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DonaDiabla
02-17-2017, 08:33 AM
The thread "Are you at work to find Mr Right?" is just a mindfuck to read but I am glad that it is here :)
carmen_b
02-17-2017, 10:24 AM
I do and would not recommend it.
Even down to the guy being a hot fireman.
There are so many reasons.
# 1, His ex running his schedule too often ( maybe yours has a better ex partner / better coparent set up though ).
#2, I never met the kid ( looking back it seems obvious that I was distanced for being an active dancer ), but maybe he was just giving us 4-5 months of time for us .
There's actually a ton more but I'll try to come back to the thread.
You said that you're not good at being second in any man's life. That right there could possibly give you your answer. Imagine this. He could be out on a date with you or enjoying a romantic weekend with you. All of a sudden he gets a call from his ex/baby's mom that something happened and the kid had to be rushed to hospital and needs him. Less dramatic scenario, she could call during the middle of a date to tell him that her babysitter didn't show and she needs him to watch his kid so that she can go to work. How would either of those situations make you feel? People with kids can be challenging because when you date the person, you have to be willing to deal with any issues that may come up with the kid, too and the fact that the person will put their child first when it comes down to it. If you can't accept that things probably won't go well.
persianprincess
02-17-2017, 10:52 AM
I'm on the fence regarding dating a guy who has a small child.
I got a message on a dating site from a cute, divorced fireman.
He was upfront about having a toddler with which he has partial custody.
Going against my own rule of not dating anyone with kids, I replied.
When I asked for his number, he gave it to me, but right away said that his son was with him for the next 2 days, and could I call him when he's asleep? And so it begins .
No, I can't. I go to bed very very early due to my camming schedule. Well, he thinks I work an online customer service job.
Anyone have experience with this?
Of all the jerks online, this guy seems very mellow and sincere.
But I've never been good at being second in any man's life, so not sure it's worth it.
Thanks in advance.47446
I don't date men with kids unless it's a sugar daddy situation. I don't have kids and find people banging on about how amazing their twins, or son, or daughter is to be really boring conversation .... since moving I went on a dating site and the guys responding mostly had kids. I respect anyone for being a good father, but I don't feel like dealing with your ex or your kids.
Side note - if the kids were teen or almost out of the house ... OK I could. But 9 month olds and 3 yr olds etc ... nope.
charlie61
02-17-2017, 12:43 PM
Start a new thread, beauties!! :)
Glamourmilf
02-17-2017, 04:12 PM
I do and would not recommend it.
Even down to the guy being a hot fireman.
There are so many reasons.
# 1, His ex running his schedule too often ( maybe yours has a better ex partner / better coparent set up though ).
#2, I never met the kid ( looking back it seems obvious that I was distanced for being an active dancer ), but maybe he was just giving us 4-5 months of time for us .
There's actually a ton more but I'll try to come back to the thread.
I don't date men with kids unless it's a sugar daddy situation. I don't have kids and find people banging on about how amazing their twins, or son, or daughter is to be really boring conversation .... since moving I went on a dating site and the guys responding mostly had kids. I respect anyone for being a good father, but I don't feel like dealing with your ex or your kids.
Side note - if the kids were teen or almost out of the house ... OK I could. But 9 month olds and 3 yr olds etc ... nope.
You said that you're not good at being second in any man's life. That right there could possibly give you your answer. Imagine this. He could be out on a date with you or enjoying a romantic weekend with you. All of a sudden he gets a call from his ex/baby's mom that something happened and the kid had to be rushed to hospital and needs him. Less dramatic scenario, she could call during the middle of a date to tell him that her babysitter didn't show and she needs him to watch his kid so that she can go to work. How would either of those situations make you feel? People with kids can be challenging because when you date the person, you have to be willing to deal with any issues that may come up with the kid, too and the fact that the person will put their child first when it comes down to it. If you can't accept that things probably won't go well.
All valid points ladies, thank you. The inserted photo was a YouTube video by a woman who made a list of reasons why dating a guy with kids could be a problem .
I realize that if I'm out with him an emergency could come up, and I'm fine with that.
It's just the schedule for dating itself would probably be a problem. He's already a firemen, and their hours are wacky to begin with.
Oh, and today was the day he doesn't have his son...... called him, and he's not around.
I'm going to pass.
I already have to sit around and wait in my Camroom for guys to be available to me.
Thanks for your input.
chanzep
02-17-2017, 11:17 PM
So glad I have 3 days off from my sucky job.
chanzep
02-17-2017, 11:20 PM
Im really watching a Lifetime movie lol.
buttonpop
02-18-2017, 06:07 PM
i can bounce my cheeks a thousand times better than half the chicks im always seeing in rap videos. where do they find these weak ass girls and why aren't they hiring me?? smh...
lynn2009
02-18-2017, 06:45 PM
Idk how I ever made money dancing honestly. I've been here for an hour sitting around like an awkward jackass.
whirlerz
02-18-2017, 07:30 PM
After just a little moving chore, I ate a large hamburger & a small sundae w/caramel sauce..waaaay too much caramel sauce.
lilylilylily
02-18-2017, 10:22 PM
Im really watching a Lifetime movie lol.
Lol which one? I love Lifetime movies. When I'm bored I sometimes watch them on YouTube. I watched a really good true story one with Judith light, I thought she was one of the better actresses in those movies
chanzep
02-19-2017, 08:25 PM
I don't remember what it was called it was about a teen girl dating this older famous guy. Last night I watched the Britney 1 too!.
chanzep
02-19-2017, 08:28 PM
there is also 1 about some college girls becoming Sugar babies and the 1 about the babysitters who start a hooking group!, all crazy cheesy movies!
BarbieNYC
02-20-2017, 09:20 PM
Omg I figured out why I seem to do well at work when I'm cross faded. I was rewatching videos from the concert last night and when I'm cross faded, my body movements and facial expressions are a whole lot relaxed and sexier. I never realized it until I watched the videos sober. I got to work late both nights and money was so easy even though the club was dead. I have pretty bad resting bitch face even when drunk so I think smoking a little helped combat that. Lol what a nice surprise. But doubt I'll be doing that every time I work. I don't think my body could handle it lol
LoveyDovey
02-20-2017, 11:18 PM
I just saw the cutest little french bulldog while out and about. He came up to me and put his head on me. He could sense how much I just loved him. Oh he was so sweet...just a sweet gentle soul. I want a frenchie so bad...they are so cute.
JGB2009
02-21-2017, 06:06 PM
You been acting kind of off lately. Have no clue what ur problem is. One of the few people I thought I could trust....kind of hurts but u can just go FUCK off!!!!
ScarletKitten
02-22-2017, 03:03 AM
^I love that song "A Change is Gonna Come"! I would love to see a movie about him!
Glamourmilf
02-22-2017, 04:49 AM
^^ I LOVE your siggy photo!
And that quote by Glamourmilf....she sounds very progressive.:alien::3dglasses
Lol!
:-*
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-22-2017, 08:36 AM
I've been on a Sam Cooke bender today, just listening to his music and watching some stuff on him on youtube. I can't believe there has never been a movie done on him? He was one of the most influential people in music. I wonder if it's because his death is a very touchy subject and no one is sure how to portray it because no one knows what really happened, and I feel like no matter which version of events a producer went with, it's going to end up pissing a lot of people off either way.
There are so many classic entertainment stories worth telling. I loved the movie about Dorothy Dandridge (Halle Berry played the lead role.)
SexxiLexxi
02-22-2017, 09:02 AM
I can't decide what I want to eat once my money gets deposited later today. Trying to avoid fast food but fuuuuuuuuuuck, it's gonna be difficult because I'm not fond of cooking and it's just so much easier to order food than buy it & cook the shit lol.
Adulting...it is such a bitch!
persianprincess
02-22-2017, 12:27 PM
There are so many classic entertainment stories worth telling. I loved the movie about Dorothy Dandridge (Halle Berry played the lead role.)
There's some LA celebrity death site - celebrity graves or something - anyhow it gives a back story as to where the person was living, photo of the homes, cause of death, what had been going on in their life etc - it's actually really interesting. I guess it would be kinda difficult to tastefully do a movie/tv movie on a lot of celebs.
LoveyDovey
02-23-2017, 06:56 AM
Geez I am up early..
Selina M
02-23-2017, 01:46 PM
I wish I could be invisible 95% of the time and then the visible 5% be at work when being pretty is helpful financially.
<--- girl who hates being said hello to and chatted up by strangers
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-23-2017, 07:25 PM
I love that one too.
If you haven't seen the Frankie Lymon one, Why Do Fools Fall in Love, you should, you might like it. I keep meaning to see the Ray Charles one. And Cadillac Records.
I loved the Frankie Lymon movie.
chanzep
02-23-2017, 08:56 PM
So Amber Rose has just got a strip club!.
SexxiLexxi
02-24-2017, 01:49 AM
Really body of mine...You just couldn't give me that extra 30 or so minutes of sleep!?! You just had to wake me up to go pee and now I can't go back to sleep. Thanks a lot...You're starting the day as a jackass lol.
Glamourmilf
02-24-2017, 05:26 AM
I wish I could be invisible 95% of the time and then the visible 5% be at work when being pretty is helpful financially.
<--- girl who hates being said hello to and chatted up by strangers
I was just thinking about this all week. Well, really for the last few years, actually.
Everywhere I go, especially when I don't want to talk, people are always crowding me.
Yesterday I was in the middle of paying for my stuff at a thrift store, and out if nowhere this bitch leans OVER me and my open purse to ask if that was a skirt I was buying.
Low class. Back the fuck up!!
I think she and the guy she was with were just there casing the place, because I noticed that they were standing around, not buying anything.
22lligm
02-24-2017, 08:38 AM
I paid for an online personal trainer and I was hesitant to do that because theres so many girls on IG now that sell 'training programs' and whatever else. But the girl I found actually personalized a workout and diet plan for me and does bi weekly check ins. Plus I love her body and her transformation.. she went from little skinny to super curvy and thick. I have a Kinesiology degree so none of this stuff is new to me but it just helps having someone TELL me what to do and keep me somewhat accountable. Because when I'm on my own I can get so lazy and it's hard to stick with things lol. Plus I never wanted an in person trainer because I love working out alone I don't want someone there watching me or talking to me. When I'm alone and listening to music I get in the zone better.
So my 'diet' starts today! No junk food, no fast food, lots of lean meats and veggies, more supplements & more workouts! I'm excited. She said no cheat meals this first two weeks so she can see how my body reacts to this diet plan she gave me. Honestly with how bad I eat I think 2 weeks of no junk food or bread alone will make a huge difference lol. I mean I already knew that but now I have a reason to be super healthy for 2 weeks I think it'll motivate me. I'm supposed to send her photo and measurement and weight updates when I check in so it'll be cool to see some changes.
I'm excited!
SexxiLexxi
02-24-2017, 01:58 PM
Dishes are evil. I hate doing them. Fuck. I'd rather do laundry - including sorting them, folding them, putting them into the washer/dryer. But dishes. No. Fuck no. They are evil bastards.
/end rant
Elektra Luxx
02-24-2017, 02:45 PM
I paid for an online personal trainer
I had no idea that existed. I'm going to look into it, because my motivation has been really low lately.
LoveyDovey
02-25-2017, 04:58 AM
Yikes I just woke from a dream where I was getting botox and the bitch doctor left the needle hanging in my forehead...
SexxiLexxi
02-25-2017, 06:40 AM
I've had such a productive week. I'm so very proud of myself for pushing through the exhaustion and desire to sleep the days away. My house is 95% clean...still a few areas to get done like the cleaning out of the fridge but it feels amazing to accomplish so much. Now to transfer that over into my camming would be an epic achievement!
Oh. And just the fact that I've been awake since 5AM on a fucking Saturday is a miracle in of itself!!!!!!!! lol
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-25-2017, 08:29 AM
I paid for an online personal trainer and I was hesitant to do that because theres so many girls on IG now that sell 'training programs' and whatever else. But the girl I found actually personalized a workout and diet plan for me and does bi weekly check ins. Plus I love her body and her transformation.. she went from little skinny to super curvy and thick. I have a Kinesiology degree so none of this stuff is new to me but it just helps having someone TELL me what to do and keep me somewhat accountable. Because when I'm on my own I can get so lazy and it's hard to stick with things lol. Plus I never wanted an in person trainer because I love working out alone I don't want someone there watching me or talking to me. When I'm alone and listening to music I get in the zone better.
So my 'diet' starts today! No junk food, no fast food, lots of lean meats and veggies, more supplements & more workouts! I'm excited. She said no cheat meals this first two weeks so she can see how my body reacts to this diet plan she gave me. Honestly with how bad I eat I think 2 weeks of no junk food or bread alone will make a huge difference lol. I mean I already knew that but now I have a reason to be super healthy for 2 weeks I think it'll motivate me. I'm supposed to send her photo and measurement and weight updates when I check in so it'll be cool to see some changes.
I'm excited!
Please keep updating. I'm trying to go from curvy to more slender/muscular.
22lligm
02-25-2017, 08:36 AM
I had no idea that existed. I'm going to look into it, because my motivation has been really low lately.
Yeah alot of those fitness Instagram girls offer training programs.. some personalize for their clients and some just give out a general program to every client (which I think isn't worth the money). I like who i went with though I think it was totally worth the money (as long as I stick with it lol).
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-25-2017, 09:05 AM
Yeah alot of those fitness Instagram girls offer training programs.. some personalize for their clients and some just give out a general program to every client (which I think isn't worth the money). I like who i went with though I think it was totally worth the money (as long as I stick with it lol).
My situation is so weird I have to have an in- person fitness trainer help me. I don't know how I got so heavy- some of it is muscle. Trying to lose this weight is a battle.
BarbieNYC
02-25-2017, 09:25 AM
when you get the last pair of size 8 discontinued heels. Mwuahaha
I always have the unfortunate luck of finding super hot stripper heels that get discontinued. My last pair I bought in downtown LA and they are the sexiest shoes I've ever owned. They look like really hot civilian heels with the comfort of stripper heels. Unfortunately they are discontinued and sold out everywhere online so I had to find a similar pair and anything even remotely close was sold out. So hopefully this pair I found fits. This is my first time shoe shopping online.
lynn2009
02-25-2017, 11:45 AM
I quit my job on Wednesday February 15 and offered to stay a bit longer than 2 weeks and have my last day be March 3. Big mistake: not only did my boss not care at all that I have to teach him or my shitty co-worker how to do everything, he's being more of an ass than ever!! My first midterm is a take home and due March 3 also by the end of the business day. And in typical fashion I'm feeling totally screwed, having an extra two entire days to deal with it would have been such a help.
seashell
02-25-2017, 04:35 PM
My friend is trying to talk me into performing some songs on ukulele at an open mic night. I think I'm going to do it.
JGB2009
02-26-2017, 12:28 AM
Working the graveyard shift is lonelyyyyyy.................................
Aurora_Sunset
02-26-2017, 02:54 PM
Last St. Patrick's Day, I visited a friend in another state and brought pot brownies. This was the first time she had ever done weed in any way. Now, I can't smoke at all because of my job and she is ULTRA stoner. She smokes all day, every day, has far surpassed me in equipment, knowledge, and what she's tried, and told me the other day that the main reason she's been so productive as an artist the last few months is because I introduced her to weed and it makes her so happy and creative. Like, dang, girl... a year ago, you were almost terrified to eat that brownie...
Kinda cracks me up, but it's a little bizarre lol
ScarletKitten
02-26-2017, 06:05 PM
I just watched "Crazy Stupid Love" and omg, one of the best movies I've ever seen, seriously. Pure genius. What an insane movie. Loved the entire cast!
chanzep
02-26-2017, 07:26 PM
Apparently she didn't, she was talking about how she bought Ace of Diamonds and now they're suing her for slander. What actually happened is that she's trying to trademark the name 'Ace of Diamonds' so she can open up her own stripclub with the name, but it hasn't been approved yet and so now the actual AoD is suing her.
http://www.tmz.com/2017/02/24/amber-rose-ace-of-diamonds-lawsuit-trademark/
http://www.tmz.com/2017/02/24/amber-rose-sued-by-ace-of-diamonds/
Oh yeah I saw it, kinda disappointed wanted to visit it, or read on here about someone going lol.
charlie61
02-26-2017, 08:26 PM
Drinking a glass of wine, watching good TV, candles and fairy lights in my dark, cozy apartment. This is the best I've felt in years.
22lligm
02-26-2017, 10:12 PM
Omg idk how I didn't know about this already but I just cooked my dinner in foil in the oven and it came out so perfectly! Chicken breast, sweet potato, asparagus, and broccoli all wrapped up with seasoning & olive oil & lemon in a foil pouch thing at 400 degrees for 30 minutes. It literally came out so perfect. Normally I hate cooking chicken cause it was always a pain in the ass but now this was so easy I can eat it everyday lol.
persianprincess
02-26-2017, 11:54 PM
I'm irritable as fuck and short tempered since finding out my friend is going onto dialysis due to their kidneys shutting in ... that's my mom and a really good friend, broke my heart when they broke down crying on me.
chanzep
02-27-2017, 03:41 PM
coming on here somehow reminded me of my something I forgot to add to my online grocery shopping order. today is my 1st day off in a week and im so tired, im back at work tomorrow until Friday, so I put off anything that involves leaving the house, this is the most time consuming part time job I ever had and my shifts are so late/early. blah im so tired cannot wait for my vacay in 2 weeks!. ugh I have so much shit to do!, cleaning etc, cannot wait to pursue opportunities in April. I need routine!
WendiStarr
02-27-2017, 04:11 PM
I have a buddy out in California who I sometimes watch Netflix movies with(he and I both start the movie at the same time, even though we live on different sides of the country and will pause if one of us has to go to the bathroom, get something to drink). I picked the movie last time. He picked a movie called Teenage Cocktail. It was so unrealistic about camming. I bet anyone who watched that would think,"Webcamming is that easy? Cool, I wanna do that!". Then again, adding the reality of having to spend countless hours in front of a cam barely making squat before you get a fan base would be boring in a movie. I had to laugh about it. He said he wishes he was a girl so he could get paid every time he turns his webcam on and get paid to sleep on cam. I told him that it doesn't work like that. I will say that that was a dramatic ending that I didn't see coming.
chanzep
02-27-2017, 04:46 PM
Why am I craving a grilled cheese!, thank god there is no bread in the house!
whirlerz
02-27-2017, 05:20 PM
Yea.
I just ordered a huge ass meal, was moving so I need it.
Genoveve
02-27-2017, 07:17 PM
He said he wishes he was a girl so he could get paid every time he turns his webcam on and get paid to sleep on cam. I told him that it doesn't work like that. I will say that that was a dramatic ending that I didn't see coming.
Ugh. If that's all there was everyone would be doing it. I watch a lot of youtubers and they get the same crap all the time; 'Get a real job,' or "Must be nice to just be able to turn your camera on and make money.' Ummmmm there's a lot more to it than that.