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WendiStarr
08-09-2020, 03:29 PM
I wish daycare centers could safely reopen in my area. I feel like I'm going insane today. Can it please be bedtime now?

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-09-2020, 04:50 PM
"Dress to impress" is never wrong!
(If its wrong, you don't impress ;) )

I did dress up, I am glad I did. I loved the house BUT it was designed for a large family so we probably won't get it as we are childfree.

As chaotic as life is, I am glad this blessing is in our lives (being able to buy a home.)

JGB2009
08-09-2020, 06:21 PM
Have you ever contacted someone and wished you hadn't done so? That's me right now!!!

WendiStarr
08-10-2020, 11:44 AM
Why can't people just be honest? I hate when people give such lame excuses for stuff. If you don't want to do something, just say you don't want to do it. Don't leave someone waiting and throw an unbelievable excuse at the last minute.

Elektra Luxx
08-10-2020, 11:54 AM
Why can't people just be honest? I hate when people give such lame excuses for stuff. If you don't want to do something, just say you don't want to do it. Don't leave someone waiting and throw an unbelievable excuse at the last minute.

...but I really was almost kidnapped by aliens! jk

That really is annoying when people do that.

Aurora_Sunset
08-10-2020, 12:43 PM
We have an annoying instructor today. She keeps randomly asking questions about material that we either haven't covered yet or are supposed to be today. She said we should always be at least 2 chapters ahead of the material currently being covered. I noticed 2 classmates left after being called out by her for not having the right answer. If you don't know the answer she keeps picking you for more questions. One lady burst into tears on Zoom and left. Man, this program is intense enough without that shit. I just happened to have my textbook open already and quickly found the answer in time when that teacher called on me. If I hadn't I would've been in the lion's den, too. I'm not going to let her get to me like that. I need to keep on pressing forward.

I hate when teachers insist that the way they want you to learn something is the only acceptable way. Most classes I've taken also have this "you should read the chapter before coming to class" ideology (even if it's not several chapters ahead), and I vehemently disagree with it. I know that I personally understand concepts far better if I learn them in the classroom first and then go home and read the textbook to reinforce with more details. If I read a technical explanation of something out of a textbook with zero context or knowledge beforehand, I will barely understand or retain anything. I just know that's how it work for me, and that my different method of learning works way better for me without the wasted time/effort of reading something I won't understand/remember and then having to re-read later anyway. I don't know why teachers can't just accept that their way isn't THE way. Especially when we're adults!

lynn2009
08-10-2020, 07:05 PM
Objectively, I know I do a really good job at work. I am probably better than any of the other managers at the technical skills and knowledge aspect of it. I wish I was naturally more confident so I could get more credit.

Carmen Elixer
08-10-2020, 07:28 PM
Lori Vallow case on a hiatus now that she waived the
prelim.

Am I going to have to watch the Jodi Arias trial again

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-12-2020, 05:38 AM
Trigger warning- mortality, life drama-








I found out one of my co-workers from my most stressful restaurant job died young. He was such a wonderful person. I'm super sad because 1) he worked so hard to make it on his own and now won't live to see the fruits of his labor and 2) I feel his ex-girlfriend dragged him down in life and brought him to the point where he ended up dying the way he did. His ex (I'll call her Ogre) was both nasty on the inside and outside (we worked together, I saw her frequently).....I'm just super sad that such a nice person spent the last decade of his life with a sad excuse of a partner, working a super stressful job just to get by.

Rest In Peace C. You are missed.

JGB2009
08-12-2020, 04:34 PM
All I am gonna ever have that loves me and never changes on me is my cat..................

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-12-2020, 05:01 PM
...I sold The Pioneer Woman plates and bowls, and the buyer made a point of mentioning how much she loved the brand & the patterns. I didn't change my expression- different strokes for different folks. I'm happy I made her day anyhow.

lilylilylily
08-12-2020, 07:03 PM
I didnt realize how out of shape I am, rode by bike today for the first time in a while and had to take breaks to catch my breath and my knees hurt now.

WendiStarr
08-12-2020, 07:17 PM
I feel hungry but it's after 10pm and I have this fear that I'm gonna get fat if I eat this late.

carmen_b
08-12-2020, 08:23 PM
J left town and I'm starving now ! I think I get hungry when I know I can't have him. Lol.
I had breakfast, an arby sammy, then two tacos , then a cheeseburger. Then I caught myself . I'll watch it with food the next few days and work out hard.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-13-2020, 07:46 AM
I'm sad to report my neighbor the doctor moved away. However given how screwed up things are in the US this year, I figure he and his wife returned to their native Canada. I'm happy for them.

AChildOfBoredom
08-13-2020, 07:36 PM
I guess I’m kinda having to change habits. ‘S’ and her girlfriend insisted on going shopping and picking out an outfit for me to get. Which, I’m never going to be terribly keen on the idea of having two teenagers picking out clothes for me, but they badgered me to the point where I gave in. After all, while I don’t dress in a manner to put myself on display as it were, it doesn’t keep the creepers away… it only draws a different flavor of them. I wear a dress daily, except for when I’m at work, working out, going to a concert where I know I’m jumping into the pit, etc. Typically, a pinafore dress, but I also have some A line, wrap, tea, a single Quipao… you get the idea.

Some of the outfits they picked, I rejected right away. Again, I don’t dress to put myself on display, though S’s girlfriend seemed to better at figuring out what I wouldn’t wear, whether because of me feeling it was too showy or too ‘teenage’. I figured I’d end up getting nothing at the end of the day, because, let’s be real… I’m not a teenager and we’re talking about teenagers picking outfits for me. One they picked was a mid length skirt and an off the shoulder top which was slightly cropped. I’d been taking photos of the outfits and sending them to a friend my age to ensure that I don’t end getting something that a teenager would wear, because I’m not really the most adept at fashion sense, so she called me and she was like, “YES! Get that one!”. Which, I normally trust her, but I mean we’re talking about an outfit picked by two teenage lesbians, and it played my doubts a lot, especially as they already picked some I’d already rejected. So, in the end, I was talked into that outfit and a sleeveless Santorini dress.

So, that’s where a I’m at… 30 and needing to take fashion cues from teenagers. Though these are lighter and will be nice in these hot and humid NC Summers.

Elle:)
08-14-2020, 01:23 PM
Keeping my fingers crossed for things to work out for once...

carmen_b
08-17-2020, 02:17 PM
It's so strange that we made a little family.
J isn't really a dog person. I'm not really a kid person. But here we are a 4 soul little grouping that kind of works anyway.
Haha.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-17-2020, 07:25 PM
Ok I'm only sharing this because I mentioned it to a friend who also knew my former co-worker that passed away........

Yesterday I was home alone most of the day and in the afternoon I heard something fall in my bathroom. I realized it was a scrub brush that had been wedged into the wall holder section on the tub. I actually thought nothing of it, BUT THEN

About an hour later I was out on the balcony & the door popped open on its own. Keep in mind this heavy door had to open and swing back on thick carpet. At that point I was weirded out.

It's said that souls can "stay around" for about six months after the death of the physical body. I wonder if this weirdness had something to do with C.

BTW my co-worker didn't have a local online obituary because his whole family lives on the East Coast- he was alone out here. They ran an obit with the funeral home out there that took care of his arrangements. So I didn't know about all this until I Googled him out of random curiosity.

Just sharing. As much as I try to keep a "rational/skeptic" view of life, I keep having odd experiences that remind me that whatever comes after this physical life is probably as interesting as this life on Earth.

lynn2009
08-17-2020, 09:12 PM
I have to be at work at 7am tomorrow but still I cannot stop watching these funny ass videos of a voice actress messing with scammers. It's fucking hilarious. On YouTube, she's IRLrosie.

baer45
08-17-2020, 10:27 PM
Rebecca Ferguson looks just like Ingrid Bergman. Of course, she's Swedish.
https://www.thefamouspeople.com/profiles/images/rebecca-ferguson-1.jpg

moneybags
08-18-2020, 12:19 AM
I need to focus on gratitude. I have been so negative lately. Which makes sense with all the lions, tigers, and bears oh my. I don’t want to be a Pollyanna, but I need to challenge my negative thinking and try to think healthier thoughts.

What a year. Seriously. Although, I do think my stripper skills helped me. As a stripper I’ve dealt with with bat shit crazy people all my life, so this is nothing new to me. I know it’s kinda woo woo but one of my spiritual friends said this era is a purging-like popping a pimple. It sucks human only evolve through pain. So basically we have to go through all this shit because it’s the only way we evolve as a species. My friend says the big joke is when you wake up you realize everyone else asleep...lol. Ha ha. Real funny. That’s not to say I’m super awakened; I have been really unconscious lately. Being human is hard.

AChildOfBoredom
08-18-2020, 06:02 PM
I work with a bunch of overgrown children. Right after last break, one of the other techs came to ask me a question about something, so I said to him, "You fell asleep in the break room, didn't you?", to which he said that he had, but I think he figured he just looked groggy. So I told him he might want to wash his face, and he said he'd do it before we left for the day. So, finally I had to tell him bluntly, "Someone drew a dick on your forehead while you were passed out", which was met with a shocked expression from him and me nodding yes to reaffirm that I wasn't bullshitting him. So he ran to one of the bathrooms, saw for himself, and got it cleaned off. I don't know what they drew it with, but it must've been something pretty permanent plus they filled it in, and when he came back, there was a big red spot on his forehead in the shape of a dick, so I told him that he might want to think about putting on a hat.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-18-2020, 06:23 PM
I'll share about this later but we went to look at a rich family's house that is on the market. It was awkward. I mean it's amazing what rich people blow money on.

The worst part? Their cat (most likely belonging to the kids) snuck out when we went in and I freaked out b/c that is the absolute worst- prospective buyers and the realtor accidentally let the pet out and something happened? ugh.

Thankfully the realtor chased the cat down. Damned felines.

Anyhow it must be nice to have a "spare house" just standing around. LOL

moneybags
08-19-2020, 10:21 AM
Time to ditch ‘toxic positivity,’ experts say: ‘It’s okay not to be okay’

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/wellness/toxic-positivity-mental-health-covid/2020/08/19/5dff8d16-e0c8-11ea-8181-606e603bb1c4_story.html

I have to admit as someone practicing LOA and most of my friends are LOA it can be hard to be real. There’s a lot of pressure to stay positive during the pandemic.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-19-2020, 02:03 PM
Ok my story about getting to view this "rich person" house that is on the market. What a weird experience-

They had 4 newer vehicles, an ATV and some other "toy" type items on the property. The youngest kid had a literal closet full of art and crafts items- all orderly and new. All the furniture was new and nice.

They also kept horses (hence the extra land that comes with the house.) Seriously for a moment I thought I had stumbled into a country music video.

Boyfriend and I got into a semi-argument over the place as he loves it but I'd prefer something else. Oh the joys of adulting.

miss.a.p1600
08-19-2020, 09:40 PM
I'll share about this later but we went to look at a rich family's house that is on the market. It was awkward. I mean it's amazing what rich people blow money on.

The worst part? Their cat (most likely belonging to the kids) snuck out when we went in and I freaked out b/c that is the absolute worst- prospective buyers and the realtor accidentally let the pet out and something happened? ugh.

Thankfully the realtor chased the cat down. Damned felines.

Anyhow it must be nice to have a "spare house" just standing around. LOL

Rich that I know own more than one home. Often times the second home is empty either all the time or majority of the time

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-20-2020, 05:22 AM
Rich that I know own more than one home. Often times the second home is empty either all the time or majority of the time

That is true. FWIW these people seemed nice. Luckily for me there's a 2nd choice house I like much better so if we can't buy this one we saw, we can offer on a better one.

Random Thought- I was having a bad day yesterday but was lucky enough to focus my thoughts and get out of that bad headspace. It's true, "thoughts become things."

WendiStarr
08-20-2020, 01:05 PM
Bf's nephew left and I noticed what looked like a silver thermos sitting on top of the mini fridge in the basement guest bedroom. I told him and was going to put it in the dishwasher until he said that it's his dead brother's ashes. Now that creeps me out.

BambiCutie
08-20-2020, 01:42 PM
looked like a silver thermos sitting on top of the mini fridge in the basement guest bedroom.
Sad that his Brother's resting place is on top of a mini fridge down in a basement though. Not the usual spot that one would keep an urn that holds a loved one. Still creepy..

whirlerz
08-20-2020, 02:08 PM
I must be living out a judgment, (having done the bad things in my life) to end living where I am

AChildOfBoredom
08-20-2020, 06:45 PM
Sad that his Brother's resting place is on top of a mini fridge down in a basement though. Not the usual spot that one would keep an urn that holds a loved one. Still creepy..

Supposedly, friends of Tupac smoked his ashes.

WendiStarr
08-20-2020, 07:21 PM
Sad that his Brother's resting place is on top of a mini fridge down in a basement though. Not the usual spot that one would keep an urn that holds a loved one. Still creepy..

Yes. It makes me wonder if he (the nephew) did that on purpose. He brought that with him from another state and the whole time I was thinking it was a thermos he brought with him since it's the same size and shape of one. He had empty pop and beer cans up there with it so I just assumed it was a thermos. It is an odd place for that to be but I dare not touch it.

carmen_b
08-20-2020, 09:27 PM
I need to go to bed .
Unless I want to win the pouting award for longest pouting and ruining my one evening to myself in the last 5 days.

I feel a little disconnected with J and unsettled at his suggestion that he may do LSD again this weekend. I want to be *subtle* and talk him out of it. We had a spectacular time doing it about 12-13 days ago ( just one night ) and I've done my research and feel good about a month long period in between. This is just one theory. I get nervous about using substances too much or being too enthusiastic. There is something about it too . It can be really magical but it just takes SO MUCH energy.

Haha. Maybe things are getting " too real ". Like ...... I am not just a visitor anymore in his luxe house. I have a full closet there. I pitch in when he has kid there ( 50% of the time ). I try to keep a balance of helping but of course not abandoning my job either as it's a big piece of my identity.

Anyway ...... here's hoping for a nice date night tomorrow to get us back on track . I think it's been over two weeks since we had an out of the house and all done up type of date .

AChildOfBoredom
08-22-2020, 06:31 AM
I have a feeling that taking the Amish girl into my home is going to be more of a long term commitment than I had originally anticipated. She works, she pulls her own weight, but she’s really not cut out for the English life, and she’s very needy as far as emotional support goes. Which isn’t to be critical, as I’m perhaps not really any better in that regard, albeit for different reasons.

carmen_b
08-22-2020, 12:50 PM
^ Prob better your crew than a dude ( who smells the neediness ).

Maybe help her create a life and routine for herself a bit ?

carmen_b
08-22-2020, 12:51 PM
^ My situation resolved itself.
He read my hesitation and it’s off a couple weeks. :)
Love that.

I was more worried about being house bound.
I didn’t want the weekend to just revolve around being home.
We have dinner reservations for tonight.

Elektra Luxx
08-22-2020, 03:20 PM
Umm...lynn2009 sweetie, your PM box is full.

lynn2009
08-23-2020, 03:58 PM
Ladies, I put an offer in on a house!!! I feel really good about it.

Elektra Luxx
08-23-2020, 05:42 PM
Ladies, I put an offer in on a house!!! I feel really good about it.

Yay!!! Good luck! I hope you get it.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-23-2020, 05:46 PM
I have a feeling that taking the Amish girl into my home is going to be more of a long term commitment than I had originally anticipated. She works, she pulls her own weight, but she’s really not cut out for the English life, and she’s very needy as far as emotional support goes. Which isn’t to be critical, as I’m perhaps not really any better in that regard, albeit for different reasons.


Can you elaborate? On the topic, I wonder if thesises have been written about Amish adjusting to English life....

It's vastly interesting to me.

AChildOfBoredom
08-23-2020, 08:04 PM
Can you elaborate? On the topic, I wonder if thesises have been written about Amish adjusting to English life....


It's vastly interesting to me.


Of course you have your various Anabaptist sects, but the Amish are really more like a cult with a loose connection to the rest of the Anabaptist faiths, although they push a particular image for its market savviness. And, while, say, my Mennonite parents and my friend's parents certainly groomed us all for the Mennonite life, and we were certainly encouraged to remain, the Amish will fill the minds of their youth with a bunch of shit about the ills and horrors of the 'English' world, whereas my parents allow me to have my younger sister stay here with me, and while I'm sure they want us to go back to it, they seem to have accepted that I will not. Even shunning, while it was practiced in my community, was done in a much 'lighter' sense than the complete isolation imposed by the Amish. The Amish girl... well, she actually did baptize into the church then left when she felt she was being pushed into a marriage she wasn't entirely on board with. So she's a complete pariah in her community. Had I done that in mind, some people would be upset, and the order to shun would be given, but, in reality, there would be loopholes which would be greatly exploited and the effect would be much milder.


The end result is that she's still really naïve to the world, and it puts her in a vulnerable position. I was, as well, but life took me in directions where I had to adapt quickly. And maybe part of the blame on that would rest fairly and squarely on my shoulders.



https://youtu.be/Ht5dFBMgOGs


I've taken an approach more akin to that of the dog with her. The approach I received was much more akin to that of the cat. I don't think she'll respond very well to that approach, though.

lynn2009
08-23-2020, 08:14 PM
Yay!!! Good luck! I hope you get it.

Thanks, I'll need it. I just found out that house had nine other offers. Damn.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-24-2020, 05:07 AM
Of course you have your various Anabaptist sects, but the Amish are really more like a cult with a loose connection to the rest of the Anabaptist faiths, although they push a particular image for its market savviness. And, while, say, my Mennonite parents and my friend's parents certainly groomed us all for the Mennonite life, and we were certainly encouraged to remain, the Amish will fill the minds of their youth with a bunch of shit about the ills and horrors of the 'English' world, whereas my parents allow me to have my younger sister stay here with me, and while I'm sure they want us to go back to it, they seem to have accepted that I will not. Even shunning, while it was practiced in my community, was done in a much 'lighter' sense than the complete isolation imposed by the Amish. The Amish girl... well, she actually did baptize into the church then left when she felt she was being pushed into a marriage she wasn't entirely on board with. So she's a complete pariah in her community. Had I done that in mind, some people would be upset, and the order to shun would be given, but, in reality, there would be loopholes which would be greatly exploited and the effect would be much milder.


The end result is that she's still really naïve to the world, and it puts her in a vulnerable position. I was, as well, but life took me in directions where I had to adapt quickly. And maybe part of the blame on that would rest fairly and squarely on my shoulders.



https://youtu.be/Ht5dFBMgOGs


I've taken an approach more akin to that of the dog with her. The approach I received was much more akin to that of the cat. I don't think she'll respond very well to that approach, though.

There's a small group of ex-Hutterites in my region that does public talks in order to help people understand their background.

I'd say the "English" world is all about "doing your own thing." Which I guess is not really the main idea with the Amish community.

AChildOfBoredom
08-24-2020, 11:25 AM
I know a woman who came from a Hutterite community. She runs a food truck. She lives a small distance away, so I don’t see her super often, but she comes here for events and such from time to time. She’s managed to stay afloat during the pandemic by catering to offices, job sites, and such and she partnered up with a Mexican-American woman, as your construction sites are largely composed of Hispanic workers, so it’s a very varied menu they offer.

I don’t consider myself ex-Mennonite because I never baptized into the church. I refer to the Amish girl as such because I’m not using names on this forum and she actually did baptize into hers. Now she lives in this madhouse with the rest of us.

WendiStarr
08-24-2020, 04:33 PM
Bf wants us to take a family vacation to FL or TX in the winter. I'm hesitant because of the pandemic crap. I have anxiety flying as it is. I'm not sure about adding covid-19 risk and the hassle of flying with kids to the mix as well.

lynn2009
08-24-2020, 05:34 PM
I lost the house. They received 17 offers and the winning bid "went way over asking price with incredible terms".

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-25-2020, 02:50 AM
I lost the house. They received 17 offers and the winning bid "went way over asking price with incredible terms".

Awww sorry.

kimbe
08-25-2020, 06:07 AM
I lost the house. They received 17 offers and the winning bid "went way over asking price with incredible terms".

Sorry to hear.

SnuffleUffleGrass
08-25-2020, 07:20 AM
Random realization- the house we'll probably end up buying was designed by hippies.

This is good.

I'm so glad I patched up things with Mr. SnuffleUffleGrass a couple years ago. His ex would have been too lazy to do the upkeep needed on this place....Good God that bitch was cray cray....