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lSexyS2
04-02-2016, 05:49 AM
1. You need to go to a food pantry and get some food. I would say that instant noodles will make you sick. Stock up on some beans,rice ,breads, vegetables, fruits, and maybe can protein like tuna or even beef stew.
2.You should try stripping along with camming to make some fast money. Maybe you could even do some phone sex work on the side? Or you could take up Deep Thought's offer of doing some porn. Also look into some vanilla jobs such as freelance writing or even babysitting.
3. Pick one site like Bonga and stay with that for awhile.
4. Talk to your university and maybe they can help you with a food grant.

Thinking about deepthoughts suggestion
Will look into the other bits of advice. College has offered me all they say they can offer, and possibly an extra 100 they will give me in may which I need to give them to pay for a compulsory trip we need to do for the course, the irony but at least I don't need to try to get the money, from my pocket for the trip, and food offered on the trip, so will eat well for the 3 or 4 days of the trip

KatM
04-02-2016, 05:52 AM
My partner is trying, but I'm kinda sucking them into debt themselves as they are now surviving on overdrafts and credit cards to help me and us.
We both have no family here, both with family back home that isn't that well off themselves. My family tried sending me money to help my education, my partners family asks my partner for money regularly, so they help me and them. Basically a black hole, which as caused me and my partner to fight, attempted failed suicides on both parts.... my marks on my arm never went away and it's been months, couldn't seem to cut deep enough, not brave enough. Trying not to do that anymore, decided to fight and try to live... How long does it take scars to go away, they constantly remind me of how low I felt.... even if they are only fine lines.

OMG sweetie, what u doing there with ur life pls? I posted my previous message before u posted this one. You really need help u know? Professional help. Where u guys come from, can u tell? You should not send money to family before u guys are doing better for urself.
And if nothing helps u there in the UK just leave the country and go back home, ur life is more important than being in the country and killing urself out of despair. OMG! I am speechless.....

lSexyS2
04-02-2016, 05:53 AM
Didn't expect such a big response, thought I might just get one reply of a cold shoulder type as I usually get this from people, my life story, sorta been struggling since a kid one way or another. Guess most people here know what it's like to struggle and can relate. Will try to get the rest of the replies soon.

Thanks for the overwhelming support and tips, it has been so helpful, spiritually and tip wise.

THANK YOU ALL

DonaDiabla
04-02-2016, 06:15 AM
ISexyS2,

Have you thought about selling panties and clips? That can give some income for awhile :)


Thinking about deepthoughts suggestion
Will look into the other bits of advice. College has offered me all they say they can offer, and possibly an extra 100 they will give me in may which I need to give them to pay for a compulsory trip we need to do for the course, the irony but at least I don't need to try to get the money, from my pocket for the trip, and food offered on the trip, so will eat well for the 3 or 4 days of the trip

SimoneGray
04-02-2016, 06:32 AM
Hmmm...I'm about to recommend something that I never normally do, but yours is a desperate situation. I know that sex work makes you uncomfortable, but you literally might just have to suck it up and do it. If you're unable to feed yourself, sometimes you just have to go places that aren't great to get it done and get out of the debt. Normally I would never say that anyone should do something they feel uncomfortable doing, but you may just have to, given the severity of the situation you are in.

With regards to stripping and camming, you don't need to look like a model. You just need to show up, hustle your ass off and get paid. I would recommend joining the BoleynModels daily pay network and getting onto a site like Streamate to start. You get new girl status for 30 days so you are very visible and the money comes a lot quicker. Its also a much easier site to work than MFC. With daily pay, you get money every day which is good, because you can then buy groceries and pet food. Also, work LONG hours. Not even kidding with this. Hours = Money most of the time.

The other thing you could try do is get a job at a fast food restaurant like Mc Donalds. The pay will definitely never be the greatest, but all employees get fed there and I'm pretty sure you also get discounts on food. Its really not the best food, but its a way for you and your partner to eat, as well as for you to get paid. You could also try waitressing, a lot of the restaurants also feed their employees.

Lastly, and this is the hard bit, try and not let this overwhelm you. I know its an awful situation, but take it one step at a time and get creative. Put pedal to the metal and grind really hard at whatever job you end up doing. Personally, sex work is still the best here, because unlike other jobs where your salary is capped, there is a lot more money to be made in sex work if you put in the effort and hours. But seriously, try and be as compartmentalised and positive as you can, worry only attracts more terrible things.

I was functionally homeless last year for about 2 months as well as being dead broke at the time. I did a few things I would never want to do again, but I pulled through eventually using some of the solutions that I have mentioned above. Camming was the saving grace for me, I used to do 14hr shifts daily, to make up enough to rent a place etc and have a bit of a money cushion, so yea, it takes really hard work. You do sound like you are willing to work hard though so you should be fine :)

lSexyS2
04-02-2016, 06:54 AM
^^^ Glad u back and alive! I was worried for u xx
Why u use the plural and say partners then partner? Is this a language/ typing mistake? You said u married so i get u legally married with only a guy right? Why u say ur partner(s) is in it's own debts? Dont u make the debts together? Or u just have separate lives & debts? I am confused.

Sorry dyslexia never know where to put the 's or s' then end up leaving it out. I try to double check when I write but things slip through. Have a molotov cocktail of possible mental issues dyslexia, dispraxia, discalculia, possibly aspergers, anxiety, pstd.... each shrink gives a new opinion on the what is or what are my problems.

(Edit sorry posted wrong way ptsd post traumatic stress disorder)

So there's the debts we have in our own names that we made like the debt I made when I decided to go back to study, the financial issues they had for example their car and insurance expenses which they got into debt to afford the insurance so they can get to work, insurers said their credit is to low to do monthly and had to pay a full year, public transport wasn't reliable enough and expensive so that put a big dent, but as I was working in enough part times was going to help, but ny side lopsided, both our individual debts kinda turned into a big mess. They have to send money to their family abroad, and basicaly the only person paying rent at the moment. I don't really know how to explain it. It's like a big mess, so they try to sort what they owe, I try to sort what i owe seperatly, any money they have leftover they try to help me with travel costs, groceries, pet food. I try not to eat to cut corners to make sure the pets and partner is managing enough, partner has own health problems and if not eating passes out, if to stressed can pass out, so I try not to worry them to much and manage things, cause they fall I fall. Basically finances are like play dough of different colours mixed together and I'm trying to keep the balance to not tip my partners finances over to much cause then we can't afford the rent. It's such a mess I find it confusing even to think of. We are surviving on my partners planned overdraft and credit card so I do my best not to ask for anything unless desperate or it will all dry out. And we will both fall.

Don't have many friends most are far, one borrowed me money so got some groceries and travel pass for a month for work, most say they can't help. My finances have never been good but never as bad as since I decided to go back to college and try to make a career for myself. I'm regretting going back to study. It's basically what lead to all this. And I don't know if I should quit as I am currently in the last few months of the 2 year course.

lSexyS2
04-02-2016, 06:57 AM
ISexyS2,

Have you thought about selling panties and clips? That can give some income for awhile :)

I read on here it's illegal to post panties and people saying it's not wortg the risk. Bit confused on that. I posted two clips but not sure what sells.

lSexyS2
04-02-2016, 07:04 AM
Sorry if I don't reply to everyone. Overwhelmed at the moment by responses. Again sorry for my grammar problems. I do try to double check things but have some issues with words and singular, plural, spell check can only help so much.

QueerCrip
04-02-2016, 08:50 AM
Don't worry about your grammar. I'm sure people will understand now they know you have dyslexia. Literally the last thing you need to worry about right now.

You said you didn't want to join Boleyn Models for daily pay because you read studios were bad. I'd agree about the studios thing but make an exception for Boleyn Models. If you feel uncertain there is a Boleyn Models thread here: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?189264-The-BoleynModels-InstantPay-Thread&highlight=boleyn .

Also, I saw a few people mention sticking with one place only, particularly BongaCams. I held my tongue because I figured others have cammed longer than me. I don't have experience with BongaCams specifically, but you said you weren't making much money. If you aren't making much one place, try another place for a day because sometimes certain places are just more lucrative for certain people. I started on Cam4 and hustled hard for a month. The first week I made $400, which wasn't bad, but it dwindled to the point I was making way less than minimum wage. I tried Chaturbate and was underpaying myself too from the get go. Then I read about Streamate on here and have been making an average of $27/hr USD so far and am hoping I will build up enough to stay consistent with that once my "new" status wears off after the month is up. New status brings in more peeps and the status lasts longest on Streamate so you can milk it.

I hope I'm not overwhelming you with more to think about.

lSexyS2
04-02-2016, 01:06 PM
Don't worry about your grammar. I'm sure people will understand now they know you have dyslexia. Literally the last thing you need to worry about right now.

You said you didn't want to join Boleyn Models for daily pay because you read studios were bad. I'd agree about the studios thing but make an exception for Boleyn Models. If you feel uncertain there is a Boleyn Models thread here: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?189264-The-BoleynModels-InstantPay-Thread&highlight=boleyn .

Also, I saw a few people mention sticking with one place only, particularly BongaCams. I held my tongue because I figured others have cammed longer than me. I don't have experience with BongaCams specifically, but you said you weren't making much money. If you aren't making much one place, try another place for a day because sometimes certain places are just more lucrative for certain people. I started on Cam4 and hustled hard for a month. The first week I made $400, which wasn't bad, but it dwindled to the point I was making way less than minimum wage. I tried Chaturbate and was underpaying myself too from the get go. Then I read about Streamate on here and have been making an average of $27/hr USD so far and am hoping I will build up enough to stay consistent with that once my "new" status wears off after the month is up. New status brings in more peeps and the status lasts longest on Streamate so you can milk it.

I hope I'm not overwhelming you with more to think about.

I'm waiting for streamate to accept me. Seem more strict on my id upload that has aprooved me on other sites. Resubmitted and waiting again. I do like the idea of tipping sites though with games, maybe the creative fun seeker in me. Really want to get a lovesense as I think that will help on a site like chastrbt, but need to sort my other issues first so not my first priority, hoping if others buy it on my refferal I can use the referal income to get it... not my top priority right now though, already spent over my budget for a camera. Will look into the studio others mentioned. Going home now from my part time so will try to look when I get home if I don't fall asleep once I hit the pillow, exhausted most the time, getting old, dreading my birthday, 29 on Friday and feel so unacomplished last year in my 20s, feel 82 not 28 lol. Will try to look at all the bits and bobs tonight or it tomorrow. Can't do it when my partneris home. They agreed to it but not when they home as it hurts them to see me do it, which I understand, considering they were against the even notion of strippers and those type of jobs and letting me do it despite being against their beliefs I've made the compromise of trying not to mention it in front of them or even research next to them. I might do a gofundme and thought ppl can even tell me where they want the money spent and photos, for example buy vegetables, etc as like that they can see where it went and I feel a bit better for accepting help as I feel it gives more control to those wanting to help. Though I still feel bad about asking ppl here for anything as everyone's advice is more than priceless but trying to try about everything everyone has mentioned in pm and on here. I also thought maybe I can make a wishlist on amazon just in the grocery section. For those that want to help out but want to be sure that's what I get. There's no worse things than thinking the money you give doesn't actually go to the reason you gave it. Not sure if I can get amazon groceries on it without third parties or not, as I know there are guys that come on here and prey on vulnerable people, my dad was one of those...

I want everyone to know, how utterly sincerely every single one of you have helped me in one way or another, seriously. My mother taught me to thank people, please and thank you. And I learnt through life how much a thank you means, even for the smaller things. And each and every one of you has helped a fellow human being here with encouragement, advice, good wishes and simple agnowledgment, and I hope you all know how important this has been to me and how important your time has been to someone else, possibly life saving. So to each and every one of you, know you are important enough to save someone's life and have done. I believe in telling those that have ever been in my life and helped me in some way or meant something to me, to let them know their worth, because everyone deserves to know they matter. Sorry if I got all soppy. I'm an oddball but I mean well.

IvyRose
04-02-2016, 01:17 PM
My partner is trying, but I'm kinda sucking them into debt themselves as they are now surviving on overdrafts and credit cards to help me and us.
We both have no family here, both with family back home that isn't that well off themselves. My family tried sending me money to help my education, my partners family asks my partner for money regularly, so they help me and them. Basically a black hole, which as caused me and my partner to fight, attempted failed suicides on both parts.... my marks on my arm never went away and it's been months, couldn't seem to cut deep enough, not brave enough. Trying not to do that anymore, decided to fight and try to live... How long does it take scars to go away, they constantly remind me of how low I felt.... even if they are only fine lines.

I have scars to, I hope one day you will see them and see how strong you are right now and was at that moment to keep fighting by staying alive.
Ill send you a pm, I hope I can help you getting started up on sm

QueerCrip
04-02-2016, 03:53 PM
I do like the idea of tipping sites though with games, maybe the creative fun seeker in me.

I really thought this about myself too but it turns out that hustle was a lot harder, more involved and required more dedication than Streamate (for me at least). Just want to make sure you aren't discounting it and keeping an open mind because getting enough for immediate survival is your priority. Even if you can just get quick money in one area, but then establish yourself where you want to remain once you have more energy, time, money, etc. Also, while I love the games and apps and everything, it's easy to overthink or be overwhelmed by it all and get sucked into a panic when you're unstable and have many directions you can go (in my experience).

Also, if and when you do decide to try Streamate, please don't sell yourself short. My instinct would have been to pick a low-mid range price cuz I'm new and I'm 200 lbs and blah, blah, blah. But after reading the "raise your rates" thread which mostly talks about Streamate I set my initial rates to 3.99/premium and 5.99/exclusive and still get people okay. The top rate doesn't remain the top rate forever because they'll eventually allow you a raise. You don't want to bust your hump for pennies when you're passing out and could do just as well without. This is assuming your technology isn't absolute shit.

This is just my experience and opinions, but of course try what you think seems to be working best for you.

QueerCrip
04-02-2016, 03:55 PM
Also, one day if things turn up for you financially you could consider getting tattoos to cover your scars.

IvyRose
04-02-2016, 04:17 PM
Also, one day if things turn up for you financially you could consider getting tattoos to cover your scars.

Certainly,
but also know that the redness will fade, at least in my case the scars are now white/skincolor (lighter than my skin) instead of the bright red it was the first year. My deeper ones all went white and the shallow ones (very light but still scars) also but with a fake tan those arent visible anymore

Rispy_Girl
04-02-2016, 04:43 PM
Something that I've seen said several times on this forum is that a lot of girls will have several sites and if ones is slow or having problems, they will switch to another. You can also setup a social media account like Twitter, so people can see where you are at. I'm rooting for you! You can do it!

Magical_Hoohah
04-02-2016, 05:26 PM
Ok, I'm going to say some stuff that goes against what other ladies are saying. I want to be clear that I normally would NOT advise doing a lot of this, nor is this a good plan for new cam models under regular circumstances. This is just my two cents for the OP because she is in dire financial straits and has minimal time available. The post is also long as fuck, so please skip it if you don't need this info.


OP, I'm going to start off with things that I do NOT think you should be doing right now. There are a lot of things that we advise doing that are really, really good ideas when it comes to your business. However, many of these things take a lot of time now and will pay off to an unknown degree in the long run. Right now, you don't have many free hours to work, and you need every minute to pay off as much and as quickly as possible. It may be a little harder to get the ball rolling when you come back to this stuff later, but it will be impossible if you end up homeless or too starved to work, and skipping it for now won't cause any harm. So until you have a least a little more financial stability and/or time to spend on camming, I don't think you should bother with the following:


Improving Your Outfits, Makeup, Toys, Etc. - Whatever you've got, I'm sure you can work with it. None of these things will make or break you. And don't waste your time trying to look perfectly flawless when you get online. I promise that it's not necessary, but it will suck up a ton of time. Many fancy makeup techniques don't even show up on cam anyway.
Social Media - I know people will vehemently disagree with me, but social media can be a huge time sink, and you can make money in the short term without it. It might be good to set up a bare-bones Twitter account, but don't worry about actively following, gaining followers, or tweeting a ton of pics. Just fill out the profile, and tweet if/when you have a minute. Absolutely come back to it later, though.
Clip Making - This is a great money maker for many models, but it takes a lot of time upfront, and doesn't seriously pay off for awhile. Work on your clip business later.
Token Sites - They can be extremely profitable for the ladies at the top, but they require a LOT of unpaid labor to build your following and get paid consistently. Since you've already tried token sites with little success, it seems unlikely that you're one of the unicorns that skyrocket to the top immediately. If it turns out that you like token sites best in the end, come back to them later.
Selling Panties - There is a steep learning curve, and you have to put in a lot of upfront work on advertising and so forth. Many ladies never succeed with panties, and you won't be very profitable until you have regular customers and a good reputation. Even if you become wildly successful, it will only be side income, because you can only wear so many panties each week.
Indy/Skype Camming - I'm a huge fan of this niche, but there's a steep learning curve, you don't make much without regulars, and it's probably the most likely place to get ripped off. Consider this an advanced technique and come back later. Do NOT listen to customers that try to get you onto Skype before you're ready. These guys never have your interests at heart.
Wishlists - I've recently written about this elsewhere, but you can spend ages figuring out how to set up a wishlist safely, finding the right stuff to put on it, and then driving people to it. However, the average cam model doesn't receive many wishlist gifts on a consistent basis, especially when she's new. Average guys don't tend to spend money on things you want out of the goodness of their hearts. Also, this is another arena where you are very likely to get ripped off.
Too Much Stripperweb - I know this is blasphemy, but we all know that the number of relatively unproductive hours we've collectively spent here is astronomical. This is absolutely the best place to look if you need answers, and aimless browsing here can make you a much better cam model, but you don't have a lot of time right now. DO read the starting place sticky, research here if you're contemplating a new site, and if anyone is trying to tell you that you should do something because "it's what everyone does," come check it out. If you have questions, stop, think, write down exactly what your questions are, and then google "stripperweb, [your question]." Get your answers and get out - it's okay if you aren't social right now, and you don't need to know why camming sucks, rocks, or what stupid shit we heard on cam.


Up next, what I think you SHOULD do. Again, this is only my opinion specific to the OP's situation - it is NOT a quick start guide for anyone else.


Confirm that BoleynModels can get your money to you in a suitable fashion. If you need help figuring it out, talk to Katy. Then sign up for BoleynModels.
Sign up for Streamate through BoleynModels. Let them know that you already have a pending application, which is fine and can be sorted out. Katy has special powers, and can help you get up and running on SM very quickly.
While that process is happening, invest some time into taking the best profile pic you possibly can (unless you've already done that). In my opinion, this is the #1 unpaid work activity that will get you immediate profit. Look at the shape of the profile pics on SM (landscape, not upright), and take that into consideration. Look at the first page of SM, let your eyes relax, and see what pops out at you. What makes those images different from the rest? Download Photoscape for free, and do moderate touchups to your photo as needed.
The verbiage in your profile isn't quite so important, but you do need to write something. Put some thought into that, too, but there's no need to be a perfectionist about it.
Get yourself set up to broadcast with the highest quality settings your computer and internet will allow. If the SMBroadcaster doesn't work after a bit, don't waste hours and hours on a somewhat buggy program - just try the flash encoder for the time being.
Read the SM site rules - I don't care how desperate you are for money, breaking the rules and getting banned is not smart.
If you've done all that and you're still waiting for approval, use your free time to cam on whatever site you use now.
Once you're approved for SM, spend the next 30 days of your new model status spending every possible minute on SM, and only SM. Split camming is great, but you want to get to know the site well and focus on that new girl money first.
Once they give you GOLD show abilities, try that out and see what you think, but don't feel that you need to master them or do them all the time. Guys will tell you that you'll make so much money if you do tons of GOLD shows, but that's just because they're being cheap.
This can happen at any point in the process, and you may need to do it more than once... Tell your partner to suck it up and deal with it. Regardless of how s/he feels about camming, you need to be spending as much time as you can making money. Period. This is going to sound harsh, but compared to living indoors and not starving, being with your partner is a secondary priority, and your partner's ego and feelings are way down the list. Even if we take your own survival needs out of the equation, I imagine that keeping your pets safe and fed comes before not upsetting your partner. And if your partner feels that his/her discomfort with camming comes before you and your pets EATING, that's completely fucked up. Please remember that when you hesitate to work because you worry what your partner will think.


You can definitely do this! Just breathe and take things one step at a time. Good luck!

Magical_Hoohah
04-02-2016, 05:47 PM
3.99/premium and 5.99/exclusive
I wasn't going to post numbers, but I'd second this. That's probably the low end of respectable, so it should encourage brisk business without setting you up with a crowd of dirt cheap beggars.
If you're in paid chat all the time and/or you have to quit early due to exhaustion or soreness, raise your rates. Also raise your rates when you upgrade your shit or you feel you've "leveled up" as a model. Or if you just feel inspired!

QueerCrip
04-02-2016, 07:48 PM
Follow magical_hoohah's list like it's your bible because she's so right when it comes to your given situation.

QueerCrip
04-02-2016, 07:52 PM
That's probably the low end of respectable, so it should encourage brisk business without setting you up with a crowd of dirt cheap beggars.
If you're in paid chat all the time and/or you have to quit early due to exhaustion or soreness, raise your rates. Also raise your rates when you upgrade your shit or you feel you've "leveled up" as a model. Or if you just feel inspired!

Yeah, sadly 5.99 is the highest rate it lets you start at though before your rates are raised. I put the premium at 3.99 because I wanted there to be some a difference between premium and exclusive, but perhaps 4.99 is a better idea.

Also OP for future reference, if they don't raise the rates automatically for you and you feel you're doing well I hear you can email them and ask for a raise.

TheBrownFox
04-02-2016, 08:41 PM
Going home now from my part time so will try to look when I get home if I don't fall asleep once I hit the pillow, exhausted most the time, getting old, dreading my birthday, 29 on Friday and feel so unacomplished last year in my 20s, feel 82 not 28 lol.

Okay, the good thing about you having that part-time job is that you at least know you'll be making money, and have some sort of idea how much you'll be getting on payday. One of the scary things about camming is how unpredictable it is, and not knowing how much you'll make on your next payday. Is your next payday (from your part-time job) coming up soon?

lSexyS2
04-03-2016, 01:49 AM
My part time pays end of every month, got paid and basicaly all gone already. Get £200 a month basic salary and some extra peanuts if I do overtime, £60 already went on a travel pass for the month as last month I struggled on pay and go, and skipped a lot of classes. Also got some yogurt, fruit, vege, sausages cause they seem to go a long way in some bread or pasta, got some other bits partner paid half for now as they will need to buy later when I run out. Joint income of myself and partner is possibly £13.000 per year which is very low in the uk for 2 people. Rent for a 1 bed flat and this was the cheapest we could find is £950 some bills included not all, most places were over £1000 no bills and studios from £850 roughly which are tiny and don't accept pets 99% of the time.
. Luckily sharing with another girl that pays some rent and despite being hard to share sometimes helps us afford the place. I want to move out of London once I'm stable, living in London costs your soul.
Told to go to my GP on Monday and see if any vaccancy appointments to get a letter for food pantries, hopefully they can see me Monday or I need to try again each day till they free. Tuesday I have some overtime work, Wednesday I have attorney as we are submitting papers to leagalise my partner and grant permanent stay, more money down the drain but visa expires on my birthday so my partner is paying that bill as I can't help, thankfully not asking me. I swear if I wrote a book on my life, people would think it's fiction... Even I fail to understand how so much shit can happen for so long all at once I could advertise Murphy's Law would make a fun sitcom though

KatM
04-03-2016, 02:10 AM
Wish u good luck with all Sexy, i totally get what u saying here, yes, THINGS DO HAPPEN TO PEOPLE, this is LIFE, real life issues, this is The Reality i am often talking about, it's not negativity, is real life.

Not everyone is blessed with good easy life but some endure such life and fight for their survival.
If i ever read again KatM (me) is a Debbie Downer in this forum i dont know how i will react on it haha, watch it lol, dont ever say that again guys! :P

lSexyS2
04-03-2016, 05:18 AM
Okay, so I don't expect anything, and if anyone does give let me know if you'll let me pay you back once I get sorted.

edit

Any suggestions if you see something on amazon you'd suggest let me know. Or any questions from something on my list.
Got a bit of cereal on my last shopping as someone told me to at least have breakfast during the day. I have added noodles, and yes they won't support me, but they do help, believe me, they got me through a lot of the harder days. And are real good if I need a meal at work or college, where most the time I won't eat at college to save money. I added instant soup powders like of know as when I worked with elderly this was what the chefs used and was very filling and can add veg to it. I don't do well with most wholegrain things as they make me feel ill and comes back up, I had food issues in the past took me a whole year to make myself eat mash even though I liked the smell and taste, took me around the same to eat most vegetables, basically I turned 21 and started trying to get myself to eat things I wouldn't as I only ate peas, sweet corn and potatoes not mashed, those were the only veg I ate, I now eat much more :) , weetabix is one thing I am able to eat and has good energy and fiber so does the oats, that's why I've added that, the weetabix drinks help me a lot for energy and fiber also and keep me hydrated at the same time.

Thanks for any help but if nobody uses the links, don't feel bad, all the advice has helped me loads!! And I have some groceries for the next few days.

Miss-Trust
04-03-2016, 08:39 AM
Your Amazon wish list is a bit of a nightmare at the moment with alot of the items being from 3rd party sellers. Im sure there's a tick box in the wish list settings that allows 3rd party sellers to receive your address. X

lSexyS2
04-03-2016, 12:38 PM
Your Amazon wish list is a bit of a nightmare at the moment with alot of the items being from 3rd party sellers. Im sure there's a tick box in the wish list settings that allows 3rd party sellers to receive your address. X

I asked to disable 3rd party but I'm not very good with wishlists. I need an Amazon for dummies book :(

lSexyS2
04-03-2016, 03:00 PM
Will be having a good look tomorrow at everything as no overtime or college. Will try the GP to see if I can get an appointment and get a letter for food pantry, if no slots try again and again. Hopefully get something by the end of tge week.

QueerCrip
04-04-2016, 12:35 AM
My going to donate to your Gofundme made me clue in that I've lost my visa card. If not for you I probably wouldn't have noticed for a while. So, uh....thanks I guess?! I hope some people can help out.

Classy_Katy
04-04-2016, 01:37 AM
Will be having a good look tomorrow at everything as no overtime or college. Will try the GP to see if I can get an appointment and get a letter for food pantry, if no slots try again and again. Hopefully get something by the end of tge week.

Ask for an emergency appointment to see the Dr...not having food is an emergency.

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 04:05 AM
Receptionist said they fully booked, must do drop in, went in the morning but nothing need to go back in 30 min to try for afternoon app. They get very busy Mondays cause of the weekend I was told. Just gotta keep trying. Will print my in and out financial report from stepchange and take it with me, they'll probably charge me for the letter, few months ago was sick and had to pay £10 for a sickness note for work. All about the money now everywhere, it's like people aren't people anymore.

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 04:07 AM
My going to donate to your Gofundme made me clue in that I've lost my visa card. If not for you I probably wouldn't have noticed for a while. So, uh....thanks I guess?! I hope some people can help out.

Make sure you report it and that nobody has used it in the meantime.

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 04:48 AM
Fingers crossed now, going to try to organised myself, hope my app in streamate gets approved as its the number 1 suggestion... if I can even make £100 a week on the sites I will be able to manage myself much better.

Just had a fight with a friend that said I should sell me dog cause she's a chihuahua and make money off her since she is to expensive to upkeep with food and supplements she needs, my pets are my family, not just money makers, plus I was entrusted with her from the lady I adopted her from when she was 6 months. 44643 that's my chihuahua, she about 1 year old, had alopecia issues so a bald chest and thinning hair in places and also has bowed feet, possibly the result of inbreeding or overbreeding, so her original owners abandoned her as she wasn't perfect, but the lady they abandoned her with regularly gets animals dumped at her house, so gave her to me. She's a sweet silly dog that gets a fright with her own shadow sometimes and barks at her reflexion in shop windows. Maybe I was wrong to fall out with my friend, but all her advice seems to be to use my dog as proffit like my dog is a cash cow, my dog shouldn't be breeding as she has defective genes, nor do I want to make a quick buck selling her to shoddy owners. My friend finished by saying "what's the big deal, it's only a dog, some countries eat them, you could always eat her if you get desperate" I was really angry, hope I wasn't just beeing moody, but I think it was really mean things to say about someones pet, especially when you know it's someones loved pet.

DeepThoughts
04-04-2016, 05:05 AM
Your in the UK yes? When I lived there I discovered that they give away free stuff like mad! Its a major test market area for many many companies. Everyday I would go to the websites that listed free samples and order whatever was new! Dog and Cat food was always coming to my door. I had a cupboard full of it and I didnt even have a dog or cat. I fed it to the neighborhood strays!

Your friend is crazy! I would never give up my dogs. To easy to feed dogs. Check out sites like
http://www.latestfreestuff.co.uk/free-pet-food/
http://www.freesamples.co.uk/category/pets/

Those were a couple of my favorites but a quick search for "free samples uk" will bring up a ton of links. Some will ask you to fill out a survey or questionnaire but its not a scam, give them some information and suddenly there is tons and tons of free samples coming in the post. You can feed your dog cat food so go ahead and order that as well! I hope that helps. You can also score beauty supplies and food for yourself.

ETA: If you have friends who dont have pets or will let you ask them if you can have free samples sent to their houses as well so you can get extra. I used to do that with items I wanted more then one of

IvyRose
04-04-2016, 05:10 AM
My friend finished by saying "what's the big deal, it's only a dog, some countries eat them, you could always eat her if you get desperate" I was really angry, hope I wasn't just beeing moody, but I think it was really mean things to say about someones pet, especially when you know it's someones loved pet.

I just emailed you.
Girls is the email from Liz still: [email protected] ?

Your friend sucked big times at being a friend, they should encourage you instead of saying hurtful things.
You can make it. Dont sell your dog. Email Liz as quick as possible and get youreself approved on streamate
I cant even imagine how much heartbreak and saddness it would give me to hgive up my cats, I think it will only cause you grief and dissapointment if you give her up now. Because as I see it, you will be able to work on streamate soon and be able to earn moeny to rpovide for yourself and your dog

DeepThoughts
04-04-2016, 05:11 AM
^^ yep that is the correct email

KatM
04-04-2016, 05:34 AM
Ewww to eat ur own pets?! That's just Crazy! Really mean that person is! I dont have pets cause i dont have enough space here but if i did i would have pets for sure.
I am sure things will sort out for u there Sexy, i read ur situation already improved and u have food now, i wish i could donate something for u but i pulled my money off my payoneer account/card already before i saw ur links.
I always pull my money off ATM here and pay all in cash, i dont have a bank account anymore so it's just the payoneer account i have which is empty now.
I hope others are able to give u something. Be blessed & Good luck xx

hyori
04-04-2016, 05:56 AM
If that were my "friend" I would prank her by giving her a meat pie. Then I would say that I took her advice.

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 06:01 AM
If that were my "friend" I would prank her by giving her a meat pie. Then I would say that I took her advice.

Just laughed milk out of my nose. Have you ever watched the movie "the help" think thats the name

hyori
04-04-2016, 06:06 AM
^^ Yes, LOL, it was inspired by that movie. Hehehe.

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 06:25 AM
Ewww to eat ur own pets?! That's just Crazy! Really mean that person is! I dont have pets cause i dont have enough space here but if i did i would have pets for sure.
I am sure things will sort out for u there Sexy, i read ur situation already improved and u have food now, i wish i could donate something for u but i pulled my money off my payoneer account/card already before i saw ur links.
I always pull my money off ATM here and pay all in cash, i dont have a bank account anymore so it's just the payoneer account i have which is empty now.
I hope others are able to give u something. Be blessed & Good luck xx
Don't worry. Not expecting anything really. Just trying

TheBrownFox
04-04-2016, 06:49 AM
Just laughed milk out of my nose. Have you ever watched the movie "the help" think thats the name

Haha. I just borrowed that dvd recently from the public library. That part was hilarious. The woman she worked for was such a cunt.

TheBrownFox
04-04-2016, 07:07 AM
Don't worry. Not expecting anything really. Just trying

Okay, I have a question. What is the FASTEST way for me to send you some money today? I'm on the Western Union website right now trying to find out the closest location (a winter blizzard caused my grocery store's roof to collapse, so I can't go THERE to do Western Union), but I'm not sure if you're comfortable giving out your personal info to me.

Can any of you ladies suggest to me the BEST way to send something to ISexyS2's so that she can eat?

Amazon wishlist means she'd have to wait X days for it to arrive. I'm not familiar with GoFundMe's payout schedules. Do you actually have to wait until the entire goal is reached for you to see any of that money???

If you have a PayPal debit card, I could you send you money via PayPal today for it to go onto your card. If you don't have a PayPal card, and I send you money via PayPal, transferring the money to your bank account would take a few business days.

DeepThoughts
04-04-2016, 07:20 AM
^^ I was also wondering that about gofund me. better to just send it via western union or paypal.

TheBrownFox
04-04-2016, 07:21 AM
I have to catch the bus in a little bit, but I'm gonna try to keep an eye on this thread from my cell phone while I'm out (This will be my first time using StripperWeb from an iPhone).

TheBrownFox
04-04-2016, 07:29 AM
^^ I was also wondering that about gofund me. better to just send it via western union or paypal.

Thanks, DeepThoughts.

ISexyS2, message me with your PayPal e-mail address if you'd like, or message me with the info I need to send you cash via Western Union. I do think Western Union requires me to have a lot more personal info though (full name, store name and location of the Western Union location where you'll pick up the money), so just beware of that. But I did find a list of Western Union locations I could get to today. It's up to you how you wanna do this...Western Union or PayPal.

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 08:42 AM
Thanks, DeepThoughts.

ISexyS2, message me with your PayPal e-mail address if you'd like, or message me with the info I need to send you cash via Western Union. I do think Western Union requires me to have a lot more personal info though (full name, store name and location of the Western Union location where you'll pick up the money), so just beware of that. But I did find a list of Western Union locations I could get to today. It's up to you how you wanna do this...Western Union or PayPal.

sent you a PM

DeepThoughts, I'm still battling the idea of the soft porno, not contacted her yet, idea gives me butterflies but the car crash type

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 08:46 AM
Thanks, DeepThoughts.

ISexyS2, message me with your PayPal e-mail address if you'd like, or message me with the info I need to send you cash via Western Union. I do think Western Union requires me to have a lot more personal info though (full name, store name and location of the Western Union location where you'll pick up the money), so just beware of that. But I did find a list of Western Union locations I could get to today. It's up to you how you wanna do this...Western Union or PayPal.

PS I have some food for the next week or two, so don't rush yourself, and I don't want people to struggle to help me.


PS does anyone know good UK sites to find housemates (not creepy serial killer types), to make things worse my roomie is moving out in June/July, gave notice recently, another bomb dropped... so gonna be unable to afford the rent if I don't find someone, thankfully it's a fair amount of notice

lSexyS2
04-04-2016, 08:59 AM
Guys I'm getting a bit lost with the PMs so if you were expecting a reply from me, please send me a pm again, a bit too much going on so hard to keep track

sexysusie
04-04-2016, 09:07 AM
Whereabouts are you? I regularly work with soup kitchens and other homeless orgs. If youre near me perhaps I can help.

In addition did you know that dogs can live healthily and happily on a no meat diet (not cats though if anyone was wondering!). Dropping meat from both your diets would drastically reduce your food costs.

Have you started camming yet?

Missbeth
04-04-2016, 09:23 AM
Okay, I have a question. What is the FASTEST way for me to send you some money today? I'm on the Western Union website right now trying to find out the closest location (a winter blizzard caused my grocery store's roof to collapse, so I can't go THERE to do Western Union), but I'm not sure if you're comfortable giving out your personal info to me.

Can any of you ladies suggest to me the BEST way to send something to ISexyS2's so that she can eat?

Amazon wishlist means she'd have to wait X days for it to arrive. I'm not familiar with GoFundMe's payout schedules. Do you actually have to wait until the entire goal is reached for you to see any of that money???

If you have a PayPal debit card, I could you send you money via PayPal today for it to go onto your card. If you don't have a PayPal card, and I send you money via PayPal, transferring the money to your bank account would take a few business days.

The absolute fastest way to send her money for something to eat would probably be an e-giftcard to a local restaurant chain or grocery store chain, no processing time, no need for personal info apart from email

kortneykay
04-04-2016, 10:03 AM
I'm going to take the unpopular route here...

OP, I'm seeing a lot of holes and excuses here. You gotta stop making excuses and just do what you gotta do. Love yourself. First things first, I'm glad you got some food for a few weeks. I hope you can get on Daily Pay like so many have suggested. You need to eat and take better care and love of yourself, first.

Also might I suggest lowering your mygofundme to maybe a few hundred if you're accepting money for groceries? You'll get to a small goal a lot faster. As much as debt is a problem, it's still your personal debt, and I don't think too many people will help you raise $10k for that.

Join DP as soon as you can. Once you're all caught up with necessities (not your debtors) upgrade your look by investing in quality wigs, make up, lashes. You'll boost your income big time that way. Good luck!