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Velveteen.Rabbit
05-03-2016, 03:58 PM
Networking is the best thing you can do for your career. The more people you know, the better off you are when it comes to job searching. Going to any networking events, meetups, fitness groups, etc. you never know who you will or can meet that will pathe your future. Sending out resumes blindly only leads to 7% success. Networking is usually 90% or more of a success rate. I can definitely attest to this. In one year, I couldn't tell you how many resumes I sent out and it only led to jobs, not full careers that I was searching for. Once I started talking to people I knew and met, they started talking to their people and reaching out and my outcome seemed much quicker. I was getting interviews and meeting people in corporate offices for better positions. That's my number 1 advice to you guys. I wish everyone success.

This is me rn lol. I have a huge list of people working in nursing + doctors + other nurisng students and I will not let any of them to because we need each other for networking!

baer45
05-03-2016, 04:17 PM
Are you asking anyone in particular? For me, 95k is the average RN salary in my area for 3 12h shifts or 9-5 M-F depending what sector. And then from there, the NP field I want to eventually move up to pays 135k+. I've always lived with lowish expenses (minus rent) so I'm more than fine with it. Industries like nursing though, you have to really want it in school or you'll fail since everything is based on memorization and understanding, like many STEM majors. My dream is to do that and music on the side, but will not likely make much if anything in music the way that industry is set up these days. I just like art stuff and also how the human body/brain works. /essay

95k is not bad at all. Very nice.

lynn2009
05-04-2016, 12:41 PM
I am signed up for a career night within my graduate program and I confess that I'm very nervous! I mostly want to observe, try to get a better idea of what I do want to do after I finish. They've been sending out reminder emails to bring your business cards and resumes and I've never in my life been important enough to have business cards and if I'm going to bring a resume I need to update it and print it out at work. I brought clothes to get changed into and I think I'll be over dressed... I can just imagine me being the normal neurotic and nervous mess in front of prospective employers.

charlie61
05-04-2016, 03:14 PM
The emotional rollercoaster of job searching is nuts. One morning I'll wake up feeling super motivated, confident, excited. The next, I wake up, like, clearly no one will ever hire me, I have nothing to offer, etc.

The realities of the job search are not lost on me. I live in a city with a booming economy, but because so many people want to live here (nationally and internationally), the job market is clogged with overqualified candidates. I'm going to have to take a position somewhere that isn't ideal, show that I can stay at a company for more than five minutes, get some grit on my resume, and trade up from there. That's my new strategy.

Lots of people get to where they are by trading up over the years. You start out working in a call center (or whatever), kick ass as much as you can, then get a slightly better job after staying put for a year or so. Rinse and repeat. I don't even care anymore. I'll just be happy to have a job.

Couple of in-person interviews this week. Fingers crossed!!!

charlie61
05-05-2016, 03:12 PM
I accepted a position! Fuck this job-search stuff...I'M DONE.

The cons:
-It's a call-center job

The pros:
-It pays well
-Six weeks of fully paid training
-Full-time
-Full benefits after six months (including 401k, insurance, etc.)
-Large, stable company
-Real opportunities for advancement
-Internal training / continuing education for specialization
-Offers a midshift (11-8pm, I think?) so I can skip rush hour, wake up a bit later, and earn more money (I get a shift differential for working past 5:00)

It won't be a "fun job" at first, but I'm ready to pay my dues and work my way up over time. I need some grit on my resume, anyway, and this will provide me with some serious experience.

lynn2009
05-05-2016, 03:14 PM
Congratulations!

charlie61
05-05-2016, 03:41 PM
I wanted to mention this for fellow job seekers. As a way to talk about my experience in dancing without putting dancing on my resume, I said I was a self-employed "life coach." My state does not regulate life coaches (some states do), so this was a fairly safe lie. I also felt that the skills I mentioned were accurate to my experience, even though the job title was different.

I was able to talk about sales skills, persuasive communication, motivational interviewing, assessing, negotiating prices, rapport building, conflict resolution, critical thinking, planning, orientation to detail, serving diverse clientele, networking to build relationships and expand client base, give examples of challenging situations, etc.

Example responsibilities:

• Conducting motivational interviews to ascertain clients’ goals
• Scheduling complimentary assessments over the phone to drive sales
• Following up with clients after assessments to describe service packages
• Developing immediate rapport with stressed and apathetic individuals
• Designing customized result-driven plans to address clients’ self-limiting beliefs and obstacles
• XXX% total increase in revenue after six months, with average of $X,XXX per closed deal

baer45
05-05-2016, 03:49 PM
I am still looking.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-05-2016, 06:28 PM
I wanted to mention this for fellow job seekers. As a way to talk about my experience in dancing without putting dancing on my resume, I said I was a self-employed "life coach." My state does not regulate life coaches (some states do), so this was a fairly safe lie. I also felt that the skills I mentioned were accurate to my experience, even though the job title was different.

I was able to talk about sales skills, persuasive communication, motivational interviewing, assessing, negotiating prices, rapport building, conflict resolution, critical thinking, planning, orientation to detail, serving diverse clientele, networking to build relationships and expand client base, give examples of challenging situations, etc.

Example responsibilities:

• Conducting motivational interviews to ascertain clients’ goals
• Scheduling complimentary assessments over the phone to drive sales
• Following up with clients after assessments to describe service packages
• Developing immediate rapport with stressed and apathetic individuals
• Designing customized result-driven plans to address clients’ self-limiting beliefs and obstacles
• XXX% total increase in revenue after six months, with average of $X,XXX per closed deal

Such a good idea! I put makeup artist, but I literally was a MUA for years. I don't understand why everyone freaks out like "good luck explaining that big gap on your resume!" Or you could just write "freelance __(insert_something_that_relates_to_job_youre_appl ying_for_here__" It's so easy.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-05-2016, 06:30 PM
Has anyone taken certificate programs online or via a community college? I'm thinking about taking a one in addition to nursing classes (I'm crazy) just to make me more competitive. The thing is, I'm pretty sure I'm competitive as it is, but I just want to be extra competitive and get what I want. Has anyone done this and did it help you land a job or pay increase at all?

charlie61
05-06-2016, 08:15 PM
Learned this morning that my benefits will kick in after just thirty days! Nice!!

chanzep
05-09-2016, 01:30 PM
congrats Charlie!

chanzep
05-09-2016, 01:35 PM
Another Department store called me for a interview but after being at my job for a week and getting used to it, I can't be bothered to go on my day off and this store has bad reviews on indeed etc, I'm settling in to my job nicely and will probably waitress part time too after a while.

charlie61
05-10-2016, 11:16 PM
Obviously, everyone else - feel free to keep using this thread if it helps you! I did not intend to make this thread about just my own job search. :)

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-11-2016, 12:20 AM
There is no added benefit of working a part time or full time job over an occasional on call position, right? Like if I'm only interested in the job to put on a resume and not for money? I mean it all goes on the resume the same regardless of how many hours I'm doing, right? Am I missing something?

charlie61
05-11-2016, 09:39 AM
There is no added benefit of working a part time or full time job over an occasional on call position, right? Like if I'm only interested in the job to put on a resume and not for money? I mean it all goes on the resume the same regardless of how many hours I'm doing, right? Am I missing something?

The big thing for me is benefits vs. no benefits. Lots of employers will keep twice the amount of part-timers on compared to full-timers, just so they don't have to provide any benefits.

DorienG
05-11-2016, 09:44 AM
I haven't read this entire thread (but I will)- But I now have a job in a field I wanted to transition to: I work for a rapidly growing company in the fitness world in which we offer one-on-one , supervised, strength training. I've been at my job since mid Jan. of this year.

Here is my second biggest complaint: I worked years as a club dancer/topless/go-go. When I would start a new club, I would end up coming down with a minor cold due to stress, new environment , some clueless dancer coughing without covering her mouth...but I would get it for a week and then not get sick. Do lap dances, not be able to escape some custie trying to lick me or kiss me; I mean all kinds of germs floating around. But I stayed healthy.

Fast forward to my new job in a high end studio, relaxed atmosphere, great beachy neighborhood with cleaner air with affluent clients and keeping (a lot) of clothes on. (Drumroll!) I've been sick TWICE since Jan.!! In Feb. it was to the point where my manager told me to get myself some antibiotics. And it just happened again. I felt the twinges of a cold just starting over a week ago, but fought it with zicam spray. Then, on a rainy cinco de mayo night, I felt pretty run down and spent the next dayin bed with cold symptoms! It came down like bricks last night!! And I can trace to where it came from, the latest from a client who is a friend and a damaged pole dancer (physically, trying to get strength back), who was coughing and telling me she was not contagious, yup.

To top that off, my drinking has been cut by a good 90% and I was never a huge drinker. It's ironic! Is my immune system just programmed to battle night clut/dance studio illnesses? Or are people in the vanilla world even ruder and more clueless than some strip club patrons and dancers, and my immune system isn't ready for them?

(Sorry for thread jack).

DorienG
05-11-2016, 10:05 AM
My first interviewer (and now my regional manager) is a woman, owned a pole dance studio in '08 and is an ex-stripper. Of course, I didn't know this during my initial 3 minute interview. But she is a great speaker, with a lot of positive energy,great style and really motivates people. I was one of three people picked for my job out of 55 who showed up. I think it was because I truly felt comfortable with her.

My point: Not all 'vanilla' women will be jealous/mean/bitter/put off by most dancer's beauty.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-11-2016, 01:02 PM
The big thing for me is benefits vs. no benefits. Lots of employers will keep twice the amount of part-timers on compared to full-timers, just so they don't have to provide any benefits.

I would get great benefits regardless of the position because it's the health care industry.

I notice my classmates going crazy and getting bitter about how many hours they work. Like some are freaking out being like omg I work soooo much more than you though!!! And here I am thinking it doesn't fucking matter because our resumes will look identical, right? So I can just keep pro domme as my main source of income.

It's not my fault if an employer reads my resume and assumes it was full time. If the employer asks about it, I'll say "part time flex around my school schedule, depending how much they needed me and what my coursework allowed for me to work" and it's fucking fine. I'm just so done with competitive people today lol.

Aurora_Sunset
05-11-2016, 03:06 PM
Is anyone on Linkedin and do you think it makes a difference?

It seems like everything I read lately is all "LINKEDIN LINKEDIN! YOU MUST BE ON LINKEDIN AND DO THIS AND THAT, AND ALL HIRING MANAGERS CHECK YOUR LINKEDIN." Sure, I know that in the internet age, potential employers will certainly search for your online presence, but is Linkedin the be-all-end-all these days?

I technically "made one" a long time ago but never finished filling it out. Anyone can see it, and it tells pretty much all your facebook contacts that you're on there. It wasn't long before most of my family members and half my facebook friends were sending me Linkedin requests, and I realized I was kinda fucked... I've told a lot of people several different lies about my employment in the last few years. In order to get my family off my back about financial stability, I told them I have like a real full time job with a nice company.... I've told others that I still work for the beer company that I quit 2 years ago and make it sound like I'm in "marketing." I obviously cannot put these things on my Linkedin profile because they aren't real... But anyone, like a family member, getting a notification that I'm on Linkedin and checking out my profile would be like "Why isn't your blahblahblah job on there?" And it's not like facebook where it makes sense to be like "make everything private and ignore people's friend requests." The entire point of Linkedin is networking, so there wouldn't be much point behind having a profile with no connections on it because I've lied to all these people about my work history....

Bottom line: I just don't want one, considering my background and the lies I've had to build into my life. But the internet is screaming at me as though I won't succeed without one because everyone has one. Experiences?

charlie61
05-11-2016, 03:11 PM
Is anyone on Linkedin and do you think it makes a difference?

It seems like everything I read lately is all "LINKEDIN LINKEDIN! YOU MUST BE ON LINKEDIN AND DO THIS AND THAT, AND ALL HIRING MANAGERS CHECK YOUR LINKEDIN." Sure, I know that in the internet age, potential employers will certainly search for your online presence, but is Linkedin the be-all-end-all these days?

I technically "made one" a long time ago but never finished filling it out. Anyone can see it, and it tells pretty much all your facebook contacts that you're on there. It wasn't long before most of my family members and half my facebook friends were sending me Linkedin requests, and I realized I was kinda fucked... I've told a lot of people several different lies about my employment in the last few years. In order to get my family off my back about financial stability, I told them I have like a real full time job with a nice company.... I've told others that I still work for the beer company that I quit 2 years ago and make it sound like I'm in "marketing." I obviously cannot put these things on my Linkedin profile because they aren't real... But anyone, like a family member, getting a notification that I'm on Linkedin and checking out my profile would be like "Why isn't your blahblahblah job on there?" And it's not like facebook where it makes sense to be like "make everything private and ignore people's friend requests." The entire point of Linkedin is networking, so there wouldn't be much point behind having a profile with no connections on it because I've lied to all these people about my work history....

Bottom line: I just don't want one, considering my background and the lies I've had to build into my life. But the internet is screaming at me as though I won't succeed without one because everyone has one. Experiences?

I've never gotten any jobs off of linkedin. I do think that there are helpful ways to use it as a job seeker; for example, to expand your professional network by connecting with people through people you already know. And I do think it's good to have a linkedin just to have a 'presence' online (hopefully you've made your facebook unsearchable through google, so your linkedin page is the only one that pops up when employers search for you).

I was sending my LI link as part of my signature on emails I'd send to recruiters, placement agencies, and HR personnel. So I was using it as a quick way for employers to see my face (makes the connection more personal) and to see that I'm a legit person (not a robot). Having an attractive face can work in your favor: having a picture up on LI is a professional way to show that.

I also wrote some LI posts that are relevant to my industry to show off my writing and comprehension skills. And I added some documents to different positions I've held, to demonstrate that I go above and beyond in my work (for example, educational material I wrote while working in software). I put my resume on there as an attachment (formatted nicely, easy to download) - if you do that, make sure you remove your address from your resume if it's on there.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-11-2016, 03:19 PM
LinkedIn freaks me out because a.)it's so Google-able (can you turn this off, like make your profile private?) and b.) it shows other people who your LinkedIn profile viewers have secretly lurked. That's really creepy. There are a lot of people I don't want to associate myself with.

If I could turn off those two features, I'd use it. I mean I think it's a neat little site that's basically like a website and resume in one, and I have lots of work experience with nothing to hide, but those 2 things just seem so invasive to me.

In the future if I do need to use it, like when applying for jobs, I wouldn't mind having it up for a short period of time til I'm hired. But leaving it up really scares me. I don't want randos all over the Internet viewing all of my work history and education. That's a little creepy if you ask me.

Also, every job I've ever successfully landed was because I knew someone who worked there. With the exception of my very first stripping job and traveling while stripping jobs. Literally all, and I've had 8 vanilla jobs in my entire life so far.

Getting hired either means the hiring manager really likes you for some random as fuck reason or you know someone who works/worked there who can vouch for you, I swear.

charlie61
05-11-2016, 03:25 PM
LinkedIn freaks me out because a.)it's so Google-able (can you turn this off, like make your profile private?) and b.) it shows other people who your LinkedIn profile viewers have secretly lurked. That's really creepy. There are a lot of people I don't want to associate myself with.

If I could turn off those two features, I'd use it. I mean I think it's a neat little site that's basically like a website and resume in one, and I have lots of work experience with nothing to hide, but those 2 things just seem so invasive to me.

In the future if I do need to use it, like when applying for jobs, I wouldn't mind having it up for a short period of time til I'm hired. But leaving it up really scares me. I don't want randos all over the Internet viewing all of my work history and education. That's a little creepy if you ask me.

I hear what you're saying. I personally have had ZERO issues with random people / stalkers. I have a fairly small network, so maybe that's part of it? The users who keep their profiles private when they view your information are paying for that feature, so they're usually recruiters or employers. I dunno. I haven't had any issues. Just wanted to mention that. :)

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-11-2016, 03:26 PM
I hear what you're saying. I personally have had ZERO issues with random people / stalkers. I have a fairly small network, so maybe that's part of it? The users who keep their profiles private when they view your information are paying for that feature, so they're usually recruiters or employers. I dunno. I haven't had any issues. Just wanted to mention that. :)

I would feel better about it if I had an American or common name, but I do not. None of my names are common.

Selina M
05-15-2016, 10:55 PM
I keep going back and forth about what I want to do :/

I definitely don't feel like starting all the way at the bottom and making $13/hour with my degrees, especially given that I am going to some form of grad school within a couple years.
I also don't particularly want to dance full-time. I'm very tired of sucking up 2+ hours of driving/mileage to go to the club each shift. I keep saying I'm going to work just 2 days/week and stay until I make X amount of $, but whenever it comes down to being there past my normal 5 hours, I can't do it. I haven't found another club I like that's closer.

I would honestly REALLY like to teach... I just don't want to spend another $2600 to get certified... Plus here they dock 12% of your salary into the state 'retirement system', so even though it's matched and works in your favor in the end, it really sucks to lose that amount every month given the already "meh" salaries. You can't draw on it either, you have to either retire or quit, so your $$ is completely tied up.

Then I think about how I'll have to get up at 5am every day and be in bed by 11pm. Ew. And I'm honestly concerned about my relationship. We are really trying to work things out and I don't want to do something that might make it difficult. I already feel like we have very little 'quality' time (i.e., to go out and do fun things, not just sit at home watching Netflix) due to our current work schedules, and that's with me being able to choose to take the same days off as him. Let's throw in mandatory staff meetings and conferences after school. Ugh!

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-15-2016, 11:44 PM
I keep going back and forth about what I want to do :/

I definitely don't feel like starting all the way at the bottom and making $13/hour with my degrees, especially given that I am going to some form of grad school within a couple years.
I also don't particularly want to dance full-time. I'm very tired of sucking up 2+ hours of driving/mileage to go to the club each shift. I keep saying I'm going to work just 2 days/week and stay until I make X amount of $, but whenever it comes down to being there past my normal 5 hours, I can't do it. I haven't found another club I like that's closer.

I would honestly REALLY like to teach... I just don't want to spend another $2600 to get certified... Plus here they dock 12% of your salary into the state 'retirement system', so even though it's matched and works in your favor in the end, it really sucks to lose that amount every month given the already "meh" salaries. You can't draw on it either, you have to either retire or quit, so your $$ is completely tied up.

Then I think about how I'll have to get up at 5am every day and be in bed by 11pm. Ew. And I'm honestly concerned about my relationship. We are really trying to work things out and I don't want to do something that might make it difficult. I already feel like we have very little 'quality' time (i.e., to go out and do fun things, not just sit at home watching Netflix) due to our current work schedules, and that's with me being able to choose to take the same days off as him. Let's throw in mandatory staff meetings and conferences after school. Ugh!

Honestly I was exactly where you are like a year and a half ago. I knew I was over full time camming (which replaced full time dancing) and didn't even want to cam at all anymore. I didn't want a vanilla psychology degree job either Bc I went down that road before and didn't like it. I played with the idea of being a fashion buyer and doing a quick fashion program since that is prime for my area and my oldest sister's career is design. I was like fuck this low pay and working my ass up a nepotism ladder. So then I thought long and hard and decided on cosmetic nursing which pays well but requires the schooling I'm doing now.

I also quit cam against the advisement of majority of my adult industry friends and went for pro domme. Worth it. Smart move because it is too risky to cam and be a nurse anyway.

It takes time to figure out what you want to do. You can rush it. But if you want to teach then you should teach. The guy I've been dating on and off, his ex whose like 30 is a teacher and I found her salary online (it comes up with her name and school for some reason lol) and she makes like 72k a year. It's a pricier area but I still think that's pretty good for being a somewhat new teacher. So anything is possible TBH.

charlie61
05-16-2016, 01:43 PM
Anyone have any tips for casual dress codes? I'm going shopping this week to find some easy, casual, but still cleaned-up outfits. I'm going to dress for the job I want in the future, not for the one I have now, even though it's so tempting to go the yoga-pants route! I'm starting low on the totem pole, but I intend to get noticed and promoted relatively quickly.

I'm thinking dark jeans with flats / low heels + various blouses? I don't want to spend a ton of money, so I'm looking for a good base outfit that I can easily change up.

Store recommendations? Shoe recommendations (comfy but stylish and can be worn with anything)? Outfit recommendations? Help meh!!!

anacol
05-16-2016, 02:04 PM
Anyone have any tips for casual dress codes? I'm going shopping this week to find some easy, casual, but still cleaned-up outfits. I'm going to dress for the job I want in the future, not for the one I have now, even though it's so tempting to go the yoga-pants route! I'm starting low on the totem pole, but I intend to get noticed and promoted relatively quickly.

I'm thinking dark jeans with flats / low heels + various blouses? I don't want to spend a ton of money, so I'm looking for a good base outfit that I can easily change up.

Store recommendations? Shoe recommendations (comfy but stylish and can be worn with anything)? Outfit recommendations? Help meh!!!

You could keep some nice dark blue and black slacks on hand. I usually buy all my blazers from bcbg max Azria because they are taylor cut, so they fit great. So if you can get a few nice ones, that would be good. And just have a pair of pumps on hand and some nice collared shirts.
You could check the Limited or Express.

charlie61
05-16-2016, 02:29 PM
You could keep some nice dark blue and black slacks on hand. I usually buy all my blazers from bcbg max Azria because they are taylor cut, so they fit great. So if you can get a few nice ones, that would be good. And just have a pair of pumps on hand and some nice collared shirts.
You could check the Limited or Express.

Slacks and collared shirts would definitely be too dressy for this work environment (it's casual, not biz casual). It'd make me look like I'm not paying attention to the dress code, if that makes sense?

charlie61
05-16-2016, 03:50 PM
For anyone who's desperate to get out of sex work (for either financial or burnout reasons or whatever) and doesn't have a perfect resume, I'd highly recommend trying to get a job in a call center as a way to get your foot in the door to an industry or company. Find a large company (they offer better benefits, are more stable, tend to offer better training / support, and can afford to shoulder some risk) that has a call center.

They tend to have a fast hiring process, too, so you aren't waiting to hear back about your application for months. I applied on a Monday and had a job offer by Thursday, to give you an idea (that included a personality assessment, phone interview, and in-person interview).

Yes, the job will suck at first. But you'll often be able to find a full-time position (seems to be rarer and rarer these days) that offers benefits and advancement opportunities. They also tend to pay well, since they want to retain their employees.

anacol
05-16-2016, 08:14 PM
They're that strict? Usually when a company have a lax dress code, people who dress up more aren't scrutinized? I'm just super dressy by being born and raised in the south. So no matter where I am, I'm always dressed more than others, even in the work environment. Lol. But if you're wanting to be more casual, you can still wear a nice pair of non dressy slack pants that you can dress up or down depending on what type of shoe and top you wear. Or do a nice pair of jeans with a suit jacket or something like that. That's pretty casual.

Selina M
05-16-2016, 10:53 PM
It takes time to figure out what you want to do. You can rush it. But if you want to teach then you should teach. The guy I've been dating on and off, his ex whose like 30 is a teacher and I found her salary online (it comes up with her name and school for some reason lol) and she makes like 72k a year. It's a pricier area but I still think that's pretty good for being a somewhat new teacher. So anything is possible TBH.

Yeah it's more or less that I want to do SOMETHING more productive than dance. It's not just burnout. I could go back to waitressing but I'd be over that in a week, same reason, dead end stopgap job. My SO is all "But I made someone's day! You make someone's day a lot too!" and it's like meh.... I didn't teach a kid to read or save a life though.

The salary isn't TERRIBLE here, $38-$40k to start, and then we have bonuses for meeting goals. I just hate budgeting a bi-weekly paycheck, haha.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-17-2016, 08:00 AM
Yeah it's more or less that I want to do SOMETHING more productive than dance. It's not just burnout. I could go back to waitressing but I'd be over that in a week, same reason, dead end stopgap job. My SO is all "But I made someone's day! You make someone's day a lot too!" and it's like meh.... I didn't teach a kid to read or save a life though.

The salary isn't TERRIBLE here, $38-$40k to start, and then we have bonuses for meeting goals. I just hate budgeting a bi-weekly paycheck, haha.

That's how I felt. Sexwork (cam) was just ultra repetitive and I didn't feel like I was growing or conquering anything. I'm not okay with stagnancy, so I ended up quitting and it was the best choice I could have made. I started to hate the redundancy that drove all my "coworkers" crazy and the desperation with money, and the judmentalness. How other sexworkers think you should spend all your money on dumb shit to live lavishly. Everything just drove me crazy and I wanted to surround myself with people making better financial choices with major goals.


Now I'm making more than I was and in way less time (pro domme), so I have more free time to work on my other goals (nursing and music) while still spending the same amount of time I was. Much better fit. Sometimes you just have to tweak things a lot until you're happy with the fit. Walk away from things that no longer serve you and conquer new goals.

chanzep
05-20-2016, 02:49 PM
I am enjoying my job but wish I could get paid a bit more, 1 weeks pay check is what I would make a night as a waitress, I hope I get promoted soon.

baer45
05-24-2016, 11:52 AM
Honestly I find it's unnecessary to publish a teacher's specific salary online. I mean it's necessary to publish politicians like Killary's salary/income since what they do have impact on normal American's life. A high school teacher shouldn't be under the same scope. It's okey to give a general salary range. What do you think?

Selina M
05-26-2016, 03:32 PM
Honestly I find it's unnecessary to publish a teacher's specific salary online. I mean it's necessary to publish politicians like Killary's salary/income since what they do have impact on normal American's life. A high school teacher shouldn't be under the same scope. It's okey to give a general salary range. What do you think?

Is that directed at me? *confused*
I don't see what it matters; the districts here all publish their salary ranges + incentives online for the public. It's pretty common knowledge that the pay is not fabulous given the amount of outside of school work put in.

I just had an interview this morning; I think it went well for the most part. Last night I panicked about my wardrobe and went out to buy a blazer :rotfl: I have to dress super adult/business to be taken seriously bc I look so young, and conservative to counteract being pretty (last year both jobs that didn't hire me, there was a female HR person present; the one that did, it was just the male principal).
They did a lot of situational/story questions; "What's a lesson you did that went badly?" I had to keep kind of stretching things because obviously a classroom lesson with 30 kids is not the same as a private riding lesson, but they seemed to understand. The science dept. head was there with the admin guy; super cute older lady; as he was about to wrap it up, she actually was like "Wait wait I have lots of questions!" and started eagerly going through asking about my wildlife coursework and wanting me to explain my neuro research and show them pics of surgeries. I LOVED that lady, I really hope I get it.

Nova, I don't have a lot of suggestions except that I'd hold off on massage school. It sounds like you are kind of desperate to get out of dancing, and you can totally do that by waiting tables, without adding another set of schoolwork on top of your undergrad degree and/or pushing it back a year. If you are that concerned about being recognized, dye your hair and do your makeup differently (or just don't wear any if you're always dolled up at the club). I honestly doubt anyone will recognize you and if they do, I don't think they'll make a big stink.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-26-2016, 04:17 PM
Honestly I find it's unnecessary to publish a teacher's specific salary online. I mean it's necessary to publish politicians like Killary's salary/income since what they do have impact on normal American's life. A high school teacher shouldn't be under the same scope. It's okey to give a general salary range. What do you think?

I agree. I was really creeped out because I wasn't looking for that information. It was just an innocent Google search with her name.

baer45
05-26-2016, 04:44 PM
Is that directed at me? *confused*
I don't see what it matters; the districts here all publish their salary ranges + incentives online for the public. It's pretty common knowledge that the pay is not fabulous given the amount of outside of school work put in.

I just had an interview this morning; I think it went well for the most part. Last night I panicked about my wardrobe and went out to buy a blazer :rotfl: I have to dress super adult/business to be taken seriously bc I look so young, and conservative to counteract being pretty (last year both jobs that didn't hire me, there was a female HR person present; the one that did, it was just the male principal).
They did a lot of situational/story questions; "What's a lesson you did that went badly?" I had to keep kind of stretching things because obviously a classroom lesson with 30 kids is not the same as a private riding lesson, but they seemed to understand. The science dept. head was there with the admin guy; super cute older lady; as he was about to wrap it up, she actually was like "Wait wait I have lots of questions!" and started eagerly going through asking about my wildlife coursework and wanting me to explain my neuro research and show them pics of surgeries. I LOVED that lady, I really hope I get it.

Nova, I don't have a lot of suggestions except that I'd hold off on massage school. It sounds like you are kind of desperate to get out of dancing, and you can totally do that by waiting tables, without adding another set of schoolwork on top of your undergrad degree and/or pushing it back a year. If you are that concerned about being recognized, dye your hair and do your makeup differently (or just don't wear any if you're always dolled up at the club). I honestly doubt anyone will recognize you and if they do, I don't think they'll make a big stink.

Good luck. Don't forget to send them a thank you letter.

baer45
05-26-2016, 04:45 PM
I agree. I was really creeped out because I wasn't looking for that information. It was just an innocent Google search with her name.

I found out that last year when a girlfriend of mine googled her date out of eharmony.

xStacey
05-29-2016, 10:49 AM
I am going to update my resume and taylor my cover letter to apply for a job offer I'm really interested in. I haven't had a vanilla job for the last three years so it's a little frightening going back to the vanilla world, and interviews were never my strong point... However, I see a lot of interesting job offers, and the school sends us a lot of offers related to my field of study that would be great opportunities. I see some students who got a job off those offers and their work experience are not that exceptional, just regular students like me...

My grades have always been my strongest point and I have been told they are good enough to get a first interview everywhere I apply so I should take advantage of that, I worked so hard for my GPA. Some people I know applied and never got a reply because they do not meet the GPA cut-off. It's scary but I need to work on my resume, cover letter and interview skills sooner or later. At worst, if I don't get the job it's still a good practice for professional interviews, and better practice now then wait until the next year official recruitment process. If I don't apply, I have no chance at all.

I also have to confess that, I struggle with confidence and self-esteem issues, another reason I keep finding excuses not to apply for a vanilla job. I am not that confident, when I don't have all the stripper make-up on, false lashes, hair extensions, high heels... I feel so naked being my real-self without all the artifice. It's something I really have to work on.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-29-2016, 11:50 AM
^^^You can always do both! I LOVE the vanilla world because when you find an interesting job, pay doesn't really matter. I was so immersed in the adult world for awhile that I forgot how meaningless money really is. Most sexworkers spend all of theirs on stupid crap anyway, so at the end of the day they both end up in the same boat. The difference is that you can advance in the vanilla world but not in sexwork. I say go for it!

chanzep
05-29-2016, 02:24 PM
Working today, being in Retail they expect us to work all the holidays, thinking of finding a new vanilla job.

Velveteen.Rabbit
05-30-2016, 06:07 PM
So when I was a cam girl, I personally worked one-on-one with at least 20 different girls and met at least 50 IRL over the years. I'm laughing because as I'm making music and listening to other musicians and thinking about all the other musicians I wanna collab with and do a song or two down the line.

I started laughing hysterically because I realized I did this same thing with camming. It was often me reaching out to other girls to collab, or replying to their collab request tweets. Mostly for no reason (TBH I made the same amount or more solo), just because I wanted to share the creative process. And now I'm like plotting to do the same thing with music. Music isn't my "job" and never will be, more of a hobby, but you get the idea.

I died laughing because anyone who says being a Sexworker doesn't teach you successful work skills for the vanilla world, does not know what they're talking about. I see myself using those skills all the time. I don't necessarily, looking back, think it was always the best environment when working with other girls, but it definitely aided in the learning and growing process. I feel like the world puts too much emphasis on "the good" but often times "the good" provides no growth.

baer45
06-02-2016, 09:54 AM
I interviewed with a very good company yesterday. It was for a position that I don't really want. The position requires years of commitment to aquire the credential. If you don't get the credential, you are just wasting your time. Honestly i am either too lazy or too stupid to achieve that. My goal is too have an easy and relaxing life after retiring from sex work.

charlie61
06-19-2016, 06:06 PM
My eyes are taking a long time to get used to staring at a computer for eight hours a day. Like, woah. I look at a computer screen and intermittently get blurred vision. Not cool.

http://www.allaboutvision.com/cvs/irritated.htm

charlie61
06-19-2016, 06:31 PM
I hope I'll be able to dance on the side while working this job. Even once or twice a month would be a huge help...

whirlerz
06-19-2016, 07:30 PM
Well, now that I've started on the meds I've long waited for, I'm looking forward to either/or/both reg work & dancing.

chanzep
06-19-2016, 09:35 PM
Charlie my eyes used to hurt when I had a call center job years ago, now in Retail my brain hurts!, now that I moved right in the city I'm gonna waitress again and do this job part time, hope I can find a decent club, miss my old club.

chanzep
06-23-2016, 02:40 PM
So I moved now in the heart of the city, so my job in the burbs is too far, I'm finishing this week and then hopefully transferring , but also started to look for other opportunities too.

Selina M
06-23-2016, 06:05 PM
So this school called me, said they have two positions and asked my preference. I interviewed and they offered me the job today... Now they're pulling this bait and switch bit. The original was anatomy and biology, now he's trying to get me to do earth science and environmental science.

I kept telling him I know NOTHING about earth science; he keeps insisting it's the same as my wildlife ecology degree. No dude, my transcripts are in front of you. Do you see anything resembling geology or space? I wouldn't pass the exam for the endorsement, ffs. He's insisting I meet with the dept head so she can show me the subject matter. Argh.

On another note, once again I had 4 interviews. All had women but one. Guess who hired me? The one with 3 men.