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neverendingkneebruises
01-01-2023, 09:49 PM
https://nordicmodelnow.org/2019/11/22/open-letter-to-all-the-sex-buyers-everywhere/

This has been on my mind all day. Some dancers I work with get so offended when I say I don't see 99% of SC/sugar customers as friends or have any empathy for them and this article just put into a words, years worth of frustration on my end.

The author is writing from a fssw perspective but I can easily relate to it as a stripper in a non extras club as well

Their egos are so fragile across the board lol

WendiStarr
01-02-2023, 10:01 AM
I'm starting the sterile processing technician program at the end of this month. I'm excited about it but at the same time nervous about what if I'm stupid and fail at it. I can't afford not to try though. I have 3 kids and I need a more stable income than this short-term vanilla gig work crap and OF.

carmen_b
01-02-2023, 10:54 AM
I had a not great Rover experience.
What happened was is I went to meet these dogs and one of them was really hyper and jumping up constantly .
This poor dog needs some really targeted training ( it jumps with no method to the madness either .... like .... pay attention to it and it does it .... ignore it and it does it ). It takes a lot for me to dislike a dog but here we are.
Anyway , I just kind of felt bad for these people. They seemed to need a break so much ( get away over the NYE and Jan. 1 nights ) . I just have to be really *picky* about these sits I think. I seem to feel slighted if the home isn't REALLY nice and this one wasn't . I was with N on NYE and I warned him about the behavior and told him I could put the dog in another room before he came in. He came in and it went nuts as usual.

Dreamqueen
01-02-2023, 11:30 AM
Happy World Introvert Day.
https://images.app.goo.gl/6QTvtRC9id84vxZU7

charlie61
01-02-2023, 12:16 PM
I'm starting the sterile processing technician program at the end of this month. I'm excited about it but at the same time nervous about what if I'm stupid and fail at it. I can't afford not to try though. I have 3 kids and I need a more stable income than this short-term vanilla gig work crap and OF.

Just as with dancing, returning students / people older than 20 usually are so much more motivated and engaged with the work than young folks. You know exactly why you're there, and you have a huge amount of life experience that is SO valuable. Would you rather have a technician who's 21 years old or a technician who's 35+ years old? Returning students are on a different level!

You're going to do amazing. If you struggle at all, try not to attribute the struggle to your insecurities. Everyone struggles when they're learning something new. Expose your vulnerabilities to your instructors to get them to invest in you and help you succeed! The whole point of school is to teach you and help you succeed. So if you aren't comfortable and successful, it's a shared responsibility they have to help you.

Super excited for you!!

LoveyD
01-02-2023, 04:55 PM
I think between working out and running around for the holidays caught up with me. All I want to do is relax and sleep. It's cool and cloudy outside and I just want to be all cozy in my car, and my velor tracksuit. And blanket.

LoveyD
01-02-2023, 07:48 PM
I'm all cozy in my car, with my comfy clothes and blankets. It's raining outside and I just love the sounds of the rain. It feels like an extra layer of protection over me.

WendiStarr
01-02-2023, 08:15 PM
My oldest has been so amused by BD's Saturday shenanigans that she said it would be hilarious if I bought a fake engagement ring and wore it next time I see BD. Boyfriend said,"I have a better idea. Wear my ring!" I was thinking, "What? What ring?" My oldest thinks he's joking and laughed about it but I'm not sure he was.

Aurora_Sunset
01-02-2023, 08:37 PM
I finally watched Birds of Prey (just never got around to it before), and loved it. It also made me love Harley Quinn in a new way I hadn't before. And appreciate her character in the original Suicide Squad more. I know a lot of people didn't like the way she was portrayed in the first one, but real women are allowed to be messy - especially when in love with the wrong guy. I think it made her more real and more badass when she's trying to get over it.

kimbe
01-03-2023, 01:07 AM
I've got some work done late and enjoyed time on my own after my partner went to bed..

indiegirl
01-03-2023, 04:55 AM
I'm starting the sterile processing technician program at the end of this month. I'm excited about it but at the same time nervous about what if I'm stupid and fail at it. I can't afford not to try though. I have 3 kids and I need a more stable income than this short-term vanilla gig work crap and OF.

I suggest to watch a lot of youtube videos for help when studying. But once you get it and go in person it is soooo worth it.

I have to spend 2 weeks learning in SPD (sterile processing department) ....I'm not looking forward to going in there after only reading one chapter on it bahahaha. But it sounds doable!

SnuffleUffleGrass
01-03-2023, 06:41 AM
I finally watched that B-level horror movie Jack Frost from the 90s.

It is so.... so bad.

But Henry Rollins is in it and he is hilarious!!!!!!!!

carmen_b
01-03-2023, 04:24 PM
I started my part time vanilla gig.
I had to pack from the most recent Rover house sit them be out of house 7.5 hours.
I’m totally not used to it. Ha.
Days are typically 4 hours which will be easier to adjust to.
I was stressing not having phone and WiFi access that duration.

charlie61
01-03-2023, 05:15 PM
I started my part time vanilla gig.
I had to pack from the most recent Rover house sit them be out of house 7.5 hours.
I’m totally not used to it. Ha.
Days are typically 4 hours which will be easier to adjust to.
I was stressing not having phone and WiFi access that duration.

Congrats!! The transition can be a little rough - I've been there. Get that dough haha

carmen_b
01-03-2023, 05:45 PM
It’s exciting .
It’s an arts nonprofit.
Not huge $ but started me at $20 with a projected climb to $24-25 an hour.
I *know* it’s healthy to do something else a bit.
My small business has too many “ just killing time “ hours 9-5 M to F.
I've known that it's been time ..... for a long time.
It’s just not as busy as it once was.

It was admittedly painful to not work a half day from home.
I’m not going to lie ha.
Fortunately almost everyone in the organization is loaded with different projects.
A 4 hour hour day is typical for many and there is flex. Artists are pretty well known for not exactly following instructions *perfectly* ha. I love that the organizers recognize that and it is know these people would not be working an 8 hour day often .

LoveyD
01-03-2023, 07:42 PM
Today I reclined in the front seat of my car and used my red LED light mask while I meditated and listened to beauty and wealth subliminals on YouTube. Listening to the rain sounds on YouTube while it was raining on my car was really very cool, especially since I was stoned today on edibles. Very relaxing.

kimbe
01-03-2023, 09:41 PM
A friend is starting a business (or I should say expanding) and I am wondering if I should put a little money into it. Not a lot though, but I think it’s a good idea..

Aurora_Sunset
01-04-2023, 10:21 AM
Taking it easy on myself today, but still working to get my to-do list done, no matter how long it takes as I ease into my routines again.

My husband is already complaining about the diet and we only just had breakfast on the first day. He better not quit on me. I hate when we agree to healthy goals together and he bails within the first few days or maybe couple weeks. Wanting to do an elimination diet was HIS idea.

Dreamqueen
01-04-2023, 11:53 AM
I think between working out and running around for the holidays caught up with me. All I want to do is relax and sleep. It's cool and cloudy outside and I just want to be all cozy in my car, and my velor tracksuit. And blanket.

It's cold and rain is expected soon.
It rained for 15 minutes last week. Lol
All I want to do is be in bed under the covers.
So sleepy no matter how much I sleep.
I love that I can do that and still make money by being logged in to my phone sex lines.

I got an email today telling me that a big storm is coming and to try and be off of the roads.
Ah, no problemo.
I haven't driven anywhere in a month.
Love it!

WendiStarr
01-04-2023, 12:16 PM
Disappointed that the pawn shops are not offering more than $195 for the engagement ring from BD after that jeweler yesterday told me that it was worth $3k. $3k would've been like almost 3 months worth of rent.

Staci
01-04-2023, 12:54 PM
A friend is starting a business (or I should say expanding) and I am wondering if I should put a little money into it. Not a lot though, but I think it’s a good idea..
Dealing with friends on monetary things is tricky. My advise would be to not invest anything (or lend anything for that matter) unless you're prepared to lose it and not be resentful if it fails.

So many friendships have been lost over things like that.

charlie61
01-04-2023, 02:21 PM
Disappointed that the pawn shops are not offering more than $195 for the engagement ring from BD after that jeweler yesterday told me that it was worth $3k. $3k would've been like almost 3 months worth of rent.

Is ebay an option? Do you have paperwork proving its value?

Most jewelry is marked up so high through retailers that their actual value is far below retail value. Some retailers, like Costco, offer gems much closer to their actual value.

Staci
01-04-2023, 03:42 PM
Disappointed that the pawn shops are not offering more than $195 for the engagement ring from BD after that jeweler yesterday told me that it was worth $3k. $3k would've been like almost 3 months worth of rent.
Is this a ring you had from when the two of you were together or did I understand that he just proposed recently?

If recent, aren't you afraid that by accepting a ring that you are inviting him back into your life?

AChildOfBoredom
01-04-2023, 07:50 PM
Some friends - including the guy with the recording studio in his basement - want to lease or buy a vacant commercial property and turn it into a music collective, including moving his studio there and having a place where small local bands of mostly younger people can practice, perform, and even do some recording. They asked me if I was interested in going in on it. I’m sure it won’t be hugely profitable, but I’ve been to a couple such places in different cities and I like the idea of forming one here. But before I commit to it, I’ve emailed contacts for a few I already know of, just to get their perspective on it. I’ve got a lot on my plate as is and want to try to ensure this won’t be too huge of a burden on top of everything else I’ve got going on.

LoveyD
01-04-2023, 07:52 PM
Disappointed that the pawn shops are not offering more than $195 for the engagement ring from BD after that jeweler yesterday told me that it was worth $3k. $3k would've been like almost 3 months worth of rent.

Yeah, most pawn shops won't offer loans or purchase outright based on the value of the item. This seems pretty standard. I used to have a pair of diamond earrings my ex gave me that were probably around that same cost. I would usually get loans for $200 on them, or I could sell them for $200 to the shop. Best thing to do would be to post them on eBay or maybe Facebook marketplace, I'm not really sure how Facebook works. Or even craigslist. I would just make sure that you have some sort of document proving their worth

carmen_b
01-04-2023, 08:37 PM
It's an awesome idea as long as it has the potential to at least break even ( minus what your band and what the studio guy is comfy offering a month). My city seems to have a shortage of affordable practice space. One place is great but $70-$90 for 2 hours ( not exactly giving newer bands much practice time there due to costs ). Another will only rent to those who want to use the space a few times a week ( with monthly contracts ).
I'd love to see a mid-point where you could practice just a few hours a week if you wanted somewhat affordably but buy just one session or a few.
It's possible I don't know exactly where to look though too. I keep hoping to find something more affordable .... like $40 - $50 for a few hours .... maybe it's just not possible.


Some friends - including the guy with the recording studio in his basement - want to lease or buy a vacant commercial property and turn it into a music collective, including moving his studio there and having a place where small local bands of mostly younger people can practice, perform, and even do some recording. They asked me if I was interested in going in on it. I’m sure it won’t be hugely profitable, but I’ve been to a couple such places in different cities and I like the idea of forming one here. But before I commit to it, I’ve emailed contacts for a few I already know of, just to get their perspective on it. I’ve got a lot on my plate as is and want to try to ensure this won’t be too huge of a burden on top of everything else I’ve got going on.

AChildOfBoredom
01-04-2023, 08:57 PM
It's an awesome idea as long as it has the potential to at least break even ( minus what your band and what the studio guy is comfy offering a month). My city seems to have a shortage of affordable practice space. One place is great but $70-$90 for 2 hours ( not exactly giving newer bands much practice time there due to costs ). Another will only rent to those who want to use the space a few times a week ( with monthly contracts ).
I'd love to see a mid-point where you could practice just a few hours a week if you wanted somewhat affordably but buy just one session or a few.
It's possible I don't know exactly where to look though too. I keep hoping to find something more affordable .... like $40 - $50 for a few hours .... maybe it's just not possible.

Yeah, a lot of what piques my interest in it was from when K and I set up the show for all those teenage bands, and a lot of them are hard pressed to find a place to rehearse. They’re not available, they’re too expensive, what’s available is run by some pretentious ‘indie’ twat who only caters to certain types of bands, etc. And local bands get pretty much no support from local radio stations (aside from Clay Aiken, who was promptly forgotten by them once his star fizzled).

SnuffleUffleGrass
01-05-2023, 07:04 PM
What I have been praying for years is finally happening and I am so relieved. Thank you Universe for smiling upon me in this way.

carmen_b
01-06-2023, 07:30 PM
I joined this FB group for my city " are we dating the same guy " ? I think there are many cities that have a secret group like this. I find it interesting.

carmen_b
01-07-2023, 10:37 AM
A musician friend of mine is playing a show tonight.
I'm going to make a SOLID effort to get off my ass and go support this show.
One thing I notice that I do ( if I don't put in effort ) is I'll either be in WORK / earning mode OR complete laze mode.
I have to remind myself to go do some things ( hobbies ect. ) where it isn't earning OR just lounging.
So I will try that tonight.

WendiStarr
01-07-2023, 12:21 PM
I feel so lazy today on my only kid free day this week and my first time being at bf's house all day, alone while he's at work. I took a lot of pictures for my OF and cammed. I pms binged and made fudge and am (impatiently)waiting for bf to get home. I might take a naked nap so that he will find me like that in his bed, be all excited, and probably wake me up in a naughty way.

AChildOfBoredom
01-07-2023, 04:50 PM
A musician friend of mine is playing a show tonight.
I'm going to make a SOLID effort to get off my ass and go support this show.
One thing I notice that I do ( if I don't put in effort ) is I'll either be in WORK / earning mode OR complete laze mode.
I have to remind myself to go do some things ( hobbies ect. ) where it isn't earning OR just lounging.
So I will try that tonight.

You should definitely go. Speaking for myself, a lot of my friends absolutely are not into what I’m into, but it means a lot that they still turn out for me at these shows. Even the girl I did my first photshoot with - whose upset that I’m playing grindcore and metal even though I’m a trained violinist - attends all of my shows which she’s able to.

carmen_b
01-08-2023, 09:41 AM
^ I did go !

I have a goal of getting out and playing myself here and there.

carmen_b
01-08-2023, 09:47 AM
I'm glad I've had the strength ( at least this week ) to stay away from N.
I'm not offering a guy who has a remote job making what I bet is over 150k a friends with benefits option. He works at THE tech company. The one that starts with a G.
If you want casual ...... hit the atm and make me an offer. Too-da - loo.

So .... here is something odd though.
His ex seems to be camped in the 850 k house ( yes I peeked on zillow lol ) .
He has an " ok " two bedroom house he rents. I wonder if he has weird traits of cheapness .
It's been a year. Why not split the huge house into two reasonable condo properties or smaller homes ? Maybe I can help them with the real estate options ha.
It is something that strikes as odd and makes me wonder if he got KICKED out ?

THEN again .... I'm considering renting an apartment. Selling a property or buying one sounds exhausting right now. I guess I see how it ended up that way.

I miss his touch though, I won't lie.

carmen_b
01-08-2023, 09:53 AM
I have a date lined up with M .
He seems really sweet and works at a ski resort.
TALL of course. 6'6''. I find 'em haha.
He sent me a photo of the new ski patrol puppy .
The intelligence of sending that photo .......TURN ON .
I offered him any evening he wanted Mon - Thurs this week and he picked Tues . :)

https://i.ibb.co/4jmPVKZ/B286717-B-4-C9-B-474-B-B3-B6-91-DE6734-CA39.jpg (https://ibb.co/p30JLbv)

AChildOfBoredom
01-09-2023, 05:51 AM
I caught a Disturbing the Peace charge Saturday night. Well, we all did. Ended up in a big “punks vs. rednecks” bar fight after some redneck woman first tried to get me away from my people then kept acting like a shot towards me when she realized I was with them. I was trying to shoot some pool and she kept intentionally bumping into me, then she pushed me when I confronted her about her, so I punched her in her fucking face and kept after her, then some of her boys tried to intervene, so mine stepped in, and it just went wild. And they ended up putting me in the back of the same patrol car as her and we ended up apologizing to each other and even kinda had a little heart-to-heart, and she already knew what charges we were going to catch and it wasn’t her first time and DTP wasn’t a big deal, and we might end up paying a fine or doing some community service. I liked her a lot better after we fought.


^ I did go !

I have a goal of getting out and playing myself here and there.

That’s be great to do. My sister has something going on, and they’re playing their first live show this Friday. I have a pretty good impression of what they’re playing, because I have an area of my basement which I’ve tried to add foam for acoustics and a PC with the Cakewalk software on it, and they used that to record a demo, though I had to have K with me to master it because she’s much more familiar with doing home recording than I am.

smeca
01-11-2023, 04:10 AM
Bf has gone shore fishing with a friend today. He's hoping to come home feeling like a real man with fish he caught that we'll eat for dinner :D

carmen_b
01-11-2023, 07:34 AM
^ I bet he'll get a whopper ! :)

chanzep
01-11-2023, 10:22 AM
I saw on my apartment online community that Wal-Mart has delivered groceries to a wrong apartment!!. Lucky the guy said he put some of the items in his fridge and he advertised for whoever to come and get it. I'm glad I leave very detailed instructions so they have no excuse.

kimbe
01-11-2023, 11:52 AM
Im' going to drive T's car on the LA-trip tomorrow. Route planner claims I only need to charge for 10 mins in Baker, with 90% soc at start. I'm going to charge to 100% tonight.. There's supposed to be charging available at the hotel..

carmen_b
01-11-2023, 12:20 PM
^ Never put it to the “ edge “.
Not worth anxiety if caught in traffic ect.!
I’d give yourself a buffer . :)

carmen_b
01-11-2023, 12:26 PM
I need to come back and give a report of the date with the ski resort hottie. :)
It went pretty well.

SnuffleUffleGrass
01-11-2023, 01:17 PM
One of my co-workers is proceeding with a high risk pregnancy even though she might die from it (according to her medical records.) I've known her for a long time too.

Like, gah. WTF. I will never understand that sort of mindset.

carmen_b
01-11-2023, 09:05 PM
The date...

He suggested Pho. Love that.
He thought maybe a basketball game which I'd normally like but felt like it might be a difficult 1st date.
Hard to chat AND could get awkward.

Anyway ..... I had taught classes that day and had to get ready at the gym to save some driving time.
IT WAS miserable. NEVER again.
A

Anyway ..... noodles.
I give him a hug when he walks in.
I'm in a black dress and tall black boots ( I told him I would be wearing pants if he picked the game ha ) .
He seems interested in me and interesting himself. I loved that the waitress sat us NEXT to each other ( square table ) not across . Great conversation is flowing. Delicious. I barely noticed he set his card on the ticket and he declined my offer to put some cash in. Gentleman.
He suggests a movie after possibly. I knew I had a 6:30a.m. wake up call and went for it anyway at 8p.m. when we found one nearby.
I LOVED this move he made. We were walking across the parking lot after dinner and he put his arm around my waist. Not just an open hand on lower back ( which is cute ) but a half hug and hand on my side.
It felt so confident. Swoon.

We get to the theatre and get tix to black panther.
It's a nice theatre with the lounger chairs. I really appreciated this suggestion because I didn't want the date to end but didn't want to visit anyones home either . It felt smooth. The previews felt like FOREVER . I wanted to touch / hold hands so I scooted mine to my right side down on my seat. He took the cue. Delicious. We ended up cuddled up with jacket as blankets. He was running his hands over my hands / arms. I think I moaned on a couple of the theatre cuddle hugs ha.

carmen_b
01-11-2023, 09:15 PM
Oh .... and I forgot to mention ....

Full Sleeve Arm tattoos.
Prrrrrr

( takes panties off and hands them to him under table lol ..... I didn't ..... but you get my drift )

carmen_b
01-11-2023, 09:26 PM
I feel scared of dating in a way after N.
It seemed like we had such a great connection.
I still feel agitated.

Of course this person didn't make SURE to mention non-exclusivity in a text at the end of the date lol.
Maybe that is a more ideal start.
I fear feeling GREAT connection and having the guy just be so " yeah , this isn't good enough to persue ............ " or some variation.

indiegirl
01-12-2023, 04:32 AM
Kinda feel bad for my new roommate. I think she was trying to get away from a bad relationship by renting this room and she signed a 3 month rental agreement. She lasted like 2 or 3 weeks and once it got near Christmas, she hasn't been back to the house since. I think she got lured to get back with the toxic guy. But she's still required to pay the remaining month left in February.

I feel bad but at the same time I am not in charge of people's life decisions. They're just supposed to be here to rent.

SnuffleUffleGrass
01-12-2023, 07:40 AM
Life is so surreal. & As much as life is dull and annoying, I am happy to be existing. YAY

carmen_b
01-12-2023, 08:53 AM
Aw Indie :
I hope she gets out of that relationship.
3 months of rent isn't a huge amount of money AND she could there over there moving on.
I really hope that isn't where she is ! Maybe she met someone new! Here's hoping.

Dreamqueen
01-12-2023, 10:18 AM
There's an apt for rent in my complex.
$1900 plus utilities for a shoe box ( 500 sq ft).

I feel bad for the person who takes it.
They will never be able to use their patio, because it's flanked with 2 smokers who are out there 24/7 on their phones. This is a non smoking building.
Add to that, their is a smoker hanging over the railing at the 2 story apt building next door. He's out there 24/7 too, and has a constant cough.

No pets allowed, but they will have to put up with a horrible inconsiderate woman in the unit across from them who lets her dog stand outside and bark at nothing from 3 am until 6 am., and randomly throughout the day.
She also lets her 10 cats shit and puke on your patio.
Nice.

The ad states that you must prove that you make 3x the rent.
Why not rent a house for a few hundred more?

Welcome to the nut house.:spin::crazy::loco: