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ava$
12-07-2015, 01:26 PM
NOt making $$ and staying at the same club would be a killer 4 me. The $$ is the only reason I even dance, if it wasn't for that, id be out!

kaninchen
12-07-2015, 01:35 PM
^It's funny, I got made fun of at my first club for "wasting" money on nursing school. One girl I gave a ride home to went so far to sabotage me, took clinical paperwork out of the back seat at three am that was due at seven am. So, instead of sleeping for three hours, I had to redo it from scratch.

Holy shit, that's terrifying. I'm so sorry she did that!

wednesday86
12-07-2015, 02:53 PM
^It's funny, I got made fun of at my first club for "wasting" money on nursing school. One girl I gave a ride home to went so far to sabotage me, took clinical paperwork out of the back seat at three am that was due at seven am. So, instead of sleeping for three hours, I had to redo it from scratch.

omg I would bust her grill

Leica
12-07-2015, 11:23 PM
Never saying no to a drink.
Forget that you have a sense of humor.
Get involved with that hottie you met at the club who's crazier than you.
Constantly compare your earnings, looks and hustle to those of other dancers.
Oh, and spend your money as quickly as you earn without nary a thought about a rainy day fund or retirement.


I'm really glad this post exists. Makes me feel a lot better commiserating with you ladies.

SweetJulia
12-08-2015, 07:37 PM
omg I would bust her grill
I wanted to, but I was scared of getting fired and she had a good eighty pounds on me. Jokes on her, it was full of big words she'd never be able to understand.

charlie61
12-18-2015, 11:05 PM
Read Hustle Hut obsessively and try to use every single hustle tip simultaneously. If you lose a sale, it's because you didn't study hard enough. Obviously.

MissLouboutin
12-18-2015, 11:36 PM
Become friends with dancers that compare their earnings with others dancers.

NYC.Bianca
12-23-2015, 11:07 PM
do what I am doing when already on burn out from a couple bad nights and wait almost all month to go to work the last week of the month to make rent because you haven't yet.

Yes, I am ashamed to say, I'll be working everyday into the new year now.... Viva la NYC! 😫

Artema
12-24-2015, 01:36 AM
Not keeping boundaries with regulars, so they keep blowing up you're phone with non-stop texting.

kassie
12-24-2015, 12:04 PM
When a fellow dancer starts trying to pick a fight with you for no reason; don't respond. The desire to go off and punch the bitch in her face will subside. And if you do the right thing and just complain to the manager and he tells the both of you to behave or you both will get fired, don't defend yourself. Just bite your tongue. After all, you don't want to get fired from your shit job now would you? Who cares if you did nothing to deserve what other miserable people do or say to you?

This also applies for the other bitches at the club like the snotty ass bartenders, massage girls, CUSTOMERS etc..

Lord give me patience...

charlie61
12-24-2015, 01:27 PM
When your body starts to react negatively to your work (like when you develop a traumatic response to having your nipples touched because you're always touching them at work), don't tell your partner about it. Just soldier on - push through your PTS and it'll go away, right??

(I'm thankful to have never made some of these mistakes - I'm having fun coming up with stuff based on Life Support posts I've seen over the years...)

Leica
12-26-2015, 07:52 AM
do what I am doing when already on burn out from a couple bad nights and wait almost all month to go to work the last week of the month to make rent because you haven't yet.

Yes, I am ashamed to say, I'll be working everyday into the new year now.... Viva la NYC!
You and me both darling. Everyday except NYE( only because my brother is home from college and I want to spend it with him). I'm even throwing in a couple of doubles to boot! Good luck babes.

charlie61
12-26-2015, 12:55 PM
Cancel all plans both on the days you work and on the days after your shifts. Work is such a huge deal - it's not just a job - that you need at least 24 hours to prepare for and recover from each shift. This will help you focus more and more of your free time on stripping so that it truly begins to consume your life. It will also help you maximize time spent thinking about each shift - you must remember to take this job very, very seriously. Suddenly, your part-time dancing gig will feel like a full-time commitment, which will help you convince yourself that little things like school and family are BURDENS keeping you from realizing your full potential as a dancer.

charlie61
12-28-2015, 02:21 PM
At work, dance to the same set of songs for every shift. Tell yourself that it's because those songs are "yours" and make you more money than any others could. Have a diva fit if the DJ ever plays "your songs" for anyone else, or if he ever plays any other tracks during your stage sets. Obviously your music should be the focus of your shifts, not your customers (or their music preferences). Anything you can do to make each and every shift feel the exact same as the last will pave your way to burnout!

Selina M
12-28-2015, 08:28 PM
^ Hey now, that doesn't count as long as you still like them yourself :P

On a similar note...
Allow the DJ to keep playing you the same artist (whom he 'decided on' 1.5 years ago when he initially asked what kind of music you like and you said "So-and-so, stuff like that". Allow him to play you the exact same 3 songs every time, instead of any of the other 20 songs by that artist he has. But hey, he's set in his ways and letting him do this is easier than attempting to argue with him, even if you visibly roll your eyes every time you get on stage.

Laurisa
01-01-2016, 03:09 PM
Always go in whenever your manager texts you saying "We need girls".

Work every holiday.

Always show up early and leave late.

Take as much Adderall as you can get, don't eat, stay awake for days at a time. Be sure to buy chewing gum since you will twitch like a crack head without it. Also, drink lots of energy drinks all night and no water. You will be super skinny and make lots of money, possibly not from selling dances but at least by selling your Adderall. Also, be sure to buy some weed or Vicodin so you can finally sleep after the 3rd night of staying awake.

charlie61
01-01-2016, 03:14 PM
"Push yourself."

(Applies to many scenarios)

Novabynight
01-03-2016, 10:28 AM
This thread is so good!

I love the one about dancing to the same songs every night, I totally do that sometimes and it's so true!

*spend all night in the dressing room getting blackout drunk with the other dancers and complaining about how slow it is
work every single day at a slow club during the off-season and beat yourself up whenever you don't make your highly unrealistic goals
Yell at all your customers at the tip rail for not tipping enough and throw a fit on the stage
Eat anything you want and never exercise because you have such an amazing personality that your customers won't care about those extra 20 pounds and then become depressed about consistently making less than $100 a shift saying "it used to be so good at this club but things have changed"
Give out your number to every guy who buys a dance and go on dates with ugly dudes you don't like in hopes they will come back and spend money on you, even though they never will
Spend all your money on expensive meals, drugs, booze, and clothes you will never wear because you work hard and you deserve it and then Pawn your computer/car/guitar/cell phone when you don't have enough to pay your rent
Travel dance when you need money badly to a hit or miss club saying "I'll pay for my food and hotel with what I make tonight" and end up owing money to th club and sleeping in your car
Get fake boobs on a payment plan so you can make more money only to realize you are making exactly the same and now you're stuck stripping for 5 more years just to pay for them.
Buy cocaine with your last money to make it through your shift, get anxiety from it and make no money and now you don't have money to eat tomorrow. Console yourself by drinking all th alcohol in your apartment when you get home so that you're sick the next day and can't make it into your shift
Care what everyone thinks of you and take everything personally at the club

charlie61
01-03-2016, 12:37 PM
Oooooh, gurl, you have LIVED.

:grouphug:

charlie61
01-03-2016, 04:56 PM
On nights when you aren't working but want to go out, run through your pre-work routine of showering and shaving in the exact same way you would if you were working that night, and try to ensure your makeup looks as similar as possible to your work makeup! With any luck, you'll spend your free night resenting the time you spent getting ready instead of enjoying yourself. You will inevitably think to yourself that you 'wasted' your time and makeup "for free" when you could've just gone into work instead.

Novabynight
01-03-2016, 06:38 PM
haha most of those things are observations from other dancers i have had the "pleasure" of working with

my thing would be the one about getting down on yourself for having a bad night and thinking you aren't pretty/skinny/likable enough because of one bad night or weekend

Selina M
01-03-2016, 09:55 PM
Realize you cannot handle more than 2 days of stupid in a row, yet force yourself to go to work anyway... bail out after 2 hours... and thus feel like you 'worked' even though you really didn't.

ThisIsThatGirl
01-06-2016, 08:16 AM
Acquire some much credit card debt and a loser boyfriend with no job on top of everyday living expenses so that you pretty much have to work every single damn night. And on the nights when you make shit or not nearly enough to cover housefees tell yourself it is because you genuinely suck as a stripper, are not pretty enough, or smooth enough and that if you want to make money you have to do things you are not comfortable doing like letting customers touch you all over because all the other girls let him do it so it is standard now! All of this while dealing with a loser, broke ass boyfriend who refuses to get a job but doesn't want you to strip yet has the nerve accept your stripping money for living expenses, food, xbox and other dumb shit.

kaninchen
01-06-2016, 01:45 PM
Acquire some much credit card debt and a loser boyfriend with no job on top of everyday living expenses so that you pretty much have to work every single damn night. And on the nights when you make shit or not nearly enough to cover housefees tell yourself it is because you genuinely suck as a stripper, are not pretty enough, or smooth enough and that if you want to make money you have to do things you are not comfortable doing like letting customers touch you all over because all the other girls let him do it so it is standard now! All of this while dealing with a loser, broke ass boyfriend who refuses to get a job but doesn't want you to strip yet has the nerve accept your stripping money for living expenses, food, xbox and other dumb shit.

Oh, girl. I've been there too. That won't just make you burn out from sex work, it'll make you burn out from life! :hug:

ScarletKitten
01-13-2016, 03:04 AM
When you go grocery shopping, panic every time you see an older white man in a business suit & think to yourself that he recognizes you from the club. Make sure to build it up in your head more and more, and then start having a nervous breakdown in the middle of the store, thinking that every male in there has seen you half naked. You should have just stayed home. Don't even bother going out to get food, because someone might recognize you! It's better to just stay home and starve. Then maybe you can lose a few pounds that way, AND not be recognized- 2 birds one stone, right?

Aurora14
01-14-2016, 07:27 AM
Quadruple the amount of hours you work with no adjustment period.
Do this at a time when your daytime schedule is just as hectic as your work schedule.
Make sure you only get 2 hours of sleep a day so that you can get as much done that is possible during your waking hours.
Once you realize you are miserable, just down tons of drinks and shots to deal with it.
When you get drunk, punch as many rude/handsy customers as possible.

Tourdefranzia
01-18-2016, 05:06 PM
Staying at the same club even though you know you should have moved on long ago.

charlie61
01-18-2016, 05:15 PM
Work a slow shift every week just because you like the staff on that shift.

Optimist
01-20-2016, 11:02 AM
Work a slow shift every week just because you like the staff on that shift.

OMG I thought I was the only weirdo who's done that. :D

kaninchen
01-20-2016, 12:44 PM
OMG I thought I was the only weirdo who's done that. :D

Me too! One of my favorite things about threads like this is finding out that I am, in fact, not the only weirdo stripper.

charlie61
01-20-2016, 02:47 PM
Start coming in later and later into your shift, telling yourself it's because you're putting more effort into your hair / makeup. This is a fantastic self-sabotage maneuver, as it further limits the time you have to make money, which increases the pressure. Tell yourself that you're not missing anything - "it's always slow during that time, anyway."

siliconedoll
01-28-2016, 03:31 PM
I can't believe how many of these are things I'm currently doing. I'm so unhappy at the moment and my anxiety is at it's worst and I didn't really know why until I saw this thread. I'm glad I found this, hopefully I can break some of my bad habits.

Dakota Pink
01-30-2016, 11:11 PM
Spend more and more money on cute clothes, shoes and matching panties/garters/accessories... Just because the club is dead, it's not that there's no money, it's because your clothes aren't cute enough.

Seriously, it's just time to move on, new club or new city, but a new wardrobe when you haven't been making money in ages (months, not slow seasons) is not going to help you out of getting burnt out.

Dakota Pink
01-30-2016, 11:25 PM
Let every negative comment from every customer effect you personally. And definitely argue with the most asinine, ignorant customers that come in the club because they aren't there to pick a fight and be a bully, they are telling you the truth. Ugh!

We've all wanted to argue with them, but I've learned that walking away is better; arguments either lead to the bully hurting your money by attempting to involve other customers or by attempting to physically hurt you. It's so much better to walk away, find a new custy, change clothes, take a break, just leave them alone, because they can be so harmful to your sanity and your money if you become a part of their stupid game.

Dakota Pink
01-30-2016, 11:40 PM
The only way to make money is to get drunk, always exceed your personal boundaries and assume everyone is always making more money than you are, dancers and hourly employees. Remember since stripping is so easy, everyone always makes a ton of cash with no hard work at all, so they always tip the employees an outrageous amount of money because everyone else makes so much.

I will almost always tip at least the minimum unless I had a horrible night and I discussed the tip to my coworkers beforehand. I can't assume that because I "know" a girl made $1500 that night that she alone tipped my dj $150 (10% of the nights earnings) so I can skimp his tip that night without an issue. (BS). just pay your fees and try not to screw over the people who help you make money so you can continue to make money every night you work. We have to make our money, not walk away with what we think we deserve and want, but what we actually made. And always remember there are good and bad nights, you can't let a few bad nights change your personality and start to hurt your money because that has always burnt me out the fastest out of any of my actions.

IndigoCat
02-01-2016, 01:05 PM
-When your dancing on stage you just look at all the girls giving dances and get yourself in a bad mood
-When you just keep comparing yourself to everyone else
-You always set up these high expectations for every night

charlie61
02-01-2016, 02:10 PM
Relevant thread for those of us who try to burn ourselves out by setting goals. Thread is short so far but has some great posts! (Looking at you, Simone, red, & kaninchen!)

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?207557-How-goal-setting-effects-hustling

ScarletKitten
02-02-2016, 04:12 AM
Spend your free time reading depressing conspiracy theories online. The night before you have to work, make sure you read angry feminist literature about how the world was built and designed for the sole purpose to please men, and how women are all enslaved to serve men sexually & to kiss the male egos' asses in order to survive. Then read about how Marilyn Monroe was murdered by Hollywood....and how all the pop stars are mind-controlled sex slaves. Keep reading this kind of material over and over again in order to prep your mind for a complete meltdown, operating on the idea that you only exist to be a mind-controlled, sex-slave, broken-doll dancer for the rest of your life...

My god, have I tortured myself enough??

charlie61
02-05-2016, 01:25 PM
Make sure to end your 'work week' on a slow shift so that on your days off, your last memory of the club is of having to work your ass off to make any money.

(But seriously, having a slow shift followed by a busy shift does wonders for my attitude. I leave on a positive note, feeling like I'm looking forward to working again.)

girlyglitter
02-16-2016, 11:32 PM
Legally change your name to your stripper name

always wear your dancing outfits under your streetclothes kind of like superman

if a club only schedules you 4 nights a week, find another club that will schedule you for the remaining of the week. and then find clubs to work every single dayshift

burn a cd of the songs your dj always plays for you and ONLY listen to those songs when your not working. Use them as your alarm clock, in the car driving to and from work, etc

use your dancer bag as your purse

always wear your heels when your not working...whether swimming or walking on the beach, etc

charlie61
02-16-2016, 11:40 PM
^Giiiirl...you cray! :D

ScarletKitten
02-16-2016, 11:42 PM
After coming home from a night of working, immediately crash and fall asleep as soon as you get home, without even taking a shower. That way you can sleep in club smell all night long. Wake up and smell the club in your sheets and in your hair and feel absolutely disgusting.

(I only did this once, and it was not on purpose. Anyway it made me hate myself the next morning. Just, ewww.)

rareaspasia
02-17-2016, 10:41 AM
After coming home from a night of working, immediately crash and fall asleep as soon as you get home, without even taking a shower. That way you can sleep in club smell all night long. Wake up and smell the club in your sheets and in your hair and feel absolutely disgusting.

(I only did this once, and it was not on purpose. Anyway it made me hate myself the next morning. Just, ewww.)

I did that not long ago and had dreams about being in the club all night. Needless to say, I showed up at my day job tired and in a terrible mood.

Tara Christine
02-24-2016, 10:12 PM
I'm actually trying really hard not to be this way but I am. I forced myself to quit last time i got sucked in. Once you get sucked in and it becomes a lifestyle your earning potential goes down because you know you'll be there everyday and working doubles nonstop because the only life and friends you have are in the strip club...

Tara Christine
02-24-2016, 10:18 PM
Work a slow shift every week just because you like the staff on that shift.
omg i do this. I find myself working doubles just because i like day staff then Im forced to stay for night because I didn't make any money lol

Novabynight
03-15-2016, 10:56 AM
haha this thread is still solid GOLD. I know many of these are exaggerations but it is so sad because i literally know girls that actually do some of this stuff and wonder why they are so unhappy..

neliana
03-17-2016, 03:04 PM
Make your ENTIRE life about stripping. Go by your dancer name 24/7, wear revealing clothing no matter what the situation, install a pole in your home. Talk about the club constantly-think about the club constantly. School, a regular job, volunteer work, dating? Forget it! Dancing is everything!
Only shop for dancer related things (bikinis, makeup etc) Those cute PJs or comfy sweats? Nah, can't wear them in the club!

Yeah I burned out bad...quit for a good 4 years, lol.

Tourdefranzia
03-17-2016, 03:27 PM
When you are really killing it at work, buy yourself a bunch of really expensive presents. Only the best will do, buy top shelf liquor, imported luxury cars, designer clothes and bags. Just assume you are going to make this kind of income forever, so go ahead and get a bunch of credit cards and use them all the time ('cause, you know, cash back or air travel miles or whatever).

Oh, and while you're at it, just move into that luxury apartment or townhome. You're going to need new furniture, too, so just put on your credit cards. You made $2k last Saturday, so paying rent of $4k a month shouldn't be a problem at all.

Since you are making all this money, buy expensive presents for friends and family. Get botox and fillers when you're only 26. Spa days are just part of the job, right?

Just follow these steps and burnout will hit about the same time as your IRS bill. Guaranteed.

NicoRico
07-06-2016, 09:56 PM
omg i do this. I find myself working doubles just because i like day staff then Im forced to stay for night because I didn't make any money lol

Omg this is me. I love dayshift and I can make money with regulars on dayshift, but I know I should just commit to doing nights again :( I just love my day managers and coworkers!!! Dayshift feels like just a bunch of us having fun and goofing off

rareaspasia
07-07-2016, 09:34 AM
Don't forget to work when you're sick or hurt. And don't forget to rethink every mistake you made and hate on yourself obsessively, even if you messed up five years ago. Bonus points for spending time staring at yourself in the mirror analyzing your tummy poodge and cellulite instead of sitting with customers who won't even notice your flaws because they think you are beautiful.