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WendiStarr
05-16-2021, 08:17 AM
Relative's nurse staff said that they want her to either go into a nursing home or have someone move in with her or for her to move in with someone who will take care of her, after she is discharged(unknown when that'll be yet because they are removing the vent today and will have to see how she does). For some reason everyone in my family has decided that that person will be me. I have an 11 year old and 15 and a half month old baby. Seeing as how I was caregiver for BD after his heart attack while simultaneously working a full-time job and providing all of the care for the kids, I know that I could do it. I was just hoping that I could go somewhat back to feeling normal again, with my oldest having gone back to in-person school. I was hoping to work and have a sitter for the baby. I know from being a caregiver for this relative in the past that she needs someone to bitch at her over and over again about eating sugar and healthy eating and then bug her to eat something after she takes her insulin. You have to be in her face pissing her off to get her to eat after taking her insulin or else she will fall asleep and fall into a diabetic coma. I don't know if I could find someone who is willing to babysit both a baby and an adult who you need to piss off about checking sugar and insulin every time she eats and if I do find such a person, they'd probably want a lot of money for that. I don't see how I could afford to do that.
Aurora_Sunset
05-16-2021, 08:20 AM
Super bloated today. I want to start running again. I signed up for a 6-mile race on July 4th, and might shoot for my first marathon in November. It falls on my birthday, so that would be cool.
5-yo put a face mask on me this morning that she picked me up for "Mother's Day" and said it would help heal the "nipples on my face." -_- I saw an ad on facebook for gummies that are supposed to help with PMS acne. The reviews were good, so maybe I'll try them.
Also, the detergent strips work great! I bought scent-less, but everything came out clean. And the only packaging is the envelope that they get mailed in, so that's more eco-friendly too than a package inside another envelope or box.
Aurora_Sunset
05-16-2021, 08:24 AM
Relative's nurse staff said that they want her to either go into a nursing home or have someone move in with her or for her to move in with someone who will take care of her, after she is discharged(unknown when that'll be yet). For some reason everyone in my family has decided that that person will be me. I have an 11 year old and 15 and a half month old baby. Seeing as how I was caregiver for BD after his heart attack while simultaneously working a full-time job and providing all of the care for the kids, I know that I could do it. I was just hoping that I could go somewhat back to feeling normal again, with my oldest having gone back to in-person school. I was hoping to work and have a sitter for the baby. I don't know if I could find someone who is willing to babysit both a baby and an adult and if I do find such a person, they'd probably want a lot of money for that. I don't see how I could afford to do that.
Don't let them guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. You're not responsible for them. You have 2 young kids as a single mother with a relatively useless BD. I don't know how anyone would expect you to take on a relative who needs a full-on nursing home? Tell their asses no. There will always be people calling you up/knocking on your door, looking for help/caregiving if you keep giving it. It never stops until you set the boundary yourself. I'm still dealing with learning that myself.
JenniferNorth
05-16-2021, 09:12 AM
Don't let them guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. You're not responsible for them. You have 2 young kids as a single mother with a relatively useless BD. I don't know how anyone would expect you to take on a relative who needs a full-on nursing home? Tell their asses no. There will always be people calling you up/knocking on your door, looking for help/caregiving if you keep giving it. It never stops until you set the boundary yourself. I'm still dealing with learning that myself.
Wendi, please Do NOT do it! You will kill yourself trying to work, manage the kids, and take care of someone with those types of medical needs. What if something goes wrong? Will your family hold you responsible or come after you because of it?
I say this with love, I really don't want you to put pressure on yourself. When my hubby's grandma was dying, his mom was trying to accuse us of stuff and we didn't even take care of her. It's not a situation you want to put yourself into.
Work and kids is enough to keep anyone busy. Does she not have a husband, children, or can one of her siblings step in?
chanzep
05-16-2021, 10:58 AM
So went out last night my jeans were so right again smh . I stopped exercising for a week now my period due in bloated again. I'm doing nothing today.
AChildOfBoredom
05-16-2021, 11:49 AM
Of course I want things to go back to normal (or some semblance of normalcy). I kinda will miss how the mask mandate, social distancing, et. al. very easily got me out of number of things I’d readily accept an excuse to get out of (e.g., weddings).
lilylilylily
05-16-2021, 12:29 PM
It's been a little while but my ex is contacting me again, he sent a pic of us together saying he misses me.. I know if he tried harder I'd probably take him back but I also know he'd still be inconsistent and emotionally unavailable and I cant put myself through that again.
chanzep
05-16-2021, 03:44 PM
I have been napping most of the day. I'm finally up.now after some tea. This bc got me super sleepy. I remember being like this year's ago. I was just dancing short shifts then so it was bearable.
moneybags
05-16-2021, 06:50 PM
Relative's nurse staff said that they want her to either go into a nursing home or have someone move in with her or for her to move in with someone who will take care of her, after she is discharged(unknown when that'll be yet because they are removing the vent today and will have to see how she does). For some reason everyone in my family has decided that that person will be me. I have an 11 year old and 15 and a half month old baby. Seeing as how I was caregiver for BD after his heart attack while simultaneously working a full-time job and providing all of the care for the kids, I know that I could do it. I was just hoping that I could go somewhat back to feeling normal again, with my oldest having gone back to in-person school. I was hoping to work and have a sitter for the baby. I know from being a caregiver for this relative in the past that she needs someone to bitch at her over and over again about eating sugar and healthy eating and then bug her to eat something after she takes her insulin. You have to be in her face pissing her off to get her to eat after taking her insulin or else she will fall asleep and fall into a diabetic coma. I don't know if I could find someone who is willing to babysit both a baby and an adult who you need to piss off about checking sugar and insulin every time she eats and if I do find such a person, they'd probably want a lot of money for that. I don't see how I could afford to do that.
I’d be interested to know the details seeming how you said she was vaccinated, but I don’t want to put the burden on you to do that emotional labor. If you feel up to I think it could help some of us who are leery about the new CDC guidelines. Was it at least 2 weeks after she was fully vaccinated? Which vaccine?
Family is unbelievably stressful. I cut off my family because they are so toxic. They tried to get me to take care of my mentally ill, alcoholic father because they didn’t want to deal with him. I don’t know your family situation, but if they are as dysfunctional as mine I would definitely set boundaries. Family will bleed you dry if you let them!
Are they offering you any type of support?
Do what you feel in alignment with, but don’t let fear, guilt, and obligation make you abandon yourself and kids.
I will end up taking care of a parent who didn’t exactly take care of me. I feel I’m alignment with it, but I’m not exactly happy about it either.
Take care Wendi.
charlie61
05-16-2021, 06:55 PM
Finally may have found a good yoga studio in my area! We bought a house that's kind of far from the main hub where there is a bunch of good yoga and whatnot, and I've been mourning the loss of good yoga for months! But there's a studio decently close by that could be a winner. I was so focused on classes to the east that i hadn't searched west. Going to a class tomorrow night with my partner to check it out! Fingers crossed!
Feels SO good to be back into yoga. My day job and weightlifting had me feeling so tightened up, especially in my hips and shoulders. I feel better even after a single class! Looking forward to all of the benefits i get from a regular yoga practice... better posture, etc. For me, there's nothing i can do at home that can come close to what i get from a class environment. Some people have the discipline to do home yoga, but i just can't. I do like two stretches, and I'm over it and done, lol.
LoveyDovey
05-16-2021, 10:13 PM
Wendi I agree with everyone on here...you already have more than enough on your plate. People will take advantage of you if you don't set boundaries. Of course they're going to whine and cry about it because typically people who tend to cry over you setting boundaries are the very same people who are accustomed to violating them. It's okay to say no, and if anyone gives you crap about it, you don't even have to explain yourself. No is a complete sentence. They can find somebody else who is not already taking care of two kids. I've had a set boundaries on my own family because they are so damn toxic. All they do is Gaslight, lie, and try to convince everybody how horrible I am. They project their flaws onto me and I had enough. I hope it all works out.
In other news, I am so damn tired today.
Luci Fer
05-17-2021, 03:28 AM
I stumbled upon this gem:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQNtGoM3FVU
This is outstanding, gives me goosebumps every time. She 's so amazing!
AChildOfBoredom
05-17-2021, 11:34 AM
Anyone can tell me what this is from?
https://youtu.be/BArFeuszzWs
JenniferNorth
05-17-2021, 01:34 PM
Anyone can tell me what this is from?
https://youtu.be/BArFeuszzWs
I remember this as a child! Oh wow!!! It's this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Garfield:_His_9_Lives and it is basically how these 9 different cats helped shaped Garfield into who we know him as (personality and all that).
Now I want to cry. It's making me think of my two males I lost in Dec of 2020 and March of this year. I had them since 2004 and 2005, so they had been through nearly my whole adult life with me. Ignore me, it's shark week and I am beyond emo.
StellaRose
05-17-2021, 03:05 PM
Tried am at-home infrared sauna, that thing is AWESOME :D
charlie61
05-17-2021, 03:36 PM
Tried am at-home infrared sauna, that thing is AWESOME :D
Which one?? I freaking love saunas, but i figured they'd be an enormous energy pull. Do you know if it's efficient?
StellaRose
05-17-2021, 05:57 PM
Which one?? I freaking love saunas, but i figured they'd be an enormous energy pull. Do you know if it's efficient?
https://www.amazon.com/SereneLife-AZSLISAU10BK-Portable-Infrared-Sauna/dp/B079QXK2TQ/ref=asc_df_B079QXK2TQ/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312191829731&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8717344994999565417&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9028800&hvtargid=pla-661410941204&psc=1
Seems good for energy.
AChildOfBoredom
05-17-2021, 07:52 PM
I remember this as a child! Oh wow!!! It's this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Garfield:_His_9_Lives and it is basically how these 9 different cats helped shaped Garfield into who we know him as (personality and all that).
Now I want to cry. It's making me think of my two males I lost in Dec of 2020 and March of this year. I had them since 2004 and 2005, so they had been through nearly my whole adult life with me. Ignore me, it's shark week and I am beyond emo.
Sorry, I wasn't trying to invoke that. I'm only vaguely familiar with Garfield (no television as a child), and even then, only in print form. I saw the name of it, but the animation style looked much different than what I associated with Garfield. I think it had about the same effect on my sister (who watched that with me). My other cat (which was from a litter of kittens my cat had shortly before I moved to NC) had to be put down a little over three years ago. She was quite attached to that one, and probably made her more cognizant that the one I still have is rather aged.
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She was a big ball of fluff, that one.
Do all of the stories in that end on such a somber note?
JenniferNorth
05-17-2021, 08:21 PM
Sorry, I wasn't trying to invoke that. I'm only vaguely familiar with Garfield (no television as a child), and even then, only in print form. I saw the name of it, but the animation style looked much different than what I associated with Garfield. I think it had about the same effect on my sister (who watched that with me). My other cat (which was from a litter of kittens my cat had shortly before I moved to NC) had to be put down a little over three years ago. She was quite attached to that one, and probably made her more cognizant that the one I still have is rather aged.
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She was a big ball of fluff, that one.
Do all of the stories in that end on such a somber note?
Ahhhhh! I want to hug that little ball of fluff! No worries, it doesn't take much to make me miss my boys. This is the first time I have had a pet die since I was late teens or early 20s, and those were parents pets that died....this is very hard.
Not all the stories in that one are somber! This one is pretty Goofy-prehistoric Garfield: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4bmZoOt9kM
I think some were done in a very weird animation style. The one above is normal.
This one will make you think you took a hit of acid! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPspX0wDAJ0&list=PLB9C905601C438B82
JenniferNorth
05-18-2021, 07:33 AM
I found out today I am a geriatric millennial! https://www.today.com/tmrw/are-you-geriatric-millennial-new-term-defining-micro-generation-t218519
My husband, who was born in 1986, is not.
I'm going to start telling everyone to get off my goddamn lawn.
indiegirl
05-18-2021, 12:55 PM
https://www.amazon.com/SereneLife-AZSLISAU10BK-Portable-Infrared-Sauna/dp/B079QXK2TQ/ref=asc_df_B079QXK2TQ/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312191829731&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8717344994999565417&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9028800&hvtargid=pla-661410941204&psc=1
Seems good for energy.
Could you imagine having your roommate walking in on you and not knowing what was happening seeing you in that? Haha! It seems relaxing though! I wanted this so I could relax in my room with epsom salt but couldn't figure out the water situation:
https://www.amazon.com/Mcgrady1xm-Portable-Non-Inflatable-Temperature-39-3%C3%9726-0Inch/dp/B08SLR6QDJ/ref=sr_1_17?dchild=1&keywords=portable+bath&qid=1621367638&sr=8-17
AChildOfBoredom
05-18-2021, 01:04 PM
I'm about to watch the first semifinal of eurovision song contest and I just realised that in the next semifinal Flo Rida is representing San Marino? What the fuck?! Worlds are colliding.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRAN7AzEKak
That’s not uncommon a thing for them to do, to bring major pop stars from another country in, though maybe Flo Rida isn’t the most major name they could’ve wrangled. I watched it a couple times, but it never really piqued my interest to continue it… my music taste and Eurovision don’t really coincide. I was surprised to learn of all places that the Netherlands seems to have a pretty strong country/western scene, though.
There are a couple songs from it I added to my playlist, though.
JenniferNorth
05-18-2021, 01:19 PM
I was surprised to learn of all places that the Netherlands seems to have a pretty strong country/western scene, though.
There are a couple songs from it I added to my playlist, though.
That is just so ODD. It's such a USA/Canada type thing, really! Today, I learned!
indiegirl
05-18-2021, 02:48 PM
Finally went to the bank. Praise Jesus.
carmen_b
05-18-2021, 03:46 PM
My partner has turned into this little love ball.
I didn't say anything a few weeks ago because I wanted it to settle lol.
2-3 weeks ago I felt this energy shift ( if that doesn't sound to hokey ).
Like .... he was just *loving*. I noticed he was staring at me a lot one weekend we spent together and I could just see it in his eyes.
He said he loved me 2 weeks ago.
I refused to say it first ! ( duh )
carmen_b
05-18-2021, 03:51 PM
Even though I have a little " is this real " energy now from ME ...... I'm digging these changes.
We were traveling together and maybe he was touched that I actually put forth the effort to go somewhere with him.
Now that I'm looking back .... boy it was a lot of effort !
During the trip he was saying things about our partnership and things like " we are together now " .
We has this very strange conversation in the hotel lobby where he mentioned something about liking living with me and that I " didn't really have to worry " about working as much ect. ! I'm basically terrified to impact my work routine on any mans word but I'm considering it . Basically .... I am just considering working a little less such as cherry picking my customers even more.
I'll explain more when some ideas come together .........
carmen_b
05-18-2021, 04:16 PM
I realized I need a different plan for my doggie. I don't trust anyone but my parents with him so I added two extra travel days.
I drove him 5 hours North and then flew out of their city. :/
Obviously they are not the only trust worthy people in the world and I need a local sitter.
It could have saved me 10 hours total of driving !
indiegirl
05-18-2021, 08:34 PM
Someone (forgot who) did me dirty on here and mentioned Flo Rida.....I've been listening to Flo Rida for the past 30 minutes LOLLLL :P!
Sidenote: I have more reviews than most ladies on this new site in a combined 3 month timespan at my rate. Homegirl has been busting her ass.
moneybags
05-18-2021, 11:14 PM
https://youtu.be/fPvQ-qMLkOE
I’ve seen men say far worse things on YouTube and they don’t get canceled! Yeah, she comes off as a judgemental bitch, but she got canceled for this? I feel like this is a double standard. Men use women for sex all the time and it’s boys will be boys. Women are blamed for letting men use them for sex, but when a woman is like I’m gonna make you pay for my time then she’s canceled? I get her attitude is nasty, but it’s not like she said you should drug the guys and take their wallet? Women get judged way harsher than men for the same behavior don’t they?
indiegirl
05-19-2021, 01:46 AM
https://youtu.be/fPvQ-qMLkOE
I’ve seen men say far worse things on YouTube and they don’t get canceled! Yeah, she comes off as a judgemental bitch, but she got canceled for this? I feel like this is a double standard. Men use women for sex all the time and it’s boys will be boys. Women are blamed for letting men use them for sex, but when a woman is like I’m gonna make you pay for my time then she’s canceled? I get her attitude is nasty, but it’s not like she said you should drug the guys and take their wallet? Women get judged way harsher than men for the same behavior don’t they?
I know some women who think just like this (don't express their opinion like this woman vocally) and typically they are married to wealthy men because of their high standards lolll.
carmen_b
05-19-2021, 06:51 AM
Omg ! I must be on one but I think she is just speaking up to this overall tone in the world where men don't try anymore in dating !
Dinner dates should be a thing. You can start with a drink though lol !
She's a little snotty and a brat lol but this news story will probably get her some amazing dinner date offers. :)
Ha, even the host lady was saying she had a thing for dinner dates ( at one point ) !
carmen_b
05-19-2021, 06:55 AM
^ Ha. The guy at 6:17 about this woman tallking " at " him instead of to him. I have had that happen to me as well !
Nice guy but sheesh.
JGB2009
05-19-2021, 07:05 AM
You suggested we go do a certain thing together but I don't really see you following through. I really wish you were more of a go getter.
Luci Fer
05-19-2021, 07:44 AM
https://youtu.be/fPvQ-qMLkOE
I’ve seen men say far worse things on YouTube and they don’t get canceled! Yeah, she comes off as a judgemental bitch, but she got canceled for this? I feel like this is a double standard. Men use women for sex all the time and it’s boys will be boys. Women are blamed for letting men use them for sex, but when a woman is like I’m gonna make you pay for my time then she’s canceled? I get her attitude is nasty, but it’s not like she said you should drug the guys and take their wallet? Women get judged way harsher than men for the same behavior don’t they?
I did not get it...She just said she preferred dinner because she wanted to see how a man behaved during it. What's wrong with it at all? She sounded reasonable.
I wouldn't even call her judgemental bitch lol, whats wrong if you want to know if a guy has manners or not? I mean, a dinner would be a possibility for him to know her better too.
Or maybe I misunderstood?
carmen_b
05-19-2021, 07:54 AM
I think it's the snotty " this is how it is " type of vibe. BUT ..... it's not so bad she should be banned ! There are probably mens accounts basically outlining how to con women and they are UP .
She is beautiful but I hope her upper lip deflates a little . :/
I kept staring at it .
JGB2009
05-19-2021, 08:55 AM
I don't even know how to hold chop sticks....Ha
indiegirl
05-19-2021, 10:20 AM
I don't even know how to hold chop sticks....Ha
If it's rice and they give you chopsticks at some of these places it's like "forget about it!" lol! I went to this one place in Hawaii a long time ago and they didn't have actual silverware but came back with chopsticks with paper placed in the middle like chopsticks with training wheels haha!!
Also, this is gonna be me at the hotel on my birthday or possibly booking it sooner. Basically it's for children so hotel staff and parents prepare to see a grown ass adult enjoying herself on a water slide haha! I've been eyeing it lately.
https://i.ibb.co/WsNvPRZ/Screen-Shot-2021-05-19-at-10-36-16-AM.png (https://imgbb.com/)
AChildOfBoredom
05-19-2021, 01:03 PM
I think I’m at my wit’s end here. Someone I know, she’s 27, has worked at the same place since she was 17, constantly complains that she’s not being paid enough, yet all she does is tread water. At 18, S is making more than she is at a place she’s worked at for 10 years. But, she works a job where she does hardly any actual work, and she sits and watches Netflix on her phone for most of her shift. I’ve stopped suggesting new jobs for her to apply for, because I know she won’t bother if any of them involve actual work.
I just don’t get it. She doesn’t want to keep living with her parents, she wants to make more money, and she always complains about both, yet does nothing to open up new prospects for herself. The problem couldn’t be more apparent if it jumped up and smacked her in the face, but she can’t seem to figure it out.
indiegirl
05-19-2021, 02:00 PM
I think I’m at my wit’s end here. Someone I know, she’s 27, has worked at the same place since she was 17, constantly complains that she’s not being paid enough, yet all she does is tread water. At 18, S is making more than she is at a place she’s worked at for 10 years. But, she works a job where she does hardly any actual work, and she sits and watches Netflix on her phone for most of her shift. I’ve stopped suggesting new jobs for her to apply for, because I know she won’t bother if any of them involve actual work.
I just don’t get it. She doesn’t want to keep living with her parents, she wants to make more money, and she always complains about both, yet does nothing to open up new prospects for herself. The problem couldn’t be more apparent if it jumped up and smacked her in the face, but she can’t seem to figure it out.
I had a guy friend who was dragging his feet with leaving the family house at 27-ish cant recall specific age. His mother started charging him monthly rent until he moved out and got roommates. Sometimes people need a little motivation to move forward. lol.
moneybags
05-19-2021, 02:32 PM
^^^chiming in
I think if you step back and see it’s quite human to be motivated by the pain and pleasure principle. I don’t know her personally, so you know better than me. It’s human nature to want to experience more pleasure than pain. She gets pleasure from doing nothing and pain from working.
Was she enabled to be “lazy”? Again, I don’t know her. A lot of younger people are this way (not self motivated)-no judgement-they usually have parents that programmed them to be that way. I would be homeless if I didn’t learn how to hustle hard my parents wouldnt have given me a place to live. So I was programmed with pleasure to work hard and have a place to live and the pain of not working meant being homeless. No joke. My parents kicked me out on my 18th birthday.
I don’t judge people anymore. We’re all the product of the human condition and programming.
If she complains tell her you already gave your opinion and don’t want to hear it. Ignore her if she complains. She’ll stop or find someone else to complain to.
I totally hear you. I’m not judging you at all for being frustrated. I definitely couldn’t be friends with someone who was unmotivated. That would last like 5 minutes. I would be annoyed as hell of I had to listen to the same story over and over again. But that’s 95% of people-most people complain instead of wanting to solve the problem. I don’t get it either.
Hope that was beneficial achildofboredome
Luci Fer
05-20-2021, 12:50 AM
I think I’m at my wit’s end here. Someone I know, she’s 27, has worked at the same place since she was 17, constantly complains that she’s not being paid enough, yet all she does is tread water. At 18, S is making more than she is at a place she’s worked at for 10 years. But, she works a job where she does hardly any actual work, and she sits and watches Netflix on her phone for most of her shift. I’ve stopped suggesting new jobs for her to apply for, because I know she won’t bother if any of them involve actual work.
I just don’t get it. She doesn’t want to keep living with her parents, she wants to make more money, and she always complains about both, yet does nothing to open up new prospects for herself. The problem couldn’t be more apparent if it jumped up and smacked her in the face, but she can’t seem to figure it out.
She probably plays some psychological game called 'Yes, but...'
JGB2009
05-20-2021, 05:46 AM
I feel invisible to you...........
WendiStarr
05-20-2021, 06:25 AM
^^ I don't understand the whole living at home as an adult either. I know people my age(30+) who still live at home and never left the nest and don't get it. My mom kicked me out when I was 15. That being said maybe I'm a hypocrite because I wouldn't have the heart to kick either of my daughters out and leave them homeless because if you're a homeless woman, you could attract bad men who want to use your poor status to their advantage (ie. The craigslist housing section of men's ads, looking for 'women only' with 99% chance that they'll expect sex or blowjobs on demand in exchange for a place to live). I don't want my girls to ever have to do that.
carmen_b
05-20-2021, 07:57 AM
^ I left at 18!
I can not imagine living without freedom and you just can't do that living with family.
Family should be there for each other in hard times ( like offering a room if a relationship breaks up or if someone gets sick ) but normal life should not involve living with family members .
JGB2009
05-20-2021, 08:28 AM
Hardly ever do i see a cute guy on cam, but today this guy turned his cam on and wow was he cute. LOL he made my day.
indiegirl
05-20-2021, 10:10 AM
^^ I don't understand the whole living at home as an adult either. I know people my age(30+) who still live at home and never left the nest and don't get it. My mom kicked me out when I was 15. That being said maybe I'm a hypocrite because I wouldn't have the heart to kick either of my daughters out and leave them homeless because if you're a homeless woman, you could attract bad men who want to use your poor status to their advantage (ie. The craigslist housing section of men's ads, looking for 'women only' with 99% chance that they'll expect sex or blowjobs on demand in exchange for a place to live). I don't want my girls to ever have to do that.
God I've seen those ads on Craigslist in the past for a "mutually beneficial" living situation for free. .....Ya mean sir, you need your "desires" met whenever you want it (could potentially be numerous times a day or daily) and preying on the vulnerable?
carmen_b
05-20-2021, 10:28 AM
^^ Yeah a $500 - $750 room is about 2 hours escorting in most markets. :/
And you know these dudes are not just asking for two hours a month.
:(
carmen_b
05-20-2021, 01:38 PM
***Don’t quote please will remove details later. ***
I'm thinking about my $ situation in June .
I feel like life is easy right now ( pinches self ) !
I still get the 2 k a month in PUA.
I felt *worried* in a way about not having a day job customer in June ( typically I'd make about 1,000 - 1500 from each one ).
BUT ..... clubs are BACK in business ! I just want earnings to stabalize and be hitting at least 4 k a month . I don't care if it's exactly that and not a dollar more!
Maybe a day job customer will come in and maybe not .
I guess I would feel more settled if I knew day job was bringing in $1,000 in June and then that only leaves $1,000 needed from the club.
I'm just THRILLED to not be trying to survive on 2k - 2500 a month anymore . 2020 was so terrible financially. I feel like I have 25k missing like it just " vanished " ha. :/
carmen_b
05-20-2021, 01:42 PM
In May I'm almost at 4 k for the month ........ those horrible people that stole $475 from me ...... shame on them. They stiffed me on an invoice over minor things and didn't even have the BALLS to converse about it and come up with a fair middle ground .
^ IF they hadn't stolen it I'd be feeling comfy with no more club outings in May. Since they did I will be enroute to Vegas for some dancing to make about $537 haha in the last few days this month. :/
JGB2009
05-20-2021, 07:56 PM
No one should have to ever question where they stand in a relationship......