View Full Version : Do you miss dancing?
DorienG
04-03-2016, 02:01 PM
Now I'm 2 months in, I've worked my way through a roller coaster of emotions because of quitting. Especially the day I got my first paycheck. I stared at it and cried when I got home. It was depressing to know I had worked 80
hours (2 weeks of full time work) to make what I used to make in 2-4 days before. I was worried about the quality of life my kids were going to have now that I had to work 3 times as much to make what I made before. My bf had to intervene on my pity party and pointed out a few major differences in my jobs. My biggest injury was a bunch of paper cuts from filing and before I was constantly icing or heating my knees and calves from stage injuries over the years. Not one customer grabbed or talked inappropriately to me now. My overall health is improving. And my kids don't care how much money I have.
That being said, I only miss the money. I will only ever miss the money. I don't have what it takes mentally or physically anymore.
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That's is sooo interesting that you mentioned that this is your two month mark! I just hit mine (tomorrow it will be 2 months exactly). Although, I do like my new job and the location, I've been strangely depressed for the last couple of days and severely missing the stage.
It may be because I have to wear sort of a uniform at my new job. We have to wear a shirt/vest/jacket/pullover with the company logo on it. It's not so much that- but the extra small sizes are So Fracking Big!!! I feel without heels and these stupid big 'shirts' , I look like a dwarf (barely 5'2") pretending to be a trainer! I feel sooo not sexy! I've tweaked it a bit by ordering an extra sm. tee-shirt (which is still huge), tying the back so it will fit better and wearing wedged high-tops under my too long yoga pants.
I also think, it may be because my new doctor has refused to refill my hydrocondone because he thinks it's not good for me (duh, it's not), but I used it for lower back pain and menstrual pain for many years. I may be having some withdrawal symtoms:-/
I'm so use to working so much that I had grown use to my husband and I not really spending a lot of time together. Now , I have time, but he doesn't. I'm kind of lonely. My 'civilian' friends hang out less with me now then they did when I was a dancer (even though they didn't completely approve). I guess I'm not as interesting any more?
I'll get over it , though. Dancing in LA sucks for the most part and I'm doing what I planned to do. This withdrawal thing is really hard. Even though, there are no smelly customers grabbing me, not uncertainty of income, no icing my knees all the time.
Aurora- you'll get through it too. Your man has good insight. Mine buys food and tells me he loves me all time, but i never see him. I just have to find a solution for a good balance in life.
SweetJulia
04-03-2016, 06:08 PM
^I used to be a nurse and can't help but remark that refusing to refill hydrocodone for someone with a physical job, currently undergoing the stress of switching jobs, who is over 45(no way meant to be insulting, you look younger than me and in better shape than half the dancers I've seen) is unwise, irresponsible, and borderline sadistic. In the very worst case scenario, if you saw him and he suspected you of selling the drugs and you produced a urine test negative for opiates, the industry standard would be to discharge you with one refill. Depending on how long you were on it, he could be responsible for causing permanent changes in your brain and body. I'd go straight to another pain management doctor, get a refill, and report your former doc. Sorry, had to get that out of the way. I really miss stage-so taking pole classes. Ugh, so not the same and the women make stripper jokes. I could make wow, look at the 400# woman who broke a pole jokes, but I refrain. I make more camming now than I did stripping, but it's largely because I've been at it so long and Ohio clubs suck. The money change at first was hard to deal with. At the end of the day, being untouched and not risking being assaulted by customers is PRICELESS. When I first started camming, I still had to go in the club once in a while, so I had a burner phone number I'd give customers to come and see me. They got sooo bad towards the end, cuz I was obviously leaving. When I finally made it in camming, I sent then a group message-meaning everyone could see every number. It was a quote I saw somewhere that I loved, geared at people who were physically violated that went, "The body's cells replace themselves entirely every seven years. In only a matter of time, I will be a person you've never touched." Then, I threw in something about touching each other. I experienced a hell of a ptsd from suppressed rage from years of being touched that I burried while stripping. I couldn't afford not to. I still deal with it. I'm bot trying to be a downer, but that part was worth mentioning. I stripped in survival mode and never really lashed out at customers who sexually assaulted me and others til the end. It bit me in the ass.
DorienG
04-04-2016, 09:13 AM
^I used to be a nurse and can't help but remark that refusing to refill hydrocodone for someone with a physical job, currently undergoing the stress of switching jobs, who is over 45(no way meant to be insulting, you look younger than me and in better shape than half the dancers I've seen) is unwise, irresponsible, and borderline sadistic. In the very worst case scenario, if you saw him and he suspected you of selling the drugs and you produced a urine test negative for opiates, the industry standard would be to discharge you with one refill. Depending on how long you were on it, he could be responsible for causing permanent changes in your brain and body. I'd go straight to another pain management doctor, get a refill, and report your former doc. Sorry, had to get that out of the way. I really miss stage-so taking pole classes. Ugh, so not the same and the women make stripper jokes. I could make wow, look at the 400# woman who broke a pole jokes, but I refrain. I make more camming now than I did stripping, but it's largely because I've been at it so long and Ohio clubs suck. The money change at first was hard to deal with. At the end of the day, being untouched and not risking being assaulted by customers is PRICELESS. When I first started camming, I still had to go in the club once in a while, so I had a burner phone number I'd give customers to come and see me. They got sooo bad towards the end, cuz I was obviously leaving. When I finally made it in camming, I sent then a group message-meaning everyone could see every number. It was a quote I saw somewhere that I loved, geared at people who were physically violated that went, "The body's cells replace themselves entirely every seven years. In only a matter of time, I will be a person you've never touched." Then, I threw in something about touching each other. I experienced a hell of a ptsd from suppressed rage from years of being touched that I burried while stripping. I couldn't afford not to. I still deal with it. I'm bot trying to be a downer, but that part was worth mentioning. I stripped in survival mode and never really lashed out at customers who sexually assaulted me and others til the end. It bit me in the ass.
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(Thanks for the compliment)-I saw this doc, because to get an appointment with my original would have taken me longer and I was running out of hydro! My origninal one is the one who has been giving me the hydrocondone for many years. I've been using them for a long time-but it increased about 10 years ago when menstrual cramps got worse and random aches and pains from so much stage dancing. Then during training for pole competitions in the last two years-increased more.
And selling drugs: Funny how 60 of them last me for four months. Don't think I would profit all that much, lol.
Since I've started my new job, my use has cut down a good 60% or more, which is great. But I'm not completely off. I mainly use them for lower back injury (from my cat, not dancing. Pathetic, no?). So, this new doc gave me Celebrex instead to help with pain. I've taken 1. I don't like it. They are way too strong.
I'll just make an appt. with my old doc.
Sorry to hear that the dancing had that affect on you. It has on me too. I'm not sure if it's hormonal change, residual effects of the industry or both; but the thought of tongue kissing makes me want to vomit. (Not that I ever did that with custies). I don't mind hands on me. I have a male masseur that I go to and he makes me feel comfortable. But those are really the only male hands that have been on me for a while (occasional light kisses from the hubby, but that's it).
Thanks for your input:-) And I hope you start feeling better too.
SweetJulia
04-04-2016, 01:27 PM
Awww thanks I have. I hurt myself lifting my thirty pound cat all the time, I get it :)
monicabi
04-04-2016, 03:23 PM
i don't miss. i was straggling making 60$ a day, i had to change career
SweetJulia
04-04-2016, 04:44 PM
PS-I was in no way suggesting you sold the drugs, just pointing out that even people who do get a last script, so you should have at the least gotten that. PPS- I just realized I could have worked at a stage money club and still be dancing, too bad they don't exist in Ohio. Closest is a bikini bar where no one wants dances and the only money you get IS on stage, more than half from the owner. I was there a month and never broke a hundred, every girl I talked to never broke 150. Most were uncomfortable with topless or just used it to find johns to see after hours.
DorienG
04-04-2016, 09:55 PM
i don't miss. i was straggling making 60$ a day, i had to change career
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Thanks for your honesty!
DorienG
04-04-2016, 10:14 PM
PS-I was in no way suggesting you sold the drugs, just pointing out that even people who do get a last script, so you should have at the least gotten that. PPS- I just realized I could have worked at a stage money club and still be dancing, too bad they don't exist in Ohio. Closest is a bikini bar where no one wants dances and the only money you get IS on stage, more than half from the owner. I was there a month and never broke a hundred, every girl I talked to never broke 150. Most were uncomfortable with topless or just used it to find johns to see after hours.
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I didn't take it that way:-) In LA, your night is good if you make $200 unless you hustle hard on on the weekend after hours, have great regulars or you happen to be the hottest chick in Hollywood.
There is only a couple left down here too.
I can't get into see my doc until May 16th. Apparently, a message was put into him to possibly speed up the process for my refill.
BabyWillow
04-10-2016, 11:42 PM
I have less than a month left before I quit dancing for good. I'm thinking about waitressing somewhere if my fiancé wouldn't be annoyed about it. I'm going to miss the confidence dancing gave me. Before I started I hated almost everything about myself, but thank God that changed real quick as soon as I learned you don't make money when you're unhappy with who you are! But I'm not getting better at dancing, and I'm bored during every dance and conversation I have. I'm (probably) not going to miss it...
RyanXO
05-17-2016, 02:07 PM
I really miss dancing, I am so eager to go back. Once I drop a little weight and get my boob job, I plan on returning. Sounds weird but I get sad whenever I drive by my old club.
Melyssax
05-27-2016, 01:39 PM
I miss the good days of it but I like camming soooo much better... I mean, I have the whole world at my hands instead of just depending on one city locally which le sucks... days where some guys tipped (rain shower ;p) the guy came at a latter time when my shift was over... every time I got on stage $100 tips ++ dances & he was PICKY as HELL... Only got dances from the top best looking girls
Melyssax
05-27-2016, 02:28 PM
I will say that I wish I was born at an earlier time to experiece the true good days of both dancing & camming... a relative of mine said back in the good days of dancing she would make soooo much money she didn't know what do with it all lol seriously... & she was dancing when I was like 5/6 which was like the early 2000's .... It has become OVERLY fucking saturated with lots of girls thinking it will be a get rich scheme especially with all the songs about strippers out now, back then it was a taboo thing, hush hush, unspoken of, looked down upon (stillis now to some) but today it s more embraced / partly because of media ( ppl like Rihanna or different rappers songs) now all these girls are flocking to it & fucking shit up, as well as the money just aint the same man.. heard it too many times from true VETS ... Also grinds my gears ppl are treating it as a hang out spot... other chicks coming (Who by the way arent even dancers) trying to steal attention... some times the club would be fucking packed but it depends on the atmosphere... when everyone is spending it sets the mood & gets / kepts the ball rolling but when ppl treat it like a hang out spot talking t each other & hanging out at the bar like it's a regular nightclub which takes attention from US as the dancers like umm.... YOOO HOOO... Were here to get paid, we are the ENTERTAINERS like idk ... probably the MAIN reason why the club was created dumb-asses gtfoh & go somewhere else, something I def couldn't stand... at least this is what I observed... would love to hear stories about the old days of camming / stripping & really wish I couldve experienced that