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charlie61
11-15-2020, 07:35 PM
He older threads are the best.

Agreed!! It's always bittersweet to see members in older threads who no longer post. I would love to hear how they're doing and where they're at in life.

yaya_cash
11-15-2020, 11:04 PM
Y'all ever be posting on SW tipsy, and you have to edit your post like five times before it even starts making sense? That's where I'm at. I feel like I'm trolling this site at this point. Like I'm digging up old threads and oversharing. Cheers

GIRL. Haaaa

AChildOfBoredom
11-16-2020, 04:57 AM
The mystery depends. One thing that I’m kinda known for at the shop is that anytime I have to write anything, I write it in purple ink. That’s not a matter of me being eccentric, feeling a need to make a display of my femininity, or anything of the sort. It’s because I keep having these mystery pens show up and I don’t know why or where the hell they came from.

Every now and again, I’ll come in to work to find three, four, sometimes five of these pens left on my toolbox and bundled together with a rubber band. Always purple Pilot G2 pens (which are actually pretty nice as far as disposable pens go). Well, there was a green one in the mix once. I don’t know who leaves them there, I don’t know if they’re from our side of the shop or “the other side”, amd I have no idea why they do this. I’m pretty sure that, whoever it is, they work swing shift. I had to stop in last night to bring something home that I’d left in the shop, and there was another bundle of them there. I do appreciate the free pens and all, but I really would like to know what exactly the story is. This has been going on for about a year and a half now. When the other woman started in the shop, I thought maybe they’d end up on her toolbox, or perhaps divvied up between us. No, it’s just me this happens to.

yaya_cash
11-16-2020, 05:52 AM
Do you think THAT attitude is good as a domme, then? :D
My experience working in dives and mids was that super upscale women were often less popular because they came across like they had a bad attitude, thought they were better than their customers, or seemed unapproachable/standoffish/intimidating. I know that this vibe can really work well for some dancers, and can fit well in upscale clubs. But i would often run circles around these women by being an entertainer who was more casual, always had a big smile on my face, had a bit of an unrefined look (i honestly don't feel like i found my groove with makeup and whatnot until after i stopped dancing, lol). And some guys like the amateur look because it signals that you're newer to the industry, less jaded, lower hustle game, open to white knights, more naive, stuff like that. It's possible that some guys target "ghetto" women because they may think these women are more open to extras / less demanding when it comes to $$$, but i think the factors i mentioned may also be relevant, depending on the context.

yaya_cash
11-16-2020, 06:06 AM
^^^ It depends on what vibes with the customer. Most people like talking to people from similar backgrounds. Upscale men do not mind upscale women. Truly classy women don’t have bad attitudes. I do think guys like “trashier”-I’m saying that’s what guys call lower SES women. I wouldn’t call a lower class woman trash unless she was actually a cunt. Anyways, guys like lower class women because they think they can get more for less which says more about how trashy the customer is than it says about the girl. Men in general want to get away with as much as possible. I think actually classily guys who come to the club or cam scene cause they are too busy to date actually prefer upscale women. You get what you pay for. People with money want value and they don’t have a lack vibration where they are trying to con the models. They understand that you get what you pay for and won’t be deterred by a high price if it’s good service. So it says more about the customer than you is what I mean yaya cash. Just like a Luxe service it’s hard to maintain that kinda brand and not usually worth the effort in sex work. Guys are picky when it comes to pussy, so there no shame in catering to the average Joe.

Anyways my random thought, I did this procrastination sleep meditation and I woke up at
9 am and was productive all fricken day even though I was sleep deprived. I’m doing a wealth hypnosis tonight.

This would mean a bourgeois woman or a woman from a upper class background would have to adjust her marketing to lower class or blue collar men, by a lot. And she couldn't mention anything about herself (because it would put other men off, distant herself or they won't identify with her) to cater to a different background. Right?

LoveyDovey
11-16-2020, 09:52 PM
I'm so tired.

carmen_b
11-17-2020, 12:12 PM
I wonder too if I should tell him about my past sex work ( mostly just stripping ).

About a year ago I stopped telling anyone after some experimenting led me to believe that 90% of men JUST CAN NOT DEAL .
I wanted to do better PR work on my dating life including some things like not rambling so much about travel goals too so that I could appear more stable and attract stable. I began talking quickly about goals and things I was working on ( I had issue prior with dudes putting me in the " not a relationship prospect" box ).

;/

AChildOfBoredom
11-17-2020, 01:52 PM
I wish I was taller.

carmen_b
11-17-2020, 03:08 PM
Crazy Bitch is on radio.

I miss the club.

charlie61
11-17-2020, 06:34 PM
I wonder too if I should tell him about my past sex work ( mostly just stripping ).

About a year ago I stopped telling anyone after some experimenting led me to believe that 90% of men JUST CAN NOT DEAL .
I wanted to do better PR work on my dating life including some things like not rambling so much about travel goals too so that I could appear more stable and attract stable. I began talking quickly about goals and things I was working on ( I had issue prior with dudes putting me in the " not a relationship prospect" box ).

;/

Oooh daaaaang girl... I'd forgotten that you hadn't told him yet. Didn't you also used to do sensual massages?

carmen_b
11-18-2020, 05:17 AM
^ Not illegal handy massage.
Just massage sometimes topless if they had the $$.
Ok and sometimes nude ( very occasionally ) if they had more .
But a bit of a technicality admittedly . Some thought they would get “ more “. It was a touristy market where I pulled off this hustle for a bit. Oddly I don’t feel bad not disclosing that.

But dancing ... eh ... *eventually* I might run into a customer or something ? I don’t know....
Even after this carefully crafted PR routine for dating in my opinion J still holds back.
So I’m not sure this did much good.

carmen_b
11-18-2020, 05:21 AM
He did ask last May ( the day we became BF / GF ) what the worst thing I’ve done was.

I told him I hadn’t done anything terrible but I had done some things that need to be handled with discretion.
He didn’t ask for deets so maybe I’m good ? Haha

carmen_b
11-18-2020, 05:25 AM
I think subconsciously ( or maybe consciously ) I’m fucking with him.
No sex by Dr. orders for like 12 days but I was clear for it Mon and Tues.

I just didn’t want to.
I’ll either probably have to bring sex back this weekend ( with the knowledge that I’m still unhappy with the only sleeping next to him 15 days a month ) or I imagine he’ll get frustrated.
I think he does it to have a “ parachute “ packed in case he wants out and it makes me angry. Sometimes I do get it though ( he is dividing the evening time equally between me and 8 year old daughter ). Eventually you kind of have to blend a *little* though. This just isn’t realistic. Of course that’s my opinion .

carmen_b
11-18-2020, 09:51 AM
^ Maybe I should just listen to my body.
I mean ... he isn’t offering relationship progression so why should I offer sexual attention , my time , or energy?

I didn’t think he would do this. I guess I took a risk and lost. :(
I feel so sad in this knowledge that he isn’t “ coming around “ to my idea ( having me there just two of the nights in weeks he has her 5 days ) .

The other thing I could offer is an open relationship. That way I’m not tearing my hair out in anger every other week sleeping alone 5 days. Maybe I can see another dude a few times a month .

I’m embarrassed because my mom is in town and she is in the leave him camp . :/
I don’t think she is going to want him around but will probably be polite.

moneybags
11-18-2020, 10:00 AM
My friend got coronavirus. I’m praying she gets better soon. I sent her a card and sent over some take out. She got it from a family member who had a very cavalier attitude about masks. We were surprised she didn’t get from work since she’s a waitress.

Anyways, wear your masks and if you see family and friends don’t drop your guard. It looks like you are more likely to get it from a friend and family member than from being out in public.

Stay safe

moneybags
11-18-2020, 10:02 AM
This would mean a bourgeois woman or a woman from a upper class background would have to adjust her marketing to lower class or blue collar men, by a lot. And she couldn't mention anything about herself (because it would put other men off, distant herself or they won't identify with her) to cater to a different background. Right?

Yeah, I played dumb in my home club-mostly lower class guys. I worked at upper class clubs guys loved me and I could be myself. Upper class guys like to talk politics and culture and crave emotionally intimacy more than physical. Then you also have the rich men that are the “grab them by the pussy type”. So SES background is important, but I wouldn’t say upper class men are always better customers cause they can be picky, demanding, and rude. Whereas lower class men are pretty content to just see some titties and ass and call it a night. There’s unhealthy and healthy men in every social economic status.

I don’t think it has much to do with class. Guys generally want women to feign being weak and inferior. Occasionally you get guys turned on by smart and sophisticated women, but that’s not high demand.

I think if you’re a women of color then acting “ghetto” fits into their fantasy of what they see in rap videos.

In sales, it’s best to mirror the customers socio economic status.

carmen_b
11-18-2020, 10:43 AM
^ I’ve downplayed my “ class “.

Do what sells.

Strip clubs are not exactly about authenticity. :)

I think there is a psychology too where they can think you don’t “ need “ the $!
I you didn’t want it or need it you wouldn’t be there!

AChildOfBoredom
11-18-2020, 01:14 PM
This would mean a bourgeois woman or a woman from a upper class background would have to adjust her marketing to lower class or blue collar men, by a lot. And she couldn't mention anything about herself (because it would put other men off, distant herself or they won't identify with her) to cater to a different background. Right?

It’s not always that simple. Some wealthier guys have this… I’m not good at describing these things. They have this stuck in their heads


https://youtu.be/5EeIvsvBXHI

And blue collar guys can be apprehensive when you work in what they see as a more “manly” field tgan they do, especially when you have a stature like mine.

WendiStarr
11-19-2020, 08:25 PM
I've been letting the kids fall asleep in my bed and now they think this is where they should sleep every night, especially baby. I have a king size bed but I've been assigned to the edge of the bed, lying on my side, unless I want to take over dog real estate space at the foot of the bed.

AChildOfBoredom
11-20-2020, 04:13 AM
I think sometimes that 2020 was just too much of a screwball year to have been real, and that further reinforces my notion of the hallucination. Maybe this is the final chapter of it, and December will be the final paragraph. It would be disappointing, as there is much I would’ve liked to see play out. And I hope I’m not right. But if I am, I’m at peace with it. I’m ready.

charlie61
11-20-2020, 07:17 PM
^ Maybe I should just listen to my body.
I mean ... he isn’t offering relationship progression so why should I offer sexual attention , my time , or energy?

I didn’t think he would do this. I guess I took a risk and lost. :(
I feel so sad in this knowledge that he isn’t “ coming around “ to my idea ( having me there just two of the nights in weeks he has her 5 days ) .

The other thing I could offer is an open relationship. That way I’m not tearing my hair out in anger every other week sleeping alone 5 days. Maybe I can see another dude a few times a month .

I’m embarrassed because my mom is in town and she is in the leave him camp . :/
I don’t think she is going to want him around but will probably be polite.

So funny...i just suggested this in your dating thread, and i hadn't even seen this post from you. I think having another relationship would be so freeing for you. Right now you're feeling helplessly dependent on someone who has you on an intimacy diet.

WendiStarr
11-21-2020, 08:36 AM
^ It's so easy to accidentally like stuff on IG. I was scrolling through and accidentally liked an IG lady's picture. She liked 5 of mine in return. I don't get why the pope wants to act like he's not a man who looks at pretty, half baked women, religious figure or not. I call bullshit on any claims of them always being pure in thought 24/7.

On an unrelated note, I had forgotten all about cc. I hadn't seen anyone from there since I was 7 months pregnant. A lot of people want to cuddle all of a sudden. I can't do in-person due to pandemic conditions in my state and not being able to host with kids home 24/7. They just shut everything down again a couple days ago. No one likes the virtual cuddle session idea. Oh well, I tried.

Aurora_Sunset
11-22-2020, 09:54 AM
Well, I have Covid. I have no idea how I got it - all I do is go to work, the laundromat, and the grocery store, always wear my mask and socially distance... Since I started showing symptoms, I've worn a mask around the apartment and stayed away from my husband, so I hope he doesn't get sick too. We've been trying to find him a test today, but everywhere is booked solid. I was just lucky to get a test through work.

I am grateful that work is giving me 2 weeks off with pay. It sucks a little, because those 2 weeks would've had 3 overtime days that I was actually looking forward too for the money. And of course, I'll miss 2 weeks of pay at the part-time job. But at least I'm not completely SOL. And when else would I get 2 weeks of sanctioned time off? So, honestly, I'm looking at this as a sort of blessing. I've set up 2 laptops in the bedroom and have hubby out buying canned food and beer to get me through my quarantine. And I bet I can convince friends to make up a plate for me on Thanksgiving and drop it at the door, cuz everyone will feel sorry for me lol

AChildOfBoredom
11-22-2020, 11:52 AM
Well, I have Covid. I have no idea how I got it - all I do is go to work, the laundromat, and the grocery store, always wear my mask and socially distance... Since I started showing symptoms, I've worn a mask around the apartment and stayed away from my husband, so I hope he doesn't get sick too. We've been trying to find him a test today, but everywhere is booked solid. I was just lucky to get a test through work.

I am grateful that work is giving me 2 weeks off with pay. It sucks a little, because those 2 weeks would've had 3 overtime days that I was actually looking forward too for the money. And of course, I'll miss 2 weeks of pay at the part-time job. But at least I'm not completely SOL. And when else would I get 2 weeks of sanctioned time off? So, honestly, I'm looking at this as a sort of blessing. I've set up 2 laptops in the bedroom and have hubby out buying canned food and beer to get me through my quarantine. And I bet I can convince friends to make up a plate for me on Thanksgiving and drop it at the door, cuz everyone will feel sorry for me lol

Hope you get well soon. Sorry if it sounds cliché a thing to say, but I do hope for that.

kimbe
11-22-2020, 02:34 PM
Well, I have Covid.

My wishes for a quick recovery!

neverendingkneebruises
11-22-2020, 08:07 PM
I hope you feel better soon, Aurora!

I binge watched The Witcher on Netflix recently. I couldn't stop staring at Yennefer's gorgeous eyeshadow. Idk if I can pull off green eyeshadow, but I'm itching to do something similar

AChildOfBoredom
11-22-2020, 10:44 PM
I know one place we’re never getting takeout from again. Enchilada night… was a huge mistake.

carmen_b
11-25-2020, 09:01 AM
Feel better Aurora !!

carmen_b
11-25-2020, 09:03 AM
J had a package for me at his place.

I was on my way out of town but opened it to take a peek.

It was three sexy black outfits . :)

chanzep
11-25-2020, 10:57 AM
I feel like because it's Thanksgiving I should not do any work at work lol.

AChildOfBoredom
11-25-2020, 12:20 PM
When someone you haven’t seen in eight years and who was instrumental in helping you get on your own two feet in the earlier years of your adult life suddenly shows up unexpectedly at your door, what do you do?

Smack him for not telling you ahead of time. I’m glad other people seem to be able to tolerate me, because I’m pretty sure I’d never be able to tolerate myself.

It was nice for the others, because he sends Christmas gifts for everyone and a gift card for everyone’s birthday, and they had no idea who the hell he was until now.

Elektra Luxx
11-25-2020, 03:09 PM
It's late November, shouldn't the weather be cold or at least cool? It's 77°F and not a cloud in the sky, I think I'm going to lay out in the sun and pretend it's still Summer.

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11-26-2020, 09:02 AM
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carmen_b
11-26-2020, 12:44 PM
He said before he didn’t want to be dominated. :/

Hmmmm

How do you explain those outfit choices then ?

I think it’s a hint to revisit the subject. :)

AChildOfBoredom
11-26-2020, 04:35 PM
^just put him in a gimp suit and beat the shit out of him. Either he’ll come around or it just wasn’t meant to be. I’m full of good dating advice, in case you didn’t know :)

My old roommate… he seems to be actively avoiding meeting my friend from the community, and I’m trying to understand why. I’m not trying to set them up, and he should know better. Plus, she’s Mennonite, and he’s not just an atheist, but an actual anti theist. Nobody in their right mind would expect sparks to fly between them. He did drop about $3.5k to get her what she needed so that she could get to work once she got here, and between that and the bulk of my bizarre stories outside of the war involving him, she wants to see for herself where the lunacy came from. I know where he’s staying. I have a cattle prod. This is happening, whether or not he realizes it.

carmen_b
11-26-2020, 08:18 PM
^ I don’t mind not dominating him.
Maybe he just likes black leather , netting , zippers ect.!

whirlerz
11-27-2020, 12:45 AM
^ I don’t mind not dominating him.
Maybe he just likes black leather , netting , zippers ect.!

I know I do

Some blue(s) need a time out, maybe perm?

Aurora, get well very soon, take care!

lurkingtitties
11-27-2020, 12:09 PM
One of the other people in my department at work is a traveler. (They get contracted to work 3-6 months at hospitals and clinics all over the country; it pays better than permanent jobs but the lifestyle obviously isn’t for everyone)

With all the crazy crap going on for me both in and out of work, I asked him to give my information to his recruiter. Screw this whole town! I can do better and I will.

WendiStarr
11-27-2020, 01:43 PM
Anybody else notice the increase in shipping fees while online shopping? Everywhere used to be the $5.99. I was going to order stuff from Michael's for craft supplies. It was going to be $9.95 just to ship it and it's not like it was big or heavy items. I donned my shark mask and went to the store in person. It was the first time that I went there without going down the candle aisle and smelling every candle. I miss being able to be a weirdo smelling the candles, lol.

carmen_b
11-27-2020, 01:44 PM
^ Some of the traveling med people I’ve met seem to do so well !
I think sometimes housing is covered too.

lilylilylily
11-27-2020, 04:07 PM
I took a chance and ordered a mouth night guard from amazon since dentists are always trying to sell me one for $700 because I'm a teeth grinder. This cost $30 lol. I followed the instructions but it still feels kind of loose. I know I shouldn't expect much but it had mostly great reviews. I will try again to get it to fit right..

JGB2009
11-27-2020, 05:45 PM
I have known for a while that I can only rely on myself for happiness. Why do I mess up and sometimes do otherwise.

Genoveve
11-27-2020, 06:14 PM
^^^Because everyone does at times. Try not to beat yourself up about it.

AChildOfBoredom
11-27-2020, 07:24 PM
Sometimes things make no sense at all. Sometimes maybe they just don’t need to.

If I tell myself the second part of that enough times, maybe I’ll actually start to believe it.

Elektra Luxx
11-28-2020, 04:50 PM
It's late November, shouldn't the weather be cold or at least cool? It's 77°F and not a cloud in the sky, I think I'm going to lay out in the sun and pretend it's still Summer.

It's been raining all day and it's 52°F outside, but it feels colder. I keep asking bf if he's cold so we can turn on the heat, but he says he's fine. I've got pajamas on and covered with a blanket and I'm freezing my ass off!

Be careful what you wish for. Sheesh!

indiegirl
11-28-2020, 04:58 PM
I took a chance and ordered a mouth night guard from amazon since dentists are always trying to sell me one for $700 because I'm a teeth grinder. This cost $30 lol. I followed the instructions but it still feels kind of loose. I know I shouldn't expect much but it had mostly great reviews. I will try again to get it to fit right..

I bought my nightguard off of amazon and some of the sizes are too big and you have to cut them with scissors. My dentist gifted me a free one after spending thousands of dollars and I lost his nightguard. Felt the professional one was better but I was quoted 800 bucks for mine. They do have similar ones where they send a molding kit for your teeth on amazon and ship it back but I don't wanna rip a veneer out in the drying process.

lynn2009
11-28-2020, 06:43 PM
It's been raining all day and it's 52°F outside, but it feels colder. I keep asking bf if he's cold so we can turn on the heat, but he says he's fine. I've got pajamas on and covered with a blanket and I'm freezing my ass off!

Be careful what you wish for. Sheesh!

You should turn the heat on and he'll live.

charlie61
11-28-2020, 08:43 PM
It's been raining all day and it's 52°F outside, but it feels colder. I keep asking bf if he's cold so we can turn on the heat, but he says he's fine. I've got pajamas on and covered with a blanket and I'm freezing my ass off!

Be careful what you wish for. Sheesh!

Highly recommend a heating pad! I have like six of these around the house. I love being cozy!!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00JA9D914?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

AChildOfBoredom
11-29-2020, 08:52 PM
I need to just start recording everything. I keep seeing these videos of fails, “watch people die inside”, silly whimsical things, pets gone aloof, people gone aloof, etc. That’s a daily thing in this house. I don’t really need to watch those videos because I get to see it live every day.

moneybags
11-30-2020, 02:31 AM
I’m disoriented after the crazy new cycles. It’s been such a traumatizing year, but hopefully there’s also post traumatic growth- individually and collectively. I can hope that we all learn from this, but knowing what I know about human nature I’m probably wrong.