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WendiStarr
03-10-2020, 06:14 AM
^ Put him on one of those report a cheater websites. Maybe he will happen to have a female boss whose husband cheated on her so while she's on there putting her husband on blast, she happens to stumble across the boyfriend/her employee on there, is angry with all cheaters, and fires him. That happened 10 years ago when I put an ex on one of those sites. An ex's female boss fired him from a high paying job and he lost his big, expensive house. I suppose she could choose to go the mature route, do nothing malicious to him, but move on, work out and get really hot, sexy, and fit and purposely go somewhere where he hangs out so that when he sees her, he will be turned on and want her back. By then because she has moved on, she won't give him the time of day and can reject him and laugh in his face.

SnuffleUffleGrass
03-10-2020, 07:32 AM
[QUOTE=AChildOfBoredom;3165148

On a related note, I was asked by one of the girls at the equestrian center how I’d get back at a cheating boyfriend. So I told her I’d probably bait him, zap him with a cattle prod until he passed it, then wake him up to a waterboarding session. She got irritated me me and told me she was serious. As if I weren’t?[/QUOTE]


lol....

As a person that likes the idea of polyamory, I advise someone who gets cheated on to really think before they confront. One reason being a LOT of the time in standard cheating triangles, the interloper is often known to the cheated-on party (relative, co-worker, neighbor, class mate, boss.) So often the new couple works against the victim of the cheating situation to protect themselves and re-write the narrative of the situation.

A good thought to have before sorting out an infidelity type situation- "What am I fighting to keep here?"


My random- would love to watch Monty Python's Flying Circus today. Sigh. Modern comics are no where as clever as old school comics.

carmen_b
03-10-2020, 12:06 PM
At some level, I know my day job will slow down with all these virus fears.
A lot of my income depends on having travelers come to a couple specific areas.
If they don't come , I can't sell what I do.

I'm a little scared about whether I'm looking at a 25% loss / 50% .......

We put policies in place ( basically if they book and want to then postpone we will apply the deposit any later time they want ). Even with a generous policy similar to what airlines are doing now ...... we know people will freeze in indecision at some level.

I'm a little scared about how the numbers will shake out in March and April but I've lived " tight " before ( recession 2008-2009 ).

carmen_b
03-10-2020, 02:21 PM
In my personal life, I have opted to not hide my experience with domestic abuse. I have a few reasons for this. I feel like I don't need to eliminate elements of my life in Dec. / Jan. just to be palatable. Sometimes shit happens. These issues need to be brought out of the shadows too instead of women hiding and pretending like nothing happened.

AChildOfBoredom
03-10-2020, 08:14 PM
Just read the thread about whether or not abstaining from porn and masturbation has benefited anyone. Not being in a relationship, I had nothing to offer. It just reminded me that I haven’t gotten off since June. That certainly can’t be healthy. One of my yoga instructors asked me why I’m so ‘militant’ every time she sees me. I certainly wasn’t telling her that, though I’m sure that contributes to it.

Aurora_Sunset
03-11-2020, 10:17 AM
I told my ex that I would have this letter to his therapist done for him by the end of last month. I have a rough draft of my random thoughts but have not organized them in any coherent way. And I just don't even know where to start. Like I need a whole day to just sit down in solitude at the library or something, away from everything, to think this through.

What's funny is that he hasn't said anything about it, but he's been liking, hearting, or "reacting" to damn near everything I post on facebook this week even though he has not done that with anything (except maybe 2 posts about life-altering events) in the entire 2 years we've been broken up. I feel like it's passive-aggressive way of trying to make sure I don't "forget" about him and get that letter done lol

I feel like I should message him and assure him I didn't forget, but considering I just don't know how to find what I want to say, I don't want to give him another ETA for it, because I may not keep it.

JessaJade
03-11-2020, 11:44 AM
^Could you just give your thoughts as they are, in a kind of bullet-point style presentation anyway? I can imagine it's a lot of effort organising it all.

carmen_b
03-11-2020, 12:30 PM
^ Yeah, I would too. Just to give the therapist an overall list to work from .

WendiStarr
03-11-2020, 02:10 PM
I was expecting to have company for birthday dinner. I know it's a weekday but everyone said they were coming and I haven't heard anything from anyone, other than a vague response this morning. I'm going to just order a nice dinner for myself then.

AChildOfBoredom
03-11-2020, 03:53 PM
I feel kinda bad. One of the drivers is super paranoid about coronavirus, so I acted like I was hacking really badly when he came over to talk to me today. I thought it was a big funny. I still do. He freaked the fuck out.

WendiStarr
03-12-2020, 06:49 AM
The damn Coronavirus made it to my state. A lot of local businesses and schools are freaking out now. I wish this shit would just go away. I'm tired of the news channels because I feel like all they are doing is causing more fear and panic.

SnuffleUffleGrass
03-12-2020, 07:14 AM
Soooo I might delete this but it's about a feeling I have not ever experienced in my lifetime- feeling reluctant pride for someone.

Someone in my extended family is working as a Sheriff on the West Coast and I am proud. I tend to dislike cops (for legit reasons) but this person is mature and qualified enough for his job. Naturally I worry a little bit about him now but he worked his way up this job doing much more dangerous work so I think he'll be ok.

I'm happy for him. I guess this all goes back to being subjective, I know him personally so I have faith in his abilities to execute the lawful goodness of his job. & I hope he is safe on the job.

Aurora_Sunset
03-13-2020, 07:56 AM
Snatched up a solid 40 hours next week that was available at the one part-time job that's been dicking me out of hours for a month now. I'll hate myself at the end of it, but I'll like that paycheck. I also figured I may as well be getting paid hourly, because with what the economy is doing right now, I can't imagine the real estate office being busy with leads until the panic subsides.

Elektra Luxx
03-13-2020, 08:40 AM
The damn Coronavirus made it to my state. A lot of local businesses and schools are freaking out now. I wish this shit would just go away. I'm tired of the news channels because I feel like all they are doing is causing more fear and panic.

It's serious something we all need to be concerned about, but we need to educate ourselves to sift though all the BS being put out by the all the networks. I was feeling overwhelmed yesterday.

WendiStarr
03-13-2020, 09:09 AM
All schools in my state are closed until April 6th. I'm not going to be able to cam with my 10 year old being home 24/7 for 3 weeks. I might as well try to make money on babysitting, since all these kids are probably going to need a babysitter since some parents don't have the option of working from home.

Vyanka
03-13-2020, 11:32 AM
The damn Coronavirus made it to my state. A lot of local businesses and schools are freaking out now. I wish this shit would just go away. I'm tired of the news channels because I feel like all they are doing is causing more fear and panic.

I'm avoiding it to a degree and focusing on positive thoughts. This mentally drains people.

carmen_b
03-13-2020, 11:52 AM
Also set up babysitting trades to get some work time.


All schools in my state are closed until April 6th. I'm not going to be able to cam with my 10 year old being home 24/7 for 3 weeks. I might as well try to make money on babysitting, since all these kids are probably going to need a babysitter since some parents don't have the option of working from home.

SnuffleUffleGrass
03-13-2020, 12:15 PM
I've been watching HGTV in order to tune out the constant drone of news about the COVID 19 outbreak.

It's nice because renovating and teardown of properties is something I have experience with. It's fun to watch these house flippers turn a dumpy old house into something fresh and modern.

Protip- a lot of thrift stores have things you can use to stage a property or freshen up a renovation. Most of my photo frames and art came from Salvation Army or Goodwill, no one ever realizes it.

lynn2009
03-13-2020, 04:52 PM
I am hoping that with everyone losing their damn minds, the dog park will be empty tomorrow.

Vyanka
03-13-2020, 11:51 PM
I am hoping that with everyone losing their damn minds, the dog park will be empty tomorrow.

It probably will. Someone close to one of my friend, their dog was confirmed with corona.

-_-

SnuffleUffleGrass
03-14-2020, 07:18 AM
I am hoping that with everyone losing their damn minds, the dog park will be empty tomorrow.

Oh it will be. A lot of "bark park" dog parks aren't great to go to that often, as no one hoses down where the dogs go ..leading to filth and whatnot.

Random thought- going to cook in a moment, wheeeee

lynn2009
03-14-2020, 08:17 AM
It probably will. Someone close to one of my friend, their dog was confirmed with corona.

-_-

The COVID-19 strain? My vet sent an email blast to all their clients that there is a coronavirus that infects dogs, but it's very different than what people are getting and causes GI issues instead of respiratory.

WendiStarr
03-14-2020, 01:25 PM
Can a check be reversed? Lets say a friend bought furniture from me and paid with a personal check. Assuming that the funds are there, can they easily reverse their payment once it's no longer showing as pending in my bank?

carmen_b
03-14-2020, 01:31 PM
^sorry
They can.
Most banks have a fee they can pay to cancel a check.

kimbe
03-14-2020, 02:52 PM
Cash is still king! ;)

lynn2009
03-14-2020, 03:12 PM
I am hoping that with everyone losing their damn minds, the dog park will be empty tomorrow.

A lot of people had the same idea as me and it was pretty full.

SnuffleUffleGrass
03-15-2020, 06:22 AM
This sounds like a horrible thing to say but I'm prepared to lose one of my relatives to COVID 19 if she gets sick. She has had serious health problems for decades so unfortunately she falls into the high risk category of people who cannot afford to get exposed to the virus. She lives in a hotspot for it too.

I'm just ready for her to be gone. As it happens due to estrangement I cannot get a hold of her to even check on her. Her loss. I hope her kids can get it together enough to do a proper funeral. It is a tiny bit surreal, someone who was a big part of my childhood is now to me a headstone I won't bother to visit and a funeral I won't make time to attend. That's life though.

Life really does pass by quickly.!

WendiStarr
03-16-2020, 08:18 AM
I'm glad that my older daughter thinks that boys are disgusting and stupid. I hope she never ends up with asshole guys like her father or her sister's father. I hope that one day I can meet a rare decent man to love us and show her and her little sister a positive example of what a father should be. I never had one myself but for now I want her to see that women are perfectly capable of surviving without a man. I'm lonely but not eager to enter the dating world anytime soon. I know that most men see single moms as easy targets. I'm also not interested in being anyone's one night stand or casual booty call.

carmen_b
03-16-2020, 09:23 AM
Men can be so gross.

It seems like they just never learn the " recipe " ( treat ONE woman very well and you'll get all the spoiling and sex you need )

Oh well, life certainly goes on without them, haha.

carmen_b
03-16-2020, 09:28 AM
I think it's funny how I planned to live " the slow life " in March / April anyway but now it's kind of forced on me through work being slower with the health crisis. It seemed like more fun when I was living in the mountains and cooking my own food and living " small " to STICK IT to the man.

It seems like less fun now. On the plus side ....... people are loosing their damn minds and I'm already used to living this way so I'm doing pretty well overall.

lynn2009
03-17-2020, 08:27 PM
I had a phone interview today and it went really well.

I had the second/hiring manager phone interview today and it went well also. But I'm starting to realize how much I do not want to go through the ordeal of switching jobs. Aside from wanting to work remotely, no issue at my current job is unmanageable and I am starting to like having employees. It's hard starting over and getting the vibe of a place. And I'd have to get a short-term rental, probably sell all my furniture that is only 4 years old. I know this all probably sounds whiny, but I'm a very old and tired 31 year old. I would soooooo much rather stay with my current company and work remotely and it constantly pisses me that I can't work remotely. I don't miss my family, but I really wish I had any support IRL. There's no one to help see houses with me, dog-sit a couple of weeks while were moving, figure out the mortgage process, deal with movers.

WendiStarr
03-18-2020, 05:16 AM
Since I can't sleep for shit these days and the kids were asleep, I figured I'd put the baby in her bassinet in the other room and try to cam in my bedroom with the door locked and my mic turned off. I was excited that someone bought a show right away but in the middle of it, baby started crying loudly and it ruined the mood. I was just going through the motions of the show, hoping to get done with it so I could go to her room and see what she needed. Once I got her back to sleep I had another guy about to take me private for a cam show. She started screaming from the other room again. I lied and told the guy I had to pee before the show but would be right back. He said that was ok, that he'd wait for me to return. It ended up taking me longer to get her calmed down and back to sleep again. By that time the guy was gone and my chatroom was dead. -_- Making money camming is harder with a baby. Is it bad that I wish I could press a fast forward button on life to where she's old enough to sleep through the night or at least for longer than a half hour at a time?

AChildOfBoredom
03-18-2020, 10:39 PM
The equestrian center slowed down considerably, so their employees are being placed wherever so there’ll be work for them, and it’s just a skeleton crew at the equestrian center. A couple stable hands and riding instructors got tasked to work as shop helpers. Welcome to my world.

WendiStarr
03-21-2020, 05:45 PM
We are all in weird times. I've been cooking a lot of soups lately. Someone seriously traded me an entire carton of eggs for a bowl of soup.

whirlerz
03-21-2020, 07:40 PM
The equestrian center slowed down considerably, so their employees are being placed wherever so there’ll be work for them, and it’s just a skeleton crew at the equestrian center. A couple stable hands and riding instructors got tasked to work as shop helpers. Welcome to my world.

I'd love it,
seriously..

there's a house, it has some land, a barn & 3 horses, that are older, big light pink Victorian house in the middle of suburbia, one of the few left like that, w/horses especially.

I go past, it's a longer drive, slow down,put on my 4 way flashers going past, so I can check them out.

so over the 2 legged jack asses I live w/, sorry that's an insult those​ animals

carmen_b
03-22-2020, 12:13 AM
Goodness .... why is the temptation to spy on your ex online so damn strong ?
I *barely* stopped myself just now. He is blocked on everything since I was smart enough to do that forever ago so it's just a blank face on FB where his name is .

I am really losing it in this penis desert of quarantine.

What *exactly* am I hoping to find ? If I find out he has a new baby with the person he left me for in Aug. 2018 I will probably be shaken up for months so what does this do ?

WendiStarr
03-22-2020, 11:03 AM
I want to take a nap so bad.

AChildOfBoredom
03-22-2020, 08:37 PM
I found a way to repurpose my spray bottles that I used to keep handy for when I needed to put the cats in check. With two lesbian teenagers in this house most of the time, I spray them when they get a little out of hand in common areas of the house, instead.

WendiStarr
03-23-2020, 12:59 PM
BD sent me tulips. He knows that they are my favorite flowers. What the fuck?! I don't get why he's doing this when he has been gone for a while now. The only reason I could think of for him doing this is that he is within the age range that the virus has been targeting and killing off. It made me go hide in the bathroom and cry because as frustrating as everything with him has been, and all the bullshit that he has put me through, I still love the bastard. I can't keep letting him break my heart again and again though so I'm going to pretend that I didn't get them.

AChildOfBoredom
03-23-2020, 03:02 PM
S and her girlfriend came up with a not too terrible way to kill time. We look up music videos on YouTube and collectively roast them, much like Mystery Science Theater 3000. And we found some real hidden treasures in the course of that, such as…


https://youtu.be/6X9tBHX_Fl4

WendiStarr
03-25-2020, 10:13 AM
My aunt just found out that she's pregnant and my uncle is in the hospital possibly with coronavirus so at first I was thinking,"Yay, that's awesome!" and now I'm thinking,"Oh fuck!".

WendiStarr
03-26-2020, 12:32 PM
It warmed up to 60 so I took the kids outside for a short walk around the block. I didn't see anybody else outside other than someone walking a huge, hairy brown bear dog(Newfoundland breed probably). Meanwhile every car that I saw driving by had a person wearing a face mask.

Aurora_Sunset
03-27-2020, 08:21 AM
This is my one real day off with the house to myself while everyone else is in isolation or quarantine. I know I need to catch up on meal prep, and even probably should do laundry today... but man, I just want one day to lounge around take "quarantine pajama selfies," even if I'm not technically in quarantine lol Ugh, I know I need to do stuff though. I regret picking up at work all weekend, but I'd be dumb to pass up on the money while everything else is closed or slow af.

carmen_b
03-27-2020, 12:18 PM
Maybe split it between a half lounge / half productive day. ^

carmen_b
03-27-2020, 12:19 PM
When all this germ bullshit is over I want to start interviewing for a once a week or so house boy / house servant.
I have always wanted one. I should get what I want and give a lucky gentleman the pleasure of serving me.

AChildOfBoredom
03-27-2020, 05:11 PM
How the hell did S pull that one off? She wants to be a cosmetologist, and she’s incredibly talented at it. If she wants to use my hair to practice on, so long as I have time, I let her. But my sister… absolutely not. You don’t touch her hair. So imagine my surprise when I see them coming out of S’s room, and my sister has her hair in a rope braided bun. And S did a fantastic job with it, too. But how did she get my sister to agree to it?

WendiStarr
03-27-2020, 05:50 PM
I will be starting my work from home vanilla job next month, Sunday-Thursday with Fridays and Saturdays off. I'm looking forward to having a steady paycheck. At the same time I'm thinking about how the heck I'm going to manage a 9 hour shift with the baby. She spends most of her days and nights in my arms, eating or sleeping on my chest. No idea how I'm going to be keeping her quiet while taking phone calls from customers.

carmen_b
03-29-2020, 11:20 AM
I'm releasing the anger D was causing me . He didn't treat me well and didn't really try with me and now I will ignore him ( even as a friend ). You win some you lose some ( I lost time and energy to him but minimal since under 4 weeks ) .

carmen_b
03-29-2020, 11:26 AM
I really neglected my social life pre covid19 , I am really seeing that now.

When this is over I want to have a glam dinner party out somewhere with formal dress haha.

lurkingtitties
03-29-2020, 12:13 PM
Carmen I’m trying to move out West this fall...I’ll get glammed up and party with you if our paths cross! All the formal events my grad program usually holds for their graduating classes are canceled this year so I have an itch to scratch too.

It’s my birthday today. Even though it’s pretty lame to be having a birthday during a pandemic, plus no BF and I live alone... it’s actually a step up from my birthday last year. Last year I had a colposcopy on my birthday, was terrified because I knew I had cervical cancer even though it hadn’t been officially diagnosed yet. And I was dating an immature man who wasn’t taking my fear seriously and it made me feel worse.