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xCamLovex
02-08-2016, 04:20 PM
im too prideful to 'allow' any custie to determine my paycheck. i kind of go into every shift with the mindset of...i'll never see a familiar face here. less pressure. i should always fantastic enough to draw in the fresh new customer rather than to rely on the same guy. youve gotta realize a lot of these guys esp on MFC (*AHEM*) they love to feel superior with their digital tokens and make some girls feel great while making others feel unneeded. dont fall for it. find a new boytoy. find 10. find 100. but dont get sad by a customer not going with you anymore...it could be after all...what they want you to feel.

when guys tell me..i can find better..bigger....hotter...cheaper...then GO. why are you telling me? why are you wasting time on getting your magical dick off? GO!!! Leave!!! Find someone else so I can find someone else!

BadBitch
02-08-2016, 04:52 PM
I get it. I'm just going through a very rough time in my personal life right now that has made me very vulnerable. He's definitely not my only regular. I'm emotional right now. But, I appreciate all of your responses.

BadBitch
02-08-2016, 04:56 PM
I don't follow my customers around like a lost puppy. They're my customers. Period. When they're not buying my product I don't have any feelings about them.

I definitely don't follow him around like a lost puppy. I'm not in other rooms seeking him out (he's anonymous anyway). My friend showed me his pic and told me that he was seeing her.

I'm just going to take the girls' advice on the thread and not worry about it anymore. I can't control it. What's done is done. I was just curious to see how you ladies handle it. I got a lot of insight.
Thanks.

TheBrownFox
02-08-2016, 05:01 PM
Ok ladies. Not sure if this topic was addressed before (although, I'm pretty sure it has).

What do you do when one of your biggest customers starts spending on someone else?

I can't help but feel some kind of way.

I had a great guy who dropped off the face of the earth in November. He told me that he hasn't been on the site due to connection problems. But, I know from a friend that he has been in her room.

How do you girls handle this? I depended on the guy and now he's gone. And on top of it all, he's lying to me saying he hasn't been on the site in a few months.

I feel so rejected. I can't help but ask myself, "What the fuck did you do wrong?"

I know it's a site (SM) with at least 1800 girls on at once and these guys go from room to room. I get it. I wouldn't mind if he was spending on others AND still spending on me. But, he dropped me like a bag of hot potatoes.

I guess I just really need to get over it. But, I was wondering how you girls feel about this. How do you cope? Do you blow it off or feel rejected?

I feel for you. I think we all have been there. These guys eventually reach what we call their "expiration date" with us and move on. It's not something we did wrong. I do think it's kinda fucked up, though, when they lie and say they haven't been on the site. WTF. Do they think y'all are married, and he committed adultery by visiting another cam girl? Lol. It's such a dumb thing to lie about. It's like damn, you were a cool guy until I caught you lying to me about some dumb shit. And I'm the kinda person who...if he ever came back to my room after that, I'd have to smile and call him out on his bs by casually saying "Ya know...it's cool that you visit other rooms, but you didn't have to lie about being off the site...ya know?"

BadBitch
02-08-2016, 05:07 PM
I feel for you. I think we all have been there. These guys eventually reach what we call their "expiration date" with us and move on. It's not something we did wrong. I do think it's kinda fucked up, though, when they lie and say they haven't been on the site. WTF. Do they think y'all are married, and he committed adultery by visiting another cam girl? Lol. It's such a dumb thing to lie about. It's like damn, you were a cool guy until I caught you lying to me about some dumb shit. And I'm the kinda person who...if he ever came back to my room after that, I'd have to smile and call him out on his bs by casually saying "Ya know...it's cool that you visit other rooms, but you didn't have to lie about being off the site...ya know?"

Thank you. I actually feel A LOT better now that I have read your responses. Everything in life is a learning experience. And yes! It IS such a dumb thing to lie about - that's honestly the part that angered me the most. Look, some of you girls aren't connected with your guys. I get it. But like I said before, I'm pretty sensitive and it just got to me a bit.

IvyAdams
02-09-2016, 11:33 AM
You are the stock market for men, make them buy high, continuously, and sell as many shares as possible to as many shareholders as you can! That's how your value grows, and that's how you prevent a stock market crash. The great thing about camming is that you are always doing an IPO! No point in lowering your market and taking away shares from others by placing all your bets on one lousy whale.

Fuck, this post just made me wet. Perfect analogy.

also...

Custies come and go, they shop around. When iPhone comes out with a new phone with new features, what do the other companies do? They don't get upset that you're leaving.. they work on their product and then release one with new features to stay competitive.
As a cam model you need to treat yourself like a product instead of a person. Be at the top of your game ALWAYS and if you start to lose customers, adapt and create ways to bring them AND new custies to you. Be the iPhone, BB.

Erika_Xstacy
02-09-2016, 11:54 AM
I get it. I'm just going through a very rough time in my personal life right now that has made me very vulnerable. He's definitely not my only regular. I'm emotional right now. But, I appreciate all of your responses.
THIS will fuck all of us up

We do take our personal life into work and sometimes can be vulnerable or feel like we have been betrayed by custis when we though they are ours so to speak.

I have dealt with this with two custis..
Its just the fact they lied. That is what ate me up .. both are cammodels signups and I can see when they spend, i get a cut. my bright side is I dont shit to get the extra but it sucks Im not getting full extra like i would if performing

Truth was they went to a cheaper model, gave her tips, got shows and both came back to me.

Its a cycle, they cycle through us like we do them

BadBitch
02-09-2016, 11:59 AM
THIS will fuck all of us up

We do take our personal life into work and sometimes can be vulnerable or feel like we have been betrayed by custis when we though they are ours so to speak.

I have dealt with this with two custis..
Its just the fact they lied. That is what ate me up .. both are cammodels signups and I can see when they spend, i get a cut. my bright side is I dont shit to get the extra but it sucks Im not getting full extra like i would if performing

Truth was they went to a cheaper model, gave her tips, got shows and both came back to me.

Its a cycle, they cycle through us like we do them

Yes!!!! That's what got me - he lied. He played me. But, I'm just gonna move on. I have no other choice than to move past it.

notameercat
02-09-2016, 02:13 PM
I'm not mad at her, I'm mad at him for lying.

In my experience, customers lie all the time, sometimes to us, sometimes to their spouse/partner, sometimes even to themselves. You think they tell their wife every time they play with a camgirl? No. So why would you expect they would tell you when they play with someone else?

I have a couple of regs who spend big on me every couple of months, and spend big on others in between. Of course they tell me they've not been up to anything since they last saw me, and I pretend to believe them. It's part of the game we play and the fantasy we sell.

sovereignv
02-09-2016, 02:21 PM
I know what it's like to deal with uncontrollable emotion and to be very sensitive and in that regard I really sympathize with you. When that worm of insecurity gets into your brain it's so incredibly hard to get rid of it.

However - it's important to know that your regulars NEVER owe you anything... just like you don't owe them anything. For whatever reason he didn't feel like having a show with you. He probably lied because he didn't want to hurt your feelings. We lie too, it's part of the job. This is the kind of stuff you can't take personally and once you really internalize that idea you'll do much better.

Hope you feel better soon and that you're able to take your mind off it.

MaeAnything
02-09-2016, 05:12 PM
I feel you Bad! Been there a few times. I've been the other girl on a few occasions as well. A major reason I switched from MFC to SM was the regs and GFE was just too much for my nerves. Still encounter this situation on SM though, just low dosages. If I know that a reg is going to abandon ship and move on, I tell them like it is. Once they leave, I feel like it's harder to draw them back in when they come to say "hi". Tried it countless times, and it always ends up being a lot of energy for half the amount they used to spend. The jealousy is still there but it's been easier to move along knowing it's done and IDGAF anymore.
I also try to view it in some logical perspective. Lets face it...I lie like Satan himself to custies. Makes that $$. If I'm just a liar just for the money, why should I judge them about lying for their dick. But of course there is no logic in emotions.
It's tough :/

BadBitch
02-09-2016, 10:22 PM
I know what it's like to deal with uncontrollable emotion and to be very sensitive and in that regard I really sympathize with you. When that worm of insecurity gets into your brain it's so incredibly hard to get rid of it.

However - it's important to know that your regulars NEVER owe you anything... just like you don't owe them anything. For whatever reason he didn't feel like having a show with you. He probably lied because he didn't want to hurt your feelings. We lie too, it's part of the job. This is the kind of stuff you can't take personally and once you really internalize that idea you'll do much better.

Hope you feel better soon and that you're able to take your mind off it.

Thank you!!! I hate the insecurity worm!!!!

BadBitch
02-09-2016, 10:23 PM
I feel you Bad! Been there a few times. I've been the other girl on a few occasions as well. A major reason I switched from MFC to SM was the regs and GFE was just too much for my nerves. Still encounter this situation on SM though, just low dosages. If I know that a reg is going to abandon ship and move on, I tell them like it is. Once they leave, I feel like it's harder to draw them back in when they come to say "hi". Tried it countless times, and it always ends up being a lot of energy for half the amount they used to spend. The jealousy is still there but it's been easier to move along knowing it's done and IDGAF anymore.
I also try to view it in some logical perspective. Lets face it...I lie like Satan himself to custies. Makes that $$. If I'm just a liar just for the money, why should I judge them about lying for their dick. But of course there is no logic in emotions.
It's tough :/

I know. Isn't that weird - we lie to them constantly. Yet, we catch them in a lie and some of us sensitive folk get our panties in a wad. Teehee! Thank you! Hugs!

MaeAnything
02-13-2016, 05:43 PM
Yeah it's a trip! It extends beyond custies, into everyday life. I think it can be heightened on cam however due to the sexual connection. I wouldn't say it's a "sensitive" trait, but rather a primal survival trait....if that makes sense.

Anyways, hope you're feeling better about the sitch! Totally normal feeling! *hugs*

DelishIrish
02-13-2016, 06:11 PM
I understand feeling "some kind of way", OP. A rich New Yorker dropped me and I sadly pondered for one night, then never dwelled on it again.
What's more awkward for me is when one of my regulars will tell me about a different regular cuurently in another model's room. Like umm, and why do I care? What would you like me to do about that? There's no leash homeboy lol weirdos "tattle-telling" on each other...

secretwebcamchick
02-14-2016, 08:36 PM
You depended on him????? girl no!! Just NO!!!!!! Please dont chase him girl then he will surely never return... Never Depend on a custie to stay a custie forever no matter how much money he spends on you... Those things dont bother me cause first off i dont have any feelings involved in them and Second girl it's a little hypocritical to get all emotional about him going to another girls room when you wouldnt expect him to get bent outta shape over you seeing other custies.. hope you feel better about it girl :)

Dorothea
02-15-2016, 06:35 AM
Why is that even a big deal. Don't worry about him being in another room - just get all the tokens you can when he is in your room. The guys always go hunting for new models if that was not the case you would never get any new regulars. The guys that matter are in YOUR room.

BadBitch
02-15-2016, 06:53 PM
You depended on him????? girl no!! Just NO!!!!!! Please dont chase him girl then he will surely never return... Never Depend on a custie to stay a custie forever no matter how much money he spends on you... Those things dont bother me cause first off i dont have any feelings involved in them and Second girl it's a little hypocritical to get all emotional about him going to another girls room when you wouldnt expect him to get bent outta shape over you seeing other custies.. hope you feel better about it girl :)

Yeah, I'm over it. I posted this over a week ago. I am a very sensitive person. For some of you girls, it's easy to say, "Get over it". But for someone like myself, it's tough to just let it go. The big issue was that he lied to me about it. But, as I stated, I'm over it at this point.

Sam38g
02-15-2016, 07:21 PM
Men lie to get what they want on or off cam. They think nothing of getting a girl emotionally involved just so they can get their sexual needs met.

It is a game to them, he just isn't playing you & her but probably many others. When they get to close emotionally too, they move on & it hurts, cause they were just in it for the sex.

Personally, I don't lie to customers when I cam. Hate bullshit & games so I don't play them. Pay me to get off & we both win, anyone who tries to want more makes me uncomfortable. It isn't just about work but about boundaries, these guys do NOT log onto cam sites with good intentions.
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People I let into my real life that get my energy off cam as well, must have my best intentions at heart. This guy is running game on whomever let's him, he will be back. Cause his ego will make him try to rope you in all over again.

In friendship & with lovers it must be mutual emotionally & fair. As females we tend to give to much in hopes they will see our hearts & give back, they take advantage of it. Rarely do men have the ability to give like we do. Look at how many men cheat on their pregnant wives, leave a spouse after 20 years of marriage & kids for a younger female. Seen to many wives get cancer & their man leave them, cause he wants pussy available 24/7 to him & she is to sick to give it up.

Actions speak louder than words. Don't be so hard on yourself, he lied. He will never truly know what it is to be love & be loved in return, which is what he deserves.

Smooches,
Sam

BadBitch
02-15-2016, 07:26 PM
Men lie to get what they want on or off cam. They think nothing of getting a girl emotionally involved just so they can get their sexual needs met.

It is a game to them, he just isn't playing you & her but probably many others. When they get to close emotionally too, they move on & it hurts, cause they were just in it for the sex.

Personally, I don't lie to customers when I cam. Hate bullshit & games so I don't play them. Pay me to get off & we both win, anyone who tries to want more makes me uncomfortable. It isn't just about work but about boundaries, these guys do NOT log onto cam sites with good intentions.
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People I let into my real life that get my energy off cam as well, must have my best intentions at heart. This guy is running game on whomever let's him, he will be back. Cause his ego will make him try to rope you in all over again.

In friendship & with lovers it must be mutual emotionally & fair. As females we tend to give to much in hopes they will see our hearts & give back, they take advantage of it. Rarely do men have the ability to give like we do. Look at how many men cheat on their pregnant wives, leave a spouse after 20 years of marriage & kids for a younger female. Seen to many wives get cancer & their man leave them, cause he wants pussy available 24/7 to him & she is to sick to give it up.

Actions speak louder than words. Don't be so hard on yourself, he lied. He will never truly know what it is to be love & be loved in return, which is what he deserves.

Smooches,
Sam

Yep! That's what he was doing. He would come in like a knight-in-shining-armor wooing me. Thanks for your response. Much appreciated.

Sam38g
02-15-2016, 07:43 PM
In the biz we call them "Captain Save-A-Ho" They love pretending they will rescue from this horrible industry & love you the way you deserve to be loved. They are predators that turn on you the minute you call, them out on their bs & try to guilt you cause you are a whore & deserved it.

Personally, I chose this industry as an adult, why do I need to be rescued from something I decided to make a career..... So I can suck their cock & live in proverty in the name of love. Have many friends who married guys who had no money that supported, pushed, helped, worked their asses off for 20 years of marriage. Cut coupons, took buses, had kids, sacrificed lots in the name of love, for what? In the end the guy divorces them & left them with debts, kids, took or hide all the money & rarely pays child support for a younger girl.

I have no regrets in chosing my career.

Fully realize that many people live their lives within the online world. Don't..... It is real, when you go on dates, see them in person, meet their friends, their family. When everyone in their real world knows about you. A man with serious intentions takes you home to meet his mother. Do not be afraid to ask for those bench marks, you deserve love, you deserve not to be some hidden secret.

Sam

Sam38g
02-15-2016, 07:54 PM
Best way to get rid of them permanently is to get expensive really quick. Baby, I need a new computer, can you make my car payment. Saying no, or calling them out on their bs only leads to think the door is still open cause you are still communicating with them.

Remember there is always a price to pay, but who is paying it. He involved you emotionally so he could tip you less yet get all your attention & love. You paid the price.

KatM
02-15-2016, 08:23 PM
All u saying about men is soo true Sam, some of us learn these things the hard way, i did not follow this thread fully but briefly, i can say for sure men are manipulative & will do anything to get between our legs or if it's happening online to get us 'hooked' & kinda dependent on them financially, it's sad but true.
At this point i dont see the need of a man in my life, all i need from them is their money for my cam shows, nothing else, i keep the distance and block the ones who become clingy w.o paying anymore, i just did this last week with a guy.

Good luck Badbitch with whatever u need there, i can only say be happy for the money u squeezed from him and dont put too much heart into whatever this guy did, they dont deserve our attention when they turn bad lol.

Sam38g
02-15-2016, 09:08 PM
I love men, just not ones who lies, manipulate & try to get over on me or others in general. That guy had no integrity or honor, we all learn this lesson the hard way & many times over.

Here are some general rules, no actual sex with a man I date until I see his actions matching the words. Real dates as in dinners, movies, walks on the beach. Dont care if it takes 6 months for me to figure it out. It can happen on the first date too, but no man gets to demand or expect sex from me.
Until I determine their true hearts & intentions, assume everything they say is a lie.

A player will have several facebook accounts, but very few real interactions with friends of both sexes.

KatM
02-16-2016, 05:55 AM
^^^ I love men too, it's just very difficult to find good men now a days especially for a woman of our age or single mom or an adult worker or all of these, we adult workers are an 'easy target' for them scums, i mean looks like all good men are taken since they young(er) lol, what remained are the 'bad guys' with the exception of a widower. Who is single at 40+ yo (never married) or divorced is mostly in that situation because he either has some issues or a smart woman decided to leave him, that's how i see it.

BadBitch
02-16-2016, 08:18 AM
I definitely don't need saving. I'm married to a wonderful man and am independent. When I said that I "depended" on the customer, I meant that I was used to seeing him drop his $100-$150/day on me. I'm definitely going to miss that. I just don't like being lied to. Now, I just laugh at the ridiculousness of the guy and his bullshit lies. I already have 2 guys that have taken his place. I am keeping in mind that they may not be here long - or they may be. Who knows. My lesson was learned from the ordeal.

NicoleNichols
02-16-2016, 09:45 AM
I get it... I used to have territorial jealousy issues with customers as well. But then I became a customer myself... and now I realize that most people don't like just one type of woman. I do have a #1 favorite model, but when she isn't on, I'm definitely admiring others... I love many types. It's nothing she did wrong. So now I realize it's not really fair of me to expect regs to stay loyal to just me. Sometimes they just want different things, and that's okay. I can't be three different people and appeal to everything they like at all times. Tastes change and they vary from day to day. Variety is the spice of life and all that jazz.