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seashell
03-12-2020, 06:33 AM
^That sounds awesome! I wish I had a place in the woods to hide out in for a while. Just relax and let my dogs run free, lol.
I came here to scope out the Coronavirus talk! It's such a huge bummer, I was supposed to do a ton of international travel over the next few months... now my country and others near me are starting to shut down schools and do travel bans. Sigh... but if it helps stop the spread, I'm all for it.
carmen_b
03-12-2020, 08:20 AM
^ Oddly, this is only time in the last 2-3 years I've been happy to be positioned in the USA .
The idea of anything " pandemic " even at a small scale ( I think it will be contained really ) makes me feel more comfy HERE .
That said , I honestly can't wait for the next Thailand or Bali trip.
I'm booking one of the two as soon as this world health issue is squashed.
Overall .... you've got to work with what you've got haha. I wish my little mountain spot was more comfy. It just really isn't ( admittedly ) until May so I'm being a pest to family nearby + getting hotels here and there.
carmen_b
03-12-2020, 08:25 AM
^ The whole Corona thing I feel like is bringing out the " shoulda would coulda " vibe from everyone.
Do you guys notice this ?
It makes me want to tell people " NO ..... YOU wouldn't have booked a trip to Italy this April anyway . You would have just procrastinated and then done nothing like last year. Quit pretending that this virus held you back ! " Haha.
90% of the people saying this thing ruined international trip xyz would have already ruined it themselves !!!
xxxGothBarbie
03-12-2020, 01:40 PM
I'm trying not to be in a hysteria like the media is doing to everyone, I'm avoiding ppl a bit more than usual & def washing my hands more after returning from doing errands. It sux & I hope the contain this virus, for everyone's sake & sanity. My anxiety is being triggered by it & I'm trying to just stay calm.
I def don't wanna be traveling right now esp to areas that are closing everything down that I had plans to go to. Makes me wanna hunker down & work online more, make those $$$ back that I need. Then hopefully travel for summer.
carmen_b
03-12-2020, 02:06 PM
Really the best defense is staying away from large crowds / crowded areas.
It hasn’t changed my life much. I was planning to anyway. Haha.
xxxGothBarbie
03-13-2020, 09:48 PM
^ Ya I agree! Today I ordered groceries online to avoid as much as possible but they won't arrive until tues :( oh well guess I'll fast a bit haha
carmen_b
05-15-2020, 09:12 AM
Well ..... I had to be out of the house sit for 5 days this week.
Mon / Tues . I was at J's. Tues. I asked if I could stay.
Wed. / Thurs. he had his daughter ( so I figured I wouldn't get an invite to stay which is fine ..... it's very early to stay over even in another section of the house ).
Friday is finally here and I think it's going to be one more night in this dive motel. This hotel is three blocks from the house sit and I am so eager to get back and take all the stuff out of the car as soon as I can tomorrow ( Saturday ). I learned a lesson this week and won't pack haphazardly again .
Also .... I told him I might have the house back tonight or maybe not until Sat. morning and he didn't say " well come by tonight if you don't get it back ". I've known him almost 7 weeks and if I'm staying in his area ...... he needs to make this a little easier. We have to have a convo but I'm putting it off. My place north is open for the season ( my cabin in the forest ) and I'm kind of staying here living a normal-ish life FOR him somewhat. It's getting hotter here but I can't stand the thought of leaving quite yet. I actually don't *want* to leave at all . I want to stay but have him come north here and there with me as he can spare time.
carmen_b
05-15-2020, 09:42 AM
Ok .... I'd love to get someones take on it. :)
Is 7 weeks together too soon to kind of *expect* him to just invite me to stay when I'm displaced from the house sit ? We are talking about incredibly *sporadic* need to stay over here. In the last last 30 days ..... it's just been these 5 days. I'm specifically talking about tonight. I feel like it was too early to stay Wed. / Thurs. with daughter there.
Next time I'll probably just head north when this happens and if he wants to offer an alternative to " I'll be back in a week " he can speak up.
carmen_b
05-15-2020, 10:19 AM
I'm counting down the *hours* to getting the house sit place back lol.
22 to go !!
kortneykay
05-15-2020, 11:49 AM
^^^^
Carmen do you mean contribute financially? I'm confused about the question.
Currently still in Europe. Loving life. We're still on a curfew but able to go outside since 24h lockdown in early March. Found a huge lake near my house and a ton of hilly trails.
carmen_b
05-15-2020, 02:20 PM
I feel he should have offered to just let me stay at his place.
I am frustrated because he knows I'm in a hotel and paying for it. His daughter isn't there today.
His very nice home is also large so we would hardly be cramped.
I'm kind of getting over it but I'm feeling 50/50 on it where it's also not sitting great with me currently.
KK : Europe sounds amazing ! Super jealous.
carmen_b
05-15-2020, 09:08 PM
Eh ..... choose your battle I guess right ? ^
I'm not sure it's worth arguing with him over something that cost me $36. It was also kind of nice to have the day to myself in a way. I turned me phone off around 2 p.m. other than checking it briefly a few hours later and went into the back country with my dog.
kortneykay
05-16-2020, 07:29 AM
Eh ..... choose your battle I guess right ? ^
I'm not sure it's worth arguing with him over something that cost me $36. It was also kind of nice to have the day to myself in a way. I turned me phone off around 2 p.m. other than checking it briefly a few hours later and went into the back country with my dog.
Are you fucking him? If you are he absolutely should be financially benefiting you in some way (rent, bills, etc.) as for covid I wouldn't want to risk my heath by living in someone's house, especially under these stressful times. Men are selfish. But if I'm not getting paid- I wouldn't be wasting my time.
carmen_b
05-16-2020, 09:03 AM
^ He takes very good care of me. He does nice inside the house dates and we do a lot of activities outside ( we live in an area abundant in outdoor adventure ).
I've been seeing him since late March and banging him since mid April for 5 weeks already so the germ risk is far behind us. We took the risk on each other late March.
It's not a date for pay type of thing but he is very gentlemanly and generous. I don't think I've really payed for anything at all other than picking up a to go lunch or something. I feel he should have at least *invited* me to stay last night. I'm irritated about it but not sure if a $36 motel room is worth being salty about ( probably not ). Our area just opened up again so our first date out in public will be this upcoming week haha.
Thanks for your feedback too. He is well off ( but still in the normal person range ) . Dating him has been great fun. His time is valuable. He respects my time a lot.
I do agree with you. If for some reason it doesn't work with him I'm going to hit the country clubs and golf places around here and date an older very established gent next. After some serious frustration with men who just weren't busy enough themselves to respect my time , I took on a new strategy in early December.
It's been working great.
carmen_b
05-16-2020, 09:24 AM
35 minutes until check out time of those guests and I get the house sit back ! Haha.
But whose counting ?
kortneykay
05-25-2020, 04:35 AM
Hey ladies, I just started a homadic youtube channel. Check it out if you like. i'll be adding a lot more content in the future based on homading and sex work on the road.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Su9RBkjDgEA&t
carmen_b
05-25-2020, 07:13 PM
Is my nice blender really worth even going over to a storage place for? Probably NOT ! ;/
I'm trying to " keep it light " but I do get tempted by comforts and can't decide about dragging it to the house sit South.
carmen_b
05-26-2020, 03:53 PM
Two more days solo in the mountains or the chance to come back and jump on J tonight ?
Update : OH ..... I picked RIGHT .
Yessssss. Last night was so fun with him.
:)
carmen_b
05-27-2020, 03:04 PM
I've got clothing, coffee makers , and dog stuff at my house sit , at J's place , and at my place North.
Haha. I scattered things across three locations . It's really improved life to have essentials at each place.
I announced my location on FB as this one ( South ! ) .
I wanted J to see it to indicate my seriousness about being here. :)
Now I need to find a gym / yoga ect. !
I also need to find co-working space that will allow me to bring my small dog inside.
I will comfy in this area when I find all my places ! I'm excited to spend more time here.
Blovely
05-27-2020, 11:44 PM
Ok .... I'd love to get someones take on it. :)
Is 7 weeks together too soon to kind of *expect* him to just invite me to stay when I'm displaced from the house sit ? We are talking about incredibly *sporadic* need to stay over here. In the last last 30 days ..... it's just been these 5 days. I'm specifically talking about tonight. I feel like it was too early to stay Wed. / Thurs. with daughter there.
Next time I'll probably just head north when this happens and if he wants to offer an alternative to " I'll be back in a week " he can speak up.
I feel he should have offered to just let me stay at his place.
I am frustrated because he knows I'm in a hotel and paying for it. His daughter isn't there today.
His very nice home is also large so we would hardly be cramped.
I'm kind of getting over it but I'm feeling 50/50 on it where it's also not sitting great with me currently.
I think it really depends on what each of you are looking for, your personalities and your views. I rarely ever ask for help in fact I absolutely hate asking and it actually pains me to do so. However I want a man who can help if and when I ask and I'd like for him to be selfless and acute enough to offer help if and when he see's me struggling. For me its not even about what role a man should fit or gender roles its about human decency. When I care about people I pay close attention to their wants and needs, I will move the earth for them so I expect the same in return. If someone I care for needs help I'm always willing to help unless or until they take advantage and or show unappreciation.
However at the same time I think its a little entitled to expect another person to give someone a place to stay. Its one thing if both parties agreed to stay together or if someone offers but its another to expect it. If I worked my ass off to have my own place whether its a apt, house, trailer, little cabin in the woods or bus I wouldn't want someone coming to stay with me regardless if its a pandemic or not. I say it all the time when people ask me for rides.... I didn't get my license and a car to drive other people around. I feel the same way when it comes to anything else people earn on their own. It may seem or sound a little selfish but people don't generally earn personal things like a car, house, etc to share... they earn it for themself.
I'm also very anti-social and introverted. I like and need my own space. I don't mind people coming to hangout or a dude I'm dating sleeping over every weekend or a few nights a week but staying??? no thanks. Also often times when people ask or are offered to stay for a few days those few days turn into weeks and then months and then years. I don't want anyone staying with me unless its my mom or my imaginary children. Now if I had a guest house or some other separate dwelling then sure a bf, friend, family, etc could stay whenever and for however long because its not my personal resources or space. But when it comes to my personal space and resources I'd rather give a person money to stay somewhere else rather than have them invade my personal space and use up my personal resources. I need my alone time and I like having things a certain way. Little things annoy me like dirty dishes in the sink, oil and crumbs on the stove and people not leaving things the way they were. Staying with me just wouldn't be a pleasant situation for me or the other person. I personally just don't and wouldn't want to deal with it. People get and have their own space just so that they don't have to deal with other people, I am one of those people.
I think he could've and should've offered but at the same time if it was me I wouldn't have offered because I'm not trying to potentially move anyone in whether its a bf, friend or family member. I feel that people in someone's circle whether its a bf, friend, etc should be willing to help in times of need but I also feel that its important to try not to be in those types of situations because being dependent on other people or having people being dependent on you doesn't often end well and it leaves a bad taste in people's mouth. Its not a good a feeling or situation to be in whether you're on the giving or receiving end. Although I expect men to be providers and to provide a better experience and life than I'm accustom to I'm not trying to stay with them outside of bf and gf sleepovers unless marriage is on the immediate horizon.
Long story short expecting someone to invite you to stay with them really depends on your expectations and the other persons personality, wants, needs and views. Having my own space is crucial to my sanity so I have no desire to want to stay at someone else's place and I'd prefer them not to stay at mine. If a motel/hotel, room, apt or house wasn't what I wanted to pay for I'd much rather get a van, rv, bus to live in rather than having to stay with someone/other people but again I'm introvert, anti-social and value my personal space and resources. It wouldn't bother me if a dude didn't invite me to stay because I don't expect anyone to invite me to stay with them. It however would bother me if someone I was dating didn't try to help when I was in need because like I said if someone I cared for needed help I'd help so I expect the same in return. I would be keeping a mental note of any other selfish tendency. Although I have no desire to stay with a dude I do expect to stay over for weekends or a few nights a week and I expect him to do the same. If a dude had a problem with sleepovers I wouldn't be able to date him.
carmen_b
05-28-2020, 09:27 AM
^^ Thanks for your take. Things shifted a little 10-11 days ago and it's more officially bf / gf now.
We even did the FB announcement thing, lol.
When I was writing all that stuff that label hadn't been in place . I got a hotel three nights in a row just because I didn't want to ask him ( it wasn't much ..... something like $109 total since this area is so cheap right now ).
Guests are here at the house sit June 2 afternoon - June 5 morning.
YES I will expect my NOW BOYFRIEND to put me up at least 2 out of those 3 nights . I'd rather just use the hotel $ for example taking us out ( even though he usually does ). It's kind of waste to just be handing a hotel money even though it's cheap. ALSO .... my forest place is paid off but it is 5.5 hours NORTH of where he lives ( and has 50% custody of 7 year old ). I am the one staying in this area FOR US when I could be at my own paid off property up North.
I have shifted my lifestyle to be here more than 50% of the time ( which was my plan 1-2 months ago ) and am now here FOR HIM 80% of the time . Me taking on that " shift " took effort. Overall though, we have a sweet set of options ( his desert house / my forest one ). I know I'll be very happy here when ( not if !!! ) my main income stream returns.
carmen_b
06-01-2020, 06:39 PM
delete
:)
carmen_b
06-01-2020, 08:43 PM
Also .... unrelated to what J is doing ..... I feel agitated about needing to leave town to work this Friday. Haha. I just want this settled life I guess right now. I should be VERY grateful for the job ( about $750 profit over weekend ) . I've desperately needed $ . It's about 6.5-7 hours of driving ( each way ! ) to get it.
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carmen_b
06-03-2020, 01:36 PM
Packed up now !! Excited again to hit the road now that packing is done. :)
kortneykay
06-11-2020, 02:14 AM
^^^Carmen, I told you if you're fucking a man and he doesn't make sure you're ALL THE WAY GOOD (financially, roof/rent, etc) that you're getting played. Why does he need to offer anything if you haven't set you expectations at the beginning, babes? Or, just ASK. Close mouths don't get fed. I'm sorry but I'll be damned if I'm screwing any man or spending my precious youth and time on him and I'm broke and stressed? If this pussy and time is for rent and there's no commitment (not bf/gf, actual financial investment like engagement or marriage), they better be paying.
kortneykay
06-11-2020, 02:19 AM
Everyone is out and about here. I've had a great week meeting with friends, warm days, cool and breezy nights over red wine, meat, cheese, and olive plates and boar sausage. Going to the beach this weekend. Found 2 POT SDs this week who paid tabs and want to take me and my gf out again. I have 3 months left here on the 12 (time flies when traveling!), but will be submitting my application for residency. I'm not staying forever but a Euro base is what I'm aiming for. Plus my lease is up next March but I want to keep my shit and love my apartment so I don't see myself giving it up. I have a 30 day move out option whenever I want and plan on going back to London in November so we shall see.
SnuffleUffleGrass
06-11-2020, 11:16 AM
Everyone is out and about here. I've had a great week meeting with friends, warm days, cool and breezy nights over red wine, meat, cheese, and olive plates and boar sausage. Going to the beach this weekend. Found 2 POT SDs this week who paid tabs and want to take me and my gf out again. I have 3 months left here on the 12 (time flies when traveling!), but will be submitting my application for residency. I'm not staying forever but a Euro base is what I'm aiming for. Plus my lease is up next March but I want to keep my shit and love my apartment so I don't see myself giving it up. I have a 30 day move out option whenever I want and plan on going back to London in November so we shall see.
Boar sausage, sounds awesome.
carmen_b
06-12-2020, 02:58 PM
^ Thanks Kourtney for the take on it. We are good now. It's a bf / gf thing and I stay whenever I want. :)
There isn't akward times being out of the house sit ( which has been at 40%-50% occupancy lately ).
I'm happy for the owners since the tourists are coming back. It's still working well to be there sometimes and at J's most of the time. :)
In fact when I do leave town ( like last weekend ) I get bribing types of messages from him to come back sooner hahaha . His bribes are good too ( we are talking like the best tables in town and great pussy licking hahahah ).
I am making him drive 5.5 hours to my place in the forest today though. I took off for the forest yesterday.
We plan to do LSD out in nature ( well my porch and the forest within one block of it as we made a firm promise to not get lost on drugs in the forest ).
Get in that Tesla , pick up Champagne, and get here to fuck me !
^ Yes, these are EXACT instructions he has been given !!!
carmen_b
06-12-2020, 04:07 PM
^ I'm glad I got some support on that concern too ! I mean ..... I stayed in that area FOR him.
THAT in itself is HUGE so he should make it easy ( luckily he agrees and he is ) !
caramelcraze
06-16-2020, 04:16 AM
Thinking about going back to my semi nomadic ways. I used to be a snowbird, but the past 2 years I've just been too ill to do much of anything sadly. finally have my diet and meds sorted, feel like i'm in a good place mentally, financially stable again, and am starting to get back into pretty decent shape... considering a move to las vegas come fall and maybe dabbling in some different areas of the industry (namely stripping). My health conditions would improve immensely from the milder winters and generally warmer weather. If it goes well, I'm hoping to do more traveling (a month here, a month there sort of deal).
The issue i'm having is that my long time partner is far from supportive of the move as he's stuck at his job for a couple more years before he would be able to move with me. He also has a terminally ill mother in state and despite rarely visiting her, doesn't want to be further away from her in case she takes a turn for the worst. To make matters worse, we're engaged. I feel like i will have made the age old mistake of putting a relationship first over my own happiness/health if i don't move and he even though he has witnessed how the crappy weather affects me both physically and mentally, he just doesn't seem to care about my wants/needs. I know i can't hold on here for another two years and weekend trips somewhere warm just aren't going to cut it. I really really don't want to break ties but beginning to feel I have no other choice and it's destroying me.
How would you handle this? I miss the freedom of picking up and moving as I please, seeing new places, and having new experiences.
carmen_b
06-16-2020, 09:02 AM
^ Maybe split your time in winter such as 7-10 day trips between Vegas and where you are?
Blovely
06-16-2020, 06:33 PM
Thinking about going back to my semi nomadic ways. I used to be a snowbird, but the past 2 years I've just been too ill to do much of anything sadly. finally have my diet and meds sorted, feel like i'm in a good place mentally, financially stable again, and am starting to get back into pretty decent shape... considering a move to las vegas come fall and maybe dabbling in some different areas of the industry (namely stripping). My health conditions would improve immensely from the milder winters and generally warmer weather. If it goes well, I'm hoping to do more traveling (a month here, a month there sort of deal).
The issue i'm having is that my long time partner is far from supportive of the move as he's stuck at his job for a couple more years before he would be able to move with me. He also has a terminally ill mother in state and despite rarely visiting her, doesn't want to be further away from her in case she takes a turn for the worst. To make matters worse, we're engaged. I feel like i will have made the age old mistake of putting a relationship first over my own happiness/health if i don't move and he even though he has witnessed how the crappy weather affects me both physically and mentally, he just doesn't seem to care about my wants/needs. I know i can't hold on here for another two years and weekend trips somewhere warm just aren't going to cut it. I really really don't want to break ties but beginning to feel I have no other choice and it's destroying me.
How would you handle this? I miss the freedom of picking up and moving as I please, seeing new places, and having new experiences.
I say go and live your life. Women compromise and put their lives on the back burner way too much for men. Most of the time men would never do the same nor do they ever seem to really appreciate the sacrifices women make for them. He's your fiance not your husband. If he doesn't possess everything you're looking for in a partner then imo he isn't worth sticking around for. Life especially these days is too short. Maybe in a couple years if things are meant to be you guys will find your way back to each other. But for right now you shouldn't have to suffer for him. Protect your energy and fight for happiness. Plus you never know maybe you'll find a better guy that aligns with your wants, needs and concerns along your travels.
xxxGothBarbie
06-17-2020, 12:08 AM
I say go and live your life. Women compromise and put their lives on the back burner way too much for men. Most of the time men would never do the same nor do they ever seem to really appreciate the sacrifices women make for them. He's your fiance not your husband. If he doesn't possess everything you're looking for in a partner then imo he isn't worth sticking around for. Life especially these days is too short. Maybe in a couple years if things are meant to be you guys will find your way back to each other. But for right now you shouldn't have to suffer for him. Protect your energy and fight for happiness. Plus you never know maybe you'll find a better guy that aligns with your wants, needs and concerns along your travels.
Im in a similar situation myself & am finally taking the plunge tomorrow. Scary AF but im doing it. Btw Bloveley i always enjoy your awesome words of wisdom
caramelcraze
06-17-2020, 05:53 AM
I guess the universe saw my post and decided to make things happen: Landlord tearfully told me yesterday that she's putting the house I live in on the market, is pricing it to sell, and that, the way the market is rn, she expects to be closing by Sept 1st. She gave me the option of having a longer term lease in place so I could stay until dec 31st, but the catch is that the buyer can very easily buy me out of the lease at any time. I was planning on moving anyways and don't feel like dealing with a new landlord for 3 months who can literally give me just 30 days notice at any point during that time... so i have under 10 weeks to make a 1100 mile move happen. I'm daunted and kind of shitting bricks atm. I was planning on moving in Nov, so this moves the timeline up 2 months. Plan on reaching out to movers later today and getting quotes for starters.
when I told my partner, he started sobbing then tried to guilt trip me into staying. I feel badly for the short notice but my wellbeing has to be a top priority. He didn't even offer to help me with the move and when I told him I might need him to cosign on a property because his income is easily proven (vs mine as an independent contractor who doesn't get pay stubs), he refused to give me a straight answer. we're engaged so the fact that he didn't automatically agree pissed me tf off and was a huge red flag. At this point emotionally and with consideration to the answers you all have given me, I think i'm done. It will be heartbreaking to leave him but seeing as his ass won't even cosign for the person he says he wants to marry, I just feel I deserve better... and tbh I'm kind of excited for this new chapter in my life and all that will come with it.
carmen_b
06-17-2020, 02:05 PM
^ It sounds like you intuitively know that the move it best for you !
If I'm understanding right ...... you are not totally happy where you are right ?
Maybe your partner will come around as well on the cosigning thing .
I'm assuming he will not be joining but he could at least *try* to brainstorm a well of splitting time you know ?
caramelcraze
06-18-2020, 10:47 PM
Sorry if this is the wrong thread, but was wondering if anyone had organization/minimalism/traveling light words of wisdom or tips? Videos, pictures, and blogs are also appreciated! have years worth of belongings that need to either be purged or organized in the next few weeks if I'm going to make this happen smoothly and organization is not at all my strong suit.
carmen_b
06-19-2020, 07:11 AM
^ I’ve talked about it before on here!
First step is to post things to sell you haven’t used in a year or more!
Start by USE of item vs room by room.
Go through and post something for sale TODAY to get the process going!
carmen_b
06-19-2020, 07:27 AM
Post pics clear and bright ( use photo photo editing ) on Craigslist .
START soon !
I cleared a two level house out when my partner and I left Hawaii. It took a bit !
carmen_b
06-19-2020, 07:04 PM
Greetings from my dive motel.
I got it on my own doing haha. It was just too akward to stay with J today ( arrival of his daughter for a three day weekend ) .
Bad timing getting bumped out of the house sit but rolling with it.
It felt right to let them have a full day and then link up with them tomorrow.
Desert life in the summer is so odd. I have never done this before ! I feel like you really have to carefully plan when you'll be outside ( choosing EITHER a morning outing or a sunset evening type of one ). I had to get up early today for example and I'm just sitting here not wanting to leave the AC waiting until the damn sun goes down.
xxxGothBarbie
06-22-2020, 01:46 AM
Ha! Im in one myself for the week. Im hating the shitty wifi .
carmen_b
06-22-2020, 09:21 AM
Yesssss ! That means you got on the road ! :)
If you find your way near Vegas shoot me a message and maybe we can go hike or adventure somewhere.
I'm always up and down that section of 1-15 that runs north from there as well so I can recommend affordable motels ect. along that route if you end up traveling that way.
xxxGothBarbie
06-22-2020, 12:43 PM
Yesssss ! That means you got on the road ! :)
If you find your way near Vegas shoot me a message and maybe we can go hike or adventure somewhere.
I'm always up and down that section of 1-15 that runs north from there as well so I can recommend affordable motels ect. along that route if you end up traveling that way.
Isnt it extremely hot over that way? I dont have ac in my car & am trying to avoid any crazy hot places right now. Otherwise i would ;)
lurkingtitties
06-22-2020, 04:53 PM
I guess I belong in this thread now and for the foreseeable future. I have free housing for another month while I finish up my final few weeks of clinical time for grad school. Then I’m dunzo. After 3 years of working wayyyy too hard, I’m gonna take a couple months of me time before I look for a job. My plan is to go to Denver (I have friends and family there) and just focus on fitness, eating right, getting lots of sleep and chilling with my dog.
So the next thing I need to do is find a furnished month to month rental...Denver is expensive AF so I’ll probably end up doing a room rental in someone’s house instead of a whole apartment. The good news is being a medical professional means people are more than happy to rent a room to you.
SnuffleUffleGrass
06-22-2020, 04:55 PM
I guess I belong in this thread now and for the foreseeable future. I have free housing for another month while I finish up my final few weeks of clinical time for grad school. Then I’m dunzo. After 3 years of working wayyyy too hard, I’m gonna take a couple months of me time before I look for a job. My plan is to go to Denver (I have friends and family there) and just focus on fitness, eating right, getting lots of sleep and chilling with my dog.
So the next thing I need to do is find a furnished month to month rental...Denver is expensive AF so I’ll probably end up doing a room rental in someone’s house instead of a whole apartment. The good news is being a medical professional means people are more than happy to rent a room to you.
I'm jealous in a good way. Denver is soooo dang awesome.
carmen_b
06-23-2020, 02:31 PM
Oh yeah , it's hot AF here. Don't come for SURE without AC. Haha.
kortneykay
07-03-2020, 07:54 AM
Thinking about going back to my semi nomadic ways. I used to be a snowbird, but the past 2 years I've just been too ill to do much of anything sadly. finally have my diet and meds sorted, feel like i'm in a good place mentally, financially stable again, and am starting to get back into pretty decent shape... considering a move to las vegas come fall and maybe dabbling in some different areas of the industry (namely stripping). My health conditions would improve immensely from the milder winters and generally warmer weather. If it goes well, I'm hoping to do more traveling (a month here, a month there sort of deal).
The issue i'm having is that my long time partner is far from supportive of the move as he's stuck at his job for a couple more years before he would be able to move with me. He also has a terminally ill mother in state and despite rarely visiting her, doesn't want to be further away from her in case she takes a turn for the worst. To make matters worse, we're engaged. I feel like i will have made the age old mistake of putting a relationship first over my own happiness/health if i don't move and he even though he has witnessed how the crappy weather affects me both physically and mentally, he just doesn't seem to care about my wants/needs. I know i can't hold on here for another two years and weekend trips somewhere warm just aren't going to cut it. I really really don't want to break ties but beginning to feel I have no other choice and it's destroying me.
How would you handle this? I miss the freedom of picking up and moving as I please, seeing new places, and having new experiences.
I would bounce. He has not put you first, has ignored his own mother (they may not have a gr8 relationship so I'm not judging harshly) so he may just not have the best relationships with Women. Sounds like he's okay with being mediocre and clearly puts himself, first.
You do not owe him your youth, beauty and time. 3 things you won't get back. I say cut ties now before you're trapped with his children, etc. and live for yourself. I've had a wonderful experience these past few years traveling and growing after I left a dead end relationship. Live for yourself before it's too late and you become complacent. Leave the dead weight.
carmen_b
07-07-2020, 11:44 AM
I'm settled in the desert happier than I've been in years. Lol.
It's HOT though. I have never lived in heat like this. I have a mountain trip coming up in a week.
I'm going to attempt a 10:30 bed time and wake up 6:30 - 7 so my poor dog and I can actually go outside and do something.
I figure if I can do that every few days we can at least get out a bit .
carmen_b
08-02-2020, 07:47 PM
How are all my fellow trapped nomads doing ? Ugh ! At least there are road trip possibilities !
carmen_b
08-02-2020, 07:50 PM
Updates here : Still kind of living the nomad life. I became a desert girl haha. I am still kind of digging it and exploring the area as much as I can with all the limitations going on.
$ wise the decision to give up the city loft back in November which I talked about here was the BEST I think !!
I do get kind of worn out moving between this house sit and J's ( and the occassional motel room ). It keeps my costs down but I pay for it in time ( when I switch locations I figure I lose two hours between packing and going between ). Right now though I have more time than $ and it's not a huge constraint to do this.
I am so much more settled here now. I have MY gym , MY yoga studio, coffee places ect. !
I have been filling J's house and my house sit with various plants hahaha .
carmen_b
08-05-2020, 11:14 AM
The walk in closet at J's has also been a game changer haha.
I can set my work stuff there and never need to move it between his place and my house sit. Most of my clothes are there and it lets me travel much lighter overall to have the closet.