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indiegirl
02-15-2021, 01:11 PM
The more I watch these American idol and AGT videos, the more I wish I had a great voice for the audition tape so I can just flat out waltz on stage in front of that audience singing like someone tone deaf. Apparently on the paper they are given they know who is there as a good or bad singer (to laugh at). So many talented people out there that don’t make it even after the show, meanwhile certain artists use auto tune.
carmen_b
02-15-2021, 02:22 PM
I am thinking of positioning myself to return North on March 1!!
Not that I need to take a poll but in those I’ve polled ( friends , mom , sister ) everyone is supportive .
We are good together and it’s sad but this is not what partnership looks like.
I look at it more as this should all be something we tackle together .
His daughter not sleeping well ? A together project !
Hell I’ll even sleep downstairs if needed a few weeks so they can sleep with doors open as they work towards " normal " ( an 8 year old should sleep with it closed ). Did you know it’s a fire danger too leaving bedroom doors open ? So much comes up when you google “ child sleeping with door open “. I should send him the links.
Everything that needs to figured out could be handled together. Since he isn't offering the fully together portion with FULL partnership I can make a decision to go.
Almost everyone I've talked to says they would be upset too in this situation.
charlie61
02-15-2021, 02:49 PM
I thinking of positioning myself to return North on March 1!!
Not that I need to take a poll but in those I’ve polled ( friends , mom , sister ) everyone is supportive .
We are good together and it’s sad but this is not what partnership looks like.
I look at it more as this should all be something we tackle together .
Daughter not sleeping well ? A together project ! Hell I’ll even sleep downstairs if needed.
Everything that needs to figured out could be handled together.
Since he isn't offering the fully together portion I can make a decision to go.
Good for you. I think limbo can be like torture. Decisions can cause short-term discomfort or pain, but at least the wheels are moving, and you're in the driver's seat. I can't stand waiting, being in limbo, being reliant on someone else's timetable.
carmen_b
02-15-2021, 02:56 PM
^ Same !! This limbo phase took SO much energy from me.
I’m eager to reclaim it.
I took a look at how much upset I was feeling in my 15 hours - ish of day time .
It was A LOT. This was distracting me at work , while trying to do school , ect.!
Other people telling me that THEY think his behavior is unfair was refreshing.
If it was ok it wouldn’t be upsetting me constantly and I wouldn't have been asking people about this.
carmen_b
02-15-2021, 06:40 PM
I told my partner I didn’t give a damn about Valentines ( I don’t ) and he got a dozen roses which was sweet.
carmen_b
02-15-2021, 07:38 PM
^ Despite that very nice gesture I did send him the email ( going North ect.) that I had some thoughts gathered on.
AChildOfBoredom
02-15-2021, 09:33 PM
I helped the other woman at work take some furniture to her place. They bought a condo, and the floor plan of that place…
What really killed me was the master bathroom. It was large, there was a double sink on one side, a stand up shower on the other, and the toilet was about centered between the two, and the space was huge… had to be at least seven or eight feet from either side. I don’t really understand why someone would want to feel like they’re adrift in the middle of the ocean while they’re having a shit. I always figured bathrooms should use as little space as possible and use it as efficiently as possible.
carmen_b
02-15-2021, 09:48 PM
My last bathroom had so much wasted space. You could spin with outstretched arms but the builder decided on a standing shower instead of tub. :/ ^^^
It still baffles me why they had an apartment sized bathroom with a shower only haha . I just assume being a cheap ass was prioritized on the project haha.
moneybags
02-16-2021, 01:10 AM
-11 degrees Fahrenheit! Fuck!!!!!
chanzep
02-16-2021, 02:45 PM
I hope everyone in this crazy storms ok. Texas is a mess. We had no power for 20 hours. Now water is off.
LoveyDovey
02-16-2021, 04:17 PM
I hope everyone in this crazy storms ok. Texas is a mess. We had no power for 20 hours. Now water is off.
Just what everyone needs, especially during a pandemic! Stay safe.
indiegirl
02-16-2021, 04:35 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ltBrCJC5BNI
This makes me want to vomit. I always thought they changed the sheets and pillows in hotels. Part of me thinks that maids will cut corners if the sheets appear clean.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-16-2021, 06:13 PM
I'm completely shocked that Texas is having freezing weather and people may actually die there from power outages and other cold weather related causes. WTF
chanzep
02-16-2021, 07:19 PM
Yes they saying the grid overwhelm. Even though most people run the A.c. All the time most of the year. Makes no sense.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-16-2021, 07:29 PM
Yes they saying the grid overwhelm. Even though most people run the A.c. All the time most of the year. Makes no sense.
This sounds strange but in my state (which is a ways a way from Texas) they did blackouts to send power to TX. My house was not affected but some part of my city were.
I feel really bad for TX as the state is not equipped to deal with winter. Snow Belt states are ready annually for snow but no one can blame TX for not really thinking that would ever be a problem.
moneybags
02-17-2021, 01:59 AM
^^^i don’t understand how power grids work either :/
I googled it https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.newser.com/story/302628/power-grid-in-texas-is-overwhelmed.html
What went wrong with the Texas power grid?" In this case, the explanation for what the newspaper calls the grid's "catastrophic failure" involves a double whammy: The historic storm not only increased demand, it reduced supply because the freezing weather crippled power plants and distribution networks.
I hope you Texas ladies are doing okay.
LoveyDovey
02-17-2021, 02:59 AM
Rebecca Mix on twitter posted a really good thread on surviving the cold during power outages. Worth a read if you're still able to go online. Hope you TX ladies are staying safe.
lurkingtitties
02-17-2021, 06:19 AM
I resigned from my full time job at the nursing home a few weeks back, but stayed on with the company per diem. This week I have to work there M-F covering for someone who is on vacation.
It’s truly a nightmare place to work or to be a resident. I feel depressed and angry after just a couple hours in the building. Cant get the smells out of my brain either. At least it’s only 30 hours this week and then I can go back to the cushy nursing home in the rich part of the county.
Procrastinating on SW because I don’t want to go!
lynn2009
02-17-2021, 08:21 AM
I'm going to start looking for another job in earnest.
indiegirl
02-17-2021, 10:44 AM
https://youtu.be/cG6F7xxu18I?t=6
"When Road Rage Doesn't Match the Playlist.
I can't help myself, I've been perusing youtube too much lately lol.
lilylilylily
02-17-2021, 11:10 AM
Oh well booty call never confirmed our meeting today and I'm definitely not confirming. I'm actually relieved, didnt feel like getting ready and going outside in the cold. I will go out for food if I have to though lol
moneybags
02-17-2021, 03:11 PM
I guess it’s random act of kindness week, so I bought some Starbucks for the person behind me and I bought Starbucks for a person without a home. Felt really good! I always remind myself no matter how shitty things are they could always be worse.
I have almost had a mental health break down. Just too much stress! It helps to get out of my head by being kind to others.
carmen_b
02-17-2021, 03:29 PM
^ Aw !!! :)
Love that.
I think I’ll follow you. I was planning a donut splurge haha and I want to leave a few bucks for next person.
carmen_b
02-17-2021, 03:33 PM
Ok
Had no idea Covid bullshit would be this long but for mental health ( in case partner and I split too ) I’m just going to splurge on housing anyway.
Go up to $1000-1250 a month ( can live alone on it in my area ).
That’s the loose plan. I mean what’s an extra $1500-$2150 ish to pay down monthly over the next year for peace and quiet? I can pull a small personal for it in minutes.
I was so cautious in covid I didn’t even take loans or use credit just savings.
My savings has grown lean though.
I was cautious AF spending only $500 a month on housing the last 4 months.
Things must be on the way to normalizing. I just need a break from this type of strict living even if I need to go back to it in 3 months ( goddess please no omg !! ).
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-17-2021, 04:28 PM
I guess it’s random act of kindness week, so I bought some Starbucks for the person behind me and I bought Starbucks for a person without a home. Felt really good! I always remind myself no matter how shitty things are they could always be worse.
I have almost had a mental health break down. Just too much stress! It helps to get out of my head by being kind to others.
This reminded me, Starbucks could donate coffee to homeless shelters. I mean they can afford it. & Coffee is a little luxury that brightens anyone's day.
On topic I've been wanting to donate to charity but my current issues demand all the money I have. I set aside some to make sure my dad's hospital bill gets paid in full. I'm just grateful he's alive.
moneybags
02-17-2021, 05:22 PM
^^^^I’ll have to wait before giving charity for awhile. Coronavirus fucked my money up!
I agree Carmen. It feels like this pandemic will never end. Worse they are saying coronavirus will be endemic, and it just feels like this will never end. I’m trying to stay positive though.
I hate spending money Carmen, but having a nice living space contributes to my mental well being.
WendiStarr
02-17-2021, 06:38 PM
I'm torn between SQL or cyber security. I'm leaning more towards cyber security though.
Genoveve
02-17-2021, 07:16 PM
I saw a roadrunner today at the park! I have never seen one before, I didn't even know they existed here. I didn't even know what it was till I got home and researched, I jokingly told someone that I thought I saw a roadrunner but really I thought it was some sort of exotic-looking quail or pheasant. It's funny too because I usually listen to Abraham Hicks while I walk in that park and I was again today, and there's a story I've heard Esther tell a lot involving a roadrunner. It's also funny because someone mentioned the roadrunner cartoon in a video I watched weeks ago and ever since then I keep doing that 'Beep beep' noise it makes to my dog.
LoveyDovey
02-18-2021, 06:40 AM
having a nice living space contributes to my mental well being.
This is why I had to move out of that dump I was in. It was dirty, I kept overhearing housemates coughing/ having parties. My anxiety levels went through the roof. The place where I'm staying now is in a much better part of town, very clean and quiet. The worst thing I have to deal with now is having small talk with the other folks who live here, as I am sort of shy and introverted with people I don't know very well. But at least they are nice normal people and I'm sure after a little while I can get over my shyness. Of course I still try to be friendly and cordial, but I can only take conversations for so long just because I'm introverted and I feel safer in my little shell.
LoveyDovey
02-18-2021, 06:44 AM
I guess it’s random act of kindness week, so I bought some Starbucks for the person behind me and I bought Starbucks for a person without a home. Felt really good! I always remind myself no matter how shitty things are they could always be worse.
I have almost had a mental health break down. Just too much stress! It helps to get out of my head by being kind to others.
That's really sweet! They always say that service is healing balm for the soul, and I'm sure the recipients of your kindness really appreciate it a lot. Here's hoping it all comes back to you!
indiegirl
02-18-2021, 07:08 AM
Seems another stimulus bill is coming for those who make under 30k. 600 bucks according to KTLA
Selina M
02-18-2021, 11:38 AM
I think we should run this site like Survivor.
If a certain percentage of users dislike a certain poster, they should be allowed to vote that person off the island.
Y'all know which blue I'm talking about ;)
lynn2009
02-18-2021, 12:29 PM
I think we should run this site like Survivor.
If a certain percentage of users dislike a certain poster, they should be allowed to vote that person off the island.
Y'all know which blue I'm talking about ;)
I would love to have a section of SW that is invite only.
charlie61
02-18-2021, 04:55 PM
I think we should run this site like Survivor.
If a certain percentage of users dislike a certain poster, they should be allowed to vote that person off the island.
Y'all know which blue I'm talking about ;)
I read a thread the other day from one where he was calling the OP "honey" and was like, i definitely can't help you and have nothing useful to say, but I'm here for you, honey. Uuuuugh disgusting, like, stoooooop. Reminded me of an opportunistic parasitic player who's going after women who are vulnerable.
Elektra Luxx
02-18-2021, 05:56 PM
I'm torn between SQL or cyber security. I'm leaning more towards cyber security though.
Go with cyber security. My brother in-law does cyber security for Salesforce and makes a butt-load of money. He's making mid six figures and when he got hired they gave him a $500,000 signing bonus. My sister just sits on her ass all day sticking her nose into everyones business.
Selina M
02-18-2021, 06:45 PM
I read a thread the other day from one where he was calling the OP "honey" and was like, i definitely can't help you and have nothing useful to say, but I'm here for you, honey. Uuuuugh disgusting, like, stoooooop. Reminded me of an opportunistic parasitic player who's going after women who are vulnerable.
He absolutely is. There was a thread around Christmas (2019, IIRC) where he was talking about how 3 different dancers cried with him. I believe they were going OTC with him.
He was trying to pretend he was concerned about had he done something wrong, yada yada, when it was fairly obvious he had gone in preying on dancers who were having a rough financial time around the holidays. That was the nail in the coffin for me as far as deciding he is a disgusting piece of shit.
I read Tuscl's forums sometimes and even those guys don't like him. There was a thread a few weeks ago where THEY called him out for being predatory...
I'm sure there is the site admin or founder or whoever above you mods that dictates to some degree what constitutes ban criteria, and I know we are not all privy to whatever conversations with and notes you have on people behind the scenes. I do think, however, that a lot of ladies would like to know why he is allowed to continue this tightrope walking act where he just pokes at us until he gets a warning, waits a week, then does it again on another thread. Much more beloved and contributing users have been banned for (what I felt were) much lighter infractions :shrug:
Sorry for threadjack. I just get sick of being on a DANCER forum and having to see some smug predatory MAN'S username next to everything that's not in a pink-locked area.
baer45
02-18-2021, 06:49 PM
Geez, are you guys okay, in Texas? I've heard the problems caused by the unusually cold weather. Keep warm!
baer45
02-18-2021, 06:52 PM
Go with cyber security. My brother in-law does cyber security for Salesforce and makes a butt-load of money. He's making mid six figures and when he got hired they gave him a $500,000 signing bonus. My sister just sits on her ass all day sticking her nose into everyones business.
$500k, sign me up!
moneybags
02-18-2021, 07:06 PM
I think I have almost all the blues on ignore. This is a website for dancers. While I understand it’s the internet. I just think it’s fishy for blues to be on here without a direct connection to the adult Industry (bouncer, family, friend, DJ). I get tired of the mansplaining. The fake concern and white knight behavior is the worst. These guys have ulterior motives...duh. Whatever can’t control other people. Can’t control their enablers. Block, block, block.
Men and women are like cats and dogs. They can get along in certain situation, but it’s not a good idea to leave them unsupervised for too long.
LoveyDovey
02-18-2021, 07:13 PM
^^I don't even engage with the blues. I stick to the dancer only or ladies only section. I'm not at work and I don't feel like dealing with them for free. And I can't stand mansplaining because guys for the most part are dumb anyway.
charlie61
02-18-2021, 07:21 PM
100% hear the opinion on blues. My best explanation for why we have a blue side and authorize blue interaction is because, if we didn't, all of those people would sign up anyway and simply be an invasive fact in pink disguises. They'd be here among us, lurking and participating, even more pervasively than this already occurs.
charlie61
02-18-2021, 07:32 PM
^^I don't even engage with the blues. I stick to the dancer only or ladies only section. I'm not at work and I don't feel like dealing with them for free. And I can't stand manspaining because guys for the most part are dumb anyway.
Same, exactly. I almost never enter blue areas, unless by mistake. Sometimes I'll respond to a thread started by one of you, and then realize after responding that there are blues in the thread typing up all of their little thinky thoughts that are usually borderline triggering (just by the nature of who is sharing them), invasive, irrelevant, and/or useless. I immediately unsubscribe.
I think of blue areas as these little playgrounds where we let the kids run around and wear themselves out while the adults talk serious business on the sidelines. If we didn't have a playground for them, they'd be running around our ankles.
Genoveve
02-18-2021, 08:35 PM
He absolutely is. There was a thread around Christmas (2019, IIRC) where he was talking about how 3 different dancers cried with him. I believe they were going OTC with him.
He was trying to pretend he was concerned about had he done something wrong, yada yada, when it was fairly obvious he had gone in preying on dancers who were having a rough financial time around the holidays. That was the nail in the coffin for me as far as deciding he is a disgusting piece of shit.
I read Tuscl's forums sometimes and even those guys don't like him. There was a thread a few weeks ago where THEY called him out for being predatory...
I'm sure there is the site admin or founder or whoever above you mods that dictates to some degree what constitutes ban criteria, and I know we are not all privy to whatever conversations with and notes you have on people behind the scenes. I do think, however, that a lot of ladies would like to know why he is allowed to continue this tightrope walking act where he just pokes at us until he gets a warning, waits a week, then does it again on another thread. Much more beloved and contributing users have been banned for (what I felt were) much lighter infractions :shrug:
Sorry for threadjack. I just get sick of being on a DANCER forum and having to see some smug predatory MAN'S username next to everything that's not in a pink-locked area.
Back a few years ago when all of his gross posts came to light here from that other site where he openly bragged about preying on strippers and openly let it be known what he really thinks about strippers(calling them trailer trash and shit and laughing about how he was able to use them and can now send them back to the trailer park) should have been enough to ban him. This is a stripper support site and the guy has spent years very purposely and calculatedly preying on and abusing strippers soooo............ /:O
What I always thought was *interesting* about his derogatory attitude towards his stripper victims was the fact that even though he considers those women to be bottom-of-the-barrel trailer trash, he still has to go through all those machinations in order to be able to fuck them(or whatever he would do, I can't remember). So he wants to talk shit about them, but he is the one who has to plot night and day to get the chance fuck them. So what does it say about him that such 'trailer trash' wouldn't be touching him with a stick otherwise? Like I never understood why he thought all his bragging would do anything other than make him look extra sad and pathetic.
Does anyone know what he looks like? I always pictured him being very short with a huge beer gut in professional attire with a professional haircut, kind of looking like a dentist LOL.
And also, has anyone here ever met him? Can anyone vouch for him? Raziel may have made me paranoid, but I would not be surprised if RD's entire storyline is made up, especially since he purposely made himself so extra-villainous on the other site. People have done crazier things.
charlie61
02-18-2021, 08:46 PM
^Ah, sorry, just realized i was talking about R, and you guys have been talking about RD. R is the one who drives me insane. But, anyway, don't want to keep threadjacking.
AChildOfBoredom
02-18-2021, 08:46 PM
I feel… somewhat divided. The blues can be a bit of a mixed bag. I work with a pretty rough crowd of guys in vanilla life, and the ones on this forum aren’t too difficult either to deal with or ignore. Some I’ve even had overall positive interactions with. Even still, sometimes shit gets so thick with them that I just remain in this section or stay away completely.
Selina M
02-18-2021, 09:03 PM
^ I don't find them hard to deal with but they are just annoying because of how metaphorically loud they are. Occasionally I see a thread I'd like to participate in, except it's full of RD, R and ES. Any time a dancer chimes in we get talked to like we're idiots. Ergo, it feels like they're hijacking the site when we can't even post comfortably in the mixed areas.
R drives me nuts as well, don't worry ;) He spends waaaaaay too much time on here judging by the speed of his responses all the time. He's sent me friend requests multiple times too. Get a clue, dude. It's like he thinks because I reply to his posts that I want to talk to him specifically...
lynn2009
02-18-2021, 09:10 PM
R drives me nuts as well, don't worry ;) He spends waaaaaay too much time on here judging by the speed of his responses all the time. He's sent me friend requests multiple times too. Get a clue, dude. It's like he thinks because I reply to his posts that I want to talk to him specifically...
I think he is the worst, personally.
AChildOfBoredom
02-18-2021, 09:13 PM
I know I shouldn’t do this, but it is fun to get R wound up and freaked out sometimes. I guess I have somewhat of an appreciation of the blues simply because I have a background which is a bit atypical here, I work in predominantly male professions, and I know sometimes I bring up things which may not make sense or be relatable to most of the women on this forum, e.g., talking about two-way radio programming with GR, I’m pretty sure we were the only ones who understood that conversation. And there are other places to talk about those things, but they’re also full of men, and I just feel like those are much more apt to be dismissive of you when you don’t have a wang dangling between your legs. If that makes sense.
naomi_doll
02-18-2021, 09:22 PM
I know I shouldn’t do this, but it is fun to get R wound up and freaked out sometimes. I guess I have somewhat of an appreciation of the blues simply because I have a background which is a bit atypical here, I work in predominantly male professions, and I know sometimes I bring up things which may not make sense or be relatable to most of the women on this forum, e.g., talking about two-way radio programming with GR, I’m pretty sure we were the only ones who understood that conversation. And there are other places to talk about those things, but they’re also full of men, and I just feel like those are much more apt to be dismissive of you when you don’t have a wang dangling between your legs. If that makes sense.
I wouldn’t mind that if they didn’t give dancer/cammer advice that was harmful and then act like we are dumb when we correct them.
I also think everything R says about his job and day to day life is fake. I knew a guy like that once and he seems similar.
Genoveve
02-18-2021, 09:23 PM
R drives me nuts as well, don't worry ;) He spends waaaaaay too much time on here judging by the speed of his responses all the time. He's sent me friend requests multiple times too. Get a clue, dude. It's like he thinks because I reply to his posts that I want to talk to him specifically...
I gave up on the MM thread once R started puking all over it. I just can't. From being in the adult entertainer business for so long I know how much (psycho)guys get off on the littlest bit of attention from women and unless I'm being paid I ain't giving it to them.
I also think everything R says about his job and day to day life is fake. I knew a guy like that once and he seems similar.
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