM
I’m sorry, and I don’t know why, but I pretty much cackled hysterically after reading this. Don’t get me wrong - I’m not laughing at you or your plight. I’m just in one of those weird moods today where this just struck a perfect chord.
I’ve been bitten three times by three different horses today. It’s rare for that to happen even once. Must be something in the air.
LOL glad I could make you laugh....
AChildOfBoredom
02-11-2019, 09:03 PM
LOL glad I could make you laugh....
Trust me, I’m not laughing at you. That’s more action than I’m getting. If I started rubbing one out right now, it’s practically cast in stone that someone will interrupt me. I can even tell them, “you know, I was trying to get myself off here…”, but no, whatever mini crisis they’re having just can’t wait. I’ve been able to rub one out once each month since November, and November broke a seven month dry spell.
Some of the people here are a bit needy, and I just accepted that when I took them in. Unfortunately, I wasn’t anticipating this.
queenelayliah
02-11-2019, 10:15 PM
How does one get blood out of a low shag carpet? Googled and tried some recipes and nothing.
AChildOfBoredom
02-11-2019, 11:02 PM
How does one get blood out of a low shag carpet? Googled and tried some recipes and nothing.
If you’d ever watched American Psycho, you’d know to cover the room in plastic before you started murdering people in it.
WendiStarr
02-12-2019, 03:19 AM
^ Hydrogen peroxide can work sometimes and a scrub brush, plus cold water. Hot water will set the stain. Dollar Tree also sells this cleaner called Awesome. I've used it to get all kinds of stains out of carpets.
On an unrelated note, holy hot flashes! I've had the hardest time with sleeping last night, woke up several times with hot flashes and migraine is still there. I'm considering purposely giving myself brain freeze through ice cream or a 711 slurpee to see if that'll help.
Glamourmilf
02-12-2019, 09:26 AM
I don't think I'm going to bother working valentine's day. Last year I did and it was so dead. I only had 2 custies in an 8 hour shift.
I'm not working vday either. I hate that freaking holiday. Even when I was married, I hated it. Both husbands felt pressured to participate. It didn't feel natural.
If the last 8 years on cam ( and 20 stripping), have taught me anything. It's a waste of time.
If you cam on SM, you know about the stupid contest they're having to try to get girls to log on.
The only way I would, is if it rains, which it's supposed to do.
Then, and only then will I pop on for a bit, because I don't go out when it rains.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-12-2019, 12:26 PM
I'm thinking about giving my current car away to someone who needs it when I buy my new vehicle. Main reason being I won't get much on the trade in value if I tried. Also if business stays good this year I can afford to do it. (FYI I plan on asking someone I trust about who could really use the free vehicle.)
Related note- there are organizations that take donated cars to "fix up" and allegedly give to people in in need of a car...BUT it has been discovered some of these places flip the vehicles instead and it's not guaranteed that the vehicle goes to someone in need. Doing it directly is the smartest way.
carmen_b
02-12-2019, 06:08 PM
^ Something like that could make a HUGE difference for the right person.
carmen_b
02-12-2019, 07:30 PM
It's time to re-join society starting today. Most of my life the last 6-7 days has been centered around my house.
Congrats to me! I made it out of the house to go eat yesterday ! Thank goodness for this vanilla job I had last Thursday . That is seriously the only non-sexual human interaction I have had .
WendiStarr
02-13-2019, 08:38 AM
A sexy red lingerie outfit arrived today. I was hoping to be able to wear it for someone for Valentine's Day. I swear, I will totally wear it around my home(I'll be home alone and kid free that day), order myself some yummy food, and Netflix and chill while rockin' the lingerie.
carmen_b
02-13-2019, 12:20 PM
I'm modeling for this video in a week and was trying to do a more alternative look . I dyed my a much more red color ( way more into the strawberry than blonde ) .
I'm getting Henna or a Fake tattoo ( a big botanical one ) for my lower back.
After the shoot I'll go strip somewhere with my new look which will be fun.
I'm trying to enjoy this but am not pleased about where we are going ( into even worse snow ).
We should have planned to do something in a location that was warmer.
;/
Aurora_Sunset
02-13-2019, 01:59 PM
I guess this is more "random thought" than pissy annoyance because while it is frustrating, it also is making me laugh.
Bf's ex is currently pulling shit with the child custody agreement. She knows damn well that their agreement since mediation has been for him to have his mid-week visitations at her house. But she apparently recently discovered that it was never explicitly written into their agreement, so she made up some BS about him "trashing her house" (untrue and unsubstantiated), and forbids him from coming over anymore. No other discussion. No compromise. No talking, like an adult, about how she'd like to come up with some other arrangement because she gets tired of leaving the house when he comes over. Just thinks she can say "location was never specified so now you have to pick them up, take them all the way back to your place, and then bring them back, and that's just how it is." Sorry, that's not how it works.
We just retained a new, WAY better attorney for him, and talked to him today. She doesn't technically have to let him stay on her property, but since that's been the precedent for months, she also can't just dictate that he suddenly have to surrender to a different way of doing things that doesn't work for him without renegotiating a compromise in the middle. She also is under the impression that his mid-week visits have any bearing on his child support, but they don't, because it's not an overnight.
So, 1 of 2 things is going to happen if they have to take it to a judge: 1) Bf says ok, fine, I'll have them at my place that night, but they're going to stay overnight and I'll drive them to school the next morning. Which will dramatically reduce his child support payments. Or 2) If the judge doesn't go for that, they'll default to an arrangement where he takes them for his visitation time, but she now has to drive and meet him halfway for pickup and dropoff. Or, if it really really comes down to it, he can give up his weekly visitation, which he doesn't want to do, but makes things consistent, no drama, and doesn't affect his child support in any way.
The thing is, if she had just left well-enough alone for now, she actually had the way better end of the deal. He picks up the kids from the bus after school, stays there for a few hours, puts them to bed, and does all the commuting up there and back. She has 5 hours of free time to leave immediately from work and have a night out to herself, and gets home to the kids already being in bed (which is something she really wanted him to do on his nights there). And she gets max child support. Honestly not a bad deal for her.... But nope. That wasn't good enough for her. So now, she's either going to get her night of freedom at home but have her child support cut in half. Or she's going to have a massive chunk of her free time that afternoon taken away while she drives halfway, twice, to drop them off and pick them up, and she has to put them to bed herself, because he's not at the house to do it anymore that night. Or she just gets no night off during the week now, but no extra child support because of it.
I hope her bitch-fit is super worth it.
Her antics are super fucking annoying, and it's shitty that we had to get another lawyer and spend more money, but I just have to take solace in the fact that she doesn't think ahead and just does stupid shit, thinking she'll get away with anything she wants, and then she's going to be in for a rude awakening when it comes back to bite her in the ass, (after she also spends more money on her lawyer fighting a fight she never should have picked in the first place). That's what comes of being a psycho, narcissistic bitch.
AChildOfBoredom
02-13-2019, 02:54 PM
My friend gets to take her ankle monitor off today. While I know she’s happy about it and of course I’m happy for her, the thought of her completely unchained is something to be a little apprehensive about.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-13-2019, 03:25 PM
A sexy red lingerie outfit arrived today. I was hoping to be able to wear it for someone for Valentine's Day. I swear, I will totally wear it around my home(I'll be home alone and kid free that day), order myself some yummy food, and Netflix and chill while rockin' the lingerie.
Take pics!!! Also you gave me an awesome idea with this post, thank you for sharing this thought....
JessaJade
02-13-2019, 03:55 PM
The cold weather lately sends my appetite through the roof.
seashell
02-13-2019, 04:38 PM
Watching the Love Witch for the first time. Oh my god, it is so nuts but so good. Totally bringing back my sex worker mojo. XD
AChildOfBoredom
02-14-2019, 03:52 PM
Actual conversation with one on my younger riding students today:
Her: "Who's your valentine?"
Me: "Well, I don't have one..."
Her: "Why not?"
Me: "That's complicated"
Her: "Nobody loves you?"
Me: "......"
Her: "You should get cats"
Tell me again how fucking 'precious' children are?
carmen_b
02-14-2019, 09:10 PM
Ross again for the win !
Heels high enough I wore at a stripper shift ( and they don't kill too bad ) - $20 ! Three thongs $9 !!
Sexy store would have hit me for $100 for this stuff ! Yes ....
carmen_b
02-15-2019, 10:11 AM
Well I'm off to see my love interest ( the techie Ginger traveler ). Hopefully he is still willing to deal with me after I got impatient .
I sent a batch of texts to the tune of " you are back in town and I can't believe you made me wait three days to get physical affection ".
We just did Lunch and a "cuddle" .
YESSSSSS ....... he just left. 4 orgasms ( for me ) OMG.
;) He said no hand job or blow job ? ( referenced wanting to be of " service " and they don't work for him )
He's super dominant. Yum .
We held off on sex but I would like to sex him up soon.
I was up front that I wanted a relationship and was prioritizing it.
WendiStarr
02-15-2019, 02:47 PM
I am convinced that Italy must be full of tall, handsome, fit guys with big cocks.
AChildOfBoredom
02-15-2019, 11:20 PM
Never thought I'd be 'g-checked' just to watch a fucking movie at the theater. Lords of Chaos opened at Alamo Drafthouse tonight, so I went to go see it, and the younger refugee decided she wanted to come with, because she generally seems to prefer hanging around with me, even though she had no idea what the movie was about. So I dressed as I normally do, and as soon as I arrived, I saw a bunch of twerps had decided to make a costume party out of it, with some of them dressed up in corpse paint, gauntlets, and all that shit. So I go to find my seat, and I've got these fuckers asking me, "Are you in the right theater? You're not going to like this movie, blah, blah, blah". Finally someone who recognized me from several shows I'd been to in the area went up to them, told them to shut the fuck up, and said to them, "she's more true than most of these motherfuckers in this theater".
Metal fans can be such a bunch of fucking dicks - especially those who are just riding the coattails of those who actually did something in the scene.
Glamourmilf
02-15-2019, 11:32 PM
I am convinced that Italy must be full of tall, handsome, fit guys with big cocks.
You're right. It is.:D
Elektra Luxx
02-15-2019, 11:46 PM
...opened at Alamo Drafthouse tonight...
Alamo Drafthouse!!! You have an Alamo Drafthouse in North Carolina? I thought it was a local theater.
AChildOfBoredom
02-15-2019, 11:50 PM
https://drafthouse.com/raleigh
Yes, and it seems they're quite widespread. My former roommate saw the same movie last weekend at their location in Denver, which chafed my ass a little bit because it opened there a week earlier than it did here.
JGB2009
02-16-2019, 07:01 AM
I have been so lonely since yesterday. I always get lonely when everyone seems to disappear. Anyways I need to clean cause the cable guy will be here at noon. I didn't cam last night cause I was in a very bad mood...……...so I went to sleep instead.
WendiStarr
02-16-2019, 12:34 PM
I find it funny how teachers and other adults tell me that my daughter is "so quiet". I want to laugh out loud because she talks non-stop at home. In fact whenever she's quiet I know she's either asleep, sick, or up to no good. Today? Hyped up on Girl Scout cookies.
JGB2009
02-17-2019, 04:16 AM
I wish I had more control over this situation but sadly I don't. Hoping to put all this behind me, fingers crossed.
queenelayliah
02-17-2019, 07:11 PM
I passed the interview for the text job i applied to!! Im so excited i hope this brings in like $200-300 a month.
I have a dream of making $4k a month from all revenue sources but i currently only make about $1500 since its the slow fucking winter season sigh.
Oh also did you ladies here how payless is going out of business! They are liquidating EVERYTHING.
JGB2009
02-17-2019, 07:43 PM
I passed the interview for the text job i applied to!! Im so excited i hope this brings in like $200-300 a month.
I have a dream of making $4k a month from all revenue sources but i currently only make about $1500 since its the slow fucking winter season sigh.
Oh also did you ladies here how payless is going out of business! They are liquidating EVERYTHING.
Not payless......everything seems to be going out of business :(
chanzep
02-17-2019, 08:13 PM
Yes I just found out Henri Bendel closed too.