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carmen_b
12-07-2021, 11:09 AM
Totally agreed ! That is why I was trying to limit my number of shifts and never go two weeks in a row. The lack of life balance could kill a relationship ( if a partner traveled 2-3 days *every* week ). My last trip was three nights ( rest day in middle ). It worked well.

I just feel at times I am under - preforming in life . I set this low expectation of my business for example in November ( 2k which would mean I'm part time ) ....... then ...... it seemed difficult to pull in this very low goal!

I guess I can see how Dec. goes but it might be time to look for other work ( since I experience anxiety nearly every week related to money ). It's not like I will be homeless or not have food . J pretty much covers those things. I have “ free “ housing whether with him or living in my own property ( with two room mates it covers the whole mortgage ). It's more a concern of wanting to turn a corner and get cards paid entirely off ( getting close ) and start saving better.

I do realize there is a certain side to this story of maybe just being grateful for what I have and just sitting tight instead of torturing my dude with dancing ( if I am !! ). I do kind of hope it will pass but I guess I am somewhat *open* to going back to mostly retired if needed. Full time dancing is a VERY lonely life. I know because I have done it. I couldn't keep a relationship when I was traveling a lot for it.

:/

indiegirl
12-07-2021, 11:18 AM
I feel stressed related to birthdays. Mine is coming up them 8 days later HIS comes up.
I am starting to feel stress about what to do for him! I want to do something awesome but I'm stuck deciding !

I have thought of :
1. exotic car experience ( driving on a track ) .... I might be slightly out of budget range here
2. more realistic might be small heli tour ( the quick one , he's never been in one )
3. obviously renting a nice hotel is always an option .... duh

^ So one of those plus a small gift but I am stressing a little.
Budget wise, I probably need to pick one of those option but wish I could do two.
I want something unique .

There's some helicopter experiences on groupon.

Take a look at this shit from Melisse Restaurant. Could you imagine spending hundreds of dollars on this?! I would be like "excuse me, is this concentration camp rationing haha? Where is the rest of the food on the plate?" As you can see, I am looking at the only person I'm buying a Christmas gift for and it's rough out there in some of these fine dining places. https://youtu.be/cps6XhvFXUk?t=87

charlie61
12-07-2021, 11:22 AM
Totally agreed ! That is why I was trying to limit my number of shifts and never go two weeks in a row.

I just feel at times I am under - preforming in life . I set this low expectation of my business for example in November ( 2k which would mean I'm part time ) ....... then ...... it seemed difficult to pull in this very low goal!

I guess I can see how Dec. goes but it might be time to look for other work ( since I experience anxiety every week related to money ). It's not like I will be homeless or not have food . J pretty much covers those things. It's more a concern of wanting to turn a corner and get cards paid entirely off ( getting close ) and start saving better.

I do realize there is a certain side to this story of maybe just being grateful for what I have and just sitting tight instead of torturing my dude with dancing ( if I am !! ). I do kind of hope it will pass but I guess I am somewhat *open* to going back to mostly retired if needed. Full time dancing is a VERY lonely life. I know because I have done it. I couldn't keep a relationship pretty much when I was traveling a lot for it.

:/

Exactly, yes! I'm glad you took my posts the right way. I think you're on to something. You can afford to take some risks now, since room/board are covered. I know you've been dabbling in real estate... there may be other opportunities for you that would give you long-term security. Continued focus on short-term isn't a great feeling.

kimbe
12-07-2021, 11:36 AM
I just feel at times I am under - preforming in life . I set this low expectation of my business for example in November ( 2k which would mean I'm part time ) ....... then ...... it seemed difficult to pull in this very low goal!

:/

Don't you think there's a slight chance your effort somewhat reflects your set goal? ;)

charlie61
12-07-2021, 11:38 AM
^Law of attraction, right? :)

carmen_b
12-07-2021, 11:40 AM
^ There is an element to my job ( sales of a group type experience ) and it's not " fully " back.
That is why I was trying to do what I thought was *realistic* for a few months ( just Oct. - Dec. ) and build on / grow back up coming into 2022.
But yeah .... maybe ..... why not aim higher given that it can not hurt ?

My effort definitely should have had Nov. higher than just the 2 k ( from both the club and my other job ).
It is where it landed though. Wishing for a much happier December !

I feel like I stay drawn to dancing so I can know I’ll hit the 2k faster vs just wondering. Once I have it I feel good for the month because basic bills are covered. Then it’s all extra / savings. I’d rather just go get it ( or try !) v.s. the waiting game my other job puts me through.

It might be time for a visit to a consultant or something too ( I think cities might have incubator programs ).
I might need a fresh set of eyes to view our sales process / give feed back.
It is embarrassing going in like " This thing used to preform and now it doesn't ! Help ! ". I’m sure I’m know the only business owner this happened to in early 2020- end of 2021 though.

Thanks for brainstorming!
Timing is key too . I don’t want to work the club at all Dec 16-31! Holidays throw a wrench in !

charlie61
12-07-2021, 11:45 AM
^ There is an element to my job ( sales of a group type experience ) and it's not " fully " back.
That is why I was trying to do what I thought was *realistic* for a few months ( just Oct. - Dec. ) and build on / grow back up coming into 2022.
But yeah .... maybe ..... why not aim higher given that it can not hurt ?

And maybe there's a way to offer more value, change the product to be more attractive, etc. I don't know what you sell so it's hard to say. Just trying to think of ways that you could grow your business or diversify your income sources, even if it means putting more hours and effort in upfront.

I know it's a little patronizing for me to even try to brainstorm since you spend all of your time thinking about this stuff. But whenever life has been telling me "no," I'm usually missing other opportunities that are even better, even if they require more short-term sweat equity.

kimbe
12-07-2021, 02:04 PM
I cleaned my cars interior, it wasn't that bad, but it's always nice to enter a clean and fresh car!

Btw, I should have started to adjust my circadian rhythm, it's going to be early mornings during my trip.

kimbe
12-07-2021, 02:36 PM
Another thing, this show must have one of the worst time schedules in a long time, at least when it comes to my competition program. Check in starts Friday 2pm and pre judging/finals aren’t until Sunday late afternoon! That gives me Friday afternoon and the entire Saturday off, its kind of unusual scheduling.
I’ve noticed there are only mens divisions on Saturday, so all the women have Saturday off. I guess it’s because of the backstage facilities, or rather lack of it. Especially the spray tanning service requires a lot of space if you are going to set up dual facilities to avoid mixing men and women.

Since I’m there the whole Saturday, and my two clients will leave on Friday evening, I have said yes to work some hours for the tanning company. It’s not for the money, but I like to keep the relation, you never know when you might need a job.. The bonus; both my clients and I gets free tanning! (A tanning package is at least $130-160.)

lynn2009
12-07-2021, 02:55 PM
I updated a promotion from April on my LinkedIn today and some jackass I used to work with looked at my profile but didn't leave any kind of congratulations. I hope he's jealous.

Marina Starr
12-07-2021, 04:55 PM
I'm glad you made it home safe. One of many reasons why I HATE and will AVOID driving at night at all cost. Driving at night is like running with earphones on for me. I can't use my natural instinct at full capacity. Even in broad daylight, I don't trust other drivers.

If you're running with earphones on, you lose the sense of picking up on someone is behind you. That's very dangerous.



Last night I saw a wreck on my way home. It must of just happened. It was really dark and I ran into some of the debris that was in the road. That was scary to come up on like that.

carmen_b
12-07-2021, 04:58 PM
Trying to stay calm haha.
I am not sure I’ll promise to not do these planned shifts ( if he asks ).
He hasn’t but I’m scared , ha. :/

I just feel so cash restricted right now. I just hate it .
Send good vibes ....
Maybe the tides will turn .

I just feel I put so much work into protecting my calendar those days already .
He was SO supportive before. I will just how to see how this plays out.

He mentioned something about me being " too worried about money " and I let it slide when it happened ( a few days ago ). I circled back to that last night and managed to explain ( somewhat calmly ) my side of that .
^ Of COURSE when you HAVE it you are not stressed about it ! Duh!

I SWORE before he was a feminist ! There were SO many indicators !
I hope he still is and had a weird moment !

carmen_b
12-07-2021, 05:04 PM
I hope to hell my mom didn’t look too close at this accidental pin sent to her phone a week ago.
I’m headed to the club , stop for a sandwich , and somehow map was still open in my hand .
It “ shared “ the map omg.

This is in Vegas though with a club on every corner . I could be using it as a landmark . The name also isn’t instantly incriminating unless you know what it is. It didn’t have the name even ... just the pin.

I don’t know ....
anxiety surrounds this .....
Thank god for no panicked calls from family while trying to work .
Basically .... if they ask .... I plan to answer with honesty.
I hope she was just busy ( I think she was at that moment ) and didn’t look too close.

Ok .... sorry to clutter Random ha.
I may start my very own " help me get it together " thread lol !

Marina Starr
12-08-2021, 07:09 AM
It's so odd the Starbucks I go to is out of straws. I'm sure it's not the only one. They couldn't get them in. I got a box from Publix to get me by for now.
I can't drink without straws.

JGB2009
12-08-2021, 08:49 AM
I feel like I am never heard and feel so unloved. I just feel numb!!!!!

carmen_b
12-08-2021, 09:15 AM
Aw ! ^ :(

carmen_b
12-08-2021, 09:22 AM
Show me the MONEY !
I'm talking to everyone ( the club customers, day job customers, my partner ... ect. ) !!!
hahahaha

whirlerz
12-08-2021, 10:46 AM
I feel like I am never heard and feel so unloved. I just feel numb!!!!!

I heard that^!
This time of the year's hard, I'm sure for a lot of people

whirlerz
12-08-2021, 10:49 AM
It's so odd the Starbucks I go to is out of straws. I'm sure it's not the only one. They couldn't get them in. I got a box from Publix to get me by for now.
I can't drink without straws.

Weird, the other day was reading barista comments, they don't like ppl reaching around for the. straws!

Funny thing, I have a BUNCH of wrapped straws, Idk why I keep 'em:-[

Marina Starr
12-08-2021, 11:27 AM
Really? All the Starbucks I've been to always have straws where you can grab them yourselves.
It's not a big deal to me. I'm a Starbucks Hoe so that won't stop me from going EVERYDAY!



Weird, the other day was reading barista comments, they don't like ppl reaching around for the. straws!

Funny thing, I have a BUNCH of wrapped straws, Idk why I keep 'em:-[

carmen_b
12-08-2021, 11:48 AM
I am wondering about some potential big life changes. :/

I'm also just trying to calm down in general.
I have enough cash on hand to make it to the end of the year.
Typically my day job has a " bump " in business in Jan. so I'd expect that pattern to stay there.

I don't think I'll hit my 2021 goal of credit card paid entirely off but worse things have happened.
It's not worth being miserable.

kimbe
12-08-2021, 01:04 PM
I haven’t been away from T for so long as I’m going to be on my Scottsdale trip (4 days) since pre covid, I feel it stresses him somewhat.

carmen_b
12-08-2021, 01:05 PM
^ I do think men can find it stressful when partners travel !
I feel like my partner struggled more with my 3 day trip last week then he would have with a 2 day one even.

GlamLifter
12-09-2021, 05:09 AM
Working on two trips before Christmas, first one's next weekend, to Scottsdale AZ. Lot of things happen there, I've got clients competing, I'll compete myself, and I'm asked if I can work with the tanning company as well...

Initially I thought about flying there by myself, but now I think I have landed (pun intended!) on driving. Time wise the roughly 4.5 hours driving is actually relatively competitive, all factors taken into account. And I need a car there anyway.

Can’t say other than I’m impressed with your capacity! Most people would have more than enough just to compete themselves, and you are coaching and work with the tanning company as well. Hands down, it’s impressive!
Good luck to you and your girls!

LoveyD
12-09-2021, 09:08 AM
Kind of going out on a limb here, but does anyone here know of a good entertainment attorney in LA or NY?

TheBrownFox
12-09-2021, 12:53 PM
Weird, the other day was reading barista comments, they don't like ppl reaching around for the. straws!

Funny thing, I have a BUNCH of wrapped straws, Idk why I keep 'em:-[


I'm a Dunkin' girl, and at this one particular Dunkin' (My least favorite location) they've moved the black storage compartment thing where we used to be able to reach to grab the sugar packs ourselves. I don't like that because when I ask for a hot coffee with extra cream and extra sugar, sometimes these young girls in there aren't doing something right. They've been short-staffed as it is while also dealing with customers at the drive-thru, so rather than bug them with "Excuse me. Could you hand me three of those white sugar packs?," I'd like to just be able to grab them myself. The only reason I go to this location is that it's right there by the bus stop...in the shopping center where I'm at sometimes. At all the other Dunkin' locations I go to, they have the black storage compartment thing right there for customers to grab what they need.

Marina Starr
12-09-2021, 03:34 PM
I'm straight, not bisexual but I enjoy flirting with really butch lesbians. They call them studs.

I'm ultra feminine so a lot of the butch ones find that sexy and highly attractive.

charlie61
12-09-2021, 05:18 PM
^looooove butchy women omg.

indiegirl
12-09-2021, 06:54 PM
Ah yes, I’ve gone a full 32 hours without internet in my house. I want to work to purely avoid being here without using my laptop. This is some level of BS I can’t tolerate.

And mister needy dog is an a-hole when it comes to medication. He figured out that if he shuts his eyes that he doesn’t get his eye prescription Loll.

WendiStarr
12-10-2021, 11:25 AM
I had an appointment with my new ob/gyn and I still don't have an answer to something that has been boggling my mind for several months now. Why did I continue getting what appeared to be my normal heavy, painful periods despite being pregnant? How did I get pregnant without fertility drugs and not miscarry like all other times, etc.

carmen_b
12-10-2021, 11:50 AM
^ That seems so abnormal ( periods while pregnant ) so I hope they can get you some good answers. That last person seemed horrible. I am glad you found someone new. :)

SnuffleUffleGrass
12-10-2021, 12:57 PM
I had an appointment with my new ob/gyn and I still don't have an answer to something that has been boggling my mind for several months now. Why did I continue getting what appeared to be my normal heavy, painful periods despite being pregnant? How did I get pregnant without fertility drugs and not miscarry like all other times, etc.

I am genuinely curious, how do you avoid getting anemia with heavy periods even during pregnancy?


I hope everything turns out allright.

WendiStarr
12-10-2021, 03:49 PM
I'm not sure. I have been taking multivitamins with iron in them for a long time, even before I got pregnant and I eat a lot of chicken and fish. Somehow my iron levels have been good.

Aurora_Sunset
12-10-2021, 06:25 PM
I don't understand why so many people think Benedict Cumberbatch is "hot." I think he's super weird looking. Great actor, but I mean, kinda looks like an alien.

indiegirl
12-10-2021, 08:31 PM
They need to stop providing alcohol on planes. Doesn’t sound like fun being a flight attendant nowadays.

https://news.google.com/articles/CAIiEKBLiiQ2s8Dyp696f21XuxIqGQgEKhAIACoHCAowyOeFCz CooIMDMMuGiQY?hl=en-US&gl=US&ceid=US%3Aen

JGB2009
12-11-2021, 10:23 AM
I have not logged into one of the cam sites I work on because the last time I was on there some moron had no idea what kind of show he wanted so I got mad and ended the show. Every now and then I get someone like that and I hate it with a passion. Anyways I need to toughen up and log back on. Hopefully I have a better experience this time.

whirlerz
12-11-2021, 11:14 AM
They need to stop providing alcohol on planes. Doesn’t sound like fun being a flight attendant nowadays.

https://news.google.com/articles/CAIiEKBLiiQ2s8Dyp696f21XuxIqGQgEKhAIACoHCAowyOeFCz CooIMDMMuGiQY?hl=en-US&gl=US&ceid=US%3Aen

Not only that, I'd have impaired folks not allowed on board, + have an air marshall on each flight.
Which probably isn't possible, train some or use alternatives.
I feel for the attendants, whatever they make isn't worth all that.

carmen_b
12-11-2021, 03:16 PM
Who on here mentioned how Dan Savage explained very well how women get more exhausted by sex than men ?

I googled the article and loved it.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/eastbayexpress.com/dan-savage-for-people-who-demand-sex-every-night-of-the-week-2-1/%3famp

My partner is getting this to help explain why “ hinting “ for more sex is going to result in nothing but reduced sex. I think he’s clear already but I want to drive the point 100% home to make sure there are no misunderstandings.

indiegirl
12-11-2021, 03:50 PM
I hope everyone is okay out there in the 6 states that got hit by the 22 tornadoes. Holy crap! My mom's former coworker is fine but there was an Amazon building that collapsed and there were people inside. Watching the damage on the news is crazy.

indiegirl
12-11-2021, 03:50 PM
I hope everyone is okay out there in the 6 states that got hit by the 22 tornadoes. Holy crap! My mom's former coworker is fine but there was an Amazon building that collapsed and there were people inside. Watching the damage on the news is crazy. More than 70 people died.

carmen_b
12-11-2021, 03:54 PM
Omg ! Had not heard of this !! ^

charlie61
12-11-2021, 04:22 PM
Who on here mentioned how Dan Savage explained very well how women get more exhausted by sex than men ?

I googled the article and loved it.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/eastbayexpress.com/dan-savage-for-people-who-demand-sex-every-night-of-the-week-2-1/%3famp

My partner is getting this to help explain why “ hinting “ for more sex is going to result in nothing but reduced sex. I think he’s clear already but I want to drive the point 100% home to make sure there are no misunderstandings.

Omg, this is too real...

"Consider PIV from your wife’s perspective: Her husband fucks, comes, and falls asleep. She lies there for a while afterward, tingling, and may have to go to the bathroom once or twice. The PIV that puts her husband to sleep after a long day? It puts her sleep off. And if she wanted to get it over with quickly — because she was exhausted — there wasn’t much foreplay, which means she probably wasn’t fully lubricated (uncomfortable) and most likely didn’t come (unfair). That’s a recipe for resentment, WOES, and resentment kills desire. (Or maybe you should think of it this way: If your ass got fucked every time you said yes to sex, WOES, you wouldn’t say yes to sex seven nights a week.)"

My partner and i have been together for over four years at this point. Our sex schedule is me giving him oral every weekend morning (i get an awesome scalp massage during), which is as close to perfect as it can get considering I'm asexual and my partner is heterosexual. We have sex occasionally on the weekends when I'm feeling lazy. We have sex more when we go on vacation / travel, as the novelty brings out the friskiness in both of us. I know schedules sound depressing, but i think it's nice because no one has to wonder when it'll happen, and i think he prefers oral, anyway (lay back and relax!). I also like that i don't have to make eye contact and perform...i lay down next to him and get to just relax and play with him for a while.

I would much, much rather give oral than have sex when I'm not feeling it. And i like doing it in the morning since I'm not worried about my skincare being ruined, and morning oral has a more relaxed vibe. It's like giving my partner a massage. He always makes us a wonderful breakfast afterwards. It's a nice schedule.

carmen_b
12-11-2021, 04:25 PM
^ I treat my dude to some oral love too for sure. :)

I was able to talk to him today about this article.
Any guys who “ need it even more “ than a good partner provides should stick something in their butt as often as they want to stick something into a female partner. This will ensure they are fully understanding their partners perspective !
^ Thanks Dan !!!

Marina Starr
12-11-2021, 05:41 PM
Praying for Kentucky. The damages are horrific and devastating. The pain of what people are going through is unimaginable.

President Biden has already approved and provided Federal aides and assistance. A President for ALL Americans. Red, White and Blue states.
Kentucky is grateful for his compassion and leadership!

Thank you, Brandon!

https://i.ibb.co/BZ6xtDb/12-11-2021-mayfield-ky-at-least-high-end-ef4-damage-total-destruction-drone-00-00-08-01-still001-cus.jpg (https://ibb.co/7Wp5XcP)

carmen_b
12-11-2021, 06:59 PM
^ omg this looks so horrible. :(

AChildOfBoredom
12-11-2021, 08:13 PM
They need to stop providing alcohol on planes. Doesn’t sound like fun being a flight attendant nowadays.

https://news.google.com/articles/CAIiEKBLiiQ2s8Dyp696f21XuxIqGQgEKhAIACoHCAowyOeFCz CooIMDMMuGiQY?hl=en-US&gl=US&ceid=US%3Aen

Before the Irish woman, a flight attendant rented that room from me. She had no shortage of wild stories.

LoveyD
12-11-2021, 08:13 PM
Holy crap! That is devastating! Praying for them too. That looks surreal.

kimbe
12-12-2021, 12:13 AM
^ Sad to see all that destruction.

JGB2009
12-12-2021, 06:28 AM
Well I hope by me staying away will make you question me and hopefully in the process I can tell you why. Either way I am content with however it turns out. At least I am not feeling anger. If it matters you will fix it. If not oh well you were never worth the trouble.

SnuffleUffleGrass
12-12-2021, 07:18 AM
Before the Irish woman, a flight attendant rented that room from me. She had no shortage of wild stories.

I feel so bad for flight attendants. They don't get paid enough.

Random thought- deer and other wildlife have been walking through our back yard. Sadly boyfriend and I are at work all the time so we don't get to see this. I did see a nice fat squirrel in one of our trees. It was my At One With The Universe moment yesterday.