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kamiliam
12-27-2021, 02:41 PM
Watched the series finale of insecure.

I know and believe that the real love story of the show is Issa/Molly blah blah blah

But I am so happy for the path they gave Molly.

Kelli deserved more, the whole damn time. One complete story arc would have been nice.

indiegirl
12-27-2021, 04:21 PM
I think it's hilarious when my dog farts so casually and stares at his butt after he's finished spritzing the room with his stink.

whirlerz
12-27-2021, 04:44 PM
I see the Trolls/Spammers out in full force::)

LoveyD
12-27-2021, 05:37 PM
So groggy. My cup of Starbucks tea is so comforting.

JGB2009
12-27-2021, 08:09 PM
The other night we had a much needed conversation but still things are lacking. Ugh come on now smh!!!!

indiegirl
12-28-2021, 09:23 AM
Getting into a shouting match with a door dash driver was not part of my breakfast routine. He could barely speak english yet he's the one yelling at me. I'm surprised I raised my voice 5 times in a row I said "No, I am not at the Marriott. I am at the Hilton." He kept saying "NO! What I ask is Marriott!!" He said this over and over. Like hahahahaha. I honestly was over the food at this point I just wanted the waters (lost my 7 stage reverse osmosis pitcher I bring and the tap water is grossly cloudy here). Wednesday couldn't come sooner for my new water filtration device.

Aurora_Sunset
12-28-2021, 10:05 AM
I wish I had thought to use vacation time to take off all week. I was saving it up for that damn trip to Ireland that apparently I'm not taking now. I could've used it to just crash during this shitty week between xmas-NYE.

carmen_b
12-28-2021, 11:32 AM
The cleaning person I had hired tried to take me like a fool lol
She was here like 70 min. and wanted $80-$100 so I had to akwardly ask for job to finish out at 80 minutes of cleaning for $60.
She told me last time her rate was $30 an hour .
If someone is fast obviously we will call the $60 bucks good even if they are here 90 min.

That was super awkward, haha.
I felt like an idiot and J was off doing errands.

I feel like she did a good job last time and I think J paid $60 so I assumed it would be the same again.

carmen_b
12-28-2021, 01:41 PM
Seasonal depression is an issue for me lately ugh !!

I’m functional but with bad brain fog so life takes a lot of to do lists!

carmen_b
12-28-2021, 04:03 PM
I saw it and it's PAID .

Yes, they were not just teasing me lol.
It's been so lean that now I feel rich lol



Ok this is crazy but my first email was a customer asking me to send their balance invoice ( $1200 ) over early !
My team won't do anything for them until July so an early payment is like getting a bonus.
Invoice is sent ..... YES!
Great way to start a Monday.

JGB2009
12-28-2021, 09:57 PM
When I told you about my medical problems you seemed so concerned. You kind of freaked out but then you had the nerve to ask is that why I was acting weird the other week. I was acting so called weird because you have been acting flakey lately. Dealing with you has me at times feeling the need for a therapist. Tonight I did good cause I didn't even call you. Although I do worry about the out come for me and you, one thing I have learned is not to stress about you as much. It is not a lot of progress but it is enough to make me happy.

carmen_b
12-29-2021, 08:58 AM
That’s cute the kid is helping !
It sounds like 11 ( age ) can’t quite do what you need though haha .
So the dad just charged you in full ?
I always try to get teenagers to do this in the summer.
I remember last time I posted on my community board for that and this 14 year old showed up with HIS MOM lol.
Like ..... where are the balls on this kid ? He can't push the mower a couple blocks and not need assistance from a parent to do this lol ? I always try to support young business owners when I can.

I’ll just try another cleaner. She didn’t even do the kitchen floor ha. I did it before J got back here . She must have been having an off day or desperate for $ / not intending to come back. It’s fine not to come back ha but I’m easy . I don’t even expect anyone to clean that fast. Just an ( accurate ) 2 hour job for $60 cash.

carmen_b
12-29-2021, 11:07 AM
I really enjoyed last night !
J surprised me with a dinner reservation somewhere I haven't tried.
Such a fun date night . :)

He was making me laugh because we were trying to figure out what this " good " part of the holiday timeframe should be called.
It's the part between Christmas and New Years and he was calling it the Holiday Taint.

TheBrownFox
12-29-2021, 02:22 PM
My son was hiding in the kitchen (Between the fridge and the counter top) trying to scare me, and he got his foot stuck (He had socks on) in one of those sticky glue mouse traps. LMFAO!

WendiStarr
12-29-2021, 05:52 PM
I wish that I could get into a hot tub.

Marina Starr
12-29-2021, 05:59 PM
This made me laugh so hard I think I woke my neighbors!

The world has been and already laughing at us. They actually hate us and for a lot of good reasons.

https://i.ibb.co/L66Wq24/Screenshot-2021-12-29-7-57-17-PM.png (https://imgbb.com/)

indiegirl
12-30-2021, 05:05 PM
It's raining here in So Cal and I am LIVING for it!!! I've been texting like a crazed woman with weather reports since the day before Xmas eve about the rain LOLLL. As a pluviophile, any sort of rainy weather needs to be documented and sent to other rain fans!

JGB2009
12-30-2021, 05:49 PM
I never seen depression make a guy not interested in sex. Now I can say I finally have.

Staci
12-30-2021, 05:54 PM
It's raining here in So Cal and I am LIVING for it!!! I've been texting like a crazed woman with weather reports since the day before Xmas eve about the rain LOLLL. As a pluviophile, any sort of rainy weather needs to be documented and sent to other rain fans!
I'm like that when it comes to cooler weather. LOL

It has been in the 80's every day. We are getting a cool front this weekend and I'm so excited!

carmen_b
12-30-2021, 06:13 PM
Oh , damn. I have seen it too, ugh. :(
I never seen depression make a guy not interested in sex. Now I can say I finally have.

carmen_b
12-30-2021, 06:51 PM
^ I've been on both sides too. Mental issues can affect libido so much ! With a guy though I think there always is that certain element of surprise though. Like .... you imagine a guy who is barely alive would still want sex. It can be shocking. I still remember when this happened to me in 2010. I'm glad I amicably parted ways with that person and still consider him a friend.

JGB2009
12-30-2021, 07:16 PM
^ I've been on both sides too. Mental issues can affect libido so much ! With a guy though I think there always is that certain element of surprise though. Like .... you imagine a guy who is barely alive would still want sex. It can be shocking. I still remember when this happened to me in 2010. I'm glad I amicably parted ways with that person and still consider him a friend.

I've been on both sides as well.

indiegirl
12-30-2021, 10:36 PM
I'm having one of those "cancer" days......I legit think I have cancer right now. So Fun. I've been planning my last days out after being on webmd. Someone seriously needs to take webmd away from me.

Also, I legit serenaded a customer. You are welcome haha. I had to return him 500 for 2 hrs because I have someone waiting. Last one before I finish the Harry Potter series for the month.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
12-31-2021, 10:49 AM
Klarna is crooked as hell. Let me tell y'all why...

A few weeks ago they sent me an offer to get 25% off if I ordered from Sephora. This would mean my last payment would be free. I was gonna order from Sephora anyways..end of year 20% off plus insider rewards etc. Sounds great, right? Well instead of the four payments equalling $29.51 a piece, they broke it up over two days. One payment was $22.12 and the other was $7.29 one day apart. Instead of paying off $29.51, they're only going to cover $7.29!!! So shady. I was just minding my business, not even thinking about Klarna.

whirlerz
12-31-2021, 11:03 AM
I hate all those split payments bs Co's..
The exception being paypal

carmen_b
12-31-2021, 11:38 AM
I had fear that having J not working yesterday and today would cause issues but I'd say it's gone ok.
We had a good talk this morning ( about our core issues ). We talk openly about relationship stuff and what we want to see happen.
He admitted to being short sighted and that his requests for " more fun " might not be ALL we need. Yes , truer words have never been spoken, ha. We obviously need more to grow. :)

We had this great conversation about how we both " give " a little . I could give a little bit to more higher energy type experiences.
He will try to " give " a little to my wellness ideas . I want to do a relationship building daily app together and also some intention work and goal setting ( where we write things down and take it pretty seriously ). We agree to move forward we need to give in these specific areas . I was also a little upset with him that he didn't do too much to get a vacation in motion to a warm area ( something I really want as a seasonally affected person ). I was a little sneaky and told him I was booking Hawaii for myself on January 1st ( leaving Jan. 18-23 sometime ). Then all of a sudden he came up with this idea that maybe he *could* pull off the warm weather trip . He thought maybe he *could* ask his sister to cover daughter a few days ( something she has openly offered ). Hahahaha. It doesn't matter because I'm going but I'd like him to join. If he doesn't put the effort in to get to warmer places I would like that decision to affect him and not ME.

I do have to " save " energy ( seasonal depression leaves me with a limited reserve even with really great management ) but maybe I don't need to be quite so strict . It could be worth some experimenting at least.

carmen_b
12-31-2021, 12:43 PM
I can’t really be happy going forward if I feel a partner is always “ pulling “ at me energetically .

I do see his side though and I see how being with a lower energy person could be annoying ha so I’ll see what I can do . Hopefully we can meet in a middle point especially when my issues are seasonal . I will try to give more too considering I have my quirks. I like to go to dinner at like 4:30 so don’t hear noise from other people and rarely stay out past 10 unless I’m working . I can see how these preferences are limiting ( weird from his perspective ) so I will bend to keep some peaceful energy.

My main issue though ( his complaining ) seems to be something he is actively trying to fix so we will see. We don’t want a loop of him complaining and then me ignoring him further or complaining that he is complaining! We want to keep ourselves out of negative loops.

I will start to see a therapist on my own too! For real this time. It’s time I start it up again.

AChildOfBoredom
12-31-2021, 12:59 PM
I got one of those thunder blankets for Beagle, because I know people will be lighting off fireworks and she’s terrified of them. Thought about putting her in doggie daycare for the night, but decided she’d be better here.

carmen_b
12-31-2021, 02:09 PM
^ I didn’t want to leave my dog with a sitter either to go out.
These noises are terrifying for dogs.

carmen_b
12-31-2021, 05:34 PM
The drug I’m hesitant to have use ( me or him ) is MDMA .
Somehow he got ahold of some ?
I don't think I can have it ( on an anti - depressant in winter ). I had hoped he’d just stash it on a shelf for 3-6 months waiting for a good time for it. From the brief bit I read it can have depression effects later on. So I'm obviously cautious for myself since I have current issues I'm dealing with.
:/
He referenced he was hoping to use it today and I was less than pleased ( and surprised ).
I had kind of forgot about it.
He has this concert to watch and I was ok with mushrooms ( it’s a holiday ) lol.
This is what I mean with our problem. He seems like he won’t just be mellow and relax .
I often get in these spots where I don’t want to say no all the time.

I don’t want to do a magic sex drug ( duh ) when only one of us is doing it .
Doesn’t this seem obvious ?
Maybe I can phrase it like " something better in the Springtime " ?

This is an exact example of what I'm talking about with us.
We are proactively trying to navigate this stuff together too.
I *thought* we had a nice plan for the 1st to stay home together and not fight any crowds and now he is acting like it isn't good enough.

I have a very low level of interest in this but I worry about just saying no repeatedly.
If I'm wrong please tell me about your amazing experiences with it ( here or via PM ). :)

When the relationship was new I knew he had his interest in LSD but he phrased it something like " a few times a year " . Even that ..... it seems to be creeping towards every 2 months for last 8 months?

I guess we had a different view on what “ meeting the middle “ looked like ?

carmen_b
12-31-2021, 06:28 PM
He says he’s ok not indulging if it’s what I prefer.
What about not making me feel like I have to say no to hyper stimulation vibes ?
I’m forgiving of blip but now I feel awkward !
I thought the “ middle “ was bringing no more of the needy vibes.
We need to find the middle. :/

charlie61
12-31-2021, 08:31 PM
Carmen, I'd be feeling the same way. Like, can't we just have a chill night alone and enjoy each other's company? And I'd feel equally awkward shooting it down if i knew he was really, really hoping to do that. Ugh. Just uncomfortable. Glad to hear you're following your gut.

carmen_b
12-31-2021, 09:58 PM
^ I am glad he was agreeable to just mellow but the suggestion itself was not “ the middle “ we had just tried to talk about reaching earlier that day.
I specifically said I’d try to come “ up “ energetically and he said he’d be more mellow haha. We were really trying to find a mid point . Maybe the holiday vibes?!? These damn holidays.

TheBrownFox
01-01-2022, 12:28 AM
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

The theme song from the show Grown-ish is stuck in my head. "Watch out, world...I'm grown now!" I'd just finished binge watching that show on Hulu the other night. The two sisters who sing the theme song are Beyonce's proteges.

kimbe
01-01-2022, 12:55 AM
Happy New Year to all of you!

Btw, having T's daughter staying with us for a few days have made me thinking how convenient it is when we are just the two of us..I kind of feel cramped, I even locked the bedroom door when he was getting a BJ earlier today.

Marina Starr
01-01-2022, 03:47 AM
New year, better hoe!!!

indiegirl
01-01-2022, 11:01 AM
Quick question....I dunno how this is going down since it is now 2022. Is it just cash app payments of 600 being reported to the IRS now or bank deposits as well into your account?

I thought it was just cash app deposits starting today but I can't seem to see if it is set in stone for bank deposits with cash or checks over 600?

Aurora_Sunset
01-01-2022, 01:55 PM
I really want Chinese for dinner. I wonder if I can convince my husband that we need to drive up to our old favorite Chinese spot where we used to live, even though it's almost 30 minutes away.

charlie61
01-01-2022, 02:16 PM
Quick question....I dunno how this is going down since it is now 2022. Is it just cash app payments of 600 being reported to the IRS now or bank deposits as well into your account?

I thought it was just cash app deposits starting today but I can't seem to see if it is set in stone for bank deposits with cash or checks over 600?

I haven't heard of such low deposits being reported to the IRS - are you remembering that if you make an income of $600+, then it needs to be taxed / self-reported? Like, i cammed once or twice and made under $600 (never did it again), so i didn't report that as income. But i think most adult workers who are depositing money (meaning it isn't under the table) would make more than $600/year in income from that work, so unless you aren't depositing more than $600/year, it'd be taxable income. That's my memory of how it works, anyway. You're always at risk of being audited, so you could probably get away with not including a few hundred here and there of deposited money, but if you were audited, it'd be easy for the IRS to see that that money wasn't included in the yearly total.

carmen_b
01-01-2022, 02:20 PM
^ There’s been some talk about lower amounts triggering reporting in financial news. I’m not really sure the average person has much to worry about but those who deposit cash often should be aware.
I don’t think the exact number “ trigger “ will be known to everyone anyway. It seems like in the old days everyone knew to not more than 10k at once ...

charlie61
01-01-2022, 02:58 PM
^ There’s been some talk about lower amounts triggering reporting in financial news. I’m not really sure the average person has much to worry about but those who deposit cash often should be aware.
I don’t think the exact number “ trigger “ will be known to everyone anyway. It seems like in the old days everyone knew to not more than 10k at once ...

Right, and i guess unless you're only making a couple deposits a year, it seems super risky. Like, if you deposit $500 400 times a year, that's probably going to be looked at, even if it's below the $600 threshold (or whatever) for individual deposits. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. Getting hit with a potential $60k tax out of nowhere would be devastating.

TheBrownFox
01-01-2022, 03:01 PM
Binge watching The Golden Palace on YouTube.

indiegirl
01-01-2022, 03:16 PM
Right, and i guess unless you're only making a couple deposits a year, it seems super risky. Like, if you deposit $500 400 times a year, that's probably going to be looked at, even if it's below the $600 threshold (or whatever) for individual deposits. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. Getting hit with a potential $60k tax out of nowhere would be devastating.

I just texted my mom and she's calling her tax guy on Monday to get all the details and I'll update what they're looking at on here for 2022. I so don't want to risk making a mistake.

moneybags
01-01-2022, 03:58 PM
I’m thinking, “remember when we thought 2021 would be better than 2020.”

Hoping for the best and preparing for the worst

chanzep
01-01-2022, 06:00 PM
Happy New year all. I hope we all have a better one.

carmen_b
01-01-2022, 08:55 PM
I guess J remained upset over a few things ?

1. That I went to work this ONE day in late Dec. when he suggested I didn't ( the club ). Um ...... I'm not sure it is ever ok to tell someone they can't go get the money they need. I clearly misjudged THAT . I honestly thought he was having a weird phase and would be over it. Maybe I can admit though that I wasn't *Starving * per say .... just trying to hit an income goal. I could have waited a week and chatted with him more about it.

2. The day before his birthday he somehow found the nice hotel and meal I booked unacceptable . I guess he was hoping for a lap dance or some sort of " extra " sexy experience ? He felt his window view of the entire Vegas strip BJ and sexy time after wasn't enough ? I actually received a text from his sister of all people that he " seemed underwhelmed " about the birthday . She suggested I blow up some balloons. Wtf.

We talked openly and honestly about some of the problems we were having and our communication was so good I though we had it under control. I don't know. He's just being a needy nightmare lately . I can't tell where to try to work with him and where to go " please keep your neediness under control ". He didn't use to be overly needy so that is where I'm getting confused !

I'm literally going over my calendar now thinking " Ok .... I'll admit it if I was an ass and neglected him " . He wasn't neglected though ! He got 4 evenings out of my last 7 days and sexy times 3 of them.

I honestly kind of wanted a little " break " of a few days . I thought me staying at my AirBnB would give us a little refresher . I'm not sure it'll work though. We may need to be a trial separation type of week ( longer like 5-7 days ). I hate to be like " we can't work it out " when it seemed possible. I just feel like he's tallying everything up on a clip board or something . He seems to want so much more out of me but now I feel frozen in performance anxiety. :/

chanzep
01-01-2022, 11:23 PM
Sorry your going through this Carmen.
They all get like this about the club after a while sadly.
The thing about his birthday is ugrateful. His sister telling you to blow up balloons smh . Him and her that is rude. You try to make a nice birthday and that should be enough.
Maybe some time apart will be good .

carmen_b
01-01-2022, 11:48 PM
I told him the same. I was on a tight budget but arranged something I thought was nice. :/
I’m honestly not that worried about the club or continuing to work .
I am just not sure if I ever should have disclosed sex work to him. I was fully retired March 2020 when we met.

kimbe
01-02-2022, 01:06 AM
I guess J remained upset over a few things ?

1. That I went to work this ONE day in late Dec. when he suggested I didn't ( the club ). Um ...... I'm not sure it is ever ok to tell someone they can't go get the money they need. I clearly misjudged THAT . I honestly thought he was having a weird phase and would be over it. Maybe I can admit though that I wasn't *Starving * per say .... just trying to hit an income goal. I could have waited a week and chatted with him more about it.

2. I guess on his birthday ( the day after the club day ) he somehow found the nice hotel and meal I booked somehow unacceptable . I guess he was hoping for a lap dance or some sort of " extra " sexy experience ? He felt his window view of the entire Vegas strip BJ and sexy time after wasn't enough ? I actually received a text from his sister of all people that he " seemed underwhelmed " about the birthday and she wanted me to know. She suggested I blow up some balloons. Wtf.

We talked openly and honestly about some of the problems we were having and our communication was so good I though we had it under control. I don't know. He's just being a needy nightmare lately . I can't tell where to try to work with him and where to go " please keep your neediness under control ". He didn't use to be overly needy so that is where I'm getting confused !

I'm literally going over my calendar now thinking " Ok .... I'll admit it if I was an ass and neglected him " . He wasn't neglected though ! He got 4 evenings out of my last 7 days and sexy times 3 of them.

I honestly kind of wanted a little " break " of a few days . I thought me staying at my AirBnB would give us a little refresher . I'm not sure it'll work though. We may need to be a trial separation type of week ( longer like 5-7 days ). I hate to be like " we can't work it out " when it seemed possible. I just feel like he's tallying everything up on a clip board or something . He seems to want so much more out of me but now I feel frozen in performance anxiety. :/

That's just very strange.. /:O

carmen_b
01-02-2022, 01:34 AM
^ I don’t think he verbalized irritation to clarify.
I think he was just pouting over there. :/
She was worried and I think honestly trying to help.