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strippername
02-25-2016, 12:22 PM
Those are all red flags. Could be innocent ones, could be HUGE ones. My money is on huge. Most girls don't realize they are red flags though because sugaring has no industry standards for safety like escorting does. There is no unspoken standard rules or protocol in place to keep you safe like escorting has either........


Girl! You talk so much!!! :D I totally agree with you. I will dabble on the SD websites for a while but I am not expecting anything. UTR escort I go.

DonaDiabla
02-25-2016, 01:03 PM
So, miss1dancypants, did he ever become your sugar daddy?


Hello, I have a few dates set up with a few potential Sugar Daddies... I have made it clear that after the first date (just dinner and drinks) if we have a connection we need to have a discussion on allowances/etc and come to an agreement before we meet again. I've seen and heard of a lot of Sugar Babies asking for money on the first date before they even meet--as a compensation for their time in case they both agree there isn't a connection and won't be a second date. So at least the girl got a couple hundred bucks or something for her time.

What is the best way to ask for this and make it clear you have these expectations on the first date? I think most guys think "why would I give you money for your time before I know if I like you?" I've seen other advice being, DON'T ask for money on the first date, wow him and charm him and make him want to set up an arrangement with you, and you'll get more money/allowances/gifts in the long run.

What are your thoughts? Thanks!

whirlerz
02-25-2016, 04:25 PM
Be polite, respectful, and exciting. I say something along the lines of : “I would like to ask for a gift for our time meeting…” Some will say no, and that’s ok with me because personally I don’t want to sit through a date for free
Also, you can ask for 'transportation $' @ the end of the date..

strippername
02-25-2016, 04:32 PM
^I can't straight up ask for things like that. I don't like coming off like I need anything ever even if I do. It seems like begging to me and effffff that. :)

whirlerz
02-25-2016, 06:18 PM
Ok, well don't, it was just a suggestion. I normally don't ask either.

kortneykay
02-25-2016, 06:32 PM
^I can't straight up ask for things like that. I don't like coming off like I need anything ever even if I do. It seems like begging to me and effffff that. :)

Closed mouths don't get fed. You better get that guap, bb.

Exxotica
02-25-2016, 07:15 PM
I still can't understand why y'all especially red velvet harp on this OP for choosing to be a sugar baby who simply wants to know how to get paid so she doesn't waste her time.

Why go on this debate about escorting is better because you have a blacklist and can screen. Do you not think sugar babies have some screening process or blacklisting process???? I guess all sugar babies are dumb and stupid??? All sugar daddies are predators and scammers???? Really?!? Y'all make blanket statements like its fact is so baffling to me. It would be better to warn her to be careful and learn screening techniques (if she doesn't know already) than to argue your point that escorting is somehow smarter or safer.

The op simply wants to know "how to ask SD for money, and let her intentions be known, before meeting up" so she doesn't waste hours for some broke joker. anybody on here talking about anything not related to the OP original question is just clogging the thread.

How about starting your own thread entitled "how I think escorting is better than sugaring" because THIS is not the thread for your tangents that don't answer the main question.

Me thinks its a lot of older chicks who are just salty over the new culture of younger sugar babies. Let em seethe

Dominic.2
02-25-2016, 07:44 PM
What is the best way to ask for this and make it clear you have these expectations on the first date?I like NoRegrets' answer when your first meeting with the POT is an actual date. I also like Exxotica's approach to the bar meetup. In either case, I wouldn't give him too much of you for free. Sure, there are potential SBs out there doing that, but why be one of them, and race to the bottom? :no:


I think most guys think "why would I give you money for your time before I know if I like you?"NoRegrets answered this pretty well in post #19. There's a saying in negotiations that the party holding the cash has the leverage. A good sponsor is going to give you some initial $$ to put you at ease (let's get business out of the way to focus on fun). Also you want a sponsor for which several hundred dollars for an initial meetup is no big deal and no great loss to him, win or lose. Those are the guys who are typically generous over the long haul. So what if 'most guys' won't give an initial gift. You don't need 'most guys.' You just need a few generous guys, or even just one quality guy.


I've seen other advice being, DON'T ask for money on the first date, wow him and charm him and make him want to set up an arrangement with you, and you'll get more money/allowances/gifts in the long run. What are your thoughts?Maybe. It's a numbers game, the more POTs you see, the better your chances of landing a good, long-term SD (finding sugar amongst the salt or is it splenda).


Think of a sugar daddy as an escort client and you'll be better off. They want a part time girlfriend without the full time hassle and you want the sponsor.-and-
You will not scare off any real sugar daddies if you are clear about what you're looking for and what your limits are. It's much easier for us to know what to expect up front instead of women being coy about what they're looking for.
MissD, ^^This. Like in the club, the SD/SB relationship should be a NSA relationship. Both sides should avoid the normal BS that occurs in a normal relationship/dating with civilian women. This is NOT normal dating.

Happy Hunting!

red.velvet
02-25-2016, 08:50 PM
I wouldn't give him too much of you for free.

Agreed. It is a lot of work to weed through these guys both online and in person because most aren't generous. I have learned that income and wealth has nothing to do with if the guy is generous or not. However, I have noticed that the more attractive he is, the less generous he is because he thinks he should get everything for free.


Also you want a sponsor for which several hundred dollars for an initial meetup is no big deal and no great loss to him, win or lose. Those are the guys who are typically generous over the long haul.

Agreed. If he's not generous for the initial lunch/dinner meet, then he's not going to be generous later (or if he is, it will have strings attached because he's already shown he's a manipulator). It is going to be A LOT of weed picking, but there are diamonds in the rough. Its a lot of work though, which is why I prefer to escort. I'm practically a "sugarbaby" by all definitions on this thread though because I'm only multi-hour now and receive a lot of gifts.



Me thinks its a lot of older chicks who are just salty over the new culture of younger sugar babies. Let em seethe

Uhh I'm in my 20s lol. I started sexwork the week I turned 18.

miss1dancypants
02-25-2016, 09:14 PM
So, miss1dancypants, did he ever become your sugar daddy?

I only went through with 1 dinner date because I just didn't get good vibes from the rest of them... he paid me a couple hundred dollars for cash and I haven't contacted him since. Honestly I'd be OK with escorting, and even with reading hours on this forum about escorting, I still don't know where to start and I'm scared shitless. A girl I used to dance with is a high end escort in Vegas now so I might fly out to visit her and see how she does it (she offered to teach me/help me out if I flew out). I think I'd be happier just escorting but I just want to make sure I'm doing it the right way.

NoRegrets
02-25-2016, 09:16 PM
Good luck in whichever you choose miss1dancypants. Be sure to screen the guys and stay safe. Don't do anything outside of your boundaries.

Exxotica
03-13-2016, 04:13 AM
The best way to learn is to just do it.

strippername
03-13-2016, 02:06 PM
There isn't much to it, Miss D. I was going to compare it to a VIP room with extras but it is much safer and more fun--no more hussling. I would take your friend up on the offer. It is Vegas! Maybe you can try getting on with a good agency while you are out there to get your feet wet.

ImCalypso
05-13-2018, 12:18 AM
Hey there, did you ever decide to go to Vegas ? I plan to move there and continue Companionship and want to be prepared for the next level I'll need to be on! I also will be looking into bartending, dancing and of course dating guys of wealth��

SnuffleUffleGrass
05-13-2018, 11:29 AM
"No money no honey"

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 12:31 PM
Hey hey!

So I've been trying to find a way to earn money in between my part-time job to fund my pre-dance expenses and then some (finally got my shoes and third outfit!!! All that is left is go check out the club is person!). Bonuses from work are GREAT, but it's not enough for the lifestyle I want to live lol ::)

I've been scouting the site for sugaring and I came across a site that mentioned how too many vanilla girls are doing sugaring wrong, and they think $200 is a lot. Now I've just met this guy who approached me and says that he wants to take care of things for me. I was skeptical because I've received offers like this before, and the first guy wasted my time and got hit with a quick block, but this guy has been the only one to actually show me the receipts.

Now here's my dilemma: He had asked me what my bills looked like, and I sent him a list for this month, along with the receipt for a new outfit. He sent me $200 to cover my upcoming bills, but after reading the post, I'm worried lol. Additionally, I'm going out with him next week, where he has promised to take me shopping for sure. He's also offered to take me to Vegas with him (since he goes every weekend) and he can give me my pay for missing work, along with buying me my first car once I get my license.

I've asked a few question, and he has a house in the suburbs, a house in Vegas, and five cars (he sent me a photo of his Lambo yesterday), and he invests in stocks, so I know the man has money. reading these tips have been helpful, so when I text him, I'll say yes I need money, or "you're still going to cover my nails like you wanted to, right?" On the phone today, he mentioned that he's never done this before, but then followed up by saying he wants to be the ONLY one supporting me and wants to get to know me. I replied by saying how he wasn't the only man who has given me offers like this; however, he's the only one right now and I'd talk to him again when someone else comes along.

I want to get to the point where he sends me more than $200 monthly, and I wanted to ask when is the best time to ask? I'm meeting him on Thursday, so would it be too soon? I know some men (I was listening to the Whorible Decisions podcast) and they mentioned how some men don't like giving you straight cash and would prefer to give you an object of some sort or buy something on your wishlist, so I'm thinking he's like this. It's going on two weeks since my birthday (finally 21!), so I'm planning on going out to possibly freelance and meet men in public since it seems like a safer option with the SESTA/FOSTA law, so he wouldn't be the only man. Maybe I should test the waters for awhile before adding more men to juggle? I'm still reading about how to sugar the right way, and I see a lot of what NOT to do, but what are some tips on what TO do? Maybe it just comes with experience? Any help is appreciated!

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
05-31-2018, 12:41 PM
On the very first page of this section are two very informative threads on this topic

Getting money before the first date https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?207539-How-to-ask-a-potential-Sugar-Daddy-for-money-before-the-first-date

Six figure sugar baby thread https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?219713-Six-Figure-Sugar-Baby-Thread

There are so many more. Also Im not sure what your screening/test methods are but please never go by what they say. Do not take their words as concrete evidence of the truth. Pictures can be falsified and used to create a fake narrative. Check out those threads I listed. I'm gonna merge this thread with one of the others in a bit.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 12:49 PM
Thank you so much!

I met him on my college campus (he was head of campus police), and I've had conversations with him before. I didn't want to use sites such as SA because of this Very reason along with cheap men who just wanted sex for $20. This is why I was going to go for freelancing instead to cut that out of the equation. I'm going to research how to properly screen next. Thank you for these threads so much!

lynn2009
05-31-2018, 03:34 PM
Don't ever tell anyone else numbers regarding your current living expenses. That's none of his business and very rude to ask such a personal question so early.

Titus23
05-31-2018, 04:21 PM
I hope he's the real deal for your sake, but I have a hard time imagining a head of Campus Security has a lambo. If he really does, then he can definitely afford more than $200. I only drive a BMW but I spend about $1500 a month on my favorite girl (in the club only). I really hope he's legit, and that you get everything you're looking for. Just keep your eyes open and question everything you don't see personally. I wish you the best of luck.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 04:21 PM
@lynn2009

Thank you for this response!

Do you have any advice on how I can go about this for next month (assuming he stays around that long) to getting bills paid if he doesn't want to just send me cash? Also advice on how to set expectations? I'll be talking about that when I see him and will make my list of self-rules tonight and need-to-knows. He's never done this before, so I can sense he's nervous and unsure about everything, but if I want to tell him what guidelines are. (Unsure about how willing I am to train)

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 04:23 PM
@Titus23

Thank you so much!!
I was doubtful too; however, he sent me a photo with him in it. Along with the house in Vegas with him standing in front of it.

He is new to this though, and so am I, but I've read lots on this process and want to ensure this is done properly. How do you want for SB's to approach you or discuss terms with you? He's really unsure, and I may have to let him go because of this :(

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 04:33 PM
I hope he's the real deal for your sake, but I have a hard time imagining a head of Campus Security has a lambo. If he really does, then he can definitely afford more than $200. I only drive a BMW but I spend about $1500 a month on my favorite girl (in the club only). I really hope he's legit, and that you get everything you're looking for. Just keep your eyes open and question everything you don't see personally. I wish you the best of luck.

I just reread and saw that you're a custie! Thank you so much, and I hope it works out too!

Titus23
05-31-2018, 04:55 PM
@Titus23

Thank you so much!!
I was doubtful too; however, he sent me a photo with him in it. Along with the house in Vegas with him standing in front of it.

He is new to this though, and so am I, but I've read lots on this process and want to ensure this is done properly. How do you want for SB's to approach you or discuss terms with you? He's really unsure, and I may have to let him go because of this :(

For me, its fairly simple. Just be open and honest about what you want. I believe all relationships are founded in honesty. If you want a more personal relationship, tell me that. If you want something more professional and business oriented, let's discuss what you're after. Just don't string me along with the promise of something personal if all you want is professional. That will just piss me off and in the end, neither of us will have fun or get what we want. If he's legitimate about caring for you financially, talking about what you expect to get is perfectly reasonable. I wouldn't expect you to tell me where the money goes (though I am personally very specific that if I find out any of my money went to drugs, we're done), but I do expect to know what you want to get. There will likely be some negotiating, but I understand if you are unwilling to budge on your expectations. If we aren't compatible, that's ok. We're adults and should be able to have that conversation.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 05:25 PM
I've read so many posts where you have replied and I can understand all your thanks on this site! Thank you so much for this response, and you're absolutely right; this conversation should be able to happen because we are adults. I just need to be confident in what I'm saying and my boundaries. Thanks once again!

wcbumf
05-31-2018, 05:32 PM
Good grief! If the guy is a cop he is not wealthy and I seriously doubt that he has five luxury cars. Set your sights higher. You're being played with this one.

Titus23
05-31-2018, 05:36 PM
I've read so many posts where you have replied and I can understand all your thanks on this site! Thank you so much for this response, and you're absolutely right; this conversation should be able to happen because we are adults. I just need to be confident in what I'm saying and my boundaries. Thanks once again!

Don't go jumping into action just on my advice. Talk to the women here. They are much more experienced than I am and can provide input I never could. I see one side, and I'm just one man. That said, you're very welcome for what advice I can provide. As I said earlier, I sincerely hope things work out for you. Just keep an open mind and protect yourself, always.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 05:45 PM
Lol I was thinking similar, and he may just be another older man who is just lonely. He has been investing for a long time and has many stocks that curate money for him, and at his age, he said he works to just keep busy. Hence why I was willing to give it a shot.

He was head of the campus PD, so I was like, he probably gets paid well to be in charge of security at some a prestigious institution but I could be wrong if professors aren't even paid well :-\

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 05:48 PM
Don't go jumping into action just on my advice. Talk to the women here. They are much more experienced than I am and can provide input I never could. I see one side, and I'm just one man. That said, you're very welcome for what advice I can provide. As I said earlier, I sincerely hope things work out for you. Just keep an open mind and protect yourself, always.

Thank you! I've been lingering on the site all day to see responses and answer questions. I have a week to make my final conclusions!

I will be buying mace this week (which he will cover)!;D

DonaDiabla
05-31-2018, 08:18 PM
Hey Angel_Kitteneque,

I was just wondering what are your allowance expectations? I would set down and talk to him about your expectations. Also, have you guys discussed intimacy yet? Because that is also important. :)



@lynn2009

Thank you for this response!

Do you have any advice on how I can go about this for next month (assuming he stays around that long) to getting bills paid if he doesn't want to just send me cash? Also advice on how to set expectations? I'll be talking about that when I see him and will make my list of self-rules tonight and need-to-knows. He's never done this before, so I can sense he's nervous and unsure about everything, but if I want to tell him what guidelines are. (Unsure about how willing I am to train)

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 08:39 PM
Hey Angel_Kitteneque,

I was just wondering what are your allowance expectations? I would set down and talk to him about your expectations. Also, have you guys discussed intimacy yet? Because that is also important. :)

That was the discussion I wanted to have on Thursday. He approached me as wanting to get to know me, but things have been escalating since then to the point where he is truly just a lonely old man. He keeps calling and the whole thing is kinda escalating. I don't think I'll do it this round, but perhaps in the future with a more experienced guy and not one whose so needy.

I wanted to set up at least $1000 minimum, along with asking for his expectations (since he has never done a relationship like this before where he sent someone money), but I've been thinking about his responses to our conversations lately.

miss.a.p1600
05-31-2018, 08:42 PM
I wouldn't jump to conclusions and assume just cause he's in service industry that he ain't got it.

You never know....Some people have trust funds or invest really well but still keep "modest" jobs, some people may make modest incomes but be more generous with a lady they like than the miserly multimillionaire. You just really never know until you thoroughly assess the situation.

https://www1.salary.com/SC/Hilton-Head-Island/Campus-Police-Officer-salary.html According to salary.com campus police offers make 36k-49k so if he is in charge of all the police officers there he's making a bit more. I'd estimate 60k-70k.

With that salary he could do some light sugaring and help pay off some of your small bills (hair/nails/clothing/phone/etc) but if he is on this salary as he sole income source, then I doubt he'd be able to handle any moderate to heavy duty sugaring. In this scenario I would not feel obligated to be intimate or spend any signigicant amounts of time with him - well you shouldn't feel obligated to anyone but best to keep the cost/time/value high imo.

But if he is truly an investor/has multiple income sources as he claims then he should be able to handle at least moderate sugaring.

If he is a gentleman you could keep him around for practice until a better catch comes along. Or you could just wait until your ideal situation presents itself if you don't think this is it.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 09:03 PM
With that salary he could do some light sugaring and help pay off some of your small bills (hair/nails/clothing/phone/etc) but if he is on this salary as he sole income source, then I doubt he'd be able to handle any moderate to heavy duty sugaring. In this scenario I would not feel obligated to be intimate or spend any signigicant amounts of time with him - well you shouldn't feel obligated to anyone but best to keep the cost/time/value high imo.

But if he is truly an investor/has multiple income sources as he claims then he should be able to handle at least moderate sugaring.

If he is a gentleman you could keep him around for practice until a better catch comes along. Or you could just wait until your ideal situation presents itself if you don't think this is it.

I really appreciate this response!

I just sent the money back to him and called and told him that we never sent expectations on what this relationship is or whatever. He apologized and said that I'm right, and he should've sent it afterwards, but he's very insistent on meeting on Thursday still. I've cut the whole shopping spree out and settled on a simple café date where we can talk and set expectations on this. I don't think he's ready to do the heavy sugaring either, but I'm completely down for sugaring lightly with him, since he seems very infatuated. I do think I'm going to use him for practice until them so I can grow comfortable with a guy giving me a little extra money if he just wants to go out on dates and see me.


Do you think I should lie about dating other men? I've been on the fence about that because he's all for honesty and being the only guy. I'd love to hear what you think!

TheBrownFox
05-31-2018, 09:05 PM
A lot of these "sugar daddies" (salt daddies, as I've seen them called on Seeking Arrangement...lol) think that offering $200 - $250 per meet is a lot. Lol. These are guys looking for an escort...not sugar baby. They just call themselves sugar daddies because it sounds nicer, and it makes them sound all good and generous. Lmao. A real sugar daddy should not be claiming that a $2,000 monthly allowance is unreasonable. That person doesn't know wtf they're talking about. That's actually the low end of average monthly allowances, from what I've read online. Sugar daddies are supposed to be taking care of your rent and bills and stuff.

People on the Seeking Arrangement forum say that if you're starting out with a weekly allowance (instead of a monthly allowance), you should be getting around $500 at least for that. Even one of the experienced sugar daddies on the SA forum stated this. If you wanted to turn that into a monthly allowance (500 x 4 weeks = 2,000), you could say $2,000 monthly allowance. As soon as you tell these "salt daddies" these amounts, they immediately complain "I can't afford that. That's pretty steep." Lmao. Um, no, it's not. Sugar babies in expensive places like California get higher monthly allowances than that. If they can't afford the low end of average monthly allowances, they should not be calling themselves sugar daddies...they are johns.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 09:15 PM
People on the Seeking Arrangement forum say that if you're starting out with a weekly allowance (instead of a monthly allowance), you should be getting around $500 at least for that. Even one of the experienced sugar daddies on the SA forum stated this. If you wanted to turn that into a monthly allowance (500 x 4 weeks = 2,000), you could say $2,000 monthly allowance. As soon as you tell these "salt daddies" these amounts, they immediately complain "I can't afford that. That's pretty steep." Lmao. Um, no, it's not. Sugar babies in expensive places like California get higher monthly allowances than that. If they can't afford the low end of average monthly allowances, they should not be calling themselves sugar daddies...they are johns.

He's never called himself a SD, but I think he has potential!

How do you approach the conversation in person? Do you break down the expenses for him or say "I would like x amount monthly"?

lynn2009
05-31-2018, 09:34 PM
@lynn2009

Thank you for this response!

Do you have any advice on how I can go about this for next month (assuming he stays around that long) to getting bills paid if he doesn't want to just send me cash? Also advice on how to set expectations? I'll be talking about that when I see him and will make my list of self-rules tonight and need-to-knows. He's never done this before, so I can sense he's nervous and unsure about everything, but if I want to tell him what guidelines are. (Unsure about how willing I am to train)

I would have said to focus on clubs but I just saw your post history...

I don't have any better advice, but whatever your expenses are never has any bearing on how much someone owes you for work. Maybe you are a frugal person and share a house with 4 other roommates, should you get paid less just because you are smart with your money?? It would never work like that in any other kind of work.

It sounds like he wants to act like your boyfriend, and I think you don't know what you are getting into with that. Relationships are hard enough without trying to fake it with some needy loser twice your age.

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 09:46 PM
It sounds like he wants to act like your boyfriend, and I think you don't know what you are getting into with that. Relationships are hard enough without trying to fake it with some needy loser twice your age.

This has been my biggest issue with freelancing and websites! I'm not a girlfriend, and I don't want to be. I enjoy being single and being taken on dates to settle now for a man 2-3x my age. However, these are what my offers are. If this doesn't work out, that's fine. My focus will solely be on dancing in June, but I was excited to possibly have some extra money lol. Thank you so much for all your advice!

lynn2009
05-31-2018, 09:58 PM
This has been my biggest issue with freelancing and websites! I'm not a girlfriend, and I don't want to be. I enjoy being single and being taken on dates to settle now for a man 2-3x my age. However, these are what my offers are. If this doesn't work out, that's fine. My focus will solely be on dancing in June, but I was excited to possibly have some extra money lol. Thank you so much for all your advice!

You're welcome, and good luck. You go to a good school and my old lady advice is to focus on that..... :)

As a side note, I'm really concerned about the reputation sugaring has these days, and all the idiot 18 year olds who are going to be at best disappointed and at worst really taken advantage of. Please tell anyone you know in person to be careful!

Angel_Kitteneque
05-31-2018, 10:12 PM
You're welcome, and good luck. You go to a good school and my old lady advice is to focus on that..... :)

As a side note, I'm really concerned about the reputation sugaring has these days, and all the idiot 18 year olds who are going to be at best disappointed and at worst really taken advantage of. Please tell anyone you know in person to be careful!

Awwww thank you so much!! (Along with your PM!!) ;D

I attempted to go on foot fetish sites and got the same response there--old, creepy men looking for a young girlfriend and didn't want to give anything else more, or they would just send pictures of their wrinkly dicks :/

My best option is to most likely to just stick to clubs. I'm so green behind the ears, and I am slowly but surely developing my confidence and tolerance for BS, but I do want to do this right and be safe. I have a lot of long-term goals I want to hit!

miss.a.p1600
06-02-2018, 08:07 AM
He's never called himself a SD, but I think he has potential!

How do you approach the conversation in person? Do you break down the expenses for him or say "I would like x amount monthly"?

Some men can be trained but you just gotta know/leanr how to influence people's behavior. For the greater good of course }:D

As for your expenses, At the meet & greet, someone has to bring it up. If he doesn't then you can. Something along the lines of 'wow, I've enjoyed our conversation and so now let's discuss the details of our arrangement...this is what I'm looking for....are we on the same page or what do you have in mind?" or something like that. Just the same way you'd sell them on a dance or vip in the club.

*also I don't want ladies to misinterpret my last post. Never lower your standards/your worth for a man. I do think it's okay to start small and work your way up as you gain experience. And also it is okay to shorten the learning curve and dive right in - if you can handle doing so. But also I think it is VERY important to value yourself, your time, etc. Know what the market is for similar adult services. Know what financial goals you want an SD (or multiple SD's) to help you accomplish. There are many men who are out here looking for cheap deals, more bang for their buck, and trying to get over on young naive women. Avoid men who make you feel uncomfortable/unsafe/unworthy/etc. Use common sense, judgment, ensure men you deal with respect your boundaries, and be wise about how you carry yourself.