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AChildOfBoredom
09-01-2020, 08:36 PM
The photographer texted me. Anyone can offer some thoughts for me?

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Is there anything about this I should be alarmed about?

kimbe
09-02-2020, 01:08 AM
I think it seems ok! This is typically how photographers work, he's just trying to push you a little towards pictures that will be a better business case for him. He definitely sees the potential of using the big truck, and I can understand that.

AChildOfBoredom
09-02-2020, 03:15 AM
I don’t think he was referring to this…

https://media.sandhills.com/img.axd?id=6086411705&wid=4326182721&rwl=False&p=&ext=&w=392&h=294&t=&lp=MAT&c=True&wt=False&sz=Max&rt=0&checksum=hk8xhemU%2FXlJPfL6dtnIC0qE62zmfkGhJbzFeZ9 qsGw%3D…

when he said “bring that with you”. I should’ve taken one more screen cap, because he clarified he meant the sense of confidence he perceived.

Anyhow, I have no idea what I should use for a rate?

To be honest, when he talked about me modeling swimwear, it just makes me suspicious. I’m 4’11”. Who in the fuck would have me modeling clothing products for them? Everyone - literally everyone - I know who has done that has been between 5’7” and 6’0”. Whether it’s swimwear, dresses, lingerie, or even work wear and uniforms. Considering that the guy seems to be really reputable, part of me feels like I’m overthinking it. And the other girl with the seemingly protective parents has done several shoots with him without issue. On the other hand, I was telling “the Grizz” about it earlier, and he offered to go with me if I felt a chaperone would be a good idea.

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-02-2020, 05:52 AM
^^^^^^^^^^

The photographer might be trying to flirt.

BTW keep in mind ending up in stock photos means you could end up becoming a meme. I know it hasn't been an issue in the past but modern Internet culture has made this happen. Maybe talk him out of signing you up for that. Plenty of models have privacy concerns and can find photographers that will delete extra copies, only use images for XYZ purpose, etc.

This isn't foolproof (we live in an age of screenshots and taking a pic of a pic now) but I'm just saying. Some people have more serious privacy concerns than others.

edit to add- occasionally petite sized women model swim wear and other items (an old friend of mine was signed to Elite Models many years ago & she was on the shorter side)...In those cases it's a very specific look they want, or to showcase how good something looks on a shorter person. & One of the all time great supermodels was only 5 foot 7 inches tall (Carol Alt.)

kimbe
09-02-2020, 06:04 AM
I don’t think he was referring to this…



LOL, I should have read the quoted text messages more thoroughly..

WendiStarr
09-02-2020, 10:14 AM
^ I think that having "The Grizz" with you wouldn't be a bad idea. I've done photo shoots before and some male photographers can be creeps and try to flirt with you. Something tells me that you'd not be one to mess with if he was a creep trying to work that angle. As for clothing modeling, you don't always have to be a specific height. I'm 5'3" and I've done modeling for Jcpenney.

AChildOfBoredom
09-02-2020, 02:53 PM
Maybe it’s just my complex about my height (or rather, lack thereof) getting the better of me. Just kinda happens that way sometimes. Of course, if people would stop assuming somehow that I’m unaware of my vertically challenged condition and take it upon themselves to remind me, perhaps it wouldn’t be such a thing.

The Grizz said he’d be happy to come with. I feel kinda weird about a coworker seeing me in a bikini, even if he is retiring soon, but, then again, they’ve seen me in jeans and a sports bra. And I trust the Grizz not to be a dirty old pervert.

AChildOfBoredom
09-05-2020, 12:52 PM
Her mother not only approved of her going to the beach with us, but even seemed delighted at the idea. She texted me she was ready to be picked up whenever. Since I’m still working my tow truck shift, I sent my sister to go pick her up, and the Amish girl went along for the ride. Her mother took them all out for a really nice lunch. So I’m a little jealous now.

WendiStarr
09-05-2020, 12:56 PM
I want to go for a walk but the weather is being bipolar today.

lilylilylily
09-05-2020, 04:21 PM
I dont want him on my block list because then I'll be tempted to unblock so I'm trying really hard not to peep his FB profile. It's been 2 days. Soon I'll forget him

carmen_b
09-05-2020, 04:52 PM
^ Aw. A break up? :(

carmen_b
09-05-2020, 04:53 PM
You are right to try not to peep. It can be so painful . :/

lilylilylily
09-05-2020, 05:07 PM
I broke up with him a few months ago cuz he wasnt at all good for me. I still miss him sometimes cuz we had some good times but he was just too inconsistent in communication and other deal breakers. He tries to contact me still with last minute attempts to see me but I just ignore or decline

moneybags
09-05-2020, 07:51 PM
^^^My heart goes out to you. I always fall in love with the emotionally unavailable guys. OMG. It’s so painful to love someone who has no capacity to love you back. It seems like every relationship I end I have to block the person to move on. It’s for my own self-care-not being petty. I know you don’t want to, but it’s for your own good to go 100% no contact. The saying wounds never heal if you pick at them.

I think the worse thing in the world is a broken heart. I am glad I’m over all the guys I loved before. Life is so much easier without men.

It gets better. It just takes time. Find some healthy distractions. I’m glad your ignoring him. It seems only when a woman fed up do guys start acting right.

lilylilylily
09-05-2020, 08:20 PM
Thank you for your kind words and you're so right, blocking really is the best thing for all these emotionally unavailable man boys

WendiStarr
09-06-2020, 08:22 AM
A house on my street is for sale. I've seen a real estate dude showing it and I'm hoping that decent people move in. It's a large house so it would be perfect for a family. I don't want any more nasty neighbors like the one across the street.

JGB2009
09-06-2020, 07:15 PM
I think you fell asleep.......well its not like I don't have anything to do.

whirlerz
09-06-2020, 07:40 PM
,........

AChildOfBoredom
09-06-2020, 10:59 PM
emotionally unavailable guys.

My problem is the opposite. I tend to be the emotionally unavailable one. And I think it’s a problem, but then I keep reading and hearing things others say about how things are better for them when they’re not hung up on men, and I ask myself, “Well, is it really a problem then?”.

“Oh, but you’re missing out…”, they tell me. Then they end up being an absolute train wreck because they keep trying the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Couple months after that, they’re back to telling me that I’m missing out on so much, once again. Doesn’t make sense to me.

I’m glad we split the driving up between two days instead of doing everything in one shot. Kinda annoyed with myself for crashing out way too early and being awake right now.

moneybags
09-06-2020, 11:59 PM
COVID-19 humor. “Being single during the pandemic feels like losing at musical chairs.” Ha Ha!



https://youtu.be/pMdzxYApW5I

WendiStarr
09-07-2020, 06:03 AM
I woke up this morning and heard a noise like someone walking around in the basement so I grabbed the sharpest knife in my kitchen and my phone ready to press 911, just in case. I looked around the basement, carrying a knife like a crazy woman but didn't see anything. Maybe it's the house settling, as people say. I'm not used to the whole living in a house thing yet, I guess. I've lived in noisy apartments and motels most of my life. I just wish it would stop sounding like someone is sneaking around in the basement when I'm upstairs and upstairs when I'm in the basement. On Friday we were all in the basement when we heard a noise upstairs. Both my boyfriend and I heard it and he asked me what it was so I went upstairs to investigate but didn't see anything.

carmen_b
09-07-2020, 10:35 AM
Good for you !!

Last minute / disorganized is clear indication of seeing someone else or being up to something sketch. You did the right thing !!


I broke up with him a few months ago cuz he wasnt at all good for me. I still miss him sometimes cuz we had some good times but he was just too inconsistent in communication and other deal breakers. He tries to contact me still with last minute attempts to see me but I just ignore or decline

AChildOfBoredom
09-07-2020, 01:26 PM
Since I’m taking the weekend off from the tow truck driving job on account of the photo shoot, I called the club and told them I’d come in Saturday. Might just be a one off thing, but I’m curious to see how it is in the wake of everything.

Aurora_Sunset
09-07-2020, 03:07 PM
My family member is this way.

She said she rather just die of breast cancer if she had it then to be probed n have her tits manipulated in a machine.

Idk what kind of logic that is

One of my good friends is/was like this. Her excuse for accidentally getting pregnant awhile ago was that she wasn't on BC because she refused to get a pap smear. Now, I don't agree that one should have to get a pap smear to obtain birth control, but her whole rationale was that a pap smear was "too invasive." And "she may die of cervical cancer, but at least she'll have her 'dignity' without someone shoving their fingers and metal instruments up her hoo-hah." And then she got pregnant, and I wanted to ask, "Hey, guess how invasive that's gonna be." -_- She lost that pregnancy but then decided she wanted a kid and has a one-year old now. I don't know if she's changed her views since then. But so stupid.

yaya_cash
09-07-2020, 04:29 PM
At this point I would rather be HIS secretary and HE supports me than having a demanding job and having a high earning, with dealing with men.

yaya_cash
09-07-2020, 05:39 PM
Okay, I NOW get flirting with a guy and encouraging him to pursue you or showing him you're interested in him because men are still afraid of rejection and an attractive woman being out of he's reach. A compliment can go a long way- If you're interested in him encourage him to pursue you by smiling, complimenting him or asking something about or of him instead of looking so damn unfriendly or unwelcoming and scaring away your suitors. Men are still human and vulnerable-- and they're just waiting for a signal to make their move, sometimes.

WendiStarr
09-08-2020, 07:04 AM
We had a family get together at my brother's house yesterday. My stepdad of all people suddenly started grilling my boyfriend, asking him if he loves me and plans on marrying me within the next 2 years, etc. I had to walk away because that was giving me anxiety. I wasn't expecting that from my stepdad. What's kind of funny is that my stepdad used to work with my boyfriend. I guess he told him that he better treat me right or else he's going to have to deal with him. Today boyfriend has been super loving. I wonder if that has something to do with it.

carmen_b
09-08-2020, 08:07 AM
Yaya : I feel like the world climate with Me too ( we needed it ) and other movements added to their hesitation too.
Many good guys want to do the right thing. This is why a little hint can go such a long way.

moneybags
09-08-2020, 08:00 PM
https://youtu.be/P-cPo1wqxD8

Watching comedy to keep a light heart during a dark time

carmen_b
09-09-2020, 10:26 AM
If J has his daughter 4 days in a row I’m not bad if I only see them two out of the four right?

That’s my plan but I’m having guilt . :/

I'm talking about evenings here as I work 9-5:30 anyway.

I'm just going to go with it and say it's fine haha but I wanted reassurance.

JGB2009
09-09-2020, 11:31 AM
If J has his daughter 4 days in a row I’m not bad if I only see them two out of the four right?

That’s my plan but I’m having guilt . :/

I'm talking about evenings here as I work 9-5:30 anyway.

I'm just going to go with it and say it's fine haha but I wanted reassurance.

I think that it is ok....

carmen_b
09-09-2020, 12:44 PM
Same !
I already told him I’m back to usual for work .
About 9-5:30 weekdays.
Then I don’t think it’s bad to split those evenings half together and half separate.

It’s a transitional time since he’s known me working part time for 5 months and Sept is kicking off a full time schedule again.

I’ll make time for them.
I’m gonna get my $$$ though too.

Edit : Um work hours spiked so I might not have time tomorrow to hang with them. I'm glad I caught them on Monday for a holiday lazy day together.

I don't think he will be pissed that I was fully focused on work for three days straight. I'm 90% sure he wouldn't be but this is an adjustment for sure.

WendiStarr
09-09-2020, 05:41 PM
Has anyone decorated for Halloween yet? I'm thinking about it but not sure if it's too early still.

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-09-2020, 08:44 PM
Has anyone decorated for Halloween yet? I'm thinking about it but not sure if it's too early still.

Too early. Just IMO.

Random thought- hungry but too lazy to eat....time for bed.

Emanuelle
09-09-2020, 10:49 PM
Has anyone decorated for Halloween yet? I'm thinking about it but not sure if it's too early still.

I haven't started decorating yet, but I have started ordering my costumes for camming. I don't like to decorate before the holiday month starts, personally.

moneybags
09-10-2020, 03:52 AM
Has anyone decorated for Halloween yet? I'm thinking about it but not sure if it's too early still.

Not decorated but I plan on being a naughty nurse. You could probably start October if you really want.

As soon as this shit is over and we have a vaccine, I’m going to party so hard I forget 2020 even happened. I’m gonna travel dance next summer.

AChildOfBoredom
09-10-2020, 11:31 AM
Has anyone decorated for Halloween yet? I'm thinking about it but not sure if it's too early still.

We haven’t, but we start in the tail end of September. Halloween… we go all out for it. There’s usually a couple kiddos scared to walk onto the porch. My sister doesn’t like the holiday, per se, but she absolutely loves giving out candy to the children and seeing them all delighted and such. We never went trick or treating when we were younger, so she was 14 the first time she went (she was able to pass for younger) just to experience it. In the end, she gave the candy away… we weren’t allowed candy, sugary beverages, and such, so we never developed a sweet tooth and what may be normal for a lot of people as far as highly sweetened foods go is often sickly sweet to us. I’ll feel ill if I drink a whole pop. So she decided she’d rather be giving out candy. Since she wears a costume for that, she insists that we all do.

lilylilylily
09-10-2020, 01:02 PM
The pattern on this mask I bought reminds me of a stripper bikini thong set I used to have

lurkingtitties
09-10-2020, 02:33 PM
Applied for a job this morning and now I'm antsy AF waiting to hear back. It's a 6 month contract in the middle of nowhere but would be a good opportunity for a new grad for other reasons besides the location. The recruiter I spoke to yesterday said it was me and one other new grad applying and that I actually have more relevant experience than the other candidate. So I think I have a good shot! But mannnn I am having a hard time with the waiting game!

Anyone else think it's totally weird how the vanilla job application process happens completely over the internet these days? I've only had one vanilla job in the last 10 years...I'm still used to the norm of going to a club in person to audition, and getting a Yes or No on the spot.

WendiStarr
09-11-2020, 04:53 PM
I feel like the older I get the more my hair color fades and becomes more brown. What used to make me unique(natural redheads are rare) doesn't really apply anymore these days. When I was a kid my hair was naturally Marcia Cross red. Now it's more like dark brown with some red and you can only see the red in bright lighting or in the sun. I wish I could get my hair back to that color and keep that color forever.

whirlerz
09-11-2020, 06:27 PM
I feel like the older I get the more my hair color fades and becomes more brown. What used to make me unique(natural redheads are rare) doesn't really apply anymore these days. When I was a kid my hair was naturally Marcia Cross red. Now it's more like dark brown with some red and you can only see the red in bright lighting or in the sun. I wish I could get my hair back to that color and keep that color forever.

.I know what you mean, Wendi. I had been getting blond highlights, now, I've been touching up my own hair.

I find that using a neutral light brown has been bringing out my red undertones, & I like it.

Maybe you could try some of those color refresh products out, they're water-based color mixed w/conditioner. Or a toner. I never used a toner, except when I was at the salon.

Red is a notoriously hard color to maintain, especially if you've hard water in your area.
Where I am, we have lousy well water. A filter can help.

Hope you feel better hon

whirlerz
09-11-2020, 06:35 PM
Has anyone decorated for Halloween yet? I'm thinking about it but not sure if it's too early still.


OMG, NO!

I've been wanting pumpkins, they're finally out now. I didn't get any yet, I like Trader Joe's, they have more size selections.

I want to put out a effigy of my landlord, crazy old f*ck w/ a wad of bills in hand, fake tombstones in front of my porch w/ my roomie's names, a giant ass spider & web, & MORE!
If I could get something that shocks people when they knock on my door, that'd be great too!

Also I want to put shit out in front of the house, this place already looks fucking haunted!
Maybe put a half eaten census taker , or something!

I already have an evil witch that lives right directly behind me, her small house looks naturally haunted too.

Oh, & there's a huge costume place, it's a block long building, open 24/7 the week of .

JGB2009
09-12-2020, 07:12 PM
I wish I had a cam room where I could keep everything out freely without putting everything up. That would be so awesome and amazing!!!!!

AChildOfBoredom
09-12-2020, 08:40 PM
I thought the photo shoot went pretty well. Being in the club tonight… it’s much, much different.

lurkingtitties
09-13-2020, 07:44 AM
I thought the photo shoot went pretty well. Being in the club tonight… it’s much, much different.

Different how? Tell us all the juicy details!

I can’t wait to dance again... I was planning to this spring/summer before corona happened. Probably will wait until well into 2021 or even 2022 but I see it in my future for sure.

AChildOfBoredom
09-13-2020, 10:12 AM
Busier than I expected it to, but the whole no contact and distancing made selling dances a lot more difficult, so I leaned more on stage tips than I usually did. The shift was… alright

WendiStarr
09-13-2020, 03:42 PM
I exercised for the first time today since being sick. I kind of regret it because now I feel fatigued and a little icky again.

carmen_b
09-13-2020, 04:35 PM
I’m frustrated with J again. :/
He knows I live in a house sit situation ( when I’m south where he is and I have a paid off property north ) . He seems hesitant to have me stay today even though the last 6 days he has had his daughter ( three days each week over a two week span ) I was only here one day.

I already did a couple motel rooms last week.
It’s extremely inconvenient to have to pack up AFTER I’ve hung with them today .
I’m tired from work yesterday. I’m not sure I’m thinking straight.

I spoke up about 30 min ago and told him I felt it wasn’t right. His sister is here too so it’s not like this evening is cutting into valuable “ just the two of them “ time.

carmen_b
09-13-2020, 04:43 PM
I have known a week that the house sit schedule is at 50% sold now with tourists coming back.
I probably should have just rented a room already .

Now my mind is getting going like ... do I need to buy in this area ?
I didn’t picture myself buying here initially but it’s a great spot to winter.

carmen_b
09-13-2020, 04:49 PM
I do kind of want to uninvite him to Montana .
If we are not being generous with each other I guess he doesn’t need to stay 4 nights with me at the 4 star lodge my day job booked for my stay up there this upcoming weekend .