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carmen_b
07-27-2021, 11:06 AM
It is weird .
It shows how people can become crazy though of light skinned favoritism.
:(
I feel for her but in many pics she looks ok just very over done.
miss.a.p1600
07-27-2021, 11:55 AM
^Yes girl, I think my boyfriend is colorist. (And pretty much most Black men I’ve dated)
It’s sad.
Really just another form of “divide a group of people n make it easier to conquer them”
We’ve had many debates about how ridiculous it is.
charlie61
07-27-2021, 04:13 PM
She bleached n tucked to oblivion
It’s unfortunate that Hollywood makes a lot of people feel like their natural selves aren’t good enough.
I think she had a baby kinda recently. I hope she doesn’t push her body dysmorphic disorder off on her child which could happen if the kid comes out looking like her pre-surgery self
Totally agreed. I honestly think that we're at a point where natural *isn't* enough to be in Hollywood, though. Look at how Ariana Grande has grown, for example... she has definitely gotten fillers, if not facial surgeries. She's extremely talented, but she didn't become a big deal as an adult until she started changing her face to be more extreme. Same story with most celebrities. Bella Hadid wouldn't have a modeling career if not for her alterations.
I don't think natural beauty exists in Hollywood or adult modeling. I think they have all had work done, even if it's minor / undetectable, or they're doing something extreme to themselves (e.g. significantly changing appearance by dyeing hair and adding extensions, extreme contouring, photo filters / editing, starving themselves to achieve an extreme look...).
The ones who are trying to get by on talent alone (especially women) will never achieve the level of success that altered celebrities achieve. Probably isn't 100% true, but close to it.
WendiStarr
07-27-2021, 05:55 PM
We went to the county fair today. Baby was so excited to see all the animals. It's funny because the cows, horses, chickens, and a dog didn't seem to care less about humans at all(no reaction) but the goats and some of the rabbits came over to be petted. This huge rabbit was not wanting to leave us alone. He just wanted to hang out and be petted and reminded me of a dog. I don't have much experience with rabbits but I always thought of them as being easily scared of everything.
SnuffleUffleGrass
07-27-2021, 09:17 PM
I want to barf right now. My friend that recently died was eulogized on her older sister's Facebook page as someone who didn't find "peace" in life. Fuck. She WAS peace, in fact, the whole reason she couldn't make it in life was she was too kind and gentle .....too sensitive.
Her family was so trashy. I almost threw up looking at her older brother's social media feed. He turned out just like their no-account dad. Ugh.
I wish I could have saved my friend. I will regret I could not help her more and her death is a tear in my soul until I die myself. I know I will see her in Heaven.
AChildOfBoredom
07-28-2021, 03:21 AM
Has anyone here been a maid of honor at a wedding? Because I was asked to be one, and I don’t really want to commit to that if there are expectations of me beyond what a normal bridesmaid does.
JGB2009
07-28-2021, 05:43 AM
I love to watch my two cats chase each other and play.
carmen_b
07-28-2021, 08:49 AM
Damn it takes so much energy to protect your club time !
I must be out of practice. This week has been a nightmare of people trying to pull it away lol.
I stood my ground !
I only want to be in the club Thurs - Sat
Personal time can be arranged Sun - Wed !! Shit , this is just temporary anyway until day job revives from the dead.
I just told my mom “ no “ on Thursday .
Then told J only “ 50/50” for Sat.!
Goodness !
If I give everyone what they want I’ll only be at the club Mon and Tues fighting with 5 girls over the two customers there omg.
I’m using $2800 of the 4K I have in savings to pay the last of my credit card off. It’s time to get AHEAD not waste $ on interest. That is not going to leave much saved. The card will be there I guess . That will be the new emergency fund. I realized I was wasting that money just because I hate having less than 4K in my account. Eventually I want that savings and no credit card balance. :)
SnuffleUffleGrass
07-28-2021, 09:49 AM
Has anyone here been a maid of honor at a wedding? Because I was asked to be one, and I don’t really want to commit to that if there are expectations of me beyond what a normal bridesmaid does.
Depends on what is asked of you. I was bridesmaid for my BFF's wedding, she was considerate and kept my cost low for participating.
It is a fun experience, weddings are almost always positive energy and you get to dress up.
Marina Starr
07-28-2021, 02:42 PM
People that give Simone Biles shit for pulling out of the Olympics are the same ones that couldn't wear mask in Starbucks for 5 minutes.
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charlie61
07-28-2021, 03:47 PM
Has anyone here been a maid of honor at a wedding? Because I was asked to be one, and I don’t really want to commit to that if there are expectations of me beyond what a normal bridesmaid does.
I'd ask the bride, because some have high expectations. Here's a general checklist:
https://www.brides.com/story/modern-maid-of-honor-duties
JGB2009
07-28-2021, 03:51 PM
When you don't contact a person just to see how long it will takes for them to contact you........if ever.
AChildOfBoredom
07-28-2021, 04:10 PM
I'd ask the bride, because some have high expectations. Here's a general checklist:
https://www.brides.com/story/modern-maid-of-honor-duties
Fuck.
It’s one of those things where I can’t really just say no. We’re talking about someone who spent a lot of long nights with me when I was just back from the war and I was far from being at my best.
Genoveve
07-28-2021, 05:40 PM
My friend was her best friend of years' MoH and the experience was so miserable it almost completely ruined their friendship.
charlie61
07-28-2021, 08:17 PM
My friend was her best friend of years' MoH and the experience was so miserable it almost completely ruined their friendship.
Yeah, that sounds about right. I'd never want to be MoH - the money, the stress, the work. I mean the movie Bridesmaids is all about how stressful it can be.
That said, every bride is different. So just check in with your friend, ACOB.
TheBrownFox
07-28-2021, 10:06 PM
When you don't contact a person just to see how long it will takes for them to contact you........if ever.
I just came onto the forum to post this very thing. Was gonna post it in the "Man Bitching Thread," but posting here.
Funny how I'm used to most of my texts getting ignored. And then when I go nearly two weeks without texting him at all, HE suddenly texts me tonight at 12:11 AM on my regular cell number AND my Google Voice number (I forgot I even had a GV number). Hmmm. It's as if he wanted to MAKE SURE I saw his text.
chanzep
07-28-2021, 10:12 PM
I drank tea late now i am wide awake.
AChildOfBoredom
07-29-2021, 02:52 AM
That said, every bride is different. So just check in with your friend, ACOB.
Reading that article makes me question the whole marriage now. Aren’t you supposed to be “of sound mind and body” during these things? Nobody expecting me to be the one to plan a bridal shower and bachelorette party could possibly be. Not that I couldn’t do it, I just can’t promise everyone would make it out alive.
On the other hand, on hearing about my dilemma, my own little squad stepped up, which includes someone whose concentration is on becoming an event planner.
Of course I know her and her fiancé both. Which is why I know their wedding video will contain every fucking cliché known to mankind, and she’s already been talking about all the bridesmaids and her doing every played out TikTok trend, and I’ll probably end up wanting to kill her well before the wedding, with or without being maid of honor.
I think I need to just tell her that I’m flattered, but would be a very poor choice for this.
Oh, yes… I’m expected to bring a date, as well.
charlie61
07-29-2021, 09:48 AM
Reading that article makes me question the whole marriage now. Aren’t you supposed to be “of sound mind and body” during these things? Nobody expecting me to be the one to plan a bridal shower and bachelorette party could possibly be. Not that I couldn’t do it, I just can’t promise everyone would make it out alive.
On the other hand, on hearing about my dilemma, my own little squad stepped up, which includes someone whose concentration is on becoming an event planner.
Of course I know her and her fiancé both. Which is why I know their wedding video will contain every fucking cliché known to mankind, and she’s already been talking about all the bridesmaids and her doing every played out TikTok trend, and I’ll probably end up wanting to kill her well before the wedding, with or without being maid of honor.
I think I need to just tell her that I’m flattered, but would be a very poor choice for this.
Oh, yes… I’m expected to bring a date, as well.
That's what i would do - i would decline the offer with an explanation. I'm terrible at stuff like that... I'd get super stressed out and wouldn't be able to give her a good experience. I have zero interest in event planning, weddings, bachelorette, anything like that. It wouldn't go well for her or for me. I'm sure she'd try to be gracious about it, but it honestly should probably be someone else lol
JGB2009
07-29-2021, 05:51 PM
Just curious what does everyone prefer, a text or phone call? Honestly I just prefer text.....
LoveyD
07-29-2021, 06:43 PM
Just curious what does everyone prefer, a text or phone call? Honestly I just prefer text.....
Text. I hate answering my phone.
AChildOfBoredom
07-29-2021, 07:59 PM
That's what i would do - i would decline the offer with an explanation. I'm terrible at stuff like that... I'd get super stressed out and wouldn't be able to give her a good experience. I have zero interest in event planning, weddings, bachelorette, anything like that. It wouldn't go well for her or for me. I'm sure she'd try to be gracious about it, but it honestly should probably be someone else lol
She understood. Still expects me to be a bridesmaid, though. “Would prefer” that I had a date with me for the wedding. She knows I won’t respond well to groomsmen or others trying to chat me up or pick me up, and probably figures that’s the way to mitigate it. I can think of someone who’d go with me, but whether I should go with them or not, I’m not certain.
In other news, I got to witness my sister lay down the law today. The boy from the community was talking about them going back to Wisconsin and she told him, “No, my life is here now. And this is where you’ll be if you’re going to be a part of it. And you will further your education and seek a career”. Perhaps some of my rebellious nature rubbed off on her. Or maybe she just had it all along. I think he and I were equally surprised.
LoveyD
07-29-2021, 09:02 PM
I haven't eaten in six hours and I still feel full.
charlie61
07-29-2021, 09:26 PM
She understood. Still expects me to be a bridesmaid, though. “Would prefer” that I had a date with me for the wedding. She knows I won’t respond well to groomsmen or others trying to chat me up or pick me up, and probably figures that’s the way to mitigate it. I can think of someone who’d go with me, but whether I should go with them or not, I’m not certain.
In other news, I got to witness my sister lay down the law today. The boy from the community was talking about them going back to Wisconsin and she told him, “No, my life is here now. And this is where you’ll be if you’re going to be a part of it. And you will further your education and seek a career”. Perhaps some of my rebellious nature rubbed off on her. Or maybe she just had it all along. I think he and I were equally surprised.
Good for you. There are other ways to be there for her.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
07-30-2021, 06:42 AM
Just curious what does everyone prefer, a text or phone call? Honestly I just prefer text.....
It depends on who it is. I'm a bit old school and like to hear people's voices when I talk to them. Sometimes context can go missing during texting. Now if you're one of my begging ass relatives, snail mail is just fine.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
07-30-2021, 06:52 AM
Today I'm doing all of our meal prep for the week. I'm going to make a spicy mahi mahi corn salad. And then I'm going to attempt a vegan "oxtail" recipe.
Yesterday when my Instacart shopper got to my house he was like "Excuse me but, are you gonna make those vegan oxtails?" I cracked up because there's this clip going around with the recipe and so many people think it's trash. Welp, I'm about to find out.
carmen_b
07-30-2021, 06:55 AM
^ Creative !
TheBrownFox
07-30-2021, 09:20 AM
Just curious what does everyone prefer, a text or phone call? Honestly I just prefer text.....
Text, definitely!
indiegirl
07-30-2021, 09:25 AM
Text. I hate answering my phone.
Yeah I just got 3 phone calls in a row this morning or the same multiple calls when I'm napping as if the apocalypse started or an emergency began. I typically like to take revenge and call or text them numerous times back between 3-5am if they do this to me.
LOLLLL!!
lilylilylily
07-30-2021, 12:51 PM
Definitely prefer texting, phone calls have always made me uncomfortable. Some wanna facetime, oh that's a hell no, I wont take your phone call, so what makes you think I'll take your video call? Lol
TheBrownFox
07-30-2021, 01:24 PM
It's worse when I get the occasional Facebook audio call or video call from someone out of the blue. Wtf are you trying to video chat with me for? I will look right at it ringing, and ignore it. Then I'll message them right back "What's up?" Lol.
LoveyD
07-30-2021, 02:24 PM
For a while now I keep seeing 111,222,8888, 1111, etc. I know they are angel numbers with messages for me. Anyone else experiencing this?
TheBrownFox
07-30-2021, 03:54 PM
If y'all don't come on, and post the results of this talent contest.....
AChildOfBoredom
07-30-2021, 05:01 PM
Good for you. There are other ways to be there for her.
She already knows I’ll head up the search party to find him if he gets cold feet. Water board his ass, too, but I didn’t mention that to her.
indiegirl
07-30-2021, 06:00 PM
If fucking was in the olympics, I would pull a Simone Biles right about now and stay home :P. I'm mentally and physically tired from all of it.. I have 1 last day tomorrow until my month vacation. LOLLLL. TMI.
I'm mad I didn't make 6 grand more to complete my 60k savings this month. But bills are biting my butt.
SnuffleUffleGrass
07-31-2021, 07:38 AM
This is super surreal- my neighbor's house burnt down and I'm sure it was an electrical issue. Damn shame too because it was a beautiful house. No one was hurt. Protip- this is why having insurance on your house is essential.
Marina Starr
07-31-2021, 01:54 PM
Disney and Walmart now requiring employees be vaccinated. I hope more companies will follow. Bravo! Forced vaccination is needed at this point!
Thank you, Disney!
Thank you, Walmart!
miss.a.p1600
07-31-2021, 02:38 PM
^Watch people start acting like fools over this.
miss.a.p1600
07-31-2021, 02:45 PM
This is super surreal- my neighbor's house burnt down and I'm sure it was an electrical issue. Damn shame too because it was a beautiful house. No one was hurt. Protip- this is why having insurance on your house is essential.
Having insurance on everything!
Home/renters
Auto
Life
Health
Disability
just to name a few.
I remember having to file a renters insurance claim a while back n thankful that my dad convinced me to get it cause it was super cheap. Turns out the douchebag I dated (then quickly ditched once I discovered he was an unsavory character) ended up stealing from me.
Well that fucker got his karma and I got my items replaced for a cost of a deductible n a few premiums.
carmen_b
07-31-2021, 06:39 PM
I’m at the club now just into the positive after travel costs . :)
May it rain heavy on all of us this Sat. night! :)
chanzep
07-31-2021, 09:14 PM
The 3 Jamaican girls winning all the medals in the 100 metres was awesome. The gold medalist broke records it was also Jamacias 1st set of medals in the games. Im so happy for them.
Marina Starr
08-01-2021, 06:02 AM
Two travelers from the US fined nearly $20K each for providing false vaccination information to Canadian authorities, according to the Public Health Agency of Canada.
They paid for fake vaccination cards and the vaccine is free. You can’t fix stupid.
SnuffleUffleGrass
08-01-2021, 07:33 AM
Two travelers from the US fined nearly $20K each for providing false vaccination information to Canadian authorities, according to the Public Health Agency of Canada.
They paid for fake vaccination cards and the vaccine is free. You can’t fix stupid.
How bizarre............................
JGB2009
08-01-2021, 09:06 AM
So I just found out that the lawyer I used for child support got arrested Tuesday with no bond. He was arrested for sexually assaulting a minor under 12. I contacted him last year but decided not to use him because he seemed rude. I thought he was a excellent lawyer but I am so shocked that he committed such a crime.
TheBrownFox
08-01-2021, 10:42 AM
Lisa LoCicero (who plays Olivia on General Hospital):
"When you raise girls to always be a lady and ALWAYS be nice and never hurt anyone's feelings, you're also making them afraid to say no to an angry male presence." That's deep.
miss.a.p1600
08-01-2021, 01:18 PM
^sadly that’s how I was raised.
There has to be a middle ground between “too nice/doormat” n aggressive
Although there are times when it’s okay to be ratchet n aggressive like you about to encounter some crazy mf n need to show them you crazier than they are lol!
chanzep
08-01-2021, 03:19 PM
How do you put people in ignore ?
chanzep
08-01-2021, 03:40 PM
I am watching a lifetime movie Soccer mom Madam lol.
Marina Starr
08-01-2021, 04:14 PM
Top right click settings, bottom left click 'edit ignore list', type in their user names and click okay!
How do you put people in ignore ?
Marina Starr
08-01-2021, 04:16 PM
Happy Reinstatement Month, y'all!