View Full Version : How to Get Ridiculously Hot
Snowy0Star
01-18-2017, 03:04 AM
. Long, thick eyelashes. I personally love lilly ghalichi 3D mink eyelashes.
How long do these last? Theyre like $30 a pair thats a lot for fake eyelashes when you can go on ebay and order a pack of like 80 sets for like $15
persianprincess
01-18-2017, 07:12 AM
Red Cherry lashes are cheap and always look good.
Have been wanting to try these Ghalichi ones though ... wondering if worth it?
Kb109
01-18-2017, 10:57 AM
Pretty much everything has bee covered that I can think of, so this will sound redundant I'm sure.
Get into a serious workout routine and a healthy diet. No plastic surgery needed to have an amazing body!
If you're a little pasty, embrace it if you can pull it off. Otherwise, a subtle spray tan or one of those gradual tanning lotions can definitely make you look great. Plus, having a tan is slimming and shows off muscle definition better.
Hair extensions! Or go on Pinterest and find the perfect hair you want and show the photo to a really good hairdresser.
Learning makeup tricks as many have mentioned. Learning how to highlight/contour changed my life, LOL!!! I get random compliments all the time from women saying "you're so gorgeous!". For some reason, it feels sooooo much more genuine coming from a female versus a male.
New wardrobe. Don't have a lot to spend? I've found some great gently-used dresses and other clothing from the Poshmark app and eBay!
Colored contacts look amazing on some people and they've come a long way. They don't look super fake as long as you choose a color that compliments your features.
I know I already said exercise and diet, but do SQUATS damnit!!! Squats and lunges will get you an amazing ass!!
Read books about "The Law of Attraction" and apply the teachings to your every day life.
Of course, these are just some things that came to mind. Everyone on here has excellent suggestions. Hope this helped, even a little. :)
Xoxo
Kb109
01-18-2017, 11:00 AM
Red Cherry lashes are cheap and always look good.
Have been wanting to try these Ghalichi ones though ... wondering if worth it?
I've wondered about those lashes too. I use Latisse so I already have ridiculously long lashes, but something about fake eyelashes can take you from looking "pretty" to "HOT"!!!
charlie61
01-18-2017, 08:07 PM
I've wondered about those lashes too. I use Latisse so I already have ridiculously long lashes, but something about fake eyelashes can take you from looking "pretty" to "HOT"!!!
I think there's a brand called Christina lashes that is made in the same factory as Red Cherry and are basically much cheaper duplicates.
persianprincess
01-18-2017, 10:49 PM
24 hour sale on Ghalichi lashes ... 15% off if anyone is wanting to try them
kortneykay
01-20-2017, 08:07 AM
Don't underestimate the power of plastic surgery if needed. Yes, the gym is awesome but there are some of us that have loose skin, etc that no gym or diet is gonna fix. Sorry but stretched out skin from being overweight is not going to be fixed at the gym for everyone. No shame in getting it removed or getting a breast lift if needed. Get ridiculously hot the best way you know how, ladies.
BlkSharpie
01-20-2017, 09:12 AM
Not sure if this has already been mentioned but ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!!
You can physically be the more gorgeous woman in the room with makeup on point and styled to the nines, but if you put off a vibe that youre insecure and unsure of yourself, you'll be a wallflower regardless. You can step out looking like what not but how you carry yourself is 90% of what will make you hot. Which, ironically, is why pulling yourself together does wonders...not so much for how you look, but for how you feel about yourself when you look a certain way.
So yeah, my advice? Do you..do what makes you feel gorgeous...and that is what guys will see and feel when the are around you.
I swear to god I dont mean to sound like a Dove commercial LOL but I struggles for so long trying to fit in and whenever I tried I felt so uncomfortable and awkward...when I gave up on that and stopped caring so much about fitting in a "box" of the ideal of what being hot is, suddenly guys started eyeballing me. Attitude...!!!
Snowy0Star
01-20-2017, 09:47 AM
^ to some extent yeah but its human nature to be attracted to healthy looking individuals I'm 250 I know that most men do not find me attractive I dont find larger men attractive a bit hypocritical yes but I'm working on my weight. Just because I'm technically morbidly obese does not mean I find the 40 year old virgin who weights 400 pounds living in his mothers basement eating cheetos and playing WoW all day attractive. I like men who have beach bodies or at least decently in shape and has a nice face.
I agree with KK being healthy and in shape opens a lot of doors and a lot of opportunities that would not be available otherwise if one is overweight or it would take way longer or one would have to fight harder to get it .
I agree partly with what your saying tho love yourself now and take care of urself so you feel good about urself but IMO thats part of the weight loss journey u cant work on urself and make urslef a better healthier person if ur down in the dumps and feeling shitty about ur situation ur body ur weight etc . Being overweight and happy with ur life can only get u so far.
Its just simply not healthy do be lugging around all the fat and weight on urself eventually it takes its toll and having excess fat causes problems with ur bodily systems . When i was 290 not to long ago my periods stopped i would only get them like once every 3-8 months.I had no sex drive i was tired all the time and generally just down in the dumps.
When i moved back into my home town last month i decided now was the time to do something about my weight and i have noticed a lot of positive changes in my body and my mood and life in general. Its both a blessing and a curse but for the first time in two years ive gotten my period two months in a row now. A bit annoying because how many of us look forward to their periods? But it means my hormones and body are starting to get back on track in the rhythm it should be in. I'm taking steps to move towards the career i want to have and getting my schooling and certifications sorted out so i can make the life i want to have happen for myself.
Sorry if this was a bit long and very soap boxy but i just wanted to make a point that being happy and fat can only get u so far and my experience with being overweight and how my weight loss has effected me .
BlkSharpie
01-20-2017, 11:01 AM
Oh I totally understand Snowy... but it really does still go back to what Im saying. Like, for you, feeling better about yourself and your health means getting in shape and losing weight. With that on your mind definitely will play a part not only in how you view yourself, but also how you feel others view you...kinda like your example of how you view a guy in his mothers basement eating cheetos. (great visual btw lol)
I have a friend who is by medical definition morbidly obese. Now, while shes not totally happy with it and has been trying to lose weight, cant tell her shes not hot..and I swear it...not exaggerating..this woman gets laid more than anyone else I know. Anyone. Im sitting here all...jeez, its been like 2 months, and she will text me all depressed and sex hangry cause its been 4 days. :O :D
All I mean though is, dont get caught up trying to fit into a box of what an ideal for hot is...Im not saying just be happy with what you have, but that we all have our thing that makes us feel confident and fierce..and when we achieve that, whatever that thing is...it will come out in how we feel about ourselves and carry ourselves.
babygrrrl
06-28-2017, 03:33 PM
I know I'm about to get so much hate for saying this but generally I'd say you (and any girl, I'm not saying specifically to you) should look into fillers and plastic surgery.
I started making much much more after plastic surgery. I know you said you're against it but I think most women highly benefit from it. Sugardaddies want the dream fantasy girl... not just a girl who piles on makeup and fake hair and cute outfits. Look at it as an investment. Nose job was the real game changer for me. I get more compliments now and guys definitely spend more on me after the nose job.
I also stay thin and fit, keep my skin healthy, don't wear too much makeup and I have very few and not highly visible tattoos.
charlie61
06-28-2017, 05:08 PM
^In a way, I agree. I think more extreme looks tend to make more money, for many reasons. Whether through plastic surgery or natural means, eye - catching, polarized looks often tend to make money. Which isn't to say that less extreme looks can't compete with the best of them, of course! But I digress, as this thread definitely isn't about debating the merits of plastic surgery!
I was just thinking about this thread yesterday. I know it's been said before, but TEETH are such a huge deal. Very white, perfect teeth take an average look to a whole different level!
Snowy0Star
06-28-2017, 09:47 PM
Can you change ur bone structure ? I'm asking because I naturally have a more wide-set bone stucture. I'm currently at 230 but my ideal weight is probably around 150-170 I've never been at a healthy weight the last time I remember being thin was in 1 st grade lol. Ive been toying with the idea of getting a sugar daddy after I get down to a healthy weight but I know I'll never have a rail thin Paris Hilton type body - my body is more one that has popular in the 60s and 70s very full-figured voluptuous. I think if I got down 110-120 witch it seems that most guys with money want id look very unhealthy and probably be clinically anorexic. Should I just assume that I have a "commonly undiserable" body type and give up on the idea or is it still possible ?
xxxGothBarbie
06-29-2017, 02:32 PM
This thread almost makes me sick. Why not just be yourself? Why feel the need to compare yourself to someone else that has inner issues that is obviously unhappy with themselves? Be thankful none of you were born with some sort of actual dysmorphic face or body. Ya sure I used to be super skinny & made money but guess what??? I also am older now, gained 40 lbs & have learned to embrace it & love myself for what I am & not secretly hate myself for what I'm not. All this talk of plastic surgery disgusts me, esp telling others that they need it, when that is not anyone's place to say so.
I keep up my good looks by being confident & that my dear is something money just can't buy. Ya sure I'll fix myself up when I go out or when I'm working but I also wear yoga pants & a simple cami to the store or to run errands with no makeup & guess what??? I STILL get looks & hit on by guys. There is nothing wrong with being a BBW or being thin yet untoned, having a few wrinkles here or there. People age, it's a fact. Some do it more gracefully than others, some don't. Life happens & I know I'm not running off to the gym in hopes that everyone will love me for being something that society has tried to brainwash us to be from television & media.
Lastly, if some one doesn't like me for the way I look for whatever reason then guess what??? They can turn the other way. I wouldn't have wanted to know them anyway. End rant.
P.s I make more money now that I've accepted myself as who I am than I did as a skinny minnie :)
charlie61
06-29-2017, 05:44 PM
^Brings up some complex issues that belong in another thread.
The post can stay, but let's keep the thread on track according to the OP's original intentions.
Sam38g
06-30-2017, 08:02 PM
Repeatedly tell men that you are until they believe you & that no one else can make them hard like you do. :)
Ya'll are working to hard.
Genoveve
06-30-2017, 09:27 PM
I know I'm not running off to the gym in hopes that everyone will love me for being something that society has tried to brainwash us to be from television & media.
The OP wasn't asking about how to make herself look more conventionally attractive because she wants to find self-love or because she wants others to love her, she was asking because she works in an industry that has a tendency to favor the conventionally attractive. It's for business purposes. Needing to look a certain way for professional reasons isn't exactly an unusual thing, no matter what industry.
SuperJa
06-30-2017, 09:49 PM
The OP wasn't asking about how to make herself look more conventionally attractive because she wants to find self-love or because she wants others to love her, she was asking because she works in an industry that has a tendency to favor the conventionally attractive. It's for business purposes. Needing to look a certain way for professional reasons isn't exactly an unusual thing, no matter what industry.
And nobody was saying "you can't make money unless you look x way" but this thread is a really helpful checklist to go through if you're looking for something to give you a bit more of an edge. Like before you did a photoshoot or audition at a really high end club. Or if you just want more cold sales. There are girls out there who aren't conventionally attractive in any way making money because of being strong hustlers, and ultimately you need more than physical attractiveness, but nobody is walking into a club being like "I want to get VIP from a girl with really jacked up teeth and chipped nails". Can that girl get a VIP? Sure, but it makes life easier if they already have a "yes" in their mind when you are walking up to the table.
charlie61
07-01-2017, 11:23 AM
This is why I was saying we should just ignore the post. It'll derail the thread. Brings up SO many arguable issues.
SnuffleUffleGrass
07-06-2017, 11:27 AM
How long do these last? Theyre like $30 a pair thats a lot for fake eyelashes when you can go on ebay and order a pack of like 80 sets for like $15
FWIW I see fake eyelashes (name brand) at the Dollar Store or on sale at the drugstore really often. If you only use them once in a while it's cheaper to buy them by the pair, at a dollar or less per set. (Mine don't last long since I have oily skin & use a lot of glue.)
Aurora_Sunset
08-23-2017, 05:53 AM
I know I read some other people talking about it earlier in the thread, but just wanted to chime in with my own experiences - collagen supplements! They've been fantastic for my skin. I started taking one daily when I was doing a month-long fast from alcohol, and within a couple weeks, I couldn't believe how fresh my skin looked. I thought it was because of refraining from alcohol and that I was just more hydrated. Then that month ended and I went back to drinking fairly regularly but still doing the collagen and nothing changed in my skin. A few weeks later, I ran out of supplement and didn't get more right away. I still didn't really connect the dots until my mom saw the empty bottle sitting on my counter (to remind me to buy more) and asked if it had done anything for me. I realized IT was the reason my skin looked so good, not the alcohol/lack of alcohol. I bought more, and within another 2 weeks of starting it again, my skin looks really good again.
I even use an all plant-based collagen building supplement for those who are vegetarian/vegan and don't want to consume anything made from animal parts.
Aurora_Sunset
08-23-2017, 05:54 AM
Also, should this thread be in Body Business? It seems like it gets pushed to the bottom of the pile in Other Work.
charlie61
08-24-2017, 02:38 AM
Also, should this thread be in Body Business? It seems like it gets pushed to the bottom of the pile in Other Work.
It is becoming quite similar to our Beauty Randoms thread...
vanessa_mtl
08-26-2017, 10:43 AM
Get a really good high end/luxurious perfume that's one of a kind and and majority does NOT have. It'll be memorable. I have one I use at work (worth the investment, I don't use cheap shit), that gets me tons of compliments. Men always remember me as that girl that smells really good. Hey, it works for me. Or a really good scented body lotion. Again, high end.
A good perfume should last with a few sprays and not overwhelm the guy. Get a few samples at Bloomingdales or Neiman Marcus, and see which one gets the best reaction.
This!!! My stripper mentor wore this very powdery Cartier sent that I will never forget. It just smelled like money! I personally like the more animalic, powder, or oriental scents for work. These are distinct from the fruity florals that are most popular at Maceys ( think Brittany spears, Beyoncé) all the celebrity scents and cheap shit which screams BASIC anything too green smells innocent and anything with aldéhydes florals like Chanel n•5 makes you smell old. Find out what the main notes are in your favourite scent using a resource like basenotes.com the site will recommend "others like this" try on some at a high end department store or order samples online from lucky scent. It's like 3$ per sample. Try out the ones that smell good at work- there will be one or two that make the men and your coworkers say "OMG what is that? you smell unreal!!" Just because we don't have a vocabulary to talk about scent doesn't mean it's not really powerful!!! It is strongly linked to memory. When I see a hot girl using Calgon I'm like why don't you just wear flip flops too!
Litch
08-28-2017, 08:37 AM
I fricking love this thread! Queens teaching other queens how to treat themselves like queens!
It's really true that if you take care of yourself, you'll be taken care of. It effects your whole persona. If you act like you don't deserve to spend money on yourself it'll show. When I first started dancing I came from a really fucked up family and had super low self esteem. I walked out of the club most nights with less than $100. I was super shy and always self conscious about my cheap ass outfits and cheap makeup. I thought the guys wouldn't care about the way I looked and tbh I don't think it matters as much as we think it does, but when you FEEL good about yourself and you know you look like a million bucks you're going to radiate this energy that is irresistible.
I had a major life turnaround when I got so fed up with breaking my back just to barely pay my bills. I grabbed my credit card and just said fuck it. I threw out my ratty weave and my cheap outfits, went to sephora and just bought a few basic things. I became VERY picky about my outfits and really made an effort to determine what looked good on me. I started buying fresh fruits and vegetables everyday-I was pretty chubby and had struggled to lose weight for YEARS, but going raw made me drop lbs like crazy-cut out all the garbage I was eating and worked on improving every aspect of myself. After about a month my whole life literally transformed. I had a whole new wardrobe of well fitting clothing that looked awesome on me even, but I didn't spend a ton since I ended up donating most of it to thrift stores when I lost weight and then replaced them with a fabulous wardrobe for my new body. I did a massive overhaul of all my belongings and donated all the junk I didn't need and only spent money on high quality things. My money making skyrocketed. I was happier, I didn't need to drink to deal with people because my confidence was through the roof. I paid off my credit card and even started tackling student loans even though I was still a student. It obviously improved my life outside of work as well, just general confidence, energy, and happiness.
Anyway sorry for the threadjack lol I just was so inspired by all of the positivity here and had to put my two cents in to affirm that investing in YOURSELF is the best way to spend money while making even MORE money!
Litch
08-28-2017, 08:41 AM
oh and one more thing I just thought of lol. when you invest money in yourself a lot it changes the way you think about money. I'm a dancer, but I think this goes across the board with all sex workers. if you think x amount of dollars for your services is too much money, you're gonna act like it. I used to charge way less for my VIPs and even then I'd be nervous that I was overcharging customers. I'd tell them my price with a sheepish smile and get all nervous and I'd get turned down. When you say "these are my rates" with nonchalance it makes the guy feel like a total cheapo for saying no.
Winged Dinghy
10-10-2017, 07:58 AM
Here's what has made the most difference for me.
1. Eyelash extensions. Amaaaazing. A lady I found on Craigslist does mine for $50.
2. Long hair. I like my hair short, but I'm more universally attractive with it long.
3. Running. Makes my legs incredibly toned and gives me a major mental health boost.
4. A plant-based diet. I'm not totally vegan but eating mostly fruits + veggies + legumes + whole grains gives me a glow.
5. A skincare routine that includes a mild cleanser (Cetaphil), retinoid at night (Differin gel), Regenerist micro-sculpting moisturizer, SPF 40 sunscreen and a Vitamin C serum (Timeless) in the morning.
6. Tattoos. I feel hotter and therefore more confident with a lot of tattoos.
7. Tonalin CLA. I really think it makes me look more toned.
8. Juvederm in my lips. Seriously, bigger lips + lash extensions make me at least 20% prettier.
9. I book the cheapest stylist at the most expensive salon for my haircuts. A good cut makes your overall look more high-end, and if your hair is long and you take good care of it, you don't need to get trimmed more than once or twice a year.
10. MyFitnessPal is great for tracking calories. I had put on about 15 pounds recently and I was telling myself, oh, it's not that big of a deal, I'm still in a healthy weight range for my height. But since I've committed to shedding the weight (seven pounds down so far), I already feel SO MUCH HOTTER. It sort of sucks, but being on the thinner side of healthy does make me look more conventionally attractive.
HoneyMachado
03-10-2018, 03:33 PM
You cannot go wrong with working out, pilates, yoga, and regular sports. A wholesome life will give you a bright aura to go with your amazing looks ;)