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Velveteen.Rabbit
04-03-2016, 12:44 PM
A lot of men, regardless of what you do or look like, want 836463739273 women at once but never reveal this because it's not something socially acceptable to reveal. If he has a lot of money, he has a lot of resources to get 837373663 women at once, so this is why I am ultra skeptical of wealthy men. You need to secretly watch them like a hawk and with a finetoothed comb without them having any idea at all ever.

TheBrownFox
04-03-2016, 08:44 PM
Yep I remember when I was younger, this guy was trying to get in my pants telling me "I ordered a ring for you...." after our first couple of dates. I had a bad feeling about him so I dumped him and found out he was using that line on a bunch of girls and they were falling for it and sleeping with him.. :/ ew

OMG, same here! This guy I met a few years ago (turned out he was just using me as a fuck buddy) kept saying he had something custom-ordered for me, which was bullshit...

Sam38g
04-03-2016, 09:50 PM
Lots of poor guys play the exact same games as rich guys do.

Anytime out with a man who says crap like "I usually date 27 year olds." I reply back "So do I." If on a date with a guy on the hunt for a bigger better deal, I beat him to the punch & have another date before I leave the place with someone else. Usually the owner of where we out to, cause the owner saw this guy was not for me & made a play right in front of that guys weak ass.

Never date out of pity, never fall for a pity play. Never fall for placing blame on you for what other girls have done to him in the past. If he calls me a "Gold digger", I smile & own it. Cause he is out with me to get sex & at my big boobs. Shallow gets shallow.

Treat guys who think females are disposable & to be used as your toys & do the same to them. Flip the script, it will intrigue them. Laugh, don't take it so seriously.

Most of all, stay off the internet. Go out into real life & date real guys. There are way to many keyboard romeos that do nothing to but con ladies on the web. Why waste time on men you more than likely will never meet. Much less even be in the same town as they are..


All the doctors, lawyers, CEOs and such that I've dated met them all in real life. NONE of them off of the web. I went to places where rich men go. Rich or successful men do hunting in real life places, they don't waste time on the web. Where any profile can be a fake..

They want to see females in a room, working it, how she handles herself in social situations. He wants the one who every one in the room has their eyes one.

Sam38g
04-03-2016, 10:03 PM
Only time I start dating is when I want to go on vacations to nice places & not pay for them. Then I start a round of dating with successful men, see how we get along. See if they bore me to death or not. Then progress from there.

I'm exciting, energized, great conversationalist on many different subjects. I help them get through career issues that takes them to the next level. We have a long term friendship that goes way beyong the sex after that part has ended.

Also supplies me with a life time of resources & brain storming with some of the smartest, hard working good guys if I ever need them when I can't solve a problem myself. Lots of my ex's still buy me gifts for my bday. So even though we didn't make it permenantly, still there is a connection & friendship that last forever.

Know how to love, but know when you are being played & cut the losses before you get hurt.

SweetJulia
04-04-2016, 01:52 AM
Why do you feel guilty about sex work? Were you mowing down customers in the parking lot? Did you drug an annoying one that ended up dying? Do you think anyone who wasted your time or copped a free feel feels guilty? I wouldn't want to work in education either, but there are a ton of jobs you can get with a sex work past, worse case scenario, prostitution charges. Bet you don't have those. Your job search just got easier. You have a masters degree, at that level of education, some employers won't even care what it's in. As far as online, anything you want to say or do is fair game. People use the internet to market snuff films, you just want a well off nerd you can look at in the light without cringing, for fucks sake. Sure, some whos opinions don't matter will call you a gold digger, they do that to everyone they contact for free. Look at it as having a commission only job selling filet mignon to a community where most can't afford it or are vegetarians. You deserve to find what you want for dealing with them.

kortneykay
04-04-2016, 09:46 AM
You're so right. From my experience a large percentage of wealthy men are narcissists, or stingy with their money, or womanizers, etc (and maybe some combinations).

But I am convinced there are the unicorn, needle in a haystack type of rich dudes. The sane ones who are generous and make good partners/husbands. These are the type of dudes to go for. Unless you don't care for long term monagamony then go the sugar baby or escort route.

I hope OP finds what she's looking for but this is why I fucks with wealthy men. I only wanna be their heux, count, and stack my money. I personally would rather be a wealthy man's whore than his wife.

Velveteen.Rabbit
04-04-2016, 11:56 AM
OMG, same here! This guy I met a few years ago (turned out he was just using me as a fuck buddy) kept saying he had something custom-ordered for me, which was bullshit...

This is what I try to explain to girls who don't actively go on dates with men, or at least who are not constantly meeting new men. A lot of men will tell you exactly what they think you want to hear, put lots of effort into planning dates and seeing you, and try their absolutely hardest to come off the way they think you want them to so that they can manipulate you to get exactly what they want. The ironic part is that this has happened to me several times and sometimes they thought I wanted something I didn't, haha!

But yes, this is extremely common in our current dating era and there's no way to avoid it because these men do everything possible to make you think they want a relationship when they don't. They behave identical to men who actually do want a relationship.

penny25
04-09-2016, 01:44 PM
Not only is it fine, you're being smart. Men use women for their bodies all the time. Hook-up culture mostly benefits men. There is no insulting word for a man who uses women's bodies for decades and then marries someone a lot younger and better looking than him (playboy is a suitable word for such a man but that's hardly considered insulting). There are plenty of derogatory terms however for a young lady who marries an older wealthy man; she's called a gold-digger, whore, slut, bimbo. Blargh.

wednesday86
04-09-2016, 07:48 PM
This is what I try to explain to girls who don't actively go on dates with men, or at least who are not constantly meeting new men. A lot of men will tell you exactly what they think you want to hear, put lots of effort into planning dates and seeing you, and try their absolutely hardest to come off the way they think you want them to so that they can manipulate you to get exactly what they want. The ironic part is that this has happened to me several times and sometimes they thought I wanted something I didn't, haha!

But yes, this is extremely common in our current dating era and there's no way to avoid it because these men do everything possible to make you think they want a relationship when they don't. They behave identical to men who actually do want a relationship.

I wouldn't say identical. They can *say* identical things, but their actions are harder to fake. Like giving you a key to his place, cleaning out a drawer for you to keep your stuff, introducing you to his mom and friends, making plans with you for the holidays, or trips with you, going out of his way to see you, talk to you, spend time with you...Guys aren't gonna do all that just to get some sex. Most men aren't complex enough to be that manipulative. A good rule of thumb is to just ignore what they say and watch what they do. Easy. :)